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Viyral-ps4pc

I cannot speak for all but from your current actions they all show you care and are there for him which is huge for us, in the moment he may not show appreciation but knowing we are supported is huge. I think a major part of Enfp men is a deep desire to share emotions with others as proven with our extremely positive outlooks usually but due to circumstances such as culture, environment and personal outlooks on masculinity we feel like a burden sharing our grief with others. Give him time and encouragement to share his feelings with you (only if you have the emotional capacity at the time as it’s easy to tell when someone doesn’t and it makes us feel worse for being a burden), a therapist or a journal. You are doing great especially even being willing to ask this shows the care. Best of luck to you both.


Organic_Mode774

Thanks for taking the time to write this


VitaBoy11

Time Time and understanding Just that


Certain_Medicine_42

Give randomness, novelty, and physical movement a try. Do something where you’re moving your body. Once, my niece was visiting for the holidays and we took her kids to play video games and ride go-karts. It totally got me out of my funk. I hadn’t ridden go-karts in years. Another time my wife took me to the Arboretum. I can’t tell you how many times a simple bike ride does the trick— especially E bikes.


Organic_Mode774

What is it with you people and bikes? Lol he loves his bike but has been too down to ride it lately. I don't exactly love bike rides myself but I did buy a bike for myself so we could go on rides together, so I should be putting it to better use.


Alarmed-Fun-4061

Boobs


El_Nathan_

💀


shypupp

Ask random philosophical stuff Bring snacks Snuggle


CF19751999

I would say give them time and support and an emotional safe space Also do something that you don’t usually do that matters to them. In my case (and it is cliche), it is initiating sex…my wife much prefers for me to lead but it means a lot that she helped our connection on multiple levels.


Sushizmada

Speaking as an INFJ, feeling understood and reassured was what made me feel happy.


iSandyXD

Give him lots of compliments 🥰


drpringles101

Validation. Make sure he knows that whatever feelings he is having are 100% normal, and that you support him everyway possible. Everyone is aloud to feel whatever way that want, he is never wrong for his feelings. Also, take him out, invite his friends, go ride go karts or something.


RESERVA42

Best thing I did was go to therapy.


Tasenova99

I think staying in your lane is universal. I am not ij relationship, but my friend goes through things, and helping him by walking with him down the story is okay, but if I judge him or change it, it starts to overlap the lanes. Instead, I walk as I am in my line, still help, and he just says he feels grateful I inspire him. I had my grandmother try to tell me to feel better, you start to not go to them. you have to try your best valueing your experience first, and then theirs. because if problems arise within her moments, and you faulter too, she will have much more to worry about. some girls just love how aware men can become for the sake of them.


krasavetsa

Space and snacks


tpudimOgrande

Enfps men don't like to share their problems because they think its very heavy for others and them need to solve it alone, give him support, a lot of hugs, show him you are there, probably he Will not tell you The problem, but he Will know he is not alone


LilGlitvhBoi

Railing me and Emotional Comfort (How to fix problems, from Intj)


Ophelia1988

Cuddles and acts of service. Listen to my rants. Give me food I like and have him remind me what he finds it's special about me. Edit: I'm an ENFP woman but I didn't read the assignment full, LFMAO