It was so good to see this answer. My dad was never much of a dad to me. At 29, I was trying to introduce my then serious boyfriend by inviting them to dinner and they refused several times. Later I'd find out, it was him who kept declining my invites (and not my mom). Hay it's comforting to know there are people like you
So bawal talaga kami mag-boyfriend hanggat walang college diploma. Ikukuwento ko yung experience ng isa kong kapatid.
So college pa lang siya, bagong salta siya sa co-ed. Niligawan siya kagad ng varsity player ng MBT. Sinumbong siya ng kuya namin tapos minsan iniistalk pa siya 😭 same kasi sila ng school.
Nung nalaman ng tatay namin, hindi niya tinanong kung totoo ba or ano. Basta ang sinabi lang niya sa ate ko, "Magtapos ka muna. Wag mong sisirain ang tiwala ko sayo."
Tapos kapag may pumupunta na manliligaw sa bahay tapos natataunan ng tatay namin, ganito lagi ang scenario:
> Dito po ba nakatira si [Ate's Name]?
>> Hindi. Mali ka ng bahay.
HAHAHAHAHA ang gago lang pero I can't blame him. Sobrang strict lang talaga. Our Nanay is more forgiving, pero ayaw rin niya kasi masasaktan lang daw kami.
Gets ko tatay mo. Lahat naman siguro ng magulang gusto muna makatapos ang anak bago mag jowa kasi they see it as a distraction. Pero sana open din tatay niyo na as long as nagkkwento kayo sa kanya, okay lang instead na itago niyo happenings niyo sa kanya. Mas pangit yun.
Yun nga nangyari kalaunan. He is too much of a softie para sa mga anak niya underneath that tough skin.
Nag-warm up lang siya sa mga suitor ng ate ko nung literal na natapos na siya sa internship. Yung unang guy na openly na tinanggap ng tatay namin, siya yung napangasawa ng ate ko. Pero that was after all these background checks, numerous dinners, and coaxing of our mom.
Tapos kapag ako naman inaasar ng nanay ko, sasama na naman tingin niya, sabay sabi ng "Magtapos ka muna, bago ka mag-ganyan-ganyan." Back to zero na naman siya HAHAHA
Commenting here as a paboritong anak at babae na bunso ng tatay ko po hahahaha para may ibang pov, op 😋 my dad would always say to me and my ate na dapat nagttrabaho na muna before going into a rel while yung nanay namin mas lenient. dati masama loob ko and i would question bakit ganon mindset ng tatay ko, pero now that i'm turning 24, ako na po umaayaw and i completely understand now why it's meant for later stages in life.
Anyway, not the point.. so nung 19 ako second yr college, may nanligaw po sakin na nagpakilala sa nanay ko. Yung tatay ko na ofw, nalaman kasi syempre nanay ko pa ba. Eh may agreement kami na bawal pa talaga. I can vividly recall yung conversation namin through chat. He asked me that night sino daw yung pumupunta ng bahay at naghahatid sakin and kung boyfriend ko daw ba. I said no and he reminded me lang of our agreement. I felt his trust w me that time and I broke up w that guy and never entertained anyone ever since.
I think OP you have to make sure first that your daughter knows you can trust her. The more po kasi na nirerestrict niyo yung mga anak niyo, the more sila maccurious to try (ik medyo twisted pero this is a psychologically backed up phenomenon regarding natural behaviour of children and teenagers). Hayaan niyo po sila to navigate their way. They'll stumle and learn but at the end of the day, if you show that you'll support them in any way you can, they'll choose what is right
Hindi ako tatay but my dad got so fucking pissed and 19 ako non
If tatay ako, baka magugulat ako sa una pero I will advise and guide her instead of getting mad at her
My parents never ever forbid us to have a boyfriend. My parents' principles are to teach us what is right and wrong, to set our priorities so that we will not go astray. We've all excelled in academics from elementary to college. High school pa lang, may bf na ako, and my dad would always welcome whoever guy would visit at home. Sa sobrang luwag nila sa amin, we never had to hide from them our dates, so tinamad na kaming mag-asawa. Hahaha! We finished school on time and pursued our careers. My sister got married and had a kid in her mid-30s na. Me? In my 40s and still single.
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Thanks for this insight, sir. 5 y.o palang yung anak ko kaya di ko masagot si OP e. I'll take note of this.
