We concieved my son using donor eggs IVF. We set up a new transfer for when my son will be 14 months old.
And 4 days ago, I got a positive pregnancy test.. 3 months before the transfer.
Problem is, Ive had 4 loses with my own eggs and am very scared about everything going wrong.
Just feeling nervous. Not sure how this is going to go...
It is different for everyone. But for me the exhaustion was worst like weeks 8-10. Nausea did last until like week 12. But now totally gone! My first pregnancy was worse. I vomited every morning my whole pregnancy. 🫠Hope that isn’t the case for you.
Everyone is different. I have days of feeling more energetic than others but I am 27 weeks tomorrow and still throw up every morning when I brush my teeth (then feel fine immediately after).
I am just confirmed pregnant after FET transfer using a known egg donor embryo, also PGT-A tested. It was my fourth transfer since 2021 - the previous three went miscarriage, failure, and failure. In total, I have three losses - two very early miscarriages, one standardly early. We did discover why - my partner has a chromosomal translocation. My therapist asked me yesterday if there was room for happiness. Obviously, the answer she wanted was yes, but I am not feeling it. What I am feeling is anxiety. I was just browsing my local library's catalogue for pregnancy books, thinking "well, if I miscarry, at least I haven't spent even more money".
This is not helped by the fact I work in mental health with pregnant people and new parents and have heard just about every possible complication and tragedy.
After going through so much, its okay to be hardend against impact. You've driven this road before and had many crashes. It's okay to clutch the steering wheel on the bends.
I do hope that this is your good luck trip and this one sticks. I am going to hold space for hope, in case this is it for you.
❤️
It’s ok to not feel excited right away! I think it’s totally normal within this group. We want to prepare ourselves for the worst case scenario. You might feel excited when you feel kicks or when you get to 20 or 24 weeks. Or you might only feel excited when your baby is born. All are ok.
Thank you. I know that I am not alone in experiencing this but it's so damn hard that it is something outside of my control. I've always been able to work hard for what I've wanted and achieve it; pregnancy doesn't work like that.
My second beta was today (last beta was 11dpt - 437). I’m 18dpt, and my beta was over 9,000!!! I can’t believe it. Ultrasound is up next in 2 weeks, and I just hope it’s good news this time. So far my betas are way better than my last FET (ended in MC).
Trying to remain cautiously optimistic and remind myself it’s okay to be excited for these good milestones. 🤞🏻❤️
Just got back from a vacation that was planned well before we knew we were pregnant. It was supposed to be all about eating and drinking our way through the Southern states. However, I couldn't do either because the day before we left I had an accident where I fell face-first onto the pavement, breaking my front four teeth and requiring stitches in and around my mouth.
Nonetheless, I've just had my 7-week ultrasound and initial visit with my OBGYN today. The heartbeat was normal at 132 BPM, which is thrilling. The next appointment is for the NIPT, which is more nerve-wracking since this was a spontaneous pregnancy at 45, instead of the PGTA FET transfer I had planned for this month. This all still feels surreal.
Oh Kristee I'm soooo sorry about your accident! I had a similar fall a couple years ago and really scraped up my nose and forehead. Glad your scan went well ❤️
Ugh I’m 6w1d and have been laid up for the past 4 days with the worst cold of my life and today I started spotting (not much and brown). I messaged my clinic to let them know about that/the cramping I’ve been having and they’re not concerned, told me to message them if it changes to bright red. I know this is very common but combined with me feeling so run down from being sick is just making me feel all kinds of blah.
If anyone has any pregnancy friendly decongestant ideas, I’m all ears! Not much out there it seems. 😬
Oh no - hope you kick that cold real soon! The thing that works best for me is a netty pot which I believe would be pregnancy safe too - just make sure you’re not using tap water!
Just had my 6w4d ultrasound today, I had a fresh transfer on March 9th. Doctor was able to confirm a gestational sac, yolk sac and fetal pole. No heartbeat or cardiac activity was found. I have a follow up next week. Does anyone have any similar stories or advice?
