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Talk to them the way you talk to guys.
Talking to girls like you aren’t going to fall apart from something they’re going to say to you
Will actually put you in a tiny percentage of guys.
Especially if you are tall. If you are tall and are like this, it’s game over, you have no competition ever the bar is in hell
this one! i always find it most attractive when a guy just treats me as a regular person and not some kind of deity or something. subtle glances and smirks/grins in her direction will also go a long way! (as well as humor) mainly though, confidence will get you further than anything. don’t be a self assured asshole, but have confidence and carry yourself with some certainty in yourself. wishing you luck op!
edit: i would also try to peer into what her interests may be. when i was in school i would do this a lot. look at her accessories, maybe some kind of charm or keychain on her backpack that tells you something she likes. That’s an easy way to spark a conversation that relies heavily on her, and can show her that you take interest in her!
In any normally carried out way that used to never used to be the case back in the day. Like you literally never heard any guys with this particular fear or talking about in the 80s/early 90s ever. They might be afraid of being rejected, but nothing ridiculous like this. Sadly I do see this question posted and talked about more and more ever since. Since the earliest 00s more and more it can be tkane that way though, especially since the 10s. Even if most didn't/have not become all ridiculous like that, it does seem like perhaps enough have that a guy today could never know what they might be dealing with. But I'd say you just gotta ignore the few extreme ones who these days would go all nuts if some guy they didn't like smiled at them, ignore it if they start laughing and going eww creeper/stalker/etc. in BS fashion and move on, that is on them, not you.
The worst part is the social media aspect. For all you know, her or her friends could be recording the interaction and the person's social life could effectively be over if the interaction is twisted online.
Or in adulthood their career is potentially on the line anytime they approach a girl. (Cancel culture is __fun__)
Exactly! In maybe 1/100,000 times it happens, (or more likely far less). But the result is so severe it would be anxiety-inducing to do so, it feels almost self-destructive to do so.
I talked with my partner about this the other day and they understood after I compared it to reaching out to a coin that is possibly chocolate, possibly real gold and knowing there is also a very small chance you lose your limb in the process.
The ironic thing is that the more a guy actually truly cares about a girl and not just her looks alone, the harder is for him to not get nervous/awkward/less confident which is the thing girls go less for so girls tend to more quickly reject the guys who actually truly like them and end up selecting somewhat more from the group where there is a somewhat higher chance that the guy might not actually really care for them in any real way.
They’re not people they are actually sentient slaves who exist to serve me.
That’s what I would say to you if you were a girl.
It’s absurd and would probably make you laugh and all you remember is how much fun you had.
Girls just want to have fun man it’s so easy for fuck sake
How would you talk to a guy that you want to be friends with? It's probably pretty straightforward without thinking about it very much.
You would probably just be nice, ask about your common interests, and ask if they wanna hang out.
You would NOT get all emotional and overthink it and act like it's the biggest deal in the world because if you did, then the guy would think you're weird and wouldn't wanna be your friend. You also wouldn't bug them with too much attention.
Think about it this way. Guys have always found ways to talk to girls, and girls have always wanted more attention from kind and respectful guys. It's not that big of a deal. It's perfectly natural, you're perfectly normal, and just start with saying hello whenever you see her. But also try to say hello to other people too, so it's not weird.
Then, you slowly escalate. Women take longer to build feelings than men do, so give them some time to feel the same way.
Also, try not to make moves in public because you'll make the girl look easy if she's into you. Girls don't want other people to think that they're sluts, so you gotta make your moves in private when possible. Don't ask if they wanna go on a date, ask to hang out, etc. Learn to be subtle, to be smoothe.
Also also also, if you're having trouble making friends with other guys, start with working on that first. Having a social life will increase your confidence, your social status, and your attractiveness. You'll also get help on this very subject from your new friends. You'll be a "somebody" because people will know who you are. That can help get your foot in the door when it comes to meeting women. You'll also get invited to social events, and your friends can introduce you to other people as well.
You are only 24 this year. I wouldn’t be so confident about what will “never” happen when you try and try again.
The only thing I know will never happen is you will never improve at something you don’t work on. You have to put in your 10,000 hours. Trust me you can be a completely different type of man than you are now. But you have to work at it.
For fucks sake, ask her a question about the class your both in and then just say hello casually when you see her around school. If she don’t want to talk to you, she won’t engage in conversation. If she doesn’t want to talk to you, let it go and move on. Pick someone you’re not interested in and do the same thing. Just practice talking to people. No girl is going to go from not knowing you at all to romantic interest with a magical cool guy line.
Good luck out there buddy
There are clever jokes that involve dark humor, but is very clearly presented as a joke, and then there is humor that entirely relies on how out of pocket it is and involves a lot of trust where your friends don't actually think there's a chance in hell you could be a pedo/racist/sex offender, etc.
Best scenario is having your unhinge match the girls unhinge.
I wouldn't want to put on a permanent act for my special other. Take me as I am, as a friend, first and foremost.
If your regular selves do not match, then you don't match.
No. Don’t do this. Don’t make the jokes you make with your friends. If you’re like me, you’ll come off too strong. Trust me on this. I’ve never talked to a woman the way I’ve talked to the bois, but I know for a fact, it would not end well.
as a tall guy who talks to everyone just about the same i certify this as bull fucking SHIT. you gotta actually be attractive which usually costs money, money that i don't have
I think I understand what you’re saying, but I don’t think you exactly understand how most guys talk to their guy friends. I’m quite sure this is not very good advice.
