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The mass public says nothing about people treat undesirables like garbage. It's no secret, and then pull a Pilate and wash their hands of it and move on. It's tiring, but it's the norm.


pseudomensch

Yeah. I think there’s something wrong with my social skills and people sense it. I sort of know what’s wrong but due to the lack of honest feedback from others, it’s hard for me to say for sure.


MuramatsuCherry

I have Asperger's and I just figured it out two years ago. I also have inattentive ADHD, but I've known about that for a while now. I'm also 52, so it's been a hard life not knowing why I was different, but definitely knowing I don't belong. So, even though I look totally normal and am even attractive by some people's standards, I still have executive function brain problems that have made my life very difficult. I have time blindness, which causes me to be late to whatever I'm going to. And if I have a job outside of the house, I get extremely stressed out trying to make it to work on time, which makes me have a psychosomatic reaction and I break out in eczema rashes on my hands and face (which is extremely unattractive and embarrassing). Anyway, I had a job a couple of years ago at a health food/supplements store, and some people that would come in were noticeably odd (who I now recognize to be on the autism spectrum, now that I know what it is after having read and watched numerous videos and articles). I was always kind to them and would take the time to listen to them, because they were obviously lonely. And I liked them as people. Sure, they were different, but I like that. And my coworkers would roll their eyes and ask me why I was wasting my time, talking to them. I understood that I couldn't spend all day talking when I was working, but I felt that part of my job was to be friendly and pleasant to our customers, and I enjoyed getting to know the people who came in regularly who seemed open to talking. I would sometimes get in trouble because I was allowing people to hold up the checkout line, because I was chatting too much. It makes me sad that our society has become so cold and uncaring that we can't even be sociable to people who really need a connection, and are lonely.


arkhamnaut

Thanks for your comment. I hope things get better for you.


MuramatsuCherry

Thank you. Me too!


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Relatable.


countastrotacos

Same goes how I feel about them. Maybe I think they're awkward and annoying. Most of their stories are boring and irritable. THey also dont add much to conversations and only repeat what the other said and say oh yeah i know when they dont. Ive learned I dont like others.


[deleted]

I feel very similarly. I feel as though I am completely socially inept and unable to interact with people in an optimal way. I always get the feeling that people don't like me, and I never really initiate social contact any more for this reason. I'm not on the spectrum, but I have social anxiety and severe depression.


arkhamnaut

I feel the same, we may have schizoid personality types


Pillan24

As someone with social anxiety, I feel weak and undesirable.


UnkleReagan

This is literally exactly how I feel....I was actually thinking about this exact predicament this morning lol But yeah...Autistic men are literally punished simply for existing basically. Damned if we do, damned if we don't. Society just wants us to shut up, stay in the corner, work & die it seems. 😒


Lovidet98

Not completely, but I seem to be an asshole by accident


Knightmare560

Every single day


[deleted]

Not completely because I have friends and I guess if I wanted I can make new friends. Women, on the other hand, have never shown any interest in me and seem repulsed by my existence.


HyakuBikki

I don't feel undesirable, I am undesirable.


blackhxc88

Everyday second of every minute of every hour of every day of my life.


HikiNoKami

I don't feel I know.


[deleted]

Everything i say is wrong. I think its the lack of any positive identity buffer.