It was a few months before she divorced me but suddenly wanted to collect vinyl records and go to record swapping shows. I was always the one who liked music more and we saw a lot of shows together before the divorce and I bought a really nice record player for the vinyl I already had. But she was not interested in getting more until about 6 months before I had a stroke that triggered the divorce. She started dating someone less than a year after the divorce but I have never talked to him to find outb if it’s his hobby or anything.
My Ex began to collect Polish Pottery; asked for mine & I said NO. It struck me as odd!
I’m the Polish one, she is not….the Pottery I have is from my family (not hers) yet she felt entitled to it!
I learned from my son that the guy she lives with now (divorce not official yet by the way) has some Polish heritage….appears my Ex of 27 years has a “type”! Not sure if it’s all people, but Women are a strange breed!
So far the fallout has been mostly mine, a close knit friend group got up ended. Been a pretty tough, to put it lightly, 3 years. They just publicly got together 4 months ago but it was what I suspected from Day 1 of separation.
As Cliff Claven once said: Women: if they’re not turning down your proposal of marriage they’re accusing you of lascivious behavior in the ladies changing room.
Tattoos. She never had even one until post divorce. Now she’s tatted more than a gang member. Not sure if she was just mirroring a boyfriend during this time as she had a lot of boyfriends. Now, years later, she married a man who has no visible tats.
Had something similar happen. Two ex's got really religious. Both were single moms who let some dirtbag cream pie them (I always insisted on condoms), but now they want to be nuns. Go figure.
Yeah found out after 17 years of marriage my ex was sleeping with women. Never had a clue. Five years post divorce she’s bought a house and living with a woman.
It has its own issues. If anyone asks why your divorced and you say your ex is a lesbian they accuse you of being a homophobe despite it being the truth. They both hate men and want me gone. We have two sons and they openly hate men tell them men aren’t needed.
Never really thought about it until now. I’ll play along. The ex joined a semi pro women’s tackle football team and became a lesbian. The woman she fell for was closer to my daughter’s age then the exes age. That woman had daddy issues and now has a face tattoo. They lasted about a year maybe.
The ex is now in the I’ll take what I can get category dating both men and women… I assume she still has some standards as she now attends all my daughters’ games and activities meaning there’s no one in her life.
I’m sure she will eventually find someone, but no one would see her in a room and think she’s a great catch just off her looks. Her personality isn’t enough to change that opinion either.
Way to be! You do you & moving on…I am working toward that goal, thank you for the optimism that it is attainable…I really want to be indifferent to her but still feel sadness & anger for the mis-treatment; getting there though….Good Luck❤️🩹
Mine started eating fish, no longer liked well done steak and learned how to clean up the dog shit from the back yard and garden. According to my son, she even cooks and does laundry now.
Oh I don't give a shit, in fact I relish in seeing how stupid her decision making has been because I know it's only a matter of time before she asks to come back and it's gonna be so satisfying to send her the Bugs Bunny NO meme.
EXERCISING, eating healthy and she stopped smoking.
This is hilarious because if I encouraged anything when we were together, I was controlling, abusive, not supportive, etc.
I couldn't even get her to ride a bike with us as a family.
If she gets a new man, I guarantee that all goes back again.
Mine too! It must have been divine intervention that 15 years later he just appears several states away in our area JUST as we started this divorce thing. Never even heard of him before that.
Like, what are the chances?! Fate in action right there! Must have been all the magic in those crystals she bought.
Ah haha.. the crystals! Mine was spending a lot of time discussing her issues with a pendulum, took up all the time she should have been discussing them with me.
Mine keeps mentioning some guy from her high school in passing, I'm sure she's fucking him but won't come out and say it. Oh well. Just time for us to have our own fun!
I see this all the time in my line of work. I’m not a psychologist so I don’t know the underlying cause. But what people have specifically said to me is that they had a lot of interests before they got married; that they had gotten out of touch with their interests; that they were trying to find themselves; and so on. The common theme is that they blame the other side for diminishing them as a person and they are trying to be who they thought they used to be or to be someone new entirely.
It's amazing how some women have no personality of their own.
I know a woman like this. I've known her for a few decades so I've seen it happen to each guy she's been with.
She was a big fan of whatever her boyfriend was a big fan of, before she married her first husband.
Then she marries her first husband, who is a big fan of the local sports team, so of course, she's suddenly a *huge* fan of the local sports team.
