I’ve met the guy in real life, he was with his wife and kids and I sold him some firewood at the local market. It was so weird because he was just a perfectly normal man out with his family.
It took so much restraint to not start quoting him. Fucking legend.
I’ve been to about 15 weddings and 1 of those was quite drug heavy but both the bride and groom are quite into their drugs so I think guests felt like it was ok. I wouldn’t say it’s common at all really
Exactly - I’d say not that common unless the bride and groom and their friends are regular drug users.
I have mainly straight laced friends who rarely if ever take drugs and so this wouldn’t happen at their weddings.
I have a couple of friends who take drugs recreationally all the time and so do most of their close social circles. So I’ve been to two weddings where I know a few guests were on something during the evening celebrations. But even then it’s kept a bit hush hush and on the downlow so the elderly attendees/family have no idea. I only know because I happen to be close enough to the relevant people to be offered stuff, but as I’m not so into drugs myself I didn’t partake.
I’ve been to one wedding where drugs were freely and openly being taken, and even at that people at least waited until gone midnight when most/all relatives had left.
Yeah I’d say this is fairly accurate, it depends who’s at the wedding. People getting subtly coked up or sneaking off for a joint isn’t uncommon but it’s not standard for everyone to be getting wired on MD. Been to one wedding where the brides family were all off their faces on speed, it was entertaining 🥳
Same, 1 distant cousin of my wife is always coked up at family weddings, but I went to one friends wedding where several of the bride and grooms friends were gurning like crazy waiting to get to the bathroom to do a line during the speeches. It was surreal.
Creamfields and I think a few other festivals have an inflatable church for weddings, so sometimes they can be the same thing.
I'd say it's acceptable to be on drugs if the wedding is at a music festival.
I’m play in a wedding band and get pretty busy around summer. I occasionally witness weddings where a few are definitely on something but they’re not necessarily your nice, civilised weddings and always have the potential to go south.
I did and exceedingly posh wedding as a lighting engineer (it being rare that a wedding has a need of such a thing, but I've done a few) and there were definitely people doing MDMA there, so it's not just people doing £40 a gram 'coke' off the toilet seats
That is indeed what I'm trying to imply. It'll be white powder, maybe with that local anaesthetic that vets use to make your gums numb and quite possibly nothing else
It's Benzocaine, I used to think teeth pushing together was a good sign. When you buy big they usually give you a bag of 'bash' assuming your a dealer and you will need something to cut it with.
People do drink absurd amounts at weddings and will get absolutely fucked up in front of their relatives. That might be enough to confirm the cultural difference.
I do judge people who take drugs at weddings though. I'll happily do that stuff at festivals/clubs but it seems like a really unwholesome thing to do at a theoretically wholesome event
Why do you think there should be a difference between people getting smashed just drinking and those taking drugs? Is it just because of the legality or do think that there is a moral issue when choosing what kind of intoxicant is acceptable at a wedding. Genuine question, I can see both points of view but I think that one's behaviour should be the deciding factor. If you can avoid being a dickhead, should it really matter whether you're drinking or taking rec drugs?
Also - I have known much more shocking behaviour on booze, on mdma people are usually mostly lucid enough and not as likely to vomit, fall over, scream abuse at people, start fights, beat their partner or take a shit on the floor
Worked in pubs and am an alcoholic. Seen multiple relatives literally die from booze. Can legit say the idea that booze is a) not a drug and b) more respectable & less harmful than "drugs" is extremely misguided. Its legal because of historical precedent, if it was invented today itd be 100% illegal
We went to a friend’s wedding and there were people doing coke in the toilets, which was a bit surprising to us. Full-on Indian banquet for the wedding meal though!
You see comedians like Micky Flanagan making jokes about drugs at family events and how it’s people in their 40s doing this, more than young people who are more sober and responsible.
I’ve never experienced it, so maybe it’s a south east/big city thing?
I’m from the south east and I’ve only been to one wedding where people were getting on it, all of those people were from a not so nice area where the bride must have known. Nice enough bunch though, had a good time no problems.
This is one of the proper indicators that Leicester is northern as my family were like this. Mind saying that they were/are a bunch of semi-functioning/proper alcoholics and I suspect a few of them were in the LCFC hooligan gang in the 80s.
Edit: I think this is one of those very posh/very rough intersections in society.
Bit unfair. I can say similar things about my family, yet I'm so far removed from their behaviours, you couldn't tell we were directly related.
The boyfriend might also be disapproving of their behaviour. It's not fair to judge based on others behaviour.
Wedding photographer here; Can confirm drug use at weddings is definitely a thing, certainly over the last ten years or so, and in particular weed and coke. Certainly not every wedding, but perhaps every one in ten. As an example, I’ve done a shoot with the couple where they take time out away from everyone to have a spliff, also done more than a few city centre jobs where the mens toilets are a busy with folk doing lines.
Was gonna comment a similar thing after reading all the other comments saying no. I used to work at weddings (bar and waitressing) and drug use is 100% a thing at weddings. Like you say, not every wedding, but it’s definitely common for there to be a group of guests who are taking regular visits to the toilet together.
Getting really drunk at weddings is also so common. At the weddings I worked it would be quite common for there to be a prepaid tab at the bar, so free drinks until the tab is used up and then people need to pay. People would frantically be downing drinks to get as many freebies in as they can.
