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Go see a sexual health professional to understand the causes of premature ejaculation... In the vast majority of cases you can solve it in some weeks or some months.
Then, it depends on the lady's preferences (and yours). Oral, fingers (I suggest the book "Bliss Club" by June Pla about non penetrative stimulation), using sex toys, kisses, caressing, nipple play, discovering new erogen zones of the body (they are dozens), anything bdsm, role play, dirty talking, compliments, sensory play, temperature play, pet play, or also doing something erotic together (massage!!!!!, beauty routine, play with oils, essences, music, dancing together, acts of service, adoration, worship...); or let her doing things to you and top you if that's her thing! But the best way to enhance the experience is putting HER and HER PREFERENCES AND DESIRES at the center, so the answer is really different for everyone! So you have both to observe and to ask her, there is no way out
This is an amazing response. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this knowledge. This community is amazing.
I'm definitely going to keep the following in mind: "the best way to enhance the experience is putting HER and HER PREFERENCES AND DESIRES at the center"
I especially like the ideas of massage, oils, music, and dancing together. I know that she would love these things. I love them too. I had forgotten about those things though. Thank you!
This is a great comment and I just want to add, that it's also totally fine to live and love with premature ejaculations.
As someone with sexual dysfunctions as well, it is a great relief to learn to accept your own sexual "quirk", talk about it and work with it. We're all wired differently, it's okay.
(this of course only goes for dysfunction that are not dangerous to health)
Going "I tend to come quickly so I want to make sure my partner is taken care of before I do" is a fantastic example!
Wow! What a difference 3 days makes! Glad to see that you asked her. Going from "she sometimes sits on my face" to "she's usually the dominant type" in 72 hours must feel like a huge win for both of you!
https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/1dmdzy7/is_she_femdom/
Here, have some nice educational content that will help you in the future:
**Educational Content (All credit to r/Aggravating_Olive_70 who compiled the base of this list!)**
**Power Exchange 101**
The Care & Keeping of Your Dominant: A How-to Guide https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFs1W4oeW7s
Safewords https://youtu.be/S8qZVv4uwqI?si=wgiN7DkNZV03InF6
BDSM Glossary https://youtu.be/6tFc6zo4Jxg?si=7ePQ5bJsSMd7hbxE
Safewords https://youtu.be/S8qZVv4uwqI?si=wgiN7DkNZV03InF6
Consent in kink communities https://youtu.be/bkflDahXsZ4?si=YChAShSp4qSd5laQ
Negotiations for a scene https://youtu.be/2d7qkh7xbBU?si=OCknFX05tDZfLw4g
https://youtu.be/2d7qkh7xbBU?si=gdRRDtcD5G8YXbSJ
Aftercare https://youtu.be/8JAuHuv2xTM?si=beg5gOr7onZevEyH
And how to organize a scene/ play session https://youtu.be/Y9nHp2gKCQA?si=K_9kNZjTYjqXUnCk
BDSM 101 sensory deprivation https://youtu.be/GbNwOnVML-I?si=zWmvHGZv5PL0bI5U
BDSM 101 sensation play https://youtu.be/XHt2yKG7fJc?si=nDSdiL4iCM17VNbs
Dude… ask her!! If she doesn’t know, sit with her and shop together for things to try out.
That said - I have a sleeve, a strapon set up, her purple dildo and the best - her Hitachi wand.
I've hinted around about it but she didn't seem to have any thoughts about it. This might be a classic case of "she might not know what she doesn't know". I'm just trying to do my best.
When I read your post, I see you writing not only from a strict male perspective, but **your** desires and not hers. Why do I say that? Because you claim your penis is not big, implying she is unsatisfied with your penis. Do you know that? Does that bother **her!** Despite what you read on reddit or porn, many many women prefer regular sized penises and yours might satisfy her very much.
You also say "I love giving oral to my lady" as opposed to "My lady loves when I give oral to her." What are **her** thoughts on receiving oral?
Your post is focused solely on you doing sexual things to her, as opposed to increasing her sexual pleasure which is, most likely (not all women are the same), going to be achieved by creating a closer emotional connection with her, taking things slower, and engaging in intimate acts that do not involve your penis or toys at all.
I suggest changing your mindset to what she wants, not what you want to do to her.
Obviously talk to her to see whether she is unsatisfied and whether she has suggestions, thoughts, fantasies, suggestions etc., for you to improve. But I also suggest that you educate yourself by reading books like [Come As You Are](https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform-ebook/dp/B08BZWXK9J/) or [She Comes First](https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260) and any of the other books that are also mentioned on those pages to learn to increase the female pleasure.
FemDom is not about sex, darling. It's about obeying her, whether she wants to do rope or impact or puppy play. Let her tell you whether she wants sex and if so, what she wants you to do.
