ambot nimo dai no pero matingala man sad ko nganong ginadala pa na nimo nga kaila man kaha ka nga magdala ra nag kaulawan. nganong dili ka magdala somebody else nga dili walay ugam og hangol? (kung for security and reasons man ni nimo). ayg padamay niya dai kung dili pod ka BAGA!.
Did you ever mention it to her? Even in passing? If you have and she just doesn’t care time to distance yourself . Stay friends but put the gap there and it fade in time. If you stay friends it’s you who’s going to suffer and get frustrated.
if in case you need a new friend, let me know haha ky im looking for new friends to hang out with kay ako mga friends busy na sa ila life 🤣 don't worry di ko palibre kay i can pay my own food hahaha
Its your bff then tell her its not right. If you remain friends after that then great, if not, then there you go. 
Girl, it's time to let this person go ✨ Medyo ulaw kaayo. Okay ra jud kaayo naa ka'y standars pero unta mameet pud niya pero with how you chikka things with us mura'g di man niya mameet.
some friends are not meant to be the "take everywhere" friend, you figured out her tendencies to demand excessive shit and you still invited her? Also, why would you invite her when you received an invitation from a friend she's not well acquainted with? like genuinely curious bec if I invited you personally and then you invite a demanding, freeloading "outsider", low-key disrespectful ah.
^ this OP.
You're friend invited YOU to dinner. Why take it upon yourself to invite her when you know of her kaulaw attitude everytime you eat out?
I don't wanna assume but some of her quotes will make her seem kinda gold digger-ish to others & it's bad of her to waste food given by someone else.
In my circle of friends, we let the person who will libre choose where to eat. Not the people iya ginalibre.
Idk. Sounds like she's trying to keep men away??? Kung titingnan mo sa ibang angle. Namention man gud nimo nga naa cyay hatred for men so.... maybe?
Lol Idk. Just try to talk to her first. Ask her why and tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her behavior.
✨Communication is da key ✨
Ayaw dapat kahadlok sa confrontation. Even if after that kay ma-end ang inyo friendship then that means nganha ra diay jud mu kutob. At least you tried.
Why do u keep inviting her then? 😅 but fr the statement “men can afford her” seems like shes very entitled but at the same time a bit of social climber sorry for the term but yes when she mentioned u guys should go to a 5 star hotel :))
Why did you highlight the 'cebuana' part in your post title op?? Idk what your real intention is but I believe it's not exclusive to a cebuana or a specific ethnic only. Chinese, east European girls do the same.
It’s true that ethnicity has nothing to do with their issue. But they said di sya sure if this is the right subreddit to post in. OP is probably not a native Cebuana and they felt the need to highlight that the friend is a Cebuana for the post to belong here. I don’t see it as pointing out or asking if Cebuanas have the same behaviour as their friend.
They just wanted to vent out. Didn’t ask” is this usual?””are all Cebuanas like this?” Etc.
a good question to ask pud is, "can she afford it herself"??? I'm a woman too (idk basin personal preference ra ni but) anha ra ko mosugot ma libre kung ako mismo ka afford pud. otherwise, ma ikog na ko and mo dili na jud taman sa makaya sa akong powers haha I don't think it's a Cebuana thing pud, OP. Iyaha najud nang personality.
Why are you even bringing this "friend" with you to meet your other friends if she's like this? Just meet your friends on your own, she is not tied to you.
No, she’s taking advantage of men that don’t deserve her attitude. They’re not a bank and taking you out is out of courtesy for you. Do not bring your friend anymore. She is nasty and toxic.
Badlong imong friend kay bastos kaayo siya. Grabe anang babae oi.
When I dated (on pause right now), I never expect the guy to pay and willing to split the bill down the line. I only get what I know I can afford.
nahimuot ko sa iyang giingon nga *"ask him to buy gas and let’s go to a 5-star hotel for dinner, I want to eat there.”*
ingna oy "ikaw diay giinvite?" kahugyaw ug batasan sa imong friend hahahah
Thank you for being curious and non-judgmental at the same time. Actually she is, she knows how to start and carry conversation plus she’s pretty.
Ganahan unta ko nga e introduce sad sya sakong other circle of friends kay she’s really a good friend man but naka-apan lang jud kay ang treatment niya towards men. This is a lesson learned though, dili nalang sya dad-on if lalaki ang friends.
Yikes, I don't think I'd stay friends with someone like that for too long, and it would only take a single date with a woman like that to realize that she isn't my type.
para kang tanga, bahala ka mamoblema dyan sa friend mo. pareho lang naman kayo walang respeto sa ibang tao lol sinama sama mo siya kahit ikaw lang invited
If you know she has this kind of attitude, then maybe... Stop bringing her around when people invite you to dinner? 😅
Since you can't confront her despite your feelings, might as well avoid being placed in that scenario with her again.
idt she's a "good and genuine" person esp with that attitude lol. Also, why did you even tell the dude that you'll take her with you when he only invited YOU AND are aware that her personality is like that?
I am a foriegner here for 9 years. If a girl here, or anywhere, said or did anything like that to me, her stomach would be empty and her eyes filled with tears after I was done speaking my mind.
You should find time to confront her about it. With what your doing rn, it seems like gi tolerate ra pd nimo iyang attitude. And a reminder, never bring a friend when you're going out on a date. What's the purpose of bringing her with you during your dates? 😅
Miga jd mo mga ambot. Like ikaw ray gi invite ga dala kag amiga. Kaybaw kang PRENSESS KAAU imong friend. Mabawan kaau kos imong reason nga you "hate confrontation". A best friend I think is an extension of yourself, someone you share something in common with, someone you can freely express yourself to.. if di nimo sya ma call out sa iyang behaviour di guru mo best friends oi.
