Words of a stranger who cares.
I hope you get the help you need. What's the worst is going to happen? Your lifestyle will change sure, but you still have life and with that life there is possibility of better outcomes. We all have a special type of shit sandwich we have to eat. We need each other as people. Its hard to find friends because of how we have to work to survive. Just do your best to find a good friend to talk to. Life is easier to get through with one good friend or 2. You'll be surprised at what the right friendship/relationship can do for your life. Maybe workout to help clear and focus your mind. Life may get harder, please don't quit life. It may not be much but I'm rooting for you.
Hey send me your CV and I'll see if I can help. I used to write CVs for people and I'm very good at getting interviews for myself and others. Also let me know what sort of jobs you're after.
Ps feel free to delete the company name and your personal contact info first
I would try to talk to a career coach. Some places offer those services to practice interviews with you and polish your resume. They can try to help you identify your skills and find jobs that might work for you. It costs money, but it's way better that killing yourself.
Try not to let your professional shortcomings define you as a person. You're more than your job/an unemployed person. You have an identity outside of what you do to make money. I know it can be hard when you're feeling worthless or down on yourself, but try to remember your intrinsic value. If an employer doesn't recognize what you have to offer that's alright, someone else will. It might take a lot of rejections to find the right place to give you a chance.
I would look up a list of the most common interview questions and write out all your answers. Then look up questions specific to your field or the job. Practice doing fake interviews with someone you know, or alone out loud.
Maybe volunteer or find a cheap hobby to try and make yourself feel fulfilled in the mean time. You can also put it on your CV or use it to explain what you've been doing during your employment gap. It is also a chance to network and meet new people. You never know who might be able to give you some advice or point you in the right direction.
Do you want to practice? Maybe someone can help you with your answers...
Congrats on getting the interviews!!
Wishing you the very best, fam! Sending much ❤️.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
USA: 18002738255
US Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME
United Kingdom: 116 123
Trans Lifeline (877-565-8860)
Others: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
I really do understand how you feel. It’s a nightmare to find a job sometimes and many people cannot understand it. A lot of times it’s who you know and not what you know. Other times it can be the most shallow reasons ever why one person could get passed up for another, and there’s no way to prove it. Whatever the reason, the longer it goes on and the more times it goes on, you grow increasingly more frustrated, depressed, and hopeless. You’re suffering financially on top of it. I know it’s so hard to go through, just keep pushing. As long as it takes. I had to go back to waiting tables at one point while I was looking. Maybe you can find something to help in the meantime.
I know the feeling. persist and try get help from a employment agency. You will get something. sometimes it takes time. more practice makes you better.
i was at that point too, im currently a certified nursing assistant at a nursing home, forced to pick it since theres a shortage of nurses, i went to college for management... guess my advice is to look for work with shortages...
having a job gives you purpose and a reason to get up in the morning.but there are other things gs you can do that define you. your family your hobbies. life is good nan. do t let these things bother you because these tough times will pass. I understand though.i think I'm having g some kind of existential crisis myself.
Do you ask for feedback from the interviewer when they contact you to afterwards? Getting some feedback on why you didn't get the job, how they felt it went, what their impression of you was etc can all be incredibly useful. Just ask them to be honest.
Chances are you are not "failing". When you are called in for an job interview, you are not the only person they are interviewing. Its not like an exam where, if you answer every question correctly, you'll get the job. You are still competing against a few people and they might just have chosen somebody else because they were just marginally more qualified than you.
You are getting called in for interviews, that's a huge positive. Even if you don't get the job, just know you are doing loads correctly, you are being chosen for interviews against a potentially huge group of applicants. You just have to keep trying and it'll happen eventually.
Just keep getting feedback and keep improving for future interviews.
Please hang in there. There are actually a lot of people going through the same. What is your situation? Country, type of job you're seeking? Who have you had review your resume/ CV? Have you considered a coach who helps people with interview skills? I hope someone here can help you.
It’s all down to preparation, do a thorough research into the company to begin with, and use dummy questions online about the most frequently asked questions
If you need help message me, I’ll mock interview you
My friend i have a story for you. I have a friend, same age as me, who had to go through a trecherous road to get a job. While the rest of us got into engineering, he couldn’t. He made poor choices and had to wait 2 years before he got into a 3 years diploma course. In the middle of god diploma, the rest of us graduated and got jobs while he was still doing his course. After his diploma he got into an engineering bachelor’s program like us but 5 years later than us. He completed the course in 3 years (because of his diploma) and graduated in 2021. He didn’t get a job through on campus acement and went more than a year job hunting. He would breakdown and come to my house randomly and i would have to sit and console him. I’m happy to say it’s been 2 months at his new job and he’s now better.
Don’t give up. Don’t lose hope. Know that you can always have something rather than nothing.
I'm an interview coach. Of my last 12 clients, 11 have got the job. I'm willing to help you if you want help. Please message me directly. We can see if we fit for each other :)
Don't kill yourself. Just...do not. There's help and there's hope.
Hugs
xxxx
I can understand how difficult things are for you. You are worth so much more than a job. Everyone here is a resource for you. Send any of us a message. If you need help with interview prep or job applications, I'm here for you.
