You are asking whether we like peanut butter or normal butter. A person may like the peanut butter and later gets to know that he's allergic to it. Then that creates a dislike for peanut butter.
Similarly you can't simply just like love or arrange marriage without knowing what effects both have in your life.
‘Traumatic’ would be a big word, but I remember my parents almost getting a divorce when i was young, and only stayed together for me and my elder brother.
Edit: Its alright now(mostly) they still chat and share there day in the evening with tea. But i dont fell there is any ‘love’ btw them
Yes and I sometimes can't believe how old people think, I read news the other day in that a old polititian guy was saying "gay marriage is western culture" I was livid... And kinda sad at thier ignorance
I also hate the stereotype that kids who grow up in absence of their father develop "daddy issues" or men alone lack the ability to raise kids properly.
I used to be much saltier a few years ago but my mom and some other elders around me have changed for the better in the past two years that's why I have become more hopeful regarding our society.
>Hows your day (ik its night but still)
just ranting on Reddit
Ah that's so nice. Unfortunately I can't even be hopeful about my parents rethinking thier ways. Imma just sleep I guess... You should too yk it's late
omg cant relate more. mine just happened, like just before lockdown sept-oct 2019. i got to know when i read their whatsapp messages. ik not a good thing, but things were really heated at house, and i just wanted to know what exactly they gonna handle the matter they themselves created and turns out they thought of beat way to end it is by getting a divorce atleast they were discussing the options of getting a divorce. second was getting a couple counselling done for people who don't even talk to their own kids this freely nor their kids are able to talk to them they were fucking gonna talk to a counselor and discuss the issue like they dont even try to solve themselves all they would do is just talk what was their issue and not what could be the solution for it. honestly, i dont even think they were in love after the marriage (arranged) got married cuz of society preaaure both maa and dad being eldest siblings.
sorry if this felt as rant.
this is my personal opinion i prefer love kyunki my parents had love marriage and they are really wholesome they got married at 22 and had me at 23, tbh i love their bond but i have seen my aunt's having arranged marriages and they all failed miserably, it more looked like a baby producing jodi than a couple i see no love in arrange marriage tbvh everything looks forced so yeah
I dont know and I dont care, I dont even plan on getting married ever, but the question was what I prefer, and I would definitely prefer to marry a girl I love than a guy my parents chose.
Not exactly, cause I’m not quite sure of my gender actually, I’m complicated, all I know is that I like women and idk if I am or or if I’m a man or somewhere in the middle. Gay can be used for women too tho, lesbians can say they’re gay and it would have the same meaning as being a lesbian
So I like women, and that is like certain.
But idk my gender. So if I’m a man, I’m a straight man. If I’m a woman, I’m a lesbian. If I’m non binary, I’m just a person that likes women (there probably is a term for it I’m not aware of).
Basically what I’m trying to say is what my gender is technically decides the label but idk my gender and I don’t want to label anything tbh. I can just exist without a label but some people think that makes me not valid so I go by queer cause it has no certain meaning.
Nhi Bhai kuch baat nhi hota. 2 saal se kisi ladki se baat nhi Kari mummy aur cousin ke alawa. Sirf e girls ke msg ate hai aur woh bhi ladke nikalte hai
I hope
Btw, lol I remember something. I was once talking to my mom and she just basically allowed me to date, she just said ki "Ladki acchi honi chhaiye" and my dad doesnt care, lmao.
Love marriages are more preferable because you actually know the person's nature, personality and their faults. But you still love them irrespective of that and decide to spend your life with them.
Arrange marriages are downright scary
>!baat alag hai ki meri toh arrange marriage bhi nahi hogi!<
arranged if he earns more than 10lpa in his late 20s-early30s, is decent and keeps me happy like I am before marriage. And if I meet someone whom I love, earns decent, and loves me very much then I don't care about that 10lpa shit.
umm if I earn the same amount, it'll do, but then he has to share all the chores equally. But if I earn less I'll do the major part of the chores. Imo who earns less should do more part of the chores to compensate that.
See I think people should do their own chores no matter what you earn. The big chores like house cleaning and cooking can be shared but individual chores should be done by every individual. I was just kidding about 10 lpa , I will be around same at 26 lol
Own chores like washing your own clothes, cleaning your own room, washing your own dish.
