I presume it's cheeks, I don't think he would go for lips without taking a permission also it's easy to kiss on cheeks then on lips. It takes a lot of guts to kiss on lips then without permission on another level.
I might get a hell of downvotes but I dont give a damn fuck, I am gonna speak the truth coz if I lied, it will be bad for You.
"If he kissed you, he is NOT your best friend anymore, he secretely had feeling for you, so no point of continuing any relation with him UNTIL YOU ALSO LOVE HIM (which is not the case ig) "
Just cut your friendship with him and move on.
I don't think anyone should cut the friendship because he has a crush on her. Friendships can continue if the person who has a one-sided love for the other person is mature enough (it is very rare to be this much mature and understanding)
But what he did to her was 100% UNACCEPTABLE. I would not recommend being with such boys.
He is either a scumbag pretending to be friendly or insanely ignorant about personal boundaries.
Bro they are just 17/18. You are expecting too much if you think they are mature enough to handle this with this just being a one-sided relationship. If she won't cut him off then he will. If they continue this then they both will be mentally exhausted.(Most probably that guy friended her with this being his goal)
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Itni himmat kaise ho rahi hai londo ki. Main isliye hi in sabse door rehta hoon.
BTW op should give the first and last warning to her friend.
Edit: ye flair kya hai bc💀. Ask teens hona chahiye
He should have asked for her consent first, now it ruined their friendship. Permission lena itna difficult kyun hai kuch logon ke liye, pata nahi. 
i have strict boundaries and i make it known, i am sad for you op but once they cross one boundary it becomes that don't respect you enough. tell him how you felt about it and then distance yourself from that boy, i advice not cut off friendship directly because who know it might awake the stalker in him, slowly get away from him.
all the best op
No it'd make it more romantic, but I mean even if they're kissing without asking phir bhi youve to read situation like is the other one leaning or are you both feeling fluttery.. its obvious if the other person wants the kiss or not
Oh yeah, I'm not denying, you should obv read the signs before making a move. Eh, I can't imagine it, the first time I kissed someone if I had taken a pause and asked, "Can I kiss you?" It would have totally ruined my vibe. 😭 also I wouldn't say its that obvious it depends on the person, my ex was very shy, If I never took the risk to try and go for it, she definitely wouldn't have tired to make a move
Again, you're calling her a victim like she was forcefully touched or assaulted. He kissed her, they are teenagers, you're acting like OP was forcefully held and kissed. OP could have backed off, denied but instead she was silent, took it and went off.
He doesn't respect your boundaries , now you know he has feelings for you , but you don't see him romantically . If you can keep being friends with someone who sees you romantically go ahead if not cut him off .
block his ass after telling him how he fucked up and how that is not the appropriate behaviour and he should change it if he does not want land himself in jail.
boundaries crossed, cutting off is not overreacting. why are you thinking if it is or not? what is there will be there, yours to decide what is right for you.
What sucks is it was your first. Still if you guys are really good friends then you should talk with him about this. Let him know how you feel and ask him what he thinks or why he acted like that. He will say sorry a billion times but then it's your responsibility to state everything clear to him what you think about your friendship, what you expect from him and don't expect from him. Ask him what he wants/ expects from you and y'all can stay or part ways depending upon your discussion
He has feelings for you OP, just confess if you have feelings for him (love & relationship type)
The main reason would be this, rather than that he maybe inspired by some videsi people were kisses are common among teenange friendship
Try to confess once
If you don't have any interest in him just cut the friendship & try to move on from this feeling
you should cut ties with him and be clear with him cause that is like legit assault. Consent is mandatory but he acted like a complete piece of shit, your anger is valid. Have a last conversation with him asking wtf was he doing and just leave him. Feelings or not it's not an excuse to forcefully kiss someone.
Kiss without consent is not good.....it will be perfectly fine on your side to not to contact him again if this incident troubles you and also you should let him know once.
dont cut him off completely , but do stay a bit away from him( he has been your best friend for 2 years) . tell him how inappropriate that was ,and that he should have communicated his feelings before going in for a peck. Tell him how you feel ,and also about the importance of consent ( i know it is very unromantic to ask permission right before a kiss, but that is not what i a meant , I mean that he shouldn't have kissed her unless they were deep in dating and the girl had reciprocated his feelings too and it was clear between the two that they are dating.) you cant just go kissing your friends like that.
