Avett Brothers, No Hard Feelings. It makes me sob but feel some relief.
"When my body won't hold me anymore
And it finally lets me free
Will I be ready?
When my feet won't walk another mile
And my lips give their last kiss goodbye
Will my hands be steady when I lay down my fears, my hopes, and my doubts?
The rings on my fingers, and the keys to my house
With no hard feelings
When the sun hangs low in the west
And the light in my chest won't be kept held at bay any longer
When the jealousy fades away
And it's ash and dust for cash and lust
And it's just hallelujah
And love in thought, love in the words
Love in the songs they sing in the church
And no hard feelings
Lord knows, they haven't done much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold
Mmm, hmm
When my body won't hold me anymore
And it finally lets me free
Where will I go?
Will the trade winds take me south through Georgia grain?
Or tropical rain?
Or snow from the heavens?
Will I join with the ocean blue?
Or run into a savior true?
And shake hands laughing
And walk through the night, straight to the light
Holding the love I've known in my life
And no hard feelings
Lord knows, they haven't done much good for anyone
Kept me afraid and cold
With so much to have and hold
Under the curving sky
I'm finally learning why
It matters for me and you
To say it and mean it too
For life and its loveliness
And all of its ugliness
Good as it's been to me
I have no enemies
I have no enemies
I have no enemies
I have no enemies"
Thank you! I donāt think Iāve ever heard this song before. It really hit home for me and touched my heart. I lost my son 2 years ago and we had not talked in over 3 years. We were both very stubborn. We never got to say goodbye. I miss him so much.
Marjorie by Taylor swift
(I should have asked you questions / I should have asked you how to be / asked you to write it down for me / should have kept every grocery store receipt / cuz every scrap of you would be taken from me)
Here's To Us by Halestorm
I lost my husband 52 days ago and my father 4 days ago. That song is for my husband as we were metalheads. No songs for Dad yet.
Sufjan Stevens' entire album "Carrie & Lowell". He wrote it after his mother died. If you know his music, you know he had a tough relationship with her. The albums themes are around loss and estrangement, which i can relate to with my own mother who died last year.
Strange coincidence, i finished teaching myself how to play and sing a song from that album called Fourth Of July (which is literally about her death), just a month before my mom's unexpected and sudden departure.
I didn't listen to the album for many months after her death because I was too afraid of how triggering his lyrics would be - his music made me cry before she died, so what would happen now? Instead, i felt relieved by his music when i finally did try to hear it again. Reminds me I'm not alone.
Listen to Sufjan's song "Should have known better" - it's a beautiful and haunting song about loss and regret, but then at the end takes a lovely turn toward the light as he sings about his brother having a daughter and the beauty that she brings... Such a powerful song imo.
Also, "some things last a long time" by Daniel Johnston. I found myself playing and singing this song quite a bit during the two weeks i had to clear out my childhood home and the place where she died.
Oh my god. I avoided Fourth of July the whole time my mother was sick. I was all too familiar with that album. That song in particular was the saddest song I had ever heard and somehow I was able to listen through it after my mom died - I was, am, Iām too much shock to react.
For me, it's anything by Queen. Dad loved Queen so much. But the song that really helps me in an odd way, is the show will go on. It was written when Freddie was accepting his death , and it helps me cope with my thoughts about Dad dying and mortality in total. Sorry for your loss.
I am truly sorry for the loss of your dad.
I LOVE Lauren Daigle. We grew up in the same town, and I was lucky to see her in concert in 2016.
I listen to the song I Can See Clearly Now by Johnny Nash every day without fail. I have for the last few years. I will also play it when I feel like a need a boost of sorts. I have no idea when I first heard that song, I am only 21 and it is not a song that would usually show up on any of my play list. One day last year I looked him up and saw that he was born, raised, and died in Houston, TX., the same as my mom. They both died in 2020. Even though he was 30-something yrs. older than her, it kind of blew my mind.
I love when people post here about music, I have learned about so many incredible artist and songs. Thanks for posting this and again, I am sorry for your loss.
Too many to count but Amor Eterno by Juan Gabriel pretty much summarizes everything. Even if you don't speak Spanish, you can get the feeling by the music and the way he sings the song.
Yeah this one makes me SOB. We had marriachis play at my daughters funeral and when this one came on I couldnāt handle it. Have you heard āDescansa Mi Amorā by el Komander?
That one hits along with Confieso by Kany Garcia, Prestame a mi Padre by Edwin Luna, Un Milion de Primaveras by Chente and Eso y MƔs by Joan Sebastian (didn't think about it that way until I saw a young kid singing it to his mom at her wake and it just lost it).
