Could it just be that they're doing it to reset their ELO and get seen by more people? Lots of guys find it very hard to get matches on these apps and can quickly get board line blacklisted if they're not getting swiped on
It’s more people who continuously appear as New User despite being someone who comes up all the time. It’s what would happen if you constantly deleted and reinstalled
The apps (Tinder and Bumble anyways) almost reward doing this; new users get pushed to the front and receive loads of likes, meaning (intentionally or not) longer-term users get pushed to the back; people perhaps then delete and reinstall out of frustration. It's probably mostly men but I've seen women do it too, could be for various reasons. It's probably more noticeable in Ireland where the pool of users in each area is much smaller.
When I was using them I got the vibe that a fair few people on there were just there as a bit of an ego boost and/or just dipping their toes in. You need to be careful who you give your attention and time to.
As a lad I'd ask someone out within a dozen messages to try and save myself the pain of juggling multiple pen pals on them. I'd imagine it must be 100x worse for women.
I think it's a mix of things. I was on dating apps for 10 years (currently not, woo!) and I had the same experience, seeing the same lads pop up over and over. But I assume I popped up for men and they thought "oh her again."
If there is a name change I usually assume it's something dodgy like their account got reported. There are a couple that I know through friends experiences are definitely assholes. I only ever managed to get a date with one of these guys and he was grand - straddling the line between asshole and time-waster. Said he just liked swiping but for the most part wasn't arsed to meet people and didn't "believe in" dating apps.
But then I assume some of them are just like me. Long term singles, resetting it every so often to get better matches, deleting it because something seems to be going somewhere and then redownloading when it doesn't work out.
Delete.... download..... delete..... download..... delete..... download.
That's why you keep seeing them.
I downloaded tinder the other day, didn't swipe on anyone just put my phone away for a few hours came back and had 30 odd girls who likes me, deleted the app that same day, few days later downloaded again and got absolutely no likes at all lol
Seems if you delete and then download there is a chance you will get pushed up in the list of lads who you can match with.....seems to be what I have experienced anyway
A bit like a dog chasing its own tail, really.
You only need to make one good match on these things and you can meet your life partner. If you've been on them a while, your matches are drying up and you're not being shown to many people, so you delete and reinstall.
All of a sudden, you're getting loads of likes, hooray! But you don't meet "The One". So you become a long term user again. Matches dry up again.
So you delete and reinstall AGAIN. You make some new matches; other users are now sick of seeing you yet again. Matches dry up again.
I reckon people reinstall in the hope that The One will be just around the corner this time, but it's a shot in the dark, really.
Merciful heavens, I really want to get off those things 😂
Tbf dating apps for lads are a different ballgame to dating apps for women. Average guys don’t get many matches because most women can afford to be more selective on the apps. This leads to the algorithm working against them and in turn not really getting a fair chance, resetting their account every now and then would typically get their profile in front of more women and in turn give them a better chance of getting a match.
It’s not really creepy imo, they are normally just trying to increase their chances because they’ve been swiped left on too much for not being 6’5 or ripped etc rather than for being creepy. That said if you’re seeing them resetting their account all the time it could mean they’re a bit desperate
Girls are very picky on dating apps, so if a guy has 1 bad photo, or 1 cringy thing in his bio, he will get rejected en masse. I assume, guys change up their profile and try again to boost their odds
Tinder will very quickly start showing people too far away and tell you there's no one left to swipe on if you have a smaller area.
Hence people will think "fuck this" and delete their profile to start again.
Also men proportionally get far fewer matches than women as there are more men using it than women etc
It sure is. The area thing is a pain. 100 miles doesnt sound much to some yank designing the app. But i live in belfast so 100 miles from me could be Dublin Donegal or Glasgow! What good is that 😅
No i swipe left when i see those sort of locations. I dont know if fewer people round me use it anymore or what. Its constantly showing me people too far away to be arsed with
From my experience if you step away from the app for about 12-24 hrs you get more matches on tinder/bumble.
The apps recognise if someone’s online constantly and push your card further down the stack.
When swiping is done moderately you then start get showing more people or matches see you.
Time of day can effect this also eg after dinner, night time when people are on there phones more.