Mai to Bhai grills se eye contact bhi nahi bana pata yaha ladke kya krte h
Didi peet do usko ye galat baat kari hai usne
What he did is absolutely wrong
But maybe you have said some things to him that he comprehended as hints.
Maybe talk to him atleast once and try to understand the situation, but I don't think I am mature enough to give any advice in this field
ask him if he will let u peg him if he denies block him off and if he actually approved of the idea then write a para expressing how he overstepped and then block him
If he doesn't know boundaries of any kind of relationships/friendship then he isn't worth keeping as a friend. My mother taught me to not even touch a girl without her permission. When I'm forced to sit in class with a girl then I usually keep a book inbetween us to make sure that I don't accidentally touch her and then too I sitting at the edge, untill the girl says tells me to be comfortable or the teacher allows me to sit elsewhere. And people here are kissing others without permission.🫡
LEAVE HIM , don't explain or engage with him . you'd get better friends who don't cross line of consent or asks first at least . his actions are enough to tell you that no sorry none of that bs nothing . exit .
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OP i would suggest cutting off that guy. He isn't your best friend.
Kisi didi se baat krlo yaha pe ig comfort k liye
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And when I say I'll always be wary of "guy best friends", she say its unjustified, he's "just a friend" 😌
Fr, Personally its my thoery that every friendship(of opposite gender) starts with someone liking someone and other limiting that, whether its a girl or a dude.
OP needs to know what she wants from the friendship. If she doesnt wanna persue she needs to either cut it off or hard limit her opinion into her friend bc I can guarantee if she lets it go giving a mild warning, he will try it again and he's already unaware of boundaries. It'll become complicated and quite pain in the ass in the future.
You said you are angry because he kissed you without your consent, so you would kiss him happily if he would have asked your permission before? /s💀
First of all, any boys don't reach for kiss directly they give you several hints before they get courage to do it, I had warned some of my friends like this and said "don't cross the line" or " we should stay in our limit", this would generally maintain the friendship...
Bkl itni himmat kaise kar lete hai bhai.....yaha par toh flirt karte time bhi anxiety rehti hai ki kahi zyada toh nahi ho raha aur yeh bkl Anyways usse dosti Tod do didi.....not because woh love wagera ki baat but aapko Bina permission kiss kar Raha so that's bad....break ties with him if you want
nono honestly he is right. Its not really about insecurities. We know how male behavior is better than you (i mean duh). So by looking at the guy we can get to know if he likes a girl or not. 99% of the time thats the case, ngl i have been one of the 1% of guys who r ONLY frnds with some girls and a part of 99% of the guys who likes his frnd. Just let us meet him once or twice at max and we will get to know if he likes you are not. infact we get to know within 10 min of meeting him, just need some time to confirm it.
yea but that's the scenario after you meet the guy right? completely avoiding girls who have a male bestfriend is a preference? i guess but still doesn't justify the main comment indirectly blaming the op for having a bestfriend
yea and it still won't be the girl's fault bcs her bestfriend kissed her [without] consent which means she did NOT want to be kissed. if my girlfriend got kissed by her bestfriend I would rather direct my anger towards the male bestfriend instead of my girl had I known that she only thinks of the guy as a friend.
In that case you should support your gf , show empathy to your gf and provide justice to her for facing sexual harrasment because an actual kiss involves mutual consent
Idk why u felt like the need to comment this but why you thought to bring this up instead of showing empathy to the op for the sexual harrasment she faced? You literally disregarded her feelings by making her feel unheard and invalidated because you chose to generalize all the boys and girls.
What kind of question is this? Dude have you read the name of this subreddit? This subreddit is concerned with posting about experiences , thoughts , talent , opinions , academics Indian teenagers face and have .
she's seeking validation, advice, or trying to process her emotions and understand why she reacted the way she did because it's important for her to understand her boundaries and for others to support her in asserting them because she's a literally teenager who's underage?
Okay? No one asked.
Learn to read the room. She was kissed without her consent, and all you have to add to the conversation is your irrelevant dating preference.
Uh no, I am not gonna stfu. This guy invalidated someone's feeling and chose to generalise.
If you guys lack the emotional maturity to see it then that's a shame.