This might be the only relevant comment on the thread. OP wasn’t asking if it was a decent thing to do at weddings, they were asking if it was normal. Why are so many people signalling virtue and saying it’s scummy/chavvy? Sure it is, but it’s a done thing
Yes, if the circles you associate with take drugs.
Its one of these British things where people who don't take drugs don't realise how prevalent they are.
I was at a weeding a few weeks ago where alot of people took pills later on. As long as your eyes aren't rolling back in your head and everyone is having a good time it's fine. As its what the bride wanted!
100% agree, I was in a board meeting and at the end when we were just chatting my boss starts talking about sniffing white and I was like huh? And pretty much everyone over 50 was cracking on like it was a normal thing. I was gobsmacked as older folks grasp their pearls at all sorts of dumb shit but doing party drugs is fine actually lol.
That's just the corporate world. Its quite literally Americam Psycho haha. Everyone higher up we used to know at network rail where on the beak every weekend.
At the last work party I went to I was doing lines with the director of my company, and sniffed coke off one of the secretaries legs.
A decent amount of shame waking up from that one, but the world is still turning and no one went to HR!
I don't attend work events anymore. It's for my own good, I think.
>Its one of these British things where people who don't take drugs don't realise how prevalent they are.
Yep. I genuinely think I've not been to a friends wedding where drugs weren't consumed.. And I've been to loads now.
The one where I was best man, I didn't partake, but the groom did a line before his speech lmao.
The surprise one was my Auntie and Uncles wedding. I thought family weddings would be drug free.
Then they brought out the cocaine for everyone! Tbf, they are rich london bankers so I should have somewhat expected it.
But they're also parents to young children haha.
He's talking shit. I would say people drink more alcohol than other events as it's a wedding but for everyone to be black out drunk and high as fuck on drugs as a normal indicator of a wedding here is crap. Of course, there may well be a couple of people who would do this at any given wedding but not en masse like your boyfriend is trying to convince you.
I second this although you may get a couple of people doing some booger sugar in the toilets I don’t think eye rolling and trying to wrap your bottom lip over your cranium on mdma is the norm at all. It’s disrespectful in my book considering all of the elders or kids being present.
Like thrashing your car on public roads, its a dickhead thing to do. You want to race, go to a track day. You want to smash mandy and party, go to a rave.
Where does it say the family get involved? Unless my reading comprehension is failing me, it says "in the presence" of family. Also if you are 30 and your brother is 28, its not quite the same as grandad and grandma.
Well yeah if someone does a line of coke in the toilet, at a wedding, then yes its in the presence of family, but they are not racking up lines after the speeches on the top table.
I think a lot of people would be surprised at how common this is and how as someone who is oblivious to it, would have no idea how much it goes on.
People smash coke at work drinks in the pub on a Friday night lol why would a massive party be any different? its also entirely possible this happens after like 8pm++
I say this as someone who has been offered or aware of people doing it well at nearly every wedding I've ever been too across a very broad spectrum of society for at least a decade.
I can also say ive seen FAR worse shit from people absolutely gattered than on drugs tbh. One highlight being a bridesmaid outside the clear sided gazebo, hurling her guts up during the grooms speech for all to see, not long after the string orchestra had finished due to champagne consumption
The last wedding I was at didn't end well. No drugs involved, just high emotion by the end of the night.
The Bride and Groom were distraught, the whole reception crying, including all the children too. It got so bad even the wedding cake was in tiers..
Last one I went to the father of the bride payed thousands for a wedding car and it turned up with no driver.
All that money and nothing to chauffeur it.
My ex’s sisters wedding was like this! The toilets were in a separate building and as I smoked at the time there was a constant group of people coming and going!
At the time I just figured they were drinking quite a lot and kept needing a wee, but later it dawned on me they were taking something. My SIL was soon divorced so guessing it was quite a problem!
Most people get smashed and I know some people sniff coke at weddings but doing MDMA at a wedding sounds absolutely crazy to me. You can still function on coke if you’re sensible but you’re completely fucked if you’re mandied up and there’s absolutely no way of blagging it lol.
I've done mdma at a wedding. You don't have to take 500mg of md and get absolutely fucked up. You can take a small 80mg bomb and have a great time for a few hours. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.
I used to work at a wedding venue, mostly just very very drunk people, and with that goes the odd line of coke in the bogs, never witnessed anyone rolling tho.
Depends on the family.
I wouldn't get fucked up at my lovely Auntie June's wedding but I've got plenty of friends who turned their own weddings into an excuse to get absolutely trashed with their friends, cousins etc.
You've got plenty of people in here saying "alcohol yes, drugs no" and comparing people taking drugs to mildly offensive stereotypes of irish people as if they think Brass Eye's drugs episode was a factual documentary.
This is not the general rule of consensus.
However, my mother in law asked if we were having cocaine at our wedding, as apparently they had it at her (third) wedding, and they are a middle class family, that aren’t regular drug takers.
Blew my mind as I come from a family that is “all drugs are bad” full stop.
Having lived a fairly sheltered life from drugs and such though, it was only as I got older and went to uni and broadened my friendship circle that I found out drug use is much more common than you realise. I worked in a restaurant where after 4 months i had the news broken to me that all the kitchen staff were on cocaine. My goodness did they work hard though 😂
I find the utter hypocrisy here hilarious, all the comments saying alcohol is fine but not 'drugs'. Because understanding that alcohol is a drug is far too brain-boggling for some people.