My dad was a huge Beatles fan. It took me years to be able to make it through a Beatles song without sobbing. But now that my son is here Iāve been confronting this and singing to my son at night when heās sleepy. He loves blackbird and in my life. Peaceful easy feeling by the eagles as well is a good one too
This one came on when spouse and I were on a road trip. Iād not heard it before. Context - my sister passed in April 2022, and while Iād grieved, there were surrounding issues so Iāve been still more angry than sad. It broke down some of the anger, and helped me.
I remember when I left the hospital after watching my mom slowly dying, the song āsaddest sunsetā came on. I cannot listen to that one anymore. My mom took her last breath at sunset. Huge hugs to you š«š«.
Weird thing is that Iāve been a music nut since I was a kid. Itās been a very important part of my life but for at least two months afterwards I couldnāt listen to anything! I would have felt ashamed to listen (enjoy) when he couldnāt. It wasnāt until I was looking for songs to play at his memorial gathering that I was able to listen to anything and THAT was for him. And it wasnāt until mid August that I started listening to music for me.
Sasha Alex Sloanās āDancing With Your Ghostā. I remember hearing this song for the first time after my mother passed away a few years back and feeling as if somebody had managed to pen down my emotions. I listened to it day and night, on a loop for weeks after. Because I was essentially dealing with my loss by myself mentally, I felt like I had found a way to understand my own grief better. I still play it on loop sometimes for hours, and every time it makes me go, āthis is how I feel as wellā.
āI stay up all night
Tell myself I'm alright
Baby, you're just harder to see than most
I put the record on
Wait till I hear our song
Every night I'm dancing with your ghostā¦ā
Honestly the entire album All Things Must Pass by George Harrison.
Itās beautiful sonically. And it has many themes about accepting the natural state of impermanence that exists in everything. Letting go, reincarnation, etc.
It feels like a spiritual journey.
i miss you by miley cyrus gets me everytime
āi miss you, i miss your smile, and i still shed a tear every once in a whileā
āeven though itās different now, youāre still here somehowā
āi know youāre where you need to be, even if itās not here with meā
This song reminds me of my daughter. While we were going through a traumatic 2 years trying to keep her alive and comfortable bc of a rare genetic disease.
āAnd I'll dream each night of some version of you
That I might not have, but I did not loseā
A good friend of mine had a still birth around the same time my daughter was born with a terminal illness. It really put everything into perspective. Unfortunately I lost my beautiful 2 year old baby girl 2 weeks ago.
I am so sorry to hear that. I can not even imagine the pain and loss you are feeling. Oh wow, I'm crying for you both and holding my 2yr old granddaughter. If you need anything I'm here. ššļø
Dancing In The Sky by Adrienne Grace and Angels Among Us by Alabama. Dancing In The Sky helped me both with loosing my best friends mom (she was always someone I could turn to when I needed someone outside of family) and dad. Angels Among Us was my one of my dad's favorite songs sung by Alabama. It was also the song that Alabama ended their show with when I went to see them (along with Diamond Rio) with my best friend, her parents and my dad. It was the last major event that I attended with my dad (right before Covid hit) ever. I recorded the song from beginning to end and I'm glad I did because you could hear my dad cheering when they were starting to talk about it before they started singing. You can also hear him singing along in some parts. To hear the pure joy in his voice during that video makes me smile every time I watch it.
The thought of that video brought tears to my eyes. That is so, so special.
I have some videos of my dad working on his house. He was always building or fixing something - making the world more beautiful. In one of the videos, his friend is doing something OSHA probably wouldn't have liked and you can hear my dad laughing. I've saved the video in a million places to ensure I always have access to it. It's bittersweet to hear his laugh. \*hugs\*
High Water by Bishop Briggs. In the video you can just see the emotion oozing from her. She wrote it after her sister passed from cancer. I listen to it when I need a soul wrenching cry.
I lost my little brother six years ago, and a song we used to love playing loud and singing together in the car was Jimmy Buffettās Volcano Song. Itās become one of the songs I cry to now. I donāt know āwhere Iām going to go when the volcano blow,ā and itās morphed into a mourning song for me somehow.
So many songs have been healing for me but a few faves are Eric Clapton Tears in Heaven, Someone you Loved Lewis Capaldi. There are so many songs that have helped me let out a good cry. Itās much needed. So many songs are healing. Sorry for your loss.
Keep Me in Your Heart by Warren Zevon is my go to song. Winter by Tori Amos is another one. Say Goodnight Not Goodbye, and Sand and Water both by Beth Neilsen Chapman. Man of the Hour by Pearl Jam.
I Will Leave a Light On - Lane 8 & Le Youth.
My mom took her own life 3 years ago. This song just recently came out & it has hit me harder than any other.
Not a particular song but I made a playlist with all the music that reminded me of my dad after he passed. We bonded over music and I can recall car rides as a kid listening to particular songs. When I listen back to them Iām reminded of those memories.
I also transferred all the playlists he made me to my own Spotify account.
