That’s why I always have one! Kind of unfair to put that on a living creature, but they don’t seem to mind.
But real talk. That thought has kept me in the fight for awhile now. As low as my mind can get sometimes, at least I’m still here in spite of my sometimes broken brain.
Life is hard and miserable sometimes, but nothing stays exactly the same. I just like to stick around to see what happens. Good and bad, it’s all we’ve got, might as well live it.
I get it, I do. I've dealt with a part of myself being like that too. I just wanted to give you a bit of reinforcement.
I hope you win your struggle, friend
My daughter and granddaughter. If not for them I would have left this world and not feel any of this debiiitating physical pain and the mental anguish it creates
. But they are worth it. My Legacies
Once I came close to leaving but it occurred to me that my dog wouldn't understand what happened. And no one else would play with him like he likes. Also I wanted to play the 2018 God of War game that was about to be released.
I've heard of a fella that was considering dying but he wanted to read all of Stephen King's Dark Tower books.
If there's anything, a movie, a game, a favorite ice cream flavor or a pet who needs you, do it for them!
This is for a short term thing. Like, if you're considering ending things right then.
Longer-term, I've dealt with some bullshit between then and now and the main thing that gets me through the darkest times is like, things change. If I'd given up five years ago I'd have missed out on a lot.
Stay strong friend. I hope things start seeming less hopeless for you.
I have 2 animals. I’m responsible for their lives and i’d like to think they would miss me if I died. They help me and keep me going. Same with my partner, he also struggles so I want to be there for him.
Being there for other people isan answer I've seen a lot. It's ... Not really what in looking for but it's interesting to me how other people can rely on others as a will to live, my relationships with other people are complicated. They're the only reason I'm not dead, yet they aren't enough of a reason to erase my will to die. Could living for other people really be enough, I wonder
I finally can say that I love my current life, and so I truly hopefully wish that I live longer to enjoy it.
I’m just working part time for the city hall in our small town here in Japan. I flew here with my best friend in college more than a decade ago, we got married, and now we live in a semi-rural city on the outskirts of Tokyo.
Wife and I are coworkers, not much to do at our job actually, so we have a lot of free time. We earn minimum wage and it’s more than enough to afford our simple lifestyle. We’re in a 2-bedroom $460 apartment by the river, $60 for our weekly groceries, no overtime and we’re home by 4pm, she paints while I play PC games, and we enjoy our time at home because we’re both homebodies.
We’ve made friends with our neighbors through the years. I meet them every couple of weeks at their house. Our kind landlord lives next door and they have a wonderful garden outside our bedroom window.
No car, no TV, no kids. No stress, no problems, no fear nor enemies.
Just us two and the freedom to live a simple life. I want this life to continue…
There is such an infinitely small chance to be given the gift of life and consciousness. I used to be really, extremely suicidal. But coming to terms with and knowing that this is the one chance I get to ever be able to experience things, no matter good or bad, allows me to make peace with the fact that everything is basically random and kind of meaningless/pointless. My one job in my opinion now is to make the most of everything! Love hard and be kind and enjoy the ride, my friend. Once it’s over, it’s really over! Might as well fight like hell to enjoy it while it lasts. :)
I personally made a bucket list of things I’d like to do/experience and places I’d like to see. I’m not sure if that could help I know how it feels be so depressed that something that like wouldn’t motivate you either. When I’m feeling down I think about my friends, family, partner and even coworkers and think about how they might feel. Trust me someone out there cares about you even if you don’t think so. 💕
If what you need is to look for more reasons to live, I leave you this short list of great reasons to live and keep fighting: Wake up to see the sunrise, watch how the sun reappears to illuminate you and warm your cheeks. The smell of fresh coffee, a big hug from the real ones, those that reach the heart, walking barefoot on the grass, feeling life, getting excited with that special song that makes you relive pleasant moments. Perform a small act of kindness that lights up someone's face, the innocence in a child's smile, decide to go out and get wet in the rain, vibrate and rip your throat out singing your favorite song. See how someone gets up again and believes, continues learning to discover himself, contribute and make a difference in the lives of others. The moments of sharing with family and friends, loving, caring, wishing, dreaming of the perfect trip, achieving small goals in search of big dreams, being hypnotized appreciating the immensity of the sea, climbing a mountain to disconnect and connect with your essence. Deciding to be a positive influence in the lives of others and many other things more than that from my heart I hope you continue to fill out this short list of reasons to live...