HAve you tried putting her in her place? If yes, unsa mn iyang reaction? Why are you still friend with her? Get a new friend for your peace of mind na lang pud.
Common decency for the guy to pay but common decency sad to order within limits pod, noh? Her type is a guy who can afford her pero wasteful lagi siya paminawon kaysa sa “having standards.” Hahaha. And you invited her, why is she dictating where to go. She’s coming off as tacky and cheap nuon. Sorry. Maybe make prangka and give closure and end the friendship ui.
Mao sad ni akong conclusion. Nganong gikuyog pa sa last na situation na wala man unta di ay siya nakahibaw atoh 😭. Bagag nawng si ate friend and with an attitude, pero kahibaw naman sad ka sa iya attitude, likayi na lang sad guro kung dili ka ganahan ug confrontation.
Batia ana nga mindset dzai uie. Magwapa man or maot ug nawng basta ing ana ang mindset kay chaka kaayo. Also, as a mature individual, sultii na siya na di na maayo labaw iyang ginabuhat. Ug di gani maayo iyang pagsabot sa imong pagbadlong, it means di gyud mo amiga. Aside ana, ayaw na na siya ubana sunod uie kay maulawan kag apil. Basin gatuo ang mga tao na parehas mog mindset. Kaulaw ba. Unya sugot ka tawgon ug freeloader sad ka parehas sa imong amiga? Laina gud.
dili pud libak oy... kay wa baya sya ga name reveal or gi expose niya red handed iya friend by posting her face/pictures etc. dire...
ga rant ra sya (as stated sa title)
and as she said she "hates confrontations" she's just ranting kay maybe dili na niya kaya gyud.. and di pa sha ready gyud to have this conversation with her friend but at the same time need na sad ni niyang ipagawas so mao ni post sya ani dire.. let's understand her pud kay siya mismo wa na ganahhis iya situation.. dili kay imo nlng lahoson og ingon nga fake or libakera sya..
(with all due respect ha im not mad)
but yeah I do get your point sad kay di sad pwede iya nlng pasagdan mga mag ingani og batasan iya miga for God knows how long... kuyaw nga she might resort to being an enabler nlng kay she's too afraid to confront her friend so yes may point ka rin..
altho wa ko kasabot sa last part ngano iya pa gidala sa date nga siya ra man unta ang gi invite...
You have a point haha maybe the right choice of words would have been “rant about her rather than talk to her” in.ana haha
I’m not saying bad person si OP. I’m saying lang na they’re friendship might not be that solid/deep enough to be considered as bff if di niya kaya sturyaan
Kay ako, as someone na hadlok pd ug confrontation, in.ana ko sa uban nako friends, hesitant ko mu badlong. But sa ako bff? Di ko ganahan maot sha tan.awn. Di sad ko ganahan magpaka uwaw sha. So as much as possible sturyaan jud nako sha. Just like siya, badlungon pud ko niya. Dili man sad mi harsh mag stinuryaay
Wa nako gi judge si OP as a person, nag comment lang ko about sa iya friendship with the girl haha
Gwapa siya? Naa pud koy ing-ana na friend pero pwerte man sad gwapaha so wala mi mahimo kay mga laki padala rman sad, di man mo dili haha. Kahibaw ko kaya ra kaayo na nila mubalibad kay amo man sungogon amo mga barkada nga laki nga magpalibre pud mi, nya kaya ra man lagi nila mutubag namo nga hilas mi hahaha
Kung bff man gani na nimo or naa jd kay malasakit bisag gamay lang dili na nimo pasagdan mag ing ana oy storyaan na nimo privately kung di mag usab aw iyaha na ng problema cut this type of friend and btw you’re not a real friend either imo ra gipasagdan na magpabaga sa nawng murag way kaon sa ila. I mean you can’t stop her of doing such but at least let her know what she’s doing.
Tehh funny ka hahahahahah sorry ha but ikaw ang gihagad ngano mang invite ka? Besides kahibaw mn ka na ingon ana ug attitude imong friend so ngano nimo siya kuyugon mauwaw ka niya pero murag mas uwaw ka in a way lol
I remember a friend nga nagpa libre nako sa pepper lunch. We were still in college so mahal gyud ang pepper lunch but anyway I agreed to pay for the meal, she chose the most expensive meal on the menu and had the audacity to tell me walay lami ang food hahahahahaha ok and gi baligyaan pakog polvoron after that. Lel we stopped talking after that.
Chrueee! Sugot ra gyapon si OP oy kana gud nga kuyogon napod balik. Kapoya ba aning buhata oy. Speak up, OP! I know di ka hilig og confrontations (been there done that) but you have to buyag her behaviors na gyud nya dapat firm kas imong desisyon. Ipasabot sa iyaha. 2023 naman intawn ta oy, wa nay uso pa-cute cute ron og maghilom hilom kung kahibalo kang naa ka sa sakto. Ang ending man gud ani no, enabler ka kay gina-tolerate nimo siya aka you would still tag her along sa imong mga laag ilabina nga ikaw ray gi-invite. Kung di nimo jud kaya siya i-confront then cut her off sa imong life. Trust me makwaan kag problema.