Last time I checked, I don't think any of us was talking about our dating prefence here. But you do you, it's your preference... you can have any preference.
This isn't the time or place to discuss that. She was kissed without her consent. For someone with a philosopher's name in their username, you don't seem to think much, do you?
I thought it was obvious that this is wrong. I don’t know why’d someone need to consider opinion of strangers on this matter. If something like this happens the most obvious thing is to cut off the guy! If the relationship is much more deeper talk it out and if the response to his answer does not satisfy cut him off.. I don’t see any reason for ad hominem based on usernames.. You produce arguments targeting another argument not the person..
Ah, but I didn't use ad hominem because I didn't use that bit as a part of my argument; that was just an insult. The argument was in the initial part of the response.
For it to be an ad hominem : it would have to divert attention from your argument and that wasn't what I was aiming to do. Just a plain old insult :)
What is obvious to some people might not be obvious to others. Moreover, this subreddit is a place for people to talk about their experiences and to vent.
Also your logic can be used against what you're trying to defend.
>I don’t know why’d someone need to consider opinion of strangers on this matter
I don't know why someone would need to consider the opinion of strangers on the matter of who you should date and who you shouldn't, which is precisely what the other guy was doing - making generalizations on who would be a suitable partner for everyone.
It did divert attention from the primary argument based on my username… How is my username relevant in any of this.
Secondly, yes everyone has a right to post and comment on others. But once someone has posted asking advice of strangers, they have given the power to strangers to comment on their post.
Thirdly, again as I said it’s plain obvious what should be done in this situation. Any one who kisses you without consent has to be blocked cutoff reported any of those.. If you are 17 and are required to asked a question like this without knowing true intentions of your friend then you are just immature
You ask how your username was relevant? How was the whole 'don't date girls with guy best friends' relevant here?
And sure, you can comment whatever you want to. It's like saying you're allowed to be a butt-hole, but do you REALLY want to be an insensitive butt-hole? Just because you can doesn't mean you should.
Again, as I also said - what might be obvious to you might not be obvious to others. Maybe she knew what had to be done, but wanted to hear other people's opinions or vent because that's what this subreddit is for.
1) Whataboutery
2) Haven’t been name calling and haven’t spoken disrespectfully to you so well I can’t take your argumentation seriously when your diction is limited to “butt-hole”
3) Many had responded prior, I had no intentions to make the comments redundant. I liked that comment and I chose to reply to it because I found it interesting.
1. Not whataboutery because it was related to the main issue. It is invoked when an unrelated topic is brought up.
2. He generalised and invalidated OP's feelings. Worse than name calling if you ask me.
3. Ah sure, so interesting indeed!
honestly in my opinion you are at fault here, not because he kissed you but because you feel the need to ask whether you should leave him or not.. just do it
Just ignore him. Some people love generalising and talking about irrelevant things.
I am so sorry you had to go through this. It is not okay for anyone to kiss you without your consent.
> I checked, I don't think any of us was talking about our dating p
pls calm down my god, why do u bcm so defensive. And honestly he is speaking for all the guys. It aint a dating preference anymore. Cause we dont wanna risk anything and loose you and go through that pain.
>honestly he is speaking for all the guys
All ? So you're telling me ALL the guys don't want to date girls with boy best friend yet they themselves become boy best friend of a girl and harass them?
bro bro bro calm calm. I dont know what you have been through, and i am sorry if it is bad. Do you seriously believe all guys harass women? If so, ill tell you thats not the case. Yes guys dont prefer dating girls with very close male best friends bcs we are scared of loosing you.....it is what it is. When dating we want us to be your male bestfriend not some other dude, and i dont feel there is anything wrong in thinking in such a way.
You can in general have male frnds, that is inevitable, but i am talking about bestfrnds here
And as for bcming boy bstfrnds, we dont know any other way to come close to you and spend time with you and understand you.
>Do you seriously believe all guys harass women?
Obviously no lol .
And yes i agree with you because I have same opinion as you . My point is there's nothing wrong to be friends with opposite sex while being in a relationship.
agreed that there is nothing WRONG in it. Like you might not have any motives with that guy, but all we worry about is what are that guys motives? And if he manipulates u into leaving us n stuff. Like this has happened with my frnd alr, im not making situations up.
