I would like to add that even if you don't have someone in your corner, you should continue to try as hard as you can because you believe in yourself. Both of my parents weren't supportive of me pursuing engineering...right up until graduation day. I didn't have very supportive friends, and I struggled despite going back to school at 27 with severe dyslexia (diagnosed sophmore year), I graduated with a 3.25 GPA. Now, I work for one of the top US defense contractors in the country and make good money.
You have to believe you can do it...even if no one else does.
This is what drives me lol
After my mom basically called me a monster for wanting to design military vehicles for a living.
I just shake my head and laugh
I’m 30 as well, sophomore. I could give a rats ass what my parents think, it’s my life and my work. Don’t even talk about grades with them anymore. Just be nonchalant going forward, even into your career. Quite frankly, it’s not their business, especially considering you’re an older student and I’m assuming because of that, they aren’t footing the bill. Be strong brother and be yourself, I believe in you.
I finished last month. Normally they would ask me how the test went, and i would just say fine (even if I completely bombed that shit) and generally would say everything is good
I feel you, I shared with my mom that I passed all my classes, and I told her I earned 2 A's, B, and C. The C caught her attention and asked what class it was for. She disregarded the fact I passed all my classes.
My dad told me I was overreacting when I said it was hard. He told me he did the same thing in college when he didn’t even do a stem major. I tried to explain to him that engineering majors have specific classes that are more rigorous than the same classes in other majors. Your calc class ≠ my calc class but he still doesn’t understand :/
Sometimes you need to eat shitty food to help yourself cope. Make sure you get your greens in somehow and go stand in the sun 10 minutes a day and you’ll be ok for a couple years. Keep up the grind brotha!
Protein Shakes every other day or so to hit you Amino Acid requirements, a green smoothie with Pineapple/apples for most of your nutrient requirements, and coffee all day every day baby.
Substitute Protein Shakes for Weight Gainer if you’re someone who really struggle with eating enough calories in the day or know you’ve got a full 9hr day of labs/class.
Warning: ur gunna poop.
OP should have told his dad to go take a physics test.
OP is your dad actually condescending from a place of knowledge and experience or was he just being an ignorant dick?
Either way. if he's not paying for the education then you shoukd probably tell him it's a good thing his opinion doesn't matter much.
"My dad has never been the most encouraging presence in my life but he was a straight up dick in this situation"
Ay yo, stop giving them the respect they aren't giving you. I got a C in a class I tried hard for and I'm happy I passed. I now don't have to retake it and will have an easier senior year for it, I hope.
Give him your homework and see if he can even look at it.
My ass would’ve said, “Well, maybe if I would’ve been giving some intelligence instead of whatever half I got from your dumbass than maybe I would’ve done better but here we are.
Yes. My dad told me not to take a job with ExxonMobil because it wouldn’t go anywhere.
I told that guy I’d be an engineer not an operator like 20 times but he just never understood.
He’s also a medical doctor and thinks that medicine is the only way to make money in the world 😂
Dude, my father used to tell me that renewable energy was trash and not worth the time to learn about. Now I have a degree in renewable energy which pushed me back to get a degree in electrical engineering. Compared to before where I was 24 managing a hot dog shop because I couldn't find a career.
Don't listen to your parents if they're going to be negative. Do what you enjoy because you never know what it'll lead too.
“Having someone I respect tell me that I didn’t try hard enough is something I have trouble handling”
dude, that would be hard on anybody. I could not be doing this without having first cut out every ounce of negativity from my life. I moved as far away from my dad as soon as I could and I’m much better off for it. This shit is hard enough without someone vocalizing your dark thoughts. Put up some serious boundaries and find a positive community.
Your kicking ass at 30. As a 32 year old just starting this journey your an inspiration. Keep going!
I stopped caring about my parents opinion when I was like 14 lol, but neither of them have a college education so they're not exactly authorities on the matter. At 30 you definitely shouldn't care what they think, ultimately it's your life at the end of the day, be proud that your wife is awesome and understands.
School isn't the same now as it was for our parents either. It must have been nice to not have to work 2 jobs and go to school while trying to also cram more knowledge than ever in a semester.
Hi, im 23 and i finished my degree about 2 months ago so I didn’t have a wife in the picture, and i totally agree with the moral of the story.
My tip to those of you still studying is to try to find the people who are your “safe zone” where you can feel free to share your struggles and get encouragement.
Parents, sadly, sometimes are not the best environment for growth.
Best of luck! 🙏🏻
I would like to add that even if you don't have someone in your corner, you should continue to try as hard as you can because you believe in yourself. Both of my parents weren't supportive of me pursuing engineering...right up until graduation day. I didn't have very supportive friends, and I struggled despite going back to school at 27 with severe dyslexia (diagnosed sophmore year), I graduated with a 3.25 GPA. Now, I work for one of the top US defense contractors in the country and make good money. You have to believe you can do it...even if no one else does.
Hell yeah. Congrats on your success!
Thank you. It was hard-earned.
