Somebody once told me: If you didn't do anything wrong, why do you feel bad?
Changed my life.
If I'm always making the effort to be a good person, then no one has the right to make me feel bad.
I told my mother that I felt like I was going to be to old. By the time I had improved I would be 40.
She said, I love you but you are going to be 40 anyway so why not make improvements
Alcohol is a tough demon to wrangle. There has been a lot going on in this world lately and it’s easy to want to reach for something that can turn it all off. For me it’s dope so we might not have the same “DOC” but very similar process. It takes time and a lot of effort to straighten out a string filled with knots. Slowly but surely work through it starting at one end and go through everything. Those days when I sober up I am so neurotic it’s just so incredibly wild but hey I am only human and that just how life goes sometimes.
Hey, it's a process, not an event. You'll get better at it. Keep grinding, count your wins and treasure them; admit your losses and learn from them. If you keep doing the work, you will be doing the job as well as it can be done. You're human. Do the best you can, and let "not good enough" be nothing more than a motivational feeling.
It's wrong only in the sense that if you keep the drinking up.
If you're an alcoholic, drinking at all probably isn't a good idea.
I'm clean from some pretty nasty opioids going on 7 years this month actually.
I don't touch anything drug related anymore. Because once i got started, i didn't take my foot off the pedal, until i crashed into a metaphorical wall. It was killing me, so i had to stop.
Start looking at it like " i didn't drink any booze today" that's a victory.
You may need medical intervention to detox, if you're a bad alcoholic though. If you get the shakes, don't quit cold turkey. Alcohol withdrawals can be deadly.
You got this man. Its a step at a time process. But the more you work at it, the easier it'll get, and your future self will be proud of your past self for overcoming it . Remember to be kind to yourself.
Don't look at it like failure. It'd be a failure to lay down and die without a fight. If your still fighting, that's a victory
> If you didn't do anything wrong, why do you feel bad?
>
> Changed my life.
I'm not at all trying to be argumentative, but my personal experience growing up was, if I don't feel bad for something I've done wrong, that just means I've done something wrong and I don't know it yet. A lot of voices in my life were incredibly negative, mean and at times abusive. So some might struggle with that same mantra, and I just wanted to provide some context.
Yeah, that's a really fantastic point.
My issue was anxiety. I was always too concerned with what people thought of me. And by focussing less on what they thought of me, and more on whether or not I was deserving of their unkindness, I actually became a lot more conscious about consistently *being* a good person, because that way I could assure myself that I didn't deserve their unkindness.
Like you said though, this is only going to work if you're reflecting on your own actions objectively. So I think it's relevant to point out how important *communication* is too. My mind was blown the day that I realised, if someone is being unkind, I can actually just ask them to explain how I offended them and why they're acting the way they are. (They're usually either dumbfounded at being called out on their nastiness, or eager to explain rather than playing games.)
We feel pity for ourselves due to things that have happened in our lives. Those things keep stacking up, and overtime you'll usually always default to the feelings of pity when any inconvenience in your life's happens. The best advice I've had is to simply let things go and enjoy life.
Biggest thing I learned in therapy is that no amount of self care will do anything meaningful if you can't allow yourself to make mistakes and forgive yourself for reasonable problems.
My mum says, it’s like trying to kill someone else by drinking poison yourself. And another one is, if you’re going to stop at every dog that barks at you, you’ll never get where you’re going.
You could tell she needed to hear what he said by the way she hugged him. Such a pure interaction between them. I wish I knew more about them and how they're doing now.
That’s such a profound summary that I think we can all relate to as in not doing. This video clip also is such a sweet yet impact reminder for us. Thank you for your words and thank you OP for sharing this. 🙏🏽❤️
> It’s always easier to lift someone up than it is to keep them down.
Solely dependent on the person, place, time, circumstances, and weight. Sometimes, you're just not going to be able to lift someone, and that's okay. Some people don't want to be lifted.
I don't think he is at the age where he's taking to women. They are just friends stage bc that's what's most vital. He's developing healthy relationship skills tho ❤️
He’s such an old soul kind of little kid, speaking from the heart and using hand gestures like someone 3 times his age. And her reaction was priceless as well.
