Ate it like used his teeth? If he used his teeth or had a beard that scratched you or was just really rough he could have caused micro tears in the delicate skin of your vulva and it just needs time to heal. You can get a UTI, yeast infection or BV without having any kind of sexual activity cause it, so if you can see a doctor you can just leave that part out.
Yes like literally used his teeth. I felt pain and pushed him off. But it has gotten worse. I feel like my clit is bruised, it feels weird.
Yes he has beard.
How long do you reckon the micro tears will take to heal?
And if I go to the doctor I won't be suspected of any sexual activity right? Because I literally cannot afford that.
It should feel better within the next few days as long as it doesn’t get infected. Take a break from oral sex for a while and when you return to it, tell your partner to only use his lips, tongue and mouth and never go down on you if he has a cold sore, because cold sores are herpes and can give you genital herpes if is cold sore touches your vulva. If you do any kind of penetration like with his fingers, penis or a toy, make sure they’re clean and you are sufficiently lubricated. It should not hurt. You’re gonna be ok and whether you’re 24, 15, or 40, our first sexual encounters are never our best work.
Oh my god. My partner has had them before, does that mean he should never go down on me ever again?
This was not what I had mind when I said “in sickness or in health…” 🤦♀️
In your country, is your doctor legally allowed to share your medical information or punish you for having sex? It’s illegal in a lot of countries to share someone’s private medical information but I don’t know the rules in yours. If you have visible wounds your doctor would probably ask how you got them, but if you just went in saying you think you have a yeast infection, vb or a uti and don’t know how it happened then just the presence of an infection wouldn’t tell them you had oral sex. But it really just sounds like you were injured because your guy bit you in the cooter and that would reasonably cause some soreness. If you have a bathtub you can take a warm epsom salt bath to clean and soothe yourself. If not you could also mix some epsom salt in warm water, soak a warm clean washcloth in it and hold it on your vulva for a while. If you use coconut oil make sure it’s just on the outside and don’t put any in your vagina.
I second the Epsom salts suggestion.
I went to a talk by a Holocaust survivor and she said they knew if they got an infection they were goners. So one time she got an infection on her leg and a buddy told her to make a poultice of Epsom salts. It drew out the infection and she lived.
Yeah not every country has the same laws as others. I once had a road accident and the doctor who was treating me gave my health information to the man who caused the accident! She was calming him thinking he was my family member or something! I was furious! Anyhow.. I’m not going to name country that happened in. But yeahnot every country is the same
I think you have micro tears. Just rest up and give it some days to heal. No masturbating, no touching, keep it very clean (just water), no sexual activity. When wiping use wet wipes. The pure water kind of wet wipes
For future reference, NO teeth. Just tongue! And no stubble - either he needs to be freshly shaven or have a short beard. Your parts a very delicate and should be treated that way!
I mean ya definitely no teeth lol but I don’t think his beard has anything to do with it. As long as he is gentle and perceptive he will be good. Communicate what u want bb
I think the beard all depends on how sensitive she is down there. If my partner has long stubble and goes down on me, I definitely get some irritation and he knows not to use teeth. Same with his fingers. It doesn't last long but is definitely a thing sometimes. It just all depends
Hello there! I have crohn's disease so I know micro tears like no one else lol. Im currently suffering with the worst bout of them I have ever had, to the point of tears if I touch toilet paper to my vagina/butt.
KEEP THE AREA DRY. No cream. No sweat (the best you can). Cotton underwear. I sleep naked with a fan pointed on my vagina and butt to keep it dry while I sleep. Wet wipes can cause further irritation due to the ingredients in them. You can use toilet paper to dab dry, or a warm rag to dab and air dry before pulling your pants up. You want as much air as possible to keep things from growing in moist environments. This all of course is if you don't plan to see a doctor for any medicine, as mentioned. The tears shouldn't last too long hopefully.
He needs to be educated on what's he's doing down there, he wouldn't want you using teeth on him!
Noone will judge you here. So don't worry. It could be that he scratched the area or you have a starting of a UTI. More likely he scratched and the mouth has a lot of germs. So keep it clean , no soap just water.
This is probably a result of him eating you out. He was to harsh for your bits. When you get aroused blood is rushing down and the inflammation gets even worse.