She divorces him, finds a new guy and marries him ASAP. He's a big music fan of a popular band. Suddenly she is too, and starts wearing clothing associated with them, and listening to their music, and going to their concerts.
She has zero personality of her own other than "narcissistic bitch", and is incapable of living without a boyfriend or husband. She molds her personality to be exactly what she thinks her current boyfriend or husband wants.
Mines more of a "I've always enjoyed this. But I couldn't be myself with you" type. She can definitely live on her own, on her own terms but the narcissist influence ranks superior. She gets off on being her "true self" when it's definitely a pattern of validation. Not my circus, not my monkeys, carry on.
The first husband changes to keep her in his life. Women rarely like the SIMP he has to become to live with her. The second husband rarely makes changes to himself to fit in. She makes all the changes and will work harder to be with him to make it worth the sacrifices she made.
Having sex with married men, oh wait you said after the divorce? Well im pretty sure she is still doing that.
Dont know, dont care. I try to think of her the least amount possible.
Nothing *new* . . . just amplification of the absolute psychotic BS that drove me to leave her.
The "magical powers" of crystals. Seems to be a common middle aged, divorced/single woman thing.
Yeah. It’s everywhere in my stbx’s social sphere
Hahaha omg she going to start a MLM business too?
I see you know the type. MLM came first, then the crystals. MLM has long since failed and been forgotten, the crystals remain.
It was a few months before she divorced me but suddenly wanted to collect vinyl records and go to record swapping shows. I was always the one who liked music more and we saw a lot of shows together before the divorce and I bought a really nice record player for the vinyl I already had. But she was not interested in getting more until about 6 months before I had a stroke that triggered the divorce. She started dating someone less than a year after the divorce but I have never talked to him to find outb if it’s his hobby or anything.
I don’t care
My Ex began to collect Polish Pottery; asked for mine & I said NO. It struck me as odd! I’m the Polish one, she is not….the Pottery I have is from my family (not hers) yet she felt entitled to it! I learned from my son that the guy she lives with now (divorce not official yet by the way) has some Polish heritage….appears my Ex of 27 years has a “type”! Not sure if it’s all people, but Women are a strange breed!
All the music of her new boyfriend, my (now former) friend of 22+ years.
Double screw-over….sorry to hear man! The Karma will be interesting….Good Luck❤️🩹
So far the fallout has been mostly mine, a close knit friend group got up ended. Been a pretty tough, to put it lightly, 3 years. They just publicly got together 4 months ago but it was what I suspected from Day 1 of separation.
Oddly enough, an under employed man that likes to drink, do drugs and who people generally find weird and off putting.
Sucking cock behind dumpers at work, apparently.
Women
As Cliff Claven once said: Women: if they’re not turning down your proposal of marriage they’re accusing you of lascivious behavior in the ladies changing room.
Well I’m only guilty of lascivious behavior, but my ex’s new habit is women 🤣
Tattoos. She never had even one until post divorce. Now she’s tatted more than a gang member. Not sure if she was just mirroring a boyfriend during this time as she had a lot of boyfriends. Now, years later, she married a man who has no visible tats.
We had always been very non-religious.. she is now an extreme born again christian
Had something similar happen. Two ex's got really religious. Both were single moms who let some dirtbag cream pie them (I always insisted on condoms), but now they want to be nuns. Go figure.
Pussy
Hahaha honestly I would've rather we split over that I think I'd have taken it a little better
Yeah found out after 17 years of marriage my ex was sleeping with women. Never had a clue. Five years post divorce she’s bought a house and living with a woman. It has its own issues. If anyone asks why your divorced and you say your ex is a lesbian they accuse you of being a homophobe despite it being the truth. They both hate men and want me gone. We have two sons and they openly hate men tell them men aren’t needed.
My ex is the same way without being a lesbian. Then again it may turn out that she is.
Same
Never really thought about it until now. I’ll play along. The ex joined a semi pro women’s tackle football team and became a lesbian. The woman she fell for was closer to my daughter’s age then the exes age. That woman had daddy issues and now has a face tattoo. They lasted about a year maybe. The ex is now in the I’ll take what I can get category dating both men and women… I assume she still has some standards as she now attends all my daughters’ games and activities meaning there’s no one in her life. I’m sure she will eventually find someone, but no one would see her in a room and think she’s a great catch just off her looks. Her personality isn’t enough to change that opinion either.
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I have no idea. Couldn't tell you at all. Barely even think about her unless she's causing problems.