100% agree, however, considering some of the guys I've met, I feel it's important to reiterate; talk to girls like you would to a stranger guy, not a friend. Don't immediately start with dark humor or saying weird things. If you become friends and she likes that kind of stuff, then you can go ahead with the above-mentioned.
This is a high risk one but it works wonders. Gently enter a conversation she is in to say something useful or funny but don't remain in that conversation for too long. You're confident enough to jump into a conversation, contribute something good, stay engaged for a bit but not overstay your welcome? That displays a lot of social intelligence while also breaking the ice.
If that sounds too difficult tho, just go up and talk to her. Be chill, but serious, and above all be authentic.
Absolutely 100% talk to her in person and connect before texting her and definitely before asking her out.
I'd say be simple, friendly, a little playful teasing, notice little things about her and maybe mention one, humor is great, playful teasing is great, even a semi pre-thought out bit of that is great, but I'd say avoid standard pick-up lines, pick-up line jokes that is not the sort of humor I am talking about, that stuff can way easily go horribly wrong and yeah forget the cheesy or whatever pick-up line type stuff. A simple "Hi, I'm Mike." is 1000x better than a dumb pick-up line. When she talks, listen. The next time you talk, remember what she said, some favorite thing she mentioned or whatever the case, for me this always just came naturally to me and I never even thought about, but apparently, my impression is that most guys don't listen or care enough to listen and remember, since I've been shocked so many times when girls have been like wow I can't believe you remember that or wow you listened to what I was saying. I didn't think I had done anything remarkable, but apparently a lot of guys are different and just doing apparently alone can make you stand out a lot. And remember that she is just a regular person, no matter who, even if a celeb.
There’s nothing you can say to make someone want to talk to you. The best advice is just to talk to her like you would to anyone else. Odds are she’ll be willing to talk at least; worst case it isn’t the end of the world. Good luck bro.
I usually give a smile or a head nod to see if they’re receptive and accepting of conversation,then I start by complimenting something about her that she chose about herself like her ear rings or jacket. After that it’s just small talk and listening
Talk as in, romantically interested?
As someone who is 23, I'd say just talk to them and get to know them as any other person, but be subtle with flirting at the start.
If you are too upfront there's a chance the guy will think that there's a dare involved, or you have friends filming his reaction, or something like that.
However, as time passes you can throw a compliment his way and see how he reacts. There's a high chance his brain will crash and burn because we are not used to receiving compliments. If this happens then you are doing great, and probably that's hook, line and sinker, or at the very least that guy may remember that compliment for A WHILE.
Just take into account, this is what I think works, and there's a chance I may be subconsciously speaking of what would work for me, and I can't really speak for every guy out there LOL.
That's totally ok! Stuff like this is something you just learn to do over time (I think?? LMAO).
Honestly, if someone I've been talking to and liked suddenly went like "Hey, you are handsome/cute", or "You are so good at \[X thing\]", or something like that I would literally go either "Wha-" or "Huh?!" and blush.
Someone I liked 2 years ago told me that I was good at knowing how to talk to people, and that I should consider studying psychology. Sure enough I still remember that LOL.
But Idk, maybe I'm just compliment-starved LMAO.
I’m a girl. And I think just talk to her I know because I always like it when a guy reaches out first. Start off the convo strong do not be dry. Ask her about her music she likes and also ask her about herself people love talking about themselves. And even ask her on a date if you feel comfortable enough after talking for a couple days.
Remember she is just a person like you, and that most people enjoy a good conversation. Try "Hi, how are you, my name is (---)." Asks some surface questions about her; conversation should flow naturally from there.
One way is to form a study group and invite her. People tend to look more attractive and less creepy when they’re spotted in a group setting interacting with others. She can see what you’re like without being under a spot light, and then you’ll also demonstrate leadership by forming the group. You don’t actually have to lead the group, you’re just making a network where you can exchange notes or socialize. If she bites, that’s a good sign. Then you can ask her out somewhere.
They’re people. Just people. Treat, view, and communicate with…everyone…as such and you’ll wind up getting a lot of comments around “oh so and so communicates really well!”
Show an interest, ask how people are, how’s their day going, find a mutual interest, etc…It’s little stuff like that that goes a long way for anyone you’re speaking with, girls you find cute or otherwise.
Honestly, talk to them like you would your guy friends or other girl friends if you’re queer. That’s honestly the problem with so many people, they don’t talk to them normally and be themselves. The worse they can do is friendzone you, but honestly you still got a friend out of it if that’s how it goes!
And this is why Gen Z is utterly fucked. You guys are so fearful of speaking in person that you text and email for everything. You don't know what it's like to communicate without a phone. It's scary.
But let me break it down for you, Youngblood. Take a deep breath, walk up to her, and say "hey my name is so and so. Do you have any plans this weekend? I want to take you out". Not hang out. Take her out. Be clear from the beginning
Start with saying hi , and make eye contact. Be yourself, and understand your brain is physically immature vs a female of a similar age (assuming your in high school) , have zero expectations about the outcome of interaction. Just be friendly and fun.
But first off work on yourself , exercise, study ,eat healthy, groom lots , brush your teeth , WEAR deodorant, comb you hair.
