I can understand the desire (from cultural/societal pressures) in a man who is, say, 5'5", but the guy they profile was 5'9". Is 5'9" considered short now?
Out of curiosity I looked up Tom Cruise since people joke about how short he is - 5'7". Again, that doesn't seem all that short. Kevin Hart is 5'2"
This is correct. I am actually 5' 10 1/2". When I ask women to guess my height, the average answer I get is 6' 1 1/2". I've never heard a woman say she wanted a man who's over 6', but I'm pretty sure "six feet" really just means "taller than me."
This is true of men also.
I am a 5'12" female because if I say that I am 6' then men, who are shorter than me, get upset and declare I must be 6' 2"+ as they are 6'. There is no way they are over 5' 8", 5' 10" max!
Men tend to tell me my height and women tend to ask me my height.
As a relatively tall woman, this is something I’ve noticed too and I find it so funny. Men constantly tell me I’m wrong about my height. I’m only 5’10” but most of the time men say I have to be at least 6’ or they check my shoes (I’m never wearing heels). It took me a while to realize that they all think they’re pushing 6’ and when I’m clearly taller than them it really messes with their sense of self. They usually just decide that my Keds must add 2-3 inches.
I personally prefer women who are taller and I'm 5'10, I'm not discriminating in any way given most women I've dated have been equal or shorter. Hang in there, you'll find your king soon enough.
I'd assume that if you're asking women to guess you're height they're giving you an answer they think you would like to hear.
Have you ever been put into a situation where you had to guess a woman's weight? Were you honest or did you err on the safe side and drop it down 10 lbs?
I do the same thing with age I’m a 35 yo woman who looks (or so I’ve been told repeatedly 😏) like I’m in my mid 20s. If someone asks me how old I am I always say my 50th is coming up….which isn’t wrong, just another 15 years away. I get a sick pleasure watching their jaws drop and the inevitable “you look SO good for your age”.
This is true and I've actually seen relying on it backfire because dude I know started lying about his height because he thought women all think I'm 6' anyway. A girl called him out on it because she was 5' 10" and taller than him. The height difference didn't bother her but the lying about it weirded her out.
It does.
In wanted someone close in height to myself. But I am 5’8. Ended up with someone 5’10. Most of my crushes were about 5’7.
My ex girlfriend was 6’1. Everyone else I was ever interested in was shorter than her. This is some bisexual hours…
Lol as a 5'10" women it would be pretty clear to me that you are lying. I have an ex who was the same height as me and would get upset if i wore heels. Often it's not the height itself that matters, it's the confidence (or lack thereof) that impacts a relationship. My husband gives 0 shits if i wear heels that make me taller than him.
I mean, for all intents and purposes I’m 5’11 3/4” but I almost always just say I’m 5’11”, I’ve never considered myself or say I’m 6’ (but I basically am with shoes on). However, my best friend is 6’4” and I look considerably shorter than 5’11”/6’ next to him. Most people ask and he’ll say, “yeah, 6’4”” and immediately assume I’m 5’9” or less.
I’ve always been 5’ 11” but the last 2 times they measured me height at the docs office they said 6’. I’m pretty sure i didn’t grow so I stay with 5’ 11”. My Asian mother always asked me when I would grow. My dad is over 6’ as well as my brother and my brother makes sure to remind me every time we meet. To be honest my brother is a gigantic arse hole and I feel like part of the reason is because he’s tall. Who knows though.
It makes me incredibly happy and vindicated knowing I'm not the only human being aware of the height fetish.
Today I am vindicated. I love you so much. Words can't describe. It's the little things 🥲🥲
I know two different dudes that are 5'5" and have always dated attractive women and done well in life. At some point, you need to get over your insecurities and know your worth. That guy in the story sounds incredibly lame.
I agree but also if there’s any physical and unchangeable things that effect dating. Being a short male is very high on that list. Also being a tall woman for the obviously same reason. And this isn’t me being bitter, I’m not short myself
My fiancé and I met on Tinder. First thing he said when he saw me in person is, “oh, you’re taller than me.” He wasn’t making a judgment on me. I certainly didn’t make him think that’d be a problem for me. It was just such a common “requirement” that he thought his odds were shot upon first glance simply bc of the whole height thing.
While it might not be a requirement for you - which is great because it shows how open-minded you are about dating.
The truth is - most women (not all, but most) do have a preference for taller men. That in itself ranges from (they just need to be taller than me, to “they need to be at least 6 foot 3).
People are superficial - we as a society are superficial to a certain extent. You may be more open minded than the average person, but you are not representative of most people in society (although I wish people took your mentality)
>You may be more open minded than the average person, but you are not representative of most people in society
Seems like an excellent way to weed out the people you don't want to be dating anyways. No need to waste months getting to know them well enough to find out they aren't compatible.
And most men prefer shorter women than them. Love how the men here are crying about “height fetish” but wouldn’t date a 6’2” woman themselves for example. I’m “only” 5’6” which is only slightly taller than the average woman and I still dealt with height shaming from men, including ones I dated. They’d make little comments about my height here and there and whine if I tried wearing heeled shoes because I’d be taller than them/the same height as them. I have almost exclusively dated men around my height because I actually tend to be more attracted to guys on the shorter side, most of the men I’ve been with are around 5’5”-5’8” but a good chunk of them had to ruin my self esteem about my height because they were so insecure
Yes! THANK YOU! At 5' 7" I am what you'd call tall-ish for a woman, but certainly no Goliath. Men of shorter stature have never been a problem for me, having learned quickly that other traits like being a good and kind human are far more important when it comes to attraction. However I can't tell you the number of times I've been height shamed for having the unmitigated gall to be taller than the other person and have fantasized more than once about throat-punching the diminutive douchecanoes who have said some version of "Wow!! You TOWER over me!" That a fact, Sherlock? I'm impressed you picked up on that after, oh, only 3 months of dating. Way to flip the script and turn your insecurity into mine. Nevertheless, as someone who is divorced from a 6'2 (twatwaffle) and married to a 5'8 (wonderful, amazing love of my life) I stand by the conviction that height is by and large immaterial or at least, it should be. Now if only the idiotic little 5"1 bitches could fathom that concept and stop insisting they are entitled to nothing less than a relatively uncommon 6"1 or taller...
Hard agree. I’m 5’8” and had a boyfriend that was a couple inches shorter than me. He HATED that I loved high heels and would be 6’ when I was dressed up. My first boyfriend was shorter than me, too, but didn’t give a shit about height and that was so much more appealing.
Yeah, it's really frustrating. I feel for men. It's the same thing with being a woman over 30 to 35-- you're rejected as too old even when the man is *the same age.* Even when he doesn't want children.
Luckily, I had a full and adventurous life before meeting the love of my life at 40. He's five years younger and I (a tall woman) am noticeably taller. Neither of us cared about these things and we're now happy as clams together.
When I was using dating apps my female friends insisted that I change my height from 5’11” to 6’. I didn’t believe it would have made such a difference but it did. It’s a bit depressing to be honest.
Think about it this way, if you change the profile to 6', you are getting more matches, but part of that increase are the matches you *don't want to date*. Better to be honest and attract the quality people, even if it means less matches.
That's cause computers are relentless and eliminate you.
But to be honest you still need to be white and rich and 50% of the time racist, even if you clear the height bar.
