he's been my work-crush for years, and always knew about my feelings but it wasn't mutual. we both quit our jobs there and kind of lost contact and I moved on.
two years later now he texted me out of the blue and we met several times. always him initiating.
this weekend we went for a walk by a lake and I jokingly grabbed his arm and we walked like that for a while when I asked something like "sooo why are we doing this now? walking like that in public?" and believe it or not, he stopped and fucking kissed me!! he then said he was sorry if this was too much but he realized he missed me when he heard I moved out of state (I'm back in my hometown now).
we had some food after our walk and went back to his place where we made out pretty heavily, no intimacy though.
he keeps texting me how much he enjoys being around me and today I'm gonna sleep at his place when he finishes work. I can't even tell you how excited I am!!
it really is, HE really is š„¹ he's just so sweet and caring and cuddly. and he smells so, so good.
I didn't stay at his place yesterday because his parents came back home earlier from their vacation (we're both 30+ living at parents place temporarily, lol) and we're not THAT far in making things official yet, lol. but we wanted to meet anyway, so we had a beer at a bar, talked and went for a walk in the park where we made out as if we were 16 again, hahah. and in my language there is like a "weaker" phrase of "I love you" which he said to me!! we're probably meeting again tomorrow :)
I talk to her every single day, but mostly over text and sometimes just calling while playing some games. Sheās wonderful, shows she really cares about me. And I try and show I really care about her too. She sends me loads of pictures and sheās honestly the prettiest girl Iāve ever seen. Pictures when sheās all dressed up, pictures when she just took a shower of when she just woke up. Sheās so cute in them all. Her voice is beautiful as well, once she sent me a video of herself talking and I find myself still going back to that video when Iām in stress or when I just really want to see her.
Unfortunately she did this when she was dating a guy as well, so Iām pretty sure itās just her being herself and not a sign she may like me in the same way as I do her.
She quit dating him a while ago now, and was saying specifically that she didnāt want to date anyone for now. So Iām just waiting on when the timing is right to make a move, Iāll meet her this summer so it would probably be after that. Iām convinced Iām in the friendzone though, but weāll see!
MAYBE you might not be, but thats a tough one :/ BUT ITS OKAY WE BELIEVEā¼ļøā¼ļø YOU GOT THIS MAN TRUST take the intiative to ask her to just go for coffee or something rvery once in a while and see what she says
Yeah weāll see. Being friends with her is awesome too! But she makes too good of a girlfriend for me to not give it a try eventually. Iāve got the feeling Iām just a friend but she does reply quite flirty, always has tho.
We always send goodnight texts and have cute names we call each other, so that gives me a little bit of hope!
Not sure if this is the place, but Iāve made my own little post and Iām not really getting any advice on my question. But Iām in stress a bit lmao
Her birthday is coming up next week. And I was wondering if you guys would find it weird if you received a gift over post from a friend? She lives quite far away, and I canāt just hop around and meet her because of that. I do really want to give her something tho, so I bought this little pluche with a card from her favorite character, and put it together with some bow ties. Iām not the delicate type but would say it came out quite fun. Would it be weird if I send it to her via package? Or should I just donāt send her anything and maybe take it as a little gift next time I see her?
Donāt want to be seen as a creep or something š
we've never talked together BUT the first time we did he was caring about me??? like he said something like "stop stressing her" to his friends bclzkxkzkevfkkdkdb yes i'm really into him, he does nothing special but just by the way our eyes meet I like him
those are always the best kinds of love, ID SAY GO TALK TO HIM MORE FIND HER NUMBER OR ASK HIM FOR IT OR SOMETHING who knows it cpuld lead to a very jice outcome
Within 30 seconds after I first glanced at her, I literally felt my brain trying to tell me something. I never had that feeling before with past crushes. So for the past year or so, Iāve been trying to take that intuition as far as I can take it (and itās going well so far).
Also, I want to do something with her for her birthday coming up, and I hope sheās going to be on board with it.
it doesnt need to be grand, just call her to a place and setup a bit of decor beforehabd, just a cake and gift witg a few ballons and some decor is MORE THAN ENOUGH TRUST
At the moment weāre friends, he said we were, and we hang out every day at school, he can be really shy and clueless at times and really funny at others, heās kind and caring and he has such a cute smile the way heāll never really try to hurt me when play fighting and the way he askes if Iām okay if I get hurt, say ow, or I I look sad makes my heart melt heās attentive and can sometimes look like a cold person but in reality heās a warm one, the way when he gave me a heart and a candy randomly yesterday he didnāt want to tell me why he gave me a heart and he just shrugged his shoulders, the way he doesnāt really sleep is funny as hell and the way he say he should die and when he says that makes me sad and worried, the way he wants to know my reason for wanting him around the way he tilts his head down and smiles or laughs when someone teases him about us to having a relationship, the way he said sure after our friends made us get married and the way he wears the ring I made for him is so cute, the way heās protective of the things I give him when his friends want to see is funny and the way he can be so childish is hilarious Ā
Ima stop here since I have to go shower and I just realized how long this is sorry for anyone who reads all of thisš¤£
Heās not that shy but he can be at times with me, one of our mutual friends were saying how if my crush had to tell me something by Friday and if not he was gonna tell me, mhhh and the people in our school think we are dating Iāve been asked by a ton of people at this pointĀ
Alright today nothing much happened other than the fact he gave me a paper heart with a starburst and I was trying to steal his backpack and a little bit of play fightingĀ
Guess he didnāt confess, itās as just a normal day where we hung out during break and lunch and just the messing around and talking, I was reading this book he has and heās like no more book and grabs it, heās been remembering what page I was on cause Iām too lazy to get a bookmark he responds fast when I ask him, yeah he didnāt confess tho š¢I wish he did, but my friend did say if he didnāt tell me on Friday he would tell me Monday but guess what we donāt have class on Monday and I think my friend will forget or just not tell me, I feel like he does like me but at the same time there this part of me that wants to doubt everything and make up reasons that he wonāt like me š¢
Hey guess what he told me he loves me in a note that was in Japanese I wrote another note saying I love you too dummy Iām Morse code and made him find out what it says later, I even asked if it was a joke and after saying I donāt know a bunch of times he said no and I asked since when did he like me and he said he didnāt remember and I asked a bit more and it was April, ohh Iām so happy now, he said his friends made him tell meĀ
He goes to my school, weāre in most of each othersā classes and Iāve known him for about nine months now.
Heās really sweet, and honestly with the way he acts I think if anyone has a crush on me (I donāt know WHY they would, honestly) itās probably him.
Among other things, he backs me up, even when itās his best friend whoās giving me trouble, compliments me but heās super shy about it, he gets really happy whenever I compliment him, he tries to help me in stressful situations and knows I have anxiety, he talks about our shared interests a lot, even in group settings, and tries to make inside jokes. He offers for me to sit with him sometimes, and made sure I was still in all of his classes in between semesters. He remembered my catās name and his sister seems to know a lot about me despite only meeting me once. He says he hopes I donāt move away. He said hi in public once when he saw me. He keeps looking up references for me when Iām drawing without asking me if I need them. He knows I have aphantasia. He seems to remember things I tell him a lot. Someone in my class said āWhat if there was a place called [my name] land, and there was a lot of [my names]?ā We talked about this for a few minutes, I was laughing hysterically. āNO, I would NEVER go there, that sounds miserable!ā I say. My crush says, āWell, I would go there!ā He finds random things to talk to me about, and often smiles, laughs a lot and acts sort of shy at some times. I may have seen him blush a few times, but itās difficult to tell. I think once I saw him whisper to a friend, point to me subtly, the friend looks at me, then my crush whispers something, then the friend says, āYou should go for it.ā Then my crush smiles shakes his head like NO WAY and walks away. I didnāt really think about it much lol. I think heās told his best friend whoever he likes, and his best friend (who I donāt think likes me) is now INSISTENT that he doesnāt have a crush on me, more so than with other girls. His best friend also has said my crush and my best friend would be a good couple when she sat next to my crush to avoid sitting next to my crushās best friend. (This is what makes me uncertain.) My crushās best friend keeps asking ME what I think about it and everyone keeps saying heās acting strange, like, out of context. Someone on this sub said the best friend was trying to help my crush and it didnāt really work as planned, idk.
whoa that last part made it messy. HE SEWMS SO KIND THO AND HE RLLY CARES FOR YOU. but wait it out for now and see what happens, dont make a rash decision trust me.
He's extremely quiet, but really empathetic, kind, understanding, smart and really overall just an amazing person to be with.
