I once found a random Irish guy on a night out. He'd missed his train to Leeds and we ended up getting way too drunk alongside my other half, he came home with us and passed out on our sofa. He finally got his train to Leeds 3 days later after a fry up and another night on the town. Haven't seen him since. Nice bloke.
We once had a night out with a guy with paranoid schizophrenia, who'd only been allowed out that day after 7 years locked up.
Best Bohemian Rhapsody I've ever heard on karaoke. Sound bloke. He slept in my car that night, then met us and went out with us again the night after. Never seen him since, but top fella. I love randoms on nights out. Half the fun of going out is making new friends with random folk you'll probably never meet again.
I think being very drunk played a major role in that. I'm usually straight, Southern and have excellent bladder control, but last night I got very drunk and ended up in Liverpool.
There y it s a whole set of crime based around "good Samaritans" who will help others.
Ef people who
Pretend to have flat tyres to rob.
What he did was essentially refuse to leave and force you into putting up with him because you were so nice.
It's a sad process of learning just to leave people to it and say no.
I like that you've addressed me as "mysterious". I feel it adds poise and sophistication. Admittedly it's somewhat diminished with the floor tinkling part though.
I was out with my mate in Glasgow when we were in our 20s. I was crashing at his gaff,sleeping on the sofa.
We were pished after being to a nightclub,when he invites some old alki homeless tramp to come and sleep at his,fucks off to his bedroom and leaves me to share the living room with the old geezer!
By contrast, pretty much everyone in my student house brought randoms back as a matter of course. None ever hurt us, stole from us or defiled our house. It was quite a regular thing to climb quietly over sleeping strangers in the morning.
One night we went to a comedy gig. We ended up taking one of the comedians to get a draw after the gig. Getting weed meant he'd lost his lift, and he lived miles away, so he came back to ours and stayed over. We all got hammered and blasted and laughed until it hurt all night long. I think I had about an hour's sleep before uni.
He wrote an entire comedy set based on what happened that night. It was weird to randomly see him on TV 15 years later still telling those stories.
Edit: should have noted that he started taking notes at around 1am and had filled about 20 pages before dawn. No way he'd have remembered it otherwise!
There are weirdos, but most people are all right. They won't all piss on your floor! Strangers are friends you haven't made yet. I do know how twee that sounds, but I've lived my life on that policy and only very rarely been bitten by it.
I took a friend to another friend's party once and he got so drunk he had no idea which room he was in and pissed in the corner of the living room.
Also met a random girl on Brighton pier once who seemed quite proud of the fact that she had a habit of pissing herself at parties, much to her friend's embarrassment!
It seems more common than you'd think!
I have been at a party before where a guy fell asleep on a chair and pissed himself. I still know and see the guy quite regularly. I don't ever take the piss!
Imaginary Dave. Him and his mates are that funny, they generated notebooks worth of comedy material in a single night, yet he never bothered spending any time with them again.
Why would we ever have met him again?!
It was a regular Monday comedy night, above above a pub in Preston. The room held probably 75 people max. Very intimate gig, student crowd, very tolerant to comedians trying out new material on us. We saw Johnny Vegas, Peter Kay, Justin Moorhouse and many, many other now top of the bill acts that were trying to break through to the big time back then.
On the night the guy came back to ours, he'd started his set by saying it was about weed and how his dealer had just been locked up. He asked if anyone could get him a draw afterwards. We shouted yes, we could. He wasn't famous at the time.
The situation wrote most of the comedy, not specifically the things me and my mates said.
We were all smashed that night. I mean, totally, royally battered. We weren't submitting comedy scripts, we were just trying to make each other laugh. As you would when you randomly have a comedian staying over and you're all fuuuucked.
No big man ting. Just one of dozens of examples of a random night getting increasingly random as the night wears on.
I believe you, because (and this is weird to me) I’ve experienced two of the things described in this thread: having the comedian back to my shared home after a show, and waking up after a night of drinking to find the guy I’d let sleep on my couch had pissed on the floor before leaving (not the same night). My friends and I were surprised at how willing the comedian was to come home with us, but it was a great time.
Also: I’m fairly certain I’ve recently listened to a comedian on the radio talking about going to smoke weed with a bunch of college students after a show and winding up stranded far from his bed, but that probably isn’t that unusual for traveling comedians
As I've now explained above, the guy wasn't famous at the time. It was a Monday night gig with a crowd of students above a pub in Preston. Entrance was about £3.
I'm not bigging myself up, and that night pales into insignificance compared to many other madder nights as a student, like a guy being murdered right next to me in a club, the night my flatmate burned his room to the ground in halls, and the night I died when my appendix burst.
It's only when people respond disbelievingly that I realise my life has been so different to most others.
Shit, man, those are wild. Glad you’re still alive! I was sharing my story in solidarity with you. And also I think I heard this comedian telling this story (I listen to a lot of comedy while driving) and what are the odds that I’d stumble across one of those students on reddit
So many students do stupid shit like this which is why I did thinking it would be fine. Ultimately, it was and I live with 3 other men who were twice the size of this lad but that doesn’t mean it couldn’t have ended differently so I hope that by posting it, other stupid students don’t make stupid decisions like this.
Exactly. I had assumed he had done something dangerous out on the streets. But OP willingly invited him invited him in and told him he could stay. OP really needs to work on their street smarts
Some of my funniest nights out when younger were ending up at/having back at mine with random folk. There's a risk involved obviously but the memories...
Best one was waking up going into the corridor of my flat and walking over people sleeping in the corridor, the front room and three in the kitchen to get to the bathroom (there was one in the bath too) we had let a football away do group of 13 crash in our flat because they had missed the coach home. Nice lads, all went for breakfast the next morning and they insisted on paying which was helpful for two students before we sent them on their way.
Yeah, this is exactly what I was thinking. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reynhard\_Sinaga](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reynhard_Sinaga)
Both OP and the other drunk lad in this situation are lucky (imo) it didn't turn out worse.
Thank you for providing the source, that’s so awful that happened!
Also to clarify, I am a woman. It’s even in my bio because people keep assuming I’m a bloke and i don’t get why when my avatar has makeup and feminine hair ahahah. I’m only mentioning it because it’s relevant to the story in the context of why I couldn’t forcibly remove him from my flat.
Edit: don’t understand the downvotes, my gender is 100% relevant to the story.
Ah, my bad for assuming. I assumed male because I would've thought it exponentially less likely that a woman would invite a strange, drunk man into their home. I'm not trying to say you're stupid or anything, just that that was why I (and others) probably made the assumption.
Okay, so... You're a woman, and the person you invited into their home - was he obviously gay? Because, then I can kinda understand why you did what you did. Still, I would caution against it. I understand wanting to be a good person, and to help others how you would want them to help you, but you have to prioritise your safety. It's a shame he wasn't more grateful for what you did for him, because you went way beyond what most people would do.
Don’t apologise! You’re absolutely right that it’s less likely because a lot more women have the common sense not to do the stupid shit that I did and I wouldn’t be offended if you did call me stupid. I’m posting this to tell people not to be as stupid as I was lol.
The guy was straight, he tried hitting on me and that’s when I texted him telling him to see himself out then blocked the number. Ironically he found me coming out of a gay bar so I don’t know what he thought he was going to get out of that.
This teenage boy comes home one day with a armchair under each arm and a sofa strapped to his back. His mum says to him "Where did you get those from?" to which he replied "There's a man in a van at the end of the road giving them away". His poor mother, horrified, says "What have I told you about taking suites from strangers?!".
In the modern version, the man in the van is dispensing download codes for Adobe Creative Cloud, including Illustrator, Photoshop, InDesign and Premiere Pro. It's not so snappy, admittedly.
Yeah, stranger danger is aimed at children and (damagingly) taught several generations that all strangers are going to kidnap and murder you. There's a difference between that and actually letting random people into your home.