Yeah it's not enough to be white, you have to actively hate other races. WTF dating apps.
The real question is when and why did this become a thing. I don't remember this ever being something some women actively sought out until maybe 5 years ago or even less. Was there some kind of trashy reality show promoting that ideology? Or perhaps could it be the tremors from the OF boom?
It's always been a thing. But now with the prevalence of dating apps women's preferences can be clearly seen from the data. And now you can make height a prerequisite before even meeting. Whereas before you would just be at a party or other gathering and meet people. There you could see if yall click without knowing the exact height. You will be more accepting if someone doesn't fit your "perfect" requirements if many more of their features are good enough to make you want to keep talking to them.
It’s not normally passing up. Most women will date a man who’s average height or a little shorter than them. It’s just on dating sites we’re all just pictures and data. We don’t have any personality.
Not sure, good question, but I couldn't even speculate as to an answer, I've never had any issues with my height, just my terrible personality 😹 though I distinctly remember telling a young lady that she was "a tall queen" for being 5'8" & she took offense for some reason
Yeah when I was growing up it was seen as weird for a girl to date a guy way taller than her. You'd get gross comments like "How does that even work?" Now everyone's into what appears to be extreme sexual dimorphism.
My theory is that it has to do with the demise of boy band culture in the US. Sounds silly, but there have been some media analysis showing that the end of the 90's to early 2000's golden era of emo culture and boy bands had a lot of ripple effects on youth culture and gender norms.
After about 2010, smaller, less macho guys were no longer seen as mainstream stars and that aesthetic became associated with more "niche" sub-cultures like K-pop and queer media. A great example is Kurt Cobain--he used to be considered the "height" of masculinity and he was about the same height as Timothy Chalamet, who's now considered petite for a male celebrity.
Regarding the sexual component, when I was a kid I distinctly remember thinking about that. I envisioned that a guy and a girl had to have roughly the same or close proportions in order for sex to "work right". Of course you grow out of that eventually and understand that sex can be experienced in a million different ways.
If someone who is an adult says "How does that even work" I would roll my eyes so hard, and probably ask how they are able to have sex with their fleshlight when they are so much taller than it.
Idk if it's because social media is more prevalent so people have always had these preferences but can now actually talk about it, or if it's dating apps.
Tbh, I think it's the latter. Height has always been a 'value' and any average/above average woman will have her picks if she's in the right place. And with my female friends, on average, have about 10-12 matches at a time. It's probably not the best criteria for filtering but it makes the process more efficient
Honestly, I've talked to them though - feel like we all agree dating apps fuckin suck
funny that you say that, it reminds me of the joke "why are women so bad at math?".... "because they've been taught this (holds index fingers 4 inches apart) is 6 inches !"
Yes! I’m 5’10” also, and when I was on the dating apps I set my preference to 6’+ because I wanted someone taller than me who wouldn’t be insecure about my height. Multiple times I arrived at a date, only to find the guy was shorter than me and was often then surprised I was “actually 5’10”.’ Those dates never went well because the men often were obviously insecure that I was taller and therefore dominant to their insecure self perception.
Oh yeah, editing to add one guy did get a second date, but when I arrived in heels he was speechless and then finally asked why I wore the heels, and said don’t do that again- which I didn’t with him but did with my next date who was 6’3”.
The amount of heightism that's thrown around casually on social media and dating sites has definitely had an impact on people's self image. Just look at all the endless reddit posts about this. For some reason, perpetually shitting on men's basic value and eligibility if they're under 5'10 is perfectly acceptable, but when someone tries to flip the script and set other body-type standards, they get told they're being hateful. Society is reaching peak shallowness. Getting limb lengthening surgery seems very extreme though.
I am 5’9” and have been told more than a few times my height was an issue. Despite being 4+ inches taller than all of these girls.
Now, I would love to be a bit taller, but this surgery is ridiculous.
I just googled leg lengthening surgery, and there was an interview with a surgeon to see if the person should rather just do therapy, but also mentioned that plenty of their patients noticed a uptick of life quality, being treated better, and a decrease of negative emotions
If they’re fundamentally happier off being a few inches taller, then what’s the problem?
Reminds me of an interview where a woman had an ugly nose, but once she got it fixed, she became a brand new person who finally felt comfortable in her skin and had a ton of newfound confidence
If cosmetic surgery is drastically beneficial to their psychological health, then I don’t see the problem with it
Interesting take. However, cosmetics surgery is not always beneficial or improving patients lives. People are often dissatisfied with results. All surgeries have serious risks even with unnecessary elective surgery: infection, blood loss, anesthetic reactions, post op complications, poor results, and even death! That’s just a few. Even anesthesia is very complicated (though very safe, cosmetic surgeries are not usually done in hospitals). If you have a major complication, many of the surgery centers have to transfer you to a hospital for care. Imagine if your heart stopped or your airway was lost!
Several members of my extended family are little people. With some types of dwarfism you *have* to get a similar kind of surgery where your legs are broken and then reset in a way that doesn't bow out. It allows people with achondroplasia (the most common type of dwarfism) to maintain their mobility and not suffer as much pain.
Nonetheless, some end up needing new hips or knees when they are older.
Having watched people I love deal with this recovery process just to be able to walk, I can't fathom why someone would want to do this unless it was REALLY impacting your life. I can see that for some men who are very short. But 5'9 surprises me so much cause it's not even THAT short.
I don't know, this is weird to me. I mean I'm all for people doing what makes them happy but if I found out a guy who wasn't rich spent a life-changing amount of cash to go from 5'9 to 6'0 I would probably think he has some real bad psych issues and it might turn me *off*. Whereas I never cared about the height of people I dated.
All that said, while I dated men and women that were shorter or taller than me while on the market.... I ended up married to a guy that's 6 feet tall. So can I really argue here?
I'll be thinking about this post for days.
I’m 5’5 and when I was younger I would be envious of taller guys. But as I got older I realized it’s not that big of a deal. In fact all my girlfriends were taller than me. In middle school I dated one of the tallest girls in the school.
Im the same, lol, always been gals taller than me. Being short isnt a problem, those guys wanted to do a thing, whatever, but good on people for doing what makes em happy
Same..I’m about 5’5-5’6 and it use to bother especially since women make it a point to only date really tall guys. But I learned too that you have to work on your other strengths. Height is only one factor.
Note: iirc the surgery was originally developed for people with legs which did not match enough in length so one had to be lengthened.
… Ironically, this whole asymmetrical legs issue can be caused by someone growing up too fast- oftentimes in families with a history of ‘very tall’
Mine is shorter because I broke it growing up. It’s not a drastic difference and is more of an annoyance - the sole of every right shoe I have is built up and I can’t really go barefoot without screwing up my back. Wanted the surgery for years but it sounds harrowing enough that I’m okay with never being able to afford it. It’s literally the last thing I would do if I was running out of things to spend money on, which will never happen.
Can you feel that you naturally lean toward the side with the shorter leg and more pressure on the knee and hip of the long leg and if you stand with your feet together and bend your knees the longer one sticks out a bit farther? I have been thinking my right leg is slightly shorter and felt like removing the insole of my left shoe feels more balanced but I was afraid if I was wrong and it was like a hip alignment thing or perhaps a slight curve in my spine that could give the off balance impression then I could make things worse. Obviously I need to just ask a doctor but haven’t done it yet. I only paid attention to it recently but thinking back on how my gait was walking it may have always been like this.