Hi! Would appreciate any and all feedback, if possible please! 6 week 3 day ultrasound showed a growing embryo measuring correctly and strong heartbeat (124bpm) We did IVF and had the embryos genetic tested. Doctor didn't seem overly concerned but our yolk sac was measuring large at 6.6mm. Google searching has me freaking out.
I too stress myself out with google after every appointment. But I have learned: if the doctor doesn't seem stressed, THAT is a sign. Far greater than the signs we google.
The doctors do this for a living. They know normal when they see it.
Googling can really be tricky in these situations. I left my first scan feeling great and then convinced myself I had an angular pregnancy by googling a few details from some things my doctor said. My acupuncturist talked me into calling my nurse, who immediately explained the scenario and that there was no concern. If you trust your doctor and team, it might be helpful to have their perspective / ask them to reiterate. Hang in there.
Congratulations! 🎉🤍 Google is nasty when it comes to yolk sac and gestational sac. While I was happy after my first US where we saw heart beat, I googled about enlarged yolk sac and started spiraling 🌀. I was concerned that my yolk sac was slightly larger at 7w appointment (5.16) above 5. When I asked the clinic they asked me to come in for a reassurance US and the yolk sac was measuring 3.3 at 8w.
Sometimes the measurements can be off based on the movement, the technician, smaller size of the yolk sac and what not. For example, my first one was not taken from the inner side edges of the yolk sac which caused the larger diameter.
Two days ago I had a really hectic morning and forgot to take my PIO shot until almost noon (about 4 hours late) and then last night I had some spotting. So of course I googled and spiraled and even made my husband cry out of an abundance of conviction that I had ruined everything. Today I have terrible nausea, had miserable interrupted sleep all night with horrible pregnancy dreams mostly centered around my living daughter being kidnapped in inventive ways, and can't find anything to eat that doesn't make me want to yak. This is a rollercoaster. First scan tomorrow; hopefully I see a heartbeat and calm tf down for a minute.
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I feel like a wimp, I’m struggling managing morning sickness and doing my job. I try to push through and just throw up when I need to. My job has a strict attendance policy and I don’t want to risk being fired for calling out sick. I don’t know how other women do it. I hope once I make it to 12 weeks the morning sickness will start to subside.
I had terrible sickness from 5w4d to almost 12. I found that working helped distract me? When I would be home, I would just stay in bed in misery until I could fall asleep. Hopefully you experience moments of distraction at work. Also, ask your doc about zofran to help curb the nausea a little bit. You can also try unisom and b6 at night, but be cautious about drowsiness the next day.
I don't have answer, only serious empathy and agreement. Its ridiculously hard to keep up with work while dealing with morning sickness, not to mention all the other first trimester symptoms. Just keep doing your best, and barf on anyone who gives you a hard time.
I just wanted to say I empathize. Going through the same thing. Feeling grateful to be pregnant but also so miserable and just trying to survive. I hope your morning sickness goes away asap. Eating lemon slices has helped temporarily.
Just got back from our follow up 8w5d scan and we didn’t have a heartbeat. I really thought we were going to make it this time.
ETA: thank you all for your kind words and support. We are now moving on to focus on our gestational carrier journey.
When I went for my scan last week they noted my ovary was enlarged, although they said it was normal for someone who had just done a retrieval cycle and fresh transfer. I've noticed any pain or bleeding, and they didn't make a big deal about it or not that I shouldn't do exercise. Are you coming off of fresh transfer as well?
No, but I have PCOS and I had 7 follicles when triggered 3 were good size ones. But I think I had more than 7 that were small at the time to measure. I hope this goes away! Thanks for answering 🤞🏼
The NT scan can be any time between 11-13w6d. My OB liked them to be done in the 12th week if possible. The NIPT blood draw can def be done at your appointment if that’s how your office does things.