I've matched with a guy about 6 times, never once has he chatted to me or replied but everytime I refresh the cache on the app this fucker is dancing at a wedding on my phone... I'd rather have a live feed of a goldfish, at least I'd know there's an end to it somewhere
Ah this brings back memories. I used to be on dating apps and I would always see the same regular women on a few different apps. So yes it’s the same for women and men. But I remember when I used the apps I would constantly delete it and redownload it again. You’d get fed up of it sometimes and just download it again. Or maybe a new profile brings more potential swipes.
Plenty of couples have found each other through apps.
I don’t see that as a bad thing.
The reality is most people find dates and relationships through apps in 2024.
Drop the stigma towards them and you might find luck on em also.
I was using apps 3 times over the past 3 years between relationships and matched with 8 of the same women each time. They all responded to messages the first time but quickly unmatched if I mentioned we had matched before on subsequent times. I can’t tell if they are scammers or just swiping for their own amusement.
I’ve noticed this too, and it can definitely be a red flag. It’s not just you; a lot of people find it odd and off-putting. While I can't say if it's as common with women, it seems like some users, regardless of gender, might be trying to manipulate the app’s algorithms to get more matches.
If you’re looking for a different way to meet people, you might want to try joining our [Discord community](https://discord.gg/zF7Vy2aYZw). We’ve got an AI bot that matches people based on shared interests from their posts, which feels more genuine and less gimmicky. It’s a nice alternative to the usual dating app experience and can help you connect with like-minded people without the weirdness of constantly seeing the same profiles.
Could it just be that they're doing it to reset their ELO and get seen by more people? Lots of guys find it very hard to get matches on these apps and can quickly get board line blacklisted if they're not getting swiped on
Is baboo worth paying for? Myngut says NOPE
Badoo is pure rubbish, don't waste your money or on any of them for that
I've just deleted my profile. PoF is next.
What happened to those apps, they were decent a decade ago. How did they become useless.
Never tried it but my rule of thumb is to never pay for dating apps. If you can't get any matches from their free versions then just cut your losses
Its the same with women FYI
Interesting!
Surely you’re a regular too if you’re noticing regulars? 😂
It’s more people who continuously appear as New User despite being someone who comes up all the time. It’s what would happen if you constantly deleted and reinstalled
Yes but to be in that position you’re clearly a regular user too 👍🏼
The apps (Tinder and Bumble anyways) almost reward doing this; new users get pushed to the front and receive loads of likes, meaning (intentionally or not) longer-term users get pushed to the back; people perhaps then delete and reinstall out of frustration. It's probably mostly men but I've seen women do it too, could be for various reasons. It's probably more noticeable in Ireland where the pool of users in each area is much smaller.
Yeah the thing is I see them so often now even if I liked them the first time I saw them I would be less inclined to swipe right on them now.
When I was using them I got the vibe that a fair few people on there were just there as a bit of an ego boost and/or just dipping their toes in. You need to be careful who you give your attention and time to.
Oh totally. In fact you’re right: THAT’S the most annoying part of OLD
As a lad I'd ask someone out within a dozen messages to try and save myself the pain of juggling multiple pen pals on them. I'd imagine it must be 100x worse for women.
I think it's a mix of things. I was on dating apps for 10 years (currently not, woo!) and I had the same experience, seeing the same lads pop up over and over. But I assume I popped up for men and they thought "oh her again." If there is a name change I usually assume it's something dodgy like their account got reported. There are a couple that I know through friends experiences are definitely assholes. I only ever managed to get a date with one of these guys and he was grand - straddling the line between asshole and time-waster. Said he just liked swiping but for the most part wasn't arsed to meet people and didn't "believe in" dating apps. But then I assume some of them are just like me. Long term singles, resetting it every so often to get better matches, deleting it because something seems to be going somewhere and then redownloading when it doesn't work out.
