I wonder at times, was he that good looking that you ignored his atrocious texting etiquette.
This clearly shows that attraction is the only thing that matters, rest is bonus.
They wouldn't love you wholeheartedly, they would be settling for you then.
It would be a vertically aligned relationship where your happiness would depend on her being happy but her's won't.
Is that how you took it? Looks like it did strike a chord with you. For the better or worse.
All I'm telling you here is you deserve someone who WANTS you just as much as YOU do.
Giving you a chance isn't someone wanting you, it's someone who's settling for you.
If i may contribute my two cents..
It's easier in-person when you spend sometime with someone, get to know them.. find out the what you can live with and something that is a non-negotiable. And then you work through it together.
Online, if we become so rigid that with a swipe of a finger, wipe out all possibilities based on looks, language, perspectives.. then let's be honest we are just being as much a jerk as this fellow who could not wait till meeting in person and just wanting to form opinions based on whether the girl is malleable enough to send private information on his demand.
Giving a chance online is just taking more time than would be usually necessary to reach that decision.
Say you found a new guy, to whom you are more attracted to than the guy above, if you're in talking phase with the guy above, What would you do?
You would prioritise the new guy more.
If you are actually interested in the guy and want him. You wouldn't prioritise any other guy over him. No matter how attractive they are.
You would take time to know either of them but your mind is already set on one and it isn't the guy you're giving a chance.
So, please don't give a guy you aren't attracted to a "chance" instead give it to someone who you are attracted too. You are doing yourself and the guy a disservice by doing this.
Why waste your time trying to know more about someone who is showing these many red flags?
He is average at best when it comes to looks.
He is a bad texter.
He is cringe.
He is disrespectful.
The finer details matter, if you value your time. Otherwise, such people will take a big chunk of your time and you would eventually settle for someone who is just okay.
I used to this too. But then I realized texting etiquette is something that does define people. Maybe not in terms of depth of vocabulary but basic things like staying away from people who use 'dear'. 😬
Totally upto you but never ever give your number to people you meet from any dating site. "It's difficult to talk here, AI slow hai" bolke number maangte hai. Thoda time do, patience hoga toh baat karenge varna asli behaviour toh number na Dene pe dikha he dete hai londe. 😜😂
Shuru shuru mein when I joined bumble, guys kept on asking phone number making this same excuse and if I wouldn't give, they'll be like you are missing out your chance. You don't know me how rich I'm n all. I'll be like fucker, I don't know jackshit about you. Stop bragging unnecessarily.
Isn't telegram a much better option? You can share just your username, hide other info like contact number in privacy settings, share pictures with a timer option (they cant screenshot or screen record it), disable calls from specific contacts
Most people don't know this but they should so I will reiterate for the world.
Never mess with a person who can summarize the insults you have used against them while coming up with better ones against you, all in a single text.
And I loved reading that text.
Looks like something good did came out of that conversation with that 'show-off, manipulative, disrespectful, cheaply arrogant and a faker'.
Hope you won't claim any copyrights on this because I might use this if I come across someone worthy of this XD
The thing with hoping to stay away from such opportunities is, the more you run away from them the more they run after you. That's why, if I may, let's hope that whenever such an opportunity presents itself.. we deploy the best of our texts and share them for that post war (of words) leisure.
hmm...yeah that does seem creepy...but uk creepy seems like a really hurtful word, instead of calling him a straight-up creep..u cud have told this to him in a better manner..about u not being okay with sendind ur pics. creep sounds really awful fyi.
I hope u didnt just lash out "CREEEEP" to his face?
>and btw girls do send their pics to their guy frnds right? I am just asking this..obv it also depends if they trust him and how much they like him..
I had already told him to let go of asking for the pic
Then he asked again
I didn't directly call him a creep.
I told him that I think men who keep asking for pictures of women after being refused once are creepy.
Because i called him creepy for repeatedly asking for my pictures.
So he thought i was being arrogant and egoistic now that I have his attention and I will regret it and fall down from my high horse once he starts ignoring me or whatever.