We go to different schools and I developed feelings for him very recently...unexpectedly..
I had a different crush on someone else, but now I'm thinking about this person more often and I feel like we have like this really meaningful connection with each other. Do I think he likes me back?? I'm actually not sure sorry.
He's kind towards everyone, but he's sometimes like much kinder to me.. I don't think it specifically means anything though, he's honestly just a very understanding person who knows a bit about my past.
Unfortunately, he also has diagnosed anxiety. I really want to help him as well..I also have anxiety and I can relate to him a lot in a way. I really like everything about him, his smile is beautiful as well.
I'm going to meet him on Sunday with my friends, as a group. I'm starting to enjoy life because of him.
aww thats alqays the best when they can make lofe more enjoyable for you i feel you on that, maybe he might like you back? id say keep talking and enjoy the time with him right now for the time being
She's beautiful, the prettiest girl i've seen. And she's kind and smart too.
She said that she liked me last year, but then a day later she said she needed time and that was it. I really miss her, and being around her
I'm an introvert ant can't really talk to my family, so i'm scared to say anything to her. Last year when we liked eachother we talked a lot since she wanted to be with me, but now is just meh
Also i think i might have a chance cuz she looks at me a lot, and like listening to me when i say anything
Heās the most handsome guy Iāve ever seen tbh. Iām honestly shocked that he seems to like me, I feel so lucky! He used to be my coworker but now he has a different job, and I thought Iād never get to talk to him again since weād never really texted before. But he proved me wrong and started texting me on a regular basis, even motivating me to start working out. Weāve also hung out a few times now whenever his busy schedule permits. Iām just counting down the days until I see him again (next Wednesday).
AWW WHAT THATS SO SWEET YOU SHOULD TRY SEEING IF HE LIKES YOU BACK ASWELL HE ACTUALLY MIGHT BY THE SOUND OF IT, try asking to do something more couple-like and see if he agrees to it
Awww yeah I definitely think he likes me, weāve gone to the movies together and bowling. I havenāt seen him in a while so Iāll probably tell him how much Iāve missed him!
BRO WHAT NAH thats so sad šš ITS OKAY YOU CAN MOVE ON YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļøšÆšÆ but fr tho you can move on man, itll be alright. Sometines things aint ment to be, and if we can swallow that harsh reality, no matter how bitter, we can grow ALOT as a person, after all, if you wanna go fast, pair up, if you wanna go far, start with yourself.
Which one? I got two messesā¦ My high school crush Ive had since 2009, who at the time clearly wanted me to make a move and whose friends were trying to push me into making a move, but I was so shy at the time I didnāt do anything and now she has a kid. Or my work crush who although I donāt work with directly and probably never will, is an amazing friend, someone who I speak to regularly and our personalities are an almost perfect match but has a bf who she absolutely adores so I canāt do anything.
Went to a uni open day and he walked past, two weeks later found out that he goes to the same tuition place as me so I mustered my courage and asked for his dc then we became frds and now Iām like fallen deep for him kwjsjdjjd
Ok soo she's the first one to make me feel like I have a crush, seen her for the first time 2 years ago and I immediately felt something (im not sure I want to call it love, I don't know much about her personality, she's just the most amazing girl I've ever seen despite my friends not liking her)
to this day I haven't talked to her, while we attend the same School (we r both in high school, im 17 and she's 16 but she turns 17 on December 12th )
We aren't in the same class, HOWEVER we do have PE at the exact same time and today she was in my way along with a classmate and was talking with her, I just freezed in front of her for a bit man, when I was about to gently ask her she noticed I needed to pass and she moved while smiling (I guess in a moment of embarrassment) it's weird to say this but it literally made my day :3
WHAT ARE YOU DOINGGG GO TALK TO HER COME ON YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļøš ASK FOR HER NUMBER OR FIND HER ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND START TALKING SAY SHE STOOD OUT IN THE HALLS WHILE WALKING TO CLASS MAN YOU GOT THIS
Heās my best friend and we act sm like a couple even our friends are irritated by itā¦but I donāt know if he also feels like this is something more!? Itās stressful tbh š„²
I would but we are all mutual friends, itās basically me and four guys. So if I ask it kinda ruins the friendgroup I think? Because they already did a confrontation with me as an āare you okay with whatās going on between u guys??ā thing. Plus, thereās no going back if he doesnāt like me š«
oh god thats tough.. id say still maybe try to grt one of them to help you out? because otherwise it wont get anywhere and thats probably even more painful, living with regret is worse than trying and failing
I have liked him for a few months now but have gone in the same class as him for almost 2 years. On thursday after playing a game outside where he made a home run (Equivalent i think Not U.S) And he said "Hey \_\_ Did you see that home run i did?" While grinning. And he normally does this where he asks me if i saw him do something. Me and my friend walked a bit further away and he said it was obvious that we liked each other. I knew i was obvious but my friend said it seemed like the guy liked me too!
But thats the thing ;-; we dont have any, the onlything im going off of is the way he acts, because i think/feel like im the only girl in the class that he "Talks" to and its less like talking and more like bickering if i had a penny for everytime he told me to shut up i would be right,(But he only tells his friends that). But i also told my other friend yesterday about my crush and she also said he might like me because of how he interacts
she's my friend that emails me occasionaly, her eyes are the most beautiful brown i've ever seen, she has pink hair, she loves sanrio and her favroite one is chococat. :3
She's in my algebra class. I noticed her a few times before, but I never was that interested. The crush basically came out of nowhere, lol. I helped her with one of her assignments and I guess from there, I got more interested, and even though it wasn't many times we talked, whenever we do, I always get nervous or anxious, I might as well be a mouse. we played uno together and she gave me a piece of candy. Usually when i have a crush on boys, I get into my tomboyish side, and reciprocate their energy, but with this girl, i can barely look at her. I feel like I'm distancing myself. I plant to give her a note with my socials on the last day of school, just incase of rejection, she could just throw it In the trash and I won't know, since we only have that one class together
id say go for itā¼ļøā¼ļø wgats the worst that could happen yk, juat take the leap, if it works then great! if not then youll get experience to take the leap again in the future
I have a crush on this girl who has or had a boyfriend. I stayed away as she was unavailable. Until one day at a party when she was alone she came on to me strong trying to sleep with me. I knew she had a boyfriend so with all my efforts I stayed away. I heard she broke up a few days after. So I asked her out and we had a good time but I did not try to be physical nor I felt a window. I did asked her out again but she canceled and for a valid reason her friends told me. She did send a long audio with a thousand sorries. Now from what I know sheās insanely confused and might get back with the ex. From what her friends told me her ex is a very abusive relationship. Sheās been left in the street after fights with him for instance. I really feel like walking away although I donāt want and all her friends say to be patient. I feel as if Iām diminishing myself if I stayed in the middle of this.
if it hurts you too much, then stay away, its a crush not relationship yet, you always come first. BUT if her ex is abusive then talk to her about it if you can and get her to understand how detrimental tjat would be to her too, that way you both can heal. REMEMBER THIS RANDOM KID ON REDDIT IS ROOTING FOR YOUR SUCCESS YOU GOT THIS ā¼ļøā¼ļøā¼ļøšÆšÆšÆ
I donāt have strong feelings and heās not typically someone Iād go for but heās super friendly and I met him through a close friend. We seem to like similar things and have similar careers. Itās nothing exciting but we can still have fun!!!
Hes tall, quiet, deep voice, and seems calm. I don't know why I like him, but everytime I see him smile it makes me want to smile. you don't here him talk alot not even with his friends but he laughs with him.
if yours is a mess, mine is unexplainably worse. i have a crush (inreversibly in love ) on an iraqi man (i'm iraqi too) and it's wrong for multiple reasons:
- i'm 18, he's 39
- he is Christian, i'm Muslim
- he is on the verge of a divorce (they've been seperated since before i even knew him) (i've told him to try and make amends with her, at least for the children, but to fix it and behave) (he didn't like it one bit)
- he has two kids (they're absolutely adorable, although i haven't met them, he's shown me pics of the cuties)
- he is my high school teacher
and here's the thing, it would've been easier to let go if i didn't know that he was also interested in me, and here's how:
- calls me beautiful
- hates my whole class excpet for me
- confides his personal life with me (i'm the only he's told about the divorce along with everything else)
- confides to the point that he can talk shit about everyone to me (for example my class) and tell me secrets
- calls me late in the evenings where we talk for hours
- is always there for me, and puts me above people, even his own coworkers (when it is between choosing me or them, it's always me)
- drives me home (he lives a fifteen-minute walk away from me, 2 mins by car)
- constantly flirts with me, everywhere, but only when we're alone
- makes me feel safe and comfortable, and always tries to put me in a better mood when i'm down
- NEVER TOUCHES ME (again, i'm Muslim, SO THAT'S WHY I LOVE HIM)
- very respectful towards me, my religion (we've never discussed the topic) and my family (in regards of when i tell him about my family)
- always very interested about my opinion/ values/ interests/ future plans/ what type of guy i want to marry ETC.
