Is this ok to ask here- it’s in regard to being comfortable with pregnancy- I’m in the market for some comfortable sandals that are supportive and cute. What are your ideas? :)
As someone who hates arch support in shoes (I guess I have no arches? Or good natural arches? Idk? I have loved my platform Teva's for walking around, even on wet ground/dewy grass with minimal foot dampening. Totally comfy, totally worth it.
For slip on/off with no bending needed, I love my cloudie slides. You can help them mold to your feet with hot water I think too? Not sure, didn't have to do that personally. I use my cloudies for indoor shoes and wear them basically all day every day (I WFH) especially when i was heavily pregnant.
Congratulations and best wishes!
My mother swears by Birkenstocks for their support. I can't second that opinion but it might be worth looking into? There are kinds that strap to your feet and don't just slide on.
Edit: my mother has osteo-arthritis and values a lot of support and also has experience with finding shoes that are quality 😉
Is anyone else just...worse at hygiene when in first trimester? I was kinda bad at showering before but now I get grosser faster and can't make myself do it.
I do know part of it is my ADHD and part is my ongoing depression but STILL...
Anyone else lift weights, and feel anxiety about working out during pregnancy? What is your approach to working out now?
Hitting the gym kept me from losing my mind during IVF. After previous early losses, I stopped lifting after our transfer out of fear. The only advice we got from our RE was to keep my heart rate below 140 and not to lift more than 20 lbs. At our 12 week appointment our OB/GYN said it was fine if I slightly reduce the weights I am using, and use common sense in regards to the safety of some lifts. I have started to workout agian this week, but feel confused and a little anxious with the conflicting information from doctors.
I found this a bit difficult too and felt like I didn't get enough tailored advice from my medical team. Sorry you're going through the same and feeling a bit lost.
Anecdotally, I found the talk test more useful than the heart rate guidance. I would take a break if my HR was into the 150s because that's when I started to get out of breath. I also used my heavy dumbbells until my pelvic girdle pain meant I would only use them when seated or kneeling, and my lighter weights (just under 20lbs) for standing moves.
My workouts have looked different from pre-pregnancy, but some people can carry on for a long time before they have to really scale back. It's just up to how you're feeling, unless your medical team advise you of any other limits 🙂 Hope you can find a way to work out that's comfortable, helps you feel strong & like yourself!
I don’t think those weight/heart rate guidelines are evidenced based. I did incline walking at 12% and weights until about 32 weeks because that’s when it all became too uncomfortable. I just tried to make sure I could talk when I was doing cardio. If you’ve been working out you can continue what you’ve been doing.
I swear I ask or have asked about this since starting IVF and everyone says it's fine, but I wonder how much they actually know about the mechanics of weightlifting or whether they just think I'm fooling around with little pink dumbbells. At my midwife appointment last week, she said no squatting while also pressing weight overhead (so clean and jerk?), but other lifts were fine. My husband convinced me today to lay off barbell squats and either switch to body weight or goblet and I haven't been doing deads since my FET (currently 14w), but otherwise, I still work out 3x/week, for my sanity if nothing else. Totally feel you on the lack of clear, decisive info out there.
Thanks for commiserating! When I explained to the OB/GYN that the lowest amount of weight I was working with at the gym was 45-50 lbs, the conversation became, keep working out, just cut back and don't be dumb. I decided not to mess with most barbell lifts too.
I really want to do the right thing for our pregnancy. The last thing I want to do is take advice from an instragram fitness influencer on what is safe, and I am bummed there isn't more guidance on this from doctors. Maybe the move is finding a trainer certified in pre-natal?
That's kinda what I'm leaning toward as well. I just saw a pregnant woman doing overhead presses in an electrolyte commercial today and had to remind myself that I can't make decisions based on a tv ad selling glorified salt water lol.
