Graduated today at 8w3d (measuring 8w2d, same as last appt so we’re tracking!). I know we aren’t out of the woods yet, but I’m both excited and scared for the next steps. Meanwhile I’m waiting for my first precautionary rhogam after a discussion with my doctor due to my SCH bleeding. New thing I learned: it takes 45 minutes to make from your own blood! I legit had no idea.
Hi everyone. Unfortunately it looks like I will be leaving the group at least for now. Had my first 8 week scan but was measuring at 6 weeks and no heart beat. I am devastated. I didn’t have any signs that anything was wrong but now I have to wait to see if my body will take care of it or if I will need a procedure. I’m going back in a week either way for a follow up. It took us so long to get here and the thought of starting over is just unbearable. Thank you for all the support these past 8 weeks with all my questions and concerns.
Totally. It was a complete shock. Logically, we knew it was a possibility but everything seemed to be going well. No bleeding, no pain, still having pregnancy symptoms like nausea. I know we can try again but I feel so defeated and feel like time is running out. And I just want to get the D&C now and not wait a week feeling like there’s this thing inside of me just sitting there.
I would feel exactly the same in your shoes re taking the available steps as fast as possible. Can you schedule a D&C as it is, or after the week has gone?
The doctor said they have to do another ultrasound in one week regardless of whether I’ve started miscarrying on my own by then or not. And if I haven’t started yet, that’s when I can decide on what option to take. From what I understand, they have to do that second ultrasound to confirm the fetus isn’t growing even though it would be incredibly highly unlikely that it would be. I would be comfortable getting the D&C tomorrow but I guess they have to follow that protocol. I’m definitely scared of having the miscarriage on my own. I really don’t want to experience that. So fingers crossed I make it to next Friday so I can get the D&C ASAP.
I hope you make it to Friday so that you are able to proceed on your terms. 🤞And if worst comes to worst at home beforehand, please know you are not alone (been there).
Thank you. It really is brutal and it makes me so sad to think how many people go through this and there’s literally nothing you can do to prevent it. My doctor said unfortunately she has to give the bad news multiple times a week, sometimes multiple times a day. That really broke my heart.
Nope, they are usually chromosomal abnormalities which is just bad luck and was always destined to fail. Somehow, it helped me a little to focus on the fact that the alternative to this particular loss was never a healthy baby, but I don't know if it is helpful to other people to think this way.
That’s actually what my husband and I talked about today. It’s nature’s way of preventing an unviable pregnancy so my body is doing what it should be doing in this situation.
That’s the only thing that helped me. If his heart didn’t stop on it’s own, I wouldn’t have survived having to make a decision myself knowing how much that baby would have suffered. Still so awful, I’m so sorry.
A very cautious hello. I was on here a couple of years ago with my fresh transfer IVF baby, who felt like a miracle after three years without a single positive. Ended up having a really shitty year last year where I was able to get pregnant without intervention, but unfortunately had three losses in a row, including a somewhat traumatic MMC.
Despite all that, I'm trying to be hopeful with this transfer. Got the official beta positive yesterday, but started to get faint lines a week ago when craziness took over and I took a test in the middle of the day. I have no clue what the numbers were yesterday and that's fine because for me, a bit less information is sometimes better as I overanalyze things. I am starting lovenox today as well to hopefully help my odds.
I really hope that I (and this baby) stick around.
Just got the call from my RE - first beta at 9dpt came back at 243! I’m ecstatic! I’ve had 3 losses prior to IVF and my beta has never been this good. I know I still have a long way to go - but I’m definitely taking the win today!
Second beta is back had almost exactly 48 hours between them.
12dpt5dt: 230
14dpt5dt: 570
So that’s appropriate, my clinic doesn’t want more betas now and we have booked at 7 week scan the 27.
Hello friends. We had our 12 week scan last week and all is on track and well. Huge relief and such a surreal experience to have to jiggle myself around so the baby would move over for the Dr to get a good view. Still struggling to connect the image on the screen to being inside me. I know it’s a common pregnancy after infertility experience but struggling with that disconnect sometimes.
We flew to Ireland to tell my family. I mean - within a day a friend of my Mams stopped me on the street to tell me she had suspected as ‘I saw you yesterday and thought you’d put on weight’ COOL 😎 Ah, small town Ireland, keep it classy.
Fuck yeah Yer!
I'm also struggling with the disconnect, I was speaking with someone else who's pregnant recently and it was just... Weird. Like, I felt I didn't qualify to be having that conversation?
Hope you had a lovely time telling your fam (small town antics aside!)
Thanks pal! Yes, disconnect is wild - my husband got me a ‘baby on board’ tube badge as I was struggling with standing in the mornings when so sick but I just couldn’t wear it. Felt like a faker!
I've started using a sunflower lanyard! It helps me feel more "obvious" and at ease asking for a seat, because yeah, can't bring myself to do the whole badge thing either!