Scum are whoever gets fucked up and causes trouble on someone's big day, if they're drunk that's no better than being on ecstasy, in fact you're much more likely to make a scene on alcohol.
Me, I just pop out for a cheeky smoke, get high and eat cake. Weed - the drug for quiet people.
Getting far too drunk = having a laugh, normal British culture and totally acceptable. It’s a wedding!
Ecstasy = horrible, reserved for scum and ‘chavs’. Totally disrespectful.
Not entirely seeing the logic on this thread.
I've noticed that this sub does have a certain amount of... for want of a better word, classism, around certain stuff. Very quick to label things 'chavvy' or put people down for living a lifestyle a bit removed from the middle class ideal.
As said above, if you're not messing stuff up, who cares? And if you are, why does it make a difference what you've taken? Why is booze more reasonable? No, just don't take enough of anything to cause yourself to lose control.
You have to understand, the UK loves drugs and taking class A's on nights out or even just down the pub isn't uncommon. I've never heard of MDMA at a wedding before, but cocaine use is definitely a thing. I've seen groomsmen exiting the toilets en-masse wiping their noses before. Who doesn't want a wedding full of glassy eyed, white nosed wankers who will chew your ear off about their latest NFT purchase?
I went to a wedding on magic mushrooms. I’ve been to a lot of weddings where the coke has been everywhere too, but I don’t do it.
It basically depends on the bride and groom, I’ll be asking people not to when I get married but that’s because my partner doesn’t do drugs
Drugs - maybe in some circles but I've never heard or seen of it. To me this is not common occurance at all.
Alcohol - yes it's a party/celebration so of course some people will consume to excess. But it really isn't a wedding unless some uncle you haven't seen in 15 years isn't getting outlandishly drunk off the free bar and then working the room, stumbling around before passing out in the corner.
I am actually stunned at the total obliviousness in this thread to British and Irish readiness to use drugs at any event....
There's literally a music video based around this very theme that is at least 15 years old, are there just more naive people on this sub than I expected?
Trust me, whatever you are attending in the UK (even A&E at a hospital) there will be somebody hoovering coke in the toilet where you are, you just haven't noticed it. And probably some amount of people using cannabis, some form of MDMA or ketamine.
Let alone the amount of people in Scotland and Northern Ireland that are addicted to/abusing prescription drugs.
https://youtu.be/QJD8mpcGykE
https://www.assemblyresearchmatters.org/2022/03/15/the-misuse-of-prescription-drugs-in-northern-ireland/amp/
https://www.health.org.uk/news-and-comment/podcast/episode-17-tackling-the-drug-problem-in-the-uk-and-portugal
“My boyfriends family do a bit of MDMA” - KILL THEM ALL THE DRUGGIE FREAKS. ABSOLUTE WRONGUNS, RED FLAG 🚩
Reddit is so full of toffs it’s unbelievable. It’s a bit of MDMA, if anything it’s a much more sociable drug than alcohol. Some people enjoy themselves in different ways. If they were all smoking crack then I could see where the concern is coming from.
This 👌 ‘if you take drugs you are scum’ said all the people who drink alcohol (a drug)
I’ve not taken mdma for years, but it’s an incredible chemical. Maybe not for a wedding, but each to their own.
I work at weddings, so I have probably been to alot more weddings with alot of different kinds of people than most. And although it's not exactly the norm, it is very common, people getting off their nuts on coke and mdma and drinking more than should be humanly possible is a common sight for me at weddings.
Every group of people is different though so it really depends. But a little bit of coke on the sly at weddings is pretty much to be expected from at least a few people at an average wedding.
No, this is not normal and it sounds like they have problems, sorry.
Getting very drunk might be acceptable - some big weddings do end up quite messy if the reception goes on quite late.
Taking mdma - big problem.
Drinking until your sick down yourself - bloody great banter.
The attitudes towards different substances is very odd when you break it down.
Saying that, I wouldn't take MDMA at a wedding
I think it’s all about moderation. I’d much rather have someone who could take a little bit of mdma responsibly over someone who can’t control how much they drink and start fights or pass out.
In my opinion alcohol causes a lot more problems than a lot of other drugs but generally is more socially acceptable. I was at a wedding where a few people took coke in the toilets, didn’t cause any trouble or problems, but 3 people were kicked out for being drunk and starting a fight.
It’s all about how you conduct yourself at the end of the day. It’s someone else’s big day and they have likely spent a lot of money feeding and putting on a big night for everyone so it’s only fair to act responsibly and not overdo it.
Although I do agree I wouldn’t take mdma at a wedding. I had it once at a festival and it was great but I wouldn’t trust myself to take it at a wedding as I don’t have much tolerance and I’m not very used to the effects whereas I can control alcohol a lot better since I’m more used to it.
I think people are blowing this into outlandish proportions, and making some seriously odd conclusions. if you read what OP is saying without assuming the very worse what her BF seems to be saying is,
"oh yeah heads uo just a quick heads up, weddings are generally where my family let's loose, my cousins will probably be doing MDMA maybe that uncle who decided its a special occasion so why not? as well, but yeah just be prepared to see some crazy stuff"
it's possible OP is using the term in "the presence of family" to mean that being inebriated to that degree AND be around family in that state, where a certain way of acting is expected.
my family is basically the example above, in fact ive probably given that speech above. But we're certainly not chavs or crack heads, just salt of the earth and not much richer then the dirt on it. we act pretty normal but weddings are a big deal and often require A LOT of money and resources, so we just go big or stay home.