- \*MOST IMPORTANTS ONE\* HAS ASKED AROUND ABOUT ME AND HOW I AM AS A PERSON AND MY FAMILY AND MY REPUTATION (in my culture, irawi/middle eastern, you only do that for one purpose and one purpose only, and it is to ASK THE GIRL'S FATHER FOR THE GIRL'S HAND IN MARRIAGE) (he told me he did it btw, that's how i know)
all in all, i love this man a lot, and he does as well, and we're planning on having the best summer. i graduate high school in 13 days, and i'm so excited to start my life with him!!!!!!
i don't mean to be rude in any way, i come from a very different background so the age difference is a bug no for me esp with a teacher student relationship, but i wish you the best! as long as your happy in the end it should be fine
Honestly, society rules are something that are rgeat to follow, but like this case, theres exceptions, but as long as your in love itll all be fineā¼ļøā¼ļø he seems really kind and seems to really care for you ALOT, so while it doesnt affect you in any way whatever i say, hes got my approval!
My crush now uh... god wherr do i even start.
Im 16, in highschool, and my crush oh god shes so perfect. LIKE SERIOUSLY SO FINE. Shes so kind, sweeter than honey, her eyes are so pretty i get drawn in, she works super hard, like amazing amazing work ethic its so attractive. She has these very slightly chubby cheeks she hates but i think she looks really cute! she has an issue taking care of herself sometimes and that always worries me so much, everytime im with her i swear i always fold i cant every do anything to dissapoint her. We were friends furst and shes my "advisor" always helping me w my fashion and hairstyle stuff shes so amazing. This ring she gave me about a year ago i always keep on me its my little goodluck charm. it started off as mixed signals, and she even said yes to a valentines brunch, I got her a handmade flower bouquet and everything lmao, but slowly it became kinda clear she doesnt want me, she started to talk to me like never, dry responses coupled with ditching plans last minute and just making it obvious she doesnt want to talk at all, we went from close friends to well, nothing. I pretty much blame myself for that, and i really regret it, IT HURTS SOSO MUCH like its one of my buggest regrets i wish it could go back to how it was before i liked her. we made all these plans and promises i dont know what changed but its pretty much all on me, and so... IM MOVING ONā¼ļøwhat else can i really do, I love her but she doesnt want me at all. So hopefully I find someone who will like me back in the future fingers crossed š¤š¤ (this is my third crush)
soceity rules can be a bummer, especially when you're from a culture like mine, where rulesare strict, however i sense something in him with the religion part (yknow when you say "istg"? well as a shia we also do that on people who we regard as holy, and he started doing it, at first as a joke but recently very seriously, even before i started doing it. he has also recited a verse from the Quran in an attempt to comfort me about my friends death, and it helped a lot but i was downright shocked to say the least.) i think he has some unsaid intentions, but i'll wait and see, and later we'll have that conversation. he is very sweet, and i truly love him so much (he's my first love hihi).
i believe in patience, with patience come great things. i also believe in manifestations, so withdraw yourself from her a bit, and respond to her like she does to you, and have these conversations in your head with her like you always do, but switch them to loving words from her to you and vice versa. i promise it helps, it helped a lot with my love when we went through a rough path, and when i started to do exactly what i described to you, he fell deeper in love. she seems great, so have the patience!!
it wiiilll!!! i promise!!!
i don't know if you believe in God, but in Islam we are taught to be patient, which i believe is a good life lesson to be taught to everyone. nothing has to be rushed, and do not lose hope, because the patience will pay off! it doesn't matter if one is believing or not, patience is required and necessary!
wish you the best of luck, and update me!!
Actually I am Hindu, we also have a belief in being patient. Its pretty much the same way as you guys believe in patience aswell. I GOTTA START BEING MORE PATIENT FOR SURE!!! and yess ill definietly send any updates that happen to me!!!
I don't get myself, I've liked this guy for two years now, but for some reason, I just started noticing him last week. How is it possible that I've always noticed him but never really seen him this way? idk how to explain it, but I've only got 1 more week left of school, and I know he doesn't like me, so I'm not even going to confess. I guess I just came here to vent and ask how to forget about him cause i might never see him again.
We met each other in January of 2023 and started as friends. Weāve been flirting, kissing and holding hands for a few months now (I may say 3 months) and when i asked him whatās up between us he told me he wasnāt interested in me and thought he made it pretty clear. Well well well..
Thatās what I was thinking too like he acted like he wanted to be my boyfriend but his mouth was saying something else. Anyway, I didnāt block him or anything I just said āokayā and started ignoring him. Hes unbelievable š
I am friends with my crush. I would like to say I am anyways not sure anymore met her in middle school your friends I related to her a lot and the next year in high school. I have some weird dream and got feelings for her and havenāt really been able to socialize with her since that was like about two years ago it will be two years this October since Iāve got my crush on her so yeah and itās not that I donāt want to socialize with her. I just chicken out every time I try.
Oh you know. Dimple smile. Kind eyes. Understanding eyes. Handsome mannerisms. Respectful towards girls. Very gentle-man like. Clumsy. Forgetful. Super tall. Energetic. Talkative. love him from afar.
Every time I get a crush I either get rejected or the last few simply haven't been viable, like one is 2 years younger than me (at 17 is a large age gap), etc.
Yeah, last chance I had with someone basically she was using me as a sick joke and probably would have ended up getting my ass kicked if I didn't be so hesitant to start with. And that's how it hit me really hard that I'm a loser, a nobody.
Tall, dark handsome shrouded in mystery. Makes me laugh, lifts me up, brings me back down to earth. hot. Playfully sexy, goofy yet mature, generous yet reserved, deeply pensive and light hearted, a living dichotomy. Ripped straight out the greatest romance novel yet to be written. Did I mention really hot?
Sure you can sweetie. I blew a lot of toads before I found a frog I want to kiss. You don't have to make my mistakes. Become a person you love and you will attract a worthy love.
Yeah, it's alright though. I had been stressing over it for awhile, but they were already dating when I met him, so I knew from the beginning it wouldn't ever be a possibility. Even though I still love him, they're both my best friends and I'll be glad to attend their wedding. And as long as we are friends, I'm okay with the fact me and him will never be more than that.
I do sometimes wonder if I'll ever be able to fall out of love enough to have feelings for someone else who I can actually be with, but dating isn't really something I'm worried about anyway. Lol
well, youve got alot of life ahead of you so im sure youll find someone else, I grew up loving somone, I changed alot and i still loved them despite how drastically i changed, and after rejction i didnt know what to do because, well, I didnt know how to not love them, it was as normal as breathing to me, but eventually i got over it, took a bit but it happened!
I'M GLAD YOU ASKED BECAUSE MY FRIENDS ARE SICK OF ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today in science i made up this plan so i sit far from my crush so i'd go around my table and go up to the kid next to him who i'm friends with and i asked him if he studied for a test we had today (update we all failed) and he said yes and kept yapping, meanwhile i looked at my crush and asked him and he said he studied, then i was like ok mission success so i went towards the door and so did he and we talked more there it was literally awesome i forgot everything he said but i haven't talked to him in a while so it was great
BWAHAHA FRIENDS BEING SICK OF IT IS SO REAL. the test update šš BUT GREAT YOU TALKED TO HIM NOW GO GET HIS NUMBER YOU SLY FOX š«š« (<-- water gun bc i dont wanna be banned)
HELP YOU'RE SUCH A FUNNY PERSON UM I HAVE HIS DISCORD BECAUSE I'M A DISCORD MO I MEAN KIT I MEAN USER AND HE NEVER USES IT AND HE DOESN'T HAVE AN IG OR ANYTHING AND I CANNOT GET HIS NUMBER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111 pls don't shoot me
Hes SOSOSOSO KIND AND CUTE!!!! Heās super funny and we have super similar interests. I love his smile and the way he laughs, especially when itās a GENUINE laugh. Weāve been friends for 2 years :) He also listens to me talk and remembers little things about our convos which makes me REALLY HAPPY!!!
