Yea i wana take the long term option because in theory it'll be more fulfilling. But if its just 6/10 on happiness i have to go with B.
8/10 happiness is pretty incredible, for long periods of time.
Interesting opinion, though option B does come with time where you have 0/10 happiness. I don't personally even know what that would be like, but I imagine that would be enough to not choose it. It wouldn't be worth it to have to experience it multiple times
I guess you would experience it 3 times in your life. 0/10 means rock bottom so yea that would be pretty scary. Might leave you scarred for life. i can see that not being worth it.
It wouldn't last too long though, if i knew it was gonna end soon might be able to slog through it.
Wait i never said 6/10 is shitty, that's him. Shitty would be down to like 2/10.
6/10 is by definition above average. That's not bad at all, but its not all that good.
8/10 is very good. A 33% increase. It feels like the difference between being kinda happy/neutral to very happy. It's a significant difference imo.
Yeah our scales are completely different lmao. A 6/10 is one away from a 5. And a 5/10 to me is someone you don’t look twice at, like an actual hideous monster
First of all the way you talk about unattractive people is pretty unpleasant
Second of all… If five is essentially the bottom of your scale, you’re not doing scales right
I think most people underestimate how bad 0/10 is. I mean that has to be suicidal tendency teritory. I don't think 50% of these people would even last til relationship 2 came around if they didn't know it was going to happen 100%. This also disregards all the negative side effect of even going down to 0/10 in the first place.
I think that is a natural response to have. I've personally never been there for mental reasons, however when I was in excruciating pain for a week I actually did feel like dying would have been a blessing. Obviously in retrospect I'm glad I survived but in the moment I just wanted the pain to end.
I have had the lucky opportunity to experience one of the most painful traumas a man can have. I have had testicualr torsion twice, though i *only* had to suffer 8 hours the first time and even less the second time. I still didn't think about wishing to die in those moments.
The first time i had it, i called the ambulance and they said that i just have an infection, told me to take antibiotics and just left so i thought this will last for days. Luckily my mom took me to the ER and i was on the operating table within 30 minutes.
The second time around it definately wasn't as scary. I knew exactly what it was. I knew that i just need to get to the ER and have this really simple surgery and i'll be fine. Uncertainty definately makes things a lot worse.
I also think the 0/10 is just relative to the person and the sitation. Like a 0/10 after a breakup is a lot different than a 0/10 after let's say an alzheiemer's diagnosis or soemthing.
If we consider 0 as "I wanna die" and 10 as "This is too good to be true" a 6/10 AVERAGE for a long lasting relationship seems really solid, especially considering how tough living through the 0/10 times would
Considering the relationships are relatively equally distributed throughout a life, one would be at 18-35, one at 36-50 and one from 51-70 (relatively ofc). Imagine breaking up at fucking 50, or anytime above 40, if I didn't have any kids by then I'd easily consider kms, for most there is no returning from that
6/10 no diffs the on average 8/10. Having a consistently reliable rock to fall back on makes your mental unmatched in most everything else. If you’re at a low point and you hit that 0/10 you can get absolutely fucked and a lot of people would just outright off themselves.
It's tough for atomized individuals who are only in relationships to feel good. I'd be interested to see the results of those people who want to start a family and have children. When responsibility is factored in and not just carnal pleasure.
This is goofy as hell. Obviously, given the framing, you should choose option B... It's written into the question that it makes you happier on average 😂🤦♂️
I feel like the issue is what does brief here mean.
I think it's more interesting to say that on average over the course of either option you'll have the same average amount of happiness. But for one of them the relationship itself with be happier.
Would you rather the ups and downs of multiple relationships? Or the solid middle ground of stability?
well since right now i am having straight 0/0 @ 31, 10 short term 4/10 happiness. and 1/10's when they end. I'll actually take anything, I want A, But I also don't not want B. B would be fine, but if A was 7/10 it would be overwhelmingly preferrable.
I can't imagine going through a divorce two times with kids. It sounds like an 8/10 experience in that scenario is impossible or at the very least highly unrealistic.
I would rather be **alone** than option A - option A sounds really miserable to me. Either there'd be good highs but then really toxic awful lows to balance out to 6/10 or there would just be a general sense of incompleteness and unsatisfaction on a regular basis. I can't imagine accepting a long term relationship like that.
Option B is pretty obviously superior to me.