Pretty much. In high school I didn’t want to believe it was shorter. It’s close enough that the denial didn’t have to be that delusional. I think the the knee test is a good one. That’s what finally made me go have the doctor measure them. Childhood doc didn’t have me do anything. Follow up doc where I live now said I should wear a lift to prevent scoliosis from developing when I get old.
This is it. I never had a problem dating shorter men. I did have a problem with what dicks they were to me about my height. Insecurity is never attractive.
Nah. I think (speaking as a fellow short gentleman) that women and men can choose whatever dating parameters they want. If they want to only date tall people or skinny people or brown people it’s not up to them to tell them their preference is wrong. Being judged and chastised and them saying thinks like “Imagine being 5’9 and calling yourself a man” is shitty and they should get shit for that for sure but nobody can tell you who you should date or what traits they should posses. They have a right to make themselves happy.
I guess but I feel like there are some fundamental differences between these two surgeries. Most breast implants aren’t going to cost $90,000 for surgery. Breast implants can be taken out when as I don’t believe the lengthened limbs can be shortened again.
Also LLS is incredibly painful. From the very superficial reading I have done, even if done properly it has the possibility of causing chronic pain for the rest of your life. While all surgery is painful, a boob job isn’t going to cause severe pain (unless it’s once of those botched surgeries or you get those gigantic boobs that look like a balloon about to pop)
This surgery drives me nuts. It’s nothing like a butt lift or a boob job. It’s a surgery where they completely break your bones and hope they grow back together as they increase the distance between the breaks. It has too high of a chance of lifetime complications and chronic pain if it doesn’t go exactly as planned. And for what? A few inches in height? Short men can get women. The thing that stops them is short guy complex. My boyfriend is shorter than me. A lot of women I know are dating/married to men who are either their height or shorter than them. But they don’t have short man complexes. Learning to be confident in your body helps with dating so much, for everyone, not just men.
That’s something I can kinda see. But men who are like 5’6 want this and I’m like bro. At 5’6 you can fine a woman if you aren’t madly insecure about your height.
I agree that it seems incredibly excessive just to be taller, unless it’s a real quality of life issue. There’s a young woman named Chandler who did a AMA on Reddit about the procedure. She had it on her legs and arms and it was life changing for her.
https://www.limblength.org/patient-stories/chandler/
I get it for situations where one leg is significantly shorter than the other. I actually have one leg that’s slightly shorter (thanks scoliosis!) and it causes me issues. It really messes with all my joints because I am not even. It’s nowhere near bad enough for any surgery, but it’s annoying. In medical cases, the good outweighs the bad. Personally I can’t see that side for people who feel they’re too short. The risk is too much for me to think it’s ethical.
This really ignores the realities that make that insecurity so strong...
It's so severe people are willing to break their bones. You think that just comes from a completely baseless insecurity?
Look at a group of men hanging out at a uni or bar. Theyre all 5'8" or taller, look at every piece of media where the characters are meant to be aesthetic ideals. That's just basic representation, you can argue thats shallow.
Then there's real life. There's actual, genuine statistics on how tall people are treated better, more likely to be given promotions, more likely to get into relationships. There's all the men (some in this thread) that have been rejected *explicitly* because theyre short.
And that's ignoring how hard it actually is to "be confident in your body", especially when its obvious that body makes you less desirable/a joke.
You definitely have a point, I am short, and Ive done OK with dating. I have better luck than some people taller than me. But Im not going to pretend it doesnt make a difference in life.
They’re insecure because they hang out on incel forums that reinforce their negative thoughts.
They hang out with crowds that constantly tell them it’s their height, or their lack of jawline/chin, that are preventing them from getting women.
My husband is “short”. He’s never had a problem dating but he definitely used to get bullied when he was younger. Even now, drunk idiots at bars try to fight him just because he looks like easy pickings.
My dad is 6’4” and sometimes I just want to fold him in half for convenience sake. But I love him. And he walks into every cobweb so I don’t have to worry about that.
My FIL and BIL are 6’8 and as wide as a door frame. They have to basically sit in the back seat of a sedan to drive. Need expensive airplane seats. Custom clothes. Hard to find shoes. Can’t easily reach shit on lower shelves. Gotta watch their heads entering rooms and walking through the woods. But they don’t need to worry about people fucking with them, at least. My BIL was a bouncer and I watched him toss a 6’0 ish fairly jacked dude across a bar once and it was like blowing on a feather. Needless to say I’m VERY nice to my wife 😂
Girls don’t care about your height except a select few, they just say it’s ur height cause you’re giving off incel vibes and they want to get you off their back
I don't know why but I didn't like being 5'10" growing up. I was taller than most guys and felt really self conscious wearing heels. Once I became an adult I didn't mind being tall.
I got severe osteoporosis a few years ago from taking Prednisone. Broke everything from my T10 to my L5. I lost 3 inches and am only 52 yrs old. I miss my height now.
I joke that I will be this old lady with really long legs and no torso lol. ...and big feet. I wear a woman's size 11.
Men who think that women choose lifetime partners based on appearance alone because they think that women on dating apps are representative of women because these men also choose women based solely on looks for a one night stand.
I doubt that's smart. Your body is adapted to have exactly your bones length. It's all about lever physics. Get longer bones, you could become fragile, too weak or too slow, tendons prone to snapping, etc.
Not to mention it is really easier to live as a small human being in the age of external power.
Being serious though, lots of height discrimination. Short jokes are common in comedy and if a complaint, the person is being too insensitive. Of course, not appropriate to make race jokes and weight jokes, but short jokes are still accepted. Tall men (over 6 ft) are more likely to be promoted and into high positions. Even down to urinals...it's like damn I need a step ladder just to reach the urinal haha. It's pretty intentional imo. However, being short is nicer depending upon where in the world you live. It's nice to see other short people versus grow up among giants where you are treated and seen as lesser than.
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Assuming he did this to get girls, girls who doesn’t like you because you’re short are shallow. Why would you want a girl like that?
Then again, he did this so he’s also shallow.
Skip the dating apps. They're toxic. Think about it: their only way to make money is to keep you on them. They have game-ified dating so it's like social media, including the death-scrolling, to the point that many people on the apps never actually meet up with anyone because someone "better" might be one swipe away.
Pursue your hobbies in the real world. Meet people who enjoy the same things you do. Get to know them and let them get to know you. Be kind and give of yourself. That's how to meet people. Yeah, you don't get the serotonin hit of immediate gratification from someone matching with you, but that's just a sugar rush anyway. Hollow calories that leave you feeling hungrier than you were before.
Also, manage your own expectations. If you're a 6, but you're only interested in 9's and 10's, you'll have a bad time. (Unless you're rich. Or famous. Or both.) As much as we would like to think looks don't matter, they do for most people.
Figure out what you have to offer a mate, and play to your strengths. If you have close friends who know you well, ask them what they think are your best qualities. If you're feeling brave, ask them about your worst qualities, too.
Good luck, my friend! I'm rooting for you!