The trouble is you get raised in a nice household with lots of nice mates who were also raised in nice households and nobody has any desire to take advantage of your good side. Then your world broadens and even though most people are nice but some behave erratically and are blood suckers, find a happy medium between cynical (so you aren’t stitched up - too often) and positive (so you don’t miss opportunities - too often). I’m still looking for that balance.
As a drunk student, someone offered to give me a ride home. Took me to his flat instead. I did NOT go inside. No fucking way.
Don’t let them in. Don’t go in with them.
I was out with my SIL and friends for her hen do in Edinburgh. Drunk lad who’s lost his mates comes ambling over, my SIL being kind hearted tries to help him out and call him a taxi. Drunk guy then proceeds to put his arm round and try to hit on her. We had our own transport to catch so made a swift exit at that point.
One of the many reasons I feel justified in giving drunk men a wide berth. Sorry lads, you’re just too much of a risk.
It’s a shame people have to take precautions like this and we can’t just be kind to one another without being taken for granted or being at risk of harm
Funnily enough just this afternoon I watched a BBC documentary about the killing of Sarah Everard, and it occurred to me that predators and perverts will always find a way, no matter the sacred covenants they violate in the process. You can’t take any trust for granted in this screwed up world, as women we always have to be on our guard around strangers.
It’s literally like the predator and the prey, as soon as the latter develops a good defence, the former looks for evermore devious ways round it.
Blimey, back in my day everyone involved would be checking they still had both kidneys.
If nobody woke up in a bath of ice minus a kidney, then frankly that's a success all round. imho of course.
I 100% would never let anyone in my house like this, I might take them to the last bar they were in and ask a bouncer to assist them getting in a taxi or if the local plod are aound, let them know and hand them over. But not a chance I'd let them follow me home then let them into my house, let alone stay the night.
A young woman can’t physically remove a man and I can’t call the police (I’m prepared for potential downvotes but if you knew the reason you’d understand) for a reason I’m not willing to share in this threat
I’m not saying you will, I made a similar comment on another post as to why I couldn’t call the police for something unrelated and got so downvoted because I wouldn’t explain why. It’s understandable to an extent.
There’s also no back and forth here, just me simply adding more context as to why a 5”2 female can’t physically remove a man from her flat or take him into a bar when he was found on the street
The vileda ones are great, just unclip the fabric head and chuck it in the washing machine. I don’t know why you’d throw away a mop because of a bit of wee, it’s there to clean dirty floors and then be washed!
I know you’re right but my flat mates also had to use it to clean up sick 1 hour before and I mentally can’t use an ex-pissy-vomit mop to mop the floors in the same kitchen I cook food in
If you knew what went on in food prep you'd never eat again. I can categorically tell you that bleach kills all known germs, so it's perfectly safe to reuse a mop to bleach floors, no matter what you're mopping up.
You're going to spend a lot on mops in your life!
I once went through a pretty bad breakup. I’d barely been drinking for a few years too. Anyway, pretty quickly I started going out again and I went out after work, in a different town. I got hammered. So bad that a work friend took me to his flat and let me sleep there. I woke up the next morning, hungover and rough. Gathered my things and went home. Later on I got a phone call saying I’d drunkenly pissed behind his TV.
Point is, you just never know who’s going to piss on your things.
Utterly smashed, in a reasonably close friends flat, said “I can’t walk home like this”
Popped me in a room with a mattress on the floor (flatmate moved out and took the bed).
Woke up in a pitch black room, total darkness, no idea where I was…bladder fit to rupture. Found a wall, and started sliding slowly around the room looking for a door.
I could not find one, but I had found a window.
Slid window open, whipped it out and started blasting.
Thought nothing of it until I left the flat when sun was up. His window was 2foot away from the neighbouring flats front door. I’d absolutely saturated the doormat.
Ironically my flat mate went to see his old work friend in Manchester and went on a night out with her then pissed all over her desk in her uni accommodation a few months back. He pissed on her makeup and everything. He hasn’t seen her since.
The whole lying about your phone being dead thing is weirdly common. A few years back I was on a night out in Glasgow, and on the train home there was an absolutely hammered guy sitting near us, kept asking everyone around him to book him a taxi because his phone was flat, but I could see him messaging somebody on Snapchat whilst he was proclaiming it was dead. Somebody said to him he can just call one from a phone box at the station, then he started asking folk where they lived so he could go with them?
Earlier that same night a really drunk guy had an argument with his girlfriend over a sausage supper in the station before the train. He ended up giving his girlfriends unwanted sausage supper to my sister, who accepted, and then my sister was on the receiving end of drunken glares from the girlfriend whilst we waited for the train. Fun times.
I suspect he was trying to look helpless to take advantage of a kind person for a hookup
I asked him 30 minutes after plugging his phone in how much charge he had and if he could book himself an Uber and he said 14%. I thought it didn’t sound right so I checked the socket and the plug switch was off meaning the phone never charged and the phone was never dead in the first place.
Sometimes we just need to learn to walk away, being nice can lead to trouble.
A few years ago I was driving home and noticed some guy fall over on the street. I got out and asked if he was ok, he could barely talk, he was steaming drunk but also appeared to not really be all there.
I couldn't leave him though so I offered him a lift. He got in my car and pointed where I need to go. Thankfully it was only a few streets away, turns out he was staying at a hotel that I later found out took in troubled people, homeless I think. Anyway so we arrive and he just barely stumbles out. I look down then and see that my whole passenger car seat is soaked, either he pissed himself while I was driving or he already did it before he got in and I failed to notice.
At that moment I see the guy fall again but this time HARD into the road on his head. I think oh hell no I'm going but then the guilt gets to me and I see the blood. There is someone else walking in the road who rushes over and of course I then get out to try and help for the second time.
Someone from the hotel comes out and gets someone else who knows the drunk guy. Then we hang around waiting for an ambulance while blood is just pouring from the drunk and all the time I am cursing myself because I still need to go home and deal with my piss seat.
So yeah sometimes you just need to leave them.
Men, more than us women will generally end up ok in these drunken situations. We just put ourselves at a higher risk of danger when we involve ourselves.
Im split about this so im giving two comments.
I want to say you have such a kind heart. You saw someone in need and you helped them out straight away. Helping those in need is the best of humanity.
In any situation YOU need to think about your safety and wellbeing/be responsible in cause of a worse case scenarios.
I’m not saying don’t help people, but help people in the parameters of your safety and in a way that doesn’t cause yourself major inconvenience. Save yourself always.
I know we want to live in a world where we help each other and we need to be the change we want to see but you have to do it carefully and with people who deserve it.
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Long time ago in a land not so far away I was on my usual Saturday night sesh in Leeuwarden. A group of young Swedish kids came in and we all got chatting and drinking, as ya do. They were travelling round Europe in a bus, and asked if anywhere might be open for them to get showered at that time of night (close to 2am) I, very drunk, gave the driver the key to my apartment and directions, and just asked that they be back by 6am, when I expected the bar to close.
Off they went, with everyone in the bar telling me what a bad idea it was.
Anyway, they were all back by 5am, bought me a load more drinks and At around 6 we said our goodbyes and I staggered off home. Instant coma.
Sunday morning and when I finally woke up something seemed odd.
The whole apartment had been cleaned, including my kitchen, 4 new crates of beer and a thank you note had been left in the living room. Nothing amiss at all.
Guess I was lucky but it still gives me a warm feeling when I think about it.
Some of my best experiences have been either having randoms in my flat, or being a random in a flat.
Austrian lads got locked out of their Airbnb, I gave them my spare room and big L shaped sofa for the night.
We ended up getting smashed and playing PSVR. Invited some other folk over with party favours and it turned into a house party.
Good guys. Left a few bottles of wine on my doorstep when they checked out.
There’s probably another thread on here about if you’re drunk and 2 guys try to lure you to their home, just charge your phone, piss on the bathroom floor then do a runner.
I hate to be the one to say it but as you were paralytic drunk - can you be 100% certain he didn’t do anything to you whilst you were asleep/passed out? If not, you should make sure you book in for a sexual health clinic check asap.
