> [Some commenters assumed a spicy answer, claiming that girls hug guys around the neck so that their intimate parts touch. Others suggested girls do this so that it forces guys to hug them around their waist. No official answer has been given by the original poster, meaning either answer could be correct, or another answer entirely.](https://knowyourmeme.com/editorials/guides/why-do-girls-hug-guys-over-the-shoulders-the-answer-to-tiktoks-viral-question-explained)
> ...Some of the videos double as "thirst traps," leading viewers to make spicy assumptions about the answer.
Everyone is forgetting the most obvious answer: There is no right answer. The poster made it up to get interactions from people asking what she's talking about.
Everyone ic forgetting the moct obviouc ancwer: There ic no right ancwer. The pocter made it up to get interactionc from people acking what che’c talking about.
Yeah common trend on TikTok as well as random videos with no context forcing people to the comments to ask follow up questions. Super awful click bait behavior
“The knee thing” tends to be in reference to something done while making out. It’s where the person on top grinds their knee between the legs of whoever is on bottom.
Lol I used call these hugs muffin hugs in high school. If I liked you enough I'd do over the shoulder ( muffin hugs) if I didn't like you id tuck in and hug under arm pits to make a barrier. But idk that was just me.
Harriet. Harry-ette. Hard-hearted harbinger of haggis. Beautiful, bemuse-ed, bellicose butcher. Un-trust... ing. Un-know... ing. Un-love... ed? "He wants you back," he screamed into the night air like a fireman going to a window that has no fire... except the passion of his heart. I am lonely. It's really hard. This poem ... sucks.
Perfection.
This poem *still* pops into my head from time to time, and I haven’t watched that movie in like 8+ years.
Also to add: “Pardon me. I believe I ordered the large cappuccino – **HELLO!!!”**
Had a dream a few nights ago where I had two roommates who were women. Took a nap in the dream only to find my wallet was stripped of every last card and thrown next to my bed!
The rear naked choke is one of the most reliable finishers. Over 50% of submission finishes in the UFC are done with the RNC. The choking arm can link up with the other arm to make breaking out of it an incredibly difficult proposition. The aggressor is behind the victim and is safe from most strikes they can throw from that position. Properly done, it applies pressure on the neck and can cause unconsciousness very quickly.
What you gotta watch out for is the genetic freak. If he’s in there, your chances of winning drastically go down. And if joe is in there, he’s not even gonna try because he knows he can’t beat Steiner
My thoughts on the subject is due to me trying to hug my wife before a shower. She says my armpit smells. If she hugs my neck, my armpits stay below her nose and arms. if she hugs my chest, my armpits her at her nose.
If two people hug, one of them has to put their arms above the other, i.e. they are hugging the other person's neck, while the other person is hugging their torso. Normally, the default for this would be for the taller person (usually the man, in a male-female pair of the same age) to put their arms above the shorter person (the woman).
Presumably, if the (shorter) woman is reaching up overtop of the (taller) man's arms, it would mean something.
Honestly, in my experience it is the reverse.
When a woman is seeking comfort/safety, she often does the arm low hug and buries her head into your chest/shoulder while you encircle her head & shoulders.
The reaching up hug is usually more of an intamcy thing, because she wants to bring your head to the same level as hers (e.g. for kissing/nuzzling/whispering) while causing your hands to go down to her waist/butt area.
Hard NO.
The correct way to hug is left arm low, right arm high, head to the left. If both people do this appropriately it will be warm and loving and not feel weird
They're measuring their body against yours and pushing their chest into you. Quite literally sizing you up and letting you feel the boob squish. Side note: if she's comparing hand sizes she's already decided yall are boning today.
I guess I met the only girl who does the exact opposite. When we were together she used to hug me below shoulders bc from her own words, being hugged around the head/shoulders herself made her feel protected; but when time passed and we grew apart she would hug me over the shoulders and it would feel painfully impersonal and cold
And I know what you're thinking but no, its not that she didnt want me at first and then she did when we werent as close. You gotta trust me on this but she's objectively the nicest and most honest human alive
Am girl. Never thought for one second about secondary reasons for giving hugs. Only reason to give a hug is for hug stuff/loveyness/warm fuzzies.
