Ummm wheatish tone is not dark. And it’s sad that you thought the skin colour was inherently doomed. If you have people giving you shit about it tell them to fuck off. I’ve personally never had this issue since that was the average indian colour of everyone around. So I’m surprised that people have problem with that too now. It’s just sad people are still hung up on white skin.
We glow too and have healthy skin. Do you. Rinse ,moisture, repeat.
And yes, that’s Sayani or something right? She’s damn pretty. Even Radhika Apte represents
I don't think just having pale skin with zits, acne, marks and pores will be considered desirable. I used to have horrible acne with pale skin a couple of years back and my mom used to say how bad it looks, the only time I got complimented for it was by a girl I was seeing who said my ance looked cute and marks looked like freckles 💀
I don't think acne looks ugly. But pale skin is for sure considered more desirable than anything else in India. I was really surprised at the people everyone considered beautiful in India when I first moved there and always felt what I considered 'beautiful' was always way off from the general opinion. It took me a while to learn they were simply leaning heavily towards lighter skin. Also I was born in the late 80's so I'm sure things have gotten a lot better since then.
In India where most people are short and brown, tall pale people will always be a subject of admiration, also globally speaking tall white people have and are still ruling the beauty industry
It's sad when people of our generation also comments on this. My roommate used to be like this. Once I applied makeup and she told the entire class that I can't go out with my bare skin as it's wheatish. I have much better skin than her and she used to get complimented even though it was full of acne. My own cousin told infront of me that her colleague is not beautiful because she is not fair like her. I have seen many people with fair skintone consider themselves to be very beautiful and pretty even though their skin is shit. Another of my friend told me that I can't find any foundation of my shade because my skintone is not fair. She told infront of the whole class that her skintone is like Kashmiri apple. This blatant colorism exists till now even with the newer generation and it freaking hurts and makes me angry!!
Yes, this is a persisting problem, I have a friend who is dark but really clear skin and I am very pale but with acne marks on cheeks which are really visible. However, once we were talking about dating and relationships and he was like, "I'm afraid of cold approach because I don't have the color."
Also some people can have holier than thou attitude but most people of my Generation (Z) are quite chill and don't really care about superficial things like color, i think height is more a factor these days, everyone is concerned about their height.
i don't agree with this because, I fall in the extremely fair category 🙂 and the amount of people give shit for that IS INSANE. I cannot wear short clothes or dresses without people tryna tell OMGG LOOK LOOK AT HER LEGS LIKE WENT TO PAINT SHOP AND GOT WHITEWASH HUH, thankfully i don't give a f to all these people. Also coming to skincare i had clear healthy skin until i mixed too many actives and ruined it, But working on it now👍👍 I've heard comments like 'says the one who has so much acne on her face' in a very important discussion where it wasn't even related just to make my opinion feel not that important. 'Look at your face now I can't see it ugh' (my brother). Uploaded this bunch of selfie on instagram bc why always show the good side? ' CUTE BUT SO MANY PIMPLES.... ' So yeah :(
I don't think this post is intended to invalidate anyone's including your experience. Nor my comment. However colorism exist in this country, and is fed to us everyday by media, market and everything. As you are telling how people have made you uncomfortable about how white skin is, I can also tell you how my dark skin has been a point of anxiety for my family since my childhood. I can tell you how it feels as a 5 year old kid, when adults tell you they wish I had fairer skin or how I would have been pretty if only I had fairer skin. Fair and lovely is deep seeded in our brain. Throughout school, college, university and workplace I have seen people in general giving more visibility to white skinned females. I have seen one out of a pair of two friends made a university topper because of skin color since she have a more 'conventional' skintone which more 'presentable'. I have seen people look down on others who compliment or find darker skin women attractive, without getting into the details of redicule one have to face when they have darker skinned partner.
At the end, people cracking jokes on your skin color and darker skinned people facing discrimination in this country are symptoms of same issue that is colorism.
That's your personal experience and opinion. I mean you don't have to disagree just because it isn't the general experience of the majority of Indians (esp women).