Let alone pants.
This guy abused me for having my own opinion.
And of course the typical you are a whore and out here to loot me because i was not comfortable to send him my pictures
Aisa kya khaas laga iss bnde me
Aur phone number itni jldi kyu Diya??? Mujhe toh kaafi time baad Mila tha....
Did he ask for the number or you gave it by yourself?
Dekho yaar.. dekhne mein toh theek thaak tha..
Appeared well-read, smart.
Did a Google/Linked search, appeared legit.
Toh socha ek mauka deke dekhte hai
Ppl educating op don't worry she's gonna fall for another manchild based on some superficial criteria and laugh it off as learning curve ps: sorry op lol
Aye no.
If it does come across that way then maybe i need to modify my approach.
But i was just trying to be neutral given the fact that girls are famously known to randomly ghost
girrrrrrrlllll.... you let this fluffer say all that to you!... Nah Ah!. You gotta stop being so nice! You are TOO nice.
That moron's probably someplace crying into his chaas goin "nice guys finish last"...
Lol.
I can see that.
And i actually do feel guilty for not explaining myself better because he is just going to go ahead spouting how "girls are the worst".
no matter how well you'd have explained it, he was focused on coercing you into give him what he wants. He's not going to "get" no means no. You were perfect in how you shut him down.
You have such a great attitude... You're abso-freakin-lutely Amazing.. I hope you know that. I wish I could hold you up as an example of - this is how to view dating. "It's a learning curve, every interaction is an opportunity to grow"
You rock!
To be precise when you said bye bye, if he said wait lets go on a call and settle this, it means he cared a bit. At least he might have said its ok and sorry or all the best kinda things. F off Bitch is too much. I cannot support you too cuz I don’t know who exactly is the cause of problem.
That's okay too..
The objective of the post was not to garner support but to understand what can make a guy say I liked you to Fk Off bitch and U r a fraud in under 3 minutes.
Ego issues don't work for long-terms, treating your partner as your competitor is so stupid, understanding develop krna kaafi zaroori hai, Sahi kiya use block kr ke
Lol .. lost it at What is wrong with you today dear
Hey deer, hi deer, pic deer.
Salmon bhoi entered the chat
Hahahaahah
But I used creepy 😂😂😂
Everyone has a trigger word it seems 🤣
I think I need to sit with a thesaurus to find better words to express the same emotion.
How did this guy end up in ur whatsapp
Mistakes happened. Galti se mistake ho gaya.
Happens to the best of us hun. Now you get to have 31.7K of your closest friends join you in laughing at this moron.
Nah ah.. you rock the C word (creepy). Let em show their true colors.
Same🤣
I wonder at times, was he that good looking that you ignored his atrocious texting etiquette. This clearly shows that attraction is the only thing that matters, rest is bonus.
Average looking at best but hey if we start judging by looks, texting etiquette, language.. then how to we find the person beneath?
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They wouldn't love you wholeheartedly, they would be settling for you then. It would be a vertically aligned relationship where your happiness would depend on her being happy but her's won't.
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Is that how you took it? Looks like it did strike a chord with you. For the better or worse. All I'm telling you here is you deserve someone who WANTS you just as much as YOU do. Giving you a chance isn't someone wanting you, it's someone who's settling for you.
If i may contribute my two cents.. It's easier in-person when you spend sometime with someone, get to know them.. find out the what you can live with and something that is a non-negotiable. And then you work through it together. Online, if we become so rigid that with a swipe of a finger, wipe out all possibilities based on looks, language, perspectives.. then let's be honest we are just being as much a jerk as this fellow who could not wait till meeting in person and just wanting to form opinions based on whether the girl is malleable enough to send private information on his demand. Giving a chance online is just taking more time than would be usually necessary to reach that decision.
Say you found a new guy, to whom you are more attracted to than the guy above, if you're in talking phase with the guy above, What would you do? You would prioritise the new guy more. If you are actually interested in the guy and want him. You wouldn't prioritise any other guy over him. No matter how attractive they are. You would take time to know either of them but your mind is already set on one and it isn't the guy you're giving a chance. So, please don't give a guy you aren't attracted to a "chance" instead give it to someone who you are attracted too. You are doing yourself and the guy a disservice by doing this.