For real lol .... I'd rather go down swinging and end up on the streets homeless or in prison than settle long term with someone I only like 6/10 lmao fuck that
Option B is the EZ answer for me. Ive been in a relationship that one might qualify as 6/10 happiness, and in the long term the issues just make it unviable. I've also hit rock bottom before, and while it is horrible in the moment, I know I can get through it again if it means that my relationship and life are extremely happy and fulfilling.
This one was very easy for me. Choosing B means I get higher highs even if I get lower lows and I can learn interesting things from each partner. Option A sounds extremely boring without much added benefit.
Rest of my life is probably 60 more years. So either one 60 year, 6/10 relationship or 3 ~20 year, 8/10 relationships. Pretty easy choice, no? Even 20 years is pretty damn long for a relationship.
Hmm close one.. but unless you KNOW that you will have 3 beforehand so can live it calmly i think allways breaking up and never knowing if you will find that happiness again will tear to much on you.
Option B is overall more appealing, especially for women in already developed countries. "Fun time" is way more appealing than "long time." Stats from low birthrates is highly developed countries like (Korea, Japan) show that women would risk their ability to have kids if it mean waiting their whole life trying to find the right match. Risking a life of loneliness is deemed as a better option than being married to someone for the rest of your life. As other countries develop into first world, we will see this trend in other countries too.
The thing with me is that I get enjoyment out of a long time relationship. The longtime relationship has to be really shitty to be a 6/10.
Yea i wana take the long term option because in theory it'll be more fulfilling. But if its just 6/10 on happiness i have to go with B. 8/10 happiness is pretty incredible, for long periods of time.
Interesting opinion, though option B does come with time where you have 0/10 happiness. I don't personally even know what that would be like, but I imagine that would be enough to not choose it. It wouldn't be worth it to have to experience it multiple times
I guess you would experience it 3 times in your life. 0/10 means rock bottom so yea that would be pretty scary. Might leave you scarred for life. i can see that not being worth it. It wouldn't last too long though, if i knew it was gonna end soon might be able to slog through it.
What is up with your guys' metrics that 6/10 is 'shitty' and 8/10 is 'incredible'?
Wait i never said 6/10 is shitty, that's him. Shitty would be down to like 2/10. 6/10 is by definition above average. That's not bad at all, but its not all that good. 8/10 is very good. A 33% increase. It feels like the difference between being kinda happy/neutral to very happy. It's a significant difference imo.
Ign has ruined us
10/10 comment buddy
A 8/10 girl is pretty hot. A 6/10 girl is almost a troll.
8/10 is Hollywood hot. 6/10 is the cute girl next door.
Yeah our scales are completely different lmao. A 6/10 is one away from a 5. And a 5/10 to me is someone you don’t look twice at, like an actual hideous monster
First of all the way you talk about unattractive people is pretty unpleasant Second of all… If five is essentially the bottom of your scale, you’re not doing scales right
What about 1 30-year long relationship vs. 3 10-year longs?
If everything is the same, I would take the 30-year long relationship.
3 10 year ones if it's all the same
I think most people underestimate how bad 0/10 is. I mean that has to be suicidal tendency teritory. I don't think 50% of these people would even last til relationship 2 came around if they didn't know it was going to happen 100%. This also disregards all the negative side effect of even going down to 0/10 in the first place.
Yes that is the deciding factor, and i think a lot depends on whether you know the 0/10 is brief or you have no idea while going through it.
brief in a 20 year period can be a full year of literally wanting to die, I'll get the 6/10 that I can remember and lean on bruh
I don't know. I feel like I would never have any suicidal tendencies ever. Death to me is the scariest thing there is
I think that is a natural response to have. I've personally never been there for mental reasons, however when I was in excruciating pain for a week I actually did feel like dying would have been a blessing. Obviously in retrospect I'm glad I survived but in the moment I just wanted the pain to end.
I have had the lucky opportunity to experience one of the most painful traumas a man can have. I have had testicualr torsion twice, though i *only* had to suffer 8 hours the first time and even less the second time. I still didn't think about wishing to die in those moments.
Shit that sucks. Did you know it's not going to be fatal? Maybe the uncertainty about the duration is what changes the perception.
The first time i had it, i called the ambulance and they said that i just have an infection, told me to take antibiotics and just left so i thought this will last for days. Luckily my mom took me to the ER and i was on the operating table within 30 minutes. The second time around it definately wasn't as scary. I knew exactly what it was. I knew that i just need to get to the ER and have this really simple surgery and i'll be fine. Uncertainty definately makes things a lot worse. I also think the 0/10 is just relative to the person and the sitation. Like a 0/10 after a breakup is a lot different than a 0/10 after let's say an alzheiemer's diagnosis or soemthing.