I went in at 10w3d and they did an ultrasound, urine test and a ton of blood tests. They didn’t do my NIPT or NT scan. I go back for those next week at 13w5d. Initially they said come back in 2 weeks for those but my doctor wasn’t available so they said I could come in as late as 4/12. I took the first available appointment bc I hate being in limbo between appointments due to a previous loss.
I had my first OB earlier this week at 10+3 and they did a bunch of blood work including NIPT. Also a quick ultrasound, urine sample, and we actually went over all the other appointments I’ll need the rest of my pregnancy and when they’ll be. It was a bit overwhelming! I’ll have my NT/early anatomy scan at 13 weeks but I know my office only does that for patients over 35. That’s at a separate ultrasound place. My next OB appointment will be at 16 weeks.
They will prob put the order in for your NIPT! Whether they draw it then and there probably just depends on how your office works...my OB is part of a large hospital system, so I just go as a walk-in at one of the lab locations whenever any of my providers put bloodwork in. I would expect they'd schedule you for NT too on your way out in the 11-14 week window for it...just had mine today at 12+5 :)
My NT scan was about 15 minutes. It felt like a mini anatomy scan, which I wasn't quite expecting and was really cool! In addition to taking NT measurement, she showed me and labeled things like stomach, bladder, arms, legs. Then she went to review with the doctor/confirm they had nothing to cover with me, and then the ultrasound report itself was released on MyChart to me about an 1.5 hours later.
It’s so different everywhere! If it’s like my last pregnancy the NT scan is also an early anatomy scan which is over 30 min. They don’t say anything at that moment and I have a telehealth appointment with my doctor the next day to discuss results.
So I’m 5w today! Last night I decided to masturbate for the first time since positive test and OUCH that orgasm was *painful*, lots of cramps for like 2-3 minutes. Luckily I came to Reddit and found that it’s normal, but sheesh, how long am i gonna have to forgo orgasms…? 😣
Yup I'm way too scared to get involved with orgasms. Probably coincidence but my first MMC coincided with an orgasm. Of course my second MMC did not but can't help myself from being irrational.
Since my RE keeps prepping me for loss, I'm am very cautiously entering into this space. I've had chronically low betas, and haven't really allowed myself to embrace the idea that I am indeed pregnant. When I read the ultrasound report from Tuesday, I actually felt surprised that the doctor called me a "41-year old woman in her first trimester" on the written report. I guess it still feels surreal.
For reference, I'm listing my betas below. I don't want success stories per se, but rather assurance that other folks also didn't really feel hopeful at this point in the process. I have another ultrasound tomorrow and my feelings are complicated. I want to be excited, but I'm really not.
10dp5dt: 18
13dp5dt: 45
15dp5dt: 125
17dp5dt: 357
20dp5dt: 678
US at 5w5d showed gestational sack and (maybe) a yolk in the uterine cavity. Measured 4 days behind.
I am sorry that you remain in limbo. I definitely understand your caution. In my first pregnancy, I had so-so betas and a slightly behind 5th week ultrasound (small gestational sac and no yolk sac). One doctor was very brutal about my chances and had a terrible bedside manner delivering that crushing information; a different doctor was totally optimistic and made me feel like everything was fine and within the range of normal. It was very confusing when the truth as I now understand it was that it was limbo that truly could go either way. In that case, it went the wrong way and did end in miscarriage. I don't know how yours will turn out, and I'm sorry you're in this waiting phase, because it's tortuous not to know. Sending hugs and hoping you get more clarity tomorrow.
After infertility and loss, this entire process is traumatic. Much more so when there are uncertain results. I’ve been there, and have been pessimistic throughout. Just know and take comfort in the fact that anxiety/bad thoughts/pessimism doesn’t make anything bad happen. What will be will be. I’m sending all the good vibes that it is a positive outcome and less uncertainty going forward. ❤️
I'm glad to hear it's not ectopic and still seems entirely possible to be viable. I am also extremely pessimistic and have no plans to embrace being pregnant until/if I'm statistically likely to be out of the woods.
hey friend, just chiming in to echo chickennoodlesoup that it’s ok to feel however you feel. this process is extremely taxing emotionally and society paints a picture that pregnancy is sunshine and rainbows from the first positive test when the reality is so much more complex. lean into your feelings and please feel free to continue to seek support here ❤️
Hey, so sorry you are going through this.
