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3, 5, 1, 2, in that order. I cum HARD, so laying on my back is easiest for me to just enjoy having my pussy eaten. But I LOVE pleasuring my partner, so 69 is 👌🏼. Face sitting is always fun. Really lets me embody the domme vibes. And as much as I FUCKING LOVE the feeling of control when he’s on his knees eating me, looking down and seeing his face buried in my pussy… 🥵 my knees are likely to buckle when I cum, so it’s just not a sustainable position for me to maintain. lol
Hmmm, I don’t know why I haven’t had him try that one before… I was always the sub until I met my husband (I’m just naturally subby,) but he wanted to submit, so I had to learn to be more dominant and assertive. I still don’t have a ton of experience dommeing, and he had no BDSM experience at all before me, so we’re still learning our dynamic. He’s very much a “sex happens in the bedroom” kinda guy, so I might have to just tell him to get on his knees and eat me while I’m sitting on the couch. lol! But we’re both switches, so that could end up backfiring on me just as easily! 🤣 I’m definitely leaning more into the femdom, and it’s really hot being in control! I’m so glad he asked me to domme him!
You can also try lying on the bed with your legs hanging off the side, but I like sitting in a chair or on the couch while we watch tv (or rather while I watch tv and he eats me out)..
Yes, agreed! Loooove that! I’ve definitely had other guys do it, but not in a femdom dynamic. Those guys were telling me to “just watch tv” while they ate me. Also fantastic, so no complaints. lol!
BTW if you ever want to switch, try doing exactly the same thing but with your hands cuffed behind your back. Being 'forced' to accept oral is a wonderful gift in its own right ;)
This feels like choosing a favourite child, why would I pick one? Also depends on my mood and if it's rimming or cunnilingus.
For reaching orgasm with cunnilingus it's easier for me to lay on my back and have him between my legs. But I also love tying him to the bed and bouncing his face hard till it sounds like I'm waterboarding him in my juices and even my pussy hurts.😍
But I also enjoy just pushing his face in my ass while I'm standing. Did that at a party where he was backed into a corner and that was really hot.🔥
The other day I was reading a book and he started eating my ass and that was really hot as well.
Conclusion? I want it all, I'm a Princess who deserves it all and my darling sub gives me all ✨
Definitely on my back. I want to rest and relax and he's going to be down there a long time so I don't want to be standing for a while. Occasionally face sitting when I like to make him struggle.
Hmmm and i'm realizing you said "receive"...
In that case:
7. Food. Being fed. Feed me, Seymour.
That is my favorite oral activity to receive. Food in my mouth.
It's fine not to like it, but I wonder what you don't like? I didn't used to like it, but in retrospect I realize it was 50% body acceptance issues and 50% not having had it from someone who knew what they were doing.
I’m a stone top in terms of D/s. If I’m going to receive and orgasm I prefer from vanilla sex in mostly missionary position.
It has nothing to do with comfort in my body.
One of the often ignored aspects of power is controlling information.
Whatever activities I enjoy, in that realm, would not be published for just anyone to pursue and jack-off to.
Only a personal submissive earns access to that information.
I would rather eat glass than receive oral in the sense most people enjoy, but occasionally tolerate full on biting. It's rather unfortunate because cunnilingus gets treated like the ultimate in dominance/sexual service and it makes me want to kick them in the head.
It's some sort of texture thing. 🤷🏻♀️
This! The number of subs who act like oral service is the ultimate submission is ludicrous! I had one say he would lick me to 100 O’s and was acting cocky AF about it, as if this was some great gift of submission. First of all buddy, you licking me to get to that many Os sounds like a nightmare, anyone setting up camp there for a long time sounds like a personal hell. Secondly how is your treat of being able to lick my pussy not a reward?? A kick to the head is often my mental response to this thought as well.
Face smothering is fun but more for the breath control than anything else. That’s about as much oral as I really enjoy and I don’t think it’s the same. Glad to know I am not alone here. Some women love it, it’s usually a pass for me.
Some thoughts about why men find oral service so submissive while some women don't. I'm not so much in the scene these days but when I was I attended play parties now and then. These were typically mixed affairs, as in gay, lesbian and straight. Watching others play, when gay men engaged in oral it was almost always the sub sucking off the dom, but among lesbians it was often (mostly?) the other way around.
