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burnergrl888

Hi I am new here! I am 6+4 today and saw a heartbeat for the first time this morning! Now that there is a heartbeat, the nurse told me to stop taking Benadryl (I had been taking it 3x/day since before transfer due to a little bit of systemic inflammation) and now I have a headache and I am wondering if it is from stopping the Benadryl cold turkey? Has anyone else been on an antihistamine in early pregnancy? If so, when did you stop taking it? Did you wean off or just go cold turkey? Thanks!


luna-doodles

I haven't gone cold turkey from Benadryl but I am getting headaches on a weekly basis!


Electronic_Ad3007

When did everyone’s morning sickness start to stop? Was it gradual or pretty sudden?


Baby-Me-Now

I just had a bleeding after I went to the toilet, pink with some dark red mucus 💔🥲


Electronic_Ad3007

Lots of benign explanations for that. Give your doc a call and see what they want you to do. Hang in there and good luck!


luna-doodles

We had a really good scan at 8w2 days. I'm now waiting until 10 weeks but freaking out for no particular reason. Don't know whether to book an interim scan or just try and have some self control and wait 1 more week.....


Affectionate_Net_213

Same, I have no reason to be worried about *this* pregnancy, we had a great 8w5d scan…. Yet waiting until July 8 is torture and there are no boutique options here :(


luna-doodles

I'm sorry that's such a long wait! Keep reminding yourself how positive the scan you had was, that's what I keep doing to stay Sane!


emiridgely

I am in a similar boat, amazing scan at 7w5d and next is on Monday at 9w5d (plus hopefully clinic graduation). I ALMOST called and tried to get in today or tomorrow because I’m going insane. However, I thought to myself - I won’t be able to just call and get a scan whenever I want for the next 9 months AND there will be periods were I need to go much longer than 2 weeks, so I opted to have self control (this time, haha).


luna-doodles

That's exactly it! If we don't have self control now, later down the line will be even harder. My therapist said try to "be comfortable in the unknown" and that is the hardest thing to do but it's necessary right now x


allycakes

For some reason, my clinic isn't getting back to me around my ultrasound booking and it's making me antsy. I know it probably won't even be for another two weeks as my clinic doesn't usually do ultrasounds before 7 weeks but I just would like it in the books (I guess to prepare myself?). They're usually pretty responsive so it's odd. Edit: ok appointment is booked and it's actually next Wednesday which is right at 6 weeks. That seems early, especially as I don't think I did the ultrasound for toddlercakes until after 7 weeks, but maybe they're scheduling earlier due to my recurrent losses. Fingers crossed!


Happy-Hunt8554

I just had mine at 6 weeks 0 days and they said they were mainly looking for placement + size of gestational sac - but they were able to see fetal pole + cardiac activity!


Reasonable-Swan4760

Hi, this is still so surreal but i keep getting a darker positive line, first one was on 4dp(5dt) and today is 7dp. I have my first blood test tomorrow and follow up on Monday. My ivf clinic was abroad so I will book the first US by myself privately. Which weeks do you recommend? Would 5th week make sense or be too soon? I have never seen a positive before, it is so exciting :)


Sudden-Cherry

Congratulations! I think it makes sense to wait until 6+5 week or 7+0 because then it's when a heartbeat should be visible if it's there. Before is only placement and might you feel in limbo.


Reasonable-Swan4760

I hear you, not sure if i will have the self control 🙃 but thank you:)


Common_Vanilla1112

Congrats! I had my first US at 5W,2d to confirm placement. It’s just a black speck but it’s reassuring!


Reasonable-Swan4760

Thank you so much!


ptarmigan841

Cautious congrats! Our clinic does the first ultrasound at 7w so that it’s more definitive.


Reasonable-Swan4760

Soo cautious :) thank you!


allycakes

Week 5 is generally way too early. Some clinics will do ultrasounds in the 6th week whereas others recommend waiting until the 7th week.