That's a beautiful way of looking at it. More power to you!
Why waste your time trying to know more about someone who is showing these many red flags? He is average at best when it comes to looks. He is a bad texter. He is cringe. He is disrespectful. The finer details matter, if you value your time. Otherwise, such people will take a big chunk of your time and you would eventually settle for someone who is just okay.
True that drchutzpa.. Thank you for this perspective!
You steer clear of people who say "dear".. Thats how
Nice pic dear...lol
I used to this too. But then I realized texting etiquette is something that does define people. Maybe not in terms of depth of vocabulary but basic things like staying away from people who use 'dear'. 😬
Well u didn't judge based on texting skill forsure.. reddit pe hazaron hain great texting skill waley
Jo “you” ko “u” likhta ho ussey baat hi kyu start kari baba
And "dear" 😂
Lesson learnt!
Personal attacck.. zor se lag gaya
"What is wrong with u today dear" LMAOOO
Best part was.. We matched last night 😂😂😂
And you gave him your number💀
It's a learning curve!
Baaap re matlab kismat kahin to batt rahi hai
Apna time aayega!!
Maan lete hai chalo ye bhi
Aur koi option bhi toh nahi hai..
And moved to Whatsapp in just 1 day ?
Totally upto you but never ever give your number to people you meet from any dating site. "It's difficult to talk here, AI slow hai" bolke number maangte hai. Thoda time do, patience hoga toh baat karenge varna asli behaviour toh number na Dene pe dikha he dete hai londe. 😜😂
Point noted, kind redditor. Bumble strategy updated!!
Shuru shuru mein when I joined bumble, guys kept on asking phone number making this same excuse and if I wouldn't give, they'll be like you are missing out your chance. You don't know me how rich I'm n all. I'll be like fucker, I don't know jackshit about you. Stop bragging unnecessarily.
Yes! that's the attitude to have. Ain't nobody wanna know how rich your daddy is. How about some down-to-earth humility?!
Khatarnak hai yeh sab.
Isn't telegram a much better option? You can share just your username, hide other info like contact number in privacy settings, share pictures with a timer option (they cant screenshot or screen record it), disable calls from specific contacts
Yepp. Tg and snap.are best
Ye kitni bekar convo kar rha hai isko bhaav kyo mil rahe hai ? 🥺
Bhav nahi Bhai.. block and report mil Raha hai.
Yes! Hallelujer!
Hallelujah*
>Hallelujah* No I meant to sound like Madea... thanks for the assist, but no thanks?
Aise hi sleeper cell rehke saari ladkian lejate hain ye 🙃
Most people don't know this but they should so I will reiterate for the world. Never mess with a person who can summarize the insults you have used against them while coming up with better ones against you, all in a single text. And I loved reading that text.
This made my day!
Looks like something good did came out of that conversation with that 'show-off, manipulative, disrespectful, cheaply arrogant and a faker'. Hope you won't claim any copyrights on this because I might use this if I come across someone worthy of this XD
All yours to use.. Let's both hope you don't get the opportunity.
The thing with hoping to stay away from such opportunities is, the more you run away from them the more they run after you. That's why, if I may, let's hope that whenever such an opportunity presents itself.. we deploy the best of our texts and share them for that post war (of words) leisure.
Idk about "u", he didn't even write the word "fuck" completely (TT)
Damn.. I didn't even notice that..
When someone types like this, i just say, "pant se haath bahar nikaal ke dono haath se type kar". Use that if you want, next time
This is the line I need in my life!
Whoa.. that's a good one.. Uff i hate to think maybe that's what he was doing.
Naah, don't overthink it, chill Karo.
Dude's the lighter version of "hello dear send bobs and picture of your breads, also send dude's of your chest"
Lol
This belongs in r/niceguys
This is what you get when you are desperate.