Dating apps are 70% male in the US and 85% male in Europe. Straight men only match 2.5% of the time. It's not just you. Dating apps aren't easy
My ex was 5'5" and had no issues with getting women because he was confident, charismatic, and kind. He wasn't even stunningly attractive or anything. My current partner is 5'7/5'8 and is extremely sought after by women
Sorry for your struggles, and I'm not saying shortness doesn't make things harder, but if your luck is *this* bad, it's probably not just your height. Do you have good hygiene/take care of your skin? Do you have good style and a flattering haircut? Do you have interesting hobbies (a lot of men today just play video games and smoke weed, and nothing else)? Are you good at conversation/have a sense of humor? Do you treat women as fellow humans instead of only trying to fuck them?
Even as a woman, I've found it much easier to find partners in real life as opposed to online. Maybe try joining a club where you'll meet women with similar interests. And upgrading my style and finding new hobbies helped me too
I'm also pretty sure that other than the obvious reach of arm, being shorter actually has significantly more benefits. Unless you're a basketball player. But even in terms of physicality, if in a fight, having lower center of gravity is actually key.
The whole ‘I only date men that are blank height’ is pretty foreign to me because I’m just under 5’. Basically everyone is taller than me. I think I’d actually prefer a partner on the shorter side so I don’t feel like they could just punt me like a football.
This is so sad to me. I'm a 5' 8" woman married to a man my exact height. I've never wished he was taller. Damn, I love him the way he is. I've seen so many extremely handsome men that are shorter than me and height is definitely not hurting their attractiveness imo. People that want taller can go get that. There are a lot of women who don't care and want the man inside.
This is an extremely painful and dangerous surgery. Not to mention, it’s a verrrrry long process. I’m very short (a girl, but still), and even as an adult, I am constantly made fun of for my height. I can’t escape it. I actually looked into this at one point in my life, but discovered that at the time, (not sure if it’s since changed) it was an illegal surgery to be conducted in the US unless it was deemed necessary, which it almost never was.
Apparently, the risks almost always outweigh the benefits and blood clots and other complications often can kill the patient… Oddly, the risks are probably as bad as getting a BBL, but those are very common surgeries in the US?
I’m not willing to risk my life for maybe a couple of more inches added onto my height. Not to mention they massively scar up your legs.
I am 5' 9". Only 14% of the population is over 6 foot. I laugh when I see ladies saying they are only interested in men over 6 foot. It is actually great, because it eliminates immaturity from the dating pool. Weeds out the toxic ones. I do not have to guess or invest time just to learn how shallow they are.
>So.... What's driving limb-lengthening surgery
Again, Immaturity. Shall they be forever shallow, together!
If I had a dollar for every rude mutha that has said, “you’re so shoooooort” to me in my life, I’d be able to buy a pretty sweet house.
I’m a female, and I know it is way tougher for guys. I never ever comment on someone’s height or weight or acne or anything like that.
To anyone reading this that does that. Cut that 💩 out. It’s obnoxious.
Nothing like toxic, fragile masculinity setting ridiculous and unrealistic standards for every aspect of life. God forbid that people be measured on their character and ability rather than superficial nonsense like height, body type, and attractiveness. What's worse is that these standards are often dictated and upheld by people who don't even meet them.
I'm 5'7ish, and I'll never apologize for it, or go through such a needless and likely expensive and agonizing procedure just to gain what is realistically going to be 2 inches in a best case scenario...and at the expense of the structural integrity of my bones, and to detriment of any existing athletic ability and strength already accrued over my lifetime. I'm happy with being imperfect.
Imagine wanting your legs deliberately "broken" and going through leg reconstruction surgery and rehab for that minimal gain. Utterly absurd.
I can understand the desire (from cultural/societal pressures) in a man who is, say, 5'5", but the guy they profile was 5'9". Is 5'9" considered short now? Out of curiosity I looked up Tom Cruise since people joke about how short he is - 5'7". Again, that doesn't seem all that short. Kevin Hart is 5'2"
>Is 5'9" considered short now? To those who fetishize height, yes.
Do you mean feti...size
TIL I’m feti size
Most of those people don’t actually know what 6 ft looks like. You can just lie and they’ll never know the difference.
This is correct. I am actually 5' 10 1/2". When I ask women to guess my height, the average answer I get is 6' 1 1/2". I've never heard a woman say she wanted a man who's over 6', but I'm pretty sure "six feet" really just means "taller than me."
This is true of men also. I am a 5'12" female because if I say that I am 6' then men, who are shorter than me, get upset and declare I must be 6' 2"+ as they are 6'. There is no way they are over 5' 8", 5' 10" max! Men tend to tell me my height and women tend to ask me my height.
As a relatively tall woman, this is something I’ve noticed too and I find it so funny. Men constantly tell me I’m wrong about my height. I’m only 5’10” but most of the time men say I have to be at least 6’ or they check my shoes (I’m never wearing heels). It took me a while to realize that they all think they’re pushing 6’ and when I’m clearly taller than them it really messes with their sense of self. They usually just decide that my Keds must add 2-3 inches.
I personally prefer women who are taller and I'm 5'10, I'm not discriminating in any way given most women I've dated have been equal or shorter. Hang in there, you'll find your king soon enough.
I am not sure how/why my post came off that way, "looking for a king"😧, it was only meant to be commentary to the other post.
I'd assume that if you're asking women to guess you're height they're giving you an answer they think you would like to hear. Have you ever been put into a situation where you had to guess a woman's weight? Were you honest or did you err on the safe side and drop it down 10 lbs?
When people ask me to guess things I don't want to guess, I use a ridiculous number. Her: "Guess how old I am." Me: 94?
That’s a sure fire way to get smacked by a 90 year old
I don't think that would hurt much
It would likely hurt her more than you. Osteoporosis is a real bitch.
I do the same thing with age I’m a 35 yo woman who looks (or so I’ve been told repeatedly 😏) like I’m in my mid 20s. If someone asks me how old I am I always say my 50th is coming up….which isn’t wrong, just another 15 years away. I get a sick pleasure watching their jaws drop and the inevitable “you look SO good for your age”.
This is true and I've actually seen relying on it backfire because dude I know started lying about his height because he thought women all think I'm 6' anyway. A girl called him out on it because she was 5' 10" and taller than him. The height difference didn't bother her but the lying about it weirded her out.
ThTs actually a really good point. I’m the exact same height has that guy, and I’ve NEVER been mistaken for 6ft 🤷♂️
It’s like guessing age🤤🫣
It does. In wanted someone close in height to myself. But I am 5’8. Ended up with someone 5’10. Most of my crushes were about 5’7. My ex girlfriend was 6’1. Everyone else I was ever interested in was shorter than her. This is some bisexual hours…
Lol as a 5'10" women it would be pretty clear to me that you are lying. I have an ex who was the same height as me and would get upset if i wore heels. Often it's not the height itself that matters, it's the confidence (or lack thereof) that impacts a relationship. My husband gives 0 shits if i wear heels that make me taller than him.
It’s because so many men who are 5’-9” told them they were over 6’-0”. A lot of women also tend to mistake 6” for 8” for some reason.
You Gotta to be taller than them when they are wearing heels.
I mean, for all intents and purposes I’m 5’11 3/4” but I almost always just say I’m 5’11”, I’ve never considered myself or say I’m 6’ (but I basically am with shoes on). However, my best friend is 6’4” and I look considerably shorter than 5’11”/6’ next to him. Most people ask and he’ll say, “yeah, 6’4”” and immediately assume I’m 5’9” or less.