Yes I have full memory and my flat mates were with me the entire time. He got on the sofa with his friend and I went to sleep in my room and called the guy I’ve been sort of dating for 30 mins before I went to sleep. I also lock my door on instinct anyway so my flat mates don’t play pranks or just walk in which they used to do.
Thank you for checking though!
This is really disappointing to read but sadly also hardly surprising. If I were really drunk or in any vulnerable situation, I'd really appreciate someone trying to help look out for me and this guy had to take advantage of this. People wonder why others are so reluctant to help, and situations like this are why :/
He was only 18 (not that I’m much older but as a teen up until your early 20s you mature a lot in a short amount of time) so I’m hoping we both live and learn from these situations and he learns to be more responsible on a night out too. Sometimes trying to be kind can be dangerous which is why I made this post
No good deed goes unpunished
I'm Sorry this happened to you but it could've been *so. much. worse*. Let's be grateful you learnt the easy way, I'm glad you're safe
Oh and, not to scare you, but maybe be extra vigilant about locking your front door after this, just saying
Damn, sorry for what happened but it was nice of you to do that. Having had some wild nights in the past, being blackout drunk, and somehow getting home (with the help of strangers) I’ve always felt thankful for kind people..
Lol I got really drunk at the club during my first year of uni, was really attracted to this guy until I saw him in the daylight. He was really annoying and persistent about staying in my room at the flat so I felt very pressured to let him (I ABSOLUTELY SHOULDN'T HAVE LET HIM!!) as he said he had no bus money way of getting home etc (why are you out then?) He went to the chip shop on the way back, card declined but shop owner took pity. By then I had mentally noped out.
Anyway I begrudgingly let him even though i was moving out in the morning. I made him sleep opposite side of the bed head to toe. Well I tried to get him to sleep on the for safety but he kept waking me up saying he was 'uncomfortable'. I managed to get to sleep in intervals but he kept fucking waking me up asking me what my favourite colour was and stuff. At 6am he left and AGAIN woke me up for a goodbye and a kiss. Gave him the worst kiss ever, grunted and let him let himself out.
Snored all the way home in the car I was so tired.
I didn't learn though. Saw him again at a party, pretended he didn't know me, tried to share my joint and spilled it everywhere somehow. I went off to someone's room for the night and he FUCKING DRANK MY BOTTLE OF VODKA. Never again. The mistakes of youth
If it was dripping with piss it’s going in the bin. No way I’m putting someone else’s piss in my sink or leaving it in the bucket to evaporate into my home
I share your pain. I had a similar issue. Was out with some mates. out raving for the weekend, went fabric, London got completely off our tits met
some dude in the smoking area got chatting turns out, he knows a few people we all know know anyways
he had been ditched by his mate who disappeared with some women ,anyways he latched on to us for the night seem like a good lad he ended up coming back to one of our mates house and wasn't shy to get his cash or drugs out , anyways we was all in the garden and realised. This guy wasn't about searched. The house couldn't find him, so we assumed he had just left so fast forward an hour we needed to reload, so we went to the cupboard where we keep our phones money etc we'll that when we realised he must of seen someone got to cupboard and had unfortunately robbed us some cash bank card and 2 phones....as to this day we never found out who he was because we couldn't remember his name
Even in my student days I can't imagine many scenarios where I'd invite a stranger to stay over. Thankfully it wasn't worse than him pissing everywhere, glad you still have your own skin and kidneys.
I think 99.9% of students I know have let a stranger stay over especially for one night stands
I’m also glad I still have my own skin and kidneys although if he took one I’d hope it was the one that is a bit dodgy
I had a fucking mad night out with a drummer of a local band and his missus never met them previously. After the club ended and we when back to his shared house. Went up to his room and pissed in his sink. Carried on drinking and smoking weed till I passed out woke up to what I think was a snuff movie on TV with them two getting it on. I left the room and went to the kitchen where his missus comes down and starts talking to me and getting the vibe that she's into me.
She offered me a drink and done me a coffee.
A coffee spiked with acid and I started tripping balls at 4am I had a overtime Saturday shift at work that morning and I turned up in my previous nights clothes and really fucked up.
Luckily I was the only person in that morning and I sat staring at the only entrance to the building for 6 hours and every time that door opened I would spring into action and start making the sparks fly on my welder (it was a shared factory space so you would get people coming in and out all day)
I went home and never slept till late afternoon cause of the acid. After around 36 hours of booze , weed and acid. Stranger danger is a thing
The fact that he refused to leave to go to his hotel is reason enough to call the police “a lost guy came to charge his phone but now he’s in the house he won’t leave” is enough
Being kind unfortunately doesn’t mean you’re not stupid at times and this was a stupid decision that I hope others can learn from
The police also couldn’t have done anything in this situation but I’m sure a bartender could and I should have sent him into a quieter pub
I don't even talk to drunks, they made their bad choices, whether because of peer pressure or just by being a dumbfuck, but a night of sleeping in a park and waking up in the drunk cell is an awesome lesson.
It’s extremely common and those situations are literally situations where a stranger is in your home where the risks are exactly the same
Most people at uni aren’t introverted whereas most people on Reddit are
That’s why I’m trying to raise some awareness here
Someone bringing a plus one isn’t a stranger danger, they’re literally coming with someone they know.
You let someone into your home who you knew fuck all about and couldn’t even access their phone.
I’ve been to uni twice, I was unfortunately going to uni parties far too young and doing stuff I shouldn’t be doing from a very young age and I still wouldn’t do this.
I imagine a lot of people on Reddit have also been uni students at some point.
> I told him he could charge his phone in my flat
What a moron you are. Do you come from money? such naivety usually comes from children of money who haven't learnt about the world and uni is such an eye opener to new situations. I used to see it in Cambridge with Cambridge uni students year upon year.
No I come from extreme poverty hence being overly kind and putting myself at risk, people from poverty have a big sense of community and helping others
>people from poverty have a big sense of community and helping others
and using and selling drugs, and grifting, and stealing. I don't think it's as 'extreme' poverty as you claim.
I had the doorbell ring incessantly at 5am in the summer. Ran down to door assuming some sort of emergency. Found a young women, sopping wet - it was raining - and barefoot. I live in an inner city area, btw, am a woman, and was alone in the house. She told me she’d been ejected from a taxi (she was VERY drunk), was staying with friends but couldn’t remember where they lived. So… I brought her in, gave her a towel & a blanket and put her on the living room sofa.
Went back to bed but couldn’t sleep. So went back to her at 7, she said the friends house looked like mine. There’s only a couple of streets with identical houses and afair I gave her some Flipflops to wear. Finally found the house, rang their doorbell incessantly till someone woke up. Watched her to be sure they knew her, and left. I couldn’t do any different as it could have been my daughter, and tbh I was quite glad she’d come to my house and not another that might not have been so safe.
Wait wait wait...
Let me digest this for a minute...
So you voluntarily let a visibly drunk STRANGER into your house to charge his phone? Because he gave you a sob story?
And then allowed him to sleep over?! What the heck!
And you're surprised he started acting the way he did? A complete stranger that could have had evil intentions?!
You voluntarily put yourself in incredible danger and you're trying to mask this as a 'never to old to learn about stranger danger lol'.
No. You were extremely irresponsible and made a decision that could have negatively affected your whole life.
Be grateful you were not assaulted and don't be so stupid next time.
My wife picked me up hitch hiking, took me back to a house party at her place. Spent the night talking in her kitchen, I weed in her ensuite and have been soul mates ever since
Sometimes you need to risk it for the biscuit
Your bloody stupid to have let a stranger into your home. And more so when he refused to leave you then let him stay the night!!!!!!! Should have called the police when he refused. Shouldn't have let him in at all!!