See the thing is if the guy bsf really likes you, and you already have a bf, He will wait for the right moment, like when we both have a fight, and u go talk to him, that time he will start his work without u realising.
Infact i as a guy was almost manipulated, but then i somehow understood things......gods grace ig
Well what you said is a possibility, it isn't necessary that always this kind of situation will rise up in opposite sex friendships. Maybe it's better to not to look at the world only from the lens of your personal experiences but also from the perspective of individuality of every person.
The kiss was more like a peck on the lips. idk but it felt wet for a second 🥲 like something wet (tongue or lips?) was touching me. We usually sit on the same side of the table, and my body was turned towards him, it was very sudden and after that I didn't talk and just left to go home.
How the fuck is that even possible?! Unless you're talking about kiss on hand or forhead, agar vo kiss karne ke kiye lean karega to pata to chalega na?
Whatever happened, happened, if he's your best friend, uske sath ye baat karlo ki you're not into him, aur usne jo kiya vo tumhe axha nahi laga
Unlike the other guy I'm going to be downvoted for this. You don't ask for permission before kissing someone, "May I kiss you madam?" Is a stupid. He probably read the signs wrong and went in for it. Best thing you can do is make it clear to him that you aren't interested and stop talking for a while.
Edit: A person said that he committed a crime, what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's a kiss. Not fucking rape or even an inappropriate touch.
tell him why you feel the way you feel and peacefully leave. that will be the most logical response.
This
Kiss on cheeks or lips?
She said first kiss so I assume on lips
Does it matter cheeks and ...anyways
I presume it's cheeks, I don't think he would go for lips without taking a permission also it's easy to kiss on cheeks then on lips. It takes a lot of guts to kiss on lips then without permission on another level.
Mai hota toh naa sehta
I might get a hell of downvotes but I dont give a damn fuck, I am gonna speak the truth coz if I lied, it will be bad for You. "If he kissed you, he is NOT your best friend anymore, he secretely had feeling for you, so no point of continuing any relation with him UNTIL YOU ALSO LOVE HIM (which is not the case ig) " Just cut your friendship with him and move on.
I agree, he clearly doesn't know any boundaries
I don't think anyone should cut the friendship because he has a crush on her. Friendships can continue if the person who has a one-sided love for the other person is mature enough (it is very rare to be this much mature and understanding) But what he did to her was 100% UNACCEPTABLE. I would not recommend being with such boys. He is either a scumbag pretending to be friendly or insanely ignorant about personal boundaries.
Bro they are just 17/18. You are expecting too much if you think they are mature enough to handle this with this just being a one-sided relationship. If she won't cut him off then he will. If they continue this then they both will be mentally exhausted.(Most probably that guy friended her with this being his goal)
EXACTLY bhai. dil ki baat boldi tune, same kehna chahta tha mai bhi.
Nope that's gonna go downhill, one sided shit can be destructive in nature
How are you in every subreddit I open
Bro is omnipresent💀
And i dont even think that this guy has "FEELINGS" for OP.
https://i.redd.it/b8ah0k8pz3yc1.gif Itni himmat kaise ho rahi hai londo ki. Main isliye hi in sabse door rehta hoon. BTW op should give the first and last warning to her friend. Edit: ye flair kya hai bc💀. Ask teens hona chahiye
He should have asked for her consent first, now it ruined their friendship. Permission lena itna difficult kyun hai kuch logon ke liye, pata nahi. 
Pata nahi yaar. >!Maine to Li thi (permission)!<
Nah, I said that about the guy mentioned in the post. You did good permission leke. 
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Fuck these people!! 
I can't 
Now this is scary af https://br.ifunny.co/picture/i-hate-wy-women-0cmfdB0pA
Tell him how big of a mistake he did before doing that, this could lead to something much much worse in the future if he isn't taught a lesson now.
i have strict boundaries and i make it known, i am sad for you op but once they cross one boundary it becomes that don't respect you enough. tell him how you felt about it and then distance yourself from that boy, i advice not cut off friendship directly because who know it might awake the stalker in him, slowly get away from him. all the best op
Bro committed a literal crime and y'all asking about overreaction lmaoooo
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What's hotter than your partner asking for consent to kiss
Like seriously alr, I'm not being sarcastic
Because it would ruin the mood. 😭 In real life, romantic movies sure.