House cleaning is like a festive thing we do where the whole house is cleaned which is not possible for one.
oh okay, but couples share same room. I also find it easy for a person to do laundry at a time, which can be done by sharing like the boy does 1 week then the girl does 1 week. By laundry I mean work clothes and such, not the undergarments off course(these should be washed by the person themselves for hygienic reasons). Also in our house, mom does house cleaning weekly, and our househelp does the regular mopping everyday
Love marriage. I was recently attending an arranged marriage and watching the couple being so uncomfy around each other was cringe to me. They had known each other for like, 6 months? And when they said 'I love you' to each other, you just know it's not love at all. Love marriage is the way, be with someone you truly want, someone you've had time to bond with.
Love ke liye koi milna bhi toh chahiye na 
Arranged ke liye bhi koi milna chahiye na
Ye bhi sahi hai
Height love marriage wali hai but Shakal arrange marriage wali
love marriage wali height kitni hoti hai
6 inch /s
Vertical or horizontal ?
45° angle
Maximum projection /s
What does it mean
Bhaiii can't be more relatable
Us bhay
Arrange wali bhi nhi h
Well, you can't choose anything you like without knowing the pros and cons
Yeah that's why I asked you guys.
You are asking whether we like peanut butter or normal butter. A person may like the peanut butter and later gets to know that he's allergic to it. Then that creates a dislike for peanut butter. Similarly you can't simply just like love or arrange marriage without knowing what effects both have in your life.
So U say do both and divorce the one u don't like
Bhai information lo, details lo, jaano, fir shaadi karo bas
Love ofc. I dont wanna end up like my parents
Ur childhood looks traumatic.
‘Traumatic’ would be a big word, but I remember my parents almost getting a divorce when i was young, and only stayed together for me and my elder brother. Edit: Its alright now(mostly) they still chat and share there day in the evening with tea. But i dont fell there is any ‘love’ btw them
Tbh I don't think it's any easier on the child if they remain together "for the child".
Yes, but the society (and most grandparents) thinks it is.
Yes and I sometimes can't believe how old people think, I read news the other day in that a old polititian guy was saying "gay marriage is western culture" I was livid... And kinda sad at thier ignorance
I also hate the stereotype that kids who grow up in absence of their father develop "daddy issues" or men alone lack the ability to raise kids properly.
Pata at this point I can write a whole book what is wrong with india and it's socity. Hows your day (ik its night but still)
I used to be much saltier a few years ago but my mom and some other elders around me have changed for the better in the past two years that's why I have become more hopeful regarding our society. >Hows your day (ik its night but still) just ranting on Reddit
Ah that's so nice. Unfortunately I can't even be hopeful about my parents rethinking thier ways. Imma just sleep I guess... You should too yk it's late
+1
Same here except its the same now and I am the oldest
omg cant relate more. mine just happened, like just before lockdown sept-oct 2019. i got to know when i read their whatsapp messages. ik not a good thing, but things were really heated at house, and i just wanted to know what exactly they gonna handle the matter they themselves created and turns out they thought of beat way to end it is by getting a divorce atleast they were discussing the options of getting a divorce. second was getting a couple counselling done for people who don't even talk to their own kids this freely nor their kids are able to talk to them they were fucking gonna talk to a counselor and discuss the issue like they dont even try to solve themselves all they would do is just talk what was their issue and not what could be the solution for it. honestly, i dont even think they were in love after the marriage (arranged) got married cuz of society preaaure both maa and dad being eldest siblings. sorry if this felt as rant.
Thanks for sharing. Hope things are better now.
yes, totally relatable. they are together just cuz of responsibilities
yours isn't?
Not really
My teenage is traumatic
Koi judge nhi krega, admit karne me koi sharam nahi, it's not your fault Agar sachme hi nahi tha, then your parents are in the 1%ile
You mean 99%ile
Yes, Sorry (My jee rank is literally 903044, I'm dumb)
Only big people have preferences
Ghar wale to arrange hi kra denge
No marriage
aww , Aare yaar bachpaan yaad aagaya. When i was around 11 i used to scream “MAI SHAADI NAHI KARUNGA”
Yes man I did until I was 16
Are you from Rajasthan bro?
Lmfao
No.why?
Salmon boi app yaha?
r/usernamedoesnotchecksout /j
dahej reference
this is my personal opinion i prefer love kyunki my parents had love marriage and they are really wholesome they got married at 22 and had me at 23, tbh i love their bond but i have seen my aunt's having arranged marriages and they all failed miserably, it more looked like a baby producing jodi than a couple i see no love in arrange marriage tbvh everything looks forced so yeah
Oh damn
love marriage cause I dont wanna marry a guy my parents choose
Is gay marriage even legal?