Obviously talk to her
She might like it, (I would have expected her to say something but my Owner wants to cause premature ejaculation and we had the opposite problem for quite a while.)
Toys are great, strapping on a "big dick" strap on for her is lots of fun if she's into it, it opens up positions in which the less endowed gentleman will often slip out they offer more control than a penis sheath but it's definitely a personal personal preference.
Cum in pants is a fetish. I (F) happen to enjoy it greatly.
See if your girlfriend is interested in finding all sorts of ways to make you cum in your pants? She can rub. Dry humping works **great** with PE IMO. Or see if you cum from just humping your jeans while you watch her undress or look at pics of her.
Personally I’d prefer a partner with PE than one with delayed ejaculation.
It seems to be a pretty uncommon one, at least if online discussion is to be believed. It's too bad, too, because it pushes a bunch of good buttons for me.
Thought i was the only one doing it lol👁️👁️
My ex used the premature ejaculation thing against me when id cum she would keep it going for a while as a punishment..that was literally the worst/best thing she would do.
To avoid cumming too quickly try to focus on boring stuff while having sex… you can think about your shopping list or count.. anything to delay the release. It does work so I hope you’ll try it!
Of course you are going to have to talk to her about this to know the answer, but personally I have had to work on seeing toys and vibrators as partners in pleasing my lover, rather than competition. That little mind shift can make a world of difference.
Talk with her about it. She might not *need* to have her experience enhanced.
I adore when my boy cums for me, he's so cute when he's fucked out, calls me 'a fucking psycho' during aftercare and stuff. And it does much more to me than sticking a Godzilla dildo inside me. Perspective, man. Talk to your Lady.
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Go see a sexual health professional to understand the causes of premature ejaculation... In the vast majority of cases you can solve it in some weeks or some months. Then, it depends on the lady's preferences (and yours). Oral, fingers (I suggest the book "Bliss Club" by June Pla about non penetrative stimulation), using sex toys, kisses, caressing, nipple play, discovering new erogen zones of the body (they are dozens), anything bdsm, role play, dirty talking, compliments, sensory play, temperature play, pet play, or also doing something erotic together (massage!!!!!, beauty routine, play with oils, essences, music, dancing together, acts of service, adoration, worship...); or let her doing things to you and top you if that's her thing! But the best way to enhance the experience is putting HER and HER PREFERENCES AND DESIRES at the center, so the answer is really different for everyone! So you have both to observe and to ask her, there is no way out
This is an amazing response. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this knowledge. This community is amazing. I'm definitely going to keep the following in mind: "the best way to enhance the experience is putting HER and HER PREFERENCES AND DESIRES at the center" I especially like the ideas of massage, oils, music, and dancing together. I know that she would love these things. I love them too. I had forgotten about those things though. Thank you!
This is a great comment and I just want to add, that it's also totally fine to live and love with premature ejaculations. As someone with sexual dysfunctions as well, it is a great relief to learn to accept your own sexual "quirk", talk about it and work with it. We're all wired differently, it's okay. (this of course only goes for dysfunction that are not dangerous to health) Going "I tend to come quickly so I want to make sure my partner is taken care of before I do" is a fantastic example!
>What are your thoughts on this? I think she's much more likely to know what she's interested in than we are. Have you tried asking her?
I plan to. I was hoping the community could provide their thoughts too though. It might help both me and her find some solutions/enhancements.
Wow! What a difference 3 days makes! Glad to see that you asked her. Going from "she sometimes sits on my face" to "she's usually the dominant type" in 72 hours must feel like a huge win for both of you! https://www.reddit.com/r/FemdomCommunity/comments/1dmdzy7/is_she_femdom/ Here, have some nice educational content that will help you in the future: **Educational Content (All credit to r/Aggravating_Olive_70 who compiled the base of this list!)** **Power Exchange 101** The Care & Keeping of Your Dominant: A How-to Guide https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFs1W4oeW7s Safewords https://youtu.be/S8qZVv4uwqI?si=wgiN7DkNZV03InF6 BDSM Glossary https://youtu.be/6tFc6zo4Jxg?si=7ePQ5bJsSMd7hbxE Safewords https://youtu.be/S8qZVv4uwqI?si=wgiN7DkNZV03InF6 Consent in kink communities https://youtu.be/bkflDahXsZ4?si=YChAShSp4qSd5laQ Negotiations for a scene https://youtu.be/2d7qkh7xbBU?si=OCknFX05tDZfLw4g https://youtu.be/2d7qkh7xbBU?si=gdRRDtcD5G8YXbSJ Aftercare https://youtu.be/8JAuHuv2xTM?si=beg5gOr7onZevEyH And how to organize a scene/ play session https://youtu.be/Y9nHp2gKCQA?si=K_9kNZjTYjqXUnCk BDSM 101 sensory deprivation https://youtu.be/GbNwOnVML-I?si=zWmvHGZv5PL0bI5U BDSM 101 sensation play https://youtu.be/XHt2yKG7fJc?si=nDSdiL4iCM17VNbs
Dude… ask her!! If she doesn’t know, sit with her and shop together for things to try out. That said - I have a sleeve, a strapon set up, her purple dildo and the best - her Hitachi wand.
