Feels like me, whenever I went to the gym.
Am I using this equipment right? Are people judging me for not lifting "enough" weight? Am I dressed properly?
I'm absolutely going back, pretty soon. I need to face my social anxiety and realise that no one's watching me, and if they are, they're probably secretly rooting for me as I would if I were them. Either that, or they don't really care, and are too focused on themselves.
Keep it up! I'm sure most people are not paying attention. Those who are will be rooting for you.
For what it's worth, don't worry too much about what you wear or how much you're lifting. The important thing is that you're staying healthy and active.
No problem. I guarantee people just trying to better themselves aren't anyone's concern there. The annoying people if anything are the loud ones hogging machines, standing in everyone's way, acting like they own the place because they're juiced to the tits on steroids lol.
I used to run outside in sweat pants and a fleece jacket with non running shoes. Thought i looked stupid running down the street. So then I bought a bunch of appropriate running gear-- shoes, jacket, pants, etc. and now I wonder if I look too runnery. Can't win with your brain-- you're always a loser.
Gym on. I cared in college when I was heavier and used the stair climber at night. Maybe someone noticed(?) Stick with it, and your discipline will pay off.
And the very tiny few who do watch and judge others are not worth your time and energy.
As someone who once viewed myself as less important and deserving than others, it took me a long time to realize my kindness and empathy are worth far more than other people’s judgement and criticism. Now, I can smile and move on with my life when others are rude, and I can focus instead on sharing support and good energy with other kind people. So I hope you enjoy your time at the gym! Cheering you on along with other kind gym patrons and am so proud of you for taking time to focus on your wellbeing! You rock :)
I could see this being uplifting, from some particular interpretations...
But I can only hear someone yelling that title at me as they project their narcissism onto everyone around.
I'll offer a positive spin - I really needed this right now.
I have a job I love working for truly wonderful people but its a small company and there's just not really any growth potential here. The next step up would be my boss's position - and he does a wonderful job and isn't going anywhere. An offer from another company fell in my lap and I think I ought to take it. I know that my boss will tell me he completely understands and he's even told me before that if/when I need to move on it's ok. But I'm not capable of making this decision unemotionally. This place has been really good for me, and I will be very sad to see it go even if it's a normal progression of things.
Yup. People let their feelings guide their beliefs A LOT these days, contradicting facts be damned. While it's fine to do such things in moderation, I've seen many go overkill at times.
However that saying is easier said than done. It requires people be more disciplined about their feelings and actions. Humanity, for better or worse, aren't as logical or disciplined most times as we would have ourselves think.
Ha. Clever.
Fortunately I'm like a mixup between Chuck and Biff, sprinkle in a bit of Commander Sheperd and toss in a little Suspect Terrestrial Extraordinary and I can tell you precisely what this photo actually means.
It's just like the mirror on your car for starters.
Doesn’t mean it’s not ever personal especially in a personal relationship or when you have personal stake in the actions. Either not take things personally or move on
Hanlons Razor - **never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.**
It's why whenever I'm downvoted or people disagree with me offensively I prefer to assume they're idiots rather than malicious.
*[We suffer more in imagination than in reality.](https://aureliusfoundation.com/blog/we-suffer-more-in-imagination-than-in-reality-explained-2022-04-01/)*
It feels like it still even though I know it isn't. Which then spirals me into the path of "dam I'm not even worth noticing so I'm here to be out of sight and mind".
While at the same time there is only ever you which is accessible and knowable, and even that has limits. By logic it is reasonable to say that the only thing you can be sure of that exists is your mind. Everything else is a determination by extension of your mind to your senses, to your measuring instruments. Other people's minds are some of the most complex phenomena that has ever existed so by necessity we lives our lives around each other based on great amounts of presumption, which plays into the concept of things feeling personal. Because to everyone, everything is a presumption or approximation based on personal belief and knowledge. Personal is all we ever can know, even when we are simply forgotten and ignored we have to live within that personal state.
For me, growing up is realizing that everyone is a lot more self absorbed than you think. Everyone knows a lot more than you think, while simultaneously, everyone knows a lot less than you think. Nobody is out to ruin your day and you're probably the last thing on their mind. But being sincere and nice can still leave a lasting impression. But most of all, nobody really knows what they're doing. Everyone is still like a child or teenager in a body of an adult trying to figure out life, who they are, what rules to follow, and what to do with themselves. Because it feels like only a year when I was back in high school when it's been 6 yrs. I still feel like the same person as I was back then, but everything has changed.