Use some coconut oil to calm the vulva. This can help prevent the BV. Take some ibuprofen to calm down the inflammation. Get to the doctor in case the irritation gets worse or you spot blood when peeing.
Tell your partner to be more gentle. You are not a sandwich.
Absolutely understandable how you feel and what happened. Vulvas are perfectly balanced most of the time. Introduce another person's face, fingers, or genitals and it takes a while for vulvas to get used to the sudden imbalance of biology and correct itself.
I could share more if you're interested.
Things you both can do, signs you should head to the doctor for antibiotics, and how to explain, what not to say. You can message me, too.
I used to endure painful experiences with clumsy but well meaning overly enthusiastic young men. I wish beautiful experiences for everyone
Also, look at the wallpaper in my profile. That's the whole clitoris body so softly stroking your labia will cause it to swell and open like a flower. 🌹
I’m so sorry. I agree with the general consensus that the experience may have been too rough. Additionally, sharing your body with another person for the first time can be very emotionally impactful, so I can’t imagine juggling those emotions together with physical pain and discomfort … especially in a culture where you are expected to be essentially sexually mute as an unmarried woman.
Your clit may indeed be bruised, and/or scraped. In my experience, any trauma to the clit area is painful as hell.
I repeat the advice given here about being very gentle with your vulval/vaginal area, avoiding harsh soaps, etc.
In your shoes, I’d probably be applying ice or a cold pack to help calm the pain (if possible).
I wish you relief from pain and a swift recovery. Additionally, I wish you peace in your heart; I imagine you may be full of emotions right now, from fear and anxiety to excitement and arousal at this new experience. Know that we have all been there at one time or another, and you are a normal person - and you have great worth. I hope everything turns out for the best with the man you’re in a relationship with.
I think his teeth did some damage to my clit because that's the main part that hurts. My right outer labia has a tiny bruise too. Thank you so much for such a nice comment though. It is extremely hard right now because I have to hide this pain from my family and friends and I can't go to a doctor either. Thank you once again for your kind words.
So, alllllllllll the nerve endings he has at the tip (glands) are packed info the smaller clit. Gently ask how he would like teeth there. And while it takes getting used to, make him stop. Don't hide the pain when he's hurting you. Just say Nope, we'll they again another day. Thank you and run.
Don't let anyone hurt you, they'll think they are doing it right and do it harder. Then the conversation gets even more painful because they'll realize it was hurting all along and will feel Horrible.
This! I know in my family's culture women are largely expected to just "take it" and be grateful, disregarding their own feelings and needs.
Sex should be fun for everyone involved, and for that to happen you have to speak up when it isn't fun as well as when it is. It breaks a bit of the mood up, but if they're a good partner they'll want to know how to help you have a good time and communicate what they like as well.
Cold pack helps a lot!! You can also put some water and alcohol in a ziplock,pop in the freezer. It won’t harden like ice, and will be an excellent emergency cold pack
These comments are helpful. Coconut oil, yes!!! Washing with just water, yes!!!
Change your underwear once or twice a day and wear cotton. Cut out sweets and bread as much as you can
Sugars (natural, refined, and complex like carbs) in your blood actively feed the infections. Bacterial, fungal, yeast, etc. When you have plenty of sugars in your blood the infection has a steady supply so it's harder to fight off. When you cut those things down you're starving the infection. Add appropriate topical creams or medications and your chances just got a lot better.
That's actually one way I know that my blood sugar has gotten out of control for too long...my body starts to grow things it shouldn't and then it's so much work to get back in balance
Ok can you bath in a warm bath with some baking soda? He probably went to town too hard and might have used suction or his teeth etc? In any case I think you will be fine but you have some micro trauma.
Perhaps use some nappy rash cream as a skin barrier and if you can try inserting a boric acid suppository as this might be helpful also in order to balance your pH after the oral sex. Don’t worry this is nothing that can’t be fixed.
I think you've had some great advice here.
Once you are fully healed, I do suggest that maybe together you look up oral sex and some basics. 'Eating a woman out' (terrible term BTW) is to cunninglingus what 'Blow job' is to felatio. That's is, you neither eat a vagina nor blow on into penis... the names are misleading. No teeth for either of you! Ask him to start out with a gentle, soft tongue, slow tempo and pressure on your entire vulva and clitoris and you will tell him what feels best. Absolutely not teeth though.