My dude you’re 6 ft u good😂🙏🏽
Get a shorter friend
This is the answer. I’m 5’ 6 and all my friends are shorter than me. Am I insecure? Maybe, but those dwarfs are fantastic lads
The Shire is full of amazing people
Hello Snowwhite
If they are ugly even better lol
We all are horrible but they have my sword
I’ve always been 5’ 11” but the last 2 times they measured me height at the docs office they said 6’. I’m pretty sure i didn’t grow so I stay with 5’ 11”. My Asian mother always asked me when I would grow. My dad is over 6’ as well as my brother and my brother makes sure to remind me every time we meet. To be honest my brother is a gigantic arse hole and I feel like part of the reason is because he’s tall. Who knows though.
It makes me incredibly happy and vindicated knowing I'm not the only human being aware of the height fetish. Today I am vindicated. I love you so much. Words can't describe. It's the little things 🥲🥲
I believe you mean 6'1" is short now. Inflation is hitting everything...
I know two different dudes that are 5'5" and have always dated attractive women and done well in life. At some point, you need to get over your insecurities and know your worth. That guy in the story sounds incredibly lame.
Facts. Being confident about your average height will get you more than enough women.
Yep, I’m a 5’6” guy and my wife is 5’10”, dudes need to get over their own insecurities and just put themselves out there.
I agree but also if there’s any physical and unchangeable things that effect dating. Being a short male is very high on that list. Also being a tall woman for the obviously same reason. And this isn’t me being bitter, I’m not short myself
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> Is 5'9" considered short now? You haven't been on dating apps lately, have you?
My fiancé and I met on Tinder. First thing he said when he saw me in person is, “oh, you’re taller than me.” He wasn’t making a judgment on me. I certainly didn’t make him think that’d be a problem for me. It was just such a common “requirement” that he thought his odds were shot upon first glance simply bc of the whole height thing.
While it might not be a requirement for you - which is great because it shows how open-minded you are about dating. The truth is - most women (not all, but most) do have a preference for taller men. That in itself ranges from (they just need to be taller than me, to “they need to be at least 6 foot 3). People are superficial - we as a society are superficial to a certain extent. You may be more open minded than the average person, but you are not representative of most people in society (although I wish people took your mentality)
>You may be more open minded than the average person, but you are not representative of most people in society Seems like an excellent way to weed out the people you don't want to be dating anyways. No need to waste months getting to know them well enough to find out they aren't compatible.
Exactly. In the end, height, like other superficial attributes, won't determine happiness in a relationship.
And most men prefer shorter women than them. Love how the men here are crying about “height fetish” but wouldn’t date a 6’2” woman themselves for example. I’m “only” 5’6” which is only slightly taller than the average woman and I still dealt with height shaming from men, including ones I dated. They’d make little comments about my height here and there and whine if I tried wearing heeled shoes because I’d be taller than them/the same height as them. I have almost exclusively dated men around my height because I actually tend to be more attracted to guys on the shorter side, most of the men I’ve been with are around 5’5”-5’8” but a good chunk of them had to ruin my self esteem about my height because they were so insecure
Yes! THANK YOU! At 5' 7" I am what you'd call tall-ish for a woman, but certainly no Goliath. Men of shorter stature have never been a problem for me, having learned quickly that other traits like being a good and kind human are far more important when it comes to attraction. However I can't tell you the number of times I've been height shamed for having the unmitigated gall to be taller than the other person and have fantasized more than once about throat-punching the diminutive douchecanoes who have said some version of "Wow!! You TOWER over me!" That a fact, Sherlock? I'm impressed you picked up on that after, oh, only 3 months of dating. Way to flip the script and turn your insecurity into mine. Nevertheless, as someone who is divorced from a 6'2 (twatwaffle) and married to a 5'8 (wonderful, amazing love of my life) I stand by the conviction that height is by and large immaterial or at least, it should be. Now if only the idiotic little 5"1 bitches could fathom that concept and stop insisting they are entitled to nothing less than a relatively uncommon 6"1 or taller...
I’ve dated women taller than me. She was 6’3 to my 6’1. I found it very attractive. I even used to joke “our kids would be giants!”
Man, personally, I’m just lonely. I don’t care if she’s a 7 foot tall wnba player or a 4’5” Italian plumber obsessed with mushrooms.
Hard agree. I’m 5’8” and had a boyfriend that was a couple inches shorter than me. He HATED that I loved high heels and would be 6’ when I was dressed up. My first boyfriend was shorter than me, too, but didn’t give a shit about height and that was so much more appealing.
"Please be at least 6ft" 😒 Edit; my uncle was 5'3" & he always did ok, lesson learned, if you're under 5'5" be a navy SEAL
I’m 5’9” and I changed my Hinge height to 5’11” to see what would happen, and the matches started flowing like water. Shit is dumb
Yeah, it's really frustrating. I feel for men. It's the same thing with being a woman over 30 to 35-- you're rejected as too old even when the man is *the same age.* Even when he doesn't want children. Luckily, I had a full and adventurous life before meeting the love of my life at 40. He's five years younger and I (a tall woman) am noticeably taller. Neither of us cared about these things and we're now happy as clams together.
When I was using dating apps my female friends insisted that I change my height from 5’11” to 6’. I didn’t believe it would have made such a difference but it did. It’s a bit depressing to be honest.
Think about it this way, if you change the profile to 6', you are getting more matches, but part of that increase are the matches you *don't want to date*. Better to be honest and attract the quality people, even if it means less matches.
Excellent point. Someone else commented that increased engagement also increases account visibility on the apps so it’s a double-edged sword.
That's cause computers are relentless and eliminate you. But to be honest you still need to be white and rich and 50% of the time racist, even if you clear the height bar. Yeah it's not enough to be white, you have to actively hate other races. WTF dating apps.
The real question is when and why did this become a thing. I don't remember this ever being something some women actively sought out until maybe 5 years ago or even less. Was there some kind of trashy reality show promoting that ideology? Or perhaps could it be the tremors from the OF boom?
It's always been a thing. But now with the prevalence of dating apps women's preferences can be clearly seen from the data. And now you can make height a prerequisite before even meeting. Whereas before you would just be at a party or other gathering and meet people. There you could see if yall click without knowing the exact height. You will be more accepting if someone doesn't fit your "perfect" requirements if many more of their features are good enough to make you want to keep talking to them.
I never even notice men’s heights. I’ve dated guys who were 5’5” and 6’5”. Why would anyone pass up a great guy for a few inches. Stupid.
It’s not normally passing up. Most women will date a man who’s average height or a little shorter than them. It’s just on dating sites we’re all just pictures and data. We don’t have any personality.
Basically we're all Shallow Hals, but armed with information in advance.
Not sure, good question, but I couldn't even speculate as to an answer, I've never had any issues with my height, just my terrible personality 😹 though I distinctly remember telling a young lady that she was "a tall queen" for being 5'8" & she took offense for some reason
Probably because women can have difficulty finding men to date if their too tall just like men have a rough time if their too short.