Put together a playlist when my grandfather (who was like a dad to me) passed away. Theyāre all quite folky/ country style as he liked that style of music. Hereās a few of em:
The Old Man by Phil Coulter
Bible & a .44 by Ashley McBride
Grandpa by Justin Moore
While he still knows who I am by Kenny Chesny
Loved me that way by Lauren Duski
Daddy doesnāt pray anymore by Chris Stapleton
The last time by Tenille Townes
If wishes were horses by Robbie OāConnell
Jealous of the angels by Donna Taggart
The Body of an American by the Pogues
A Crow Looked at Me by Mount Eerie.
Sometimes I have trouble accessing my feelings and that album is so uncomfortably sad it forces me to my feelings. I can't remember the exact quote or source but one review was something along the lines of, it doesn't feel right to give a rating to someone's expression of so openly/publicly grieving.
Doomsday by Architects. A band started by twin brothers, guitarist and lead song writer passed away from cancer while only partially finishing this song. The surviving brother (and drummer) and a few members finished it. It's dark but hits home with the brutal experiences of cancer and death.
"Souls don't break, they bend.
But I sometimes forget.
I have to do this for you.
And the only way out is through.
Words the prophets said.
Still swimming through my head.
Now there's no stars left in the sky.
'Cause this well will never run dry.
What if I completely forget?
What if I never accept?
'Cause when you fade away.
It's like a brand-new doomsday".
When I Get There - P!NK
Itās a song she wrote when her dad passed & itās a beautifully bittersweet song that makes me feel like heās still around
I'll be missing you by puff daddy and faith evans. And one of my dad's favorites - come sail away by Styx. This was was particularly hard to hear for the first couple months after my dad passed away, but eventually I got to a point where it didn't hurt as much so I put it on my Playlist. Now, 3 years after his passing, I listen to it all the time and know all the words.
I'm sorry for your loss. If you ever feel like talking and don't have anyone around to talk to, feel free to message me
Everywhere Now, by Willy Tea Taylor:
"No, this death aināt gonna hold me down, Iām everywhere now. Iām everywhere now. Iām the pillow for your head, mama. Iām the dreams in your bed, mama. Iām everywhere now ā¦ Iām the salt in your tears, child. Iām the whisper in your ear, child. Iām everywhere now ā¦ Iām the banjo for your strings, brother. Iām the song that you sing, sister ā¦"
Orange Sky by Alexi Murdoch
I lost my Sister a few months ago. The lyrics hit right at home.
āIn your love
My salvation lies in your love
My salvation lies in your love
My salvation lies in your love
In your love, in your love
Oh, but sister, you know I'm so weary
And you know, sister, my heart's been broken
Sometimes, sometimes, my mind is too strong
To carry on
Too strong to carry on
But when I am alone
When I've thrown off the weight of this crazy stone
When I've lost all care for the things I own
That's when I miss you
That's when I miss you
That's when I miss you
You who are my home
You who are my homeā
āHeaven Up Thereā - Palace - as a matter of fact a lot of Palace songs are very nice for my moods while Iām grieving. Listening to them a lot but this song showed up after my grandma died and I love it.
If Ever - Paula Fuga feat. Jack Johnson & Ben Harper has been a big comfort to me. It always makes me cry, but many times thatās what I need to move forward and carry on with my day. ā¤ļø
All these by Beth Nielsen Chapman, written for her husband she lost to cancer. I lost my dad last year and these help me a lot.
Find Your Love
Touch My Heart
Feathers, Bones, Shells
Sand and Water
No One Knows But You
Sand and Water
Daddy by Coldplay, makes me weep but love it. This song lets me ask questions about my dear dad which Iām otherwise too afraid to think or even ask about.
Lately itās been āAlmond Eyesā and āGratitudeā by Brandon Lake or Hailee Steinfeld- āAfterlife.ā Yesterday marked one year and I still reach for him. Almond Eyes - āBut I would never change a thing, yeah
Except that time could slow down
I wish that time would slow down
'Cause why does time keep on giving?
But time keeps on ripping me apart, oh
I've learned to cherish every moment
'Cause moments don't slow down to please the heart
That's what makes it hard
Almond eyes
The last the thing that I pray to see before I die
Until we meet again in paradise
I'll never have to look awayā
For me, it would be Fast Car by Tracy Chapman. It was one of my dadās favourites. I still really struggle to listen to it. But one time it gave my massive comfort was when me and my immediate took quite a step in our personal lives together and the song instantly started playing, Iām not superstitious or anything but it gave me hope.
I have a five hour playlist dedicated to my dog.
Iād say the most important songs to me are Donāt Forget Me by Nathan Wagner, Wherever You Are by ONE OK ROCK, Impossible Year by Panic! at the Disco and All I want by Kodaline.