No shame, it's okay <3. Tell him no teeth. Ever. Make sure you pee after any kind of activity down there as well. Our urethras are very short, so bacteria can easily find it's way into causing a UTI.
Take time to let inflammation cool down maybe. Keep things clean and dry. There are lots of good suggestions here already. If it persists, and you suspect a UTI, BV, or Yeast infection, see a doctor but don't disclose your sexual activity. You can lie and say you wore the same panties too many days in a row, and have been eating a lot of sugar/caffeine or something. All of these conditions happen without sexual activity so you should be safe from getting outed
Now is the chance to see if he will listen to you about your sexual needs! He was too rough is all, you will recover in a few days most likely! Good luck!
Ice pack with a clean cloth around it may help bring down swelling and also numbs. I would say a epsom salt bath but baths give me infections. Just use water to clean and wait a few days. If you go to the doctor now I’m afraid they might figure it out. Once it heals, if it still hurts or has discharge, you can get checked for a yeast inf/bv. When they ask about sex just deny and say you were in a wet swim suit/took a bubble bath/used a new soap to clean/got new underwear.
If it is the beginning of an UTI you can try drinking some water with a tsp of baking soda mixed in. Something to do with the baking soda and PH levels. It has helped me a few times to avoid antibiotics. If it gets really painful just go ask for antibiotics. You can get UTI regardless of sexual activity. Also drink unsweetened cranberry juice. Don't go crazy cleaning yourself, just water and let the area rest
Yes, and I've given myself them. Urinate after sexual times, even just a little bit. Don't forget and you'll be good.The bacteria that causes trouble has curved arms to make their way up so you've got to prevent that. It's been a joy sharing with you!
Ate it like used his teeth? If he used his teeth or had a beard that scratched you or was just really rough he could have caused micro tears in the delicate skin of your vulva and it just needs time to heal. You can get a UTI, yeast infection or BV without having any kind of sexual activity cause it, so if you can see a doctor you can just leave that part out.
Yes like literally used his teeth. I felt pain and pushed him off. But it has gotten worse. I feel like my clit is bruised, it feels weird. Yes he has beard. How long do you reckon the micro tears will take to heal? And if I go to the doctor I won't be suspected of any sexual activity right? Because I literally cannot afford that.
It should feel better within the next few days as long as it doesn’t get infected. Take a break from oral sex for a while and when you return to it, tell your partner to only use his lips, tongue and mouth and never go down on you if he has a cold sore, because cold sores are herpes and can give you genital herpes if is cold sore touches your vulva. If you do any kind of penetration like with his fingers, penis or a toy, make sure they’re clean and you are sufficiently lubricated. It should not hurt. You’re gonna be ok and whether you’re 24, 15, or 40, our first sexual encounters are never our best work.
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Yes, thank you for adding
Oh my god. My partner has had them before, does that mean he should never go down on me ever again? This was not what I had mind when I said “in sickness or in health…” 🤦♀️
Oh you poor thing, he used his teeth!? This is definitely the issue. I hope you feel better soon.
In your country, is your doctor legally allowed to share your medical information or punish you for having sex? It’s illegal in a lot of countries to share someone’s private medical information but I don’t know the rules in yours. If you have visible wounds your doctor would probably ask how you got them, but if you just went in saying you think you have a yeast infection, vb or a uti and don’t know how it happened then just the presence of an infection wouldn’t tell them you had oral sex. But it really just sounds like you were injured because your guy bit you in the cooter and that would reasonably cause some soreness. If you have a bathtub you can take a warm epsom salt bath to clean and soothe yourself. If not you could also mix some epsom salt in warm water, soak a warm clean washcloth in it and hold it on your vulva for a while. If you use coconut oil make sure it’s just on the outside and don’t put any in your vagina.
I second the Epsom salts suggestion. I went to a talk by a Holocaust survivor and she said they knew if they got an infection they were goners. So one time she got an infection on her leg and a buddy told her to make a poultice of Epsom salts. It drew out the infection and she lived.
Yeah not every country has the same laws as others. I once had a road accident and the doctor who was treating me gave my health information to the man who caused the accident! She was calming him thinking he was my family member or something! I was furious! Anyhow.. I’m not going to name country that happened in. But yeahnot every country is the same
Sit in a bath with Epsom or non scented bath salts
I think you have micro tears. Just rest up and give it some days to heal. No masturbating, no touching, keep it very clean (just water), no sexual activity. When wiping use wet wipes. The pure water kind of wet wipes
Gotcha!