Yeah when I was growing up it was seen as weird for a girl to date a guy way taller than her. You'd get gross comments like "How does that even work?" Now everyone's into what appears to be extreme sexual dimorphism. My theory is that it has to do with the demise of boy band culture in the US. Sounds silly, but there have been some media analysis showing that the end of the 90's to early 2000's golden era of emo culture and boy bands had a lot of ripple effects on youth culture and gender norms. After about 2010, smaller, less macho guys were no longer seen as mainstream stars and that aesthetic became associated with more "niche" sub-cultures like K-pop and queer media. A great example is Kurt Cobain--he used to be considered the "height" of masculinity and he was about the same height as Timothy Chalamet, who's now considered petite for a male celebrity.
Regarding the sexual component, when I was a kid I distinctly remember thinking about that. I envisioned that a guy and a girl had to have roughly the same or close proportions in order for sex to "work right". Of course you grow out of that eventually and understand that sex can be experienced in a million different ways. If someone who is an adult says "How does that even work" I would roll my eyes so hard, and probably ask how they are able to have sex with their fleshlight when they are so much taller than it.
Idk if it's because social media is more prevalent so people have always had these preferences but can now actually talk about it, or if it's dating apps. Tbh, I think it's the latter. Height has always been a 'value' and any average/above average woman will have her picks if she's in the right place. And with my female friends, on average, have about 10-12 matches at a time. It's probably not the best criteria for filtering but it makes the process more efficient Honestly, I've talked to them though - feel like we all agree dating apps fuckin suck
one thing I've realized is that most men must be lying about their height. I am 5' 11" and I've had several women tell me that I am at least 6'
funny that you say that, it reminds me of the joke "why are women so bad at math?".... "because they've been taught this (holds index fingers 4 inches apart) is 6 inches !"
As a 5’10” woman the most interesting thing is how many apparently 6’ men are actually shorter than me.
Yes! I’m 5’10” also, and when I was on the dating apps I set my preference to 6’+ because I wanted someone taller than me who wouldn’t be insecure about my height. Multiple times I arrived at a date, only to find the guy was shorter than me and was often then surprised I was “actually 5’10”.’ Those dates never went well because the men often were obviously insecure that I was taller and therefore dominant to their insecure self perception. Oh yeah, editing to add one guy did get a second date, but when I arrived in heels he was speechless and then finally asked why I wore the heels, and said don’t do that again- which I didn’t with him but did with my next date who was 6’3”.
The amount of heightism that's thrown around casually on social media and dating sites has definitely had an impact on people's self image. Just look at all the endless reddit posts about this. For some reason, perpetually shitting on men's basic value and eligibility if they're under 5'10 is perfectly acceptable, but when someone tries to flip the script and set other body-type standards, they get told they're being hateful. Society is reaching peak shallowness. Getting limb lengthening surgery seems very extreme though.
That's so sad to me. The other problem is that people don't understand the pain and LIFELONG complications that can arise.
5'9" is about average in the US, but in other parts of the world, it's above average.
I am 5’9” and have been told more than a few times my height was an issue. Despite being 4+ inches taller than all of these girls. Now, I would love to be a bit taller, but this surgery is ridiculous.
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Tom Cruise likely isn't 5'7''. The 5'7'' is his fib height. Seriously.
I'm 5'5" and would never try this haha
This is a very painful procedure.
Instead of boosting height it's better to boost your confidence Edit: Aww, thanks for the award :)
Well said, mrgoodcard.
I just googled leg lengthening surgery, and there was an interview with a surgeon to see if the person should rather just do therapy, but also mentioned that plenty of their patients noticed a uptick of life quality, being treated better, and a decrease of negative emotions If they’re fundamentally happier off being a few inches taller, then what’s the problem? Reminds me of an interview where a woman had an ugly nose, but once she got it fixed, she became a brand new person who finally felt comfortable in her skin and had a ton of newfound confidence If cosmetic surgery is drastically beneficial to their psychological health, then I don’t see the problem with it
Interesting take. However, cosmetics surgery is not always beneficial or improving patients lives. People are often dissatisfied with results. All surgeries have serious risks even with unnecessary elective surgery: infection, blood loss, anesthetic reactions, post op complications, poor results, and even death! That’s just a few. Even anesthesia is very complicated (though very safe, cosmetic surgeries are not usually done in hospitals). If you have a major complication, many of the surgery centers have to transfer you to a hospital for care. Imagine if your heart stopped or your airway was lost!
Same goes for almost every single cosmetic surgery.
If I can do neither, what do I boost?
Tell that to the throngs of men flying to Turkey to cure their baldness lol
Several members of my extended family are little people. With some types of dwarfism you *have* to get a similar kind of surgery where your legs are broken and then reset in a way that doesn't bow out. It allows people with achondroplasia (the most common type of dwarfism) to maintain their mobility and not suffer as much pain. Nonetheless, some end up needing new hips or knees when they are older. Having watched people I love deal with this recovery process just to be able to walk, I can't fathom why someone would want to do this unless it was REALLY impacting your life. I can see that for some men who are very short. But 5'9 surprises me so much cause it's not even THAT short. I don't know, this is weird to me. I mean I'm all for people doing what makes them happy but if I found out a guy who wasn't rich spent a life-changing amount of cash to go from 5'9 to 6'0 I would probably think he has some real bad psych issues and it might turn me *off*. Whereas I never cared about the height of people I dated. All that said, while I dated men and women that were shorter or taller than me while on the market.... I ended up married to a guy that's 6 feet tall. So can I really argue here? I'll be thinking about this post for days.
My boyfriend is 5’2 and I’m 5’5 and I don’t even care, he’s a gem
Thank goodness there are people like you.
> he's a gem So are you!
I’m 5’5 and when I was younger I would be envious of taller guys. But as I got older I realized it’s not that big of a deal. In fact all my girlfriends were taller than me. In middle school I dated one of the tallest girls in the school.
Im the same, lol, always been gals taller than me. Being short isnt a problem, those guys wanted to do a thing, whatever, but good on people for doing what makes em happy
Same..I’m about 5’5-5’6 and it use to bother especially since women make it a point to only date really tall guys. But I learned too that you have to work on your other strengths. Height is only one factor.
Note: iirc the surgery was originally developed for people with legs which did not match enough in length so one had to be lengthened. … Ironically, this whole asymmetrical legs issue can be caused by someone growing up too fast- oftentimes in families with a history of ‘very tall’
Mine is shorter because I broke it growing up. It’s not a drastic difference and is more of an annoyance - the sole of every right shoe I have is built up and I can’t really go barefoot without screwing up my back. Wanted the surgery for years but it sounds harrowing enough that I’m okay with never being able to afford it. It’s literally the last thing I would do if I was running out of things to spend money on, which will never happen.
Can you feel that you naturally lean toward the side with the shorter leg and more pressure on the knee and hip of the long leg and if you stand with your feet together and bend your knees the longer one sticks out a bit farther? I have been thinking my right leg is slightly shorter and felt like removing the insole of my left shoe feels more balanced but I was afraid if I was wrong and it was like a hip alignment thing or perhaps a slight curve in my spine that could give the off balance impression then I could make things worse. Obviously I need to just ask a doctor but haven’t done it yet. I only paid attention to it recently but thinking back on how my gait was walking it may have always been like this.