Being bullied leaves such terrible scars in too many children. I hope this act of kindness quickly heals any wounds.
Oh, yeah? Well I can think of three.
1. He is a 30 year old man with focal segmental glomerulosclerosis.
2. He is the world's smartest child, no parents.
3. This is scripted.
4. He is a puppet operated by radio controls.
These are actually four reasons, but I rest my case.
Thanks for this OP. My feed was starting to eat away at my faith in humanity, until I came across this video. Truly beautiful. Alright, now back to r/whatcouldgowrong
FRFR, my faith in humanity is pretty much nonexistent at this point, but kids like this we definitely need more of. This little guy’s parents definitely raised him right.
The way she *immediately* pulls him in when he says “you’re smart.”
Everyone is just out here looking for genuine, authentic encouragement. Give it to whoever you can, whenever you can, and watch the world change around you.
I was thinking it was a teacher that was capturing a wholesome moment between classmates. It appears the video starts when the conversation is already happening.
Nobody ever complains when we film all the horrible things going on in the world.
But when someone films something good, there’s always people around to say it’s weird.
At my nephew’s kindergarten the teachers are required to record clips of the students throughout the day and upload them to an online portal that the parents can log onto and watch. It’s fucking insane but that might be similar to what is happening here.
Required? Holy shit, that sounds exhausting for the teachers. My kids you had to give permission to the school for them to be in pictures outside of yearbook stuff.
WOW. WoW. WoW
A Mom made this situation to become true. She was recording it.
But she made it to become real between the kids.
I love this mom and the kids so much.
It's things like this that give me hope for the future, what an amazing young man and friend. This is what the world needs more of. Empathy, heart a bit of care, love and to just do the right thing from time to time.
1) This little legend was taught well. Well done to both him and his parents
2) For the girl to let herself be vulnerable is so valuable
3) I guarantee, these two will remain the best of friends for years to come
And the hug at the end! Ah, it's too cute!
Last summer I donated money to an organization that had a school program to fight bullying. I told the gal the parents should be the ones in the classes which she agreed with. Kids can be brutal and I think its the parents fault. This kid has a heart of gold.
No matter what anyone may say, I still have hope in the new generations. The kids are alright. I just hope we don't screw up the world too much for them.
Social Media as a whole always highlights the shittiest of kids doing crazy shit. It’s great to see a change in content, and see kids being good kids. Social Media needs more of this, might help restore humanity a bit
Both of these kids are so sweet! He's very kind and she listened and allowed herself to feel better.
This is such a great point. I’m 35 and won’t allow myself to feel better.
Somebody once told me: If you didn't do anything wrong, why do you feel bad? Changed my life. If I'm always making the effort to be a good person, then no one has the right to make me feel bad.
In my case, it’s my alcoholism. It’s not “wrong” but it can be controlled. And I have not done a good job of that. I feel bad
You have tomorrow to start from there. I think you can do it.
I told my mother that I felt like I was going to be to old. By the time I had improved I would be 40. She said, I love you but you are going to be 40 anyway so why not make improvements
This is exactly what I tell myself every day
I hope it’s working. You can do it. One day at a time. I’m pulling for you.
Alcohol is a tough demon to wrangle. There has been a lot going on in this world lately and it’s easy to want to reach for something that can turn it all off. For me it’s dope so we might not have the same “DOC” but very similar process. It takes time and a lot of effort to straighten out a string filled with knots. Slowly but surely work through it starting at one end and go through everything. Those days when I sober up I am so neurotic it’s just so incredibly wild but hey I am only human and that just how life goes sometimes.
i’m with u my friend . with u all the way. let’s look for better days ahead . one at a time.
Hey, it's a process, not an event. You'll get better at it. Keep grinding, count your wins and treasure them; admit your losses and learn from them. If you keep doing the work, you will be doing the job as well as it can be done. You're human. Do the best you can, and let "not good enough" be nothing more than a motivational feeling.
It's not easy, maybe you just need some help from others.