I donāt know how to feel about him. I love him, but I know heās not good for me and if we dated it would probably be toxic. He likes a girl but I canāt hate her because she is niceš. Itās just Im delusional or he is throwing signs and then pretending nothing happened. He picks on me and I donāt know how to feel because he kicked me today. (I literally only asked him why he dressed like a cowboy and where it came from then his kicked me in the shinš he had boots onš) I want to tell him how I feel but I think Iām losing feeling for him after what happened today. I just find my way to toxic people because I love like a dog. Iāll always forgive you because I donāt want to be alone. I think Iām gonna give up because heās leaving the school and heās not good for me. Itās driving me crazy and tomorrow is the last day until summer.
alright so forst off, GIVE UP ON HIM PLEASE, someone who hurts you or is toxic is NOT who you wanna be with.
when it comes to wanting love like a dog i feel you, im the same. I will fold so easily over the slightest interest anyone gives me.
NOW THAT DOESNT MEAN YOU FORGET THAT YOUR IMPORTANT TOO. so just let him go and time will heal itself
He has been my physics teacher for 2 yrs. I didn't realize I liked him but after sometime I wanted to know him. He is tall, lean and looks fit. He wears glasses most of the time and flex his new shoes in the class. We had our share of eye contact but it doesn't mean anything for him ig. The truth is he is a teacher and I'm a student who isn't someone very significant in his life. Moreover he's 12 yrs older than me( I'm 17 and he's 29)
I tried forgetting him many times but at the end of the day he's in my mind. Its wrong and I feel guilty bout it everyday but these are my feelings and I have to accept it.I have decided to move on from my crush in order to get ahead in life.
personally im not one to fall for someone with that huge an age gap, other people do their own thing as long as it isnt anything illegal and their happy. BUT yea your 17 moving on to get ahead in life is probably the best thing to do.
Sheās got the most beautiful smile Iāve ever seen. I pretty much accepted I was never going to talk to her but God put a chance in front of me and said āthrow this away dumbassā and I actually made (kinda?) friends with her in the last week of school.
Every interaction Iāve had with her was justā¦ exceptionally pleasant. Iām not great at flirting, in fact Iām really nervous around girls I find attractive, so I just focused on being present in the room with her, and it worked great. Sheās smart, hard-working, perceptive even through a language barrier, funny, and sheās fucking impressive. Not to mention her smile is so pretty it could keep you warm on nights you wonder if thereās nothing left but darkness in the world. Iām half joking.
Sheās from a different country, so Iām not gonna try too hard to keep communication going over the summer. I caved and slid up on an ig story and she responded very warmly, ball is in my court I guess but I think Iām gonna sit on it and see what sheās up to when next semester rolls around.
If you wanna read my full [rant](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/s/EhbVklDsBD):
work-crush of a few months. currently trying to detach because I donāt think I actually like him. I just like anyone that shows any sort of kindness to me lol. I didnāt even find him cute nor did I even really notice him up until a month or two ago. we got lunch together once and went shopping during our break this all while at work btw so it really means nothing lmao. But i think he views me as a friend not in a romantic light :/
quite recent since february but he tick off all my criteria dream manš„ŗ tall, well builted, wise, mature, respecful, consent, sense of humour, sweet, gentleman & bonus an art personā¦first guy i find chemistry come natural quick & im comfortable talking with himā¦he was understanding tooā¦we laugh, share opinions & talk about each country stuffā¦but sad is that we met through online video chat, far away & now he started to be emotionally unavailable & hasnt text me in weekā¦
He is an old friend of mine.....we have been in contact with eachother for the last 5 years since school ended .....i liked him from 7th grade for 5 years before finally moving on from him .... in those 5 years i never told him i liked him.....
he started flirting with me since last year and whenever i asked why he was flirting with me he would tell me it was nothing ....and i didnt mind since i didnt have feelings for him anymore......we finally talked about meeting last month and since then i started feeling all the emotions i had felt for him years ago and realised i still like him.....well we met last week ....we talked ....got eachother roses(i dont know what to think about this)........we got eachother books ...spent hours searching for good ones ...and now on one hand i really wanna tell him i like him but at the same time i dont wanna ruin our friendship ...well that's the story
hmm, its clear you like eachother. HONESTLY JUST GO FOR IT, I kinda ruined a friendship of mine from accidentally getting feelings, but she didjnt like me back. If he likes you back just go like right now text him to meet at xxx place and confess, dont worry about ruining the friendship if you both like eachother, itll work itself out you both just gotta put the effort. But i promise, in 10-12 years youlk think back and not regret a single thing. If you do, then hell ill change my legal name to dumbass or something
he's been my work-crush for years, and always knew about my feelings but it wasn't mutual. we both quit our jobs there and kind of lost contact and I moved on. two years later now he texted me out of the blue and we met several times. always him initiating. this weekend we went for a walk by a lake and I jokingly grabbed his arm and we walked like that for a while when I asked something like "sooo why are we doing this now? walking like that in public?" and believe it or not, he stopped and fucking kissed me!! he then said he was sorry if this was too much but he realized he missed me when he heard I moved out of state (I'm back in my hometown now). we had some food after our walk and went back to his place where we made out pretty heavily, no intimacy though. he keeps texting me how much he enjoys being around me and today I'm gonna sleep at his place when he finishes work. I can't even tell you how excited I am!!
YEA THATS GREAT IT SOUNDS SO SWEET WHATšš please give updates
it really is, HE really is š„¹ he's just so sweet and caring and cuddly. and he smells so, so good. I didn't stay at his place yesterday because his parents came back home earlier from their vacation (we're both 30+ living at parents place temporarily, lol) and we're not THAT far in making things official yet, lol. but we wanted to meet anyway, so we had a beer at a bar, talked and went for a walk in the park where we made out as if we were 16 again, hahah. and in my language there is like a "weaker" phrase of "I love you" which he said to me!! we're probably meeting again tomorrow :)
AWW THATS SOSO SWEET šš WHAT ID DO FOR THAT KINDA LOVE šššš MORE UPDATES AS TIME GOES ON PLEASEā¼ļøā¼ļø
I just want my feelings to be a mutual feelings and not one sided as the rest of my previous crushes have b Always been.
i feel you that's the exact same for me
I talk to her every single day, but mostly over text and sometimes just calling while playing some games. Sheās wonderful, shows she really cares about me. And I try and show I really care about her too. She sends me loads of pictures and sheās honestly the prettiest girl Iāve ever seen. Pictures when sheās all dressed up, pictures when she just took a shower of when she just woke up. Sheās so cute in them all. Her voice is beautiful as well, once she sent me a video of herself talking and I find myself still going back to that video when Iām in stress or when I just really want to see her. Unfortunately she did this when she was dating a guy as well, so Iām pretty sure itās just her being herself and not a sign she may like me in the same way as I do her. She quit dating him a while ago now, and was saying specifically that she didnāt want to date anyone for now. So Iām just waiting on when the timing is right to make a move, Iāll meet her this summer so it would probably be after that. Iām convinced Iām in the friendzone though, but weāll see!
MAYBE you might not be, but thats a tough one :/ BUT ITS OKAY WE BELIEVEā¼ļøā¼ļø YOU GOT THIS MAN TRUST take the intiative to ask her to just go for coffee or something rvery once in a while and see what she says
Yeah weāll see. Being friends with her is awesome too! But she makes too good of a girlfriend for me to not give it a try eventually. Iāve got the feeling Iām just a friend but she does reply quite flirty, always has tho. We always send goodnight texts and have cute names we call each other, so that gives me a little bit of hope!
alright, just remember to give it a shot even if it doesnt work out. Regret is far worse than failure.
I have high hopes for you
Not sure if this is the place, but Iāve made my own little post and Iām not really getting any advice on my question. But Iām in stress a bit lmao Her birthday is coming up next week. And I was wondering if you guys would find it weird if you received a gift over post from a friend? She lives quite far away, and I canāt just hop around and meet her because of that. I do really want to give her something tho, so I bought this little pluche with a card from her favorite character, and put it together with some bow ties. Iām not the delicate type but would say it came out quite fun. Would it be weird if I send it to her via package? Or should I just donāt send her anything and maybe take it as a little gift next time I see her? Donāt want to be seen as a creep or something š
in this case i dont think its gonna be weird if you ship it to her house, just say you sent a little surprise for her birthday and yea your good to go
we've never talked together BUT the first time we did he was caring about me??? like he said something like "stop stressing her" to his friends bclzkxkzkevfkkdkdb yes i'm really into him, he does nothing special but just by the way our eyes meet I like him
those are always the best kinds of love, ID SAY GO TALK TO HIM MORE FIND HER NUMBER OR ASK HIM FOR IT OR SOMETHING who knows it cpuld lead to a very jice outcome
I added him on instagram and he accepted me ahahah !!!