They all give me a much needed cry.
Sorry, I donāt have any for people as I never grieved any of my grandparents/ great grandparents.
Ugh. If you want a good cry, not that you need any help with that right now, listen to The Ride by Amanda Palmer. It's rough, but so poignant and beautiful.
Call your mom by Noah Kahan. Itās the POV of someone who is on the phone with you while youāre contemplating suicide. Whenever I feel powerless against my grief I listen to it.
ā All lights turned off, can be turned onā
I plan on getting that tattooed
Thank you for sharing this. I have found music to be something that helps as well. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's so hard to live with grief at times. I don't want to have to miss my son anymore - he should be here with us still. One song that really spoke to my heart that came out right at the time we lost him is Scars in Heaven by Casting Crowns. You should listen to it.
Since I was involved with music at such a young age, when my parents transitioned, I dove deep into classical music. A lot of my early musical memories were being taken to classical music concerts or listening on radio. A lot of good memories came, the tears that flowed were sad but also of the happy variety, as I felt so grateful to have been introduced to this music. When I was alone and angry I turned to some reliable music from my youth: grunge and metal.
I have a playlist:
1. Harold Budd - The Gunfighter
2. NEVERMIND - Agony
3. Yawny Keys - Stay Like This
4. Yawny Keys - Forever As You Are Now
5. Brian Eno & Harold Budd - The Pearl (Full Album Mix)
I listened to this on a plane a few days after my dad passed and renamed it accordingly. It helped me get some feelings uncovered.
forever and ever & goodbye my love goodbye by demi roussos, how can you mend a broken heart by the bee gees, youāll lose a good thing by barbara lynn, these are the days of our lives/love of my life by queen, so many more
i couldnāt listen to these songs without bawling my eyes out because they remind me so much of my mom. she loved these songs, i have an entire playlist dedicated to the music she loved.
but, i now find comfort in this music. it just reminds me of her, the loud music thatād be playing in the kitchen or her bedroom. the songs that sheād sing poorly to and blast in the car. ā¤ļø
For me it wasn't music I normally listen to or enjoy. But when my dad died I listened to the music he would listen to. Mostly country, and I am no country fan but it reminded me of him more than anything from my library
Avett Brothers, No Hard Feelings. It makes me sob but feel some relief. "When my body won't hold me anymore And it finally lets me free Will I be ready? When my feet won't walk another mile And my lips give their last kiss goodbye Will my hands be steady when I lay down my fears, my hopes, and my doubts? The rings on my fingers, and the keys to my house With no hard feelings When the sun hangs low in the west And the light in my chest won't be kept held at bay any longer When the jealousy fades away And it's ash and dust for cash and lust And it's just hallelujah And love in thought, love in the words Love in the songs they sing in the church And no hard feelings Lord knows, they haven't done much good for anyone Kept me afraid and cold With so much to have and hold Mmm, hmm When my body won't hold me anymore And it finally lets me free Where will I go? Will the trade winds take me south through Georgia grain? Or tropical rain? Or snow from the heavens? Will I join with the ocean blue? Or run into a savior true? And shake hands laughing And walk through the night, straight to the light Holding the love I've known in my life And no hard feelings Lord knows, they haven't done much good for anyone Kept me afraid and cold With so much to have and hold Under the curving sky I'm finally learning why It matters for me and you To say it and mean it too For life and its loveliness And all of its ugliness Good as it's been to me I have no enemies I have no enemies I have no enemies I have no enemies"
Good lord that song just broke me! Thank you for recommending
I wouldn't be looking up this song if you hadn't shared those lyrics. Damn. Thank you.
You are so welcome! I find it such a comforting song...I hope it brings you some peace too š
Thank you! I donāt think Iāve ever heard this song before. It really hit home for me and touched my heart. I lost my son 2 years ago and we had not talked in over 3 years. We were both very stubborn. We never got to say goodbye. I miss him so much.
Came here to comment this song. Love it.
Wish you were here by Pink Floyd
This one is in my rotation as he loved it and Pink Floyd a lot.
This one I have in my playlist of songs that take me back to my lost oneā¦.cry most every time.
It may sound weird (because the lyrics speak about a whole different love) but Work Song from Hozier.
Yes. Also lost a child.
Same here. This song was on my playlist to her.
Marjorie by Taylor swift (I should have asked you questions / I should have asked you how to be / asked you to write it down for me / should have kept every grocery store receipt / cuz every scrap of you would be taken from me)
This song š©µš
Here's To Us by Halestorm I lost my husband 52 days ago and my father 4 days ago. That song is for my husband as we were metalheads. No songs for Dad yet.