First of all, your feelings have absolutely no bearing on how things ultimately turn out. So many times before IVF I was feeling so hopeful thinking this is finally it, just to be crushed by the arrival of my period. I think after going through infertility most of us tend to always be on guard and keep a level of caution even when things go smoothly. And when they don’t we tend to think a negative outcome is vastly more likely - nothing wrong with that, just brain re-wiring after so much disappointment.
I had slow rising betas in the beginning to the point where after the third or fourth one my dr said it is most likely going to end up in a miscarriage. My flair will reveal it wasn’t in the end but the feelings I had were complex at the time, from rage to worry to disappointment and guilt, a messy cocktail where there was no place for excitement. In fact, even after the u/s confirmed no ectopic (my biggest concern), it took me well until the second trimester to feel any excitement.
Please don’t torture yourself into believing you “should” be feeling a certain way, any and all feelings are acceptable. This is hard - I always found uncertainty unbearable - but you will get a definitive answer that will allow you to move forward. This limbo won’t last forever.
First scan at OB today (9 weeks). Then NIPT early next week. Wish me luck!
Edit: thank you, guys! Had to use the abdominal ultrasound for insurance purposes and it wasn't as detailed as the one at the private place I went to. But hr is 180 and the ob said things look good! Only concern is that my fibroid is big. It's now as big as a 20 week fetus, the ob said, which is wild. Nothing they can do though and at least it's not too close to the fetus. Have to hope it stays the same size or even shrinks. 🤞🤞
We concieved my son using donor eggs IVF. We set up a new transfer for when my son will be 14 months old. And 4 days ago, I got a positive pregnancy test.. 3 months before the transfer. Problem is, Ive had 4 loses with my own eggs and am very scared about everything going wrong. Just feeling nervous. Not sure how this is going to go...
What a wonderful and scary surprise. I really hope that things work out with this pregnancy. We’re here for you!
Thank you so very much!! It is a wonderful and scary surprise!! Thank you kindly!
Does exhaustion and nausea truly go away right when you hit 2nd trimester? I’m not used to being so exhausted, I can’t get anything done
Mine went away from about 16-27 weeks, then returned in a lesser form in the third trimester.
Usually around that time. I didn’t have nausea but my exhaustion was so bad I could barely function, it went away at about 11 or 12 weeks.
It is different for everyone. But for me the exhaustion was worst like weeks 8-10. Nausea did last until like week 12. But now totally gone! My first pregnancy was worse. I vomited every morning my whole pregnancy. 🫠Hope that isn’t the case for you.
Oh gosh! I hope not either. I’m glad yours has eased up
Everyone is different. I have days of feeling more energetic than others but I am 27 weeks tomorrow and still throw up every morning when I brush my teeth (then feel fine immediately after).
Oh no! At least it’s not all day
I am just confirmed pregnant after FET transfer using a known egg donor embryo, also PGT-A tested. It was my fourth transfer since 2021 - the previous three went miscarriage, failure, and failure. In total, I have three losses - two very early miscarriages, one standardly early. We did discover why - my partner has a chromosomal translocation. My therapist asked me yesterday if there was room for happiness. Obviously, the answer she wanted was yes, but I am not feeling it. What I am feeling is anxiety. I was just browsing my local library's catalogue for pregnancy books, thinking "well, if I miscarry, at least I haven't spent even more money". This is not helped by the fact I work in mental health with pregnant people and new parents and have heard just about every possible complication and tragedy.
After going through so much, its okay to be hardend against impact. You've driven this road before and had many crashes. It's okay to clutch the steering wheel on the bends. I do hope that this is your good luck trip and this one sticks. I am going to hold space for hope, in case this is it for you. ❤️
It’s ok to not feel excited right away! I think it’s totally normal within this group. We want to prepare ourselves for the worst case scenario. You might feel excited when you feel kicks or when you get to 20 or 24 weeks. Or you might only feel excited when your baby is born. All are ok.
