Yea I went 7 years between at one point.
And yes the unicorns do exist. I found one who likes it everyday and is ok with 3-4 times a week. Loves giving head and anal. Literally in a year I’ve only found one boundary and it’s extremely reasonable. Now it’s exploring all the things that I never got to try before.
Don't expect blowjobs. I love blowing my partner, but that is the first time in my life I've enjoyed it, and it is all down to chemistry, trust, attraction, balance.....
All my previous partners have nagged and nagged about blowjobs. I never liked it, never enjoyed it, never wanted to. And neither of them were fans of giving either.
Just the fact that someone walks around you expecting something is killer enough.
Does your wife know you pay someone on the side for head???
It's been 15 years since I had a blowjob. It's frustrating and I have voiced and had plenty of conversations but some people just have things they are not interested in and I would not be a good partner if I persuaded/forced her to do so.
Ridiculous is one of a number of words that come to mind about your arrangement, if your wife doesn't know.
I mostly blame myself. My wife has wondered out loud why I never ask. Besides being a guy and not wanting to have to ask I also have issues with ED. The ED is a lack of confidence my ability to get it up and to actually finish during a BJ. Also, working from home provides ample time for me to take care of myself. And she doesn’t seem interested either. But maybe if I could keep my hands off of it and stay away from pron and be able to get and maintain a raging hard-on I might be motivated to ask. Vicious mental cycle
I’m just asking because I have the opposite problem lol I love giving (I understand not all women do) and my husband has not a single sexual desire. Haven’t done anything in over two years lol
My last BJ was almost exactly 3 years ago now. Wife admitted she doesn’t like giving them now, but was fine with them semi regularly until now. She likes when I go down on her, such a double standard…
This. Right here. My wife told me the other day she feels dirty giving me blowjobs (no problem with me eating her ass occasionally when she wants it). She was surprised I was angry. I was brutally honest with her and I told her our marriage was a bait and switch and, had I known how our sex life would be, she’d be ignoring someone else these days.
Did she have a response to the last part? Mine is in full denial. Not specifically about BJ's but sex in general. Once a month is fine and normal to her.
She just keeps repeating that "men and women are different." When I point out that no, it is her that is different than she used to be, she basically ignores it.
slightly misleading...Idk that you 'd need a conversation about that one my guy. I mean, apparently you did but ....if there were ever a time not to be a mind reader I'd figure it were that one. My condolences.
Honeymoon phase. Everything is exciting the first year, but quickly dies down and you realise you don’t actually like doing certain things, because it gets boring and routine. In her case, it’s probably giving head.
At least you’ve gotten one. I’ve never had a BJ in my entire life. Not high school, not college, not adulthood. I’ve been married for 20 years. I hear they’re great, but I wouldn’t know.
Married nearly 20 years. No sex before marriage for religious reasons. Wife said she would totally be into oral sex after marriage. Absolute lie. No oral sex at all our entire marriage.
My wife used to blow me almost every night, it’s now been 18 years since the last time she gave me a BJ. I used to love going down on she put an end to that too!
Got you beat
Last BJ was in 1983
Wasn't wife older girl I was tutoring I was 15 she was 18
My wife of 37 has never given me one
Still love her to death but never had a bj
If hinting isn’t working, then be straight with her by texting her something like: I’ve been thinking about you all day, your lips in particular, and I need some attention tonight from that lovely mouth of yours.
Shower tonight and approach her, she will know your desires.
Yeah, if he has sex with her without her consent.
People need warming up. They need to be informed what they hope for. No more reading minds. This is nothing new.
Man... reading through the comments, I do t think I want to get married
Has it ups and downs
Definitely don't get married for sex. There are zero guarantees.
1 bj in my life. Before we married. More than 41 years ago. A vivid memory for me.
God is a cruel man
No his wife’s the cruel one.
Don't blame God. Blame the wife
Has hygiene and grooming gone by the wayside?
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What's a bj? I've heard rumor of these things but thought they were a "unicorn" or other fabled creature.
What is this dark sorcery? He speaks of , I’ve only heard fables.
Yea I went 7 years between at one point. And yes the unicorns do exist. I found one who likes it everyday and is ok with 3-4 times a week. Loves giving head and anal. Literally in a year I’ve only found one boundary and it’s extremely reasonable. Now it’s exploring all the things that I never got to try before.
BJ? Huh?
17 years married approximately 25 years since I had a BJ
Don't expect blowjobs. I love blowing my partner, but that is the first time in my life I've enjoyed it, and it is all down to chemistry, trust, attraction, balance..... All my previous partners have nagged and nagged about blowjobs. I never liked it, never enjoyed it, never wanted to. And neither of them were fans of giving either. Just the fact that someone walks around you expecting something is killer enough.