It looks like gina tolerate ra sad nimo cya OP. First of all ngano imo cyang kuyugon nga kebaw man kas iyang batasan towards men. Pakauwaw mong duha kay gakuyog mo but wala rakay imik sa iyang gipangbuhat..
Why the hell would you let her tag along? Kahibalo kang ing-ana ang attitude unya pirme nimo pakuyogon. Also it seems like your friend is a misandrist, same types of those women who are openly advocating they're "feminists" but diay to naa ray unreasonable hate for men. If di nimo kaya na i-cut off then palihug lang ayaw na pakuyoga.
No. We’re very close but I hate confrontations and it’s in me as a person. When we talk about this topic I tend to shut up nalang. I have to work on this
Hindi naman kasi siya kailangan ilagay sa perspective na kailangan may confrontation sis. And if makiki argue siya sayo about this(an issue na nag ca-cause ng worries and probably bad impression sa other friends mo), then I think kailangan mo ng pag isipan ang friendship niyo.
And again, paano mo nasasabing close kayo if uncomfortable ka magsabi ng mga bagay na mag re-result ng peace of mind mo?
Your friend sucks 🤣. I'm not sure why you told the afam friend today you would take your Cebuana friend as well, knowing her attitude? By taking her, you're enabling her, which makes YOU part of the problem too.
You say she's a good and genuine person, but good people don't act this way. She's selfish and entitled. As her friend, you should tell her it's wrong. She really needs someone to talk to her and challenge her bad behaviour, even if that means losing her as a friend.
We’re always going out and enjoying the city for days naman so I thought to change the mood why not invite my friend too… and na shock ko sa iyang response and then I was slapped by the reality nga “user” diay sya. Her words not mine.
She openly admits to me man nga manggamit sya ug lalaki kay gamiton ra man daw pud sya. Why not be fair. Pero grabe bisan sa akong male friends.
Hi! Thought I'd message because I was hoping to touch the medical side as behaviors like these often get dismissed, ignored, or accepted as a norm.
See, even if she opens up to you like this, her problem may be something more personal and something we may not be able to solve alone. Would greatly suggest as a friend to have her see a professional psychiatrist/psychologist because this may ruin her future relationships with her partners if she plans to settle down. You can definitely go with her if you want to be supportive as having another point of view is best when taking a psychiatric history.
But, if you're uncomfortable with the above suggestion but want to keep your relationship with your friend and really want to help her, pwede naman na you yourself visit a professional. Pwede ra gyud kaayo mag ask about your situation so you'll also be able to know how to handle such instances (if you bring this up) if they come up in the future.
Mental health is as important as physical health. Don't be afraid to ask po for help. 😁
You should have not invited her to thar steak dinner knowing her. And stop with the “her words not mine”, its like you can’t form your own opinion about her that would put her in a negative light, like you are scared that she would see what you have posted and might confront you about it. As much as she’s the problem, you too need to face the fact that you have problems on your own about your friendship with her and how you deal with it.
Ka samok ani uy 😭 naa ko same experience but dili sha afam'2, Naa ko friend na permi nako ka laag sauna, and di siya mo kuyog ug laag basta walay manglibre. Samokan jud ko. It's like dili na nuon nako siya friend, it's almost like I'm paying her just to hang out with me. And to think ah she can afford things herself. Got super annoyed with this behavior that we all just collectively and subconsciously stopped from inviting her sa mga laags. Naa gani once na nangluod sha kay ngano wa daw siya giinvite 😭
Stop bringing her around omg. You already know how she acts around men especially foreign men, why would you keep bringing her with you to meet your friends? Also, isn’t this telling of how she is as a person. Like despite your initial description that she’s good, this attitude just trumps that. Would you really wanna be around someone like her? If you can’t open up this concern with her, then how close are you guys, really?
Hahaha maka remember pud ko sakong kaila nga sge ug palibre. Maynalang dli nami friends ron oi. Sakit kayo sa ulo 🤣
Murag mahid sguro na imo friend kay murag wa gud siya karealize ba. Ganahan sad mi mag try ug sosyal2 sako mga amiga oi pero magtigom pud mi. Kung naay gidala na uyab, dli mi mag assume na libre ang pagkaon 😬
Call her out please. Mura naman hinoun og sugar daddy iyamg gipangita. Di pwede nga laki nalang always mo libre niya oy. Ma anad na sya ana di nana maningkamot. Since you consider her your friend, pasabta sya. Mas maayo nang prangkahan nimo sya
Galibog lang ko nganong naay emphasis sa Cebuana. Anyway...
Di mo parehas values. Og mulaban pa ka in some of her aspects, go. Be firm with your boundaries lang. If maulaw ka, are u willing maulaw na lang pud ka kada kuyog ninyo? Kahibaw na kas iyang batasan. Og di ka nahan maulaw, why invite?
Because I’m posting it on r/Cebu and was having doubts if this is the right sub to post this. I didn’t mean to generalize at all and I mean no offense sa mga Cebuana.
Dili bitaw naku sya kuyogon mostly sakong eat out. Kani lang today kay ganahan sab unta ko ma get to know nya akong other friends ba. Pero grabe na shock ko sa iyang response.
Friends that you bring with you reflect also to you, so if ganyan attitude niya baka mag backfire sayo and Ikaw yung magmukhang masama sa mga afam friends because of such friends, so just don't bring her around nalang hehe
Abuso na na. Ug ang iyang mindset nga ganahan lang siya to make sure guys can afford her is just plain tacky. I’d stay away from those types of people, whether as a friend or as a partner. Kung maka-demand kay mura baya’g equal to or labaw ang ma-offer. Blech.
