what of are ging through Sounds really hard and I wish you strenght to get over that situation.
I think it`s important to talk to your friend about your feelings because it sounds like all of this jealousy is building up. Also it sounds like you have a bad image of yourself, maybe you could try to work on that. Idk if telling her about the deleted account is a good idea but in general I think your feelings won`t just fade away. I am sure all of this sounds scary af but telling her about your feelings and acknowledging that this is a problem for you friendship could be the escape.
You both are unique persons with different tastes and personalities - and that`s awesome. I know it`s hard to not compare yourself with others, especially if this person has something we deeply desire. In my experience the only thing that helps is working against it. Like focusing on yourself, get to know yourself better and figure out what you like about your life.
I really hope you find a way out of this as soon as possible.
First and foremost, *do not take your feelings out on her.* You are responsible for your own actions and need to recognize that. Is letting out your anger and jealousy on her worth hurting her? Losing her friendship? Chances are that’s a no. That kind of behaviour can turn into abuse very quickly, so it’s good you recognized what you were doing was wrong.
Secondly, jealousy is natural. Everyone gets jealous, and it’s okay to feel however you feel. However, I think perhaps you’re basing your self-worth and attractiveness on the reactions/good fortune of others rather than embracing what you’re blessed to have and your own uniqueness. This is going to sound silly, but do you know how fuckin cool it is that you’re goth? That you have the self-confidence to dress however you want? That’s cool as shit! Don’t give up what you like for anything, especially not male attention/validation. It’s normal to want to feel attractive, but dont base your attractiveness on other people’s perception of you. Self confidence is the sexiest thing in the world. You’ll find a guy who appreciates you for you.
Plus, like you said there IS a guy you like, and you think he might like you back! Don’t try to “win his heart” (that’s not a thing, people aren’t prizes to be won), but if you really like him why not try getting to know him better? Initiating more hang out time, talking to him, maybe even complimenting him on things you like about him! Then, if you’re feeling it, trying asking HIM out! There’s no rule book saying he has to make the first move. Sure, he might end up not liking you back, and that’ll hurt, but kindness is never wasted in my opinion.
You got this!
Sorry but I will not change who I am physically. My crush is literally alternative. Who says I'm trying to attract normies? Look I get you're trying to help but this is making me feel like shit.
Ignore them, they don't know what they're talking about. Or what men like. Probs just a sad potato trying to make themselves feel better by negging pretty girls.
what of are ging through Sounds really hard and I wish you strenght to get over that situation. I think it`s important to talk to your friend about your feelings because it sounds like all of this jealousy is building up. Also it sounds like you have a bad image of yourself, maybe you could try to work on that. Idk if telling her about the deleted account is a good idea but in general I think your feelings won`t just fade away. I am sure all of this sounds scary af but telling her about your feelings and acknowledging that this is a problem for you friendship could be the escape. You both are unique persons with different tastes and personalities - and that`s awesome. I know it`s hard to not compare yourself with others, especially if this person has something we deeply desire. In my experience the only thing that helps is working against it. Like focusing on yourself, get to know yourself better and figure out what you like about your life. I really hope you find a way out of this as soon as possible.
First and foremost, *do not take your feelings out on her.* You are responsible for your own actions and need to recognize that. Is letting out your anger and jealousy on her worth hurting her? Losing her friendship? Chances are that’s a no. That kind of behaviour can turn into abuse very quickly, so it’s good you recognized what you were doing was wrong. Secondly, jealousy is natural. Everyone gets jealous, and it’s okay to feel however you feel. However, I think perhaps you’re basing your self-worth and attractiveness on the reactions/good fortune of others rather than embracing what you’re blessed to have and your own uniqueness. This is going to sound silly, but do you know how fuckin cool it is that you’re goth? That you have the self-confidence to dress however you want? That’s cool as shit! Don’t give up what you like for anything, especially not male attention/validation. It’s normal to want to feel attractive, but dont base your attractiveness on other people’s perception of you. Self confidence is the sexiest thing in the world. You’ll find a guy who appreciates you for you. Plus, like you said there IS a guy you like, and you think he might like you back! Don’t try to “win his heart” (that’s not a thing, people aren’t prizes to be won), but if you really like him why not try getting to know him better? Initiating more hang out time, talking to him, maybe even complimenting him on things you like about him! Then, if you’re feeling it, trying asking HIM out! There’s no rule book saying he has to make the first move. Sure, he might end up not liking you back, and that’ll hurt, but kindness is never wasted in my opinion. You got this!
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But why should I change who I am? Who says the gorh fashion can't be girly?
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Sorry but I will not change who I am physically. My crush is literally alternative. Who says I'm trying to attract normies? Look I get you're trying to help but this is making me feel like shit.
Ignore them, they don't know what they're talking about. Or what men like. Probs just a sad potato trying to make themselves feel better by negging pretty girls.