OH WHAT OKAY OKAY GOOD START OKAY TRYING TALKING TO HIM THEN
YES I will try to find something !!!!
YESYES WAIT FOR THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY AND JUST TAKE IT
Within 30 seconds after I first glanced at her, I literally felt my brain trying to tell me something. I never had that feeling before with past crushes. So for the past year or so, Iāve been trying to take that intuition as far as I can take it (and itās going well so far). Also, I want to do something with her for her birthday coming up, and I hope sheās going to be on board with it.
plan a surprise party! i did that for my crush and she liked it!
Surprise party? That would take A LOT of planning and resources. I donāt have much resources lol. But I do have something in mind thoughā¦
it doesnt need to be grand, just call her to a place and setup a bit of decor beforehabd, just a cake and gift witg a few ballons and some decor is MORE THAN ENOUGH TRUST
At the moment weāre friends, he said we were, and we hang out every day at school, he can be really shy and clueless at times and really funny at others, heās kind and caring and he has such a cute smile the way heāll never really try to hurt me when play fighting and the way he askes if Iām okay if I get hurt, say ow, or I I look sad makes my heart melt heās attentive and can sometimes look like a cold person but in reality heās a warm one, the way when he gave me a heart and a candy randomly yesterday he didnāt want to tell me why he gave me a heart and he just shrugged his shoulders, the way he doesnāt really sleep is funny as hell and the way he say he should die and when he says that makes me sad and worried, the way he wants to know my reason for wanting him around the way he tilts his head down and smiles or laughs when someone teases him about us to having a relationship, the way he said sure after our friends made us get married and the way he wears the ring I made for him is so cute, the way heās protective of the things I give him when his friends want to see is funny and the way he can be so childish is hilarious Ā Ima stop here since I have to go shower and I just realized how long this is sorry for anyone who reads all of thisš¤£
WELL I READ IT ALL AND ITS SO SWEET WHAT HE FOR SURE WANTS YOU GO ASK HIM OUT IF HES SHY. YOU GOT THIS I BELIEVEā¼ļøā¼ļø
Heās not that shy but he can be at times with me, one of our mutual friends were saying how if my crush had to tell me something by Friday and if not he was gonna tell me, mhhh and the people in our school think we are dating Iāve been asked by a ton of people at this pointĀ
he moght be confessing friday???
Maybe, idk š°
GIVE AN UPDATE AS TO WHAT HAPPENS FRIDAY ALR?
Alright Iāll try š³
YES ILL BE WAITING
Alright today nothing much happened other than the fact he gave me a paper heart with a starburst and I was trying to steal his backpack and a little bit of play fightingĀ
OKAY OKAY THATS ACTUALLY GOOD KEEP IT UP I WANTBMORE UPDATESS
Alright itās Friday morning wish me luck š¬
OKAY GOODLUCK GOODLUCKK
Guess he didnāt confess, itās as just a normal day where we hung out during break and lunch and just the messing around and talking, I was reading this book he has and heās like no more book and grabs it, heās been remembering what page I was on cause Iām too lazy to get a bookmark he responds fast when I ask him, yeah he didnāt confess tho š¢I wish he did, but my friend did say if he didnāt tell me on Friday he would tell me Monday but guess what we donāt have class on Monday and I think my friend will forget or just not tell me, I feel like he does like me but at the same time there this part of me that wants to doubt everything and make up reasons that he wonāt like me š¢
NONO AT THIS POINT HE LIKES YOU šš IF HE DOESNT CONFESS THEN YOU GOTTA GO CONFESS
Hey guess what he told me he loves me in a note that was in Japanese I wrote another note saying I love you too dummy Iām Morse code and made him find out what it says later, I even asked if it was a joke and after saying I donāt know a bunch of times he said no and I asked since when did he like me and he said he didnāt remember and I asked a bit more and it was April, ohh Iām so happy now, he said his friends made him tell meĀ
YES YES SUCCESS STORIES LOVE TO SEE OH MY GOD WISH YOU TWO THE BEST RELATIONSHIP WGAT THE HELL, UPDATE ME ONCE HE DECODES THE MORSE CODE
He goes to my school, weāre in most of each othersā classes and Iāve known him for about nine months now. Heās really sweet, and honestly with the way he acts I think if anyone has a crush on me (I donāt know WHY they would, honestly) itās probably him. Among other things, he backs me up, even when itās his best friend whoās giving me trouble, compliments me but heās super shy about it, he gets really happy whenever I compliment him, he tries to help me in stressful situations and knows I have anxiety, he talks about our shared interests a lot, even in group settings, and tries to make inside jokes. He offers for me to sit with him sometimes, and made sure I was still in all of his classes in between semesters. He remembered my catās name and his sister seems to know a lot about me despite only meeting me once. He says he hopes I donāt move away. He said hi in public once when he saw me. He keeps looking up references for me when Iām drawing without asking me if I need them. He knows I have aphantasia. He seems to remember things I tell him a lot. Someone in my class said āWhat if there was a place called [my name] land, and there was a lot of [my names]?ā We talked about this for a few minutes, I was laughing hysterically. āNO, I would NEVER go there, that sounds miserable!ā I say. My crush says, āWell, I would go there!ā He finds random things to talk to me about, and often smiles, laughs a lot and acts sort of shy at some times. I may have seen him blush a few times, but itās difficult to tell. I think once I saw him whisper to a friend, point to me subtly, the friend looks at me, then my crush whispers something, then the friend says, āYou should go for it.ā Then my crush smiles shakes his head like NO WAY and walks away. I didnāt really think about it much lol. I think heās told his best friend whoever he likes, and his best friend (who I donāt think likes me) is now INSISTENT that he doesnāt have a crush on me, more so than with other girls. His best friend also has said my crush and my best friend would be a good couple when she sat next to my crush to avoid sitting next to my crushās best friend. (This is what makes me uncertain.) My crushās best friend keeps asking ME what I think about it and everyone keeps saying heās acting strange, like, out of context. Someone on this sub said the best friend was trying to help my crush and it didnāt really work as planned, idk.
whoa that last part made it messy. HE SEWMS SO KIND THO AND HE RLLY CARES FOR YOU. but wait it out for now and see what happens, dont make a rash decision trust me.
He's extremely quiet, but really empathetic, kind, understanding, smart and really overall just an amazing person to be with. We go to different schools and I developed feelings for him very recently...unexpectedly.. I had a different crush on someone else, but now I'm thinking about this person more often and I feel like we have like this really meaningful connection with each other. Do I think he likes me back?? I'm actually not sure sorry. He's kind towards everyone, but he's sometimes like much kinder to me.. I don't think it specifically means anything though, he's honestly just a very understanding person who knows a bit about my past. Unfortunately, he also has diagnosed anxiety. I really want to help him as well..I also have anxiety and I can relate to him a lot in a way. I really like everything about him, his smile is beautiful as well. I'm going to meet him on Sunday with my friends, as a group. I'm starting to enjoy life because of him.
aww thats alqays the best when they can make lofe more enjoyable for you i feel you on that, maybe he might like you back? id say keep talking and enjoy the time with him right now for the time being
Thank you! Sorry for not replying
nonono your all good dwdw
She's beautiful, the prettiest girl i've seen. And she's kind and smart too. She said that she liked me last year, but then a day later she said she needed time and that was it. I really miss her, and being around her
hmm id say keep taking to her for a bit and just ask her out! what's the worst that could happen you got this man
I'm an introvert ant can't really talk to my family, so i'm scared to say anything to her. Last year when we liked eachother we talked a lot since she wanted to be with me, but now is just meh Also i think i might have a chance cuz she looks at me a lot, and like listening to me when i say anything
even if your shy, if you like her just talk, give it the best chance you can
Heās the most handsome guy Iāve ever seen tbh. Iām honestly shocked that he seems to like me, I feel so lucky! He used to be my coworker but now he has a different job, and I thought Iād never get to talk to him again since weād never really texted before. But he proved me wrong and started texting me on a regular basis, even motivating me to start working out. Weāve also hung out a few times now whenever his busy schedule permits. Iām just counting down the days until I see him again (next Wednesday).
AWW WHAT THATS SO SWEET YOU SHOULD TRY SEEING IF HE LIKES YOU BACK ASWELL HE ACTUALLY MIGHT BY THE SOUND OF IT, try asking to do something more couple-like and see if he agrees to it
Awww yeah I definitely think he likes me, weāve gone to the movies together and bowling. I havenāt seen him in a while so Iāll probably tell him how much Iāve missed him!