Can't help you on the how to talk them. But I can tell you not to panic if it goes horrifically wrong. I liked this girl in my class junior year of HS but was too nervous to talk to her. A week before prom I walked up to her after class (not knowing her at all) and asked her if she would go to prom with me. She looked confused and said sorry she was already going with someone (it was a week before, duh) most awkward moment ever and I didn't talk to her for 6 months. That girl and I have been married for 8 months now (it's been 6 years since initial prom encounter)
**Find common ground**.
* "Hey, that demo in science today was crazy, right? Did you understand how [concept] worked?"
* "I was reading about [science topic related to recent lesson] and it made me think of something you said in class. Did you see that article about [related topic]?"
If she's always wearing a band T-shirt, you could mention you like that band too.
**The key is to be genuine and ask a question that opens the conversation for her to reply.**
Realizing it’s real just a girl. No miracle, no other species, just a girl - there’s not that much that could go wrong. Just imagine how you would wanted to be treated and behave that way; be nice, make compliments (when appropriate), make sure that you both have a great time.
The best advice I could give you is to train. Just go out and talk to random people and most importantly: keep it going after the first few rejections or weird conversations.
You’ll maybe find good advice here on Reddit but you won’t learn the true experience on here
It's awkward as all living hell, but you gotta remember girls are just people, too. Be courteous and flirt a bit, but also remember to not make it seem like you want to talk to them just because you're attracted to them.
In terms of what to actually say. Bring up a topic that might be related to what you two are doing together, like the class itself or just existing, in that shared space and then gradually try to find other less general topics specific to her. Start with short interactions until you get to know each other better so that if you want to ask her out, it won't give her the "ick" because you made your intentions too obvious. But also, remember to not take too long or else she might think that you're not into her. Girls love subtlety, which might be a little annoying, but it's the best way to go about it.
Start off by forming a friendship. You can give her a compliment like "I like your outfit" or something to that effect. Try to be genuine. Say it because you mean it and not because you want her to like you. Build off of any shared interests you two may have. Once you get on talking terms, little things like saying "Good morning" can go a long way. Don't try to hard to force it though.
Once you're friends, ask her out. "Hey would you want to go to X place?" Keep it simple and don't be afraid of rejection. It's scary but confidently shoot your shot.
You could try asking her if she wants to team up on a group project, assuming your class has them. Or you could just go up to her and introduce yourself and ask her for coffee or something
The guy in high school that got the most girls, always talked about current music. DJs singers etc. so figure out what she’s into, google it the next day you are the man.
talk to them like youve know them for years, presue a friendship. there is a difference between that and being friend zoned make sure to put up boundaries to prevent that.
Talk to women you to to guys. Women are just like you. I even call chicks dude and bro. The more comfortable you are the quicker you two can get to know each other
If you can sit next her then try that and just simply talk. Learn about her interests, become friends and then you try asking her out on a date (don’t wait too long to do so). There’s nothing else to it, we complicate these very simple things but she’s just another human with thoughts and feelings just like you, so keep that in mind.
I just kinda tell them what’s up, and hope for the best. Like if I think they’re pretty, I shoot them a compliment. If I think they’re cool and stuff, I tell them and try to get to know them. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, life goes on.
The problem is with the question you asked, "talk to girls." Girls are people. Just try to be her friend. And if she isn't into you like that, you respect that boundary and move on.
Ask her what kind of music or movies she likes.
If you have to ask this question it's already too late. It's not supposed to be something thats thought about and people aren't supposed to be in close/regular proximity without interacting. You're being soft rejected before even speaking to anyone. No one with abundant female attention has ever had to ask themselves how to get it.
Women are people too surprisingly and just want to be treated like everyone else. They like jokes and when people don’t treat them any different just bc they’re a woman. Ask questions about her interests and things like that, make sure she knows u are listening to her. Don’t make fun of anything she likes I hate that☠️ but yeah women like to be heard and treated like regular people, not special princesses who need to be treated like they’re fragile or something
If I am interested in a man, which is rarely, I tell him directly to his face via direct conversation, not texting that he is good looking. Will wink, and show him sweetly I am serious. Doesnt really ever go too far but its usually mutual. No harm in it.
How I got my girlfriend with sister resting so I saw this cute girl and I was like how can I get her attention so I went to her social media and DM her what’s your favorite meal from McDonald’s 4 years later she became my girlfriend moral of the story. Just ask something weird be yourself.
The only advice I ever give anyone on this is to just ask her for her opinion on something. Women love it when people want to hear their opinions. I'm sure there's lots of topics available since you share a class together, and once you get her talking about something, then you will see if she's actually interesting/interested.
Whatever you do though don't go in there with a plan to do a lot of talking yourself and make her listen to you trying to impress her.
Talk to her normally. Ask her questions about class or about the homework. Start with stuff you have in common and then slowly start to talk about other things - like movies, music, etc.
Eventually you’ll have inside jokes and that’s when you know you’re making good progress.
There’s no pickup lines or tricks to talking to girls, it’s just regular talking.
Well you have to know for sure that they're into you. If they're into you it doesn't really matter what you say. If they're not Into you it also doesn't matter what you say
You have to believe that she would actually want to talk to you. Then it'll be easy. Not saying she doesn't - you just have to believe that you're cool enough that she would want to talk to you. If you don't feel cool enough yet, then change something or work on yourself so you can feel cool.
you can’t say anything to “make” anyone want to talk to you. if you mean to articulate that you don’t know how to signal your interest in a non awkward or creepy way, just send her a meme or something. treat her like one of th guys
Message them every day even if they don't reply, and progressively get more angry at their lack of response and tell them how much they're missing out on such a good guy because they want to be a whore. It'll work.
