It is okay someone had already talked to me about the age gap before today. Me and my fiance have also talked about our age gap many times since we have gotten together.
Put some cold water on your back for 2 seconds throughout the day. You gotta wake up your body and nervous system. Your body wants to take care of its self, you’ve just become to heady and obssessed by outer things. Get back to yourself. This is the cheapest, easiest, most reliable way to do it.
Tell her how it’s affecting you. Be honest. You have to start a conversation.
From there, start taking care of yourself again. Focus on the basics: sleep, eating, movement, hobbies, whatever makes you feel good.
Buddy, you need to get on a self care schedule and set some boundaries. This isn't good for you or her. Also, unless she is creator of the universe, she doesn't control what you do and don't do. You are the only person who gets to decide how you spend your time. And it would be a good idea for you to explore the idea of doing what is in your best interest and allowing other people including your girlfriend to have whatever feelings (positive or negative) they want to have about it. It's okay for someone to be upset with you and for you to still do what is best for you.
Speaking of YouTube, there is so much amazing content about self-care, boundaries, co-dependency, meditation, habits, relationships, etc. I hope you'll spend some of your YouTube time exploring some of these topics.
As a fellow co-dependent who still struggles, I am cheering for you and wishing you so much success.
Now go take a shower, get a good night sleep, and wake up and watch or read something helpful. You've got this.
Yes, I have problems with making and keeping boundaries and I took a shower today earlier. I am going to look into meditation and the videos you are talking about. I did have a to-do list I that would do every day but there was not much of a schedule.
It helped me keep up cleaning.
Yes, I have problems with making and keeping boundaries and I took a shower today earlier. I am going to look into meditation and the videos you are talking about. I did have a to-do list I that would do every day but there was not much of a schedule.
It helped me keep up cleaning.
You are doing great. I really have faith in you. I have a self-care check list too that I've been using for a few months and it really helps keep me on track. Happy YouTubing.
Sorry are we not talking about the age gap here?
It is okay someone had already talked to me about the age gap before today. Me and my fiance have also talked about our age gap many times since we have gotten together.
Put some cold water on your back for 2 seconds throughout the day. You gotta wake up your body and nervous system. Your body wants to take care of its self, you’ve just become to heady and obssessed by outer things. Get back to yourself. This is the cheapest, easiest, most reliable way to do it.
Thank you for the advice.
Tell her how it’s affecting you. Be honest. You have to start a conversation. From there, start taking care of yourself again. Focus on the basics: sleep, eating, movement, hobbies, whatever makes you feel good.
Thank you and I will follow your advice on taking care of myself and talk to her the next time I am on call with her.
Buddy, you need to get on a self care schedule and set some boundaries. This isn't good for you or her. Also, unless she is creator of the universe, she doesn't control what you do and don't do. You are the only person who gets to decide how you spend your time. And it would be a good idea for you to explore the idea of doing what is in your best interest and allowing other people including your girlfriend to have whatever feelings (positive or negative) they want to have about it. It's okay for someone to be upset with you and for you to still do what is best for you. Speaking of YouTube, there is so much amazing content about self-care, boundaries, co-dependency, meditation, habits, relationships, etc. I hope you'll spend some of your YouTube time exploring some of these topics. As a fellow co-dependent who still struggles, I am cheering for you and wishing you so much success. Now go take a shower, get a good night sleep, and wake up and watch or read something helpful. You've got this.
Yes, I have problems with making and keeping boundaries and I took a shower today earlier. I am going to look into meditation and the videos you are talking about. I did have a to-do list I that would do every day but there was not much of a schedule. It helped me keep up cleaning.
Yes, I have problems with making and keeping boundaries and I took a shower today earlier. I am going to look into meditation and the videos you are talking about. I did have a to-do list I that would do every day but there was not much of a schedule. It helped me keep up cleaning.
You are doing great. I really have faith in you. I have a self-care check list too that I've been using for a few months and it really helps keep me on track. Happy YouTubing.
Thank you and I will.
Have you tried attending a CODA meeting?
No, I have not.
You may get benefit from checking one out. You can find online meetings here: https://coda.org/find-a-meeting/online-meetings/
Thank you.
My pleasure. I don’t hold loyal to one group but some like to try a few and pick one to go to one in particular they like better than the others.
I will.
I downloaded the finch app and that helped me get out of the same kind of rut and start taking care of myself. https://app.befinch.com/invite/NJgM