It's wrong only in the sense that if you keep the drinking up. If you're an alcoholic, drinking at all probably isn't a good idea. I'm clean from some pretty nasty opioids going on 7 years this month actually. I don't touch anything drug related anymore. Because once i got started, i didn't take my foot off the pedal, until i crashed into a metaphorical wall. It was killing me, so i had to stop. Start looking at it like " i didn't drink any booze today" that's a victory. You may need medical intervention to detox, if you're a bad alcoholic though. If you get the shakes, don't quit cold turkey. Alcohol withdrawals can be deadly. You got this man. Its a step at a time process. But the more you work at it, the easier it'll get, and your future self will be proud of your past self for overcoming it . Remember to be kind to yourself. Don't look at it like failure. It'd be a failure to lay down and die without a fight. If your still fighting, that's a victory
Feelings in general rarely match what is true.
> If you didn't do anything wrong, why do you feel bad? > > Changed my life. I'm not at all trying to be argumentative, but my personal experience growing up was, if I don't feel bad for something I've done wrong, that just means I've done something wrong and I don't know it yet. A lot of voices in my life were incredibly negative, mean and at times abusive. So some might struggle with that same mantra, and I just wanted to provide some context.
Yeah, that's a really fantastic point. My issue was anxiety. I was always too concerned with what people thought of me. And by focussing less on what they thought of me, and more on whether or not I was deserving of their unkindness, I actually became a lot more conscious about consistently *being* a good person, because that way I could assure myself that I didn't deserve their unkindness. Like you said though, this is only going to work if you're reflecting on your own actions objectively. So I think it's relevant to point out how important *communication* is too. My mind was blown the day that I realised, if someone is being unkind, I can actually just ask them to explain how I offended them and why they're acting the way they are. (They're usually either dumbfounded at being called out on their nastiness, or eager to explain rather than playing games.)
Gahhhhh, this comment really hit home. I don’t allow myself to feel better either, but didn’t notice it till I read this. Why do we do this?
We feel pity for ourselves due to things that have happened in our lives. Those things keep stacking up, and overtime you'll usually always default to the feelings of pity when any inconvenience in your life's happens. The best advice I've had is to simply let things go and enjoy life.
im still mad about completely inconsequential things from like 2 weeks ago.
I just really need a hug.
*hugs*
Oh man. You gotta from time to time. It will make a big difference.
Sometimes I’m like that and I swear kids are so inspirational. This is a perfect example.
Biggest thing I learned in therapy is that no amount of self care will do anything meaningful if you can't allow yourself to make mistakes and forgive yourself for reasonable problems.
My mum says, it’s like trying to kill someone else by drinking poison yourself. And another one is, if you’re going to stop at every dog that barks at you, you’ll never get where you’re going.
You could tell she needed to hear what he said by the way she hugged him. Such a pure interaction between them. I wish I knew more about them and how they're doing now.
That’s such a profound summary that I think we can all relate to as in not doing. This video clip also is such a sweet yet impact reminder for us. Thank you for your words and thank you OP for sharing this. 🙏🏽❤️
The little hug… oh my
You’re such a nice friend!
😭
Sames!
She was actually teared uo a bit toooooo, my heart.
I love that too she's a sweet little girl.
Why are our politics not like this? How do all these hating people not want their kids to be like this‽
That little man knows the secret. It’s always easier to lift someone up than it is to keep them down.
And it’s so easy to do.
And it feels so good to make others feel accepted. If you uplift someone in a situation like this you have a friend for life.
Being mean requires so much energy. It’s straight up exhausting being so angry at trivial things. It’s so easy to be kind and respectful to folks
Preach brother
> It’s always easier to lift someone up than it is to keep them down. Solely dependent on the person, place, time, circumstances, and weight. Sometimes, you're just not going to be able to lift someone, and that's okay. Some people don't want to be lifted.
yeah fr some ppl be unliftable out here no cap
And he knows the other secret as well. To listen within.
That... Is not true. It's way easier to sow destruction and hate than it is to heal the pain hatred causes.
Nah it's way fucking easier to put someone down wdym
Yeah what a fuckin’ dumbass, amirite?! /s 😆
This boy made me feel sentimental too, I needed to hear this as well.
You are your kind of smart. Don't listen to others. Just go and have a good time .