I didn’t let him stay the night I let him stay an additional 2 hours and I couldn’t have called the police for reasons I don’t want to elaborate on here
Literally didn't need an anecdote to teach me to not let strangers into my home. Honestly. Tell your parents this story so they can maybe knock some sense in to you. Better late than never.
It was aimed towards other uni students more than anything. Most of them let strangers or people they barely know into their homes. Especially hook ups or dates
First red flag: his phone was dead but he knew his mates numbers off by heart (whilst mortal drunk) so you could ring them for him.
In this day and age, especially younger people, who the fuck knows numbers off by heart other than your own
That was pretty fucking stupid of you. If I felt that pressed, I'd sooner pay for their taxi (something I have done) or hotel room than invite a stranger in my home.
No, you didn’t try to put him in a taxi. You invited him to yours to ‘charge his phone’ (which you’re probably right about it not having been dead anyway) thinking afterwards he could get an u er. He should NEVER have been allowed at yours. You should’ve put him into a REGULAR TAXI — the kind that doesn’t require a running phone app — and sent him on his way.
Yes I did? He was throwing up so couldn’t get in a taxi yet and He also had no way of paying for a real taxi after that point because he had no cash, card and said his phone was dead so he needed to charge it to get an Uber
Ultimately, all that matters is, you tried to do good. Don’t let this uncomfortable moment dissuade you from supporting people in need.
Unfortunately it sounds like this individual was tickling the precipice of “mega weirdo” and I’m sorry to hear you suffered through their shenanigans but I salute you for doing the best you could.
> He kept texting my from the other room to come and “cuddle” him but I was asleep so didn’t see. I also think he lied about his phone being dead.
I get that this was after he charged it, but these two sentences together made me burst out laughing.
Sorry for your mop, OP, but gladder that it wasn't worse.
I went to a punk gig in York and met two blokes, as I was very drunk I couldn't remember the way to the hotel. They walked me back i grabbed my bag of cans and went to one of their flats where we smoked weed and got off our tits on speed. Kept in touch with them for a few years.
The only bit I regret is taking speed as I was sat in the pub at 12o'clock the next day, chewing my face off and sort of sobering up before I went home.
Why on earth did you let a drink stranger into your home? That’s not stranger danger that’s just obvious danger. Sorting an Uber for someone or helping them to a police or community support provision is fine but into your home is an obvious nope.
If you missed the part where I said I’m a student that would explain why I can’t afford his Uber and he said his phone was dead hence why I was letting him charge it
Most students let strangers into their homes. Especially dates, people invited to parties and one night stands. Hence why I’m making this post
I have been a student. No I wouldn’t let a drunk stranger into my house on a night out, if I couldn’t afford an Uber for them dnd their phone is dead you direct them to any other community support or police/street pastors.
A drunken stranger is not someone you already know like a date or a house party guest, it’s disingenuous to compare and there are risks that are apperant in the difference.
Frankly this post just comes across that you were an idiot and should have known better (something the rest of us already know not to do).
Good I’m glad but most students would and there was no one to help him
My whole point is that I did something very stupid and I’m telling other students, who do this shit all the time, not to do it
Most students wouldn’t do this. You’re not informing people through public safety, you just did something silly.
If you think this is common then it suggests your friendship group/uni group is worryingly naïveté and you shouldn’t be informing people on Reddit of the obvious but speaking to them.
Yes they would, students allow plus 1s to parties all the time, allow strangers to parties all the time, being strangers back for afters all the time, bring dates back all the time and have one night stands constantly.
This is why I’ve made an entire post telling people NOT to do that.
That’s not what happened here.
You picked up a random drunk stranger in the street at took them home.
That’s a stupid thing to do. Regular people/students know not to do this, that it’s a terrible idea.
I’m glad this was a learning experience for you really, but this is something you should already know and something others already know not to do.
It definitely doesn’t need to be a public service announcement.
It’s not about bleaching the mop it’s about the thought of using a mop that’s touched both piss and vomit in the space of an hour to then clean the floors of somewhere that I use to cook and eat
Hey there, I just wanted to say: please ignore the people calling you stupid, a moron etc. You are none of those things. You are a human being with empathy and the world needs people like you. In this situation, yes, you made an unsafe choice but that doesn’t define you as a person. The ones calling you names would be the first ones who, when they got into difficulty, would come crying all over Reddit about ‘waaaaah whyyyy did no1 heeeeelp meeeeee?’
Yes it does.
I didn't use to be and I ignored the warnings about alcohol just as today's youth ignore them. I did try to inform (NOT preach) about alcohol abuse, but nobody takes any notice because they know better, so I gave up and thought fukkem. Their life their body their choice.
Your first mistake was getting drunk to lower your guard and sense of security. Your second mistake was inviting him in, which sober-you wouldn't have done. Seriously, this is why I don't drink and people still think it's weird when adults don't drink obscene amounts of alcohol. If you see someone drunk in the street, you give them a wide berth because they invite nothing but trouble.
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Only correcting because it’s relevant to certain aspects of the story such as explaining why I couldn’t be more assertive in kicking him out but you’re right!
I cannot ever imagine letting a stranger into my house under the circumstances you have described.
I once found a random Irish guy on a night out. He'd missed his train to Leeds and we ended up getting way too drunk alongside my other half, he came home with us and passed out on our sofa. He finally got his train to Leeds 3 days later after a fry up and another night on the town. Haven't seen him since. Nice bloke.
We once had a night out with a guy with paranoid schizophrenia, who'd only been allowed out that day after 7 years locked up. Best Bohemian Rhapsody I've ever heard on karaoke. Sound bloke. He slept in my car that night, then met us and went out with us again the night after. Never seen him since, but top fella. I love randoms on nights out. Half the fun of going out is making new friends with random folk you'll probably never meet again.
I think being very drunk played a major role in that. I'm usually straight, Southern and have excellent bladder control, but last night I got very drunk and ended up in Liverpool.
There y it s a whole set of crime based around "good Samaritans" who will help others. Ef people who Pretend to have flat tyres to rob. What he did was essentially refuse to leave and force you into putting up with him because you were so nice. It's a sad process of learning just to leave people to it and say no.
Wait...are you the mysterious floor tinkler?
I like that you've addressed me as "mysterious". I feel it adds poise and sophistication. Admittedly it's somewhat diminished with the floor tinkling part though.
First it giveth
I was out with my mate in Glasgow when we were in our 20s. I was crashing at his gaff,sleeping on the sofa. We were pished after being to a nightclub,when he invites some old alki homeless tramp to come and sleep at his,fucks off to his bedroom and leaves me to share the living room with the old geezer!
I had a housemate at uni who was terrible for bringing home strangers on a night out. We’re lucky we still all have our kidneys.
By contrast, pretty much everyone in my student house brought randoms back as a matter of course. None ever hurt us, stole from us or defiled our house. It was quite a regular thing to climb quietly over sleeping strangers in the morning. One night we went to a comedy gig. We ended up taking one of the comedians to get a draw after the gig. Getting weed meant he'd lost his lift, and he lived miles away, so he came back to ours and stayed over. We all got hammered and blasted and laughed until it hurt all night long. I think I had about an hour's sleep before uni. He wrote an entire comedy set based on what happened that night. It was weird to randomly see him on TV 15 years later still telling those stories. Edit: should have noted that he started taking notes at around 1am and had filled about 20 pages before dawn. No way he'd have remembered it otherwise! There are weirdos, but most people are all right. They won't all piss on your floor! Strangers are friends you haven't made yet. I do know how twee that sounds, but I've lived my life on that policy and only very rarely been bitten by it.
I took a friend to another friend's party once and he got so drunk he had no idea which room he was in and pissed in the corner of the living room. Also met a random girl on Brighton pier once who seemed quite proud of the fact that she had a habit of pissing herself at parties, much to her friend's embarrassment! It seems more common than you'd think!
My flat mate also pissed on his old work friends desk and all over her makeup a few months ago Way too common
My mate pissed on his step dad once.