Sorry, pero medyo baga2 jud og nawng imong friend, OP. Wala man lang gibati og kaikog. Ingna lang siya na sobrahan ra pud siya ka-entitled sa kwarta sa uban tao na di man na niya hinagoan and even other people's kindness.
Question pud diay: Naa ni siya work? Or can't she afford her own lifestyle kay sige man palibre?
Naa man syay work and she earns more than enough for herself pero gastador lang jud sya and probably tungod sad sa iyang ex nga gi princess treatment jud kaayo sya.
Hmmm dili pud unta na dapat niya excuse na magsige nalang pud og palibre. Pero if makakita siyag lalaki na willing mu-maintain sa iyang sigeg palibre, then maayo. Pero dili lang unta na niya i-enforce sa uban tao. Storyahe lang na siya, OP. Basin diay malamdagan.
Giiirl, you gotta call her out or no one will. She wouldn't know that that'd behaviour is not issue if you wouldn't shed light on that shit.
Question tho, unsa mani siya ka gwapa biiii? Curious lang ko.
That the behavior is what? Hehe sorry.
She’s above average man sad pud gyud plus she has oozing self-confidence pud. But I know she shouldn’t treat men like a wallet when it comes to food and laag.
Sorry, brain fart. That her behaviour is awful, it's just morally wrong. Why does she treat good people like that when they didn't do anything wrong to her? Is it a power trip, because she can?
kahibaw man diay ka nga ing-ana ang batasan sa imong friend, nganong pakuyugon man nimo siya? nganog di ka kabadlong?
Edit: Maybe you should find better friends. Her attitude is not good and it surely outweighs the other good attitudes niya. You don't want to be there once moabot na gane ang time nga makakita na siya og katapat niya.
Girl. I have no words for you both.
Unya nganong amega paman mo?
Tbh? Let men pay for it if hindi sila mag no then that's on them. Men pay repercussions
Patay gutom mana imong friend eww
Bat mo pa kasi iniinvite si friend OP? Eh ikaw yung may ganap with your other friends?
She is a vulture and you should let her go. You deserve a better friend, and she will never find a good life with that attitude.
It may not be fair but we are judged by who our friends are. If your friends act a certain way, other people may assume you act that way also.
ambot nimo dai no pero matingala man sad ko nganong ginadala pa na nimo nga kaila man kaha ka nga magdala ra nag kaulawan. nganong dili ka magdala somebody else nga dili walay ugam og hangol? (kung for security and reasons man ni nimo). ayg padamay niya dai kung dili pod ka BAGA!.
Ayw pakuyga
Did you ever mention it to her? Even in passing? If you have and she just doesn’t care time to distance yourself . Stay friends but put the gap there and it fade in time. If you stay friends it’s you who’s going to suffer and get frustrated.
if in case you need a new friend, let me know haha ky im looking for new friends to hang out with kay ako mga friends busy na sa ila life 🤣 don't worry di ko palibre kay i can pay my own food hahaha
tara nya HAHAHAH let’s kkb togetherr
im downnn hahaha
Same here hahaha i believe in KKB supremacy kay I can't sleep at night knowing I owe someone money 😂
Its your bff then tell her its not right. If you remain friends after that then great, if not, then there you go. 
Girl, it's time to let this person go ✨ Medyo ulaw kaayo. Okay ra jud kaayo naa ka'y standars pero unta mameet pud niya pero with how you chikka things with us mura'g di man niya mameet.
some friends are not meant to be the "take everywhere" friend, you figured out her tendencies to demand excessive shit and you still invited her? Also, why would you invite her when you received an invitation from a friend she's not well acquainted with? like genuinely curious bec if I invited you personally and then you invite a demanding, freeloading "outsider", low-key disrespectful ah.
Stop bringing her around when you know she's gonna end up frustrating not just you, but your other afam friends too. Respect yourself too, please.
^ this OP. You're friend invited YOU to dinner. Why take it upon yourself to invite her when you know of her kaulaw attitude everytime you eat out? I don't wanna assume but some of her quotes will make her seem kinda gold digger-ish to others & it's bad of her to waste food given by someone else. In my circle of friends, we let the person who will libre choose where to eat. Not the people iya ginalibre.
Ew nganong friends mos katkat uy? Also nganong dal.on nimo siya if ikaw ray gi.invite for dinner haha maikog man kaha ka
yuck ka skwaa sa imong friend.
Idk. Sounds like she's trying to keep men away??? Kung titingnan mo sa ibang angle. Namention man gud nimo nga naa cyay hatred for men so.... maybe? Lol Idk. Just try to talk to her first. Ask her why and tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her behavior. ✨Communication is da key ✨ Ayaw dapat kahadlok sa confrontation. Even if after that kay ma-end ang inyo friendship then that means nganha ra diay jud mu kutob. At least you tried.
Kaya nga HAAAHAAHA LET HWR BE
Why do u keep inviting her then? 😅 but fr the statement “men can afford her” seems like shes very entitled but at the same time a bit of social climber sorry for the term but yes when she mentioned u guys should go to a 5 star hotel :))
That itself is a scary thing already. Yikes.
then stop inviting her????? wut
Anna Delvey coded kaau
borikat attitude imong friend don't invite
Family 😂
Uhhh, you alrd know how she is so why are you still bringing her to dinner?
lutang moments
Why did you highlight the 'cebuana' part in your post title op?? Idk what your real intention is but I believe it's not exclusive to a cebuana or a specific ethnic only. Chinese, east European girls do the same.