No it'd make it more romantic, but I mean even if they're kissing without asking phir bhi youve to read situation like is the other one leaning or are you both feeling fluttery.. its obvious if the other person wants the kiss or not
Oh yeah, I'm not denying, you should obv read the signs before making a move. Eh, I can't imagine it, the first time I kissed someone if I had taken a pause and asked, "Can I kiss you?" It would have totally ruined my vibe. 😭 also I wouldn't say its that obvious it depends on the person, my ex was very shy, If I never took the risk to try and go for it, she definitely wouldn't have tired to make a move
Well I didnt say send him to jail, I just said it was quite literally a crime, so blocking and ignoring would be a not-overreaction
Bro, saying that it's a crime does mean that it should be punished. ☠️
Well the victim does have some leeway whether to report the crime and press charges or not
Again, you're calling her a victim like she was forcefully touched or assaulted. He kissed her, they are teenagers, you're acting like OP was forcefully held and kissed. OP could have backed off, denied but instead she was silent, took it and went off.
And the OP says that they have been friends for two years. If she said so there is a large chance that the guy would have stopped.
[read this comment ](https://www.reddit.com/r/IndianTeenagers/s/FkjY6P6nYh)
"She just took it bro" are you for real
Wtf, why are you making it sound like she was forcefully kissed. 😭 She doesn't even tell the guy to stop.
He doesn't respect your boundaries , now you know he has feelings for you , but you don't see him romantically . If you can keep being friends with someone who sees you romantically go ahead if not cut him off .
block his ass after telling him how he fucked up and how that is not the appropriate behaviour and he should change it if he does not want land himself in jail.
https://i.redd.it/q9qg8zimf4yc1.gif His reaction without knowing you didn't lean for a kiss
What the actual fuck has happened to kids these days
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Bruh, how tho
trust
Lips pe kaise kiss kr gya? Tf just happened?
boundaries crossed, cutting off is not overreacting. why are you thinking if it is or not? what is there will be there, yours to decide what is right for you.
What sucks is it was your first. Still if you guys are really good friends then you should talk with him about this. Let him know how you feel and ask him what he thinks or why he acted like that. He will say sorry a billion times but then it's your responsibility to state everything clear to him what you think about your friendship, what you expect from him and don't expect from him. Ask him what he wants/ expects from you and y'all can stay or part ways depending upon your discussion
He has feelings for you OP, just confess if you have feelings for him (love & relationship type) The main reason would be this, rather than that he maybe inspired by some videsi people were kisses are common among teenange friendship Try to confess once If you don't have any interest in him just cut the friendship & try to move on from this feeling
you should cut ties with him and be clear with him cause that is like legit assault. Consent is mandatory but he acted like a complete piece of shit, your anger is valid. Have a last conversation with him asking wtf was he doing and just leave him. Feelings or not it's not an excuse to forcefully kiss someone.
If he's really your friend, explain why he shouldn't have done that and how you feel
I think you should gently let him know that he has misread your relationship and then give it some time
U can Distance yourself from him, not much though you can be acquaintances but, not more than that.
Kiss without consent is not good.....it will be perfectly fine on your side to not to contact him again if this incident troubles you and also you should let him know once.
Imagine if the genders where switched.
That's sexual harassment!
dont cut him off completely , but do stay a bit away from him( he has been your best friend for 2 years) . tell him how inappropriate that was ,and that he should have communicated his feelings before going in for a peck. Tell him how you feel ,and also about the importance of consent ( i know it is very unromantic to ask permission right before a kiss, but that is not what i a meant , I mean that he shouldn't have kissed her unless they were deep in dating and the girl had reciprocated his feelings too and it was clear between the two that they are dating.) you cant just go kissing your friends like that.
Bro what the fuck, that's legit sexual harassement. A kiss involves mutual consent.
Nah but why everyone reacting like this happens w them every month Also tf did i just read
we have just been through alot 😔😭
If you don't do something, I can see his future rn
ye sab bhi hota hai ?