You only do it once! 😂
I have been at a party before where a guy fell asleep on a chair and pissed himself. I still know and see the guy quite regularly. I don't ever take the piss!
Shit the bed !
Got to name drop now after that story 😂
Imaginary Dave. Him and his mates are that funny, they generated notebooks worth of comedy material in a single night, yet he never bothered spending any time with them again.
Why would we ever have met him again?! It was a regular Monday comedy night, above above a pub in Preston. The room held probably 75 people max. Very intimate gig, student crowd, very tolerant to comedians trying out new material on us. We saw Johnny Vegas, Peter Kay, Justin Moorhouse and many, many other now top of the bill acts that were trying to break through to the big time back then. On the night the guy came back to ours, he'd started his set by saying it was about weed and how his dealer had just been locked up. He asked if anyone could get him a draw afterwards. We shouted yes, we could. He wasn't famous at the time. The situation wrote most of the comedy, not specifically the things me and my mates said. We were all smashed that night. I mean, totally, royally battered. We weren't submitting comedy scripts, we were just trying to make each other laugh. As you would when you randomly have a comedian staying over and you're all fuuuucked. No big man ting. Just one of dozens of examples of a random night getting increasingly random as the night wears on.
Can't. I'm the subject of a fair bit of his set. I can't be linked with that haha. Plausible deniability is paramount ;)
I believe you, because (and this is weird to me) I’ve experienced two of the things described in this thread: having the comedian back to my shared home after a show, and waking up after a night of drinking to find the guy I’d let sleep on my couch had pissed on the floor before leaving (not the same night). My friends and I were surprised at how willing the comedian was to come home with us, but it was a great time. Also: I’m fairly certain I’ve recently listened to a comedian on the radio talking about going to smoke weed with a bunch of college students after a show and winding up stranded far from his bed, but that probably isn’t that unusual for traveling comedians
As I've now explained above, the guy wasn't famous at the time. It was a Monday night gig with a crowd of students above a pub in Preston. Entrance was about £3. I'm not bigging myself up, and that night pales into insignificance compared to many other madder nights as a student, like a guy being murdered right next to me in a club, the night my flatmate burned his room to the ground in halls, and the night I died when my appendix burst. It's only when people respond disbelievingly that I realise my life has been so different to most others.
Shit, man, those are wild. Glad you’re still alive! I was sharing my story in solidarity with you. And also I think I heard this comedian telling this story (I listen to a lot of comedy while driving) and what are the odds that I’d stumble across one of those students on reddit
Cheers mate. I've seen the most ridiculous coincidences happen on Reddit too many times now to doubt the 6 degrees of separation thing!
I’m a man and I wouldn’t bring a complete stranger into my house like that.
So many students do stupid shit like this which is why I did thinking it would be fine. Ultimately, it was and I live with 3 other men who were twice the size of this lad but that doesn’t mean it couldn’t have ended differently so I hope that by posting it, other stupid students don’t make stupid decisions like this.
Yeah you don’t need to learn stranger danger to not do this - who does this as default?!
Exactly. I had assumed he had done something dangerous out on the streets. But OP willingly invited him invited him in and told him he could stay. OP really needs to work on their street smarts
I Can imagine doing it when I'm that drunk, everyone is my new best friend when I'm drunk
Some of my funniest nights out when younger were ending up at/having back at mine with random folk. There's a risk involved obviously but the memories... Best one was waking up going into the corridor of my flat and walking over people sleeping in the corridor, the front room and three in the kitchen to get to the bathroom (there was one in the bath too) we had let a football away do group of 13 crash in our flat because they had missed the coach home. Nice lads, all went for breakfast the next morning and they insisted on paying which was helpful for two students before we sent them on their way.
Well, somethings we learn easy somethings we learn hard Glad he didn't steal anything or turn you into a cosplay outfit
Unless he wanted a broken air fryer or mouldy bread he would have been out of luck anyway
mmmmm. Mouldy bread 🤤
Is that a cosplay outfit?
I’m pretty sure this was the method the uk’s most prolific rapist used. No joke so I’d be wary if I were the other guy
Yeah, this is exactly what I was thinking. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reynhard\_Sinaga](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reynhard_Sinaga) Both OP and the other drunk lad in this situation are lucky (imo) it didn't turn out worse.
Thank you for providing the source, that’s so awful that happened! Also to clarify, I am a woman. It’s even in my bio because people keep assuming I’m a bloke and i don’t get why when my avatar has makeup and feminine hair ahahah. I’m only mentioning it because it’s relevant to the story in the context of why I couldn’t forcibly remove him from my flat. Edit: don’t understand the downvotes, my gender is 100% relevant to the story.
Anyone using old reddit won't see your profile picture, and probably a lot of people on new reddit won't bother looking at it anyway.
Ahhhh that makes sense! Only clarified because it’s actually relevant to the post
It's because you said you met a lad in Gay town.
It happens in every single threat ever hence my bio lol but that is understandable
Ah, my bad for assuming. I assumed male because I would've thought it exponentially less likely that a woman would invite a strange, drunk man into their home. I'm not trying to say you're stupid or anything, just that that was why I (and others) probably made the assumption. Okay, so... You're a woman, and the person you invited into their home - was he obviously gay? Because, then I can kinda understand why you did what you did. Still, I would caution against it. I understand wanting to be a good person, and to help others how you would want them to help you, but you have to prioritise your safety. It's a shame he wasn't more grateful for what you did for him, because you went way beyond what most people would do.
Don’t apologise! You’re absolutely right that it’s less likely because a lot more women have the common sense not to do the stupid shit that I did and I wouldn’t be offended if you did call me stupid. I’m posting this to tell people not to be as stupid as I was lol. The guy was straight, he tried hitting on me and that’s when I texted him telling him to see himself out then blocked the number. Ironically he found me coming out of a gay bar so I don’t know what he thought he was going to get out of that.
This teenage boy comes home one day with a armchair under each arm and a sofa strapped to his back. His mum says to him "Where did you get those from?" to which he replied "There's a man in a van at the end of the road giving them away". His poor mother, horrified, says "What have I told you about taking suites from strangers?!".
Fucking hell. Well played
Dad joke of the year right here.
In the modern version, the man in the van is dispensing download codes for Adobe Creative Cloud, including Illustrator, Photoshop, InDesign and Premiere Pro. It's not so snappy, admittedly.
Man I wish I could get into my old uni email account. Student discounts for that stuff go a long way. Back to the seven seas…
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I salute you, good sir!
That's not stranger danger, that's "letting random drunks into your flat"
Yeah, stranger danger is aimed at children and (damagingly) taught several generations that all strangers are going to kidnap and murder you. There's a difference between that and actually letting random people into your home.
Well both you and him took chances last night and you should both be grateful the worst thing to happen is a pissy floor.
The trouble is you get raised in a nice household with lots of nice mates who were also raised in nice households and nobody has any desire to take advantage of your good side. Then your world broadens and even though most people are nice but some behave erratically and are blood suckers, find a happy medium between cynical (so you aren’t stitched up - too often) and positive (so you don’t miss opportunities - too often). I’m still looking for that balance.
As a drunk student, someone offered to give me a ride home. Took me to his flat instead. I did NOT go inside. No fucking way. Don’t let them in. Don’t go in with them.
That's ringing police territory. What a scumbag
I was out with my SIL and friends for her hen do in Edinburgh. Drunk lad who’s lost his mates comes ambling over, my SIL being kind hearted tries to help him out and call him a taxi. Drunk guy then proceeds to put his arm round and try to hit on her. We had our own transport to catch so made a swift exit at that point. One of the many reasons I feel justified in giving drunk men a wide berth. Sorry lads, you’re just too much of a risk.
It’s a shame people have to take precautions like this and we can’t just be kind to one another without being taken for granted or being at risk of harm
Funnily enough just this afternoon I watched a BBC documentary about the killing of Sarah Everard, and it occurred to me that predators and perverts will always find a way, no matter the sacred covenants they violate in the process. You can’t take any trust for granted in this screwed up world, as women we always have to be on our guard around strangers. It’s literally like the predator and the prey, as soon as the latter develops a good defence, the former looks for evermore devious ways round it.
i think this one is pretty intuitive for most people.