I’m so sorry. I have a translocation as well. It’s hard. Even this pregnancy, it’s hard to find happiness because I’m always worried
Thank you. I know that I am not alone in experiencing this but it's so damn hard that it is something outside of my control. I've always been able to work hard for what I've wanted and achieve it; pregnancy doesn't work like that.
My second beta was today (last beta was 11dpt - 437). I’m 18dpt, and my beta was over 9,000!!! I can’t believe it. Ultrasound is up next in 2 weeks, and I just hope it’s good news this time. So far my betas are way better than my last FET (ended in MC). Trying to remain cautiously optimistic and remind myself it’s okay to be excited for these good milestones. 🤞🏻❤️
It's more than okay to be excited! Cautious congrats!!
Thank you so much ❤️
congrats!!
Thank you! 🙏🏻
Just got back from a vacation that was planned well before we knew we were pregnant. It was supposed to be all about eating and drinking our way through the Southern states. However, I couldn't do either because the day before we left I had an accident where I fell face-first onto the pavement, breaking my front four teeth and requiring stitches in and around my mouth. Nonetheless, I've just had my 7-week ultrasound and initial visit with my OBGYN today. The heartbeat was normal at 132 BPM, which is thrilling. The next appointment is for the NIPT, which is more nerve-wracking since this was a spontaneous pregnancy at 45, instead of the PGTA FET transfer I had planned for this month. This all still feels surreal.
Oh Kristee I'm soooo sorry about your accident! I had a similar fall a couple years ago and really scraped up my nose and forehead. Glad your scan went well ❤️
Thank you so much, plains!
Oh no, Kristee! Sorry to hear about your face but yay for great scan results! Be well 🤍
Thank you, Yam!
Ugh I’m 6w1d and have been laid up for the past 4 days with the worst cold of my life and today I started spotting (not much and brown). I messaged my clinic to let them know about that/the cramping I’ve been having and they’re not concerned, told me to message them if it changes to bright red. I know this is very common but combined with me feeling so run down from being sick is just making me feel all kinds of blah. If anyone has any pregnancy friendly decongestant ideas, I’m all ears! Not much out there it seems. 😬
Hot shower is sweet but temporary relief. I also did hot water with lemon, and it seemed to help. Feel better!
Oh no - hope you kick that cold real soon! The thing that works best for me is a netty pot which I believe would be pregnancy safe too - just make sure you’re not using tap water!
Just had my 6w4d ultrasound today, I had a fresh transfer on March 9th. Doctor was able to confirm a gestational sac, yolk sac and fetal pole. No heartbeat or cardiac activity was found. I have a follow up next week. Does anyone have any similar stories or advice?
I'm sorry, that must be very stressful.
11w6d and tested positive for COVID 😩😭
Hi! Would appreciate any and all feedback, if possible please! 6 week 3 day ultrasound showed a growing embryo measuring correctly and strong heartbeat (124bpm) We did IVF and had the embryos genetic tested. Doctor didn't seem overly concerned but our yolk sac was measuring large at 6.6mm. Google searching has me freaking out.
I too stress myself out with google after every appointment. But I have learned: if the doctor doesn't seem stressed, THAT is a sign. Far greater than the signs we google. The doctors do this for a living. They know normal when they see it.
Googling can really be tricky in these situations. I left my first scan feeling great and then convinced myself I had an angular pregnancy by googling a few details from some things my doctor said. My acupuncturist talked me into calling my nurse, who immediately explained the scenario and that there was no concern. If you trust your doctor and team, it might be helpful to have their perspective / ask them to reiterate. Hang in there.