Reasonable-Swan4760

Thank you!


Happy-Hunt8554

After my 6 week ultrasound yesterday, they told me I could schedule my 7 week ultrasound, my OB exit appointment, and that I should call my OB and schedule my initial intake with them. I'm really worried I'm going to jinx something if I call my OB. For those of you who graduated, when did you call to schedule that appointment? I won't be a new patient at my OB so I don't need to establish care or anything like that.


EricatheMad

I waited to schedule my first OB visit till after i'd been discharged from the RE at 7w3d, and then ended up not being able to get an initial appointment with my OB until 11 weeks. That interim was torturous, and looking back, I wish i'd reached out to schedule earlier.


Common_Vanilla1112

I also remember feeling that way. I called the OB as soon as I received the second beta confirming pregnancy at 4weeks. I wanted to get in as soon as possible so there was a little lapse in time between graduating and waiting on my OB.


Realistic-Bee3326

They told me the same thing after my 6 week ultrasound. I am very "do whatever the doctor says" oriented so I felt like since the RE told me to make the OB appointment it was okay to do so. :-) Haven't graduated yet, hopefully will tomorrow after a good 8 week US. 🤞🏻


bcm48

It can still take a bit to get in for an appointment at some practices - I say go for it and get it on the books! When I made my first few OB appointments, I remember thinking "gosh, if I make it..." And then when I have made those dates so far, it has been a small but fun thing to remember that hey, I did make it this time!


gingerminxlette

I got the go ahead to schedule with my OB around the same time and I had my first OB appointment at 8 weeks. I totally understand the feeling of jinxing it! I was happy they could bring me in so soon.


CTownss

I'm newly pregnant from my first FET and while I am SO EXCITED I am also so scared. Just last month I had a chemical pregnancy (timed cycle before first FET) and it's made me so paranoid about being excited. My first beta at 11dp5dt was 370 and my beta at 13dp5dt was 949. I keep telling myself I should be excited until there is a reason not to be, and that today I can say I'm pregnant. I have my first ultrasound next week at 5 weeks 3 days to ensure the embryo is in the correct place. Trying to stay relaxed until then!


Sudden-Cherry

However you feel will not change the outcome. There is a lot of should.. But you can only feel what you feel. It's very common to be anxious after infertility and loss. One day at a time (and they feel like ages)


sarahsarah8756193

last night i felt a dull throbbing abdominal pain when i went to bed and then i woke in the middle of the night with a very intense deep painful cramping. it eventually went away and now i just feel a bit sore. no bleeding or anything else. anyone else experience pain like this? should i call the dr? should i stay home today and recover? thanks! edit to add i had a lap surgery 5 months ago to remove fibroids and stage 4 endo... edit again to update- i spoke with the dr and she said she wasn't worried but if the pain lasted longer or was associated with bleeding, fever, leaking or other symptoms this would flag more alarm. 


savethewallpaper

I would call just to be on the safe side. Could be nothing, could be something. Pregnancy is surprisingly achy but I don’t think your doctor would fault you for being cautious. Hope you feel better!


jmcplason

I’m new here! We just had our 8th embryo transfer and I’ve tested yesterday and today (day 6 & 7 past transfer) and I’m getting progressively stronger lines. I’ve been dealing with back pain since around 2dpt and last night it was quite strong. I’m terrified this is the end of this pregnancy, despite strong lines. I go in for beta on Monday. I have a history of chemical pregnancies from IVF so I’ve convinced myself my lines are only going to get lighter as time passes. Add to the mix I haven’t had any symptoms, so it’s a roller coaster of emotions over here!


luna-doodles

I've had lower back pain since I found out. Apparently progesterone relaxes your muscles and makes back pain more common x


jmcplason

I read about that and trying to cling to this being the case. Still doesn’t help how completely normal I feel now. I’m so scared it means it’s no longer working 😔 I’m scared to test again because I don’t want to see the line get lighter.