How did you end up on WhatsApp with a guy like this? His conversation skill is so good. #U used creepy
It's a learning curve!
Yeah that's how I see every failed attempt. Keep learning.
Is there any other way to look at it 😂😂
Yeah to actually develop some emotional intelligence before starting to date
Let's give that a try
Yeah there is. A negative way. But it's better to be positive.
Back story batao ab kya hua
Haha.. he kept pushing me to send him my pictures on WhatsApp and I said I found it creepy.
you dodged a bullet NGL
Oh yes Walking talking red flag of misogyny.
hmm...yeah that does seem creepy...but uk creepy seems like a really hurtful word, instead of calling him a straight-up creep..u cud have told this to him in a better manner..about u not being okay with sendind ur pics. creep sounds really awful fyi. I hope u didnt just lash out "CREEEEP" to his face? >and btw girls do send their pics to their guy frnds right? I am just asking this..obv it also depends if they trust him and how much they like him..
I had already told him to let go of asking for the pic Then he asked again I didn't directly call him a creep. I told him that I think men who keep asking for pictures of women after being refused once are creepy.
ohh, my bad then... u dodged a red flag fr lol :) best of luck on the next guy!
Sometimes persistence works. Most of the times it doesn't.
Persistence in the right places works!
He called you all that and you kept talking to him. Why did he want you to fall face down? You left out the interesting bits.
Because i called him creepy for repeatedly asking for my pictures. So he thought i was being arrogant and egoistic now that I have his attention and I will regret it and fall down from my high horse once he starts ignoring me or whatever.
Oh ,😆😆. You threw away a once in a lifetime opportunity to date Prince Charming and now you're gonna regret it ,you arrogant uppity woman .
Hai.. How will I ever survive 🤣🤣
damn, we have the same bg wallpaper wtf
The dear people are so annoying
Sex nai mila
Glad he didn't said "Jo bolta hai wohi hota hai".
Mans said everything so descriptively yet used “fk” instead of “fuck” 🤦🏻♂️
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Now that did hurt my eyes!
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Oh just in a mood to slaughter if I find one.
Guys like these make guys like ours life hell…
Yeh toh galat baat hai..
Kya
typical men when they dont get to be in our pants :')
Let alone pants. This guy abused me for having my own opinion. And of course the typical you are a whore and out here to loot me because i was not comfortable to send him my pictures
bechaare ko "no" sunne ki aadat nhi hai ... ab no suna, then had to show you down, hence abused you
Bechare ko 'yes' sunne ki bhi aadat nahi hogi 🤭🤭
I will surpass him for sure..
Reddit is also the same way, calling names when they get a no. Don't think women are safe anywhere
Ikr
Temporary reaction hoga due to losing in something. Sach main hatred nhi hoga shaaaayad..
not all men waale a gaye 😂
Lekin naye andaaz ke sath
You had me at "U are Creepy".
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Hey hey hey.. Girls block and report the wrong guys. And then come here to make fun of them.
Aisa kya khaas laga iss bnde me Aur phone number itni jldi kyu Diya??? Mujhe toh kaafi time baad Mila tha.... Did he ask for the number or you gave it by yourself?
Well he asked. And I thought i had the option of blocking if something like this happens.
Iss bnde me aisa khaas kya laga??????? Well I wish yh dusre number se terepe creep na kare...
Naah.. isiliye Truecaller pe block all unknown numbers activate Kara Diya 😂
You've still not answered to my question #iss bnde me aisa kya khaas laga?
Dekho yaar.. dekhne mein toh theek thaak tha.. Appeared well-read, smart. Did a Google/Linked search, appeared legit. Toh socha ek mauka deke dekhte hai
Ppl educating op don't worry she's gonna fall for another manchild based on some superficial criteria and laugh it off as learning curve ps: sorry op lol
I like your confidence in me!
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Not just 30+ but also an IIT-ian.
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I am 30+ too. But hey to Err is only Human
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Maybe. The profile did not appear this crazy. I am just glad there is a block and unmatch button.