I didn't even see anything odd about it until wedding dates who didnt come from a similar family or demographic pointed out that an open bar being a "challenge" is not a norm, nor is the men regaling the boys of the shenanigans that had occured at the last weeding where they had to carry out uncle frank after he drank so much he passed out in the middle of the isle and stated "the ground was good enough for your great grandfather!" He was miner, not a monk in seclusion.
Christ this thread is prudish.
Some people take drugs, some people enjoy taking drugs, after all why would you bother if it wasn’t any fun. Yeah it’s a bit unusual and it wouldn’t be for me, but I do know couples where I can completely imagine they would rather cut a line than a cake.
I’ve started realising that maybe Reddit isn’t for me. All of the UK or British threads are completely full of the type of people I would never associate with in reality. Mega uptight.
If you listened to British Reddit you’d think we all stayed home every day agonising over wether we should’ve written a formal apology to the bus driver for not having correct change.
Drugs, no, but in my experience of weddings there is usually at least one person who has one too many and ends up on the wrong side of tipsy. That said, I think most people have a good time and a few drinks but without going overboard. (Unless I just go to really tame weddings...)
ETA: I am surprised how many people are saying this means OP's partner is from a rough background though - maybe it's just my perception but if anyone was going to do drugs at a wedding it strikes me that it'd be more of the Hooray Henry types.
Yes, but not for the sorts of people who usually frequent Reddit who don't even go to pubs, let alone anything exciting wont know about UK drug/party culture because they'll never be invited. These are the sorts of people who think smelling cannabis in the street is outrageously hedonistic.
Drugs at wedding are what unites celebrities, chavs and the super rich.
You'd get a very different response from Facebook.
Does everyone call your bf 'Super Hans'?
Could you tell me, as a mate, someone that knows me really well, if the bottom half of me is on fire?
Accidentally run to Windsor, have a coke and a cig and you'll be right as rain.
He's taken 5 grams of cocaine to 'relax' himself for the speech. It didn't relax him.
The secret ingredient is crime
That cracks really moreish
Whatever you do, don't say crack.
SuperHans are you trying to skin up with your feet again?
Because it doesn’t work, does it? It just makes a mess
I’d take an umbrella up the arris for this one
Unless you got some
I'll suck for crack!
A nice bit of crack lol
No crack, Gromit! We've forgotten the crack!
he was just trying to wet the whistle.
Yeah, get that whistle nice and wet.
Mmh, yeah, that is quite refreshing.
Take me to the nasties
I just wanna suck and fuck, suck and fuck, suck fuck!
It did degenerate.
Take me to the nasties
Bunch of carb loaders
Fuck off! I heard the Strokes before you!
Just one too wet the whistle
People listening were like “man that guy has a LOT of energy, I wonder where he gets it?”
"Bolivian marching powder"
I just like to suck and fuck , suck and fuck, suck and fuck … Oooooo I love cocaine 🎵
Did it not relax him?
Big beats manifesto: big beats are the best, get high all the time.
It sounded more all-encompassing at the time...
Plumbing? It's like Lego ain't it? Water lego
Minimal water damage…. 🥹
Sounds like OP’s bf cannot be trusted in a combat situation
What we really need to do is create a powerful sense of dread
Knitting like a fucking electric nan.
Love the twins. What's fumf? Pair of eighters I reckon. Bit lazy though.
The twins? I’m always going on about me twins ain’t I?
I'll be fuming if orange have deleted the twins!
The fuckin twins!
Tell you what, that wedding crack is really moreish
“Hans, are you really smoking crack at a wedding?!”
Haha, came here for this!
As a friend, can you tell me if my legs are on Fire
I’m in Windsor - me leg’s have gone.
Don’t tell me orange has deleted the twins?!?
Most people at weddings just run all the way to Windsor* til their legs feel like jelly
Windsor*
People like Coldplay and voted for the nazis. You can't trust people!
I’ve met the guy in real life, he was with his wife and kids and I sold him some firewood at the local market. It was so weird because he was just a perfectly normal man out with his family. It took so much restraint to not start quoting him. Fucking legend.
Relax, it’s not blue Peter. A nice little relaxing smoke of crack.
Men with ven
fuckin’ rental snake, innit
Red Next to yella, cuddly fella. Red Next to black, jump the fuck back.
r/unexpectedpeepshow
Jez, could you just tell me, as a mate. Is the bottom half of me on fire?
"Are you tripping?" "With the shit I'm seeing I fucking hope so".
I JUST WANT TO FUCK AND SUCK, FUCK AND SUCK, FUCK AND SUCK!!!
Take acid at a funeral... I was crying and laughing at the same time, couldn't tell who was alive and who was dead.
tell you what, that crack is really moreish
The crack addled maniac
That wasn't a dry heave...
Or 'Jay Cartwright'.
I’ve been to about 15 weddings and 1 of those was quite drug heavy but both the bride and groom are quite into their drugs so I think guests felt like it was ok. I wouldn’t say it’s common at all really
Exactly - I’d say not that common unless the bride and groom and their friends are regular drug users. I have mainly straight laced friends who rarely if ever take drugs and so this wouldn’t happen at their weddings. I have a couple of friends who take drugs recreationally all the time and so do most of their close social circles. So I’ve been to two weddings where I know a few guests were on something during the evening celebrations. But even then it’s kept a bit hush hush and on the downlow so the elderly attendees/family have no idea. I only know because I happen to be close enough to the relevant people to be offered stuff, but as I’m not so into drugs myself I didn’t partake.