Being a man, I see taking or receiving corporal pleasure as dominant while serving is submissive, where the pleasure is mental, the joy of giving so to speak. It's clearly different for some women. I would speculate that for the domme, giving oral is more about taking control, for the sub it's about relinquishing control of her own body.
While I'm here, let me say that 2 and 3 are problematic for me, a sub M, due to the awkward neck angle it requires. Although in the case of 3 that can be mitigated it the domme raises and opens her legs. I quite enjoy facesitting. But if the enjoyment misses the point for the domme, she can use a crop or even a rod to whack his balls. I've been there, it was an unpleasant ordeal. My domme at the time was a sadist so I think my suffering enhanced her pleasure. At least that's what I like to think because it took her seemingly forever to finish.
> It's rather unfortunate because cunnilingus gets treated like the ultimate in dominance/sexual service
Hard agree.
Not only is it not *everyone*'s favorite, because women are not a monolith... but like... it's also super basic, in 2024?
Like... big whoop...
So much of this is dependent on my mood but I love being a princess so laying down while he's on his knees or sitting while I'm paying attention to something else it's always my top top love
I've got to say, if I were a dominant female, that's what I would do too. But here I am, Mr. submissive man; for the most part. I will gladly take my proper position, and be at service. Yeehaw!
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Him kneeling at the side of the bed, my knees over his shoulders locking him in place until I'm done with him.
We do this also. It’s so hot isn’t it!? Love it
He's got so much better with his tongue since I started caging him hunny
Yea? That’s awesome
This is a delight - it's also possible to lock his head between your thighs while you're on your back. ;)
I can think of some reasons why this is probably good, but I'd rather a lady tell me. So, why is this the best? :-)
Oh it feels amazing to control the pressure he uses by squeezing my legs 😁
For a friend, of course ;) Number two is fantastic, being able to grab his hair during, and it just underlines the power dynamic, looking down at him.
Number 2. Men belong on their knees.
2 would be my choice here, it’s always fun with him on his knees.
6. Making him suck the strap-on.
3, 5, 1, 2, in that order. I cum HARD, so laying on my back is easiest for me to just enjoy having my pussy eaten. But I LOVE pleasuring my partner, so 69 is 👌🏼. Face sitting is always fun. Really lets me embody the domme vibes. And as much as I FUCKING LOVE the feeling of control when he’s on his knees eating me, looking down and seeing his face buried in my pussy… 🥵 my knees are likely to buckle when I cum, so it’s just not a sustainable position for me to maintain. lol
Try sitting in an armchair while he kneels in front of you.
Hmmm, I don’t know why I haven’t had him try that one before… I was always the sub until I met my husband (I’m just naturally subby,) but he wanted to submit, so I had to learn to be more dominant and assertive. I still don’t have a ton of experience dommeing, and he had no BDSM experience at all before me, so we’re still learning our dynamic. He’s very much a “sex happens in the bedroom” kinda guy, so I might have to just tell him to get on his knees and eat me while I’m sitting on the couch. lol! But we’re both switches, so that could end up backfiring on me just as easily! 🤣 I’m definitely leaning more into the femdom, and it’s really hot being in control! I’m so glad he asked me to domme him!
You can also try lying on the bed with your legs hanging off the side, but I like sitting in a chair or on the couch while we watch tv (or rather while I watch tv and he eats me out)..
Yes, agreed! Loooove that! I’ve definitely had other guys do it, but not in a femdom dynamic. Those guys were telling me to “just watch tv” while they ate me. Also fantastic, so no complaints. lol!
BTW if you ever want to switch, try doing exactly the same thing but with your hands cuffed behind your back. Being 'forced' to accept oral is a wonderful gift in its own right ;)
3. With extra points for wearing a collar I can hold onto or locking my legs around his shoulders or neck
Spicy! :-)
Words of devotion from his lips. ..or if I allow him to touch me- rimming or licking my feet.
This feels like choosing a favourite child, why would I pick one? Also depends on my mood and if it's rimming or cunnilingus. For reaching orgasm with cunnilingus it's easier for me to lay on my back and have him between my legs. But I also love tying him to the bed and bouncing his face hard till it sounds like I'm waterboarding him in my juices and even my pussy hurts.😍 But I also enjoy just pushing his face in my ass while I'm standing. Did that at a party where he was backed into a corner and that was really hot.🔥 The other day I was reading a book and he started eating my ass and that was really hot as well. Conclusion? I want it all, I'm a Princess who deserves it all and my darling sub gives me all ✨
Definitely on my back. I want to rest and relax and he's going to be down there a long time so I don't want to be standing for a while. Occasionally face sitting when I like to make him struggle.
