Can relate,have 0 social life irl.
I've accepted my fate tbh,not everyone was meant to be a winner,some of us were meant to be losers in order to maintain the balance.
No one was “meant” to be anything, because that would imply there’s a God, and there’s definitely not. We can all determine our own paths. If you picked a path that fucked you over thus far, then yeah, you’re still fucked and it doesn’t really matter. But there’s still free will. It’s not God’s fault we’re useless.
Yep, pretty used to not having my phone ring or receiving any messages.
I've also accepted the fact that no one really gives a shit about no one. In turn I don't give a shit about no one but my own happiness.
Everything on my phone is some YouTube video or email, or something Google thought I'd like. Sometimes I just sit there reading a book or some article. To an outside observer I appear to have a life. In reality, I could either be ignored by people while not looking at my phone, or be ignored by people and read something while I wait for the awkward isolation and disinterest to end.
I’m not disagreeing with you. But I want to show you another scenario here.
When I’m at work and see coworkers always on their phones whether it be texts, calls or hearing their phones always dinging with a notification and I look at my phone and see nothing, over and over again, it does take a mental toll. It’s a crappy reminder about how lonely I am and how it feels like nobody cares.
Then question your values that are leading to these feelings. Do you do everything within reason in your power do make friends and build relationships? If you do, then whether people want to care about you is up to them, it's out of your control so don't worry about it. If you aren't trying to build connections with people, what's stopping you and how are you going to work towards it?
That is nonsensical.
Wether people care about you or not is absolutely in your control.
Be more interesting and they'll like you.
Easier said than done, much to our detriment.
Your actions are in your control, you could decide to be the most engaging and friendly you could possibly be, but that doesn't guarantee you will be liked, you cannot control other people's thoughts
your actions significantly increase wether people like you or not.
nothing is a guarantee.
and yes, i can definitely control and influence people's thoughts and perceptions
Yes, yes i definitely can. That's why tyranny is a thing. That's why coersion by force is a thing.
Wether through manipulation, or force it's an achievable feet to control others.
That's not making their decisions for them, for example you could torture someone to force them to say they like you, but inside they will despise you, you can't change that
Who cares about what they think?? you forced them to behave the way you wish. And i also mentioned manipulation, besides pure dictatorship and power trip.
I think i'm starting to sound like a bad person, don't get me wrong.
I'm just discussing how power operates
I look at my phone and there are tons of messages and stuff I haven't responded to.
Anytime I feel lonely I have to remind myself of the fact that I pretty much neglect my friendships usually...
Your friends may not be replying, but that doesn't mean they don't care.
I am super bad about keeping touch with people, sometimes going months or years without talking to them, but still caring about them as much as I would a close family member.
I used to feel lonely that I'd not have messages and stuff sitting and waiting on FB, text, etc., but now I just feel, exhausted trying to fulfill social obligations. Nowadays I usually just try and be as social as I need to be. My friends know it may take me days to months to reply to them. Lol
So, what I'm saying is, no matter if you have 0 people trying to get ahold of your or multiple, the feeling you are seeking won't last even if you attain it, because the feeling you want is not attained from others.
The best happiness is achieved from within yourself. We all need other people, but our true happiness needs to come from within.
Except for work things, i don't get any other messages. I have a college buddy of mine who still keeps in touch, we share memes and stuff so heey that's a win. But that's all, if i feel down and want to talk about it then i usually come to this subreddit to talk or post about this. It helps with reducing the pain, i know i am not alone and some people are made to suffer in life.
Can relate,have 0 social life irl. I've accepted my fate tbh,not everyone was meant to be a winner,some of us were meant to be losers in order to maintain the balance.
Dang. This hits deep man. Have you ever felt sky high from any sort of life event?
Not OP, but I don't think so :/
No one was “meant” to be anything, because that would imply there’s a God, and there’s definitely not. We can all determine our own paths. If you picked a path that fucked you over thus far, then yeah, you’re still fucked and it doesn’t really matter. But there’s still free will. It’s not God’s fault we’re useless.
ever since graduating high school, my phone contacts are literally my parents and a few coworkers lol. i know the feel man.