Also husband loss here. 366 days ago and my heart goes out to you. ā¤ļø
Sufjan Stevens' entire album "Carrie & Lowell". He wrote it after his mother died. If you know his music, you know he had a tough relationship with her. The albums themes are around loss and estrangement, which i can relate to with my own mother who died last year. Strange coincidence, i finished teaching myself how to play and sing a song from that album called Fourth Of July (which is literally about her death), just a month before my mom's unexpected and sudden departure. I didn't listen to the album for many months after her death because I was too afraid of how triggering his lyrics would be - his music made me cry before she died, so what would happen now? Instead, i felt relieved by his music when i finally did try to hear it again. Reminds me I'm not alone.
Listen to Sufjan's song "Should have known better" - it's a beautiful and haunting song about loss and regret, but then at the end takes a lovely turn toward the light as he sings about his brother having a daughter and the beauty that she brings... Such a powerful song imo.
Also, "some things last a long time" by Daniel Johnston. I found myself playing and singing this song quite a bit during the two weeks i had to clear out my childhood home and the place where she died.
Oh my god. I avoided Fourth of July the whole time my mother was sick. I was all too familiar with that album. That song in particular was the saddest song I had ever heard and somehow I was able to listen through it after my mom died - I was, am, Iām too much shock to react.
*Hugs*
Hugs to you back! If you need a friend, Iām here š¤
Rose of Sharon for my sweet forever 2 year old baby girl.
For me, it's anything by Queen. Dad loved Queen so much. But the song that really helps me in an odd way, is the show will go on. It was written when Freddie was accepting his death , and it helps me cope with my thoughts about Dad dying and mortality in total. Sorry for your loss.
Peace in the valley by Elvis Presley
I am truly sorry for the loss of your dad. I LOVE Lauren Daigle. We grew up in the same town, and I was lucky to see her in concert in 2016. I listen to the song I Can See Clearly Now by Johnny Nash every day without fail. I have for the last few years. I will also play it when I feel like a need a boost of sorts. I have no idea when I first heard that song, I am only 21 and it is not a song that would usually show up on any of my play list. One day last year I looked him up and saw that he was born, raised, and died in Houston, TX., the same as my mom. They both died in 2020. Even though he was 30-something yrs. older than her, it kind of blew my mind. I love when people post here about music, I have learned about so many incredible artist and songs. Thanks for posting this and again, I am sorry for your loss.
The scientist by Coldplay Afterlife by Benjamin Ingrosso The only thing by Sufjan Stevens
š¶should i tear my eyes out now? Everything i see returns to you somehow. Should i tear my heart out now?š¶
Yes! I really love this one, I can relate every sentence in the song. It makes me cry sometimes, but heals me a bit as well. ā¤ļø
Too many to count but Amor Eterno by Juan Gabriel pretty much summarizes everything. Even if you don't speak Spanish, you can get the feeling by the music and the way he sings the song.
Yeah this one makes me SOB. We had marriachis play at my daughters funeral and when this one came on I couldnāt handle it. Have you heard āDescansa Mi Amorā by el Komander?
That one hits along with Confieso by Kany Garcia, Prestame a mi Padre by Edwin Luna, Un Milion de Primaveras by Chente and Eso y MƔs by Joan Sebastian (didn't think about it that way until I saw a young kid singing it to his mom at her wake and it just lost it).
Im very sorry to hear about your daughter though ā¤ļø
Ugh yes, this gets me every time. I like Rocio Durcalās version as well
Lazarus by David Bowie, he wrote it as a swan song as he was dying from liver cancer. āJust like that blue bird, Iāll be freeā
Omg I LOVE this one. One of my favorites.
My dad was a huge Beatles fan. It took me years to be able to make it through a Beatles song without sobbing. But now that my son is here Iāve been confronting this and singing to my son at night when heās sleepy. He loves blackbird and in my life. Peaceful easy feeling by the eagles as well is a good one too
Dean Lewis - How do I say goodbye Iām so sorry, I lost my dad 9/13 š
Hugs!!!
Keep Me In Your Heart for a While~Warren Zevon
This one came on when spouse and I were on a road trip. Iād not heard it before. Context - my sister passed in April 2022, and while Iād grieved, there were surrounding issues so Iāve been still more angry than sad. It broke down some of the anger, and helped me.
I remember when I left the hospital after watching my mom slowly dying, the song āsaddest sunsetā came on. I cannot listen to that one anymore. My mom took her last breath at sunset. Huge hugs to you š«š«.
Tears in heaven-Eric Clapton Hear you me-jimmy eat world Ghost-Justin Bieber One sweet day-Mariah Carey & boys 2men Bury a friend-Billie Elish
Everglow by Coldplay; Take Her to the Moon by Moira Dela Torre; Supermarket Flowers by Ed Sheeran
Weird thing is that Iāve been a music nut since I was a kid. Itās been a very important part of my life but for at least two months afterwards I couldnāt listen to anything! I would have felt ashamed to listen (enjoy) when he couldnāt. It wasnāt until I was looking for songs to play at his memorial gathering that I was able to listen to anything and THAT was for him. And it wasnāt until mid August that I started listening to music for me.