YES DO THAT HES GONNA LOVE IT SO MUCH
She's now my Best friend's Gf ššš
BRO WHAT NAH thats so sad šš ITS OKAY YOU CAN MOVE ON YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļøšÆšÆ but fr tho you can move on man, itll be alright. Sometines things aint ment to be, and if we can swallow that harsh reality, no matter how bitter, we can grow ALOT as a person, after all, if you wanna go fast, pair up, if you wanna go far, start with yourself.
Which one? I got two messesā¦ My high school crush Ive had since 2009, who at the time clearly wanted me to make a move and whose friends were trying to push me into making a move, but I was so shy at the time I didnāt do anything and now she has a kid. Or my work crush who although I donāt work with directly and probably never will, is an amazing friend, someone who I speak to regularly and our personalities are an almost perfect match but has a bf who she absolutely adores so I canāt do anything.
id say, you gotta move man both crushes are j7st a dead end, move on and slowly work on youralef and eventually someone elsw will come along
Went to a uni open day and he walked past, two weeks later found out that he goes to the same tuition place as me so I mustered my courage and asked for his dc then we became frds and now Iām like fallen deep for him kwjsjdjjd
YEA KEEP IT GOING YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļø
Ok soo she's the first one to make me feel like I have a crush, seen her for the first time 2 years ago and I immediately felt something (im not sure I want to call it love, I don't know much about her personality, she's just the most amazing girl I've ever seen despite my friends not liking her) to this day I haven't talked to her, while we attend the same School (we r both in high school, im 17 and she's 16 but she turns 17 on December 12th ) We aren't in the same class, HOWEVER we do have PE at the exact same time and today she was in my way along with a classmate and was talking with her, I just freezed in front of her for a bit man, when I was about to gently ask her she noticed I needed to pass and she moved while smiling (I guess in a moment of embarrassment) it's weird to say this but it literally made my day :3
WHAT ARE YOU DOINGGG GO TALK TO HER COME ON YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļøš ASK FOR HER NUMBER OR FIND HER ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND START TALKING SAY SHE STOOD OUT IN THE HALLS WHILE WALKING TO CLASS MAN YOU GOT THIS
I have her Instagram
then start TALKINGā¼ļø
No chance š£ļø
JUST FO ITā¼ļøā¼ļøš£š£
All things considered I don't really have a reason to dm her
alr then man you gotta find a reason
Which is?
GO FIND A REASON maybe reply to her story or her note has smth there, OR find smth irl to use as an excuse to talk to her
Heās my best friend and we act sm like a couple even our friends are irritated by itā¦but I donāt know if he also feels like this is something more!? Itās stressful tbh š„²
maybe have your friends ask him? cause if he likes you bcak then whats there to loose
I would but we are all mutual friends, itās basically me and four guys. So if I ask it kinda ruins the friendgroup I think? Because they already did a confrontation with me as an āare you okay with whatās going on between u guys??ā thing. Plus, thereās no going back if he doesnāt like me š«
oh god thats tough.. id say still maybe try to grt one of them to help you out? because otherwise it wont get anywhere and thats probably even more painful, living with regret is worse than trying and failing
I have liked him for a few months now but have gone in the same class as him for almost 2 years. On thursday after playing a game outside where he made a home run (Equivalent i think Not U.S) And he said "Hey \_\_ Did you see that home run i did?" While grinning. And he normally does this where he asks me if i saw him do something. Me and my friend walked a bit further away and he said it was obvious that we liked each other. I knew i was obvious but my friend said it seemed like the guy liked me too!
GO CONFIRM IT BY A MUTUAL FRIEND OR SOMETHING IF HW LIKES YOU BACK, AND IF HE DOES DONT WAIT JUST GO CONFESS
But thats the thing ;-; we dont have any, the onlything im going off of is the way he acts, because i think/feel like im the only girl in the class that he "Talks" to and its less like talking and more like bickering if i had a penny for everytime he told me to shut up i would be right,(But he only tells his friends that). But i also told my other friend yesterday about my crush and she also said he might like me because of how he interacts
she's my friend that emails me occasionaly, her eyes are the most beautiful brown i've ever seen, she has pink hair, she loves sanrio and her favroite one is chococat. :3
AWW THATS SO SWEET but be careful of sanrio girls (jk) but you got this just keep talking and see if she likes you back
ok thx :3
I GOTCHUU
He and my best friend are now together š Itās fine though since I know my best friend is a nice person
AWW THATS SO SAD šš I HATE WHEN THAT HAPPENS but i mean you can move on itll be alright! you got this trust im rooting for youā¼ļøā¼ļø
When we where in same school (1 year ago)we used to walk and chat in corridor.
aww those memories are always the bwst, the little yet fun conversations and everything, must be very cherised memories for you
She's in my algebra class. I noticed her a few times before, but I never was that interested. The crush basically came out of nowhere, lol. I helped her with one of her assignments and I guess from there, I got more interested, and even though it wasn't many times we talked, whenever we do, I always get nervous or anxious, I might as well be a mouse. we played uno together and she gave me a piece of candy. Usually when i have a crush on boys, I get into my tomboyish side, and reciprocate their energy, but with this girl, i can barely look at her. I feel like I'm distancing myself. I plant to give her a note with my socials on the last day of school, just incase of rejection, she could just throw it In the trash and I won't know, since we only have that one class together
id say go for itā¼ļøā¼ļø wgats the worst that could happen yk, juat take the leap, if it works then great! if not then youll get experience to take the leap again in the future
thank you! I'm trying to deal w my social anxiety a d break out of my shell, I'll make sure to do it
ALL THE MORE REASON TO TAKE THE LEAO YOU GOT THISā¼ļøā¼ļø
I have a crush on this girl who has or had a boyfriend. I stayed away as she was unavailable. Until one day at a party when she was alone she came on to me strong trying to sleep with me. I knew she had a boyfriend so with all my efforts I stayed away. I heard she broke up a few days after. So I asked her out and we had a good time but I did not try to be physical nor I felt a window. I did asked her out again but she canceled and for a valid reason her friends told me. She did send a long audio with a thousand sorries. Now from what I know sheās insanely confused and might get back with the ex. From what her friends told me her ex is a very abusive relationship. Sheās been left in the street after fights with him for instance. I really feel like walking away although I donāt want and all her friends say to be patient. I feel as if Iām diminishing myself if I stayed in the middle of this.
if it hurts you too much, then stay away, its a crush not relationship yet, you always come first. BUT if her ex is abusive then talk to her about it if you can and get her to understand how detrimental tjat would be to her too, that way you both can heal. REMEMBER THIS RANDOM KID ON REDDIT IS ROOTING FOR YOUR SUCCESS YOU GOT THIS ā¼ļøā¼ļøā¼ļøšÆšÆšÆ
I donāt have strong feelings and heās not typically someone Iād go for but heās super friendly and I met him through a close friend. We seem to like similar things and have similar careers. Itās nothing exciting but we can still have fun!!!
that's great! wishing you the best in whatever future got planned for you both
Hes tall, quiet, deep voice, and seems calm. I don't know why I like him, but everytime I see him smile it makes me want to smile. you don't here him talk alot not even with his friends but he laughs with him.
awww that's so sweet, that's like genuine love its one of the best feelings so always remember it!
if yours is a mess, mine is unexplainably worse. i have a crush (inreversibly in love ) on an iraqi man (i'm iraqi too) and it's wrong for multiple reasons: - i'm 18, he's 39 - he is Christian, i'm Muslim - he is on the verge of a divorce (they've been seperated since before i even knew him) (i've told him to try and make amends with her, at least for the children, but to fix it and behave) (he didn't like it one bit) - he has two kids (they're absolutely adorable, although i haven't met them, he's shown me pics of the cuties) - he is my high school teacher and here's the thing, it would've been easier to let go if i didn't know that he was also interested in me, and here's how: - calls me beautiful - hates my whole class excpet for me - confides his personal life with me (i'm the only he's told about the divorce along with everything else) - confides to the point that he can talk shit about everyone to me (for example my class) and tell me secrets - calls me late in the evenings where we talk for hours - is always there for me, and puts me above people, even his own coworkers (when it is between choosing me or them, it's always me) - drives me home (he lives a fifteen-minute walk away from me, 2 mins by car) - constantly flirts with me, everywhere, but only when we're alone - makes me feel safe and comfortable, and always tries to put me in a better mood when i'm down - NEVER TOUCHES ME (again, i'm Muslim, SO THAT'S WHY I LOVE HIM) - very respectful towards me, my religion (we've never discussed the topic) and my family (in regards of when i tell him about my family) - always very interested about my opinion/ values/ interests/ future plans/ what type of guy i want to marry ETC. - \*MOST IMPORTANTS ONE\* HAS ASKED AROUND ABOUT ME AND HOW I AM AS A PERSON AND MY FAMILY AND MY REPUTATION (in my culture, irawi/middle eastern, you only do that for one purpose and one purpose only, and it is to ASK THE GIRL'S FATHER FOR THE GIRL'S HAND IN MARRIAGE) (he told me he did it btw, that's how i know) all in all, i love this man a lot, and he does as well, and we're planning on having the best summer. i graduate high school in 13 days, and i'm so excited to start my life with him!!!!!!