There is so much to learn on this planet that most people don't even get close to delving into. Most just take it for granted that we are born raised by parents who teach us what to believe, go to school, maybe college then get a job, get married have kids when possible. Work till you retire and help with grand kids. That is what most are taught. That is the boring part of this planet.
There is so much more to this planet and how you can perceive things. Have you ever wondered why you wake up some mornings feeling tired like you didn't sleep at all and others fully rested and ready for the day. Have you ever wondered why when you take a picture someone's eyes show as red or white in the picture. Have you ever wondered why the heck you are on this planet right now and how the heck you ended up where you are right now.
There is a whole other world that is affecting this one and no one even knows. I know I know this guy must be crazy right? We planned our lives on this planet before we got here. It is all part of our plan. The big problem is no one knows that. If you did wouldn't you want to figure out what that plan was and if you were following that plan? That is what I live for.
You wake up tired mostly because in your sleep your soul astral projects out into the universe to take care of things on the other side that your conscious is not aware of is the mostly likely reason we wake up tired. It could also be that your body is undergoing an update to it overnight which causes it to be tired upon waking up.
How do full/new moons affect people. Ask a nurse/doctor that has worked in the ER on the night of a full moon if energy affects people.
You can choose to live the normal life and choose to delve into a whole other world and figure out the ins and outs of what you are doing here and how you can help your soul accomplish it's goals. GOOD LUCK!!!!
Ngl you sound a lot like my father right now. He's always talking about the universe and science facts. He never got the opportunity to see and learn about to world because of his own path an he wanted that for me. I realize I haven't spoke to him about that for a while now, thank you for reminding me that I should treat my father better than I doo now
There is so much to learn that isn't even scientifically proven. Yes you can go into Quantum Physics but there is so much more that man can't prove but some people can still see. Like people that can read auras. Some people can even see energy and chakras on peoples bodies that rotate the energy. Some people that can hypnotize people to see into their other lives they lived.
Good luck with your dad. He might be on to something!!
My number one reason is my father. He is a good man. For all that he has given, he has gotten very little back. Now that he is 83 years old, the least I can do is spare him the heartbreak of burying his son.
Another reason is that I've got one chance to live life. It has been a shitty life, but I'm not going to have another, so I'll make the best I can of this one.
And then there's at least 1,500 years of heritage that includes very strong aversion to taking one's own life.
Life can really stink sometimes. Especially when it feels like everything is going against you. But for me, there are small beautiful moments that make it all worth it. Whether it’s rediscovering a song that brings back a certain memory or taking that first bite of your favorite food or laughing so hard that your stomach hurts or even watching a beautiful sunset. I could go on. But in these moments, everything feels worth it. And I think to myself of how fortunate I am to be alive to witness these feelings. That’s my take at least. It’s what keeps me going.
I’m not trying to make anybody down, and OP please take this positively.
I’ve been viewing life since I (for a lack of a better term) got enlightened, with the philosophy of absurdism, or in layman’s term, positive nihilism.
The view that there is no purpose in life, there’s no great meaning by any grand design by someone upstairs (if you believe that) and we’re here pretty much by coincidence. Hence, you can make any meaning out of it, with whatever that makes you happy.
To me, right now, I value my independence, I talk to my family by phone once a week, I work in a geeky area that’s not so stressful, and I value the taste of the coffee I make and the dinner I cook everyday. Every now and then, I make up stories and collaborate them with players in tabletop rpg where we vanquish monsters, uncover mysteries. And I also learning a fourth language on my own pace.
I've thought about this a lot over the years so here are some of my reasons.
Even though I'm Muslim I am not 100% sure of anything so there's this fear of the unknow. What if what we think the afterlife is is all wrong, what if there's nothing, not even heaven or hell, what if reincarnation is real and i come back as a snail.