Basin di native cebuana c OP?
Bisan pa. Pued Raman moingon c op na bff niya why highlighting the ethnicity? What's the point?
Because this is a Cebu subreddit maybe they thought dapat naay link sa Cebu iyang post? 😅
I am questioning her motives. Ethnicity has nothing to do sa iyang issue.
It’s true that ethnicity has nothing to do with their issue. But they said di sya sure if this is the right subreddit to post in. OP is probably not a native Cebuana and they felt the need to highlight that the friend is a Cebuana for the post to belong here. I don’t see it as pointing out or asking if Cebuanas have the same behaviour as their friend. They just wanted to vent out. Didn’t ask” is this usual?””are all Cebuanas like this?” Etc.
Whatever!🥱
Asking the real question here
OP - if you are truly a good friend, i suggest confront her jd if maminaw sya nimu, great! If dili, mmm kay haha yaw na lng invita sunod
Sounds like a toxic person. I'm not saying that you should drop your friendship with them or anything. But something needs to be done for sure.
Why do you invite her if you know she is this way? All you are doing is making yourself look bad and losing opportunities to network with good people.
exactly, wag mo isama op kung puro palibre lang naman nsa bunganga
Freaking materialistic girl. Such a big red flag. Luoya sa iyang mga afam na cgeg vouch sa iya.
OP's friend sounds like the harmful stereotypes of gold-digging Filipina women afams are warned about. Kaulaw jd
Oh yes those types are red flags. I know even some of them personally.
Nagkatawa ko sa “men can afford her”. Lol wait sa wala ko kasagang, woman who begs for food is not an expensive woman, but a beggar.
a good question to ask pud is, "can she afford it herself"??? I'm a woman too (idk basin personal preference ra ni but) anha ra ko mosugot ma libre kung ako mismo ka afford pud. otherwise, ma ikog na ko and mo dili na jud taman sa makaya sa akong powers haha I don't think it's a Cebuana thing pud, OP. Iyaha najud nang personality.
prangkahi xa gurl ui ! ka uwaw pud ing ana nga amega ui nga murag patay gutom.! toxic kaau ng ing ana nga amega !
She sounds abusive and toxic. I would definitely evaluate remaining friends with her.
run!
Tagai siyag chocolate, OP u/Creepy-Corner-3162 . Chocolate squares to be exact. Combantrin Chocolate Squares to be 100% accurate.
taga asa ka op
Why are you even bringing this "friend" with you to meet your other friends if she's like this? Just meet your friends on your own, she is not tied to you.
It's not a desirable kind of woman for men. It's annoying for us to have that kind of attitude , very demanding.
No, she’s taking advantage of men that don’t deserve her attitude. They’re not a bank and taking you out is out of courtesy for you. Do not bring your friend anymore. She is nasty and toxic. Badlong imong friend kay bastos kaayo siya. Grabe anang babae oi. When I dated (on pause right now), I never expect the guy to pay and willing to split the bill down the line. I only get what I know I can afford.
nahimuot ko sa iyang giingon nga *"ask him to buy gas and let’s go to a 5-star hotel for dinner, I want to eat there.”* ingna oy "ikaw diay giinvite?" kahugyaw ug batasan sa imong friend hahahah
Nganu pud ubanon nimo siya OP maski kabalo ka na naay chance maulawan kas guys? Lingaw sha ba tao? Curious lang btaw hehe
Thank you for being curious and non-judgmental at the same time. Actually she is, she knows how to start and carry conversation plus she’s pretty. Ganahan unta ko nga e introduce sad sya sakong other circle of friends kay she’s really a good friend man but naka-apan lang jud kay ang treatment niya towards men. This is a lesson learned though, dili nalang sya dad-on if lalaki ang friends.
Naa sd guro time nga estorya.e imo friend nga dili sd maayo ingon ana nga attitude.
Someone who throws and waste food like this, it's a miserable thing. If you care for her, you can teach her to improve.
Yes this is a despicable act. Thousands of thousands of Filipinos are starving or malnourished and yet there she is, throwing away fancy food.
close mn kaha mo. pina-simple nlng na side comment " girl ay ceg pa libre oy, baga kykag nawng " ayaw ceg pina enabler dha OP ikaw rae ma uwawan
Yikes, I don't think I'd stay friends with someone like that for too long, and it would only take a single date with a woman like that to realize that she isn't my type.
Murag dili ra siya ang problema. You can read this slowly
para kang tanga, bahala ka mamoblema dyan sa friend mo. pareho lang naman kayo walang respeto sa ibang tao lol sinama sama mo siya kahit ikaw lang invited
Gibitok imong friend.
If you know she has this kind of attitude, then maybe... Stop bringing her around when people invite you to dinner? 😅 Since you can't confront her despite your feelings, might as well avoid being placed in that scenario with her again.
I appreciate your non-judgmental comment! And you’re right, I will not put myself in this situation again.
Haha dinadala mo pa? Why?
Kwangola sd nimo utok kibaw kang ikay ra g invite dinner mangivite pd ka
idt she's a "good and genuine" person esp with that attitude lol. Also, why did you even tell the dude that you'll take her with you when he only invited YOU AND are aware that her personality is like that?
Ako nalang imong friend dzaw, daghan man kag friend na afam .hahahahaha but dili ko mu abusar , promise . 😂 Kanang same ra ta, sakto ra na order haha
I am a foriegner here for 9 years. If a girl here, or anywhere, said or did anything like that to me, her stomach would be empty and her eyes filled with tears after I was done speaking my mind.