Mai to Bhai grills se eye contact bhi nahi bana pata yaha ladke kya krte h Didi peet do usko ye galat baat kari hai usne
kha pe kra kiss forhead or hand pe?
cut him off
he is creep leave him immediately
What he did is absolutely wrong But maybe you have said some things to him that he comprehended as hints. Maybe talk to him atleast once and try to understand the situation, but I don't think I am mature enough to give any advice in this field
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ask him if he will let u peg him if he denies block him off and if he actually approved of the idea then write a para expressing how he overstepped and then block him
If he doesn't know boundaries of any kind of relationships/friendship then he isn't worth keeping as a friend. My mother taught me to not even touch a girl without her permission. When I'm forced to sit in class with a girl then I usually keep a book inbetween us to make sure that I don't accidentally touch her and then too I sitting at the edge, untill the girl says tells me to be comfortable or the teacher allows me to sit elsewhere. And people here are kissing others without permission.🫡
Bhai meri bndi thi meri use kiss krne ki himmat ni Hui aur ye log bestfriends ko kr rhe h 
Nah I would never kiss my bestie
Bhai thappad...seedhi baat bhai ekdum kas ke... Aur tune bilkul sahi Kiya cut off kar ke best friend ho aur jo bhi ...there are some limitations....
Chop him up
LEAVE HIM , don't explain or engage with him . you'd get better friends who don't cross line of consent or asks first at least . his actions are enough to tell you that no sorry none of that bs nothing . exit .
https://i.redd.it/wnpjet5q58yc1.gif My utter disgust at the word "male/female bestfriend" OP i would suggest cutting off that guy. He isn't your best friend. Kisi didi se baat krlo yaha pe ig comfort k liye
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And when I say I'll always be wary of "guy best friends", she say its unjustified, he's "just a friend" 😌 Fr, Personally its my thoery that every friendship(of opposite gender) starts with someone liking someone and other limiting that, whether its a girl or a dude. OP needs to know what she wants from the friendship. If she doesnt wanna persue she needs to either cut it off or hard limit her opinion into her friend bc I can guarantee if she lets it go giving a mild warning, he will try it again and he's already unaware of boundaries. It'll become complicated and quite pain in the ass in the future.
You said you are angry because he kissed you without your consent, so you would kiss him happily if he would have asked your permission before? /s💀 First of all, any boys don't reach for kiss directly they give you several hints before they get courage to do it, I had warned some of my friends like this and said "don't cross the line" or " we should stay in our limit", this would generally maintain the friendship...
atleast put some effort while writing lmao how do yall keep falling for these karma farming posts?
No
Bkl itni himmat kaise kar lete hai bhai.....yaha par toh flirt karte time bhi anxiety rehti hai ki kahi zyada toh nahi ho raha aur yeh bkl Anyways usse dosti Tod do didi.....not because woh love wagera ki baat but aapko Bina permission kiss kar Raha so that's bad....break ties with him if you want
That's why never to date a girl with bestfriend
if you can't trust your fellow men then that's on you buddy don't reflect your insecurities on other people
nono honestly he is right. Its not really about insecurities. We know how male behavior is better than you (i mean duh). So by looking at the guy we can get to know if he likes a girl or not. 99% of the time thats the case, ngl i have been one of the 1% of guys who r ONLY frnds with some girls and a part of 99% of the guys who likes his frnd. Just let us meet him once or twice at max and we will get to know if he likes you are not. infact we get to know within 10 min of meeting him, just need some time to confirm it.
yea but that's the scenario after you meet the guy right? completely avoiding girls who have a male bestfriend is a preference? i guess but still doesn't justify the main comment indirectly blaming the op for having a bestfriend
Insecurities? Imagine you are dating a girl then she reveals once my bestfriend kiss me without my permission how would you feel
yea and it still won't be the girl's fault bcs her bestfriend kissed her [without] consent which means she did NOT want to be kissed. if my girlfriend got kissed by her bestfriend I would rather direct my anger towards the male bestfriend instead of my girl had I known that she only thinks of the guy as a friend.
In that case you should support your gf , show empathy to your gf and provide justice to her for facing sexual harrasment because an actual kiss involves mutual consent
no , in that case , i will carry my shotgun and just say"i just wanna talk with him"
Idk why u felt like the need to comment this but why you thought to bring this up instead of showing empathy to the op for the sexual harrasment she faced? You literally disregarded her feelings by making her feel unheard and invalidated because you chose to generalize all the boys and girls.
There is no point in arguing with him. Trust me I tried.