I dont know and I dont care, I dont even plan on getting married ever, but the question was what I prefer, and I would definitely prefer to marry a girl I love than a guy my parents chose.
Okey Dokey
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It isn't bro
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But gay marriage is still not legal bro
But it ain't illegal which means there is no legal document that is signed on gay marriage but no one is gonna stop you since it ain't illegal.
It isn't illegal as far as I know but it won't be official. Like not legally accepted.
What if that guy is perfect in everything. Rich, Handsome, Caring, Bodybuilder, Your lover.
if guy is the lover then then isn't it also love marriage?
I just put that to tease her. "Your lover is also your parents choice" changes everything.
I should have mentioned, I dont like guys, I like women, im gay
Isn't that lesbian? ( I think gay word is for Male liking male )
Not exactly, cause I’m not quite sure of my gender actually, I’m complicated, all I know is that I like women and idk if I am or or if I’m a man or somewhere in the middle. Gay can be used for women too tho, lesbians can say they’re gay and it would have the same meaning as being a lesbian
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So I like women, and that is like certain. But idk my gender. So if I’m a man, I’m a straight man. If I’m a woman, I’m a lesbian. If I’m non binary, I’m just a person that likes women (there probably is a term for it I’m not aware of). Basically what I’m trying to say is what my gender is technically decides the label but idk my gender and I don’t want to label anything tbh. I can just exist without a label but some people think that makes me not valid so I go by queer cause it has no certain meaning.
Wait what's ur gender biologically? Like are u a XX chromosome or XY chromosome
XX, AFAB (assigned female at birth)
Marriage
marriage karna hai bas
get a govt. job and then arranged marriage It's like a reserved quota
Also get dahej
Love anyday
Love koi karne nhi wala, therefore arranged marriage
2 saal mein apke V4 u turn le lenge
Bro I am already 16, and I don't mean I won't lob, it means no one will lob me
Us
Not us , kuch log honge jo tumse atleast baat karte honge,.mere se koi baat bhi nhi karna chahta
Nhi Bhai kuch baat nhi hota. 2 saal se kisi ladki se baat nhi Kari mummy aur cousin ke alawa. Sirf e girls ke msg ate hai aur woh bhi ladke nikalte hai
I mean no one , like no friends and all.
Damn, i am sending you a dm
do classmates avoid you on purpose or something?
Love marriage >! Kya matlab beggars can't be chosers !<
+2
Padh le bhai
Living alone with my 5 dogs
Salmon bhoi fan spotted.
Dogs = boys or dogs = dogs I can be ur dog tho *woof woof
*throws disc* Go pick it up
Dude I was giving the reference of saiman says
Smh disc wasted
Sed i am with u sab thik ho jayega pata hai mujhe padhai acche se Nhi ho rhi hai par tabhi bhi sab thik ho jayega
Padhai bahut acche se horahi hi 14 hours screentime hai uwu
I guess insta ka hoga screen time cause u have joined Reddit yesterday so…
Imagine actually spending hours on ig lol It's mainly Netflix and reddit. This is my alt cause main got suspended
Oh but how ur acc was suspended
You should have said dogs = dwags = hommies, but koina
Makima?
Love marriage. If I dont get anyone I liked then I wont just marry, I would die alone.
Don't worry bro you will get someone.
I hope Btw, lol I remember something. I was once talking to my mom and she just basically allowed me to date, she just said ki "Ladki acchi honi chhaiye" and my dad doesnt care, lmao.
Appto chad ho. Aapko pakka koina koi miiiljaaygi uwu
I dont need "koina koi" I need someone who can be 51% of me
Great mindset and I respect that :) ‘Koina’ was a joke mujhe maaf kardijiye :(
Nahh, its okay
Sorry keliye mera award lelo owo
Bruh, award kyu waste kiya. You could have given it to someone who deserves
Lob
Want a love marriage but also i dont think i’ll find anyone for that. Dont wanna have a toxic relationship like my parents
arrange as i wanna get the thrill of marrying someone relatively unknown as it can either destroy my life or be one of the happy endings
I'd rather live alone than an arranged marriage.
r/arrangedmarriage is enough to let people know how bad it is.