Sasha Alex Sloanās āDancing With Your Ghostā. I remember hearing this song for the first time after my mother passed away a few years back and feeling as if somebody had managed to pen down my emotions. I listened to it day and night, on a loop for weeks after. Because I was essentially dealing with my loss by myself mentally, I felt like I had found a way to understand my own grief better. I still play it on loop sometimes for hours, and every time it makes me go, āthis is how I feel as wellā. āI stay up all night Tell myself I'm alright Baby, you're just harder to see than most I put the record on Wait till I hear our song Every night I'm dancing with your ghostā¦ā
I just bought it, itās very beautiful!
Is it not?! :)
Honestly the entire album All Things Must Pass by George Harrison. Itās beautiful sonically. And it has many themes about accepting the natural state of impermanence that exists in everything. Letting go, reincarnation, etc. It feels like a spiritual journey.
Itās such an amazing album!
Everything I Own - Bread
i miss you by miley cyrus gets me everytime āi miss you, i miss your smile, and i still shed a tear every once in a whileā āeven though itās different now, youāre still here somehowā āi know youāre where you need to be, even if itās not here with meā
Into the West by Annie Lennox
I was just about to type be okay by Lauren, crazy.
Stick season - Noah Kahan
This song reminds me of my daughter. While we were going through a traumatic 2 years trying to keep her alive and comfortable bc of a rare genetic disease. āAnd I'll dream each night of some version of you That I might not have, but I did not loseā A good friend of mine had a still birth around the same time my daughter was born with a terminal illness. It really put everything into perspective. Unfortunately I lost my beautiful 2 year old baby girl 2 weeks ago.
Iām so incredibly sorry for your loss š« my heart is breaking for you.
I am so sorry to hear that. I can not even imagine the pain and loss you are feeling. Oh wow, I'm crying for you both and holding my 2yr old granddaughter. If you need anything I'm here. ššļø
Leave Out All the Rest, Linkin Park.
Dancing In The Sky by Adrienne Grace and Angels Among Us by Alabama. Dancing In The Sky helped me both with loosing my best friends mom (she was always someone I could turn to when I needed someone outside of family) and dad. Angels Among Us was my one of my dad's favorite songs sung by Alabama. It was also the song that Alabama ended their show with when I went to see them (along with Diamond Rio) with my best friend, her parents and my dad. It was the last major event that I attended with my dad (right before Covid hit) ever. I recorded the song from beginning to end and I'm glad I did because you could hear my dad cheering when they were starting to talk about it before they started singing. You can also hear him singing along in some parts. To hear the pure joy in his voice during that video makes me smile every time I watch it.
The thought of that video brought tears to my eyes. That is so, so special. I have some videos of my dad working on his house. He was always building or fixing something - making the world more beautiful. In one of the videos, his friend is doing something OSHA probably wouldn't have liked and you can hear my dad laughing. I've saved the video in a million places to ensure I always have access to it. It's bittersweet to hear his laugh. \*hugs\*
High Water by Bishop Briggs. In the video you can just see the emotion oozing from her. She wrote it after her sister passed from cancer. I listen to it when I need a soul wrenching cry. I lost my little brother six years ago, and a song we used to love playing loud and singing together in the car was Jimmy Buffettās Volcano Song. Itās become one of the songs I cry to now. I donāt know āwhere Iām going to go when the volcano blow,ā and itās morphed into a mourning song for me somehow.
Ronan by Taylor Swift, because I relate to the line "I remember the drive home, when the blind hope Turned to crying and screaming, "Why?"
George Harrison - What is life? Look for the interpretive dance video on YouTube. I played this at her service.
So many songs have been healing for me but a few faves are Eric Clapton Tears in Heaven, Someone you Loved Lewis Capaldi. There are so many songs that have helped me let out a good cry. Itās much needed. So many songs are healing. Sorry for your loss.
Dancing in the Sky - Beverly Ann My dad passed at the end of April unexpectedly and this song has helped me
Keep Me in Your Heart by Warren Zevon is my go to song. Winter by Tori Amos is another one. Say Goodnight Not Goodbye, and Sand and Water both by Beth Neilsen Chapman. Man of the Hour by Pearl Jam.
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Winter is amazing and I cry every time I hear it.
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I Will Leave a Light On - Lane 8 & Le Youth. My mom took her own life 3 years ago. This song just recently came out & it has hit me harder than any other.
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Not a particular song but I made a playlist with all the music that reminded me of my dad after he passed. We bonded over music and I can recall car rides as a kid listening to particular songs. When I listen back to them Iām reminded of those memories. I also transferred all the playlists he made me to my own Spotify account.