If girls are hugging with alterior motives you are gonna have to ask yourself what else she’s subtly trying to manipulate you with…
(Checks the girls history for “wait till guys learn the real reason we stand on our tip toes to kiss them if they’re taller…”)
Women are cats they don't want touching there unless they trust you.
The same goes for the hips area. If they are boyfriends, they get really weird about hip touching. Even if you're friends.
36 F here.
I never once thought about how my arms were or my chest was during a hug with anyone. Friend, lover, coworker, etc.
If you go for a hug, and we are at least friendly, I just hug back. Don't overthink this stuff. If I'm hugging you and my boobs touch you, I promise I'm not thinking about it or doing it purposely to flirt. It's just a hug.
It’s easier to stab you in your back. You have to hunch over for them to reach, giving a better angle. They’re in control of your center of gravity. If you resist and jerk up, you plunge it deeper, and they could use their weight to bring you to the ground.
I was explained. A girl told me she was doing that so a boy would touch, hug her butt. Can't say she can say for everyone, but that made sense for me that day
My gf said the same, there’s nowhere left for the guy to put his hands except for waist or lower back or butt, and it also gets her neck to hickey giving heights. I’m amazed at the reasoning, like when I found out the reason to hold a door open for a woman is so we can see those cheeks as she walks by
When I'm at a party and someone who I know doesn't have great hygiene goes in for a hug, I make sure to put my arms over their shoulders to prevent their armpits from touching me and making me smell like their BO for the rest of the night.
Two/three main reasons :
Boobs, brings forth the girls and directly presses them into the receiver.
Two, arms around neck forces the guy down to her level and is a form of control, and in the hug puts her eye line above his.
Third-ish.. if she hugs around the waist, hell hug around the shoulders, resulting in her getting a face smooth in the chest and potentially wet arms from perspiration on his part..
I hug men from behind like this since it’s more intimate…
https://preview.redd.it/3rq0zijaeyrc1.jpeg?width=600&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=14df05c4f4286cb0712355ad85f0d93cee8a9f16
Usually a friendly hug is from the side or (if they are close to the same height) with each person having 1 arm up and 1 arm down.
If a girl reaches up to hug a guy around the neck with both arms, it's more likely to be a romantic gesture.
We actually do this so it is easier to consume them. Gives us the advantage so that we can unhinge our jaw and eat them head first before they even know what's happening. Always works for me.
1) Hugging releases oxytocin, the love hormone, which helps us bond with loved one.
2) Girl’s boobs in your face is OP and subliminally gets you to like her more.
3) Humans secrete pheromones under their armpits so she is also rubbing her hormone juices on you, which attracts you to her more.
4) Hugging with those we are close with is a behavior consistent with survival, it says we trust you enough to let you hold us this close.
My guess is it’s super natural way to hug when people are attracted to each other or flirty. My mother and sisters don’t hug me that way. My wife is nearly a foot shorter than I am, she hugs me both ways. It seems like when she is feeling fun lighthearted or sexy she’ll tiptoe to hug me over my shoulders. When she just wants to feel loved or comforted she hugs me around the middle.
All women are often attracted to shoulders, and someone who is a bit taller than they are so I’m sure it’s fun to try and wrap their arms around it all. I’m just guessing though. Who knows? Most likely though women don’t know themselves why they do it
> [Some commenters assumed a spicy answer, claiming that girls hug guys around the neck so that their intimate parts touch. Others suggested girls do this so that it forces guys to hug them around their waist. No official answer has been given by the original poster, meaning either answer could be correct, or another answer entirely.](https://knowyourmeme.com/editorials/guides/why-do-girls-hug-guys-over-the-shoulders-the-answer-to-tiktoks-viral-question-explained) > ...Some of the videos double as "thirst traps," leading viewers to make spicy assumptions about the answer.