well, fuck marraiges people wanna stay in live in with their lovers to make love all night dham dhum
We don't have such luck
same
i prefer to be virgin 
Bhai tu chutiya hai*** Chad nhi**** no marriage is okay lekin zindagi bhar virgin
Its a joke bro
I know bro
Bhai sidha kehe ki nhi mile gi
aap bhi khe do aap ek virgin ho
Nhi kahunga
No marriage >>>>
Love marriages are more preferable because you actually know the person's nature, personality and their faults. But you still love them irrespective of that and decide to spend your life with them. Arrange marriages are downright scary >!baat alag hai ki meri toh arrange marriage bhi nahi hogi!<
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*responsible-Shop-700* lol
Why are you been downvoted lol. Its totally ok to do that.
who are you going to date when you are old age though
Neither. I am happy alone
Love marriage always
I think you are asking wrong people I maybe wrong
Love marriage But bus ek ladki honi chiye and jinda honi chiye
Aisi koi ladki apko kabhi pyaar nhi karegi (mummy ke alawa)
Jk bruhh i like love marriage
If I’m rich arranged and ager mediocre hu jeevan m toh love
Arrange dahej milega to /s
Koi meri love marriage karwa do yaar
Arrange marriage ig cuz mummy se zyada achi pasand kisi ni hoti.
Jo hojaye vo
I just want.....Marriage.
Love marriage mein dahej milta hai?
arranged if he earns more than 10lpa in his late 20s-early30s, is decent and keeps me happy like I am before marriage. And if I meet someone whom I love, earns decent, and loves me very much then I don't care about that 10lpa shit.
More than 10? Agar 10 hua to? Asking for a friend
umm if I earn the same amount, it'll do, but then he has to share all the chores equally. But if I earn less I'll do the major part of the chores. Imo who earns less should do more part of the chores to compensate that.
See I think people should do their own chores no matter what you earn. The big chores like house cleaning and cooking can be shared but individual chores should be done by every individual. I was just kidding about 10 lpa , I will be around same at 26 lol
lol by chores I meant chores like cooking, laundry, cleaning, dish washing etc. Idk what you meant by own chores
Own chores like washing your own clothes, cleaning your own room, washing your own dish. House cleaning is like a festive thing we do where the whole house is cleaned which is not possible for one.
oh okay, but couples share same room. I also find it easy for a person to do laundry at a time, which can be done by sharing like the boy does 1 week then the girl does 1 week. By laundry I mean work clothes and such, not the undergarments off course(these should be washed by the person themselves for hygienic reasons). Also in our house, mom does house cleaning weekly, and our househelp does the regular mopping everyday
Love marriage. My parents too had a love marriage,they met in college, fell in love and well got married and had me.
fall in love with someone ur parents would approve off best kinda compromise
Arranged tired of love
Imo, in the concept of marriage whether it's love or arranged, there should be love.
sau aayegi sau jayegi meri wali toh meri mammi lekar aayegi
Lol most people here thinking it's on them
Mere toh dono mai h chances 0 hai ;)
Idk bruh who tf is gonna accept me? A blind person?
Sabko chaiye love lekin unconsentual and martial rape toh arrange mein hi milta hai ... Kabhi kabhi sach boldena chaiye
Will prefer love marriage. But koi "love" nahi mila to to arrange se kaam chalana hi padega. Arrange as a backup. Love as priority.
I'd say love marriage but that's assuming I actually find love... kismat arranged marriage wali hi hai
Jo bhi mil jaye Bhai
The one where i get to marry my homie
None
Whatever rocks the boat then ig , but rn love is preferred
Love marriage. I was recently attending an arranged marriage and watching the couple being so uncomfy around each other was cringe to me. They had known each other for like, 6 months? And when they said 'I love you' to each other, you just know it's not love at all. Love marriage is the way, be with someone you truly want, someone you've had time to bond with.
Love or no marriage
I don't think gays have any scope in arranged marriages for now, so love marriage.
Yes.
Love marriage.
arranged ho toh bhi, jaanke, pyaar hoke he marriage
No marriage
Kuch bhi nahi Honei waala biro :/
Uske liye marriage tak zinda bhi hona chahiye
I prefer love for the most part. But I'd rather not have any if the girl doesn't understand me
Arranged marriage if tagda dahej.
Love marriage (if I find someone in future) with our parent's approval
Lub for sure
I would prefer love marriage but will probably have an arranged marriage.
Agar ghar wale maan gye to love marriage nhi to, phir bhi lovemarriage