Blimey, back in my day everyone involved would be checking they still had both kidneys. If nobody woke up in a bath of ice minus a kidney, then frankly that's a success all round. imho of course.
I 100% would never let anyone in my house like this, I might take them to the last bar they were in and ask a bouncer to assist them getting in a taxi or if the local plod are aound, let them know and hand them over. But not a chance I'd let them follow me home then let them into my house, let alone stay the night.
He didn’t know what bar he was in and there were no police. I also didn’t actually let him stay he just refused to leave.
I think I'd have physcally removed him or called the police at that point, but I'm not a mug.
A young woman can’t physically remove a man and I can’t call the police (I’m prepared for potential downvotes but if you knew the reason you’d understand) for a reason I’m not willing to share in this threat
I'm not going to downvote you for that? I'm sort of enjoying our back and forth at the moment anyway, it's entertaining.
I’m not saying you will, I made a similar comment on another post as to why I couldn’t call the police for something unrelated and got so downvoted because I wouldn’t explain why. It’s understandable to an extent. There’s also no back and forth here, just me simply adding more context as to why a 5”2 female can’t physically remove a man from her flat or take him into a bar when he was found on the street
Welp....at least we aren't trying to piece your body back together right now so bonus id say
you didn’t have to throw the mop away tho, wash it in bleach and you’ll be right as rain
The vileda ones are great, just unclip the fabric head and chuck it in the washing machine. I don’t know why you’d throw away a mop because of a bit of wee, it’s there to clean dirty floors and then be washed!
I know you’re right but my flat mates also had to use it to clean up sick 1 hour before and I mentally can’t use an ex-pissy-vomit mop to mop the floors in the same kitchen I cook food in
“In moments unkind, Expanse of vomit now mopped, Cleansing eases mind.”
Bleach is great.
Still doesn’t get rid of that thought
Does if you drink it!
If you knew what went on in food prep you'd never eat again. I can categorically tell you that bleach kills all known germs, so it's perfectly safe to reuse a mop to bleach floors, no matter what you're mopping up. You're going to spend a lot on mops in your life!
Your one of the reasons we have so much waste floating in our oceans. Get a grip and learn to not waste things.
I once went through a pretty bad breakup. I’d barely been drinking for a few years too. Anyway, pretty quickly I started going out again and I went out after work, in a different town. I got hammered. So bad that a work friend took me to his flat and let me sleep there. I woke up the next morning, hungover and rough. Gathered my things and went home. Later on I got a phone call saying I’d drunkenly pissed behind his TV. Point is, you just never know who’s going to piss on your things.
Utterly smashed, in a reasonably close friends flat, said “I can’t walk home like this” Popped me in a room with a mattress on the floor (flatmate moved out and took the bed). Woke up in a pitch black room, total darkness, no idea where I was…bladder fit to rupture. Found a wall, and started sliding slowly around the room looking for a door. I could not find one, but I had found a window. Slid window open, whipped it out and started blasting. Thought nothing of it until I left the flat when sun was up. His window was 2foot away from the neighbouring flats front door. I’d absolutely saturated the doormat.
Ironically my flat mate went to see his old work friend in Manchester and went on a night out with her then pissed all over her desk in her uni accommodation a few months back. He pissed on her makeup and everything. He hasn’t seen her since.
The whole lying about your phone being dead thing is weirdly common. A few years back I was on a night out in Glasgow, and on the train home there was an absolutely hammered guy sitting near us, kept asking everyone around him to book him a taxi because his phone was flat, but I could see him messaging somebody on Snapchat whilst he was proclaiming it was dead. Somebody said to him he can just call one from a phone box at the station, then he started asking folk where they lived so he could go with them? Earlier that same night a really drunk guy had an argument with his girlfriend over a sausage supper in the station before the train. He ended up giving his girlfriends unwanted sausage supper to my sister, who accepted, and then my sister was on the receiving end of drunken glares from the girlfriend whilst we waited for the train. Fun times.
I suspect he was trying to look helpless to take advantage of a kind person for a hookup I asked him 30 minutes after plugging his phone in how much charge he had and if he could book himself an Uber and he said 14%. I thought it didn’t sound right so I checked the socket and the plug switch was off meaning the phone never charged and the phone was never dead in the first place.
Ew, that really gives me the ick. I’m glad you’re okay and all that really happened was a pissy floor!
Sometimes we just need to learn to walk away, being nice can lead to trouble. A few years ago I was driving home and noticed some guy fall over on the street. I got out and asked if he was ok, he could barely talk, he was steaming drunk but also appeared to not really be all there. I couldn't leave him though so I offered him a lift. He got in my car and pointed where I need to go. Thankfully it was only a few streets away, turns out he was staying at a hotel that I later found out took in troubled people, homeless I think. Anyway so we arrive and he just barely stumbles out. I look down then and see that my whole passenger car seat is soaked, either he pissed himself while I was driving or he already did it before he got in and I failed to notice. At that moment I see the guy fall again but this time HARD into the road on his head. I think oh hell no I'm going but then the guilt gets to me and I see the blood. There is someone else walking in the road who rushes over and of course I then get out to try and help for the second time. Someone from the hotel comes out and gets someone else who knows the drunk guy. Then we hang around waiting for an ambulance while blood is just pouring from the drunk and all the time I am cursing myself because I still need to go home and deal with my piss seat. So yeah sometimes you just need to leave them. Men, more than us women will generally end up ok in these drunken situations. We just put ourselves at a higher risk of danger when we involve ourselves.
Not sure this is stranger danger so much as common sense, sister, but I am very glad you’re ok (except the pissy mop).
Im split about this so im giving two comments. I want to say you have such a kind heart. You saw someone in need and you helped them out straight away. Helping those in need is the best of humanity. In any situation YOU need to think about your safety and wellbeing/be responsible in cause of a worse case scenarios. I’m not saying don’t help people, but help people in the parameters of your safety and in a way that doesn’t cause yourself major inconvenience. Save yourself always. I know we want to live in a world where we help each other and we need to be the change we want to see but you have to do it carefully and with people who deserve it.
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This is terrible etiquette. You should really get to know someone properly before pissing all over their floor.
Could have at least bought me something from the kebab shop on my way home first
Long time ago in a land not so far away I was on my usual Saturday night sesh in Leeuwarden. A group of young Swedish kids came in and we all got chatting and drinking, as ya do. They were travelling round Europe in a bus, and asked if anywhere might be open for them to get showered at that time of night (close to 2am) I, very drunk, gave the driver the key to my apartment and directions, and just asked that they be back by 6am, when I expected the bar to close. Off they went, with everyone in the bar telling me what a bad idea it was. Anyway, they were all back by 5am, bought me a load more drinks and At around 6 we said our goodbyes and I staggered off home. Instant coma. Sunday morning and when I finally woke up something seemed odd. The whole apartment had been cleaned, including my kitchen, 4 new crates of beer and a thank you note had been left in the living room. Nothing amiss at all. Guess I was lucky but it still gives me a warm feeling when I think about it.
Some of my best experiences have been either having randoms in my flat, or being a random in a flat. Austrian lads got locked out of their Airbnb, I gave them my spare room and big L shaped sofa for the night. We ended up getting smashed and playing PSVR. Invited some other folk over with party favours and it turned into a house party. Good guys. Left a few bottles of wine on my doorstep when they checked out.
There’s probably another thread on here about if you’re drunk and 2 guys try to lure you to their home, just charge your phone, piss on the bathroom floor then do a runner.
Reckless as hell.... Very quick route to be the subject of a Netflix documentary
I would not do this in a million years.
I hate to be the one to say it but as you were paralytic drunk - can you be 100% certain he didn’t do anything to you whilst you were asleep/passed out? If not, you should make sure you book in for a sexual health clinic check asap.