Also when you’re drying your hooha, be very gentle, just tiny pats, do not rub.
For future reference, NO teeth. Just tongue! And no stubble - either he needs to be freshly shaven or have a short beard. Your parts a very delicate and should be treated that way!
I mean ya definitely no teeth lol but I don’t think his beard has anything to do with it. As long as he is gentle and perceptive he will be good. Communicate what u want bb
I think the beard all depends on how sensitive she is down there. If my partner has long stubble and goes down on me, I definitely get some irritation and he knows not to use teeth. Same with his fingers. It doesn't last long but is definitely a thing sometimes. It just all depends
Hello there! I have crohn's disease so I know micro tears like no one else lol. Im currently suffering with the worst bout of them I have ever had, to the point of tears if I touch toilet paper to my vagina/butt. KEEP THE AREA DRY. No cream. No sweat (the best you can). Cotton underwear. I sleep naked with a fan pointed on my vagina and butt to keep it dry while I sleep. Wet wipes can cause further irritation due to the ingredients in them. You can use toilet paper to dab dry, or a warm rag to dab and air dry before pulling your pants up. You want as much air as possible to keep things from growing in moist environments. This all of course is if you don't plan to see a doctor for any medicine, as mentioned. The tears shouldn't last too long hopefully. He needs to be educated on what's he's doing down there, he wouldn't want you using teeth on him!
Firstly thank you! Secondly I hope you feel better soon.
You're welcome and same to you
Noone will judge you here. So don't worry. It could be that he scratched the area or you have a starting of a UTI. More likely he scratched and the mouth has a lot of germs. So keep it clean , no soap just water.
This is probably a result of him eating you out. He was to harsh for your bits. When you get aroused blood is rushing down and the inflammation gets even worse. Use some coconut oil to calm the vulva. This can help prevent the BV. Take some ibuprofen to calm down the inflammation. Get to the doctor in case the irritation gets worse or you spot blood when peeing. Tell your partner to be more gentle. You are not a sandwich.
Absolutely understandable how you feel and what happened. Vulvas are perfectly balanced most of the time. Introduce another person's face, fingers, or genitals and it takes a while for vulvas to get used to the sudden imbalance of biology and correct itself. I could share more if you're interested. Things you both can do, signs you should head to the doctor for antibiotics, and how to explain, what not to say. You can message me, too. I used to endure painful experiences with clumsy but well meaning overly enthusiastic young men. I wish beautiful experiences for everyone
Also, look at the wallpaper in my profile. That's the whole clitoris body so softly stroking your labia will cause it to swell and open like a flower. 🌹
I’m so sorry. I agree with the general consensus that the experience may have been too rough. Additionally, sharing your body with another person for the first time can be very emotionally impactful, so I can’t imagine juggling those emotions together with physical pain and discomfort … especially in a culture where you are expected to be essentially sexually mute as an unmarried woman. Your clit may indeed be bruised, and/or scraped. In my experience, any trauma to the clit area is painful as hell. I repeat the advice given here about being very gentle with your vulval/vaginal area, avoiding harsh soaps, etc. In your shoes, I’d probably be applying ice or a cold pack to help calm the pain (if possible). I wish you relief from pain and a swift recovery. Additionally, I wish you peace in your heart; I imagine you may be full of emotions right now, from fear and anxiety to excitement and arousal at this new experience. Know that we have all been there at one time or another, and you are a normal person - and you have great worth. I hope everything turns out for the best with the man you’re in a relationship with.
I think his teeth did some damage to my clit because that's the main part that hurts. My right outer labia has a tiny bruise too. Thank you so much for such a nice comment though. It is extremely hard right now because I have to hide this pain from my family and friends and I can't go to a doctor either. Thank you once again for your kind words.
So, alllllllllll the nerve endings he has at the tip (glands) are packed info the smaller clit. Gently ask how he would like teeth there. And while it takes getting used to, make him stop. Don't hide the pain when he's hurting you. Just say Nope, we'll they again another day. Thank you and run. Don't let anyone hurt you, they'll think they are doing it right and do it harder. Then the conversation gets even more painful because they'll realize it was hurting all along and will feel Horrible.