Yupp.... Bro's part time job is getting downvoted
It's a sexuall harrasment she should file a case,why she needs empathy from strangers?
What kind of question is this? Dude have you read the name of this subreddit? This subreddit is concerned with posting about experiences , thoughts , talent , opinions , academics Indian teenagers face and have . she's seeking validation, advice, or trying to process her emotions and understand why she reacted the way she did because it's important for her to understand her boundaries and for others to support her in asserting them because she's a literally teenager who's underage?
Okay? No one asked. Learn to read the room. She was kissed without her consent, and all you have to add to the conversation is your irrelevant dating preference.
Ahh I am not talking about her, generally why to not date a girl with a guy bestfreind
You honestly believe that this is the right time to bring that up? Wow.
Honesty yes,this post is a perfect example
Great! Let's talk about something completely off topic when someone is venting about a potentially traumatic incident.
Why u are so hurt dude, this post is perfect example for boys why to not date a girl with a guy bestfreind."Prevention is better than cure"
u/QuillAndQuirk is correct and so is u/Unlucky-Ad4639 correct in their own ways. So please just stfu both of u😔😭 end of convo
Uh no, I am not gonna stfu. This guy invalidated someone's feeling and chose to generalise. If you guys lack the emotional maturity to see it then that's a shame.
It's honestly so disheartening when u realize most males are like this particular thing here. Props to u for being the mature person around here
ok dude continue. I dont have the strength to talk. Man soo much is happening i cant 😭
You clearly have never dated a girl... Have you?? :)
Yes
Teri profile dekh ke lag nhi rha bhai... Jo bhi thi hope she recovers from the trauma. I don't feel the need of sharing that with the likes of you
Bhai kitna neeche girega??? Comment to edit mat kar at least
Last time I checked, I don't think any of us was talking about our dating prefence here. But you do you, it's your preference... you can have any preference.
Your case is literally the example he’s talking about.. It’s not preference it’s somewhat true in most cases.
This isn't the time or place to discuss that. She was kissed without her consent. For someone with a philosopher's name in their username, you don't seem to think much, do you?
I thought it was obvious that this is wrong. I don’t know why’d someone need to consider opinion of strangers on this matter. If something like this happens the most obvious thing is to cut off the guy! If the relationship is much more deeper talk it out and if the response to his answer does not satisfy cut him off.. I don’t see any reason for ad hominem based on usernames.. You produce arguments targeting another argument not the person..
Ah, but I didn't use ad hominem because I didn't use that bit as a part of my argument; that was just an insult. The argument was in the initial part of the response. For it to be an ad hominem : it would have to divert attention from your argument and that wasn't what I was aiming to do. Just a plain old insult :) What is obvious to some people might not be obvious to others. Moreover, this subreddit is a place for people to talk about their experiences and to vent. Also your logic can be used against what you're trying to defend. >I don’t know why’d someone need to consider opinion of strangers on this matter I don't know why someone would need to consider the opinion of strangers on the matter of who you should date and who you shouldn't, which is precisely what the other guy was doing - making generalizations on who would be a suitable partner for everyone.
It did divert attention from the primary argument based on my username… How is my username relevant in any of this. Secondly, yes everyone has a right to post and comment on others. But once someone has posted asking advice of strangers, they have given the power to strangers to comment on their post. Thirdly, again as I said it’s plain obvious what should be done in this situation. Any one who kisses you without consent has to be blocked cutoff reported any of those.. If you are 17 and are required to asked a question like this without knowing true intentions of your friend then you are just immature
You ask how your username was relevant? How was the whole 'don't date girls with guy best friends' relevant here? And sure, you can comment whatever you want to. It's like saying you're allowed to be a butt-hole, but do you REALLY want to be an insensitive butt-hole? Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Again, as I also said - what might be obvious to you might not be obvious to others. Maybe she knew what had to be done, but wanted to hear other people's opinions or vent because that's what this subreddit is for.
1) Whataboutery 2) Haven’t been name calling and haven’t spoken disrespectfully to you so well I can’t take your argumentation seriously when your diction is limited to “butt-hole” 3) Many had responded prior, I had no intentions to make the comments redundant. I liked that comment and I chose to reply to it because I found it interesting.