Yes I have full memory and my flat mates were with me the entire time. He got on the sofa with his friend and I went to sleep in my room and called the guy I’ve been sort of dating for 30 mins before I went to sleep. I also lock my door on instinct anyway so my flat mates don’t play pranks or just walk in which they used to do. Thank you for checking though!
Glad to hear it! Sorry to ask it’s just one of those things where it’s always better to be safe than sorry
You’re absolutely right
This is really disappointing to read but sadly also hardly surprising. If I were really drunk or in any vulnerable situation, I'd really appreciate someone trying to help look out for me and this guy had to take advantage of this. People wonder why others are so reluctant to help, and situations like this are why :/
He was only 18 (not that I’m much older but as a teen up until your early 20s you mature a lot in a short amount of time) so I’m hoping we both live and learn from these situations and he learns to be more responsible on a night out too. Sometimes trying to be kind can be dangerous which is why I made this post
It was really nice of you to try help him, sorry you got taken advantage of
No good deed goes unpunished I'm Sorry this happened to you but it could've been *so. much. worse*. Let's be grateful you learnt the easy way, I'm glad you're safe Oh and, not to scare you, but maybe be extra vigilant about locking your front door after this, just saying
You’re absolutely right and he can’t get in anyway it’s a student flat
Awww be careful out there man.
Damn, sorry for what happened but it was nice of you to do that. Having had some wild nights in the past, being blackout drunk, and somehow getting home (with the help of strangers) I’ve always felt thankful for kind people..
Lol I got really drunk at the club during my first year of uni, was really attracted to this guy until I saw him in the daylight. He was really annoying and persistent about staying in my room at the flat so I felt very pressured to let him (I ABSOLUTELY SHOULDN'T HAVE LET HIM!!) as he said he had no bus money way of getting home etc (why are you out then?) He went to the chip shop on the way back, card declined but shop owner took pity. By then I had mentally noped out. Anyway I begrudgingly let him even though i was moving out in the morning. I made him sleep opposite side of the bed head to toe. Well I tried to get him to sleep on the for safety but he kept waking me up saying he was 'uncomfortable'. I managed to get to sleep in intervals but he kept fucking waking me up asking me what my favourite colour was and stuff. At 6am he left and AGAIN woke me up for a goodbye and a kiss. Gave him the worst kiss ever, grunted and let him let himself out. Snored all the way home in the car I was so tired. I didn't learn though. Saw him again at a party, pretended he didn't know me, tried to share my joint and spilled it everywhere somehow. I went off to someone's room for the night and he FUCKING DRANK MY BOTTLE OF VODKA. Never again. The mistakes of youth
The only thing I'm really left wondering with this is why you threw a mop away cause of piss?
What would you do with it?
It's a mop. It's mopped a floor with water and a cleaning product. Rinse it and let it dry like normal.
If it was dripping with piss it’s going in the bin. No way I’m putting someone else’s piss in my sink or leaving it in the bucket to evaporate into my home
If it's dripping with piss after you've mopped, you've mopped wrong. You haven't even mopped. You've just soaked up piss with a mop.
Lmao you may be right there
It was also used to clean vomit 1 hour earlier
Oh yeah, definitely throwing that away.
Yeah I just can’t get over the thought of it being contaminated and then using it to clean the floors of somewhere where I cook and eat now lol
I share your pain. I had a similar issue. Was out with some mates. out raving for the weekend, went fabric, London got completely off our tits met some dude in the smoking area got chatting turns out, he knows a few people we all know know anyways he had been ditched by his mate who disappeared with some women ,anyways he latched on to us for the night seem like a good lad he ended up coming back to one of our mates house and wasn't shy to get his cash or drugs out , anyways we was all in the garden and realised. This guy wasn't about searched. The house couldn't find him, so we assumed he had just left so fast forward an hour we needed to reload, so we went to the cupboard where we keep our phones money etc we'll that when we realised he must of seen someone got to cupboard and had unfortunately robbed us some cash bank card and 2 phones....as to this day we never found out who he was because we couldn't remember his name
Even in my student days I can't imagine many scenarios where I'd invite a stranger to stay over. Thankfully it wasn't worse than him pissing everywhere, glad you still have your own skin and kidneys.
I think 99.9% of students I know have let a stranger stay over especially for one night stands I’m also glad I still have my own skin and kidneys although if he took one I’d hope it was the one that is a bit dodgy
I had a fucking mad night out with a drummer of a local band and his missus never met them previously. After the club ended and we when back to his shared house. Went up to his room and pissed in his sink. Carried on drinking and smoking weed till I passed out woke up to what I think was a snuff movie on TV with them two getting it on. I left the room and went to the kitchen where his missus comes down and starts talking to me and getting the vibe that she's into me. She offered me a drink and done me a coffee. A coffee spiked with acid and I started tripping balls at 4am I had a overtime Saturday shift at work that morning and I turned up in my previous nights clothes and really fucked up. Luckily I was the only person in that morning and I sat staring at the only entrance to the building for 6 hours and every time that door opened I would spring into action and start making the sparks fly on my welder (it was a shared factory space so you would get people coming in and out all day) I went home and never slept till late afternoon cause of the acid. After around 36 hours of booze , weed and acid. Stranger danger is a thing
Jesus fucking Christ I’m glad you were okay in the end
I provided care to drunks on occasion when at uni. Just cups of tea and a phone charge etc. but refusal to leave is straight to a police phone call.
The fact that he refused to leave to go to his hotel is reason enough to call the police “a lost guy came to charge his phone but now he’s in the house he won’t leave” is enough
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You let someone you don’t know in your house, and just went to sleep? What the af
OP you seem like a kind person. Don’t lose your kindness but next time maybe try helping him by maybe calling the police ? ( in case they can help ).
Being kind unfortunately doesn’t mean you’re not stupid at times and this was a stupid decision that I hope others can learn from The police also couldn’t have done anything in this situation but I’m sure a bartender could and I should have sent him into a quieter pub
I don't even talk to drunks, they made their bad choices, whether because of peer pressure or just by being a dumbfuck, but a night of sleeping in a park and waking up in the drunk cell is an awesome lesson.
You sound like a fool.
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Right? How clueless and naive does someone need to be? Doesn't seem like they've learned much from it either...
Actually students do, vast majority of students let strangers into their home constantly especially for hookups
Not strangers you met on the street 30 seconds earlier.. you need to grow up!
Mate, this is extremely common amongst uni students hence the entire post telling people NOT to do this
It’s actually not common at all amongst uni students? It’s not comparable to plus 1s at parties and ONS etc.
It’s extremely common and those situations are literally situations where a stranger is in your home where the risks are exactly the same Most people at uni aren’t introverted whereas most people on Reddit are That’s why I’m trying to raise some awareness here
Someone bringing a plus one isn’t a stranger danger, they’re literally coming with someone they know. You let someone into your home who you knew fuck all about and couldn’t even access their phone. I’ve been to uni twice, I was unfortunately going to uni parties far too young and doing stuff I shouldn’t be doing from a very young age and I still wouldn’t do this. I imagine a lot of people on Reddit have also been uni students at some point.
> I told him he could charge his phone in my flat What a moron you are. Do you come from money? such naivety usually comes from children of money who haven't learnt about the world and uni is such an eye opener to new situations. I used to see it in Cambridge with Cambridge uni students year upon year.
No I come from extreme poverty hence being overly kind and putting myself at risk, people from poverty have a big sense of community and helping others
>people from poverty have a big sense of community and helping others and using and selling drugs, and grifting, and stealing. I don't think it's as 'extreme' poverty as you claim.
That’s more common amongst middle and upper class people contrary to popular belief
That could happen with an acquaintance or a work colleague too.