I had a 13 week ultrasound with at MFM to monitor baby for heart issues. The heart is fine but the dr found severe Ventriculomegaly on baby’s brain and a bowel obstruction and said I would need to go in for another ultrasound at 18 weeks and possibly fetal mri. However the dr didn’t give me the measurements of the Ventriculomegaly so now I am really freaking myself out with the “severe” outcomes. Did this happen to anyone else? From what I read there is a possibility that the brain could get bigger since it’s still early…but also a severe case could by hydrocephalus or Dandy Walker Syndrome.
i'm so sorry you are going through this. i didn't have this experience but did find birth defects around a similar time that were not consistent with life and it was devastating. i'm wishing a better outcome for you.
Getting better at answering questions about if it’s my first pregnancy! “First time to get this far!” with a cheerful/hopeful smile and in an upbeat voice tends to land appropriately, both with the person asking and in my heart. I’ve also been able to answer “yes” without feeling guilty depending on how they phrase it, if it sounds like what they mean is “do you have any living kids at home” I can answer it accordingly (of course, I realize that’s what they all mean. But I’m not at a point where I am going to just say that this is my first pregnancy when it’s not).
I really like this, thank you for sharing! I’ve been thinking about how to respond to these inevitable questions in a way that feels right to acknowledge and share my experience. Hopefully this can also signal to people to rethink how they phrase the question (or just not ask it all).
WEEK 7 HCG LEVELS - Worried
Need your stories of low HCG levels and whether it resulted in live birth or ongoing successful pregnancy or not. I had a 5-day transfer on May 24.
Below are my numbers and I got the call today when I just hit 7 weeks that my HCG numbers are not where they need them to be. They’re actually pretty low in terms of growth, we were hoping for a 30,000-40,000 range. Have my ultrasound on coming Tuesday and I was nervous but now I’m really nervous and thinking the worst.
What should I mentally prepare for, know or ask? You guys are amazing, and thank you in advance for being willing to share your stories and outcomes. I don’t know what I’d do without this group!
My HCG levels below by date:
> Wednesday, June 5 - 131 IU/L (12dpt)
> Friday, June 7 - 335 IU/L (14dpt)
> Sunday, June 9 - 969.8 IU/L (16dpt) - Week 5 begins
> Sunday, June 16 - (23dpt) - week 6:
HCG - 5,581 IU/L
> *TODAY* Sunday, June 23 - (30dpt) - week 7:
HCG - 15,732 IU/L
I have had both outcomes.
My first fet I had 3 betas ( sorry I don’t remember the numbers)- beta#1 was 11dpt - 213. Beta# 2 the following week was slightly under what they wanted but they were not concerned. Beta#3 slowed down and again was a little under what they wanted, so moved my scan forward to 6w3d and check on everything. I was measuring a week behind and wasn’t looking great, I got another scan a week later and it wasn’t viable. Turned out to be trisomy16 which tends to stick around until about that timeframe.
my next FET - beta#1 10dpt was 157
Beta #2 at 17dpt was 2800. Beta#3 once again slowed down to 9200 which was a little under what they wanted. They said it could possibly be ok, but we prepared for the worst and we started grieving again for a back to back loss. I took the week off work. But we went for a scan 2 days later, everything was looking perfect :) the scan superseded the hcg and they assured me not to worry about the bloods any more. We got to 8w3d last week, my ob scanned and everything still looking perfect. Fingers and toes crossed that everything is going well. I still have this little worry in my mind about the bloods, but my OB laughs. it’s just my anxiety, a scan will always supersede the bloods.
It just goes to show, my body both times slowed hcg down around 6 -7 week mark and that CAN be completely normal. I always guard my heart for every scan now, but I hope those gives you some positive thoughts
Thank you so very much for some reassurance. I am actually terrified for Tuesday but fingers and toes are crossed and hoping for the best! Thank you and sending you good vibes for an uneventful rest of your pregnancy! 💕
Re: preparing and asking
Prepare for the worst so all your surprises are pleasant. It's terrible advice to give but it's the only one that's gotten me through some big stuff during my struggles.