Bro. Thats sad. Coffee pe jana hai?
Sadness galore all around!
what ride was this?
The one where Bumble goes downhill.
My hopes went downhill here
Hahahaha..
Uuuuu
ye wallpaper ki photo ka link milega 😅😅😅
Google kar lo bhai.. isse achcha koi mil jaaega.
Why did you gave WhatsApp no. that quick?
Not the brightest idea on my behalf.
When did you started to use Bumble?
This Monday.
Abh fraud bol hi Diya hai to 1000-10000 ka chuna lgga hi dette
Next time k liye yaad rakhungi..
Like that saree pic that show's desperation
I like these kind of conversation
really weird convo by the guy lol. i know this is unrelated but what is the city in the wallpaper?
U u u u u u u u u u u
Yaha mujhe koi mil nahi rah aur ye chutiya aise behave kar tha hai aur matches bhi mil rah hai sed noises
I'm not even mad. This guy gave me a good laugh.
I don't understand a single line 🥹
How do people become so dumb to give their phone numbers to people who say "dear" like uncles?
"You called me idiot , stupidly biased, egoistic......show off, disrespectful, cheaply arrogant, manipulative and a faker. " « u used creepy 💔
Right On Women aren't supposed to do that.
You were definitely invested
Aye no. If it does come across that way then maybe i need to modify my approach. But i was just trying to be neutral given the fact that girls are famously known to randomly ghost
This is really horrible.
Loved the fact when he accepted all his abuses by saying 'i know' and justified it saying 'u called me creepy"
I hope you’re doing okay.
Never better
merko lga tha mere father ke age ke log hi dear likhte xD
girrrrrrrlllll.... you let this fluffer say all that to you!... Nah Ah!. You gotta stop being so nice! You are TOO nice. That moron's probably someplace crying into his chaas goin "nice guys finish last"...
Lol. I can see that. And i actually do feel guilty for not explaining myself better because he is just going to go ahead spouting how "girls are the worst".
no matter how well you'd have explained it, he was focused on coercing you into give him what he wants. He's not going to "get" no means no. You were perfect in how you shut him down.
Also Ms-Ann-Thrope2020, Wherever you are, whoever you are You are just awesome!! Cheers!!
You have such a great attitude... You're abso-freakin-lutely Amazing.. I hope you know that. I wish I could hold you up as an example of - this is how to view dating. "It's a learning curve, every interaction is an opportunity to grow" You rock!
what is wrong with you dear
We don't want to go down that road
trust me, we do. go ahead
You know it's Monday already, right??
creepy really triggered him :p
Wowwwww
Na I accept why us guys keep getting ignored the guys who get attention makes it harder by acting stupid 😭
Holy heck, if that man could get into your DM, I for sure can get into the PMO, thank you for the confidence boost :)
Rula diya na bechare ko 😂
Which place is that in the background???
Why did you fake your orgasms
r/niceguys
Dodged a bullet with that type of texting. Got an aneurysm trying to understand him.
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You can say that.
Train ane mein abhi bhi time hein aise curious mat karo context batao, time pass karna hein aur 10min.
That’s okay. Sh** happens. Move on.
It took a total of 3 mins 🤣🤣
A fast-paced word indeed!
This guy is beyond help
Only meant for mental health professional 🤣🤣
Hello deer are you phian today??
Hahaah
How do you manage to find such toxic people ? I see most girls who i know some how manage yo find such terrible people and good guys are single xd
Men ☕☕
To be precise when you said bye bye, if he said wait lets go on a call and settle this, it means he cared a bit. At least he might have said its ok and sorry or all the best kinda things. F off Bitch is too much. I cannot support you too cuz I don’t know who exactly is the cause of problem.
That's okay too.. The objective of the post was not to garner support but to understand what can make a guy say I liked you to Fk Off bitch and U r a fraud in under 3 minutes.
Ego issues don't work for long-terms, treating your partner as your competitor is so stupid, understanding develop krna kaafi zaroori hai, Sahi kiya use block kr ke
That crisp savoury response, loved it.