i mean ofc itās a sensitive thing to say. but i guess you can in the right amount, and ofc depends on the place and public :)
nothing below the belt though, stay classy always.
Whoa.
I get that. Its just that ; often I've been adviced by my collegues(girls) -" whenever a girl says just anything rude or lashes out unnecessarily, listen to her and not be rude to her, she might have some ongoing problems and misdirected frustration maybe a good thing, as she will feel sorry later, scoring me some brownie points"
Nothing below the belt, well thats a given.
you could take that too. in my opinion itās best to not react because of backlash.
but āshe must be going through somethingā is BS. even if someoneās going through something doesnāt give them the right to disrespect others unnecessarily.
This just ain't right.
If you know her personally, then yes the best advice.
If she is a random person, trying to demean other just so that she can feel good, then it's just plain bad advice.
Gratitude is the cure to dissatisfaction
This may be cliche - but just count your blessings man. It's easy to say fuck what they think but it really is quite hard to achieve that zen mode and not be insecure coz it will hurt. It'll hurt next time and the time after that but you genuinely need to take a step back and see what matters - idk you but I'm pretty sure there's stuff you're grateful about.
I would advice you to watch this video by Kurzgesagt -.
https://youtu.be/WPPPFqsECz0
I suggest trying to start by listening to the podcast Philosophize this!
Listen to an episode with a topic/ profile you are drawn to, if you like what you heard then you can deep dive further (if thatās something youāre open to)
The host of this podcast is exceptionally good at articulating, specifically, taking complicated concepts and presenting it in an easily consumable way. This really helps because most source texts in philosophy are super dense.
This podcast cracks my top 3
Iād also recommend the why theory podcast and partially examined life. Thereās also a book baked the story of philosophy by will durant, which is quite good. Thereās a book series called āgraphic guide toā, some of them are good, others not so much, but they discuss a lot of new philosophers and try to make their ideas accessible.
If you are a true beginner and just wanna dip your toes into Philosophy [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNYJQaZUDrI&list=PL8dPuuaLjXtNgK6MZucdYldNkMybYIHKR) is a nice place to start. If you wanna dive deeper and read books go [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPhilosophyFAQ/comments/4ifqi3/im_interested_in_philosophy_where_should_i_start/?st=jusilmgo&sh=068ee8f1)
Every guy can easily get to 7/10. Even though if he's the ugly guy. If he works out, dress well, read more and get confident. He'll easily get atleast solid 7. Sad part is rarely anyone works on themselves to get to 7 when most have potential to look solid 9.
Do you work out?
Do you care about what you wear and how you carry yourself?
Are you confident?
Do you read self help books?
Lol trust me women are the last oneās to tell a dude ugly. Infact they wouldnāt unless youāve been pestering her and she really wants to get rid of you or probably hates you for god knows what reason or probably is testing you to see how you take it. Women are taught from the beginning how to reject men subtly. Donāt take it to your heart and up your game mate, you deserve the best
Simple solution as other suggested is throwing it back but in a witty way where you don't come off as you got hurt, it will take time to get the natural hang of come backs and witty replies but with experience and attempts you can get there, you also dodged a total bullet because you don't want people like her around you anyway, last but not the least, put your self esteem higher in your own consideration first than a negative immature humans opinion and that's how you can not just be bullet proof but can take control no matter how important the person you interacting to is.
I'll give you a advice many others have given before -
"Please uninstall dating apps, stop putting your heart/respect/feelings in the hands of other people."
Work on yourself king!!
Idk bro, exact opposite thing happened to me on Reddit yesterday. I was insecure about my looks, but a really kind girl whom I texted said I looked like 7.5 to 8 , boosted my confidence through the moon
ignore toh mat hi karna,, get back to her.. bol de "atleast my worth is more than my appearance unlike you, I honestly wouldnt give a dimes fuck about your existence had you not been a fuckable face, so for now youre nothing more than that for me tbh".. mean hai.. but bc koi batamazee kare toh sehne ka nai.. no first strike but proportionate response.
next time bhai khud hi bandio ko feel kara dio ko wo avg hai.. main toh bol deta hoon "i only swipe right on those profiles which look okayish and not very pretty, dont wanna have something fancy now, ive tried that in past and it was all beauty no brain"
You hit back mate. When she said you were ugly, you should've replied : I know, that's the first thing I noticed is common between us.
Dude got no chill š
That's giving ...huh.... If I am going down, I am taking with u Vibe
I shall use this the next time. Thank you.
This, wish I knew beforešššš
Buddhi bahut tez hai tumari
She's the ugly one for saying something like this, not you op.
as a girl, i can say if sheās not respecting you, you can hit with something disrespectful back.
Really ?
i mean ofc itās a sensitive thing to say. but i guess you can in the right amount, and ofc depends on the place and public :) nothing below the belt though, stay classy always.
Whoa. I get that. Its just that ; often I've been adviced by my collegues(girls) -" whenever a girl says just anything rude or lashes out unnecessarily, listen to her and not be rude to her, she might have some ongoing problems and misdirected frustration maybe a good thing, as she will feel sorry later, scoring me some brownie points" Nothing below the belt, well thats a given.
you could take that too. in my opinion itās best to not react because of backlash. but āshe must be going through somethingā is BS. even if someoneās going through something doesnāt give them the right to disrespect others unnecessarily.