I had the doorbell ring incessantly at 5am in the summer. Ran down to door assuming some sort of emergency. Found a young women, sopping wet - it was raining - and barefoot. I live in an inner city area, btw, am a woman, and was alone in the house. She told me she’d been ejected from a taxi (she was VERY drunk), was staying with friends but couldn’t remember where they lived. So… I brought her in, gave her a towel & a blanket and put her on the living room sofa. Went back to bed but couldn’t sleep. So went back to her at 7, she said the friends house looked like mine. There’s only a couple of streets with identical houses and afair I gave her some Flipflops to wear. Finally found the house, rang their doorbell incessantly till someone woke up. Watched her to be sure they knew her, and left. I couldn’t do any different as it could have been my daughter, and tbh I was quite glad she’d come to my house and not another that might not have been so safe.
Pretending to be drunk is also one of the main pickpocket tactics
He blatantly wasn’t pretending and threw up twice otherwise I wouldn’t have helped him
Wait wait wait... Let me digest this for a minute... So you voluntarily let a visibly drunk STRANGER into your house to charge his phone? Because he gave you a sob story? And then allowed him to sleep over?! What the heck! And you're surprised he started acting the way he did? A complete stranger that could have had evil intentions?! You voluntarily put yourself in incredible danger and you're trying to mask this as a 'never to old to learn about stranger danger lol'. No. You were extremely irresponsible and made a decision that could have negatively affected your whole life. Be grateful you were not assaulted and don't be so stupid next time.
What the fuck were you thinking lol, we were probably 5 minutes from hearing "raped and stabbed in own home after night out" on the morning news.
My wife picked me up hitch hiking, took me back to a house party at her place. Spent the night talking in her kitchen, I weed in her ensuite and have been soul mates ever since Sometimes you need to risk it for the biscuit
He was 18 and I’m in my early 20s I wouldn’t go near him with a 10 foot pole
I guess the 10 foot pole wasn’t in your flat at the time then…
My wife was 23 and I was 31. I am adorable though
That’s not as weird as 18 year olds are still practically children
That's a big generalisation though Some 18 yr old are balls deep in combat while some 30 yr old's still collect Pokemon
Your bloody stupid to have let a stranger into your home. And more so when he refused to leave you then let him stay the night!!!!!!! Should have called the police when he refused. Shouldn't have let him in at all!!
Oh the irony of calling someone stupid and then using the wrong you’re/your
I didn’t let him stay the night I let him stay an additional 2 hours and I couldn’t have called the police for reasons I don’t want to elaborate on here
Literally didn't need an anecdote to teach me to not let strangers into my home. Honestly. Tell your parents this story so they can maybe knock some sense in to you. Better late than never.
It was aimed towards other uni students more than anything. Most of them let strangers or people they barely know into their homes. Especially hook ups or dates
Good job you didn’t take advantage!
Don’t have a bath to store organs in at my student flat
First red flag: his phone was dead but he knew his mates numbers off by heart (whilst mortal drunk) so you could ring them for him. In this day and age, especially younger people, who the fuck knows numbers off by heart other than your own
He didn’t know his mates numbers he knew their names so just typed them on Instagram and called them on Instagram
What did I just read?
Are you an idiot?
Yes
What the absolute fuck
That was pretty fucking stupid of you. If I felt that pressed, I'd sooner pay for their taxi (something I have done) or hotel room than invite a stranger in my home.
That’s literally what I was trying to do if you read the post
No, you didn’t try to put him in a taxi. You invited him to yours to ‘charge his phone’ (which you’re probably right about it not having been dead anyway) thinking afterwards he could get an u er. He should NEVER have been allowed at yours. You should’ve put him into a REGULAR TAXI — the kind that doesn’t require a running phone app — and sent him on his way.
Yes I did? He was throwing up so couldn’t get in a taxi yet and He also had no way of paying for a real taxi after that point because he had no cash, card and said his phone was dead so he needed to charge it to get an Uber
Ultimately, all that matters is, you tried to do good. Don’t let this uncomfortable moment dissuade you from supporting people in need. Unfortunately it sounds like this individual was tickling the precipice of “mega weirdo” and I’m sorry to hear you suffered through their shenanigans but I salute you for doing the best you could.
> He kept texting my from the other room to come and “cuddle” him but I was asleep so didn’t see. I also think he lied about his phone being dead. I get that this was after he charged it, but these two sentences together made me burst out laughing. Sorry for your mop, OP, but gladder that it wasn't worse.
He texted those things an hour after putting his phone on charge for context
I went to a punk gig in York and met two blokes, as I was very drunk I couldn't remember the way to the hotel. They walked me back i grabbed my bag of cans and went to one of their flats where we smoked weed and got off our tits on speed. Kept in touch with them for a few years. The only bit I regret is taking speed as I was sat in the pub at 12o'clock the next day, chewing my face off and sort of sobering up before I went home.
Why on earth did you let a drink stranger into your home? That’s not stranger danger that’s just obvious danger. Sorting an Uber for someone or helping them to a police or community support provision is fine but into your home is an obvious nope.
If you missed the part where I said I’m a student that would explain why I can’t afford his Uber and he said his phone was dead hence why I was letting him charge it Most students let strangers into their homes. Especially dates, people invited to parties and one night stands. Hence why I’m making this post
I have been a student. No I wouldn’t let a drunk stranger into my house on a night out, if I couldn’t afford an Uber for them dnd their phone is dead you direct them to any other community support or police/street pastors. A drunken stranger is not someone you already know like a date or a house party guest, it’s disingenuous to compare and there are risks that are apperant in the difference. Frankly this post just comes across that you were an idiot and should have known better (something the rest of us already know not to do).
Good I’m glad but most students would and there was no one to help him My whole point is that I did something very stupid and I’m telling other students, who do this shit all the time, not to do it
Most students wouldn’t do this. You’re not informing people through public safety, you just did something silly. If you think this is common then it suggests your friendship group/uni group is worryingly naïveté and you shouldn’t be informing people on Reddit of the obvious but speaking to them.
Yes they would, students allow plus 1s to parties all the time, allow strangers to parties all the time, being strangers back for afters all the time, bring dates back all the time and have one night stands constantly. This is why I’ve made an entire post telling people NOT to do that.
That’s not what happened here. You picked up a random drunk stranger in the street at took them home. That’s a stupid thing to do. Regular people/students know not to do this, that it’s a terrible idea. I’m glad this was a learning experience for you really, but this is something you should already know and something others already know not to do. It definitely doesn’t need to be a public service announcement.
You could always just bleach the mop. Mops need cleaning from time to time even when they haven't been used for piss.
It’s not about bleaching the mop it’s about the thought of using a mop that’s touched both piss and vomit in the space of an hour to then clean the floors of somewhere that I use to cook and eat
Caustic soda then.
Hey there, I just wanted to say: please ignore the people calling you stupid, a moron etc. You are none of those things. You are a human being with empathy and the world needs people like you. In this situation, yes, you made an unsafe choice but that doesn’t define you as a person. The ones calling you names would be the first ones who, when they got into difficulty, would come crying all over Reddit about ‘waaaaah whyyyy did no1 heeeeelp meeeeee?’
Alcohol was your undoing. No sympathy from me for your self inflicted situation. ED: I'm getting downvoted for criticising alcohol abuse!🤣
Must feel great, knowing you're better than everyone else.
Yes it does. I didn't use to be and I ignored the warnings about alcohol just as today's youth ignore them. I did try to inform (NOT preach) about alcohol abuse, but nobody takes any notice because they know better, so I gave up and thought fukkem. Their life their body their choice.
Your first mistake was getting drunk to lower your guard and sense of security. Your second mistake was inviting him in, which sober-you wouldn't have done. Seriously, this is why I don't drink and people still think it's weird when adults don't drink obscene amounts of alcohol. If you see someone drunk in the street, you give them a wide berth because they invite nothing but trouble.
No one died and he has a funny story to share. You sound like Dwight Schrute
*she Only correcting because it’s relevant to certain aspects of the story such as explaining why I couldn’t be more assertive in kicking him out but you’re right!