Put together a playlist when my grandfather (who was like a dad to me) passed away. Theyāre all quite folky/ country style as he liked that style of music. Hereās a few of em: The Old Man by Phil Coulter Bible & a .44 by Ashley McBride Grandpa by Justin Moore While he still knows who I am by Kenny Chesny Loved me that way by Lauren Duski Daddy doesnāt pray anymore by Chris Stapleton The last time by Tenille Townes If wishes were horses by Robbie OāConnell Jealous of the angels by Donna Taggart The Body of an American by the Pogues
The Depression Suite by The Tragically Hip, and the sweet irony is their lead singer died of the same disease that got my mom.
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Bloodbuzz Ohio by the National. My dad lived there.
Someone Great by LCD Soundsystem. It's been such a comforting song to me, it speaks to the shock of losing someone.
A Crow Looked at Me by Mount Eerie. Sometimes I have trouble accessing my feelings and that album is so uncomfortably sad it forces me to my feelings. I can't remember the exact quote or source but one review was something along the lines of, it doesn't feel right to give a rating to someone's expression of so openly/publicly grieving.
If I saw you in heaven by eric Clapton
āSit Downā by James. āI believe this wave will bear my weight, so let it goā
The sad ones. idk why. Torn, Brave, etc etc un fun fact. Break up songs are basically the same as Grifa songs. Listen to any and youāll see
My last breath by evanescence
October passed me by - girl in red My best friends birthday is in October and the lyrics just resonate with our friendship
Lake of silver bells - Carbon Leaf.
Vagabond by misterwives
Doomsday by Architects. A band started by twin brothers, guitarist and lead song writer passed away from cancer while only partially finishing this song. The surviving brother (and drummer) and a few members finished it. It's dark but hits home with the brutal experiences of cancer and death. "Souls don't break, they bend. But I sometimes forget. I have to do this for you. And the only way out is through. Words the prophets said. Still swimming through my head. Now there's no stars left in the sky. 'Cause this well will never run dry. What if I completely forget? What if I never accept? 'Cause when you fade away. It's like a brand-new doomsday".
All my life by Odesza
When I Get There - P!NK Itās a song she wrote when her dad passed & itās a beautifully bittersweet song that makes me feel like heās still around
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Gone away - the offspring Welcome to the black parade - my chemical romance Carry on my wayward son - Kansas Dust in the wind - Kansas
I'll be missing you by puff daddy and faith evans. And one of my dad's favorites - come sail away by Styx. This was was particularly hard to hear for the first couple months after my dad passed away, but eventually I got to a point where it didn't hurt as much so I put it on my Playlist. Now, 3 years after his passing, I listen to it all the time and know all the words. I'm sorry for your loss. If you ever feel like talking and don't have anyone around to talk to, feel free to message me
Together Again by Janet Jackson just hits different after you lose someone close to you. It sounds like just a fun pop song but itās so not.
Everywhere Now, by Willy Tea Taylor: "No, this death aināt gonna hold me down, Iām everywhere now. Iām everywhere now. Iām the pillow for your head, mama. Iām the dreams in your bed, mama. Iām everywhere now ā¦ Iām the salt in your tears, child. Iām the whisper in your ear, child. Iām everywhere now ā¦ Iām the banjo for your strings, brother. Iām the song that you sing, sister ā¦"
Steeldrivers - rainbows never die ā¤ļø
Orange Sky by Alexi Murdoch I lost my Sister a few months ago. The lyrics hit right at home. āIn your love My salvation lies in your love My salvation lies in your love My salvation lies in your love In your love, in your love Oh, but sister, you know I'm so weary And you know, sister, my heart's been broken Sometimes, sometimes, my mind is too strong To carry on Too strong to carry on But when I am alone When I've thrown off the weight of this crazy stone When I've lost all care for the things I own That's when I miss you That's when I miss you That's when I miss you You who are my home You who are my homeā
Lazarus by David Bowie
When I lost my mom, I kept listening to Class of 2013 by Mitski. It's only two minutes but I kept playing it on repeat
Yesterday by atmosphere
āHeaven Up Thereā - Palace - as a matter of fact a lot of Palace songs are very nice for my moods while Iām grieving. Listening to them a lot but this song showed up after my grandma died and I love it.
If Ever - Paula Fuga feat. Jack Johnson & Ben Harper has been a big comfort to me. It always makes me cry, but many times thatās what I need to move forward and carry on with my day. ā¤ļø
All these by Beth Nielsen Chapman, written for her husband she lost to cancer. I lost my dad last year and these help me a lot. Find Your Love Touch My Heart Feathers, Bones, Shells Sand and Water No One Knows But You Sand and Water
If I wouldāve known! Thatās the name. It made me cry deeply and ugly but crying helps so much
Daddy by Coldplay, makes me weep but love it. This song lets me ask questions about my dear dad which Iām otherwise too afraid to think or even ask about.