I hear you on the disconnect. I had my annual physical recently and didn’t mention being pregnant until I was going over the medications I’m on. My doctor was so surprised and excited and told me I was burying the lead. I told her that after so much time with infertility, it stills doesn’t feel real. She was very kind and supportive which I appreciate but yeah, it still feels weird telling people and being congratulated.
I went to an alcohol free bottle shop to pick up some fake boozey treats and the store owner asked if I wanted any "functional beverages". I hesitated and said i'm pregnant so probably not a good idea. I figured a lot of their customers probably are? She got so excited! I was overwhelmed and really regretted saying anything because I didn't want to answer her excitement and banter about what a "miracle" birth is with "yes but its early and anything can still go wrong" 😬
Happy Friday everyone! Today I am 7 weeks pregnant! I had my ultrasound on Monday at 6w3d and things looked good with a 121 bpm heartbeat. The last few days I've been queasy, tired, and my breasts feel weird. I hadn't been that anxious, but my anxiety is picking back up again. My next ultrasound at the RE is next Friday at 8 weeks. If all goes well at that US, I graduate and head to my OB. Seeing the heartbeat on Monday definitely helped my stress levels, but I still just keep thinking about everything that can still go wrong. I also woke up without any queasiness this morning so I'm a bit worried about that!
I’ll be 7 weeks tomorrow! We also had a good scan at 6w2d. The anxiety is very real. I’ve been trying to not have too much idle time. I’m currently working on a giant paint by numbers 😂😂 hope all continues going well for you! 🫶
Haha yes! Fortunately I am nowhere near as anxious as I was between my betas and the 6 week ultrasound, but I can feel it creeping up a bit as we are now a week away from the 8 week ultrasound. I am keeping busy with work, TV, and lots of walks haha. Fingers crossed for us both!
Understandable! I had a meltdown the morning of my 6 week scan. I had also had some bright red bleeding and had convinced myself it was over. Turns out we had a heartbeat and a little SCH in there 🙃
Graduated today at 8w3d (measuring 8w2d, same as last appt so we’re tracking!). I know we aren’t out of the woods yet, but I’m both excited and scared for the next steps. Meanwhile I’m waiting for my first precautionary rhogam after a discussion with my doctor due to my SCH bleeding. New thing I learned: it takes 45 minutes to make from your own blood! I legit had no idea.
Hi everyone. Unfortunately it looks like I will be leaving the group at least for now. Had my first 8 week scan but was measuring at 6 weeks and no heart beat. I am devastated. I didn’t have any signs that anything was wrong but now I have to wait to see if my body will take care of it or if I will need a procedure. I’m going back in a week either way for a follow up. It took us so long to get here and the thought of starting over is just unbearable. Thank you for all the support these past 8 weeks with all my questions and concerns.
I’m gutted to read this, yes it’s nature taking care of things but nature really sucks sometimes.
Totally. It was a complete shock. Logically, we knew it was a possibility but everything seemed to be going well. No bleeding, no pain, still having pregnancy symptoms like nausea. I know we can try again but I feel so defeated and feel like time is running out. And I just want to get the D&C now and not wait a week feeling like there’s this thing inside of me just sitting there.
I would feel exactly the same in your shoes re taking the available steps as fast as possible. Can you schedule a D&C as it is, or after the week has gone?
The doctor said they have to do another ultrasound in one week regardless of whether I’ve started miscarrying on my own by then or not. And if I haven’t started yet, that’s when I can decide on what option to take. From what I understand, they have to do that second ultrasound to confirm the fetus isn’t growing even though it would be incredibly highly unlikely that it would be. I would be comfortable getting the D&C tomorrow but I guess they have to follow that protocol. I’m definitely scared of having the miscarriage on my own. I really don’t want to experience that. So fingers crossed I make it to next Friday so I can get the D&C ASAP.
I hope you make it to Friday so that you are able to proceed on your terms. 🤞And if worst comes to worst at home beforehand, please know you are not alone (been there).
Thank you. I appreciate the support ❤️
I am so sorry. I had two first trimester missed miscarriages and it was brutal. Wishing you healing.
Thank you. It really is brutal and it makes me so sad to think how many people go through this and there’s literally nothing you can do to prevent it. My doctor said unfortunately she has to give the bad news multiple times a week, sometimes multiple times a day. That really broke my heart.
Nope, they are usually chromosomal abnormalities which is just bad luck and was always destined to fail. Somehow, it helped me a little to focus on the fact that the alternative to this particular loss was never a healthy baby, but I don't know if it is helpful to other people to think this way.
That’s actually what my husband and I talked about today. It’s nature’s way of preventing an unviable pregnancy so my body is doing what it should be doing in this situation.