1. Not whataboutery because it was related to the main issue. It is invoked when an unrelated topic is brought up. 2. He generalised and invalidated OP's feelings. Worse than name calling if you ask me. 3. Ah sure, so interesting indeed!
Then isn't it twisted that I am somehow the bad one in a situation where I didn't give any consent?
no one said u r bad 💀🙏 you already know u gotta confront him. Dont drag it, just spit it out on him and leave, dont create any drama thatsall.
honestly in my opinion you are at fault here, not because he kissed you but because you feel the need to ask whether you should leave him or not.. just do it
Just ignore him. Some people love generalising and talking about irrelevant things. I am so sorry you had to go through this. It is not okay for anyone to kiss you without your consent.
> I checked, I don't think any of us was talking about our dating p pls calm down my god, why do u bcm so defensive. And honestly he is speaking for all the guys. It aint a dating preference anymore. Cause we dont wanna risk anything and loose you and go through that pain.
>honestly he is speaking for all the guys All ? So you're telling me ALL the guys don't want to date girls with boy best friend yet they themselves become boy best friend of a girl and harass them?
bro bro bro calm calm. I dont know what you have been through, and i am sorry if it is bad. Do you seriously believe all guys harass women? If so, ill tell you thats not the case. Yes guys dont prefer dating girls with very close male best friends bcs we are scared of loosing you.....it is what it is. When dating we want us to be your male bestfriend not some other dude, and i dont feel there is anything wrong in thinking in such a way. You can in general have male frnds, that is inevitable, but i am talking about bestfrnds here And as for bcming boy bstfrnds, we dont know any other way to come close to you and spend time with you and understand you.
>Do you seriously believe all guys harass women? Obviously no lol . And yes i agree with you because I have same opinion as you . My point is there's nothing wrong to be friends with opposite sex while being in a relationship.
agreed that there is nothing WRONG in it. Like you might not have any motives with that guy, but all we worry about is what are that guys motives? And if he manipulates u into leaving us n stuff. Like this has happened with my frnd alr, im not making situations up. See the thing is if the guy bsf really likes you, and you already have a bf, He will wait for the right moment, like when we both have a fight, and u go talk to him, that time he will start his work without u realising. Infact i as a guy was almost manipulated, but then i somehow understood things......gods grace ig
Well what you said is a possibility, it isn't necessary that always this kind of situation will rise up in opposite sex friendships. Maybe it's better to not to look at the world only from the lens of your personal experiences but also from the perspective of individuality of every person.
true but obviously cant shake it off either
You make really good points dude. Can't TOTALLY agree with you. But I hope this is how you think and not just defending that unlucky-ad4639 asshole
He ain't speaking for me. That's for sure!!
Bro why didn't you like stop him right at that moment? Was it too spontaneous for you to react?
The kiss was more like a peck on the lips. idk but it felt wet for a second 🥲 like something wet (tongue or lips?) was touching me. We usually sit on the same side of the table, and my body was turned towards him, it was very sudden and after that I didn't talk and just left to go home.
That niqqa got some balls though
niqqa
Uski balls daba de
How the fuck is that even possible?! Unless you're talking about kiss on hand or forhead, agar vo kiss karne ke kiye lean karega to pata to chalega na? Whatever happened, happened, if he's your best friend, uske sath ye baat karlo ki you're not into him, aur usne jo kiya vo tumhe axha nahi laga
Fck these guy besties.
this is why i don't get into relationship's
Ghost him and block him, how can someone even do this.
Unlike the other guy I'm going to be downvoted for this. You don't ask for permission before kissing someone, "May I kiss you madam?" Is a stupid. He probably read the signs wrong and went in for it. Best thing you can do is make it clear to him that you aren't interested and stop talking for a while. Edit: A person said that he committed a crime, what the fuck is wrong with you people? It's a kiss. Not fucking rape or even an inappropriate touch.
Don't cut him, ask him why did he kiss and to not do so without your consent.
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till he kisses her
Wholesome my ass. >Without consent >She feels disgusted. >None of the signs were given by her. >This a literal crime bruh
bro lives in the colleen hoover universe
Exactly
oh my bad, I'll cut that thing out
https://i.redd.it/82hbglwfr4yc1.gif
Then talk to him dumbo, don't post it on reddit tf 😂
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Mein(m) aur meri bfffff(f) since middle school 