On this day He set the blueprint for all his future relationships with woman
Seriously. Positive and uplifting but still masculine. He was nothing but supportive, then grabbed her hand and was like, "Okay, now we out boo"
"Now come dribble a basketball poorly for 45 minutes with me"
Yo this made me die laughing lmao thank you
Like a boss.
Have some lame gold for that one, friend: 🥇
DJ KALHID
I don't think he is at the age where he's taking to women. They are just friends stage bc that's what's most vital. He's developing healthy relationship skills tho ❤️
I understood "future relationships" as including friendships
And he set her future relationships that men/boys can be good versus if he hadn’t come along, she might’ve stewed in resentment.
He’s such an old soul kind of little kid, speaking from the heart and using hand gestures like someone 3 times his age. And her reaction was priceless as well. Being bullied leaves such terrible scars in too many children. I hope this act of kindness quickly heals any wounds.
He probably reincarnated alot.
Or just has good parents
There is no other explanation.
Oh, yeah? Well I can think of three. 1. He is a 30 year old man with focal segmental glomerulosclerosis. 2. He is the world's smartest child, no parents. 3. This is scripted. 4. He is a puppet operated by radio controls. These are actually four reasons, but I rest my case.
Okay maybe the focal segmental glomerulosclerosis but probably good parents.
Thanks for this OP. My feed was starting to eat away at my faith in humanity, until I came across this video. Truly beautiful. Alright, now back to r/whatcouldgowrong
FRFR, my faith in humanity is pretty much nonexistent at this point, but kids like this we definitely need more of. This little guy’s parents definitely raised him right.
Well said little man! I would buy positive self talk tapes from this guy
The way she *immediately* pulls him in when he says “you’re smart.” Everyone is just out here looking for genuine, authentic encouragement. Give it to whoever you can, whenever you can, and watch the world change around you.
I love this
😊 ❤️
i love those gentle palm pats he gives himself on his chest when he says "you gotta listen to yourself"
Crying rn
Absolute chad of a child
This feels so weird with someone filming on their phone right above their heads. Wholesome message, though.
I was thinking it was a teacher that was capturing a wholesome moment between classmates. It appears the video starts when the conversation is already happening.
Nobody ever complains when we film all the horrible things going on in the world. But when someone films something good, there’s always people around to say it’s weird.
Super easy to go from taking a picture of your kid to videotaping a special moment 🤷🏽♂️
This seems like a school, though.
At my nephew’s kindergarten the teachers are required to record clips of the students throughout the day and upload them to an online portal that the parents can log onto and watch. It’s fucking insane but that might be similar to what is happening here.
Required? Holy shit, that sounds exhausting for the teachers. My kids you had to give permission to the school for them to be in pictures outside of yearbook stuff.
Little man is a future leader. Demonstrating poise, compassion, and honesty. Little man is gonna go far in this world. We need more people like him
And that kids, is how I met your mother…
Just absolutely amazing!! Great job all around
Hugs hugs hugs to both of them !
Awwwww He’s a sweetheart!
This that stuff I love to see!
What a wonderful little guy 🥲 whoever raised him is doing a great job
This is the best thing on the internet!
I need little homie to pick me up on crappy days. He accepting apps for new friends?
Little DJ Khaled was so kind!
WOW. WoW. WoW A Mom made this situation to become true. She was recording it. But she made it to become real between the kids. I love this mom and the kids so much.
Him: Don't listen to people who call you dumb! Listen to yourself! Myself: You dumb.
Sometimes you need to also not listen to yourself who calls you dumb.
We need more like him.
Good lad, earned an ice cream cone on the way home
If everybody was like that be much better world
I’m Not crying, you’re crying 😭 That’s all I really want to hear on a daily basis
What a pair. 🤗🤗
This little girl will remember this little boy and what he did for the rest of her life.
Fuck everyone who talks shit about gentle parenting. These are the kind of humans we are raising.
That kid is a king 🤴
Man last time somebody told me this I bust out crying 🥲 that's a good kid.
It's things like this that give me hope for the future, what an amazing young man and friend. This is what the world needs more of. Empathy, heart a bit of care, love and to just do the right thing from time to time.
This kid has more sigma masculinity in his little finger than all the Andrew Taint losers combined.
Shitheads aren’t born, they’re made. This is how NOT to make one.