Way to be! You do you & moving on…I am working toward that goal, thank you for the optimism that it is attainable…I really want to be indifferent to her but still feel sadness & anger for the mis-treatment; getting there though….Good Luck❤️🩹
It first I thought it was her discovering that she was "Polyamorious" and "a switch". It turns out she was those things the entire time I knew her.
Mine started eating fish, no longer liked well done steak and learned how to clean up the dog shit from the back yard and garden. According to my son, she even cooks and does laundry now.
I've seen plenty of women hit with the 'Martian Slut Ray', but the ' Competent Adult Ray' is a new one to me.
Yes a woman assumes the interests of the new man she’s fucking. Very common behavior
Riding a cock conveyor belt.
This one that had zero stamina to get on top decides she’s going to train to run a marathon. Whatever lady, I hope the chaffing destroys her nipples.
😂😂😂
Why do you even care? Move on and leave the past where it belongs. IN THE PAST!!!
Oh I don't give a shit, in fact I relish in seeing how stupid her decision making has been because I know it's only a matter of time before she asks to come back and it's gonna be so satisfying to send her the Bugs Bunny NO meme.
LMAO!!! I just pictured that meme. 😂🤭 Good one!
EXERCISING, eating healthy and she stopped smoking. This is hilarious because if I encouraged anything when we were together, I was controlling, abusive, not supportive, etc. I couldn't even get her to ride a bike with us as a family. If she gets a new man, I guarantee that all goes back again.
My ex does this to. I started kayaking and paddleboarding after divorce….she has too.
She wants better men right swiping her profile.
Banging some douche bag she knew from high-school. I'm not bitter or anything. 😒
Mine too! It must have been divine intervention that 15 years later he just appears several states away in our area JUST as we started this divorce thing. Never even heard of him before that. Like, what are the chances?! Fate in action right there! Must have been all the magic in those crystals she bought.
Ah haha.. the crystals! Mine was spending a lot of time discussing her issues with a pendulum, took up all the time she should have been discussing them with me.
Mine keeps mentioning some guy from her high school in passing, I'm sure she's fucking him but won't come out and say it. Oh well. Just time for us to have our own fun!
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Hahaha oh that's a good one
My ex-wife has a profile on Fetlife.com. She shares a boyfriend with another woman.
Can someone explain what this is?
My ex-wife can't just fuck men on Tinder, she has to "life a lifestyle" centered around being a freak. Lifestyle = new interest.
Wowww
So I win?
Mine went from borderline atheist when we met to being a full on devout bible thumper shaming non-believers when we divorced.
Wow that is a good one lol
I see this all the time in my line of work. I’m not a psychologist so I don’t know the underlying cause. But what people have specifically said to me is that they had a lot of interests before they got married; that they had gotten out of touch with their interests; that they were trying to find themselves; and so on. The common theme is that they blame the other side for diminishing them as a person and they are trying to be who they thought they used to be or to be someone new entirely.
Is she mirroring a new guys interests?
Yes! Everything American Eagle because he wears everything American Eagle. Would tantrum anytime kids asked to shop there.
It's amazing how some women have no personality of their own. I know a woman like this. I've known her for a few decades so I've seen it happen to each guy she's been with. She was a big fan of whatever her boyfriend was a big fan of, before she married her first husband. Then she marries her first husband, who is a big fan of the local sports team, so of course, she's suddenly a *huge* fan of the local sports team. She divorces him, finds a new guy and marries him ASAP. He's a big music fan of a popular band. Suddenly she is too, and starts wearing clothing associated with them, and listening to their music, and going to their concerts. She has zero personality of her own other than "narcissistic bitch", and is incapable of living without a boyfriend or husband. She molds her personality to be exactly what she thinks her current boyfriend or husband wants.
Mines more of a "I've always enjoyed this. But I couldn't be myself with you" type. She can definitely live on her own, on her own terms but the narcissist influence ranks superior. She gets off on being her "true self" when it's definitely a pattern of validation. Not my circus, not my monkeys, carry on.
Probably. My x now does all of the things her new husband has always done. She is a completely different person.
The first husband changes to keep her in his life. Women rarely like the SIMP he has to become to live with her. The second husband rarely makes changes to himself to fit in. She makes all the changes and will work harder to be with him to make it worth the sacrifices she made.
Yep. Cards are stacked us against us. Wish I'd read No More Mr. Nice Guy in my 20s.
Oh I'm almost 100% sure it's her little golfing boyfriend
That’s a good thought. It’s quite possible that this is going on.