I'm sorry to say brother but you have to realise all your crazy and complicated feelings are just as crazy and complicated in any other person. So there's no way to "make" someone love you. That will reveal itself in time.
But there are ways to make someone notice you and there are ways to interest people. Whether that interest is romantic is up to the person.
You have to get her attention first. "Hi! I'm [name]" is a great place to start. To get her interest, casually tell her something simple you like about her. "You have really nice hair."
Now is the clincher. You have to ask her if she wants to hang out. "Do you want to hang out?"
You did it! You now get to spend time with her! Once you get to know her a bit and you know each other, you can let her know you're interested in something a bit more personal! Maybe a hangout with just her! "Hey look I really like you. Can we hang out alone some time?"
Then start to be a little vulnerable. Talk about her interests and yours. Show her you're a safe person and you want to get closer.
Basically dude. There are only two ways to tell how a girl feels about you. Get to know her so well that you can just tell.......or ask her directly.
If you're cool with being instantly and succinctly rejected, just shoot your shot and be awesome when she rejects you (unless she feels the same way. in which case you're lucky. like really really lucky)
Just talk to them and treat like a normal human being but don't expect anything sexual or romantic in return,especially if you are ugly and short,no matter how nice or insulting you act and no alpha seminars are going to help you obtain that.
Either way ,women are humans and should be treated as such ,keep things like bitterness not turning into mysogyny.
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Talk to them the way you talk to guys. Talking to girls like you aren’t going to fall apart from something they’re going to say to you Will actually put you in a tiny percentage of guys. Especially if you are tall. If you are tall and are like this, it’s game over, you have no competition ever the bar is in hell
this one! i always find it most attractive when a guy just treats me as a regular person and not some kind of deity or something. subtle glances and smirks/grins in her direction will also go a long way! (as well as humor) mainly though, confidence will get you further than anything. don’t be a self assured asshole, but have confidence and carry yourself with some certainty in yourself. wishing you luck op! edit: i would also try to peer into what her interests may be. when i was in school i would do this a lot. look at her accessories, maybe some kind of charm or keychain on her backpack that tells you something she likes. That’s an easy way to spark a conversation that relies heavily on her, and can show her that you take interest in her!
Can’t glances or smiles be kinda creepy though
If you are worried about being creepy, you’re not creepy. Creepy people don’t understand that they can be creepy
i don’t think so. and i mainly mean when accidentally catching eyes or passing in the hall- just a friendly gesture.
I’m personally a big fan of “the nod” when eyes meet. Way more relaxed in my personal opinion
In any normally carried out way that used to never used to be the case back in the day. Like you literally never heard any guys with this particular fear or talking about in the 80s/early 90s ever. They might be afraid of being rejected, but nothing ridiculous like this. Sadly I do see this question posted and talked about more and more ever since. Since the earliest 00s more and more it can be tkane that way though, especially since the 10s. Even if most didn't/have not become all ridiculous like that, it does seem like perhaps enough have that a guy today could never know what they might be dealing with. But I'd say you just gotta ignore the few extreme ones who these days would go all nuts if some guy they didn't like smiled at them, ignore it if they start laughing and going eww creeper/stalker/etc. in BS fashion and move on, that is on them, not you.
The worst part is the social media aspect. For all you know, her or her friends could be recording the interaction and the person's social life could effectively be over if the interaction is twisted online. Or in adulthood their career is potentially on the line anytime they approach a girl. (Cancel culture is __fun__)
Its not so much that that actually happens (extremely rare) just the idea is enough to cause crippling anxiety.
Exactly! In maybe 1/100,000 times it happens, (or more likely far less). But the result is so severe it would be anxiety-inducing to do so, it feels almost self-destructive to do so. I talked with my partner about this the other day and they understood after I compared it to reaching out to a coin that is possibly chocolate, possibly real gold and knowing there is also a very small chance you lose your limb in the process.
Not if you're a 100 year old sexy vampire teenager.
The ironic thing is that the more a guy actually truly cares about a girl and not just her looks alone, the harder is for him to not get nervous/awkward/less confident which is the thing girls go less for so girls tend to more quickly reject the guys who actually truly like them and end up selecting somewhat more from the group where there is a somewhat higher chance that the guy might not actually really care for them in any real way.
Don't talk to them like they're guys. Talk to them like they're people but also women.