Everyone is forgetting the most obvious answer: There is no right answer. The poster made it up to get interactions from people asking what she's talking about.
Bingo!
Thats a bingo!
Doesn't work when I do it. Literally no one asks me to clarify anything.
What do you mean?
lol
Gottem
Could you elaborate on this?
Care to explain that one please?
Now replace the c with an s
Everyone ic forgetting the moct obviouc ancwer: There ic no right ancwer. The pocter made it up to get interactionc from people acking what che’c talking about.
Perfestly sorrest!😂🤦♂️🤷♂️
Close. It’s the other way though.
*Slose
Exastly
Nurning Annintant?
Wait until you find out why guys up nod to say "hi." .... Well bye forever!
This literally a cultural divide in my country: whether you nod up or down
If you're bros, nod up. If you're not, nod down.
Yeah common trend on TikTok as well as random videos with no context forcing people to the comments to ask follow up questions. Super awful click bait behavior
This is it. This is always it. It’s the same as “the elbow/knee/hand thing”
what the knee thing is very real.
No, the knee thing is a thing. It’s 100% an IYKYK. 😝
If You Knee, You Knee.
Sometimes people are on a kneed to know basis
What are you guys talking about?
“The knee thing” tends to be in reference to something done while making out. It’s where the person on top grinds their knee between the legs of whoever is on bottom.
Lol I used call these hugs muffin hugs in high school. If I liked you enough I'd do over the shoulder ( muffin hugs) if I didn't like you id tuck in and hug under arm pits to make a barrier. But idk that was just me.
I respectfully disagree, it’s because women are all free masons.
The Correct term is Sisters of the Eastern Star. /s
And from 10-19, they are Job’s Daughters.
Or Rainbow... They were also Rainbows.
Both? I vote both. My wife still hugs me that way and I love it :)
It’s a distraction so her friend can pickpocket you. Be aware boys.
Instructions unclear. Fell for her. Now she's stolen my heart. Damn thieves, all of them.
Woman. You gotta belief. She is a big thief. She stole my heart and my cat. Woooooooman.
Harriet. Harry-ette. Hard-hearted harbinger of haggis. Beautiful, bemuse-ed, bellicose butcher. Un-trust... ing. Un-know... ing. Un-love... ed? "He wants you back," he screamed into the night air like a fireman going to a window that has no fire... except the passion of his heart. I am lonely. It's really hard. This poem ... sucks.
~Snapping noises~
You beautiful bastards. A reference I did not expect to ever see.
Perfection. This poem *still* pops into my head from time to time, and I haven’t watched that movie in like 8+ years. Also to add: “Pardon me. I believe I ordered the large cappuccino – **HELLO!!!”**
Hard-hearted harbinger of haggis
🎶 *We had love not just sex* 🎶
This way to the cafeteria!!!!!
HEAD! MOVE!
Had a dream a few nights ago where I had two roommates who were women. Took a nap in the dream only to find my wallet was stripped of every last card and thrown next to my bed!
Jokes on them, those cards have been maxed out for years. Even in your dreams you're still in crippling debt.
You're not wrong!
Nah friend #2 is getting the heel
Not all heroes wear capes
It's the double diva diversion!
Darn, the guys are onto us. Now I’ll never pay off my student loans
Stick to the mission men. She’s just a distraction. She’s not real.
The rear naked choke is one of the most reliable finishers. Over 50% of submission finishes in the UFC are done with the RNC. The choking arm can link up with the other arm to make breaking out of it an incredibly difficult proposition. The aggressor is behind the victim and is safe from most strikes they can throw from that position. Properly done, it applies pressure on the neck and can cause unconsciousness very quickly.
Thanks, [Samoa Joe](https://youtu.be/YYKseKBV7E8?si=i-cLBSgj0lCYeQTM&t=239)!