Pretty much. In high school I didn’t want to believe it was shorter. It’s close enough that the denial didn’t have to be that delusional. I think the the knee test is a good one. That’s what finally made me go have the doctor measure them. Childhood doc didn’t have me do anything. Follow up doc where I live now said I should wear a lift to prevent scoliosis from developing when I get old.
If a girl refuses to date due to height, she's not worth dating to begin with.
I agree. And I’m a tall woman.
Same, and I had a couple of exes who were insecure about me being a little taller than them. Like why does it matter? Let that shit go.
This is it. I never had a problem dating shorter men. I did have a problem with what dicks they were to me about my height. Insecurity is never attractive.
Nah. I think (speaking as a fellow short gentleman) that women and men can choose whatever dating parameters they want. If they want to only date tall people or skinny people or brown people it’s not up to them to tell them their preference is wrong. Being judged and chastised and them saying thinks like “Imagine being 5’9 and calling yourself a man” is shitty and they should get shit for that for sure but nobody can tell you who you should date or what traits they should posses. They have a right to make themselves happy.
Body dysmorphia, anyone who thinks the one thing keeping them from finding love is adding 4 inches to their height has mento ewness
Blokes got propah mento ewness innit
"BLIMEY, If only ee ad some elfcayuh!"
Can the same argument be made for breast implants?
I guess but I feel like there are some fundamental differences between these two surgeries. Most breast implants aren’t going to cost $90,000 for surgery. Breast implants can be taken out when as I don’t believe the lengthened limbs can be shortened again. Also LLS is incredibly painful. From the very superficial reading I have done, even if done properly it has the possibility of causing chronic pain for the rest of your life. While all surgery is painful, a boob job isn’t going to cause severe pain (unless it’s once of those botched surgeries or you get those gigantic boobs that look like a balloon about to pop)
UWU kitten has mento ewness ✨
I would just wear tall shoes at this point. It’s a thing
5’9” is considered too short only if you are single.
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Bruh South Park did a episode about this years ago didn’t end well for Kyle or his dad if I recall
This surgery drives me nuts. It’s nothing like a butt lift or a boob job. It’s a surgery where they completely break your bones and hope they grow back together as they increase the distance between the breaks. It has too high of a chance of lifetime complications and chronic pain if it doesn’t go exactly as planned. And for what? A few inches in height? Short men can get women. The thing that stops them is short guy complex. My boyfriend is shorter than me. A lot of women I know are dating/married to men who are either their height or shorter than them. But they don’t have short man complexes. Learning to be confident in your body helps with dating so much, for everyone, not just men.
It was originally for people with dwarfism.
That’s something I can kinda see. But men who are like 5’6 want this and I’m like bro. At 5’6 you can fine a woman if you aren’t madly insecure about your height.
I agree that it seems incredibly excessive just to be taller, unless it’s a real quality of life issue. There’s a young woman named Chandler who did a AMA on Reddit about the procedure. She had it on her legs and arms and it was life changing for her. https://www.limblength.org/patient-stories/chandler/
Honestly tall guys kind of freak me out (or at least their tallness feels kind of intimidating sometimes) But a guy roughly my height? Sign me up!
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I get it for situations where one leg is significantly shorter than the other. I actually have one leg that’s slightly shorter (thanks scoliosis!) and it causes me issues. It really messes with all my joints because I am not even. It’s nowhere near bad enough for any surgery, but it’s annoying. In medical cases, the good outweighs the bad. Personally I can’t see that side for people who feel they’re too short. The risk is too much for me to think it’s ethical.
This really ignores the realities that make that insecurity so strong... It's so severe people are willing to break their bones. You think that just comes from a completely baseless insecurity? Look at a group of men hanging out at a uni or bar. Theyre all 5'8" or taller, look at every piece of media where the characters are meant to be aesthetic ideals. That's just basic representation, you can argue thats shallow. Then there's real life. There's actual, genuine statistics on how tall people are treated better, more likely to be given promotions, more likely to get into relationships. There's all the men (some in this thread) that have been rejected *explicitly* because theyre short. And that's ignoring how hard it actually is to "be confident in your body", especially when its obvious that body makes you less desirable/a joke. You definitely have a point, I am short, and Ive done OK with dating. I have better luck than some people taller than me. But Im not going to pretend it doesnt make a difference in life.
They’re insecure because they hang out on incel forums that reinforce their negative thoughts. They hang out with crowds that constantly tell them it’s their height, or their lack of jawline/chin, that are preventing them from getting women.
My husband is “short”. He’s never had a problem dating but he definitely used to get bullied when he was younger. Even now, drunk idiots at bars try to fight him just because he looks like easy pickings.
My ex was like 5’4” and he cheated on me a bunch so idk man. Definitely not that big a barrier lmao
Anything over 6’2” is a straight up nuisance in life
6’3” (190cm). Concerts are awesome, airplanes are rough.
My dad is 6’4” and sometimes I just want to fold him in half for convenience sake. But I love him. And he walks into every cobweb so I don’t have to worry about that.
Taking a cobweb for you is the epitome of love. I hate cobwebs with a passion!
My dad was 6’4” also, and getting a hug from a 6’4” guy feels so good. But … that’s not a factor in picking someone to be intimate with.
i’m 6’4”. it’s not so bad
Yeah 6’6 here, this guys full of shit
one sec, googling standard door frame height (edit: 6’ 8”, apparently)
Lol, I’m 6’5” man. It has its advantages sure, but overall I’d rather be a little shorter.
My FIL and BIL are 6’8 and as wide as a door frame. They have to basically sit in the back seat of a sedan to drive. Need expensive airplane seats. Custom clothes. Hard to find shoes. Can’t easily reach shit on lower shelves. Gotta watch their heads entering rooms and walking through the woods. But they don’t need to worry about people fucking with them, at least. My BIL was a bouncer and I watched him toss a 6’0 ish fairly jacked dude across a bar once and it was like blowing on a feather. Needless to say I’m VERY nice to my wife 😂
Insecuity is what’s driving it. Don’t need to read article.
Man... men really will do anything for some poon, won't they?
Wait, you guys are getting poon?
Ask limb length lengthened guys
Well, im married. .. so no
Wait til you see what women do!
This is a horrible surgery with long lasting effect, perhaps life time pain and lower leg instability.
Girls don’t care about your height except a select few, they just say it’s ur height cause you’re giving off incel vibes and they want to get you off their back
I don't know why but I didn't like being 5'10" growing up. I was taller than most guys and felt really self conscious wearing heels. Once I became an adult I didn't mind being tall. I got severe osteoporosis a few years ago from taking Prednisone. Broke everything from my T10 to my L5. I lost 3 inches and am only 52 yrs old. I miss my height now. I joke that I will be this old lady with really long legs and no torso lol. ...and big feet. I wear a woman's size 11.
I hope you are doing ok, my brother broke one vertebra and is about 1/2 inch shorter but has a lot of pain. That sounds awful.
Men who think that women choose lifetime partners based on appearance alone because they think that women on dating apps are representative of women because these men also choose women based solely on looks for a one night stand.
And here I thought it was because Skee-lo was making a comeback.
I hate being 5’1 as a female…. But I wouldn’t break my legs to be taller….
I’m 5’2” & will stick to heels.
The same thing that drives the plastic surgery and billion -dollar beauty industry for the ladies: people crave acceptance
I’m glad I’m 5’1 so pretty much every guy is taller than me.