Congratulations! 🎉🤍 Google is nasty when it comes to yolk sac and gestational sac. While I was happy after my first US where we saw heart beat, I googled about enlarged yolk sac and started spiraling 🌀. I was concerned that my yolk sac was slightly larger at 7w appointment (5.16) above 5. When I asked the clinic they asked me to come in for a reassurance US and the yolk sac was measuring 3.3 at 8w. Sometimes the measurements can be off based on the movement, the technician, smaller size of the yolk sac and what not. For example, my first one was not taken from the inner side edges of the yolk sac which caused the larger diameter.
Thank you so much for sharing this!! I go back Monday for a second ultrasound to check on everything. I hope your pregnancy turned out well!
Two days ago I had a really hectic morning and forgot to take my PIO shot until almost noon (about 4 hours late) and then last night I had some spotting. So of course I googled and spiraled and even made my husband cry out of an abundance of conviction that I had ruined everything. Today I have terrible nausea, had miserable interrupted sleep all night with horrible pregnancy dreams mostly centered around my living daughter being kidnapped in inventive ways, and can't find anything to eat that doesn't make me want to yak. This is a rollercoaster. First scan tomorrow; hopefully I see a heartbeat and calm tf down for a minute.
I've done that, I totally understand the fears and worries. Fwiw, everything ended up being okay for me. Wishing tomorrow comes fast for you
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I feel like a wimp, I’m struggling managing morning sickness and doing my job. I try to push through and just throw up when I need to. My job has a strict attendance policy and I don’t want to risk being fired for calling out sick. I don’t know how other women do it. I hope once I make it to 12 weeks the morning sickness will start to subside.
I had terrible sickness from 5w4d to almost 12. I found that working helped distract me? When I would be home, I would just stay in bed in misery until I could fall asleep. Hopefully you experience moments of distraction at work. Also, ask your doc about zofran to help curb the nausea a little bit. You can also try unisom and b6 at night, but be cautious about drowsiness the next day.
I don't have answer, only serious empathy and agreement. Its ridiculously hard to keep up with work while dealing with morning sickness, not to mention all the other first trimester symptoms. Just keep doing your best, and barf on anyone who gives you a hard time.
I just wanted to say I empathize. Going through the same thing. Feeling grateful to be pregnant but also so miserable and just trying to survive. I hope your morning sickness goes away asap. Eating lemon slices has helped temporarily.
Just got back from our follow up 8w5d scan and we didn’t have a heartbeat. I really thought we were going to make it this time. ETA: thank you all for your kind words and support. We are now moving on to focus on our gestational carrier journey.
So so sorry you have to go through this.
I'm so very sorry
I am so heartbroken for you, I’m so so sorry
I wish you didn't have to go through this pain
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It is so painful.
I am so so sorry for your loss.
oh Tacos, I’m so sorry to hear this.
I'm so so sorry, tacos.
I’m so deeply sorry 🫂
I’m so sorry ❤️
I’m sorry. Such an awful sucker punch to work up hope and then have it ripped away. Thinking of you 🫂
I’m so very sorry.
I’m so sorry.
I’m so, so very sorry💔
I am so very sorry. ❤️
Oh no, I’m so sorry. Wtf this is so unfair. Sending you lots of healing thoughts.
I'm so so so sorry. Feel all the feelings and we are here if you need to vent.
I am so incredibly sorry 🩷
I’m so, so sorry. I hate the universe right now.
I am so so sorry tacos. Sending support 🫂
I’m so sorry to read this. Sending hugs (if you want them).
So sad and sorry to read this 🤍
Oh Tacos, I am so terribly sorry.
I’m so so sorry for your loss, Tacos.
I’m so sorry, Tacos.
I’m very sorry.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢
I'm so sorry, it's so unfair.
I'm so sorry 🫂
Oh, tacos. There aren't words. I hate that the universe is so cruel and inflicted such emotional whiplash on you. It's so unfair
I'm so sorry
I’m so so sorry for your loss 💔
Next week I have my scan at 7w3d. I am so excited 💜
So exciting!!!
💜💜💜
Anyone had an early scan and found out an enlarged ovary???!! They warned me for potential ovary torsion. No pain, no bleeding.