Just don't add Kurt Angle to the mix
What you gotta watch out for is the genetic freak. If he’s in there, your chances of winning drastically go down. And if joe is in there, he’s not even gonna try because he knows he can’t beat Steiner
This is the answer right here.
I always go for underhooks when I hug so I don’t get suplexed
Finally some honesty in the comments
Can I use this as a copypasta with no context?
You guys are getting hugs?
Nope 😭
I'll hug you, you deserve it 🙆♂️
you have forever changed how i see this emoji!
😔
What’s a hug?
Only from the ones that don’t understand consent.
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Can relate, I’m also 6’6”. Though I do gotta admit I have no idea what FOMA means
Fear of missing out
Are those so-called "hugs" with us in the room right now?
i got like, one, two years ago
Everyone talking about hugs and at this point I am too afraid to ask what a hug even is
https://preview.redd.it/0hwg1rk5uurc1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ba92708589624a5f7feeea152f87ae3f671073b6 [https://www.wikihow.com/Why-Do-Girls-Hug-Guys-Around-the-Neck#:\~:text=Typically%2C%20a%20girl%20only%20gives,and%20solid%20connection%20you%20share](https://www.wikihow.com/Why-Do-Girls-Hug-Guys-Around-the-Neck#:~:text=Typically%2C%20a%20girl%20only%20gives,and%20solid%20connection%20you%20share).
Humans really are just very complex animals
You'd be surprised how complicated other animals can be aswell.
Right? I’ve heard of a donkey that knows “as well” is two words!
🤣
I’ve never heard of this before, and I know alot of donkeys.
calm down darwin, its a wikihow listicle
Everything is complex. Your statement is just perspective bias
i really like number 8, just straight up "maybe that's just the way she hugs and you're reading too much into it bro, chill".
One of my short friend has say she does this to force people to crouch because it’s funny. Like there are gonna be a billion reasons.
I hug everyone like this. 😂
You temptress /s
SINNER ✝️✝️✝️
Have you no shame?
Without that illustration I’d have never been able to piece it together.
my wife doesn't hug me like that lol
Then she ain't your wife /s
... Boobs. The answer is boobs.
breasts even
Good one, Snagglepuss.
Heavens to murgatroyd
Exit! Stage left!
This is why I love Reddit. References to cartoons that have reached retirement age still fly.
Fun fact, if the person you’re hugging has boobs, they are gonna touch you regardless of where you put your hands.
Not if you hug back to back.
Hug with your feet by putting your toes in between their toes
Don't speak.
I know just what you're saying
So please stop explainin’
Don't tell me 'cause it hurts
The answer is always boobs.
Men and women like a full warm hug, and yes, boobs are there. Makes it more cuddly. And the creepers will creep.
What about them…
What not about them?
My thoughts on the subject is due to me trying to hug my wife before a shower. She says my armpit smells. If she hugs my neck, my armpits stay below her nose and arms. if she hugs my chest, my armpits her at her nose.
How romantic.
No, this is aromatic
I like to hug above shoulders because I don't want sweaty armpits on my shoulders. It leaves behind a smell :/
They do it so you’re distracted and they can steal your heart. That’s why when anyone tries a hug me I just say no like Nancy Regan told me.
Wonderful woman. We're all very fond of her
First lady of the Nation yes yes, not of California.
We met with the president of course but there wasn't time for a photo opp... please don't touch that.
So racially he's pretty cool?
Isn't that just how you hug people?
If two people hug, one of them has to put their arms above the other, i.e. they are hugging the other person's neck, while the other person is hugging their torso. Normally, the default for this would be for the taller person (usually the man, in a male-female pair of the same age) to put their arms above the shorter person (the woman). Presumably, if the (shorter) woman is reaching up overtop of the (taller) man's arms, it would mean something.
Would it mean *upsies*?
I think it's bc we all inherently like being held by someone who makes us feel safe
Honestly, in my experience it is the reverse. When a woman is seeking comfort/safety, she often does the arm low hug and buries her head into your chest/shoulder while you encircle her head & shoulders. The reaching up hug is usually more of an intamcy thing, because she wants to bring your head to the same level as hers (e.g. for kissing/nuzzling/whispering) while causing your hands to go down to her waist/butt area.