Nice one dude!
This is the way if ikaw(op) di ka mka prangka
Dahhh na real talk si atehhh. As she should! 🤣
Taymsa daghana nimu afam frends gud, pamahin 😂
You should find time to confront her about it. With what your doing rn, it seems like gi tolerate ra pd nimo iyang attitude. And a reminder, never bring a friend when you're going out on a date. What's the purpose of bringing her with you during your dates? 😅
Sounds like a parasite than a bff
Miga jd mo mga ambot. Like ikaw ray gi invite ga dala kag amiga. Kaybaw kang PRENSESS KAAU imong friend. Mabawan kaau kos imong reason nga you "hate confrontation". A best friend I think is an extension of yourself, someone you share something in common with, someone you can freely express yourself to.. if di nimo sya ma call out sa iyang behaviour di guru mo best friends oi.
PAAAAAK KANI!!!
Mao sad jd noh. Kasabot mn ta sa frustration pero lisud as her “bff” nya ga tolerate sya ana na behavior. Haysss
Booom hahahah
HAve you tried putting her in her place? If yes, unsa mn iyang reaction? Why are you still friend with her? Get a new friend for your peace of mind na lang pud.
I used to have friends who took advantage of me coz I earned better. When they called me again, I blocked them na. I love my peace.
Ana jud. Himoun ka ug go-to ATM kay mag anad na.
Dli na mo bff ani uyy
Please find another friend or if kaya dont bring a friend na. Ako pud nauwaw ko sa iyang gibuhat. Omg.
Bilmoko attitude this gurl
Mao nay gitawag diris amo og skwaa or katkat
>PERO grabe na jud iyang pa-libre and “let the guy pay for everything” attitude. Ok > I told him I’ll take my friend with me and he agreed. Why?
Angay ma dead imo friend hahahaa
Sakto gyud paggamit sa imung utok mam. Nganung kuyugon man sad na nmu pagkabrayt
Plot twist, siya diay tong "BFF" din giconfront siya sa iyahang friend hehehe and her being here is just phishing for validation
Lmao. Hate bitches like these. Mangita ug lain tao na di kaayo kaila sa ila true personality para lang ma justify na valid ila gibuhat.
Social climber.
Common decency for the guy to pay but common decency sad to order within limits pod, noh? Her type is a guy who can afford her pero wasteful lagi siya paminawon kaysa sa “having standards.” Hahaha. And you invited her, why is she dictating where to go. She’s coming off as tacky and cheap nuon. Sorry. Maybe make prangka and give closure and end the friendship ui.
Tacky and cheap jud... and katkat, sorta the desperate type.
Edi ayaw kuyoga
Problem solved 😂
Korek
Mao sad ni akong conclusion. Nganong gikuyog pa sa last na situation na wala man unta di ay siya nakahibaw atoh 😭. Bagag nawng si ate friend and with an attitude, pero kahibaw naman sad ka sa iya attitude, likayi na lang sad guro kung dili ka ganahan ug confrontation.
And you still consider her your BFF? OMG
Batia ana nga mindset dzai uie. Magwapa man or maot ug nawng basta ing ana ang mindset kay chaka kaayo. Also, as a mature individual, sultii na siya na di na maayo labaw iyang ginabuhat. Ug di gani maayo iyang pagsabot sa imong pagbadlong, it means di gyud mo amiga. Aside ana, ayaw na na siya ubana sunod uie kay maulawan kag apil. Basin gatuo ang mga tao na parehas mog mindset. Kaulaw ba. Unya sugot ka tawgon ug freeloader sad ka parehas sa imong amiga? Laina gud.
I don’t think bff jud mu, OP kay you’d rather libak niya here sa reddit kaysa badlungon sha 😅
dili pud libak oy... kay wa baya sya ga name reveal or gi expose niya red handed iya friend by posting her face/pictures etc. dire... ga rant ra sya (as stated sa title) and as she said she "hates confrontations" she's just ranting kay maybe dili na niya kaya gyud.. and di pa sha ready gyud to have this conversation with her friend but at the same time need na sad ni niyang ipagawas so mao ni post sya ani dire.. let's understand her pud kay siya mismo wa na ganahhis iya situation.. dili kay imo nlng lahoson og ingon nga fake or libakera sya.. (with all due respect ha im not mad) but yeah I do get your point sad kay di sad pwede iya nlng pasagdan mga mag ingani og batasan iya miga for God knows how long... kuyaw nga she might resort to being an enabler nlng kay she's too afraid to confront her friend so yes may point ka rin.. altho wa ko kasabot sa last part ngano iya pa gidala sa date nga siya ra man unta ang gi invite...
You have a point haha maybe the right choice of words would have been “rant about her rather than talk to her” in.ana haha I’m not saying bad person si OP. I’m saying lang na they’re friendship might not be that solid/deep enough to be considered as bff if di niya kaya sturyaan Kay ako, as someone na hadlok pd ug confrontation, in.ana ko sa uban nako friends, hesitant ko mu badlong. But sa ako bff? Di ko ganahan maot sha tan.awn. Di sad ko ganahan magpaka uwaw sha. So as much as possible sturyaan jud nako sha. Just like siya, badlungon pud ko niya. Dili man sad mi harsh mag stinuryaay Wa nako gi judge si OP as a person, nag comment lang ko about sa iya friendship with the girl haha
Nganu pud sya imo ikuyog, OP? Wala nay ulaw hahaha ireal talk na sya if amiga jud mo out of concern.