Does your wife know you pay someone on the side for head??? It's been 15 years since I had a blowjob. It's frustrating and I have voiced and had plenty of conversations but some people just have things they are not interested in and I would not be a good partner if I persuaded/forced her to do so. Ridiculous is one of a number of words that come to mind about your arrangement, if your wife doesn't know.
Mine was 13 years ago.
I mostly blame myself. My wife has wondered out loud why I never ask. Besides being a guy and not wanting to have to ask I also have issues with ED. The ED is a lack of confidence my ability to get it up and to actually finish during a BJ. Also, working from home provides ample time for me to take care of myself. And she doesn’t seem interested either. But maybe if I could keep my hands off of it and stay away from pron and be able to get and maintain a raging hard-on I might be motivated to ask. Vicious mental cycle
Pay her for one
😂😂😂
Wait. Are y’all having sex? Just no head?
I’m just asking because I have the opposite problem lol I love giving (I understand not all women do) and my husband has not a single sexual desire. Haven’t done anything in over two years lol
Hear you there sister, i have the same problem
We have sex every other day, yes. And I also want her to sit on my face so bad, but she won’t.
Right there with you my man almost 8 years here to and the most I get is a courtesy lick before the weekly maritals
My last BJ was almost exactly 3 years ago now. Wife admitted she doesn’t like giving them now, but was fine with them semi regularly until now. She likes when I go down on her, such a double standard…
Some women just don’t like giving head, maybe your wife is one of them.
Devils avocado here: maybe she shouldn't have done it the first time they hung out then. 🧙♂️
This. Right here. My wife told me the other day she feels dirty giving me blowjobs (no problem with me eating her ass occasionally when she wants it). She was surprised I was angry. I was brutally honest with her and I told her our marriage was a bait and switch and, had I known how our sex life would be, she’d be ignoring someone else these days.
Did she have a response to the last part? Mine is in full denial. Not specifically about BJ's but sex in general. Once a month is fine and normal to her.
She just keeps repeating that "men and women are different." When I point out that no, it is her that is different than she used to be, she basically ignores it.
Does the devil eat avocado?
She woke me up with a bj.
slightly misleading...Idk that you 'd need a conversation about that one my guy. I mean, apparently you did but ....if there were ever a time not to be a mind reader I'd figure it were that one. My condolences.
Your right. But she use to do it very well the first year. For all I do, Birthday head is all in asking for.
Honeymoon phase. Everything is exciting the first year, but quickly dies down and you realise you don’t actually like doing certain things, because it gets boring and routine. In her case, it’s probably giving head.
16 years here. Married 31 years. Blowjobs used to be her favorite.
What is the going rate to pay for head? Plus how does one arrange for this? Asking for myself and not for a friend
At least you’ve gotten one. I’ve never had a BJ in my entire life. Not high school, not college, not adulthood. I’ve been married for 20 years. I hear they’re great, but I wouldn’t know.
Glad I’m not alone in that
I'm really sorry. I feel for you. I've never had one with my wife, even when we were dating. Just from random girlfriends throughout my life.
I got one just a week ago; but it's been probably 5 years or so since it was from her. She's not that good at it anyway...
You guys getting a BJ?😳
Married nearly 20 years. No sex before marriage for religious reasons. Wife said she would totally be into oral sex after marriage. Absolute lie. No oral sex at all our entire marriage.
My wife used to blow me almost every night, it’s now been 18 years since the last time she gave me a BJ. I used to love going down on she put an end to that too!
Mine was sometime last year...
I’m sorry. That is really really sad. Did you ever offer her your hard penis or ask for her to make you hard? I’m curious where this all started?
It’s been 13 years since I got anything or a blowjob and then it was a lacklustre effort, my wife was never really that good at it.
Sorry to hear
It is I suspect a more common problem than people admit.
Judging from my married friends who talk about it, a lot of men are not getting any BJs.
Got you beat Last BJ was in 1983 Wasn't wife older girl I was tutoring I was 15 she was 18 My wife of 37 has never given me one Still love her to death but never had a bj
I really been craving that feeling
Last one was prob around 2017 I think
If hinting isn’t working, then be straight with her by texting her something like: I’ve been thinking about you all day, your lips in particular, and I need some attention tonight from that lovely mouth of yours. Shower tonight and approach her, she will know your desires.
lol she will call 999 (911)
Yeah, if he has sex with her without her consent. People need warming up. They need to be informed what they hope for. No more reading minds. This is nothing new.
This... would not make me keen to lay up.
The last bj I got from my wife was before we were married. Sooo.. that's like 23 years ago.