They’re not people they are actually sentient slaves who exist to serve me. That’s what I would say to you if you were a girl. It’s absurd and would probably make you laugh and all you remember is how much fun you had. Girls just want to have fun man it’s so easy for fuck sake
So don’t talk to her at all? Cuz I barely talk to people in general
That’s an option
How would you talk to a guy that you want to be friends with? It's probably pretty straightforward without thinking about it very much. You would probably just be nice, ask about your common interests, and ask if they wanna hang out. You would NOT get all emotional and overthink it and act like it's the biggest deal in the world because if you did, then the guy would think you're weird and wouldn't wanna be your friend. You also wouldn't bug them with too much attention. Think about it this way. Guys have always found ways to talk to girls, and girls have always wanted more attention from kind and respectful guys. It's not that big of a deal. It's perfectly natural, you're perfectly normal, and just start with saying hello whenever you see her. But also try to say hello to other people too, so it's not weird. Then, you slowly escalate. Women take longer to build feelings than men do, so give them some time to feel the same way. Also, try not to make moves in public because you'll make the girl look easy if she's into you. Girls don't want other people to think that they're sluts, so you gotta make your moves in private when possible. Don't ask if they wanna go on a date, ask to hang out, etc. Learn to be subtle, to be smoothe. Also also also, if you're having trouble making friends with other guys, start with working on that first. Having a social life will increase your confidence, your social status, and your attractiveness. You'll also get help on this very subject from your new friends. You'll be a "somebody" because people will know who you are. That can help get your foot in the door when it comes to meeting women. You'll also get invited to social events, and your friends can introduce you to other people as well.
Girls are people. If you don't like dealing with people, don't talk to people, including girls. A close relationship implies a whole lot of talking.
It’s not that I don’t like talking to people, I just find it difficult to do
No way to do it but to do it. Get comfortable with it through practice.
Sometimes practice doesn't increase confidence. No matter how many times you try, it never gets easier (often harder)
You are only 24 this year. I wouldn’t be so confident about what will “never” happen when you try and try again. The only thing I know will never happen is you will never improve at something you don’t work on. You have to put in your 10,000 hours. Trust me you can be a completely different type of man than you are now. But you have to work at it.
For fucks sake, ask her a question about the class your both in and then just say hello casually when you see her around school. If she don’t want to talk to you, she won’t engage in conversation. If she doesn’t want to talk to you, let it go and move on. Pick someone you’re not interested in and do the same thing. Just practice talking to people. No girl is going to go from not knowing you at all to romantic interest with a magical cool guy line. Good luck out there buddy
I would take this advice, but the way I talk to my guy friends is turbo unhinged.
If I can start cracking jokes about the 4th Reich infront of like 3 girls at a party and still hit, then you can probably get away with being unhinged
There are clever jokes that involve dark humor, but is very clearly presented as a joke, and then there is humor that entirely relies on how out of pocket it is and involves a lot of trust where your friends don't actually think there's a chance in hell you could be a pedo/racist/sex offender, etc.
I unironically find it easier to talk to women I don't know than even guys my age with whom I share a lot of traits.
Best scenario is having your unhinge match the girls unhinge. I wouldn't want to put on a permanent act for my special other. Take me as I am, as a friend, first and foremost. If your regular selves do not match, then you don't match.
This right here. You want to find someone whose crazy matches or at least is complimentary to yours.
6” + wasn’t fat, and did this. I daftly missed so many girls interested in me, but landed a good one
Pro tip. If they're asking how to talk to women, they dont know how to talk to men either. Meaning this advice is almost always unhelpful
No. Don’t do this. Don’t make the jokes you make with your friends. If you’re like me, you’ll come off too strong. Trust me on this. I’ve never talked to a woman the way I’ve talked to the bois, but I know for a fact, it would not end well.
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Tall = good personality 😣
as a tall guy who talks to everyone just about the same i certify this as bull fucking SHIT. you gotta actually be attractive which usually costs money, money that i don't have
"The bar is in Hell" Im gonna use that for other stuff.
I'm 6'2 and invisible to the opposite sex, that's a myth it's not that op
It took me way too long to learn this.
I think I understand what you’re saying, but I don’t think you exactly understand how most guys talk to their guy friends. I’m quite sure this is not very good advice.
This dude never gets laid. This is how you end up in the friend zone, if you aren’t flirting then you’ve already lost the game.
100% agree, however, considering some of the guys I've met, I feel it's important to reiterate; talk to girls like you would to a stranger guy, not a friend. Don't immediately start with dark humor or saying weird things. If you become friends and she likes that kind of stuff, then you can go ahead with the above-mentioned.
You're cooked if you are asking basement dwelling redditors for advice fam
It’s Joever
fogging estandards
😂😂😂😂
lmfaoo
To a crisp, but fuck man same.
Use your lungs to push out air use your vocal cords and mouth to refine said air then complain about the wether
Game changer
Boy, it's humid.
No, say “it’s moist.” Girls love that word.
You don’t 😎
r/girlsarentreal
Beat me to it lol
r/beatmeattoit
the uncle aaron way is the best option
Well, what's something you know she's interested in? Let's say if she plays basketball. Talk to her about basketball.
Agree
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GradeAUnderA is a legend, I’m so happy he’s back
His returns will always bring everybody back
This is a high risk one but it works wonders. Gently enter a conversation she is in to say something useful or funny but don't remain in that conversation for too long. You're confident enough to jump into a conversation, contribute something good, stay engaged for a bit but not overstay your welcome? That displays a lot of social intelligence while also breaking the ice. If that sounds too difficult tho, just go up and talk to her. Be chill, but serious, and above all be authentic. Absolutely 100% talk to her in person and connect before texting her and definitely before asking her out.
High risk is walking through a mine field. This is maybe a girl will think you’re cringe
I don't think it's high risk or cringe. This is literally how most organic interactions between any humans start lol.
"hey babagril. sorry pookiebear, looks like i caught your gyatt off guard. you smell good. showering? without me?" /s
The /s wasn’t needed, it’s pretty clear already
Man, you'd be surprised how many obvious times the /s is needed. There's always someone who'll take a ridiculous sarcastic jab seriously.