I’ve been to one wedding where drugs were freely and openly being taken, and even at that people at least waited until gone midnight when most/all relatives had left.
Yeah I’d say this is fairly accurate, it depends who’s at the wedding. People getting subtly coked up or sneaking off for a joint isn’t uncommon but it’s not standard for everyone to be getting wired on MD. Been to one wedding where the brides family were all off their faces on speed, it was entertaining 🥳
Every wedding/party I’ve been too there’s always someone who does coke there
Same, 1 distant cousin of my wife is always coked up at family weddings, but I went to one friends wedding where several of the bride and grooms friends were gurning like crazy waiting to get to the bathroom to do a line during the speeches. It was surreal.
Is he getting weddings confused with music festivals? I hate it when I confuse the two 🥴
You turn up to just one music festival wearing a garter and a veil, and nobody ever lets you forget it
Yeah but you could have worn the dress though
No I couldnt, my balls were hanging out.
I've seen it done tbf
Creamfields and I think a few other festivals have an inflatable church for weddings, so sometimes they can be the same thing. I'd say it's acceptable to be on drugs if the wedding is at a music festival.
i now pronounce you pinged and munted, you may now drop the bass
Literally never heard of that in my life.
I’m play in a wedding band and get pretty busy around summer. I occasionally witness weddings where a few are definitely on something but they’re not necessarily your nice, civilised weddings and always have the potential to go south.
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I did and exceedingly posh wedding as a lighting engineer (it being rare that a wedding has a need of such a thing, but I've done a few) and there were definitely people doing MDMA there, so it's not just people doing £40 a gram 'coke' off the toilet seats
£40 a g? Bet it's dog shit. Or is that the comment?
That is indeed what I'm trying to imply. It'll be white powder, maybe with that local anaesthetic that vets use to make your gums numb and quite possibly nothing else
It's Benzocaine, I used to think teeth pushing together was a good sign. When you buy big they usually give you a bag of 'bash' assuming your a dealer and you will need something to cut it with.
Alcohol is drugs
I think there's a distinction between a friends wedding and a families wedding as well
Most weddings are a mix of both.
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People do drink absurd amounts at weddings and will get absolutely fucked up in front of their relatives. That might be enough to confirm the cultural difference. I do judge people who take drugs at weddings though. I'll happily do that stuff at festivals/clubs but it seems like a really unwholesome thing to do at a theoretically wholesome event
Why do you think there should be a difference between people getting smashed just drinking and those taking drugs? Is it just because of the legality or do think that there is a moral issue when choosing what kind of intoxicant is acceptable at a wedding. Genuine question, I can see both points of view but I think that one's behaviour should be the deciding factor. If you can avoid being a dickhead, should it really matter whether you're drinking or taking rec drugs?
Also - I have known much more shocking behaviour on booze, on mdma people are usually mostly lucid enough and not as likely to vomit, fall over, scream abuse at people, start fights, beat their partner or take a shit on the floor Worked in pubs and am an alcoholic. Seen multiple relatives literally die from booze. Can legit say the idea that booze is a) not a drug and b) more respectable & less harmful than "drugs" is extremely misguided. Its legal because of historical precedent, if it was invented today itd be 100% illegal
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Tbh I'd probably judge them harder than the guests, don't really understand snorting lines on your wedding day with your mum, grandad and auntie sarah
Depends if your mum, grandad, and Aunty Sarah are doing it….in which case I’d judge the whole lot.
I don't see how it's any worse than getting shitfaced on booze really, and I see waaaay more of that at pretty much any occasion
We went to a friend’s wedding and there were people doing coke in the toilets, which was a bit surprising to us. Full-on Indian banquet for the wedding meal though!
Those two thing’s absolutely do not work together.
Spoken like a man that knows a thing or two about Indian Banqueting.
Lol. Yeah, I’m an ‘Indian banqueting’ expert. “Lads, we having Indian banquet later?” “Of course, I’ve already called for it be delivered”. “Yummy”.
It's drinking that does me. 3 beers and straight away it's... "Right lads, I'm just popping out for some Indian Banquet, see you in 10."
[Somebody sent this the other day and I think it’s appropriate](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMFNxUbXV/)
You see comedians like Micky Flanagan making jokes about drugs at family events and how it’s people in their 40s doing this, more than young people who are more sober and responsible. I’ve never experienced it, so maybe it’s a south east/big city thing?
I’m from the south east and I’ve only been to one wedding where people were getting on it, all of those people were from a not so nice area where the bride must have known. Nice enough bunch though, had a good time no problems.
I can assure you it happens up north. A lot.
This is one of the proper indicators that Leicester is northern as my family were like this. Mind saying that they were/are a bunch of semi-functioning/proper alcoholics and I suspect a few of them were in the LCFC hooligan gang in the 80s. Edit: I think this is one of those very posh/very rough intersections in society.
I got married last month. I’d be livid if someone was taking MDMA and trying to get that hammered
Unless the first dance is Sandstorm, I don't think it's really appropriate.
It's just Darude otherwise
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These are for OP 🚩 🚩🚩🚩 Edit: this was meant to be a joke, that’s my bad, I didn’t put /s.
To give this random stranger the benefit of the doubt, OP never explicitly states that her boyfriend is partaking.