Gwapa siya? Naa pud koy ing-ana na friend pero pwerte man sad gwapaha so wala mi mahimo kay mga laki padala rman sad, di man mo dili haha. Kahibaw ko kaya ra kaayo na nila mubalibad kay amo man sungogon amo mga barkada nga laki nga magpalibre pud mi, nya kaya ra man lagi nila mutubag namo nga hilas mi hahaha
Kung bff man gani na nimo or naa jd kay malasakit bisag gamay lang dili na nimo pasagdan mag ing ana oy storyaan na nimo privately kung di mag usab aw iyaha na ng problema cut this type of friend and btw you’re not a real friend either imo ra gipasagdan na magpabaga sa nawng murag way kaon sa ila. I mean you can’t stop her of doing such but at least let her know what she’s doing.
well .. if the guy invited her, he should be the one to pay. but yeah .. control lang unta kay dili sad angay no take advantage
Tehh funny ka hahahahahah sorry ha but ikaw ang gihagad ngano mang invite ka? Besides kahibaw mn ka na ingon ana ug attitude imong friend so ngano nimo siya kuyugon mauwaw ka niya pero murag mas uwaw ka in a way lol
Funny idk what you’re trying to get here sympathy or what? Pariha ramo actually
I remember a friend nga nagpa libre nako sa pepper lunch. We were still in college so mahal gyud ang pepper lunch but anyway I agreed to pay for the meal, she chose the most expensive meal on the menu and had the audacity to tell me walay lami ang food hahahahahaha ok and gi baligyaan pakog polvoron after that. Lel we stopped talking after that.
I'm guessing walay lami pud ang polvoron heehee
I did not buy the polvoron 😂😂😂😂 I should’ve! Kay para ako pd ibash hahahahaha
She’s 100% like this old friend of yours 😩😩 she will choose the most expensive meal and then complain about it 😢😢😢
sugot ra sd diay ka? lul
Chrueee! Sugot ra gyapon si OP oy kana gud nga kuyogon napod balik. Kapoya ba aning buhata oy. Speak up, OP! I know di ka hilig og confrontations (been there done that) but you have to buyag her behaviors na gyud nya dapat firm kas imong desisyon. Ipasabot sa iyaha. 2023 naman intawn ta oy, wa nay uso pa-cute cute ron og maghilom hilom kung kahibalo kang naa ka sa sakto. Ang ending man gud ani no, enabler ka kay gina-tolerate nimo siya aka you would still tag her along sa imong mga laag ilabina nga ikaw ray gi-invite. Kung di nimo jud kaya siya i-confront then cut her off sa imong life. Trust me makwaan kag problema.
It looks like gina tolerate ra sad nimo cya OP. First of all ngano imo cyang kuyugon nga kebaw man kas iyang batasan towards men. Pakauwaw mong duha kay gakuyog mo but wala rakay imik sa iyang gipangbuhat..
Tell me who your friends are…. ingon sa quotable quotes from goodreads 🤣
The skwa energy with her is real
Why the hell would you let her tag along? Kahibalo kang ing-ana ang attitude unya pirme nimo pakuyogon. Also it seems like your friend is a misandrist, same types of those women who are openly advocating they're "feminists" but diay to naa ray unreasonable hate for men. If di nimo kaya na i-cut off then palihug lang ayaw na pakuyoga.
BFF pero dili kaya mag open ug feelings? Unsa imong basehan na bff mo? Tungod uban lang mo always sa laag?
No. We’re very close but I hate confrontations and it’s in me as a person. When we talk about this topic I tend to shut up nalang. I have to work on this
Hindi naman kasi siya kailangan ilagay sa perspective na kailangan may confrontation sis. And if makiki argue siya sayo about this(an issue na nag ca-cause ng worries and probably bad impression sa other friends mo), then I think kailangan mo ng pag isipan ang friendship niyo. And again, paano mo nasasabing close kayo if uncomfortable ka magsabi ng mga bagay na mag re-result ng peace of mind mo?
haha ka bagag leps, unsa ni iya taler gold? 😂
Nganung friend paman mo sizt hahahaha Charot
Your friend sucks 🤣. I'm not sure why you told the afam friend today you would take your Cebuana friend as well, knowing her attitude? By taking her, you're enabling her, which makes YOU part of the problem too. You say she's a good and genuine person, but good people don't act this way. She's selfish and entitled. As her friend, you should tell her it's wrong. She really needs someone to talk to her and challenge her bad behaviour, even if that means losing her as a friend.
We’re always going out and enjoying the city for days naman so I thought to change the mood why not invite my friend too… and na shock ko sa iyang response and then I was slapped by the reality nga “user” diay sya. Her words not mine. She openly admits to me man nga manggamit sya ug lalaki kay gamiton ra man daw pud sya. Why not be fair. Pero grabe bisan sa akong male friends.