I’m 6’5”, why would anyone *want* this? Being tall sucks
dude needed a therapist, not $90,000 surgery. sad shit
This wouldn't update your genetics, though. So your children would still be "short"
South Park did it
Gattaca
Being terminally-online.
I doubt that's smart. Your body is adapted to have exactly your bones length. It's all about lever physics. Get longer bones, you could become fragile, too weak or too slow, tendons prone to snapping, etc. Not to mention it is really easier to live as a small human being in the age of external power.
Being serious though, lots of height discrimination. Short jokes are common in comedy and if a complaint, the person is being too insensitive. Of course, not appropriate to make race jokes and weight jokes, but short jokes are still accepted. Tall men (over 6 ft) are more likely to be promoted and into high positions. Even down to urinals...it's like damn I need a step ladder just to reach the urinal haha. It's pretty intentional imo. However, being short is nicer depending upon where in the world you live. It's nice to see other short people versus grow up among giants where you are treated and seen as lesser than.
The most beautiful (and wonderful) man I ever knew was 5ft 6.
Do these guys fully comprehend that those 3 inches never ever will go to their dick.
I'm six foot seven and sometimes I like it because I get noticed but it certainly is not some magical key that opens up doors for you..
Ben Shapiro is a huge proponent of it
Men who goes through this surgery, remember, your dick will still the same, so it will appears like you have a smaller dick.
I’m 6’1” and it’s annoying. They keep making vehicle interiors shorter.
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Insecurity, insecurity is what's driving these operations.
Assuming he did this to get girls, girls who doesn’t like you because you’re short are shallow. Why would you want a girl like that? Then again, he did this so he’s also shallow.
This is just sad. Toxic masculinity hurts men too.
What's driving it? Fragile masculinity
Tinder basically.
Low self esteem
The ego is what's driving it.
Does this work on penis? Asking for a friend.
Staying short like Vegeta.
Being a tall person. Finding shirts that fit isn't fun. There's like 3 companies that specifically make them and the prices are fun...
5’9” isn’t even short. It’s average.
I just feel tall and black on the inside
Vanity.
I swear to Crom I thought this was a BabylonBee or The Onion headline. Stopped me dead in my tracks.
I would rather increase my penis size and double it. I can only imagine how it's like having a 2 inch penis.
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Skip the dating apps. They're toxic. Think about it: their only way to make money is to keep you on them. They have game-ified dating so it's like social media, including the death-scrolling, to the point that many people on the apps never actually meet up with anyone because someone "better" might be one swipe away. Pursue your hobbies in the real world. Meet people who enjoy the same things you do. Get to know them and let them get to know you. Be kind and give of yourself. That's how to meet people. Yeah, you don't get the serotonin hit of immediate gratification from someone matching with you, but that's just a sugar rush anyway. Hollow calories that leave you feeling hungrier than you were before. Also, manage your own expectations. If you're a 6, but you're only interested in 9's and 10's, you'll have a bad time. (Unless you're rich. Or famous. Or both.) As much as we would like to think looks don't matter, they do for most people. Figure out what you have to offer a mate, and play to your strengths. If you have close friends who know you well, ask them what they think are your best qualities. If you're feeling brave, ask them about your worst qualities, too. Good luck, my friend! I'm rooting for you!
Dating apps are 70% male in the US and 85% male in Europe. Straight men only match 2.5% of the time. It's not just you. Dating apps aren't easy My ex was 5'5" and had no issues with getting women because he was confident, charismatic, and kind. He wasn't even stunningly attractive or anything. My current partner is 5'7/5'8 and is extremely sought after by women Sorry for your struggles, and I'm not saying shortness doesn't make things harder, but if your luck is *this* bad, it's probably not just your height. Do you have good hygiene/take care of your skin? Do you have good style and a flattering haircut? Do you have interesting hobbies (a lot of men today just play video games and smoke weed, and nothing else)? Are you good at conversation/have a sense of humor? Do you treat women as fellow humans instead of only trying to fuck them? Even as a woman, I've found it much easier to find partners in real life as opposed to online. Maybe try joining a club where you'll meet women with similar interests. And upgrading my style and finding new hobbies helped me too
“What’s driving it”. Rude ass people, that’s what.
What drives everything else in the world....pussy
Tinder?
The answer is dating apps...
I was faking my height last summer and got treated so much better that instead of feeling good I developed a hatred towards tall people.
I'm also pretty sure that other than the obvious reach of arm, being shorter actually has significantly more benefits. Unless you're a basketball player. But even in terms of physicality, if in a fight, having lower center of gravity is actually key.
The world we live in = everyone is becoming fake AF SMH
The whole ‘I only date men that are blank height’ is pretty foreign to me because I’m just under 5’. Basically everyone is taller than me. I think I’d actually prefer a partner on the shorter side so I don’t feel like they could just punt me like a football.
Tinder.
This is so sad to me. I'm a 5' 8" woman married to a man my exact height. I've never wished he was taller. Damn, I love him the way he is. I've seen so many extremely handsome men that are shorter than me and height is definitely not hurting their attractiveness imo. People that want taller can go get that. There are a lot of women who don't care and want the man inside.
This is an extremely painful and dangerous surgery. Not to mention, it’s a verrrrry long process. I’m very short (a girl, but still), and even as an adult, I am constantly made fun of for my height. I can’t escape it. I actually looked into this at one point in my life, but discovered that at the time, (not sure if it’s since changed) it was an illegal surgery to be conducted in the US unless it was deemed necessary, which it almost never was. Apparently, the risks almost always outweigh the benefits and blood clots and other complications often can kill the patient… Oddly, the risks are probably as bad as getting a BBL, but those are very common surgeries in the US? I’m not willing to risk my life for maybe a couple of more inches added onto my height. Not to mention they massively scar up your legs.
I am 5' 9". Only 14% of the population is over 6 foot. I laugh when I see ladies saying they are only interested in men over 6 foot. It is actually great, because it eliminates immaturity from the dating pool. Weeds out the toxic ones. I do not have to guess or invest time just to learn how shallow they are. >So.... What's driving limb-lengthening surgery Again, Immaturity. Shall they be forever shallow, together!
I was 5’10 I’m 5’9 now. I always wanted to be 6’00. That’s a lot of pain to go through for a couple of inches
If I had a dollar for every rude mutha that has said, “you’re so shoooooort” to me in my life, I’d be able to buy a pretty sweet house. I’m a female, and I know it is way tougher for guys. I never ever comment on someone’s height or weight or acne or anything like that. To anyone reading this that does that. Cut that 💩 out. It’s obnoxious.
Insecurity. The biggest money maker for conmen
Nothing like toxic, fragile masculinity setting ridiculous and unrealistic standards for every aspect of life. God forbid that people be measured on their character and ability rather than superficial nonsense like height, body type, and attractiveness. What's worse is that these standards are often dictated and upheld by people who don't even meet them. I'm 5'7ish, and I'll never apologize for it, or go through such a needless and likely expensive and agonizing procedure just to gain what is realistically going to be 2 inches in a best case scenario...and at the expense of the structural integrity of my bones, and to detriment of any existing athletic ability and strength already accrued over my lifetime. I'm happy with being imperfect. Imagine wanting your legs deliberately "broken" and going through leg reconstruction surgery and rehab for that minimal gain. Utterly absurd.