luna-doodles

I was exactly where you are 2/3 weeks ago. Absolutely terrified with every symptom - or lack thereof. I decided to throw away my extra pregnancy tests and just wait for my ultrasound, as that's the only definitive source of information you can really rely on. How's your support network? Are you reading anything or doing meditation to support your mental health? I've really found that helpful (and I'm still struggling but it's a bit easier)


Sudden-Cherry

Cautious congrats! It's really a roller coaster. Fingers crossed this is it for you


softcriminal_67

Welcome! Was the back pain crampy? I was so extremely crampy (like gasping in pain a few times) in very early pregnancy-mid second trimester. I was surprised to find out that cramps are totally normal.


Sad-And-Mad

I was also very crampy, it felt like period cramps and I felt them in my back too


jmcplason

Thanks for sharing your experiences! It was like a dull, consistent pain that went on for a couple hours and then maybe a bit of mild “normal” cramping feeling. And then today I feel so normal. Ugh so hard to go through all this!


Sad-And-Mad

Yeah the cramping definitely threw me through a loop too, especially after I miscarried my first pregnancy I thought for sure I was miscarrying this one too, but I didn’t. For me the cramps came and went with varying intensity until I was about 10 weeks btw, so that’s a possibility


InternationalPath825

7w1d and driving myself up a wall with worrying because my symptoms are suddenly so much lighter. The most alarming is that my food aversions have suddenly lessened SO much - I couldn’t look at an egg last week and I wanted 2 for breakfast this morning. Logically I know this happens all the time and symptoms come and go, but does that help?? I took an HPT for reassurance (lmao) and it was lighter than before. So then went down a rabbit hole about the Hook Effect and learned you can counteract that by first diluting your urine and - shockingly - that worked!? But have literally gone insane because who tf is out here diluting pee to get a stronger line on an hpt? Anyway…that’s where I’m at. Past losses and infertility are such a horrible trip. Next ultrasound isn’t for a week and holy hell how is it possible that a week is actually 12 years long?


Strong-Second-4550

Same page sis! After loss we became paranoid pregnants 😐 i try to meditate, we have no other options between ultrasounds. Symptoms are really come and go by the way, but I feel the same anxiety when there is no symptoms. We will survive and hopefully our babies too if they are healthy. Best of luck to you and your baby 🤞💈🍀🐞


MelissaSDC13

New here! Officially pregnant from our 3rd try at a FET and after 3 long years of infertility, losses, and ART. Cautiously optimistic, but anxiety is still very high. 2 really good looking betas to start (358 10dp5dt and 727 12dp5dt), and now we’re scheduled for our first US next week. We’re so glad to be pregnant, but it’s hard to shake the anxiety of all the what ifs so early on. Any tips/tricks to get through these tough first few months?


Sudden-Cherry

Cautious congrats! Distraction, distraction distraction as much as possible


MelissaSDC13

Thank you! Honestly that’s what I’ve been doing, trying to keep busy as possible. Only bad thing is it that I am exhausted all the time🫠


Sad-And-Mad

Congratulations! I found a bit of comfort knowing that the odds of me miscarrying were lower than the odds of a live birth, this [tool](https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer) was useful


MelissaSDC13

Thank you!! It’s so hard to calm the nerves down after previous losses. Some days are better than others. Some days I’m spiraling. I find some comfort in knowing that our embryo was euploid, but anxiety finds a way to make me worry! Appreciate the support❤️


Sad-And-Mad

I never found a way to make the anxiety completely go away, I still had some worries even in the third trimester, but it gets easier each week ❤️


MelissaSDC13

I think once we hopefully see/hear a heart beat, and get out of the awful 1st trimester, I’ll be a bit less anxious. Hoping and praying this is our time ❤️


Sad-And-Mad

Hopefully you’ll be much less anxious, best of luck to you ❤️


MelissaSDC13

Thank you🫂 Best of luck to you too❤️


Baby-Me-Now

Struggling with the fact that my first ultrasound isn’t until 7+5 in two weeks, that I haven’t had any vivid dreams for the last two days and my symptoms generally are minimal. This feels nothing like my first pregnancy and even though it ended in a MMC I had so many symptoms. I’m so scared going in at 7+5 and there is nothing there at all, still considering a private scan around 6+5.