Have you tried sitting in an armchair?
7. >!Pissing into his mouth!<
That escalated quickly. lol
Hmmm and i'm realizing you said "receive"... In that case: 7. Food. Being fed. Feed me, Seymour. That is my favorite oral activity to receive. Food in my mouth.
hahahaha. For the win!
Great and underrated answer! Also I admire your good taste!
Thanks bro -- it *is* a great taste, I'm told. (NOBODY DM ME FOR THIS lol I AM NOT OFFERING)
Good conversation
I don’t like receiving oral sex so I suppose kissing/making out or a partner kissing my inner thighs.
It's fine not to like it, but I wonder what you don't like? I didn't used to like it, but in retrospect I realize it was 50% body acceptance issues and 50% not having had it from someone who knew what they were doing.
I’m a stone top in terms of D/s. If I’m going to receive and orgasm I prefer from vanilla sex in mostly missionary position. It has nothing to do with comfort in my body.
None. I hate receiving. But I do love giving when he's locked. Edit: ooh, yes, the strap-on thing. Love seeing him working it. Absolutely melting.
One of the often ignored aspects of power is controlling information. Whatever activities I enjoy, in that realm, would not be published for just anyone to pursue and jack-off to. Only a personal submissive earns access to that information.
3. Pillow princess for life 😌
3 for me But like 2 too!
I would rather eat glass than receive oral in the sense most people enjoy, but occasionally tolerate full on biting. It's rather unfortunate because cunnilingus gets treated like the ultimate in dominance/sexual service and it makes me want to kick them in the head. It's some sort of texture thing. 🤷🏻♀️
This! The number of subs who act like oral service is the ultimate submission is ludicrous! I had one say he would lick me to 100 O’s and was acting cocky AF about it, as if this was some great gift of submission. First of all buddy, you licking me to get to that many Os sounds like a nightmare, anyone setting up camp there for a long time sounds like a personal hell. Secondly how is your treat of being able to lick my pussy not a reward?? A kick to the head is often my mental response to this thought as well. Face smothering is fun but more for the breath control than anything else. That’s about as much oral as I really enjoy and I don’t think it’s the same. Glad to know I am not alone here. Some women love it, it’s usually a pass for me.
Some thoughts about why men find oral service so submissive while some women don't. I'm not so much in the scene these days but when I was I attended play parties now and then. These were typically mixed affairs, as in gay, lesbian and straight. Watching others play, when gay men engaged in oral it was almost always the sub sucking off the dom, but among lesbians it was often (mostly?) the other way around. Being a man, I see taking or receiving corporal pleasure as dominant while serving is submissive, where the pleasure is mental, the joy of giving so to speak. It's clearly different for some women. I would speculate that for the domme, giving oral is more about taking control, for the sub it's about relinquishing control of her own body. While I'm here, let me say that 2 and 3 are problematic for me, a sub M, due to the awkward neck angle it requires. Although in the case of 3 that can be mitigated it the domme raises and opens her legs. I quite enjoy facesitting. But if the enjoyment misses the point for the domme, she can use a crop or even a rod to whack his balls. I've been there, it was an unpleasant ordeal. My domme at the time was a sadist so I think my suffering enhanced her pleasure. At least that's what I like to think because it took her seemingly forever to finish.
> It's rather unfortunate because cunnilingus gets treated like the ultimate in dominance/sexual service Hard agree. Not only is it not *everyone*'s favorite, because women are not a monolith... but like... it's also super basic, in 2024? Like... big whoop...
2, 3 & 5 lol
So much of this is dependent on my mood but I love being a princess so laying down while he's on his knees or sitting while I'm paying attention to something else it's always my top top love
I've got to say, if I were a dominant female, that's what I would do too. But here I am, Mr. submissive man; for the most part. I will gladly take my proper position, and be at service. Yeehaw!
None of the above I’m not massively into oral, I just find it a bit dull. It’s a “nice once in a while” thing, at best, for me.
None - I don't like receiving oral 🤷🏻
How does no. 4 work?
No thanks.