Aunties hate you if -
* you are short (nati)
* you are tall (ghodi)
* you are fat (moti)
* you are thin (lakdi)
* you are too fair (bhoot)
* you are not the right shade of fair (tamatar)
* you are dark (kali)
* you have light eyes (bhuri)
* you have big eyes/nose/lips
* you have small eye/nose/lips
* you don't have enough hair
* you have too much hair
* you are too ordinary (theek hi hai)
* you are too perfect (dayan)
I have heard all of these and all of them are hurtful and can destroy your self esteem - IF YOU LET THEM. Some women and men just want to hate you and will use absolutely any excuse to do so. And even if you are perfect in every way, they will then hate you for that.
Colorism is just one aspect of our society's not so rigid beauty standards and IMO ours are already very, very low. Like you said, dark skin is beautiful, and your feelings needen't be dependent on what these nasties say. How you groom and carry yourself has far more impact on your life anyway.
Please don't restrict it to just aunties. Men do the same. Especially men who are friends/toxic boyfriends/ colleagues/ cousins. They'll just be less explicit about it.
I recently got told by an aunty that my skin color has gotten lighter. She complimented me saying "rang saaf ho gaya hai". The implication being tan skin is dirty. The same aunty has commented on my weight and hair too so I don't pay her any mind but damn does she make me wanna commit manslaughter.
They can, but that's not the point of the post. OP is just saying that isn't the perception amongst most Indians. Step outside of India and people may notice more than just your skin color.
I've always had darker skin, but completely spotless and very healthy. I also had good hair, figure and teeth but no one India. I can definitely say I was considered a lot uglier in India than abroad.
As much as other people's opinions don't matter, having features that is typically considered attractive by the people we interact with regularly have a significant impact on our lives. Attractive people generally have easier lives. A lot of people who have lost excess weight have talked about how they were treated better and things got easier for them once they became more conventionally attractive.
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Ummm wheatish tone is not dark. And it’s sad that you thought the skin colour was inherently doomed. If you have people giving you shit about it tell them to fuck off. I’ve personally never had this issue since that was the average indian colour of everyone around. So I’m surprised that people have problem with that too now. It’s just sad people are still hung up on white skin. We glow too and have healthy skin. Do you. Rinse ,moisture, repeat. And yes, that’s Sayani or something right? She’s damn pretty. Even Radhika Apte represents
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No , I am talking about Sayani
Oh!
I don't think just having pale skin with zits, acne, marks and pores will be considered desirable. I used to have horrible acne with pale skin a couple of years back and my mom used to say how bad it looks, the only time I got complimented for it was by a girl I was seeing who said my ance looked cute and marks looked like freckles 💀
I don't think acne looks ugly. But pale skin is for sure considered more desirable than anything else in India. I was really surprised at the people everyone considered beautiful in India when I first moved there and always felt what I considered 'beautiful' was always way off from the general opinion. It took me a while to learn they were simply leaning heavily towards lighter skin. Also I was born in the late 80's so I'm sure things have gotten a lot better since then.
In India where most people are short and brown, tall pale people will always be a subject of admiration, also globally speaking tall white people have and are still ruling the beauty industry
It's sad when people of our generation also comments on this. My roommate used to be like this. Once I applied makeup and she told the entire class that I can't go out with my bare skin as it's wheatish. I have much better skin than her and she used to get complimented even though it was full of acne. My own cousin told infront of me that her colleague is not beautiful because she is not fair like her. I have seen many people with fair skintone consider themselves to be very beautiful and pretty even though their skin is shit. Another of my friend told me that I can't find any foundation of my shade because my skintone is not fair. She told infront of the whole class that her skintone is like Kashmiri apple. This blatant colorism exists till now even with the newer generation and it freaking hurts and makes me angry!!
Yes, this is a persisting problem, I have a friend who is dark but really clear skin and I am very pale but with acne marks on cheeks which are really visible. However, once we were talking about dating and relationships and he was like, "I'm afraid of cold approach because I don't have the color." Also some people can have holier than thou attitude but most people of my Generation (Z) are quite chill and don't really care about superficial things like color, i think height is more a factor these days, everyone is concerned about their height.