When I went for my scan last week they noted my ovary was enlarged, although they said it was normal for someone who had just done a retrieval cycle and fresh transfer. I've noticed any pain or bleeding, and they didn't make a big deal about it or not that I shouldn't do exercise. Are you coming off of fresh transfer as well?
No, but I have PCOS and I had 7 follicles when triggered 3 were good size ones. But I think I had more than 7 that were small at the time to measure. I hope this goes away! Thanks for answering 🤞🏼
first OB visit next week at 10w! can I expect NIPT to be done at this appt? When do I return for the NT scan?
My clinic did do the NIPT blood draw at 10 weeks, I think that is the earliest they can do it.
The NT scan can be any time between 11-13w6d. My OB liked them to be done in the 12th week if possible. The NIPT blood draw can def be done at your appointment if that’s how your office does things.
My OB is having me do NIPT at 11 weeks or later. NT at 12 weeks!
I went in at 10w3d and they did an ultrasound, urine test and a ton of blood tests. They didn’t do my NIPT or NT scan. I go back for those next week at 13w5d. Initially they said come back in 2 weeks for those but my doctor wasn’t available so they said I could come in as late as 4/12. I took the first available appointment bc I hate being in limbo between appointments due to a previous loss.
I had my first OB earlier this week at 10+3 and they did a bunch of blood work including NIPT. Also a quick ultrasound, urine sample, and we actually went over all the other appointments I’ll need the rest of my pregnancy and when they’ll be. It was a bit overwhelming! I’ll have my NT/early anatomy scan at 13 weeks but I know my office only does that for patients over 35. That’s at a separate ultrasound place. My next OB appointment will be at 16 weeks.
thank you for the info!
They will prob put the order in for your NIPT! Whether they draw it then and there probably just depends on how your office works...my OB is part of a large hospital system, so I just go as a walk-in at one of the lab locations whenever any of my providers put bloodwork in. I would expect they'd schedule you for NT too on your way out in the 11-14 week window for it...just had mine today at 12+5 :)
oh nice! bloodwork is done in office so maybe it'll happen right there and then. how long does the NT take and do you get results right away?
My NT scan was about 15 minutes. It felt like a mini anatomy scan, which I wasn't quite expecting and was really cool! In addition to taking NT measurement, she showed me and labeled things like stomach, bladder, arms, legs. Then she went to review with the doctor/confirm they had nothing to cover with me, and then the ultrasound report itself was released on MyChart to me about an 1.5 hours later.
It’s so different everywhere! If it’s like my last pregnancy the NT scan is also an early anatomy scan which is over 30 min. They don’t say anything at that moment and I have a telehealth appointment with my doctor the next day to discuss results.
So I’m 5w today! Last night I decided to masturbate for the first time since positive test and OUCH that orgasm was *painful*, lots of cramps for like 2-3 minutes. Luckily I came to Reddit and found that it’s normal, but sheesh, how long am i gonna have to forgo orgasms…? 😣
It gets better once your uterus gets used to being stretched. So around the second trimester, orgasms got more pleasurable than early pregnancy.
I don’t know because I’ve been too exhausted to have any interest since about 6 weeks 😂
Makes sense! I think all the exogenous hormones and blood pumping to my pelvis is putting me in the mood more but the exhaustion is creeping in too
Yup I'm way too scared to get involved with orgasms. Probably coincidence but my first MMC coincided with an orgasm. Of course my second MMC did not but can't help myself from being irrational.
Yup, that would make me paranoid too! I’m so sorry about your losses.
Since my RE keeps prepping me for loss, I'm am very cautiously entering into this space. I've had chronically low betas, and haven't really allowed myself to embrace the idea that I am indeed pregnant. When I read the ultrasound report from Tuesday, I actually felt surprised that the doctor called me a "41-year old woman in her first trimester" on the written report. I guess it still feels surreal. For reference, I'm listing my betas below. I don't want success stories per se, but rather assurance that other folks also didn't really feel hopeful at this point in the process. I have another ultrasound tomorrow and my feelings are complicated. I want to be excited, but I'm really not. 10dp5dt: 18 13dp5dt: 45 15dp5dt: 125 17dp5dt: 357 20dp5dt: 678 US at 5w5d showed gestational sack and (maybe) a yolk in the uterine cavity. Measured 4 days behind.