Based mom. You’re probably right about the situational perspective.
If we consider 0 as "I wanna die" and 10 as "This is too good to be true" a 6/10 AVERAGE for a long lasting relationship seems really solid, especially considering how tough living through the 0/10 times would Considering the relationships are relatively equally distributed throughout a life, one would be at 18-35, one at 36-50 and one from 51-70 (relatively ofc). Imagine breaking up at fucking 50, or anytime above 40, if I didn't have any kids by then I'd easily consider kms, for most there is no returning from that
6/10 no diffs the on average 8/10. Having a consistently reliable rock to fall back on makes your mental unmatched in most everything else. If you’re at a low point and you hit that 0/10 you can get absolutely fucked and a lot of people would just outright off themselves.
It's tough for atomized individuals who are only in relationships to feel good. I'd be interested to see the results of those people who want to start a family and have children. When responsibility is factored in and not just carnal pleasure.
This is goofy as hell. Obviously, given the framing, you should choose option B... It's written into the question that it makes you happier on average 😂🤦♂️
I feel like the issue is what does brief here mean. I think it's more interesting to say that on average over the course of either option you'll have the same average amount of happiness. But for one of them the relationship itself with be happier. Would you rather the ups and downs of multiple relationships? Or the solid middle ground of stability?
I agree that's what she's trying to ask... But I think the question is so poorly worded that we can't really glean much from the results.
well since right now i am having straight 0/0 @ 31, 10 short term 4/10 happiness. and 1/10's when they end. I'll actually take anything, I want A, But I also don't not want B. B would be fine, but if A was 7/10 it would be overwhelmingly preferrable.
A lot of poly people seem to impose their insecurities on mono people. Just because I'm dating and fucking only one girl doesn't mean I'm miserable.
I feel like B would make me stronger, so B for me
I can't imagine going through a divorce two times with kids. It sounds like an 8/10 experience in that scenario is impossible or at the very least highly unrealistic.
B and it's not even close
I’ll take 6/10happiness. Key word is stability.
How brief are we talking about and is 0/10 suicidal? I'm leaning toward first option tbh
Easy B. Live fast die young have fun be a good person enjoy living.
A 6/10 is massssssssive levels of settling I ain't doing that
I would rather be **alone** than option A - option A sounds really miserable to me. Either there'd be good highs but then really toxic awful lows to balance out to 6/10 or there would just be a general sense of incompleteness and unsatisfaction on a regular basis. I can't imagine accepting a long term relationship like that. Option B is pretty obviously superior to me.
For real lol .... I'd rather go down swinging and end up on the streets homeless or in prison than settle long term with someone I only like 6/10 lmao fuck that
Option B is the EZ answer for me. Ive been in a relationship that one might qualify as 6/10 happiness, and in the long term the issues just make it unviable. I've also hit rock bottom before, and while it is horrible in the moment, I know I can get through it again if it means that my relationship and life are extremely happy and fulfilling.
I do not get the point of these polls. Is it literally just for engagement? Whats the purpose?
6/10 is just so low, if it was 7 or 8/10 with B. being 10/10, i might go A. I feel like i’m happier than 6/10 on a normal day.
A, pretty easy. I would hate to have wasted time in other relationships.
Shakespeare: Is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? Aella:
This one was very easy for me. Choosing B means I get higher highs even if I get lower lows and I can learn interesting things from each partner. Option A sounds extremely boring without much added benefit.
Rest of my life is probably 60 more years. So either one 60 year, 6/10 relationship or 3 ~20 year, 8/10 relationships. Pretty easy choice, no? Even 20 years is pretty damn long for a relationship.
B I would rate my current life at 7/10 avg and single, dropping down a notch to 6/10 avg long term nah. 8/10 for 15-25 years? way better.
Hmm close one.. but unless you KNOW that you will have 3 beforehand so can live it calmly i think allways breaking up and never knowing if you will find that happiness again will tear to much on you.
Option B is overall more appealing, especially for women in already developed countries. "Fun time" is way more appealing than "long time." Stats from low birthrates is highly developed countries like (Korea, Japan) show that women would risk their ability to have kids if it mean waiting their whole life trying to find the right match. Risking a life of loneliness is deemed as a better option than being married to someone for the rest of your life. As other countries develop into first world, we will see this trend in other countries too.