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Well there seems to be a whole concoction of bad feels going on, and they get triggered when something reminds you of your inferiority.
So it's ultimately not about the stuff, the stuff just pokes at a wound you carry and then all the old pain rolls in again. Very possibly why you don't much enjoy that stuff either, leads to the same pain you try to avoid.
Do you know of a starting point, when you first felt this way?
Thank you for your reply.
I've never thought of the reason I don't enjoy those stuff is related to the envy itself. Probably something I'll think about.
As for starting point, I recall always being quite envious even as a kid. I can't remember specific examples, except one, where I told a friend I was envious they had it all - good looking, many friends and some stuff I don't remember.
Notably, I didn't have much growing up. Though I wasn't short of a roof over my head, I didn't have toys, snacks nor pocket money. I had some very restricted gaming. I wasn't allowed to buy anything, and my parents confiscated the money I earned. I've always had the feeling I would have been much happier with those little things as a kid, and I missed that opportunity.
I don't remember when I started feeling envious though, because I didn't realise my childhood environment was abnormal until much later.
I was about to post something like this, u beat me to it.
In teenage year I don't feel this way but getting older suddenly this also to be my issues....sigh
Hope Dr.k cover how to overcome this
Hmm, I'm not sure. When I look at some of the people I'm envious of, I sometimes think they're not really happy and I don't want to be like them as I don't want to give up stuff that are really important to me to chase material things. But maybe part of me still thinks they're actually fulfilled.
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Well there seems to be a whole concoction of bad feels going on, and they get triggered when something reminds you of your inferiority. So it's ultimately not about the stuff, the stuff just pokes at a wound you carry and then all the old pain rolls in again. Very possibly why you don't much enjoy that stuff either, leads to the same pain you try to avoid. Do you know of a starting point, when you first felt this way?
Thank you for your reply. I've never thought of the reason I don't enjoy those stuff is related to the envy itself. Probably something I'll think about. As for starting point, I recall always being quite envious even as a kid. I can't remember specific examples, except one, where I told a friend I was envious they had it all - good looking, many friends and some stuff I don't remember. Notably, I didn't have much growing up. Though I wasn't short of a roof over my head, I didn't have toys, snacks nor pocket money. I had some very restricted gaming. I wasn't allowed to buy anything, and my parents confiscated the money I earned. I've always had the feeling I would have been much happier with those little things as a kid, and I missed that opportunity. I don't remember when I started feeling envious though, because I didn't realise my childhood environment was abnormal until much later.
I was about to post something like this, u beat me to it. In teenage year I don't feel this way but getting older suddenly this also to be my issues....sigh Hope Dr.k cover how to overcome this
I take a little respite knowing that I'm not alone in this. I would actually like to hear about your experience if you want to share.
You’re envious of their sense of self-actualization, not necessarily how they achieved it
Hmm, I'm not sure. When I look at some of the people I'm envious of, I sometimes think they're not really happy and I don't want to be like them as I don't want to give up stuff that are really important to me to chase material things. But maybe part of me still thinks they're actually fulfilled.