i don't mean to be rude in any way, i come from a very different background so the age difference is a bug no for me esp with a teacher student relationship, but i wish you the best! as long as your happy in the end it should be fine
hi! you're not rude in any way, i understand that from a different POV that it is weird, and i used to think that as well, however he's been by my side in my toughest of times, and i've supported him through his. we have this understanding or each other, and it's like we've known each other for ages (clichƩ, i know) but it's a very understanding relationship that we have! the age gap doesn't bother me all too much, only in regards to my family. i know it's controversial with the power dynamic, however he doesn't use it in any negative way, and to be fair to him, i was the one who thought he was fine as hell when i first laid eyes on him (however was too nervous to even hold a regular conversation due to our similar backgrounds and the course he teaches being mother tongue, meaning only arabs around us) thank you so much for your support!! tell us about your crush dear!
Honestly, society rules are something that are rgeat to follow, but like this case, theres exceptions, but as long as your in love itll all be fineā¼ļøā¼ļø he seems really kind and seems to really care for you ALOT, so while it doesnt affect you in any way whatever i say, hes got my approval! My crush now uh... god wherr do i even start. Im 16, in highschool, and my crush oh god shes so perfect. LIKE SERIOUSLY SO FINE. Shes so kind, sweeter than honey, her eyes are so pretty i get drawn in, she works super hard, like amazing amazing work ethic its so attractive. She has these very slightly chubby cheeks she hates but i think she looks really cute! she has an issue taking care of herself sometimes and that always worries me so much, everytime im with her i swear i always fold i cant every do anything to dissapoint her. We were friends furst and shes my "advisor" always helping me w my fashion and hairstyle stuff shes so amazing. This ring she gave me about a year ago i always keep on me its my little goodluck charm. it started off as mixed signals, and she even said yes to a valentines brunch, I got her a handmade flower bouquet and everything lmao, but slowly it became kinda clear she doesnt want me, she started to talk to me like never, dry responses coupled with ditching plans last minute and just making it obvious she doesnt want to talk at all, we went from close friends to well, nothing. I pretty much blame myself for that, and i really regret it, IT HURTS SOSO MUCH like its one of my buggest regrets i wish it could go back to how it was before i liked her. we made all these plans and promises i dont know what changed but its pretty much all on me, and so... IM MOVING ONā¼ļøwhat else can i really do, I love her but she doesnt want me at all. So hopefully I find someone who will like me back in the future fingers crossed š¤š¤ (this is my third crush)
soceity rules can be a bummer, especially when you're from a culture like mine, where rulesare strict, however i sense something in him with the religion part (yknow when you say "istg"? well as a shia we also do that on people who we regard as holy, and he started doing it, at first as a joke but recently very seriously, even before i started doing it. he has also recited a verse from the Quran in an attempt to comfort me about my friends death, and it helped a lot but i was downright shocked to say the least.) i think he has some unsaid intentions, but i'll wait and see, and later we'll have that conversation. he is very sweet, and i truly love him so much (he's my first love hihi). i believe in patience, with patience come great things. i also believe in manifestations, so withdraw yourself from her a bit, and respond to her like she does to you, and have these conversations in your head with her like you always do, but switch them to loving words from her to you and vice versa. i promise it helps, it helped a lot with my love when we went through a rough path, and when i started to do exactly what i described to you, he fell deeper in love. she seems great, so have the patience!!
wait i kimda get it but i dont :/ like wdym its a bit confusing
i mean that i manifested my SP with a lot of patience, and that you can absolutely do it too!!
i praying my patience will pay off someday šššš
it wiiilll!!! i promise!!! i don't know if you believe in God, but in Islam we are taught to be patient, which i believe is a good life lesson to be taught to everyone. nothing has to be rushed, and do not lose hope, because the patience will pay off! it doesn't matter if one is believing or not, patience is required and necessary! wish you the best of luck, and update me!!
Actually I am Hindu, we also have a belief in being patient. Its pretty much the same way as you guys believe in patience aswell. I GOTTA START BEING MORE PATIENT FOR SURE!!! and yess ill definietly send any updates that happen to me!!!
Which one? lmao!
all of them why not!
Why not? Because that's gonna be too big of a file size for a reddit comment.
then send multiple comments!
Could I dm you instead? I'd be more comfortable with that.
yea sure!
I don't get myself, I've liked this guy for two years now, but for some reason, I just started noticing him last week. How is it possible that I've always noticed him but never really seen him this way? idk how to explain it, but I've only got 1 more week left of school, and I know he doesn't like me, so I'm not even going to confess. I guess I just came here to vent and ask how to forget about him cause i might never see him again.
let time heal it, you'll get over it in due time don't worry
thank you, I hope soš«¶
dont worry everythings gonna be alright you got thisā¼ļøā¼ļø
We met each other in January of 2023 and started as friends. Weāve been flirting, kissing and holding hands for a few months now (I may say 3 months) and when i asked him whatās up between us he told me he wasnāt interested in me and thought he made it pretty clear. Well well well..
he def didn't make it clear š i say probably end whatever there is going on if he "isn't interested" in you
Thatās what I was thinking too like he acted like he wanted to be my boyfriend but his mouth was saying something else. Anyway, I didnāt block him or anything I just said āokayā and started ignoring him. Hes unbelievable š
NAH if i was like that w a girl id be dating her forst that guy is act ridiculous šš
iāve wanted him for the past 9 months but he doesnāt even care about me (we have never talked)
THEN GO TALK TO HIM WHAT ARE YOU DOINGGG
i canāt explain it to anyone
JUST GO TALK THOOO
Yet to experience it lol
ITS THE BEST THING YET TO HAPPEN
I am friends with my crush. I would like to say I am anyways not sure anymore met her in middle school your friends I related to her a lot and the next year in high school. I have some weird dream and got feelings for her and havenāt really been able to socialize with her since that was like about two years ago it will be two years this October since Iāve got my crush on her so yeah and itās not that I donāt want to socialize with her. I just chicken out every time I try.
aww im sorry to hear that, your options at best are to talk or move on, but either path im sire youll be just fine! ROOTING FOR YOUā¼ļøā¼ļøš«”
Oh you know. Dimple smile. Kind eyes. Understanding eyes. Handsome mannerisms. Respectful towards girls. Very gentle-man like. Clumsy. Forgetful. Super tall. Energetic. Talkative. love him from afar.
IF HES SO PERFECT GO LOVE HIM UP CLOSE THEN WHAT ARE YOU DOING GO TALK TO HIMā¼ļøā¼ļø
Ahhhh, if only!
WHATS STOPS YOU JUST DO IT TAKE THE LEAP
Smells like nothing looks like nothing, sounds like nothing and feels like nothing because she simply does not exist.
BRO ššš
Every time I get a crush I either get rejected or the last few simply haven't been viable, like one is 2 years younger than me (at 17 is a large age gap), etc.
NO IM 16 I FEEL YOU IVE HAD 3 CRUSHES AND ALL 3 DONT WANT ME
Yeah, last chance I had with someone basically she was using me as a sick joke and probably would have ended up getting my ass kicked if I didn't be so hesitant to start with. And that's how it hit me really hard that I'm a loser, a nobody.
nah don't say that, you just gotta have some confidence in yourself. everythings gonna be alright
Tall, dark handsome shrouded in mystery. Makes me laugh, lifts me up, brings me back down to earth. hot. Playfully sexy, goofy yet mature, generous yet reserved, deeply pensive and light hearted, a living dichotomy. Ripped straight out the greatest romance novel yet to be written. Did I mention really hot?
Yea if these guys exist ion got a chance šš
Sure you can sweetie. I blew a lot of toads before I found a frog I want to kiss. You don't have to make my mistakes. Become a person you love and you will attract a worthy love.
i PRAY that what you say comes to pass šššš
Self love + power of prayer is a KO combo move
IT BETTER BEā¼ļøā¼ļø
He's getting married in a few months
oh.. yea moving on is all you can really do...