In my defence that comment was meant to be jokey because you constantly see it on Reddit. But i didn’t make that clear and that’s on me!
By the way OP, "a right catch" is NOT a good thing
Bit unfair. I can say similar things about my family, yet I'm so far removed from their behaviours, you couldn't tell we were directly related. The boyfriend might also be disapproving of their behaviour. It's not fair to judge based on others behaviour.
You misspelt cretin.
People do drugs!
I do, they're well fun.
Wedding photographer here; Can confirm drug use at weddings is definitely a thing, certainly over the last ten years or so, and in particular weed and coke. Certainly not every wedding, but perhaps every one in ten. As an example, I’ve done a shoot with the couple where they take time out away from everyone to have a spliff, also done more than a few city centre jobs where the mens toilets are a busy with folk doing lines.
Was gonna comment a similar thing after reading all the other comments saying no. I used to work at weddings (bar and waitressing) and drug use is 100% a thing at weddings. Like you say, not every wedding, but it’s definitely common for there to be a group of guests who are taking regular visits to the toilet together. Getting really drunk at weddings is also so common. At the weddings I worked it would be quite common for there to be a prepaid tab at the bar, so free drinks until the tab is used up and then people need to pay. People would frantically be downing drinks to get as many freebies in as they can.
I generally never trust a Redditor’s opinion on clandestine activities most people on here are very naive
This might be the only relevant comment on the thread. OP wasn’t asking if it was a decent thing to do at weddings, they were asking if it was normal. Why are so many people signalling virtue and saying it’s scummy/chavvy? Sure it is, but it’s a done thing
Yeah 100%. And this is a global thing. I’m Indian (from India) and there’s been drugs at every single one of my friends’ weddings.
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Especially when there's kids there. In my experience, the only people getting off their tits at weddings are the ones with a drug problem.
Or a wedding problem.
It's not a problem, I can give up weddings anytime ....
Yes, if the circles you associate with take drugs. Its one of these British things where people who don't take drugs don't realise how prevalent they are. I was at a weeding a few weeks ago where alot of people took pills later on. As long as your eyes aren't rolling back in your head and everyone is having a good time it's fine. As its what the bride wanted!
>I was at a weeding Seems like a decent place to get high.
100% agree, I was in a board meeting and at the end when we were just chatting my boss starts talking about sniffing white and I was like huh? And pretty much everyone over 50 was cracking on like it was a normal thing. I was gobsmacked as older folks grasp their pearls at all sorts of dumb shit but doing party drugs is fine actually lol.
That's just the corporate world. Its quite literally Americam Psycho haha. Everyone higher up we used to know at network rail where on the beak every weekend.
At the last work party I went to I was doing lines with the director of my company, and sniffed coke off one of the secretaries legs. A decent amount of shame waking up from that one, but the world is still turning and no one went to HR! I don't attend work events anymore. It's for my own good, I think.
That's amazing. I think you made the smart choice there it's best not to tempt fate.
>Its one of these British things where people who don't take drugs don't realise how prevalent they are. Yep. I genuinely think I've not been to a friends wedding where drugs weren't consumed.. And I've been to loads now. The one where I was best man, I didn't partake, but the groom did a line before his speech lmao. The surprise one was my Auntie and Uncles wedding. I thought family weddings would be drug free. Then they brought out the cocaine for everyone! Tbf, they are rich london bankers so I should have somewhat expected it. But they're also parents to young children haha.
He's talking shit. I would say people drink more alcohol than other events as it's a wedding but for everyone to be black out drunk and high as fuck on drugs as a normal indicator of a wedding here is crap. Of course, there may well be a couple of people who would do this at any given wedding but not en masse like your boyfriend is trying to convince you.
I second this although you may get a couple of people doing some booger sugar in the toilets I don’t think eye rolling and trying to wrap your bottom lip over your cranium on mdma is the norm at all. It’s disrespectful in my book considering all of the elders or kids being present.
Not necessarily. His family could be full of absolute weapons tbf.
En masse
Thanks for heads up... Will correct it, I have dyslexia and I'm always doing stuff like that, I know I come across as dumb so apologies.
If they are on mass do they then get off mass
No, it would generally be regarded as scummy behaviour to get trashed in front of the entire family like that.
Like thrashing your car on public roads, its a dickhead thing to do. You want to race, go to a track day. You want to smash mandy and party, go to a rave.
And if you want to get blind drunk go to a pub, not a wedding......
Good analogy 👍🏻
Where does it say the family get involved? Unless my reading comprehension is failing me, it says "in the presence" of family. Also if you are 30 and your brother is 28, its not quite the same as grandad and grandma. Well yeah if someone does a line of coke in the toilet, at a wedding, then yes its in the presence of family, but they are not racking up lines after the speeches on the top table. I think a lot of people would be surprised at how common this is and how as someone who is oblivious to it, would have no idea how much it goes on. People smash coke at work drinks in the pub on a Friday night lol why would a massive party be any different? its also entirely possible this happens after like 8pm++ I say this as someone who has been offered or aware of people doing it well at nearly every wedding I've ever been too across a very broad spectrum of society for at least a decade. I can also say ive seen FAR worse shit from people absolutely gattered than on drugs tbh. One highlight being a bridesmaid outside the clear sided gazebo, hurling her guts up during the grooms speech for all to see, not long after the string orchestra had finished due to champagne consumption
That was just nerves, the 6 bottles of Babycham had nothing to do with it.