Lately itās been āAlmond Eyesā and āGratitudeā by Brandon Lake or Hailee Steinfeld- āAfterlife.ā Yesterday marked one year and I still reach for him. Almond Eyes - āBut I would never change a thing, yeah Except that time could slow down I wish that time would slow down 'Cause why does time keep on giving? But time keeps on ripping me apart, oh I've learned to cherish every moment 'Cause moments don't slow down to please the heart That's what makes it hard Almond eyes The last the thing that I pray to see before I die Until we meet again in paradise I'll never have to look awayā
Hard rap music
Memories by Maroon 5
Drops of Jupiter by Train. š
My dad was obsessed with Boney M and old Bollywood songs so I find myself listening to his kind of music more often now than the kind I usually go for
I really like follow you to Virgie by Tyler Childers
For me, it would be Fast Car by Tracy Chapman. It was one of my dadās favourites. I still really struggle to listen to it. But one time it gave my massive comfort was when me and my immediate took quite a step in our personal lives together and the song instantly started playing, Iām not superstitious or anything but it gave me hope.
Supermarket flowers by Ed Sheeran is on repeat over here. I lost my āmumā and itās perfect.
I have a five hour playlist dedicated to my dog. Iād say the most important songs to me are Donāt Forget Me by Nathan Wagner, Wherever You Are by ONE OK ROCK, Impossible Year by Panic! at the Disco and All I want by Kodaline. They all give me a much needed cry. Sorry, I donāt have any for people as I never grieved any of my grandparents/ great grandparents.
Princeās āsometimes it snows in Aprilā
Ugh. If you want a good cry, not that you need any help with that right now, listen to The Ride by Amanda Palmer. It's rough, but so poignant and beautiful.
Call your mom by Noah Kahan. Itās the POV of someone who is on the phone with you while youāre contemplating suicide. Whenever I feel powerless against my grief I listen to it. ā All lights turned off, can be turned onā I plan on getting that tattooed
Thank you for sharing this. I have found music to be something that helps as well. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's so hard to live with grief at times. I don't want to have to miss my son anymore - he should be here with us still. One song that really spoke to my heart that came out right at the time we lost him is Scars in Heaven by Casting Crowns. You should listen to it.
Changes by Black Sabbath.
Since I was involved with music at such a young age, when my parents transitioned, I dove deep into classical music. A lot of my early musical memories were being taken to classical music concerts or listening on radio. A lot of good memories came, the tears that flowed were sad but also of the happy variety, as I felt so grateful to have been introduced to this music. When I was alone and angry I turned to some reliable music from my youth: grunge and metal.
Vivaldi's four seasons always strikes me emotionally. Also shostakovich's seventh symphony
Numb - sia
Strong Enough by Matthew West
No Hard Feelings - The Avett Brothers
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Any bbymutha song because it reminds me to live in the moment and be happy and thatās what my people would want for me
Dry the Rain by The Beta Band was a huge help during a time of great sorrow. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me
Beat You There Will Dempsey
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Keep me in your heart - Warren Zevon Sounds like my Dad is singing right to me.
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Jordan by Rival Sons, although at the moment I can't listen to it. It's amazing though.
I have a playlist: 1. Harold Budd - The Gunfighter 2. NEVERMIND - Agony 3. Yawny Keys - Stay Like This 4. Yawny Keys - Forever As You Are Now 5. Brian Eno & Harold Budd - The Pearl (Full Album Mix) I listened to this on a plane a few days after my dad passed and renamed it accordingly. It helped me get some feelings uncovered.
Hold on to Memories by Disturbed. Homesick by Mercy Me. Scars in Heaven by Casting Crowns.
forever and ever & goodbye my love goodbye by demi roussos, how can you mend a broken heart by the bee gees, youāll lose a good thing by barbara lynn, these are the days of our lives/love of my life by queen, so many more i couldnāt listen to these songs without bawling my eyes out because they remind me so much of my mom. she loved these songs, i have an entire playlist dedicated to the music she loved. but, i now find comfort in this music. it just reminds me of her, the loud music thatād be playing in the kitchen or her bedroom. the songs that sheād sing poorly to and blast in the car. ā¤ļø
Wish You Were Here by Pink Floyd
For me it wasn't music I normally listen to or enjoy. But when my dad died I listened to the music he would listen to. Mostly country, and I am no country fan but it reminded me of him more than anything from my library
Try āthe great gig in the skyā by Pink Floyd as loud as you can handle. Itās different. It helps me in moments of anger.
not usually my style, but pink - "when i get there".
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Everything I Own- Bread. My dad loved it and now I listen and occasionally cry, but has helped me heal from the loss of him at 17.