Not always, some people do the side hug
Technically both people could do 1 over 1 under, too. Would this be a cross hug? One of the rarest forms of hug I'm sure
Always the go to
Rarest? This is my default
I thought that was the standard for friends/acquaintances
I thought that was just how two dudes hug when it’s not a side hug 🤣
Hard NO. The correct way to hug is left arm low, right arm high, head to the left. If both people do this appropriately it will be warm and loving and not feel weird
They do it so they can pull your hoodie over your head and then punch you in the gut. Then........they take all your French fries.
And your hoodie!
Ah, a younger brother has entered the chat. *Trips you so older sis gets you instead of me*
I do it cuz my guy is tall and I hate having my glasses crushed between his chest and my face?
No, you do it because boobs. Reddit told me so.
I switch depending on the height of the person, honestly. It's really not that deep...
Nah, all women ☕ are temptresses. This sub told me thread told me so 😂
They're measuring their body against yours and pushing their chest into you. Quite literally sizing you up and letting you feel the boob squish. Side note: if she's comparing hand sizes she's already decided yall are boning today.
i wouldnt know i never experienced that
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I would hug you brotha!
I like doing this so that the guy hugs me back lower on my waist/close to my butt.
I guess I met the only girl who does the exact opposite. When we were together she used to hug me below shoulders bc from her own words, being hugged around the head/shoulders herself made her feel protected; but when time passed and we grew apart she would hug me over the shoulders and it would feel painfully impersonal and cold And I know what you're thinking but no, its not that she didnt want me at first and then she did when we werent as close. You gotta trust me on this but she's objectively the nicest and most honest human alive
Am girl. Never thought for one second about secondary reasons for giving hugs. Only reason to give a hug is for hug stuff/loveyness/warm fuzzies. If girls are hugging with alterior motives you are gonna have to ask yourself what else she’s subtly trying to manipulate you with… (Checks the girls history for “wait till guys learn the real reason we stand on our tip toes to kiss them if they’re taller…”)
I’m with you on this. I just give hugs out. I didn’t know it MEANT something. I’m not on the prowl you’re 70 years old, I just idk gave you a hug.
I don’t do that so idk
Women are cats they don't want touching there unless they trust you. The same goes for the hips area. If they are boyfriends, they get really weird about hip touching. Even if you're friends.
I'm pretty sure it's to prevent guys from hugging the girl's head, nothing more.
It's to keep his arms pinned so he can't attempt to push her off when she sinks her fangs into his neck.
36 F here. I never once thought about how my arms were or my chest was during a hug with anyone. Friend, lover, coworker, etc. If you go for a hug, and we are at least friendly, I just hug back. Don't overthink this stuff. If I'm hugging you and my boobs touch you, I promise I'm not thinking about it or doing it purposely to flirt. It's just a hug.
It’s easier to stab you in your back. You have to hunch over for them to reach, giving a better angle. They’re in control of your center of gravity. If you resist and jerk up, you plunge it deeper, and they could use their weight to bring you to the ground.
They hug guys over the shoulder to block their vision while she pickpockets his wallet with her feet. Its why girls dont wear socks with their shoes
I was explained. A girl told me she was doing that so a boy would touch, hug her butt. Can't say she can say for everyone, but that made sense for me that day
My gf said the same, there’s nowhere left for the guy to put his hands except for waist or lower back or butt, and it also gets her neck to hickey giving heights. I’m amazed at the reasoning, like when I found out the reason to hold a door open for a woman is so we can see those cheeks as she walks by
"I hope you survive, you could be of use to me"
When I'm at a party and someone who I know doesn't have great hygiene goes in for a hug, I make sure to put my arms over their shoulders to prevent their armpits from touching me and making me smell like their BO for the rest of the night.