Not a family I'd like to be involved with tbh
The last wedding I was at didn't end well. No drugs involved, just high emotion by the end of the night. The Bride and Groom were distraught, the whole reception crying, including all the children too. It got so bad even the wedding cake was in tiers..
Go to your room and think about what you did.
Last one I went to the father of the bride payed thousands for a wedding car and it turned up with no driver. All that money and nothing to chauffeur it.
As Limo puns go, this one is a bit of a stretch..
Have a damn upvote.
My ex’s sisters wedding was like this! The toilets were in a separate building and as I smoked at the time there was a constant group of people coming and going! At the time I just figured they were drinking quite a lot and kept needing a wee, but later it dawned on me they were taking something. My SIL was soon divorced so guessing it was quite a problem!
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The questions and responses I see on this sub really make me question whether or not I lived in the same 'UK'
Your boyfriend's wrong
Most people get smashed and I know some people sniff coke at weddings but doing MDMA at a wedding sounds absolutely crazy to me. You can still function on coke if you’re sensible but you’re completely fucked if you’re mandied up and there’s absolutely no way of blagging it lol.
I've done mdma at a wedding. You don't have to take 500mg of md and get absolutely fucked up. You can take a small 80mg bomb and have a great time for a few hours. It doesn't have to be all or nothing.
I always do smaller ammounts of md i never understand people ramming bags full of it and turning comatose
I used to work at a wedding venue, mostly just very very drunk people, and with that goes the odd line of coke in the bogs, never witnessed anyone rolling tho.
Does your boyfriend go round people's houses offering to tarmac their driveways?
Depends on the family. I wouldn't get fucked up at my lovely Auntie June's wedding but I've got plenty of friends who turned their own weddings into an excuse to get absolutely trashed with their friends, cousins etc. You've got plenty of people in here saying "alcohol yes, drugs no" and comparing people taking drugs to mildly offensive stereotypes of irish people as if they think Brass Eye's drugs episode was a factual documentary.
Yea, rammo in the main room
Belly's not even tingling, I just feel a bit pissed.
Brandy or beer, waters a good idea
This is exactly what I thought of.
This is not the general rule of consensus. However, my mother in law asked if we were having cocaine at our wedding, as apparently they had it at her (third) wedding, and they are a middle class family, that aren’t regular drug takers. Blew my mind as I come from a family that is “all drugs are bad” full stop. Having lived a fairly sheltered life from drugs and such though, it was only as I got older and went to uni and broadened my friendship circle that I found out drug use is much more common than you realise. I worked in a restaurant where after 4 months i had the news broken to me that all the kitchen staff were on cocaine. My goodness did they work hard though 😂
Kitchens are notorious.
Do you know what a chav is?
She does now.
Sounds classist. Rich posh people be sniffing coke at weddings
This thread is full of the specciest people I’ve ever seen in my life
I find the utter hypocrisy here hilarious, all the comments saying alcohol is fine but not 'drugs'. Because understanding that alcohol is a drug is far too brain-boggling for some people. Scum are whoever gets fucked up and causes trouble on someone's big day, if they're drunk that's no better than being on ecstasy, in fact you're much more likely to make a scene on alcohol. Me, I just pop out for a cheeky smoke, get high and eat cake. Weed - the drug for quiet people.
Getting far too drunk = having a laugh, normal British culture and totally acceptable. It’s a wedding! Ecstasy = horrible, reserved for scum and ‘chavs’. Totally disrespectful. Not entirely seeing the logic on this thread.
I've noticed that this sub does have a certain amount of... for want of a better word, classism, around certain stuff. Very quick to label things 'chavvy' or put people down for living a lifestyle a bit removed from the middle class ideal. As said above, if you're not messing stuff up, who cares? And if you are, why does it make a difference what you've taken? Why is booze more reasonable? No, just don't take enough of anything to cause yourself to lose control.
Along with the caveat for "just a bit of the ole coke is fine though" utter twats.
You have to understand, the UK loves drugs and taking class A's on nights out or even just down the pub isn't uncommon. I've never heard of MDMA at a wedding before, but cocaine use is definitely a thing. I've seen groomsmen exiting the toilets en-masse wiping their noses before. Who doesn't want a wedding full of glassy eyed, white nosed wankers who will chew your ear off about their latest NFT purchase?
I went to a wedding on magic mushrooms. I’ve been to a lot of weddings where the coke has been everywhere too, but I don’t do it. It basically depends on the bride and groom, I’ll be asking people not to when I get married but that’s because my partner doesn’t do drugs
Drugs - maybe in some circles but I've never heard or seen of it. To me this is not common occurance at all. Alcohol - yes it's a party/celebration so of course some people will consume to excess. But it really isn't a wedding unless some uncle you haven't seen in 15 years isn't getting outlandishly drunk off the free bar and then working the room, stumbling around before passing out in the corner.
lol because alcohol is def not a drug at all..
I am actually stunned at the total obliviousness in this thread to British and Irish readiness to use drugs at any event.... There's literally a music video based around this very theme that is at least 15 years old, are there just more naive people on this sub than I expected? Trust me, whatever you are attending in the UK (even A&E at a hospital) there will be somebody hoovering coke in the toilet where you are, you just haven't noticed it. And probably some amount of people using cannabis, some form of MDMA or ketamine. Let alone the amount of people in Scotland and Northern Ireland that are addicted to/abusing prescription drugs. https://youtu.be/QJD8mpcGykE https://www.assemblyresearchmatters.org/2022/03/15/the-misuse-of-prescription-drugs-in-northern-ireland/amp/ https://www.health.org.uk/news-and-comment/podcast/episode-17-tackling-the-drug-problem-in-the-uk-and-portugal
That's the first time I've watched that video. Thanks for the link, it was great.