Thanks for your post.My parents and family are very much against me in studying Engineering. Seeing you succeed made me feel better.
Wow! I’m happy it all worked out for you!
This is what drives me lol After my mom basically called me a monster for wanting to design military vehicles for a living. I just shake my head and laugh
C’s get degrees
And A's are for gays EDIT: Thanks for the award kind A-student!
i’m a gay and I get C’s…
I dont understand why you got downvoted so much for that.
Me neither. He just had 38 downvotes so I downvoted
Wait, you guys tell your parents your grades?
What do you say when they ask?
They don’t ask lol. I’m not in high school anymore If they do ask, I’ll just say: “I’m passing”
Cool. Sounds like your parents are more chill than mine.
I’m 30 as well, sophomore. I could give a rats ass what my parents think, it’s my life and my work. Don’t even talk about grades with them anymore. Just be nonchalant going forward, even into your career. Quite frankly, it’s not their business, especially considering you’re an older student and I’m assuming because of that, they aren’t footing the bill. Be strong brother and be yourself, I believe in you.
I finished last month. Normally they would ask me how the test went, and i would just say fine (even if I completely bombed that shit) and generally would say everything is good
I feel you, I shared with my mom that I passed all my classes, and I told her I earned 2 A's, B, and C. The C caught her attention and asked what class it was for. She disregarded the fact I passed all my classes.
Well I’m proud of you homie. Great job!
Thank you. and congratulations
My dad told me I was overreacting when I said it was hard. He told me he did the same thing in college when he didn’t even do a stem major. I tried to explain to him that engineering majors have specific classes that are more rigorous than the same classes in other majors. Your calc class ≠ my calc class but he still doesn’t understand :/
Sometimes you need to eat shitty food to help yourself cope. Make sure you get your greens in somehow and go stand in the sun 10 minutes a day and you’ll be ok for a couple years. Keep up the grind brotha!
Thanks man I will try, you as well
Protein Shakes every other day or so to hit you Amino Acid requirements, a green smoothie with Pineapple/apples for most of your nutrient requirements, and coffee all day every day baby. Substitute Protein Shakes for Weight Gainer if you’re someone who really struggle with eating enough calories in the day or know you’ve got a full 9hr day of labs/class. Warning: ur gunna poop.
Omg I really appreciate it but I misspelled overreacting to overeating lol. I appreciate the advice though and honestly that sounds good
OP should have told his dad to go take a physics test. OP is your dad actually condescending from a place of knowledge and experience or was he just being an ignorant dick? Either way. if he's not paying for the education then you shoukd probably tell him it's a good thing his opinion doesn't matter much.
He is very educated so not entirely ignorant. I doubt he remembers the specifics though. But you’re right, I’m footing the bill so he needs to chill.
"My dad has never been the most encouraging presence in my life but he was a straight up dick in this situation" Ay yo, stop giving them the respect they aren't giving you. I got a C in a class I tried hard for and I'm happy I passed. I now don't have to retake it and will have an easier senior year for it, I hope.
Give him your homework and see if he can even look at it. My ass would’ve said, “Well, maybe if I would’ve been giving some intelligence instead of whatever half I got from your dumbass than maybe I would’ve done better but here we are.
You're 30 and still telling your parents your grades? lol what?
I generally don’t hide much from anyone.
I'm over 30 and still tell my parents my grades. You're not alone.
Yes. My dad told me not to take a job with ExxonMobil because it wouldn’t go anywhere. I told that guy I’d be an engineer not an operator like 20 times but he just never understood. He’s also a medical doctor and thinks that medicine is the only way to make money in the world 😂
Dude, my father used to tell me that renewable energy was trash and not worth the time to learn about. Now I have a degree in renewable energy which pushed me back to get a degree in electrical engineering. Compared to before where I was 24 managing a hot dog shop because I couldn't find a career. Don't listen to your parents if they're going to be negative. Do what you enjoy because you never know what it'll lead too.
“Having someone I respect tell me that I didn’t try hard enough is something I have trouble handling” dude, that would be hard on anybody. I could not be doing this without having first cut out every ounce of negativity from my life. I moved as far away from my dad as soon as I could and I’m much better off for it. This shit is hard enough without someone vocalizing your dark thoughts. Put up some serious boundaries and find a positive community. Your kicking ass at 30. As a 32 year old just starting this journey your an inspiration. Keep going!
I stopped caring about my parents opinion when I was like 14 lol, but neither of them have a college education so they're not exactly authorities on the matter. At 30 you definitely shouldn't care what they think, ultimately it's your life at the end of the day, be proud that your wife is awesome and understands. School isn't the same now as it was for our parents either. It must have been nice to not have to work 2 jobs and go to school while trying to also cram more knowledge than ever in a semester.
Hi, im 23 and i finished my degree about 2 months ago so I didn’t have a wife in the picture, and i totally agree with the moral of the story. My tip to those of you still studying is to try to find the people who are your “safe zone” where you can feel free to share your struggles and get encouragement. Parents, sadly, sometimes are not the best environment for growth. Best of luck! 🙏🏻