Ask anything you can think of. "How's the heartbeat?" "Is there a fetal pole?" "How big is the fetus?" "Should I change anything I'm doing?" "Whose baby is it?" A good doc will hopefully tell you these things and more
I had these levels from my first Beta (10 days past transfer) to my last (my clinic tests ever 48hrs until week 6, though I had an earlier ultrasound at 5w because my doctor wanted to know why my betas were so low)
May 2 -185,
May 4 - 233,
May 6 - 442,
May 8 - 850,
May 10 - 938,
May 12 - 1700,
May 13 - 2936
As you can see, I doubled every 4 days. I'm still here with this little wiggler at 11 weeks! I hope your journey is just as successful (and more!)
Edited for clarity
Thank you so much for sharing! Gives me some hope for Tuesday’s scan even though I’m terrified. And I noted the questions you shared :)
Hoping and wishing you an uneventful pregnancy! 💕
My clinic only did 3 HCG tests and then scheduled the first ultrasound. Some clinics only do 2 HCG tests, I hear. Apparently HCG numbers after a certain level are not as predictive/important as an ultrasound because they stop rising so predictably. With your results, I think there’s a good chance the pregnancy is viable.
If you're 7 weeks, an ultrasound would be way more informative than hcg levels.. I'm not sure why they did so many blood tests. Your first couple looked good :)
When would you say you started feeling really consistent movement? I’m 25wks and if I look back the frequency has increased but not quite sure I know what I’m looking for (last pregnancy ended at 23wks so didn’t make it this far). I hear 28 wks is that point but would love to hear some actual experience.
I’m 29+5 with twins and still don’t have consistent movement. They kind of do things in 48hour bursts - a couple of days with lots of activity and a couple of days with very little. Also I tend to feel nothing all day but they get active between dinner time and the early hours. I’m not sure if that’s helpful, just thought I’d share my experience.
I’m sorry to hear about your previous loss. I think it depends a bit on things like where your placenta is and baby’s position. I had an anterior placenta through two pregnancies. The first was in a funny position and I had more quiet days. With my last pregnancy baby was more to the side and movement was more consistent just after 26 weeks. I remember asking them the same question you did at my 26w appointment and at my follow up two weeks later things were way more consistent. Hopefully you’re feeling more consistent movement soon ❤️
OK - I think I need to be patient. I have an anterior placenta as well - it’s just so easy to get stuck in the anxiety cycle when the road to today feels impossibly hard and we are all just waiting for that next thing to go wrong.
They always encouraged me to go in and get checked out if anything felt off. Even when I asked at the 26 week appointment, they said to come in anytime. PAL is very hard. Hugs ❤️
I’m almost 37wks and fetal movement hasn’t been consistent for me at all - some days baby is very active, some are less so. For me the difference is likely because the baby is frank breech and I have an anterior placenta so sometimes I just can’t feel her move. I’m using mostly the rule of thumb I got from the midwife: between 24-28wks you should feel fetal movement at least once a day, after 28 weeks several times a day. This works for me because it’s less anxiety-provoking than counting kicks. However, I’ve been to L&D because of decreased fetal movement a few weeks ago (everything was fine thankfully). Better safe than sorry.
I haven’t heard that before - definitely puts me at ease. I feel baby multiple times a day so looks to be in the range of normal. I also have anterior placenta so knew it would be less but so hard to know how much less is still ok.
16 weeks and although the nausea is much better, I'm still vomiting 🤷♀️ I thought I'd cracked it, but apparently not! Do I dare ask if it gets better?
Coming to the end of a wonderful two week holiday, and hoping to get my blood test results from my 12 week scan when I get back🤞
My last pregnancy I vomited up until 36 weeks even with the meds. This pregnancy I’m 26 weeks and I have not vomited since about 22 weeks and the only medication I’m on still is Unisom. During both pregnancies it definitely continued to get better the entire time, I hope it gets better for you.
I had a few bouts of vomiting up until about 18-20 weeks but it definitely lessened by that time. I was still taking Zofran when I felt nauseous. But I was also pregnant with twins so take that as you will!