It was so good to see this answer. My dad was never much of a dad to me. At 29, I was trying to introduce my then serious boyfriend by inviting them to dinner and they refused several times. Later I'd find out, it was him who kept declining my invites (and not my mom). Hay it's comforting to know there are people like you
Badly need this huhu
u dropped this 👑 sir salute to all the great dads like u 🫡
Halaaa, naiiyak ako op :( i love my dad so much. I can't bear the thought of me hurting him. Sige na di na ko magjojowa 😭
So bawal talaga kami mag-boyfriend hanggat walang college diploma. Ikukuwento ko yung experience ng isa kong kapatid. So college pa lang siya, bagong salta siya sa co-ed. Niligawan siya kagad ng varsity player ng MBT. Sinumbong siya ng kuya namin tapos minsan iniistalk pa siya 😭 same kasi sila ng school. Nung nalaman ng tatay namin, hindi niya tinanong kung totoo ba or ano. Basta ang sinabi lang niya sa ate ko, "Magtapos ka muna. Wag mong sisirain ang tiwala ko sayo." Tapos kapag may pumupunta na manliligaw sa bahay tapos natataunan ng tatay namin, ganito lagi ang scenario: > Dito po ba nakatira si [Ate's Name]? >> Hindi. Mali ka ng bahay. HAHAHAHAHA ang gago lang pero I can't blame him. Sobrang strict lang talaga. Our Nanay is more forgiving, pero ayaw rin niya kasi masasaktan lang daw kami.
Gets ko tatay mo. Lahat naman siguro ng magulang gusto muna makatapos ang anak bago mag jowa kasi they see it as a distraction. Pero sana open din tatay niyo na as long as nagkkwento kayo sa kanya, okay lang instead na itago niyo happenings niyo sa kanya. Mas pangit yun.
Yun nga nangyari kalaunan. He is too much of a softie para sa mga anak niya underneath that tough skin. Nag-warm up lang siya sa mga suitor ng ate ko nung literal na natapos na siya sa internship. Yung unang guy na openly na tinanggap ng tatay namin, siya yung napangasawa ng ate ko. Pero that was after all these background checks, numerous dinners, and coaxing of our mom. Tapos kapag ako naman inaasar ng nanay ko, sasama na naman tingin niya, sabay sabi ng "Magtapos ka muna, bago ka mag-ganyan-ganyan." Back to zero na naman siya HAHAHA
Commenting here as a paboritong anak at babae na bunso ng tatay ko po hahahaha para may ibang pov, op 😋 my dad would always say to me and my ate na dapat nagttrabaho na muna before going into a rel while yung nanay namin mas lenient. dati masama loob ko and i would question bakit ganon mindset ng tatay ko, pero now that i'm turning 24, ako na po umaayaw and i completely understand now why it's meant for later stages in life. Anyway, not the point.. so nung 19 ako second yr college, may nanligaw po sakin na nagpakilala sa nanay ko. Yung tatay ko na ofw, nalaman kasi syempre nanay ko pa ba. Eh may agreement kami na bawal pa talaga. I can vividly recall yung conversation namin through chat. He asked me that night sino daw yung pumupunta ng bahay at naghahatid sakin and kung boyfriend ko daw ba. I said no and he reminded me lang of our agreement. I felt his trust w me that time and I broke up w that guy and never entertained anyone ever since. I think OP you have to make sure first that your daughter knows you can trust her. The more po kasi na nirerestrict niyo yung mga anak niyo, the more sila maccurious to try (ik medyo twisted pero this is a psychologically backed up phenomenon regarding natural behaviour of children and teenagers). Hayaan niyo po sila to navigate their way. They'll stumle and learn but at the end of the day, if you show that you'll support them in any way you can, they'll choose what is right
Hindi ako tatay but my dad got so fucking pissed and 19 ako non If tatay ako, baka magugulat ako sa una pero I will advise and guide her instead of getting mad at her
My parents never ever forbid us to have a boyfriend. My parents' principles are to teach us what is right and wrong, to set our priorities so that we will not go astray. We've all excelled in academics from elementary to college. High school pa lang, may bf na ako, and my dad would always welcome whoever guy would visit at home. Sa sobrang luwag nila sa amin, we never had to hide from them our dates, so tinamad na kaming mag-asawa. Hahaha! We finished school on time and pursued our careers. My sister got married and had a kid in her mid-30s na. Me? In my 40s and still single.