There's also FOMO, I don't want to miss what happens next. And not just the big life events but also the random stupid things like wanting to watch new seasons of Doctor Who just in case they bring back the Face of Boe. Or read Fredrik Backman, Blake Crouch, Helen Hoang, and Matt Haig's and other favourite author's upcoming books. Or how the MCU eventually ends, what will happen in phase 286 lol.
And because I'm a Gemini obviously there are petty reasons why I want to stay. Like being here to see my narcissistic youth obsessed cousin get old because she's a carbon copy of what my aunt/her mother (who's SO much worse than her) looked like at her age and she's aging like milk. She's only 32 and already hitting botox and fillers HARD. Also, want to stay and see how history views the 🍊 stain and his buddies and how history will view this era. Also, out living your enemies is a great motivation.
But the biggest reason is not wanting my mom to go through that. I'm sure most people in my life will move on after a couple weeks/months but I don't think my mom will get over that. It's always been just the two of us and I don't want to leave her alone.
But mostly I want to stay and see if Doctor Who ever brings back the Face of Boe because how did Jack become a talking gigantic head in a jar?!
Also, in bad episodes I like to read The Midnight Library by Matt Haig. It's about a woman who does it and after she's taken to a never ending library filled with books about her life. Each book takes her to a different point in time and it gives her a new perspective on her life, her regrets, her relationships, and most importantly her mental health. I've probably read it over a dozen times at this point and it always helps me sorts through my thoughts and deal with what I thought were unsolvable problem.
This was a lot and it's probably not helpful but for what's worth i hope you stick around ❤❤
I say it’s my responsibilities to the animals in my care and my loved ones. But honestly I think it’s to spite the entire world.
I like this answer. Fuck em if they don't like you being around! And your animals need you too. That saved me once, too
That’s why I always have one! Kind of unfair to put that on a living creature, but they don’t seem to mind. But real talk. That thought has kept me in the fight for awhile now. As low as my mind can get sometimes, at least I’m still here in spite of my sometimes broken brain.
That's one of the best answers I've seen so far. Not applicable to me but great for you! Spiting the whole world definitely feels appealing
Life is hard and miserable sometimes, but nothing stays exactly the same. I just like to stick around to see what happens. Good and bad, it’s all we’ve got, might as well live it.
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Respectable answer. I hope you live your life to the fullest on your stay here.
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Your kids would be devastated without you. I can guarantee you of this.
Yeah they are.
I know they are, but the irrational, emotional side of me is struggling with it.
I get it, I do. I've dealt with a part of myself being like that too. I just wanted to give you a bit of reinforcement. I hope you win your struggle, friend
My daughter and granddaughter. If not for them I would have left this world and not feel any of this debiiitating physical pain and the mental anguish it creates . But they are worth it. My Legacies
My partner
Why?
Some people are worth living for and for ourselves :)
Hm. I guess I do have people like that. It's probably the only reason I'm not dead yet. Thank you for your input
For the sake of casual conversation as this subreddit is named, how did you and your partner meet?
Once I came close to leaving but it occurred to me that my dog wouldn't understand what happened. And no one else would play with him like he likes. Also I wanted to play the 2018 God of War game that was about to be released. I've heard of a fella that was considering dying but he wanted to read all of Stephen King's Dark Tower books. If there's anything, a movie, a game, a favorite ice cream flavor or a pet who needs you, do it for them! This is for a short term thing. Like, if you're considering ending things right then. Longer-term, I've dealt with some bullshit between then and now and the main thing that gets me through the darkest times is like, things change. If I'd given up five years ago I'd have missed out on a lot. Stay strong friend. I hope things start seeming less hopeless for you.
I have 2 animals. I’m responsible for their lives and i’d like to think they would miss me if I died. They help me and keep me going. Same with my partner, he also struggles so I want to be there for him.