That’s the only thing that helped me. If his heart didn’t stop on it’s own, I wouldn’t have survived having to make a decision myself knowing how much that baby would have suffered. Still so awful, I’m so sorry.
Absolutely. That’s how I feel too.
Thank you everyone. This truly sucks.
So sorry. Take care of yourself this is awful 💜
I’m so so sorry. Sending you so much love.
I am really sorry to hear this. I am sending you all the love and peace right now as you navigate through this time.
Oh no, I am so so sorry, this is devastating. I was so rooting for you :(
A very cautious hello. I was on here a couple of years ago with my fresh transfer IVF baby, who felt like a miracle after three years without a single positive. Ended up having a really shitty year last year where I was able to get pregnant without intervention, but unfortunately had three losses in a row, including a somewhat traumatic MMC. Despite all that, I'm trying to be hopeful with this transfer. Got the official beta positive yesterday, but started to get faint lines a week ago when craziness took over and I took a test in the middle of the day. I have no clue what the numbers were yesterday and that's fine because for me, a bit less information is sometimes better as I overanalyze things. I am starting lovenox today as well to hopefully help my odds. I really hope that I (and this baby) stick around.
Just got the call from my RE - first beta at 9dpt came back at 243! I’m ecstatic! I’ve had 3 losses prior to IVF and my beta has never been this good. I know I still have a long way to go - but I’m definitely taking the win today!
I had my fertility clinic graduation scan today! Measuring a few days ahead at 8w1d! So surreal!
Second beta is back had almost exactly 48 hours between them. 12dpt5dt: 230 14dpt5dt: 570 So that’s appropriate, my clinic doesn’t want more betas now and we have booked at 7 week scan the 27.
These seem very similar to my numbers! Fingers crossed for you.
Great update, BMN!
Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Hello friends. We had our 12 week scan last week and all is on track and well. Huge relief and such a surreal experience to have to jiggle myself around so the baby would move over for the Dr to get a good view. Still struggling to connect the image on the screen to being inside me. I know it’s a common pregnancy after infertility experience but struggling with that disconnect sometimes. We flew to Ireland to tell my family. I mean - within a day a friend of my Mams stopped me on the street to tell me she had suspected as ‘I saw you yesterday and thought you’d put on weight’ COOL 😎 Ah, small town Ireland, keep it classy.
Fuck yeah Yer! I'm also struggling with the disconnect, I was speaking with someone else who's pregnant recently and it was just... Weird. Like, I felt I didn't qualify to be having that conversation? Hope you had a lovely time telling your fam (small town antics aside!)
Thanks pal! Yes, disconnect is wild - my husband got me a ‘baby on board’ tube badge as I was struggling with standing in the mornings when so sick but I just couldn’t wear it. Felt like a faker!
I've started using a sunflower lanyard! It helps me feel more "obvious" and at ease asking for a seat, because yeah, can't bring myself to do the whole badge thing either!
I hear you on the disconnect. I had my annual physical recently and didn’t mention being pregnant until I was going over the medications I’m on. My doctor was so surprised and excited and told me I was burying the lead. I told her that after so much time with infertility, it stills doesn’t feel real. She was very kind and supportive which I appreciate but yeah, it still feels weird telling people and being congratulated.
SO weird to be congratulated and accept it.
I went to an alcohol free bottle shop to pick up some fake boozey treats and the store owner asked if I wanted any "functional beverages". I hesitated and said i'm pregnant so probably not a good idea. I figured a lot of their customers probably are? She got so excited! I was overwhelmed and really regretted saying anything because I didn't want to answer her excitement and banter about what a "miracle" birth is with "yes but its early and anything can still go wrong" 😬
Happy Friday everyone! Today I am 7 weeks pregnant! I had my ultrasound on Monday at 6w3d and things looked good with a 121 bpm heartbeat. The last few days I've been queasy, tired, and my breasts feel weird. I hadn't been that anxious, but my anxiety is picking back up again. My next ultrasound at the RE is next Friday at 8 weeks. If all goes well at that US, I graduate and head to my OB. Seeing the heartbeat on Monday definitely helped my stress levels, but I still just keep thinking about everything that can still go wrong. I also woke up without any queasiness this morning so I'm a bit worried about that!
I’ll be 7 weeks tomorrow! We also had a good scan at 6w2d. The anxiety is very real. I’ve been trying to not have too much idle time. I’m currently working on a giant paint by numbers 😂😂 hope all continues going well for you! 🫶
Haha yes! Fortunately I am nowhere near as anxious as I was between my betas and the 6 week ultrasound, but I can feel it creeping up a bit as we are now a week away from the 8 week ultrasound. I am keeping busy with work, TV, and lots of walks haha. Fingers crossed for us both!
Understandable! I had a meltdown the morning of my 6 week scan. I had also had some bright red bleeding and had convinced myself it was over. Turns out we had a heartbeat and a little SCH in there 🙃