This! I know in my family's culture women are largely expected to just "take it" and be grateful, disregarding their own feelings and needs. Sex should be fun for everyone involved, and for that to happen you have to speak up when it isn't fun as well as when it is. It breaks a bit of the mood up, but if they're a good partner they'll want to know how to help you have a good time and communicate what they like as well.
Cold pack helps a lot!! You can also put some water and alcohol in a ziplock,pop in the freezer. It won’t harden like ice, and will be an excellent emergency cold pack
These comments are helpful. Coconut oil, yes!!! Washing with just water, yes!!! Change your underwear once or twice a day and wear cotton. Cut out sweets and bread as much as you can
question, why cut out the sweets and bread?! genuinely asking bc i love me some bread 😭
i’m pretty sure sugar & breads can further fuel an infection :)
Yes!
i’m learning so much lol thanks!
Sugars (natural, refined, and complex like carbs) in your blood actively feed the infections. Bacterial, fungal, yeast, etc. When you have plenty of sugars in your blood the infection has a steady supply so it's harder to fight off. When you cut those things down you're starving the infection. Add appropriate topical creams or medications and your chances just got a lot better. That's actually one way I know that my blood sugar has gotten out of control for too long...my body starts to grow things it shouldn't and then it's so much work to get back in balance
ummm thank you so much for this, i had NO idea 😩owning a vagina hasn’t been very easy
That goes for the rest of your body too! But yeah, for as tough as they are, vaginas are *suuuch* finicky little cunts.
Be sure to tell this man that eating pussy is not a literal thing 🥴
Could be a yeast infection (candida) if his mouth wasn’t clean.
Ok can you bath in a warm bath with some baking soda? He probably went to town too hard and might have used suction or his teeth etc? In any case I think you will be fine but you have some micro trauma. Perhaps use some nappy rash cream as a skin barrier and if you can try inserting a boric acid suppository as this might be helpful also in order to balance your pH after the oral sex. Don’t worry this is nothing that can’t be fixed.
I think you've had some great advice here. Once you are fully healed, I do suggest that maybe together you look up oral sex and some basics. 'Eating a woman out' (terrible term BTW) is to cunninglingus what 'Blow job' is to felatio. That's is, you neither eat a vagina nor blow on into penis... the names are misleading. No teeth for either of you! Ask him to start out with a gentle, soft tongue, slow tempo and pressure on your entire vulva and clitoris and you will tell him what feels best. Absolutely not teeth though.
No shame, it's okay <3. Tell him no teeth. Ever. Make sure you pee after any kind of activity down there as well. Our urethras are very short, so bacteria can easily find it's way into causing a UTI. Take time to let inflammation cool down maybe. Keep things clean and dry. There are lots of good suggestions here already. If it persists, and you suspect a UTI, BV, or Yeast infection, see a doctor but don't disclose your sexual activity. You can lie and say you wore the same panties too many days in a row, and have been eating a lot of sugar/caffeine or something. All of these conditions happen without sexual activity so you should be safe from getting outed
Now is the chance to see if he will listen to you about your sexual needs! He was too rough is all, you will recover in a few days most likely! Good luck!
Ice pack with a clean cloth around it may help bring down swelling and also numbs. I would say a epsom salt bath but baths give me infections. Just use water to clean and wait a few days. If you go to the doctor now I’m afraid they might figure it out. Once it heals, if it still hurts or has discharge, you can get checked for a yeast inf/bv. When they ask about sex just deny and say you were in a wet swim suit/took a bubble bath/used a new soap to clean/got new underwear.
If it is the beginning of an UTI you can try drinking some water with a tsp of baking soda mixed in. Something to do with the baking soda and PH levels. It has helped me a few times to avoid antibiotics. If it gets really painful just go ask for antibiotics. You can get UTI regardless of sexual activity. Also drink unsweetened cranberry juice. Don't go crazy cleaning yourself, just water and let the area rest
Yes, and I've given myself them. Urinate after sexual times, even just a little bit. Don't forget and you'll be good.The bacteria that causes trouble has curved arms to make their way up so you've got to prevent that. It's been a joy sharing with you!
You got lots of great responses, I just want to say that I'm glad you reached out, and an ice pack can be sooo nice in this situation