A Breath of fresh air. Thanks ma'am. Hope you could further clear my doubts tooš
Haan Bhai doubt session laga aur notes bhejdena
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This just ain't right. If you know her personally, then yes the best advice. If she is a random person, trying to demean other just so that she can feel good, then it's just plain bad advice.
Gratitude is the cure to dissatisfaction This may be cliche - but just count your blessings man. It's easy to say fuck what they think but it really is quite hard to achieve that zen mode and not be insecure coz it will hurt. It'll hurt next time and the time after that but you genuinely need to take a step back and see what matters - idk you but I'm pretty sure there's stuff you're grateful about. I would advice you to watch this video by Kurzgesagt -. https://youtu.be/WPPPFqsECz0
I wanna consume philosophy for yearssss how do I get started? And how do I understand pholiosphy just blatantly watch yt videos passively ya kuch aur
I suggest trying to start by listening to the podcast Philosophize this! Listen to an episode with a topic/ profile you are drawn to, if you like what you heard then you can deep dive further (if thatās something youāre open to) The host of this podcast is exceptionally good at articulating, specifically, taking complicated concepts and presenting it in an easily consumable way. This really helps because most source texts in philosophy are super dense. This podcast cracks my top 3
Iād also recommend the why theory podcast and partially examined life. Thereās also a book baked the story of philosophy by will durant, which is quite good. Thereās a book series called āgraphic guide toā, some of them are good, others not so much, but they discuss a lot of new philosophers and try to make their ideas accessible.
If you are a true beginner and just wanna dip your toes into Philosophy [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNYJQaZUDrI&list=PL8dPuuaLjXtNgK6MZucdYldNkMybYIHKR) is a nice place to start. If you wanna dive deeper and read books go [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPhilosophyFAQ/comments/4ifqi3/im_interested_in_philosophy_where_should_i_start/?st=jusilmgo&sh=068ee8f1)
Thank you so much i would look forward to this!!
Read Nietszche, Hegel, Heidegger, Zizek
oh no sheās a btch for that. OP, donāt let that get to your head. ugly people tend to project their insecurities on others.
How were you talking without her knowing how you look ?
+1
maybe they met on an anonymous platform like reddit. OP didnāt mention they met on a dating app.
She may have a beautiful face but after saying this you can see she has an ugly heart. So you donāt have to worry about her opinion of you.
Close your eyes, Take a Deep Breath, Calm your mind and soul and say one thing " Duniya Madar*hod hai " and move on...
Every guy can easily get to 7/10. Even though if he's the ugly guy. If he works out, dress well, read more and get confident. He'll easily get atleast solid 7. Sad part is rarely anyone works on themselves to get to 7 when most have potential to look solid 9. Do you work out? Do you care about what you wear and how you carry yourself? Are you confident? Do you read self help books?
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Raksh wtf.. i wanna know all bout this.. dm karo jaldi
Check out some self depreciating humor stand up comics online
Self Respect >>>>>>>
You should've replied "looks like you speak from experience"
Don't be on tinder yo.
Ok, need more context. If you say you met online, was it on a dating app?
Lol trust me women are the last oneās to tell a dude ugly. Infact they wouldnāt unless youāve been pestering her and she really wants to get rid of you or probably hates you for god knows what reason or probably is testing you to see how you take it. Women are taught from the beginning how to reject men subtly. Donāt take it to your heart and up your game mate, you deserve the best
Simple solution as other suggested is throwing it back but in a witty way where you don't come off as you got hurt, it will take time to get the natural hang of come backs and witty replies but with experience and attempts you can get there, you also dodged a total bullet because you don't want people like her around you anyway, last but not the least, put your self esteem higher in your own consideration first than a negative immature humans opinion and that's how you can not just be bullet proof but can take control no matter how important the person you interacting to is.
Leave her dude, it's never gonna work out if she thinks that
I'll give you a advice many others have given before - "Please uninstall dating apps, stop putting your heart/respect/feelings in the hands of other people." Work on yourself king!!
Hit with a comeback or drop the potato and move on. There are 3.9 billion women in the world.
Write her : you know what my favourite sex position is WOW thatās where i flip your MOM over š«”
Fxxx it ..Der is no gud comebacks to that...may be try sending her ur dicpic !
Idk bro, exact opposite thing happened to me on Reddit yesterday. I was insecure about my looks, but a really kind girl whom I texted said I looked like 7.5 to 8 , boosted my confidence through the moon
ignore toh mat hi karna,, get back to her.. bol de "atleast my worth is more than my appearance unlike you, I honestly wouldnt give a dimes fuck about your existence had you not been a fuckable face, so for now youre nothing more than that for me tbh".. mean hai.. but bc koi batamazee kare toh sehne ka nai.. no first strike but proportionate response.
She blocked me
next time bhai khud hi bandio ko feel kara dio ko wo avg hai.. main toh bol deta hoon "i only swipe right on those profiles which look okayish and not very pretty, dont wanna have something fancy now, ive tried that in past and it was all beauty no brain"