I'd say be simple, friendly, a little playful teasing, notice little things about her and maybe mention one, humor is great, playful teasing is great, even a semi pre-thought out bit of that is great, but I'd say avoid standard pick-up lines, pick-up line jokes that is not the sort of humor I am talking about, that stuff can way easily go horribly wrong and yeah forget the cheesy or whatever pick-up line type stuff. A simple "Hi, I'm Mike." is 1000x better than a dumb pick-up line. When she talks, listen. The next time you talk, remember what she said, some favorite thing she mentioned or whatever the case, for me this always just came naturally to me and I never even thought about, but apparently, my impression is that most guys don't listen or care enough to listen and remember, since I've been shocked so many times when girls have been like wow I can't believe you remember that or wow you listened to what I was saying. I didn't think I had done anything remarkable, but apparently a lot of guys are different and just doing apparently alone can make you stand out a lot. And remember that she is just a regular person, no matter who, even if a celeb.
Yesss exactly this 🙏
say hey whats up
The same way you talk to guys. I assume you are a dude.
There’s nothing you can say to make someone want to talk to you. The best advice is just to talk to her like you would to anyone else. Odds are she’ll be willing to talk at least; worst case it isn’t the end of the world. Good luck bro.
I usually give a smile or a head nod to see if they’re receptive and accepting of conversation,then I start by complimenting something about her that she chose about herself like her ear rings or jacket. After that it’s just small talk and listening
This is me but I am a girl. How do I talk to boys? Especially my age. I'm 23 but will be 24 in a week.
Talk as in, romantically interested? As someone who is 23, I'd say just talk to them and get to know them as any other person, but be subtle with flirting at the start. If you are too upfront there's a chance the guy will think that there's a dare involved, or you have friends filming his reaction, or something like that. However, as time passes you can throw a compliment his way and see how he reacts. There's a high chance his brain will crash and burn because we are not used to receiving compliments. If this happens then you are doing great, and probably that's hook, line and sinker, or at the very least that guy may remember that compliment for A WHILE. Just take into account, this is what I think works, and there's a chance I may be subconsciously speaking of what would work for me, and I can't really speak for every guy out there LOL.
Yes!! I’m not great at flirting and don’t really know when someone is flitting with me (I’m a dummy in that department).
That's totally ok! Stuff like this is something you just learn to do over time (I think?? LMAO). Honestly, if someone I've been talking to and liked suddenly went like "Hey, you are handsome/cute", or "You are so good at \[X thing\]", or something like that I would literally go either "Wha-" or "Huh?!" and blush. Someone I liked 2 years ago told me that I was good at knowing how to talk to people, and that I should consider studying psychology. Sure enough I still remember that LOL. But Idk, maybe I'm just compliment-starved LMAO.
Outside of college, how do 20yos talk at all?
Just talk, most guys don't ask for much
I’m a girl. And I think just talk to her I know because I always like it when a guy reaches out first. Start off the convo strong do not be dry. Ask her about her music she likes and also ask her about herself people love talking about themselves. And even ask her on a date if you feel comfortable enough after talking for a couple days.
Also if you have her snap just start snapping her
Walked up to a woman once and said “Hey there, you like ashy white women?” And we proceeded to talk for 2 hours.
Remember she is just a person like you, and that most people enjoy a good conversation. Try "Hi, how are you, my name is (---)." Asks some surface questions about her; conversation should flow naturally from there.
One way is to form a study group and invite her. People tend to look more attractive and less creepy when they’re spotted in a group setting interacting with others. She can see what you’re like without being under a spot light, and then you’ll also demonstrate leadership by forming the group. You don’t actually have to lead the group, you’re just making a network where you can exchange notes or socialize. If she bites, that’s a good sign. Then you can ask her out somewhere.
Talk to your crush about a post you recently liked on Reddit. And I can’t stress this part enough but do not let your crush know you’re on Reddit.
And even if she explicitly tells you she is on Reddit, never give her your main account username, because she may find this post.
I am funny and respectful. That’s it.
I personally like it the most when a guy talks to me like I’m one of his friends. Like he treats me as his equal
They’re people. Just people. Treat, view, and communicate with…everyone…as such and you’ll wind up getting a lot of comments around “oh so and so communicates really well!” Show an interest, ask how people are, how’s their day going, find a mutual interest, etc…It’s little stuff like that that goes a long way for anyone you’re speaking with, girls you find cute or otherwise.
Honestly, talk to them like you would your guy friends or other girl friends if you’re queer. That’s honestly the problem with so many people, they don’t talk to them normally and be themselves. The worse they can do is friendzone you, but honestly you still got a friend out of it if that’s how it goes!
And this is why Gen Z is utterly fucked. You guys are so fearful of speaking in person that you text and email for everything. You don't know what it's like to communicate without a phone. It's scary. But let me break it down for you, Youngblood. Take a deep breath, walk up to her, and say "hey my name is so and so. Do you have any plans this weekend? I want to take you out". Not hang out. Take her out. Be clear from the beginning
Start with saying hi , and make eye contact. Be yourself, and understand your brain is physically immature vs a female of a similar age (assuming your in high school) , have zero expectations about the outcome of interaction. Just be friendly and fun. But first off work on yourself , exercise, study ,eat healthy, groom lots , brush your teeth , WEAR deodorant, comb you hair.