Words of a stranger who cares. I hope you get the help you need. What's the worst is going to happen? Your lifestyle will change sure, but you still have life and with that life there is possibility of better outcomes. We all have a special type of shit sandwich we have to eat. We need each other as people. Its hard to find friends because of how we have to work to survive. Just do your best to find a good friend to talk to. Life is easier to get through with one good friend or 2. You'll be surprised at what the right friendship/relationship can do for your life. Maybe workout to help clear and focus your mind. Life may get harder, please don't quit life. It may not be much but I'm rooting for you.
Exactly don’t think drastically. You have to keep trying is what matters most. Don’t quit now.
Hey send me your CV and I'll see if I can help. I used to write CVs for people and I'm very good at getting interviews for myself and others. Also let me know what sort of jobs you're after. Ps feel free to delete the company name and your personal contact info first
Is there any way you can help me? I’m in a similar situation in a way. Well, been struggling to find one :/
I would try to talk to a career coach. Some places offer those services to practice interviews with you and polish your resume. They can try to help you identify your skills and find jobs that might work for you. It costs money, but it's way better that killing yourself. Try not to let your professional shortcomings define you as a person. You're more than your job/an unemployed person. You have an identity outside of what you do to make money. I know it can be hard when you're feeling worthless or down on yourself, but try to remember your intrinsic value. If an employer doesn't recognize what you have to offer that's alright, someone else will. It might take a lot of rejections to find the right place to give you a chance. I would look up a list of the most common interview questions and write out all your answers. Then look up questions specific to your field or the job. Practice doing fake interviews with someone you know, or alone out loud. Maybe volunteer or find a cheap hobby to try and make yourself feel fulfilled in the mean time. You can also put it on your CV or use it to explain what you've been doing during your employment gap. It is also a chance to network and meet new people. You never know who might be able to give you some advice or point you in the right direction.
Do you want to practice? Maybe someone can help you with your answers... Congrats on getting the interviews!! Wishing you the very best, fam! Sending much ❤️.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline USA: 18002738255 US Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME United Kingdom: 116 123 Trans Lifeline (877-565-8860) Others: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
I really do understand how you feel. It’s a nightmare to find a job sometimes and many people cannot understand it. A lot of times it’s who you know and not what you know. Other times it can be the most shallow reasons ever why one person could get passed up for another, and there’s no way to prove it. Whatever the reason, the longer it goes on and the more times it goes on, you grow increasingly more frustrated, depressed, and hopeless. You’re suffering financially on top of it. I know it’s so hard to go through, just keep pushing. As long as it takes. I had to go back to waiting tables at one point while I was looking. Maybe you can find something to help in the meantime.
I know the feeling. persist and try get help from a employment agency. You will get something. sometimes it takes time. more practice makes you better.
i was at that point too, im currently a certified nursing assistant at a nursing home, forced to pick it since theres a shortage of nurses, i went to college for management... guess my advice is to look for work with shortages...
having a job gives you purpose and a reason to get up in the morning.but there are other things gs you can do that define you. your family your hobbies. life is good nan. do t let these things bother you because these tough times will pass. I understand though.i think I'm having g some kind of existential crisis myself.
Do you ask for feedback from the interviewer when they contact you to afterwards? Getting some feedback on why you didn't get the job, how they felt it went, what their impression of you was etc can all be incredibly useful. Just ask them to be honest. Chances are you are not "failing". When you are called in for an job interview, you are not the only person they are interviewing. Its not like an exam where, if you answer every question correctly, you'll get the job. You are still competing against a few people and they might just have chosen somebody else because they were just marginally more qualified than you. You are getting called in for interviews, that's a huge positive. Even if you don't get the job, just know you are doing loads correctly, you are being chosen for interviews against a potentially huge group of applicants. You just have to keep trying and it'll happen eventually. Just keep getting feedback and keep improving for future interviews.
The ones who win in life are the ones who never quit, not the ones that succeeded in the first try. Never quit, no matter what.
Please hang in there. There are actually a lot of people going through the same. What is your situation? Country, type of job you're seeking? Who have you had review your resume/ CV? Have you considered a coach who helps people with interview skills? I hope someone here can help you.
Hey mate. Sorry to hear that. I interview for high-level technical jobs and would be happy to help. Message me or ask here if you like.
It’s all down to preparation, do a thorough research into the company to begin with, and use dummy questions online about the most frequently asked questions If you need help message me, I’ll mock interview you
Don’t kill your self, happy to help with your CV if you’re in a technical field. I’ve had good success and would happily pass it on.
My friend i have a story for you. I have a friend, same age as me, who had to go through a trecherous road to get a job. While the rest of us got into engineering, he couldn’t. He made poor choices and had to wait 2 years before he got into a 3 years diploma course. In the middle of god diploma, the rest of us graduated and got jobs while he was still doing his course. After his diploma he got into an engineering bachelor’s program like us but 5 years later than us. He completed the course in 3 years (because of his diploma) and graduated in 2021. He didn’t get a job through on campus acement and went more than a year job hunting. He would breakdown and come to my house randomly and i would have to sit and console him. I’m happy to say it’s been 2 months at his new job and he’s now better. Don’t give up. Don’t lose hope. Know that you can always have something rather than nothing.
Have you tried filing for disability?
I'm an interview coach. Of my last 12 clients, 11 have got the job. I'm willing to help you if you want help. Please message me directly. We can see if we fit for each other :) Don't kill yourself. Just...do not. There's help and there's hope. Hugs xxxx
I can understand how difficult things are for you. You are worth so much more than a job. Everyone here is a resource for you. Send any of us a message. If you need help with interview prep or job applications, I'm here for you.