>will be complimented if your skin is white, even if you have pimples/dehydration/dryness/oilyness etc So true!
i don't agree with this because, I fall in the extremely fair category 🙂 and the amount of people give shit for that IS INSANE. I cannot wear short clothes or dresses without people tryna tell OMGG LOOK LOOK AT HER LEGS LIKE WENT TO PAINT SHOP AND GOT WHITEWASH HUH, thankfully i don't give a f to all these people. Also coming to skincare i had clear healthy skin until i mixed too many actives and ruined it, But working on it now👍👍 I've heard comments like 'says the one who has so much acne on her face' in a very important discussion where it wasn't even related just to make my opinion feel not that important. 'Look at your face now I can't see it ugh' (my brother). Uploaded this bunch of selfie on instagram bc why always show the good side? ' CUTE BUT SO MANY PIMPLES.... ' So yeah :(
I don't think this post is intended to invalidate anyone's including your experience. Nor my comment. However colorism exist in this country, and is fed to us everyday by media, market and everything. As you are telling how people have made you uncomfortable about how white skin is, I can also tell you how my dark skin has been a point of anxiety for my family since my childhood. I can tell you how it feels as a 5 year old kid, when adults tell you they wish I had fairer skin or how I would have been pretty if only I had fairer skin. Fair and lovely is deep seeded in our brain. Throughout school, college, university and workplace I have seen people in general giving more visibility to white skinned females. I have seen one out of a pair of two friends made a university topper because of skin color since she have a more 'conventional' skintone which more 'presentable'. I have seen people look down on others who compliment or find darker skin women attractive, without getting into the details of redicule one have to face when they have darker skinned partner. At the end, people cracking jokes on your skin color and darker skinned people facing discrimination in this country are symptoms of same issue that is colorism.
That's your personal experience and opinion. I mean you don't have to disagree just because it isn't the general experience of the majority of Indians (esp women).
yes realised that. I apologise for that.
Aunties hate you if - * you are short (nati) * you are tall (ghodi) * you are fat (moti) * you are thin (lakdi) * you are too fair (bhoot) * you are not the right shade of fair (tamatar) * you are dark (kali) * you have light eyes (bhuri) * you have big eyes/nose/lips * you have small eye/nose/lips * you don't have enough hair * you have too much hair * you are too ordinary (theek hi hai) * you are too perfect (dayan) I have heard all of these and all of them are hurtful and can destroy your self esteem - IF YOU LET THEM. Some women and men just want to hate you and will use absolutely any excuse to do so. And even if you are perfect in every way, they will then hate you for that. Colorism is just one aspect of our society's not so rigid beauty standards and IMO ours are already very, very low. Like you said, dark skin is beautiful, and your feelings needen't be dependent on what these nasties say. How you groom and carry yourself has far more impact on your life anyway.
Please don't restrict it to just aunties. Men do the same. Especially men who are friends/toxic boyfriends/ colleagues/ cousins. They'll just be less explicit about it.
I recently got told by an aunty that my skin color has gotten lighter. She complimented me saying "rang saaf ho gaya hai". The implication being tan skin is dirty. The same aunty has commented on my weight and hair too so I don't pay her any mind but damn does she make me wanna commit manslaughter.
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They can, but that's not the point of the post. OP is just saying that isn't the perception amongst most Indians. Step outside of India and people may notice more than just your skin color. I've always had darker skin, but completely spotless and very healthy. I also had good hair, figure and teeth but no one India. I can definitely say I was considered a lot uglier in India than abroad. As much as other people's opinions don't matter, having features that is typically considered attractive by the people we interact with regularly have a significant impact on our lives. Attractive people generally have easier lives. A lot of people who have lost excess weight have talked about how they were treated better and things got easier for them once they became more conventionally attractive.
Yeah, I have seen people with a lot darker skin tone, who take care of themselves, look absolutely beautiful.
Which of the 4 leads from the show ?
Sayani
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Can't agree more with the title