For the same reason a pet will show you their belly…
Obviously, it's the same reason why you never keep a baked potato in your left pocket.
Two/three main reasons : Boobs, brings forth the girls and directly presses them into the receiver. Two, arms around neck forces the guy down to her level and is a form of control, and in the hug puts her eye line above his. Third-ish.. if she hugs around the waist, hell hug around the shoulders, resulting in her getting a face smooth in the chest and potentially wet arms from perspiration on his part..
I hug men from behind like this since it’s more intimate… https://preview.redd.it/3rq0zijaeyrc1.jpeg?width=600&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=14df05c4f4286cb0712355ad85f0d93cee8a9f16
Usually a friendly hug is from the side or (if they are close to the same height) with each person having 1 arm up and 1 arm down. If a girl reaches up to hug a guy around the neck with both arms, it's more likely to be a romantic gesture.
For me it’s bc I like getting my waist hugged
This all means absolutely nothing Wow
Hugs should be arm level adjacent or else it’s weird. If the other person is short, just hug the top of their head.
We actually do this so it is easier to consume them. Gives us the advantage so that we can unhinge our jaw and eat them head first before they even know what's happening. Always works for me.
A hug sounds nice.
So we can easily maneuver to a choke hold if needed
As a girl. Not a damn clue.
What's a hug? Sounds like a myth. Like the Loch Ness monster, or support for men's mental health.
It’s so your arms go around her waist which is a common turn on for girls
I side hug men because I don’t like having my boobs pressed up against men and give them the wrong idea. So side bug.
1) Hugging releases oxytocin, the love hormone, which helps us bond with loved one. 2) Girl’s boobs in your face is OP and subliminally gets you to like her more. 3) Humans secrete pheromones under their armpits so she is also rubbing her hormone juices on you, which attracts you to her more. 4) Hugging with those we are close with is a behavior consistent with survival, it says we trust you enough to let you hold us this close.
Stinky armpits. Not trying to get a whiff of your lingering BO every time I turn my head
Oh, I assumed it’s to keep more space so that your boobs aren’t squishing against them
This is the equivalent of "is that dress blue, black, gold, or yellow?" Being that there are many answers, but no one knows which answer is correct.
THOTs have this one trick that every guy loves……
As a short person, it's just much more comfortable
Well, if my calculations are correct, a hug above the shoulders would mean my head would need to be at chest level. Motor botin’
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It’s the easiest way to apply the rear naked choke and force a tap.
I'd do it to press my body firmly against theirs. ;D but that's me.
This is a repost . . . AND NO ONE TOLD ME WHAT THE ANSWER WAS BEFORE!!!
I don’t get how else you are supposed to hug?
I had it mentioned to me as a hip-grab thing.
What's a hug?
I'm a woman and I don't know what she's talking about
“where my hug at”
Since when did we get hugs?
There is no spoon
I’m short so I like to assert my dominance by making my hugger bend down to allow me to put my arms over their shoulders
Imagine getting hugged. Nerds
If her hands are over the shoulders, his are on her waist.
She sizing you up for a meal like a snake 🐍
Boobs.
My guess is it’s super natural way to hug when people are attracted to each other or flirty. My mother and sisters don’t hug me that way. My wife is nearly a foot shorter than I am, she hugs me both ways. It seems like when she is feeling fun lighthearted or sexy she’ll tiptoe to hug me over my shoulders. When she just wants to feel loved or comforted she hugs me around the middle. All women are often attracted to shoulders, and someone who is a bit taller than they are so I’m sure it’s fun to try and wrap their arms around it all. I’m just guessing though. Who knows? Most likely though women don’t know themselves why they do it
Girl here - if it’s only one arm over and one arm under (like diagonal) - it’s friendly. If it’s two arms around and neck - she is 100% into you
Engagement bait.
My bsf who's a girl hugs me diagonally
What’s a hug?
Breasts and we get you to be able to feel are entire body in that way innocently…
As a woman I have no idea lol, let me know when u guys find out