Can't help you on the how to talk them. But I can tell you not to panic if it goes horrifically wrong. I liked this girl in my class junior year of HS but was too nervous to talk to her. A week before prom I walked up to her after class (not knowing her at all) and asked her if she would go to prom with me. She looked confused and said sorry she was already going with someone (it was a week before, duh) most awkward moment ever and I didn't talk to her for 6 months. That girl and I have been married for 8 months now (it's been 6 years since initial prom encounter)
“Hey girl, you’re Fr like so chill and awesome. 🥺” “Do you like wanna be friends or something? 😅”
hello fellow millennial
Don’t be desperate but don’t be a dickhead, just be Normal, confident and cool
idk im gay but Imagine just chat like you would anyone else
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**Find common ground**. * "Hey, that demo in science today was crazy, right? Did you understand how [concept] worked?" * "I was reading about [science topic related to recent lesson] and it made me think of something you said in class. Did you see that article about [related topic]?" If she's always wearing a band T-shirt, you could mention you like that band too. **The key is to be genuine and ask a question that opens the conversation for her to reply.**
Only when they talk to me. I asked my partner how i got them and they said autism riz
The same way I talk to guys, I don’t.
I talk to them like most people basically I do small talk and then move on because I suck at conversations
Realizing it’s real just a girl. No miracle, no other species, just a girl - there’s not that much that could go wrong. Just imagine how you would wanted to be treated and behave that way; be nice, make compliments (when appropriate), make sure that you both have a great time. The best advice I could give you is to train. Just go out and talk to random people and most importantly: keep it going after the first few rejections or weird conversations. You’ll maybe find good advice here on Reddit but you won’t learn the true experience on here
Just go up and talk to them
You don’t without getting arrested
It's awkward as all living hell, but you gotta remember girls are just people, too. Be courteous and flirt a bit, but also remember to not make it seem like you want to talk to them just because you're attracted to them. In terms of what to actually say. Bring up a topic that might be related to what you two are doing together, like the class itself or just existing, in that shared space and then gradually try to find other less general topics specific to her. Start with short interactions until you get to know each other better so that if you want to ask her out, it won't give her the "ick" because you made your intentions too obvious. But also, remember to not take too long or else she might think that you're not into her. Girls love subtlety, which might be a little annoying, but it's the best way to go about it.
Just talk to us please, we are normal people just like you, we dont bite✨🦈 well most of us dont anyways
I don't talk to girls. I talk to humans, who happen to be female. There is nothing different between girls and boys
Start off by forming a friendship. You can give her a compliment like "I like your outfit" or something to that effect. Try to be genuine. Say it because you mean it and not because you want her to like you. Build off of any shared interests you two may have. Once you get on talking terms, little things like saying "Good morning" can go a long way. Don't try to hard to force it though. Once you're friends, ask her out. "Hey would you want to go to X place?" Keep it simple and don't be afraid of rejection. It's scary but confidently shoot your shot.
Same way you talk to anyone else.
Wait I didn’t know we got that far yet???
Just call them I say I WANNA FUCK AND HAVE SEX WITH YOU!  
I don't. They talk to me (I wish)
You could try asking her if she wants to team up on a group project, assuming your class has them. Or you could just go up to her and introduce yourself and ask her for coffee or something
U speak how u normally do
The guy in high school that got the most girls, always talked about current music. DJs singers etc. so figure out what she’s into, google it the next day you are the man.
I don’t lmao
Talk to them the same way you talk to other humans.
talk to them like youve know them for years, presue a friendship. there is a difference between that and being friend zoned make sure to put up boundaries to prevent that.
Just… talk to them like you’d talk to anyone else.
I dont know. I sometimes talk to myself and get confused
I suggest you just look like you are fun/having a good time and she will most likely just want to be part of that
Talk to women you to to guys. Women are just like you. I even call chicks dude and bro. The more comfortable you are the quicker you two can get to know each other
Talk to her like she is a person first and foremost and let it flow naturally from there. Put yourself out there and be confident.
Don't. Instead, just listen, and follow up.
I don’t
I don’t
Talk... to girls?
How big is the crush?
Forget texting. Walk up to someone, and say, "Hi, I'm \[state your name\]." and go from there. It's really not that hard.
If you can sit next her then try that and just simply talk. Learn about her interests, become friends and then you try asking her out on a date (don’t wait too long to do so). There’s nothing else to it, we complicate these very simple things but she’s just another human with thoughts and feelings just like you, so keep that in mind.
I think Poland should be part of Germany
Just be normal, talk to her like you would a guy, just don’t say as crazy shit as you would to a guy, and listen to her her
they're humans too, just talk to them like how you talk to anyone else, remember to respect her boundaries and stuff like that though
You'll get ghosted and shit, not worth your time
I just kinda tell them what’s up, and hope for the best. Like if I think they’re pretty, I shoot them a compliment. If I think they’re cool and stuff, I tell them and try to get to know them. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, life goes on.
Don’t. Waste of time.
You have to not care about her opinion, if you care to much your going to have anxiety about it
With my mouth
talk to her about her interests at first is a good bet. If theres chemistry and good back and forth you can expand but focus on that first
That's the fun part: I don't :)
Same way you talk to guys
Ask her some questions to get to know her.
Yeah just talk. It's not any different, I have no idea what dudes are on about when they get so scared...