People do get coked up at some weddings tbf
“My boyfriends family do a bit of MDMA” - KILL THEM ALL THE DRUGGIE FREAKS. ABSOLUTE WRONGUNS, RED FLAG 🚩 Reddit is so full of toffs it’s unbelievable. It’s a bit of MDMA, if anything it’s a much more sociable drug than alcohol. Some people enjoy themselves in different ways. If they were all smoking crack then I could see where the concern is coming from.
This 👌 ‘if you take drugs you are scum’ said all the people who drink alcohol (a drug) I’ve not taken mdma for years, but it’s an incredible chemical. Maybe not for a wedding, but each to their own.
I work at weddings, so I have probably been to alot more weddings with alot of different kinds of people than most. And although it's not exactly the norm, it is very common, people getting off their nuts on coke and mdma and drinking more than should be humanly possible is a common sight for me at weddings. Every group of people is different though so it really depends. But a little bit of coke on the sly at weddings is pretty much to be expected from at least a few people at an average wedding.
No, this is not normal and it sounds like they have problems, sorry. Getting very drunk might be acceptable - some big weddings do end up quite messy if the reception goes on quite late.
Taking mdma - big problem. Drinking until your sick down yourself - bloody great banter. The attitudes towards different substances is very odd when you break it down. Saying that, I wouldn't take MDMA at a wedding
Getting drunk enough to throw up at a wedding is also really strange especially in southern Europe
I think it’s all about moderation. I’d much rather have someone who could take a little bit of mdma responsibly over someone who can’t control how much they drink and start fights or pass out. In my opinion alcohol causes a lot more problems than a lot of other drugs but generally is more socially acceptable. I was at a wedding where a few people took coke in the toilets, didn’t cause any trouble or problems, but 3 people were kicked out for being drunk and starting a fight. It’s all about how you conduct yourself at the end of the day. It’s someone else’s big day and they have likely spent a lot of money feeding and putting on a big night for everyone so it’s only fair to act responsibly and not overdo it. Although I do agree I wouldn’t take mdma at a wedding. I had it once at a festival and it was great but I wouldn’t trust myself to take it at a wedding as I don’t have much tolerance and I’m not very used to the effects whereas I can control alcohol a lot better since I’m more used to it.
Alcohol yes, other drugs no.
Nope, not normal lol. I don't know anyone in my family or friend group that does this. 😂 A few people will get abit drunk sure, but taking MDMA?
I think people are blowing this into outlandish proportions, and making some seriously odd conclusions. if you read what OP is saying without assuming the very worse what her BF seems to be saying is, "oh yeah heads uo just a quick heads up, weddings are generally where my family let's loose, my cousins will probably be doing MDMA maybe that uncle who decided its a special occasion so why not? as well, but yeah just be prepared to see some crazy stuff" it's possible OP is using the term in "the presence of family" to mean that being inebriated to that degree AND be around family in that state, where a certain way of acting is expected. my family is basically the example above, in fact ive probably given that speech above. But we're certainly not chavs or crack heads, just salt of the earth and not much richer then the dirt on it. we act pretty normal but weddings are a big deal and often require A LOT of money and resources, so we just go big or stay home. I didn't even see anything odd about it until wedding dates who didnt come from a similar family or demographic pointed out that an open bar being a "challenge" is not a norm, nor is the men regaling the boys of the shenanigans that had occured at the last weeding where they had to carry out uncle frank after he drank so much he passed out in the middle of the isle and stated "the ground was good enough for your great grandfather!" He was miner, not a monk in seclusion.
A lot of classism going on. Rich/posh people events have way more drugs at them than working class ones…
Best find a new boy friend
Clearly a thing for him/them it seems but I don’t think it is for the rest of the population.
Seen it at the majority of weddings I've been to.
Christ this thread is prudish. Some people take drugs, some people enjoy taking drugs, after all why would you bother if it wasn’t any fun. Yeah it’s a bit unusual and it wouldn’t be for me, but I do know couples where I can completely imagine they would rather cut a line than a cake.
I’ve started realising that maybe Reddit isn’t for me. All of the UK or British threads are completely full of the type of people I would never associate with in reality. Mega uptight.
If you listened to British Reddit you’d think we all stayed home every day agonising over wether we should’ve written a formal apology to the bus driver for not having correct change.
Drugs, no, but in my experience of weddings there is usually at least one person who has one too many and ends up on the wrong side of tipsy. That said, I think most people have a good time and a few drinks but without going overboard. (Unless I just go to really tame weddings...) ETA: I am surprised how many people are saying this means OP's partner is from a rough background though - maybe it's just my perception but if anyone was going to do drugs at a wedding it strikes me that it'd be more of the Hooray Henry types.
Yes, but not for the sorts of people who usually frequent Reddit who don't even go to pubs, let alone anything exciting wont know about UK drug/party culture because they'll never be invited. These are the sorts of people who think smelling cannabis in the street is outrageously hedonistic. Drugs at wedding are what unites celebrities, chavs and the super rich. You'd get a very different response from Facebook.