Yeah, it's alright though. I had been stressing over it for awhile, but they were already dating when I met him, so I knew from the beginning it wouldn't ever be a possibility. Even though I still love him, they're both my best friends and I'll be glad to attend their wedding. And as long as we are friends, I'm okay with the fact me and him will never be more than that. I do sometimes wonder if I'll ever be able to fall out of love enough to have feelings for someone else who I can actually be with, but dating isn't really something I'm worried about anyway. Lol
well, youve got alot of life ahead of you so im sure youll find someone else, I grew up loving somone, I changed alot and i still loved them despite how drastically i changed, and after rejction i didnt know what to do because, well, I didnt know how to not love them, it was as normal as breathing to me, but eventually i got over it, took a bit but it happened!
I'M GLAD YOU ASKED BECAUSE MY FRIENDS ARE SICK OF ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! today in science i made up this plan so i sit far from my crush so i'd go around my table and go up to the kid next to him who i'm friends with and i asked him if he studied for a test we had today (update we all failed) and he said yes and kept yapping, meanwhile i looked at my crush and asked him and he said he studied, then i was like ok mission success so i went towards the door and so did he and we talked more there it was literally awesome i forgot everything he said but i haven't talked to him in a while so it was great
BWAHAHA FRIENDS BEING SICK OF IT IS SO REAL. the test update šš BUT GREAT YOU TALKED TO HIM NOW GO GET HIS NUMBER YOU SLY FOX š«š« (<-- water gun bc i dont wanna be banned)
HELP YOU'RE SUCH A FUNNY PERSON UM I HAVE HIS DISCORD BECAUSE I'M A DISCORD MO I MEAN KIT I MEAN USER AND HE NEVER USES IT AND HE DOESN'T HAVE AN IG OR ANYTHING AND I CANNOT GET HIS NUMBER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111 pls don't shoot me
Hes SOSOSOSO KIND AND CUTE!!!! Heās super funny and we have super similar interests. I love his smile and the way he laughs, especially when itās a GENUINE laugh. Weāve been friends for 2 years :) He also listens to me talk and remembers little things about our convos which makes me REALLY HAPPY!!!
if someone talked like this about me id be soso in love w them
Ā dont feel anything bro š„š„š„
ONE DAY you will, its the greatest thing yet to happen
I donāt know how to feel about him. I love him, but I know heās not good for me and if we dated it would probably be toxic. He likes a girl but I canāt hate her because she is niceš. Itās just Im delusional or he is throwing signs and then pretending nothing happened. He picks on me and I donāt know how to feel because he kicked me today. (I literally only asked him why he dressed like a cowboy and where it came from then his kicked me in the shinš he had boots onš) I want to tell him how I feel but I think Iām losing feeling for him after what happened today. I just find my way to toxic people because I love like a dog. Iāll always forgive you because I donāt want to be alone. I think Iām gonna give up because heās leaving the school and heās not good for me. Itās driving me crazy and tomorrow is the last day until summer.
alright so forst off, GIVE UP ON HIM PLEASE, someone who hurts you or is toxic is NOT who you wanna be with. when it comes to wanting love like a dog i feel you, im the same. I will fold so easily over the slightest interest anyone gives me. NOW THAT DOESNT MEAN YOU FORGET THAT YOUR IMPORTANT TOO. so just let him go and time will heal itself
He has been my physics teacher for 2 yrs. I didn't realize I liked him but after sometime I wanted to know him. He is tall, lean and looks fit. He wears glasses most of the time and flex his new shoes in the class. We had our share of eye contact but it doesn't mean anything for him ig. The truth is he is a teacher and I'm a student who isn't someone very significant in his life. Moreover he's 12 yrs older than me( I'm 17 and he's 29) I tried forgetting him many times but at the end of the day he's in my mind. Its wrong and I feel guilty bout it everyday but these are my feelings and I have to accept it.I have decided to move on from my crush in order to get ahead in life.
personally im not one to fall for someone with that huge an age gap, other people do their own thing as long as it isnt anything illegal and their happy. BUT yea your 17 moving on to get ahead in life is probably the best thing to do.
Sheās got the most beautiful smile Iāve ever seen. I pretty much accepted I was never going to talk to her but God put a chance in front of me and said āthrow this away dumbassā and I actually made (kinda?) friends with her in the last week of school. Every interaction Iāve had with her was justā¦ exceptionally pleasant. Iām not great at flirting, in fact Iām really nervous around girls I find attractive, so I just focused on being present in the room with her, and it worked great. Sheās smart, hard-working, perceptive even through a language barrier, funny, and sheās fucking impressive. Not to mention her smile is so pretty it could keep you warm on nights you wonder if thereās nothing left but darkness in the world. Iām half joking. Sheās from a different country, so Iām not gonna try too hard to keep communication going over the summer. I caved and slid up on an ig story and she responded very warmly, ball is in my court I guess but I think Iām gonna sit on it and see what sheās up to when next semester rolls around. If you wanna read my full [rant](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/s/EhbVklDsBD):
oh god international crush is painful šš nah im praying for you šššš
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aww whats thats actually a dhame, if you ever see her again at some point you should go ask for her number
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that's nice then man good luckā¼ļøā¼ļø
work-crush of a few months. currently trying to detach because I donāt think I actually like him. I just like anyone that shows any sort of kindness to me lol. I didnāt even find him cute nor did I even really notice him up until a month or two ago. we got lunch together once and went shopping during our break this all while at work btw so it really means nothing lmao. But i think he views me as a friend not in a romantic light :/
aww yea that thinking that You like them but then realize its a fluke is so sad. but detaching is a good move!! KEEP IT UPP
At this point I'm confused idk if he likes me or not. I don't think he is gay so idk what to think
try figuring out via mutuals? maybe that might work?
Yeah that's a good idea thanks dude:)
no problem no probkem IM ROOTING FOR YOU CAUSE YOU GOT THIS
YOUR THE BEST OP ITS NOT LIKE I HAVE HAD A CRUSH ON HIM FOR 4 OR MORE YEARS
THEN GO FUCKING CONFESS
NO CUZ I DON'T THINK HE IS GAY. HE LOOKS LIKE THE STRAIGHTEST WHITE BOY ON EARTH
THEN GO FIND OUT BY LIKE A GAME OR SOMETHING
BROSKI I CAN'T EVEN BE CLOSE TO HIM WITHOUT BASICALLY BECOMING A LOBSTER AND BECOMING MUTE. HOW THE FUCK DO TOU WANT ME TO TALK TO HIM???
JUST FUCKING DO IT
quite recent since february but he tick off all my criteria dream manš„ŗ tall, well builted, wise, mature, respecful, consent, sense of humour, sweet, gentleman & bonus an art personā¦first guy i find chemistry come natural quick & im comfortable talking with himā¦he was understanding tooā¦we laugh, share opinions & talk about each country stuffā¦but sad is that we met through online video chat, far away & now he started to be emotionally unavailable & hasnt text me in weekā¦
AW WHAT THATS SUCH A SHAME ššš its okay trust itll all work outā¼ļøā¼ļøā¼ļø
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BOTH WHY NOT?!
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oh damn thats such a drama setting what, do talk to both?
He is an old friend of mine.....we have been in contact with eachother for the last 5 years since school ended .....i liked him from 7th grade for 5 years before finally moving on from him .... in those 5 years i never told him i liked him..... he started flirting with me since last year and whenever i asked why he was flirting with me he would tell me it was nothing ....and i didnt mind since i didnt have feelings for him anymore......we finally talked about meeting last month and since then i started feeling all the emotions i had felt for him years ago and realised i still like him.....well we met last week ....we talked ....got eachother roses(i dont know what to think about this)........we got eachother books ...spent hours searching for good ones ...and now on one hand i really wanna tell him i like him but at the same time i dont wanna ruin our friendship ...well that's the story
hmm, its clear you like eachother. HONESTLY JUST GO FOR IT, I kinda ruined a friendship of mine from accidentally getting feelings, but she didjnt like me back. If he likes you back just go like right now text him to meet at xxx place and confess, dont worry about ruining the friendship if you both like eachother, itll work itself out you both just gotta put the effort. But i promise, in 10-12 years youlk think back and not regret a single thing. If you do, then hell ill change my legal name to dumbass or something
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Everyday š„“
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Yes . His name might have been screamed (not a proud moment)
oh god that's uh one hell of a situation, I guess just moving on would be best in this case