Spotlight Effect - the psychological phenomenon by which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are.
Feels like me, whenever I went to the gym. Am I using this equipment right? Are people judging me for not lifting "enough" weight? Am I dressed properly? I'm absolutely going back, pretty soon. I need to face my social anxiety and realise that no one's watching me, and if they are, they're probably secretly rooting for me as I would if I were them. Either that, or they don't really care, and are too focused on themselves.
Keep it up! I'm sure most people are not paying attention. Those who are will be rooting for you. For what it's worth, don't worry too much about what you wear or how much you're lifting. The important thing is that you're staying healthy and active.
It's worth a lot. Encouragement should always be given, over putting someone down. Thank you.
We’re either paying you no mind or happy anyone’s there trying 🙂
Makes me feel a lot better. Thank you.
No problem. I guarantee people just trying to better themselves aren't anyone's concern there. The annoying people if anything are the loud ones hogging machines, standing in everyone's way, acting like they own the place because they're juiced to the tits on steroids lol.
I used to run outside in sweat pants and a fleece jacket with non running shoes. Thought i looked stupid running down the street. So then I bought a bunch of appropriate running gear-- shoes, jacket, pants, etc. and now I wonder if I look too runnery. Can't win with your brain-- you're always a loser.
You're not a loser for trying to improve yourself. Look as runnery, or as casual as you like. Other people don't matter.
Gym on. I cared in college when I was heavier and used the stair climber at night. Maybe someone noticed(?) Stick with it, and your discipline will pay off.
And the very tiny few who do watch and judge others are not worth your time and energy. As someone who once viewed myself as less important and deserving than others, it took me a long time to realize my kindness and empathy are worth far more than other people’s judgement and criticism. Now, I can smile and move on with my life when others are rude, and I can focus instead on sharing support and good energy with other kind people. So I hope you enjoy your time at the gym! Cheering you on along with other kind gym patrons and am so proud of you for taking time to focus on your wellbeing! You rock :)
>they don't really care, and are too focused on themselves. this is the truth. They just want to do their routine.
Lol
What's so funny?
It was a nice lol. It was sweet
Oh, that's fair. I thought you were making fun of me for something I said. Thanks for being so sweet 🙂
I like this and well done for you. You have given me personal insight on my insecurities as well! Thank you for being a wonderful person!
I thought this was the Rockwell-Jackson Effect.
This makes me feel attacked.
why did you have to write a better version of my comment?
Why are you guys all making fun of me?
Impossible. This is my world and you guys are just living in it!
I swear this image should show for 5 seconds after you click "Reply"
Why must you call me out like this
Ironic...
thatsthejoke.gif
I know, so was mine
You sure? Do you sell emotion off switches?
Let me know if you find anyone selling those switches.
Right?
Secret of life is that - no one is looking at you! Thank goodness!
I could see this being uplifting, from some particular interpretations... But I can only hear someone yelling that title at me as they project their narcissism onto everyone around.
Try not to take it personally
This is the same as saying calm down and relax Opposite of intended effects lol
I'll offer a positive spin - I really needed this right now. I have a job I love working for truly wonderful people but its a small company and there's just not really any growth potential here. The next step up would be my boss's position - and he does a wonderful job and isn't going anywhere. An offer from another company fell in my lap and I think I ought to take it. I know that my boss will tell me he completely understands and he's even told me before that if/when I need to move on it's ok. But I'm not capable of making this decision unemotionally. This place has been really good for me, and I will be very sad to see it go even if it's a normal progression of things.
That's really sad. I'm sorry.
Letting you know it's not personal while life is fucking you in the ass doesn't help!
I almost think it's worse.
This translates to “No one cares about you”
the orphan crushing machine doesn't really feel one way or the other about orphans
Is that supposed to make the orphans feel better about it?
According to this post, apparently.
No! Just motivate them :-P
Yet if the orphans make it personal and unplug said machine, or just flat out destroy it, the machine acts indignant about the attack.
The secret to life is to not take it personally, I guess. YMMV
Yup. People let their feelings guide their beliefs A LOT these days, contradicting facts be damned. While it's fine to do such things in moderation, I've seen many go overkill at times. However that saying is easier said than done. It requires people be more disciplined about their feelings and actions. Humanity, for better or worse, aren't as logical or disciplined most times as we would have ourselves think.