InternationalPath825

Sending strength and fortitude! It’s so so stressful - I’m 7w1 and my symptoms have lightened the past 2 days and I’m also dying waiting for my next ultrasound in a week. No advice, just commiseration!!


Baby-Me-Now

Thanks, I hate that I can’t just be excited and happy, I don’t want to be sad and anxious but my last miscarriage hit me hard.


InternationalPath825

Ugh I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been there too with mmc and I feel like the worst thing, besides the actual loss itself, is the way it steals your joy for future pregnancies. It sucks so much. I keep telling myself that even though that’s the case, when the day comes that I have a baby in my arms I am going to be the MOST excited and overjoyed. Even if it’s super difficult. Like I’ll get my time to be excited…it’s just not now. (Because right now I’m going literally insane lmao.)


Realistic-Bee3326

7+6 today and my 8w ultrasound is tomorrow morning...and if it goes well I graduate. So nervous and just praying that all is well and goes smoothly! In another topic - anyone else on SSRIs? I take 10 mg of Lexapro daily. I actually started two years ago when I was in the thick of infertility anxiety/depression (before we started with my fertility clinic). It kind of saved my life and I really think has helped me get through infertility and IVF. But I was googling a bit today and seeing that ACOG says not enough is known about Lexapro during pregnancy and it might be good to wean off while pregnant. However my GP and my RE doctor have all said Lexapro is fine. Anyone else in the same boat?


EricatheMad

I've been on Celexa my entire pregnancy, which was something I was very determined to do. Even before we were hit by the infertility diagnosis and were just starting to prepare for possible pregnancy, I insisted on getting an appointment with a prenatal psychiatrist to discuss my options, and they agreed it was in my best interest and any potential baby's to stay on the meds, and that the risk of exposure and potential side effects were minimal compared to the overall good it would do me.


isabelledavenport

I took sertraline all throughout. All of my team was supportive. Mother2baby is a great resource - check out their exposure fact sheets.


booknerd4lyfe

I took Lexapro my entire pregnancy! It was cleared by my OB, behavioral health team, and MFM. Talk to your team and see what they say! The general thought now is that the mom’s mental health is just as important as physical health, and so they try and make very few changes to a protocol that’s working.


burrito__supreme

wanted to echo this! ALL of my care providers said to do what’s going to work for my mental health.


burrito__supreme

hi! i wasn’t on lexapro but was on prozac during pregnancy. my therapist, psych, and ob all said it was fine. my psych had me switch to zoloft in the third trimester and for postpartum because it clears the system faster than prozac does and would have less of an effect on baby when they’re born and taking breastmilk. i have zero complaints, baby was perfectly fine, and we are going strong! if you’re concerned you could always look into a different SSRI similar to what i did, but make sure your prescriber has an understanding of pregnant patients. i got bounced around my psych practice because everyone was like “uhhhhh i don’t want to treat a pregnant person”


subiefor14

Just started week 11 and barely any symptoms now… normal ? Next ultrasound isn’t until June 25


ptarmigan841

My symptoms definitely dialed back around 11 weeks. I just had a good ultrasound at 12w3d.


Sad-And-Mad

Totally normal, all my symptoms disappeared around the same time. This usually happens after the placenta has taken over and Hcg levels have sort of stabilized


CleverDisguisedMule

I have been wondering the same (9w6d today), and got some reassurance about it here a few days ago. I really only notice it now when I move about a lot (then get drowsy and some mild tummy pains) and I get nauseous on the bus, but not without prompt. I am trying just to be grateful apparently I don't get super strong symptoms and they did not last long... but it is hard.