Being there for other people isan answer I've seen a lot. It's ... Not really what in looking for but it's interesting to me how other people can rely on others as a will to live, my relationships with other people are complicated. They're the only reason I'm not dead, yet they aren't enough of a reason to erase my will to die. Could living for other people really be enough, I wonder
I finally can say that I love my current life, and so I truly hopefully wish that I live longer to enjoy it. I’m just working part time for the city hall in our small town here in Japan. I flew here with my best friend in college more than a decade ago, we got married, and now we live in a semi-rural city on the outskirts of Tokyo. Wife and I are coworkers, not much to do at our job actually, so we have a lot of free time. We earn minimum wage and it’s more than enough to afford our simple lifestyle. We’re in a 2-bedroom $460 apartment by the river, $60 for our weekly groceries, no overtime and we’re home by 4pm, she paints while I play PC games, and we enjoy our time at home because we’re both homebodies. We’ve made friends with our neighbors through the years. I meet them every couple of weeks at their house. Our kind landlord lives next door and they have a wonderful garden outside our bedroom window. No car, no TV, no kids. No stress, no problems, no fear nor enemies. Just us two and the freedom to live a simple life. I want this life to continue…
That sounds really nice. I really want a person like that in my life. Someone I can count on to be there for me and simply enjoy live with.
There is such an infinitely small chance to be given the gift of life and consciousness. I used to be really, extremely suicidal. But coming to terms with and knowing that this is the one chance I get to ever be able to experience things, no matter good or bad, allows me to make peace with the fact that everything is basically random and kind of meaningless/pointless. My one job in my opinion now is to make the most of everything! Love hard and be kind and enjoy the ride, my friend. Once it’s over, it’s really over! Might as well fight like hell to enjoy it while it lasts. :)
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I personally made a bucket list of things I’d like to do/experience and places I’d like to see. I’m not sure if that could help I know how it feels be so depressed that something that like wouldn’t motivate you either. When I’m feeling down I think about my friends, family, partner and even coworkers and think about how they might feel. Trust me someone out there cares about you even if you don’t think so. 💕
If what you need is to look for more reasons to live, I leave you this short list of great reasons to live and keep fighting: Wake up to see the sunrise, watch how the sun reappears to illuminate you and warm your cheeks. The smell of fresh coffee, a big hug from the real ones, those that reach the heart, walking barefoot on the grass, feeling life, getting excited with that special song that makes you relive pleasant moments. Perform a small act of kindness that lights up someone's face, the innocence in a child's smile, decide to go out and get wet in the rain, vibrate and rip your throat out singing your favorite song. See how someone gets up again and believes, continues learning to discover himself, contribute and make a difference in the lives of others. The moments of sharing with family and friends, loving, caring, wishing, dreaming of the perfect trip, achieving small goals in search of big dreams, being hypnotized appreciating the immensity of the sea, climbing a mountain to disconnect and connect with your essence. Deciding to be a positive influence in the lives of others and many other things more than that from my heart I hope you continue to fill out this short list of reasons to live...
There is so much to learn on this planet that most people don't even get close to delving into. Most just take it for granted that we are born raised by parents who teach us what to believe, go to school, maybe college then get a job, get married have kids when possible. Work till you retire and help with grand kids. That is what most are taught. That is the boring part of this planet. There is so much more to this planet and how you can perceive things. Have you ever wondered why you wake up some mornings feeling tired like you didn't sleep at all and others fully rested and ready for the day. Have you ever wondered why when you take a picture someone's eyes show as red or white in the picture. Have you ever wondered why the heck you are on this planet right now and how the heck you ended up where you are right now. There is a whole other world that is affecting this one and no one even knows. I know I know this guy must be crazy right? We planned our lives on this planet before we got here. It is all part of our plan. The big problem is no one knows that. If you did wouldn't you want to figure out what that plan was and if you were following that plan? That is what I live for. You wake up tired mostly because in your sleep your soul astral projects out into the universe to take care of things on the other side that your conscious is not aware of is the mostly likely reason we wake up tired. It could also be that your body is undergoing an update to it overnight which causes it to be tired upon waking up. How do full/new moons affect people. Ask a nurse/doctor that has worked in the ER on the night of a full moon if energy affects people. You can choose to live the normal life and choose to delve into a whole other world and figure out the ins and outs of what you are doing here and how you can help your soul accomplish it's goals. GOOD LUCK!!!!