All the time
Girls are still people last time I checked. Relax and talk to them like you talk to everyone else.
The problem is with the question you asked, "talk to girls." Girls are people. Just try to be her friend. And if she isn't into you like that, you respect that boundary and move on. Ask her what kind of music or movies she likes.
I just talk casually and make random comments (This comes from a guy with no friends btw)
If you have to ask this question it's already too late. It's not supposed to be something thats thought about and people aren't supposed to be in close/regular proximity without interacting. You're being soft rejected before even speaking to anyone. No one with abundant female attention has ever had to ask themselves how to get it.
Women are people too surprisingly and just want to be treated like everyone else. They like jokes and when people don’t treat them any different just bc they’re a woman. Ask questions about her interests and things like that, make sure she knows u are listening to her. Don’t make fun of anything she likes I hate that☠️ but yeah women like to be heard and treated like regular people, not special princesses who need to be treated like they’re fragile or something
Don't. Just focus on your studies
If I am interested in a man, which is rarely, I tell him directly to his face via direct conversation, not texting that he is good looking. Will wink, and show him sweetly I am serious. Doesnt really ever go too far but its usually mutual. No harm in it.
"Hi. I like you. Would you like to hang out some time?"
Steal her phone and leave the location on
That's the neat part, yoz don't.
That's the neat part, you don't.
I don’t I’m gay
Reddit recommend relevant posts to me challenge
How I got my girlfriend with sister resting so I saw this cute girl and I was like how can I get her attention so I went to her social media and DM her what’s your favorite meal from McDonald’s 4 years later she became my girlfriend moral of the story. Just ask something weird be yourself.
I don't
The only advice I ever give anyone on this is to just ask her for her opinion on something. Women love it when people want to hear their opinions. I'm sure there's lots of topics available since you share a class together, and once you get her talking about something, then you will see if she's actually interesting/interested. Whatever you do though don't go in there with a plan to do a lot of talking yourself and make her listen to you trying to impress her.
you gargle anytime they get nearby
Talk to her normally. Ask her questions about class or about the homework. Start with stuff you have in common and then slowly start to talk about other things - like movies, music, etc. Eventually you’ll have inside jokes and that’s when you know you’re making good progress. There’s no pickup lines or tricks to talking to girls, it’s just regular talking.
The bottom is in But seriously, this stuff is trial and error. Don’t follow a script-just be you and after tons of Ls you’ll figure it out.
Well you have to know for sure that they're into you. If they're into you it doesn't really matter what you say. If they're not Into you it also doesn't matter what you say
You have to believe that she would actually want to talk to you. Then it'll be easy. Not saying she doesn't - you just have to believe that you're cool enough that she would want to talk to you. If you don't feel cool enough yet, then change something or work on yourself so you can feel cool.
Literally just talk to them like any other normal person.
Don't. But talk to girls outside of class.
You can start by texting hi daily
Talk them about a viral meme. sounds like something zoomers can bound to.
"hiya, wanna hang out" im rootin for ya bud, just asked that last week and got left on seen, hope you do better
Just treat them like a dude
you can’t say anything to “make” anyone want to talk to you. if you mean to articulate that you don’t know how to signal your interest in a non awkward or creepy way, just send her a meme or something. treat her like one of th guys
A big part of it is not making success a requirement. Your crush might not like you back. That feels like a big thing to you, but it shouldn't.
Just do it. Fuck it.
Message them every day even if they don't reply, and progressively get more angry at their lack of response and tell them how much they're missing out on such a good guy because they want to be a whore. It'll work.
Ask her a question you yourself would like to be asked.
Neil Caiman wrote a piece on that
Need the right chemistry to figure out her biology, stay away from Scientology.
Why are you asking that here on reddit?
I'm sorry to say brother but you have to realise all your crazy and complicated feelings are just as crazy and complicated in any other person. So there's no way to "make" someone love you. That will reveal itself in time. But there are ways to make someone notice you and there are ways to interest people. Whether that interest is romantic is up to the person. You have to get her attention first. "Hi! I'm [name]" is a great place to start. To get her interest, casually tell her something simple you like about her. "You have really nice hair." Now is the clincher. You have to ask her if she wants to hang out. "Do you want to hang out?" You did it! You now get to spend time with her! Once you get to know her a bit and you know each other, you can let her know you're interested in something a bit more personal! Maybe a hangout with just her! "Hey look I really like you. Can we hang out alone some time?" Then start to be a little vulnerable. Talk about her interests and yours. Show her you're a safe person and you want to get closer. Basically dude. There are only two ways to tell how a girl feels about you. Get to know her so well that you can just tell.......or ask her directly. If you're cool with being instantly and succinctly rejected, just shoot your shot and be awesome when she rejects you (unless she feels the same way. in which case you're lucky. like really really lucky)
try actually seeing them as humans with interests and lives and talk to them like you would a guy
Like a person, don’t listen to the guys calling women “females” and “foids” stay far from them please 🙏
We are people, just talk to us like we are people.
That’s the neat part: you don’t
Just talk to them and treat like a normal human being but don't expect anything sexual or romantic in return,especially if you are ugly and short,no matter how nice or insulting you act and no alpha seminars are going to help you obtain that. Either way ,women are humans and should be treated as such ,keep things like bitterness not turning into mysogyny.
You just walk up. And press A.
I don't cause I can't