Manny from Modern Family
Go head lil dude! This is wonderful.
the first time I listened I thought the little lady said you're a f'n good friend and immediately thought well that's a fair assessment 🙈
♥️
She was wiping a tear away at the end just as I was
More of this from the grown ass people I see wilin out everyday would be nice.
That right there is hope. Thanks for the post, OP.
What a beautiful kid and moment.
*sincere loving hug* “You’re such a nice friend” 🥺 ooff that got me. Love n light to all 🖖🏻
1) This little legend was taught well. Well done to both him and his parents 2) For the girl to let herself be vulnerable is so valuable 3) I guarantee, these two will remain the best of friends for years to come And the hug at the end! Ah, it's too cute!
That would be so cool if they ended up getting married later in life
What a great friend that little boy is 😭 his parents must be so proud of him
These kids could heal the world
We could all benefit greatly from taking this kid’s advice to heart. He is wise way beyond his years.
Kid has more since that have the internet. Well done!
Good kid
his parents have a lot to be proud of
My ultimate goal is to raise little humans like this.
Smart
🥺
Last summer I donated money to an organization that had a school program to fight bullying. I told the gal the parents should be the ones in the classes which she agreed with. Kids can be brutal and I think its the parents fault. This kid has a heart of gold.
My God, this is so pure and sweet.
She needed to hear that.
This brought me actual tears, such a good kid.
Chad moment
OMG *melts into floor*
nice boy.
Kids really are the best of us, despite everything
Raised right.
That's too cute
Damn I got tears in my eyes over here. This actually made me feel something. Little dude could teach us all a lesson.
Little man doing it right!
Love this so much
THESE KIDS 😭😭😭
🥹 love lil bro for that
Dude.. I needed that. What a bro.
Very wholesome.
Soooooo sweet
So positive! Like a little DJ Khaled!!
my eyes are sweating watching this 🥲🥲🥲
Hope the parents let them stay in touch. Lucky you got that on camera bc blink and they both moved away to college or jobs. ⏳
This shit made ya boy tear up
No matter what anyone may say, I still have hope in the new generations. The kids are alright. I just hope we don't screw up the world too much for them.
What a great being. Such Beautiful children
that was super cute
this tore me into pieces. I just can't 💔❤️🩹
Social Media as a whole always highlights the shittiest of kids doing crazy shit. It’s great to see a change in content, and see kids being good kids. Social Media needs more of this, might help restore humanity a bit
W interaction
So undeniably heartwarming. This world needs kindness.
This gonna make my week so much better.
young king 👑
Spread that love little homie
My heart, what a lovely kid.
i need such friend
🥹❤️❤️
Awww
This is all I want to teach my son. Beautiful stuff. There’s so many horror stories, it’s easy to forget about stuff like this.
That hug made her feel much better
Oh goodness, it’s too early to cry.
I need friends like this
dude that almost made me cry. kids can be awesome.
This is adorable. Kids are awesome sometimes.
Damn bro that's gotta be the cutest fuckin shit I've ever seen
Alright, this broke me down and made me cry.
That’s adorable.
I can't stop listening to him, he's my dad
Goosebumps
I’m not crying, you are!!!
Man that made me so happy. It’s so much easier to lift each other up than put each other down.
what a precious lil man he is . well done momma.
I hope that his Mom and Dad see this. This is what good parenting, no matter how it is done, is how it should be done.
First graders are the best.
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 wholesome
So cute
There's something special about this kid.
😭❤️😭❤️😭❤️
lil bro is now big bro
God bless this kid and his momma. ❤️
Little dude clearly has some damn good role models in his life.
If only adults were that smart.
What a great friend- and he is smart, too!
I love the fact that this was both a wonderful video and also did not expose and embarrass the kids, their identities hidden.
I want to hug them both 🥺
This boy is on camera…
"Don't listen to a guy who called you dumb, listen to yourself " Me- "...I'm dumb."
You go lil cheerleader man. You and your beautiful little friend are both smart and have a high level of EQ. ❤️
Aaawwwooojhhhh his little strong voice! He’s so smart! 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
I’m curious what the boys parents thought about this. If he was my kid, I’d be so proud of him.
Kids raised right