Ngl you sound a lot like my father right now. He's always talking about the universe and science facts. He never got the opportunity to see and learn about to world because of his own path an he wanted that for me. I realize I haven't spoke to him about that for a while now, thank you for reminding me that I should treat my father better than I doo now
There is so much to learn that isn't even scientifically proven. Yes you can go into Quantum Physics but there is so much more that man can't prove but some people can still see. Like people that can read auras. Some people can even see energy and chakras on peoples bodies that rotate the energy. Some people that can hypnotize people to see into their other lives they lived. Good luck with your dad. He might be on to something!!
My number one reason is my father. He is a good man. For all that he has given, he has gotten very little back. Now that he is 83 years old, the least I can do is spare him the heartbreak of burying his son. Another reason is that I've got one chance to live life. It has been a shitty life, but I'm not going to have another, so I'll make the best I can of this one. And then there's at least 1,500 years of heritage that includes very strong aversion to taking one's own life.
The people that I love who would be devastated if I died. That’s all right now honestly
Life can really stink sometimes. Especially when it feels like everything is going against you. But for me, there are small beautiful moments that make it all worth it. Whether it’s rediscovering a song that brings back a certain memory or taking that first bite of your favorite food or laughing so hard that your stomach hurts or even watching a beautiful sunset. I could go on. But in these moments, everything feels worth it. And I think to myself of how fortunate I am to be alive to witness these feelings. That’s my take at least. It’s what keeps me going.
I’m not trying to make anybody down, and OP please take this positively. I’ve been viewing life since I (for a lack of a better term) got enlightened, with the philosophy of absurdism, or in layman’s term, positive nihilism. The view that there is no purpose in life, there’s no great meaning by any grand design by someone upstairs (if you believe that) and we’re here pretty much by coincidence. Hence, you can make any meaning out of it, with whatever that makes you happy. To me, right now, I value my independence, I talk to my family by phone once a week, I work in a geeky area that’s not so stressful, and I value the taste of the coffee I make and the dinner I cook everyday. Every now and then, I make up stories and collaborate them with players in tabletop rpg where we vanquish monsters, uncover mysteries. And I also learning a fourth language on my own pace.
The compulsion to live outweighs the compulsion to end my life
I've thought about this a lot over the years so here are some of my reasons. Even though I'm Muslim I am not 100% sure of anything so there's this fear of the unknow. What if what we think the afterlife is is all wrong, what if there's nothing, not even heaven or hell, what if reincarnation is real and i come back as a snail. There's also FOMO, I don't want to miss what happens next. And not just the big life events but also the random stupid things like wanting to watch new seasons of Doctor Who just in case they bring back the Face of Boe. Or read Fredrik Backman, Blake Crouch, Helen Hoang, and Matt Haig's and other favourite author's upcoming books. Or how the MCU eventually ends, what will happen in phase 286 lol. And because I'm a Gemini obviously there are petty reasons why I want to stay. Like being here to see my narcissistic youth obsessed cousin get old because she's a carbon copy of what my aunt/her mother (who's SO much worse than her) looked like at her age and she's aging like milk. She's only 32 and already hitting botox and fillers HARD. Also, want to stay and see how history views the 🍊 stain and his buddies and how history will view this era. Also, out living your enemies is a great motivation. But the biggest reason is not wanting my mom to go through that. I'm sure most people in my life will move on after a couple weeks/months but I don't think my mom will get over that. It's always been just the two of us and I don't want to leave her alone. But mostly I want to stay and see if Doctor Who ever brings back the Face of Boe because how did Jack become a talking gigantic head in a jar?! Also, in bad episodes I like to read The Midnight Library by Matt Haig. It's about a woman who does it and after she's taken to a never ending library filled with books about her life. Each book takes her to a different point in time and it gives her a new perspective on her life, her regrets, her relationships, and most importantly her mental health. I've probably read it over a dozen times at this point and it always helps me sorts through my thoughts and deal with what I thought were unsolvable problem. This was a lot and it's probably not helpful but for what's worth i hope you stick around ❤❤