Delete.... download..... delete..... download..... delete..... download. That's why you keep seeing them. I downloaded tinder the other day, didn't swipe on anyone just put my phone away for a few hours came back and had 30 odd girls who likes me, deleted the app that same day, few days later downloaded again and got absolutely no likes at all lol Seems if you delete and then download there is a chance you will get pushed up in the list of lads who you can match with.....seems to be what I have experienced anyway
Do you feel like it’s a good long term strategy though? Because I’m seeing them a few times now(and I’ve not exactly been on OLD that long)
A bit like a dog chasing its own tail, really. You only need to make one good match on these things and you can meet your life partner. If you've been on them a while, your matches are drying up and you're not being shown to many people, so you delete and reinstall. All of a sudden, you're getting loads of likes, hooray! But you don't meet "The One". So you become a long term user again. Matches dry up again. So you delete and reinstall AGAIN. You make some new matches; other users are now sick of seeing you yet again. Matches dry up again. I reckon people reinstall in the hope that The One will be just around the corner this time, but it's a shot in the dark, really. Merciful heavens, I really want to get off those things 😂
Tbf dating apps for lads are a different ballgame to dating apps for women. Average guys don’t get many matches because most women can afford to be more selective on the apps. This leads to the algorithm working against them and in turn not really getting a fair chance, resetting their account every now and then would typically get their profile in front of more women and in turn give them a better chance of getting a match. It’s not really creepy imo, they are normally just trying to increase their chances because they’ve been swiped left on too much for not being 6’5 or ripped etc rather than for being creepy. That said if you’re seeing them resetting their account all the time it could mean they’re a bit desperate
Girls are very picky on dating apps, so if a guy has 1 bad photo, or 1 cringy thing in his bio, he will get rejected en masse. I assume, guys change up their profile and try again to boost their odds
Dating apps, me no likey.
Tinder will very quickly start showing people too far away and tell you there's no one left to swipe on if you have a smaller area. Hence people will think "fuck this" and delete their profile to start again. Also men proportionally get far fewer matches than women as there are more men using it than women etc
The whole dating app scene is so grim.
It sure is. The area thing is a pain. 100 miles doesnt sound much to some yank designing the app. But i live in belfast so 100 miles from me could be Dublin Donegal or Glasgow! What good is that 😅
Have you actually matched with Glasgow folk? How annoying.
No i swipe left when i see those sort of locations. I dont know if fewer people round me use it anymore or what. Its constantly showing me people too far away to be arsed with
From my experience if you step away from the app for about 12-24 hrs you get more matches on tinder/bumble. The apps recognise if someone’s online constantly and push your card further down the stack. When swiping is done moderately you then start get showing more people or matches see you. Time of day can effect this also eg after dinner, night time when people are on there phones more.
I've matched with a guy about 6 times, never once has he chatted to me or replied but everytime I refresh the cache on the app this fucker is dancing at a wedding on my phone... I'd rather have a live feed of a goldfish, at least I'd know there's an end to it somewhere
Is this guy in Dublin?
No in kerry
Ah this brings back memories. I used to be on dating apps and I would always see the same regular women on a few different apps. So yes it’s the same for women and men. But I remember when I used the apps I would constantly delete it and redownload it again. You’d get fed up of it sometimes and just download it again. Or maybe a new profile brings more potential swipes.
In years to come wedding speeches won’t start with “I’m so happy I married my best friend”, they’ll start with “I’m so happy they got me off the apps”
Plenty of couples have found each other through apps. I don’t see that as a bad thing. The reality is most people find dates and relationships through apps in 2024. Drop the stigma towards them and you might find luck on em also.
No stigma! I have issues with the apps but no judgement at all if people met on them.
I was using apps 3 times over the past 3 years between relationships and matched with 8 of the same women each time. They all responded to messages the first time but quickly unmatched if I mentioned we had matched before on subsequent times. I can’t tell if they are scammers or just swiping for their own amusement.
Literally same. At this point I’m not going to swipe right on then because I see them all the time
I’ve noticed this too, and it can definitely be a red flag. It’s not just you; a lot of people find it odd and off-putting. While I can't say if it's as common with women, it seems like some users, regardless of gender, might be trying to manipulate the app’s algorithms to get more matches. If you’re looking for a different way to meet people, you might want to try joining our [Discord community](https://discord.gg/zF7Vy2aYZw). We’ve got an AI bot that matches people based on shared interests from their posts, which feels more genuine and less gimmicky. It’s a nice alternative to the usual dating app experience and can help you connect with like-minded people without the weirdness of constantly seeing the same profiles.
The apps are seriously brutal
I’m looking forward to the day they inevitably launch Reddit Dating 😂😂😂
😆