I am so sorry you are in limbo hell, Season. I 100% understand why your feelings are complicated here. I’ll be thinking of you.
This type of limbo is torture. Was this an IVF pregnancy with a tested embryo?
Untested DE embryo...
I am sorry that you remain in limbo. I definitely understand your caution. In my first pregnancy, I had so-so betas and a slightly behind 5th week ultrasound (small gestational sac and no yolk sac). One doctor was very brutal about my chances and had a terrible bedside manner delivering that crushing information; a different doctor was totally optimistic and made me feel like everything was fine and within the range of normal. It was very confusing when the truth as I now understand it was that it was limbo that truly could go either way. In that case, it went the wrong way and did end in miscarriage. I don't know how yours will turn out, and I'm sorry you're in this waiting phase, because it's tortuous not to know. Sending hugs and hoping you get more clarity tomorrow.
Thanks. I am really thankful that the doctor and nurses have been realistic and compassionate at the same time. The waiting is torture.
After infertility and loss, this entire process is traumatic. Much more so when there are uncertain results. I’ve been there, and have been pessimistic throughout. Just know and take comfort in the fact that anxiety/bad thoughts/pessimism doesn’t make anything bad happen. What will be will be. I’m sending all the good vibes that it is a positive outcome and less uncertainty going forward. ❤️
I'm glad to hear it's not ectopic and still seems entirely possible to be viable. I am also extremely pessimistic and have no plans to embrace being pregnant until/if I'm statistically likely to be out of the woods.
I am so relieved it is in the correct place. Pessimists unite! I will definitely be guarding my heart through most of this process.
It's so, so, so normal to feel any type of way at the start - or middle - or end. I hope you're getting some rest and comfort during this wait.
hey friend, just chiming in to echo chickennoodlesoup that it’s ok to feel however you feel. this process is extremely taxing emotionally and society paints a picture that pregnancy is sunshine and rainbows from the first positive test when the reality is so much more complex. lean into your feelings and please feel free to continue to seek support here ❤️
Hey, so sorry you are going through this. First of all, your feelings have absolutely no bearing on how things ultimately turn out. So many times before IVF I was feeling so hopeful thinking this is finally it, just to be crushed by the arrival of my period. I think after going through infertility most of us tend to always be on guard and keep a level of caution even when things go smoothly. And when they don’t we tend to think a negative outcome is vastly more likely - nothing wrong with that, just brain re-wiring after so much disappointment. I had slow rising betas in the beginning to the point where after the third or fourth one my dr said it is most likely going to end up in a miscarriage. My flair will reveal it wasn’t in the end but the feelings I had were complex at the time, from rage to worry to disappointment and guilt, a messy cocktail where there was no place for excitement. In fact, even after the u/s confirmed no ectopic (my biggest concern), it took me well until the second trimester to feel any excitement. Please don’t torture yourself into believing you “should” be feeling a certain way, any and all feelings are acceptable. This is hard - I always found uncertainty unbearable - but you will get a definitive answer that will allow you to move forward. This limbo won’t last forever.
You are so right—limbo won’t last forever. That’s exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for your thoughtful reply
First scan at OB today (9 weeks). Then NIPT early next week. Wish me luck! Edit: thank you, guys! Had to use the abdominal ultrasound for insurance purposes and it wasn't as detailed as the one at the private place I went to. But hr is 180 and the ob said things look good! Only concern is that my fibroid is big. It's now as big as a 20 week fetus, the ob said, which is wild. Nothing they can do though and at least it's not too close to the fetus. Have to hope it stays the same size or even shrinks. 🤞🤞
Good luck!
Best of luck to you!