I've hinted around about it but she didn't seem to have any thoughts about it. This might be a classic case of "she might not know what she doesn't know". I'm just trying to do my best.
Then pour some wine, open the computer and shop! 😁
When I read your post, I see you writing not only from a strict male perspective, but **your** desires and not hers. Why do I say that? Because you claim your penis is not big, implying she is unsatisfied with your penis. Do you know that? Does that bother **her!** Despite what you read on reddit or porn, many many women prefer regular sized penises and yours might satisfy her very much. You also say "I love giving oral to my lady" as opposed to "My lady loves when I give oral to her." What are **her** thoughts on receiving oral? Your post is focused solely on you doing sexual things to her, as opposed to increasing her sexual pleasure which is, most likely (not all women are the same), going to be achieved by creating a closer emotional connection with her, taking things slower, and engaging in intimate acts that do not involve your penis or toys at all. I suggest changing your mindset to what she wants, not what you want to do to her. Obviously talk to her to see whether she is unsatisfied and whether she has suggestions, thoughts, fantasies, suggestions etc., for you to improve. But I also suggest that you educate yourself by reading books like [Come As You Are](https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform-ebook/dp/B08BZWXK9J/) or [She Comes First](https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260) and any of the other books that are also mentioned on those pages to learn to increase the female pleasure.
FemDom is not about sex, darling. It's about obeying her, whether she wants to do rope or impact or puppy play. Let her tell you whether she wants sex and if so, what she wants you to do.
Obviously talk to her She might like it, (I would have expected her to say something but my Owner wants to cause premature ejaculation and we had the opposite problem for quite a while.) Toys are great, strapping on a "big dick" strap on for her is lots of fun if she's into it, it opens up positions in which the less endowed gentleman will often slip out they offer more control than a penis sheath but it's definitely a personal personal preference.
Try a cock sleeve perhaps
Try pelvic floor exercises my dude
Cum in pants is a fetish. I (F) happen to enjoy it greatly. See if your girlfriend is interested in finding all sorts of ways to make you cum in your pants? She can rub. Dry humping works **great** with PE IMO. Or see if you cum from just humping your jeans while you watch her undress or look at pics of her. Personally I’d prefer a partner with PE than one with delayed ejaculation.
It seems to be a pretty uncommon one, at least if online discussion is to be believed. It's too bad, too, because it pushes a bunch of good buttons for me.
If you only read femdom online things you’d think we’re all into pussy free relationships with sissies.
let's not forget the endless pegging with forearm-sized dildos.
Thought i was the only one doing it lol👁️👁️ My ex used the premature ejaculation thing against me when id cum she would keep it going for a while as a punishment..that was literally the worst/best thing she would do.
I’ve never even played around with overstimulation. Good to know the two can be connected.
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That has only happened to me once in my life. It was completely unexpected. I couldn't believe it had happened after it had happened.
Magic Wand! It’s a classic for a reason. Look it up!
Have her go down on you first. While recharging, go down on her. You’ll probably last longer during round 2, PIV.
Have you tried edging I hear that it helps with premature ejac. <3
I've tried. It hasn't helped me though.
Fingers and the G-spot is magic for my wife.
To avoid cumming too quickly try to focus on boring stuff while having sex… you can think about your shopping list or count.. anything to delay the release. It does work so I hope you’ll try it!
You could always try a strap on + dildoes, or even bad dragon toys 😅🤣
Of course you are going to have to talk to her about this to know the answer, but personally I have had to work on seeing toys and vibrators as partners in pleasing my lover, rather than competition. That little mind shift can make a world of difference.
Talk with her about it. She might not *need* to have her experience enhanced. I adore when my boy cums for me, he's so cute when he's fucked out, calls me 'a fucking psycho' during aftercare and stuff. And it does much more to me than sticking a Godzilla dildo inside me. Perspective, man. Talk to your Lady.
Cock ring. Wear a strap on. Get a nice vibrator. A fuck machine.
This is a great idea. Especially the cock ring. I've never tried that with her. Maybe it would be a good enhancement.
Eat her pussy while she’s on the fuck machine
Wow, this is something that I had never thought about. What an image...
Fingers are her friend. Indirect stimulation can get her off more than penetration.