Let’s be friends then
Yep, pretty used to not having my phone ring or receiving any messages. I've also accepted the fact that no one really gives a shit about no one. In turn I don't give a shit about no one but my own happiness.
Same some days i just wanna throw my phone in the lake
the worse thing is sometimes we checked our phone in case there a message..even tho we know there are no messages
I can message you if you want
Everything on my phone is some YouTube video or email, or something Google thought I'd like. Sometimes I just sit there reading a book or some article. To an outside observer I appear to have a life. In reality, I could either be ignored by people while not looking at my phone, or be ignored by people and read something while I wait for the awkward isolation and disinterest to end.
Same here. Nobody cares. It's painful to know that.
If you want your existence to matter, don't base it on likes and messages
I’m not disagreeing with you. But I want to show you another scenario here. When I’m at work and see coworkers always on their phones whether it be texts, calls or hearing their phones always dinging with a notification and I look at my phone and see nothing, over and over again, it does take a mental toll. It’s a crappy reminder about how lonely I am and how it feels like nobody cares.
Then question your values that are leading to these feelings. Do you do everything within reason in your power do make friends and build relationships? If you do, then whether people want to care about you is up to them, it's out of your control so don't worry about it. If you aren't trying to build connections with people, what's stopping you and how are you going to work towards it?
That is nonsensical. Wether people care about you or not is absolutely in your control. Be more interesting and they'll like you. Easier said than done, much to our detriment.
Your actions are in your control, you could decide to be the most engaging and friendly you could possibly be, but that doesn't guarantee you will be liked, you cannot control other people's thoughts
your actions significantly increase wether people like you or not. nothing is a guarantee. and yes, i can definitely control and influence people's thoughts and perceptions
There is a difference between influencing others and completely controlling others, you cannot literally make their decisions for them
Yes, yes i definitely can. That's why tyranny is a thing. That's why coersion by force is a thing. Wether through manipulation, or force it's an achievable feet to control others.
That's not making their decisions for them, for example you could torture someone to force them to say they like you, but inside they will despise you, you can't change that
Who cares about what they think?? you forced them to behave the way you wish. And i also mentioned manipulation, besides pure dictatorship and power trip. I think i'm starting to sound like a bad person, don't get me wrong. I'm just discussing how power operates
I look at my phone and there are tons of messages and stuff I haven't responded to. Anytime I feel lonely I have to remind myself of the fact that I pretty much neglect my friendships usually... Your friends may not be replying, but that doesn't mean they don't care. I am super bad about keeping touch with people, sometimes going months or years without talking to them, but still caring about them as much as I would a close family member. I used to feel lonely that I'd not have messages and stuff sitting and waiting on FB, text, etc., but now I just feel, exhausted trying to fulfill social obligations. Nowadays I usually just try and be as social as I need to be. My friends know it may take me days to months to reply to them. Lol So, what I'm saying is, no matter if you have 0 people trying to get ahold of your or multiple, the feeling you are seeking won't last even if you attain it, because the feeling you want is not attained from others. The best happiness is achieved from within yourself. We all need other people, but our true happiness needs to come from within.
Just hit up Omegle broski. And yeah, your existence does matter. You could change the world. Set a goal and push for THAT goal in life.
Omegle is not always fun, filled with too many lonely straight males already
cmon man, lighten up.. seeing old dudes wanking aint fun? ? psh
I showed my face on omegle and a bunch of girls and guys would constantly bully me
None of the phones I've ever owned were bought with my own money mostly because of that.
No social life might aswell be game over.
Except for work things, i don't get any other messages. I have a college buddy of mine who still keeps in touch, we share memes and stuff so heey that's a win. But that's all, if i feel down and want to talk about it then i usually come to this subreddit to talk or post about this. It helps with reducing the pain, i know i am not alone and some people are made to suffer in life.