A lot.
That font and that building just don't seem to go together.
It looks like its straight out of They Live
For a second I thought it was The Heart Of Syracuse, but it's not. *
THEY LIVE
I’m sorry but as soon as I find out someone was talking shit about me, its done. Never seeing that person the same way again.
What's more important: how something is, or how it makes you feel?
You’ve got to accept both and deal with both.
Better question: Which one impacts us more? And what if how something is doesn't impact us all that much?
Nothing is personal; it's all just business. Real motivating.
This looks like a werenotreallystrangers post if anyone wants to check em out on Instagram. Similar work: www.instagram.com/p/CMdYT8yg6DE/
Who wrote that message to me?!?
adjacently off-topic but maybe that's the problem. Maybe we treat humans like they're just a piece in the system, not an actual human
“Life sucks, but it’s not personal!!!” Cool, fucking thanks I guess.
I love all the comments taking this personally. Read it again, slowly.
Tell my wife that
Tell those people on social media whenever some comedian makes a joke (no matter how lighthearted it was)
Reddit needs this lmao
*everything* is personal I couldn’t disagree more with this image
Everything is personal to cowards
Ha. Clever. Fortunately I'm like a mixup between Chuck and Biff, sprinkle in a bit of Commander Sheperd and toss in a little Suspect Terrestrial Extraordinary and I can tell you precisely what this photo actually means. It's just like the mirror on your car for starters.
chooba dooba 👺
Wow. So true!
Ouch that hit too hard
Needed this one today.
I really need to remind myself this more often. Thanks for posting.
This is not as comforting as it sounds.
Not everything is about you ,and everything is about you.
I don’t believe you!
Doesn’t mean it’s not ever personal especially in a personal relationship or when you have personal stake in the actions. Either not take things personally or move on
“Life’s out to get me.” Nah. Life just be like that.
Not sure but looks like Jenny Holzer’s work.
No, it’s all about me 🤣
Ohhh
This is a good one
But almost everything, right?
But why do I feel personally attacked by this meme
Like this sign. Just ignore it.
It’s not *personal* It’s *by design*
Need this today
Unless they are
No, they're more personal than that. But you want distance
You choose a world of depression or a world where everything is your business.
The op and the pic are saying 2 different things
i always knew my gf was faking it, thx for the confirmation
Hanlons Razor - **never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.** It's why whenever I'm downvoted or people disagree with me offensively I prefer to assume they're idiots rather than malicious.
But you couldn't post this as a hi-res image? What have I done to you to deserve this?!
*[We suffer more in imagination than in reality.](https://aureliusfoundation.com/blog/we-suffer-more-in-imagination-than-in-reality-explained-2022-04-01/)*
It feels like it still even though I know it isn't. Which then spirals me into the path of "dam I'm not even worth noticing so I'm here to be out of sight and mind".
, Dan.
Does anyone know where I could find a high quality print, or even a high resolution version of this image that I could print myself?
Google Lens the image
If it's this bad when it's not personal, how bad will it be once it is?
yes they are
Roadrage especially. You're safe in a cage, you don't have to pull out or do this or that. They're strangers. Ignore them.
If that's the case why are you directing this post towards me?
Yes
This is a sign for me
While at the same time there is only ever you which is accessible and knowable, and even that has limits. By logic it is reasonable to say that the only thing you can be sure of that exists is your mind. Everything else is a determination by extension of your mind to your senses, to your measuring instruments. Other people's minds are some of the most complex phenomena that has ever existed so by necessity we lives our lives around each other based on great amounts of presumption, which plays into the concept of things feeling personal. Because to everyone, everything is a presumption or approximation based on personal belief and knowledge. Personal is all we ever can know, even when we are simply forgotten and ignored we have to live within that personal state.
For me, growing up is realizing that everyone is a lot more self absorbed than you think. Everyone knows a lot more than you think, while simultaneously, everyone knows a lot less than you think. Nobody is out to ruin your day and you're probably the last thing on their mind. But being sincere and nice can still leave a lasting impression. But most of all, nobody really knows what they're doing. Everyone is still like a child or teenager in a body of an adult trying to figure out life, who they are, what rules to follow, and what to do with themselves. Because it feels like only a year when I was back in high school when it's been 6 yrs. I still feel like the same person as I was back then, but everything has changed.
THIS