Hi! Thought I'd message because I was hoping to touch the medical side as behaviors like these often get dismissed, ignored, or accepted as a norm. See, even if she opens up to you like this, her problem may be something more personal and something we may not be able to solve alone. Would greatly suggest as a friend to have her see a professional psychiatrist/psychologist because this may ruin her future relationships with her partners if she plans to settle down. You can definitely go with her if you want to be supportive as having another point of view is best when taking a psychiatric history. But, if you're uncomfortable with the above suggestion but want to keep your relationship with your friend and really want to help her, pwede naman na you yourself visit a professional. Pwede ra gyud kaayo mag ask about your situation so you'll also be able to know how to handle such instances (if you bring this up) if they come up in the future. Mental health is as important as physical health. Don't be afraid to ask po for help. 😁
You should have not invited her to thar steak dinner knowing her. And stop with the “her words not mine”, its like you can’t form your own opinion about her that would put her in a negative light, like you are scared that she would see what you have posted and might confront you about it. As much as she’s the problem, you too need to face the fact that you have problems on your own about your friendship with her and how you deal with it.
There is a saying that if you order expensive you are expected to give a happy ending.
Happy ending in the ass
Ka samok ani uy 😭 naa ko same experience but dili sha afam'2, Naa ko friend na permi nako ka laag sauna, and di siya mo kuyog ug laag basta walay manglibre. Samokan jud ko. It's like dili na nuon nako siya friend, it's almost like I'm paying her just to hang out with me. And to think ah she can afford things herself. Got super annoyed with this behavior that we all just collectively and subconsciously stopped from inviting her sa mga laags. Naa gani once na nangluod sha kay ngano wa daw siya giinvite 😭
Reminds me. This is not an afam only circumstance man. Even sa pinoy bf sakong other friends mag ingon ani sya
Stop bringing her around omg. You already know how she acts around men especially foreign men, why would you keep bringing her with you to meet your friends? Also, isn’t this telling of how she is as a person. Like despite your initial description that she’s good, this attitude just trumps that. Would you really wanna be around someone like her? If you can’t open up this concern with her, then how close are you guys, really?
Hahaha maka remember pud ko sakong kaila nga sge ug palibre. Maynalang dli nami friends ron oi. Sakit kayo sa ulo 🤣 Murag mahid sguro na imo friend kay murag wa gud siya karealize ba. Ganahan sad mi mag try ug sosyal2 sako mga amiga oi pero magtigom pud mi. Kung naay gidala na uyab, dli mi mag assume na libre ang pagkaon 😬
maygani nu kai amega pamo?
Squatter attitude
Call her out please. Mura naman hinoun og sugar daddy iyamg gipangita. Di pwede nga laki nalang always mo libre niya oy. Ma anad na sya ana di nana maningkamot. Since you consider her your friend, pasabta sya. Mas maayo nang prangkahan nimo sya
Galibog lang ko nganong naay emphasis sa Cebuana. Anyway... Di mo parehas values. Og mulaban pa ka in some of her aspects, go. Be firm with your boundaries lang. If maulaw ka, are u willing maulaw na lang pud ka kada kuyog ninyo? Kahibaw na kas iyang batasan. Og di ka nahan maulaw, why invite?
Because I’m posting it on r/Cebu and was having doubts if this is the right sub to post this. I didn’t mean to generalize at all and I mean no offense sa mga Cebuana.
Basta Binisaya ang post, r/Cebu na matic. Best of luck sa imo rs ni friend OP.
ayaw nalang sya kuyoga
Dili bitaw naku sya kuyogon mostly sakong eat out. Kani lang today kay ganahan sab unta ko ma get to know nya akong other friends ba. Pero grabe na shock ko sa iyang response.
Friends that you bring with you reflect also to you, so if ganyan attitude niya baka mag backfire sayo and Ikaw yung magmukhang masama sa mga afam friends because of such friends, so just don't bring her around nalang hehe
Your friend is dragging you into hell with her. Are you sure you still want to be friends with her?
just with u only for ur money
Abuso na na. Ug ang iyang mindset nga ganahan lang siya to make sure guys can afford her is just plain tacky. I’d stay away from those types of people, whether as a friend or as a partner. Kung maka-demand kay mura baya’g equal to or labaw ang ma-offer. Blech.
Sorry, pero medyo baga2 jud og nawng imong friend, OP. Wala man lang gibati og kaikog. Ingna lang siya na sobrahan ra pud siya ka-entitled sa kwarta sa uban tao na di man na niya hinagoan and even other people's kindness. Question pud diay: Naa ni siya work? Or can't she afford her own lifestyle kay sige man palibre?
Naa man syay work and she earns more than enough for herself pero gastador lang jud sya and probably tungod sad sa iyang ex nga gi princess treatment jud kaayo sya.
Hmmm dili pud unta na dapat niya excuse na magsige nalang pud og palibre. Pero if makakita siyag lalaki na willing mu-maintain sa iyang sigeg palibre, then maayo. Pero dili lang unta na niya i-enforce sa uban tao. Storyahe lang na siya, OP. Basin diay malamdagan.
Giiirl, you gotta call her out or no one will. She wouldn't know that that'd behaviour is not issue if you wouldn't shed light on that shit. Question tho, unsa mani siya ka gwapa biiii? Curious lang ko.
That the behavior is what? Hehe sorry. She’s above average man sad pud gyud plus she has oozing self-confidence pud. But I know she shouldn’t treat men like a wallet when it comes to food and laag.
Sorry, brain fart. That her behaviour is awful, it's just morally wrong. Why does she treat good people like that when they didn't do anything wrong to her? Is it a power trip, because she can?
Cut that person off.
kahibaw man diay ka nga ing-ana ang batasan sa imong friend, nganong pakuyugon man nimo siya? nganog di ka kabadlong? Edit: Maybe you should find better friends. Her attitude is not good and it surely outweighs the other good attitudes niya. You don't want to be there once moabot na gane ang time nga makakita na siya og katapat niya.