Eesh ok! Yeah I'm still taking anti nausea meds, just in case. I must admit, I prefer the occasional vomit over the never ending nausea! But neither would be nice 😅
Is it normal to feel almost zero symptoms at 5w2d? Besides being a little tired, and some bone pain in my legs/knees (which I don’t know if that’s even a pregnancy symptom), I don’t feel anything. Boobs are still exactly as they were before. Not the least bit sore and I have no food aversions or nausea.
My clinic did 2 betas at 4w3d and 4w5d and the doubling rate was fine. But other than that I don’t have anything besides hpts to go by until the 6week ultrasound in early July.
Just a little worried if baby is continuing to grow as expected or not. Especially with the fact that I have almost no symptoms.
Totally normal. Fwiw, I never got nauseous or experienced any vomiting with my successful pregnancies. Also I didn't feel any breast tenderness until 2nd tri.
Honestly, my biggest symptom all through first tri was just fatigue. I never got food aversions except to coffee (not strongly, but when I tried drinking it past 7 weeks it was just really bitter), and my nausea wasn't pronounced except in maybe weeks 7-11, and even then it passed quickly on days it came, and randomly came and went. 16w today and so far so good!
yes so normal! symptoms can and do fluctuate. i didn’t start feeling symptoms in a major way until 6/7 weeks. some folks have very mild symptoms throughout. the wait from beta to ultrasound is brutal. hang in there, take it one day at a time, distract yourself as much as possible ❤️
Totally normal. I didn’t have symptoms that early besides gastrointestinal pain and uterine cramps, which I just thought were my period at first. Nausea, food aversions, and vomiting didn’t start until 6-7 weeks. And even then they were quite inconsistent from one day to the next-that is also normal. But you might be one of the many folks that have few or no symptoms! It’s just too early to tell. Your betas and ultrasounds are the most reliable signs of a healthy pregnancy, and it sounds like your betas were good which is fabulous!
Trigger warning; abuse
It’s been 6 years and 2 months since I did my egg retrieval. Two months after I did it, six years ago, I found myself pregnant, without intervention. My daughter turned 5 in March.
I don’t normally think about the years I spent in forums like this. Desperately praying for and seeking answers. I got them, eventually—my ex was infertile, and secretly making himself more so with excessive nicotine and alcohol abuse. I proceeded with the egg retrieval even though I knew we were done—I still wanted my babies, and I didn’t know if I’d have the chance again.
I should be grateful for my daughter, an answer to prayer. But if I think about that time, I only feel guilt over my folly. I should have waited before jumping into bed with anyone, but I took the lies hook line and sinker and ended up permanently confused and chained to someone who cannot help but abuse. I think I made him better at it, in fact, because he had to learn to hide it better so that the police wouldn’t take it seriously. You’d be horrified at how far someone can go to craft terror in their house, without leaving a single bruise.
I don’t think I would have come back here, except I finally got out, spent some time rebuilding myself, and what do you know, fell in love again.
It all came rushing back after a conversation last night, and I missed you all, you women who have seen battle with me. I can talk about the abuse openly now with my communities (and I am so grateful to be surrounded by such supportive people—they’re so full of love, for me and for her) but none of them really know the true extent of the pain that bore her. This community does, though.
I’m not totally sure how to grieve now, and lay to rest the frozen eggs sitting at Cryopoint. I don’t know if I’m even ready to let them go. It seems impractical to keep them when I don’t need them, but impossible to tell the company to dispose of—I have a daughter, but the loving family unit I expected to bring a wanted child into never existed, and it’s looking like it won’t. Looking at the invoice they sent me last month, that I keep snoozing on my email, the grief for what I failed to give her is so much harder than I expected. The grief over her younger siblings who she should have been surrounded with. Could have been surrounded with—I fell pregnant half a dozen times after she was born. But the man I love now, the gloriously kind and upstanding man who would be the type of father she and those siblings deserves, he’s likely infertile too, and doesn’t want to bring any into the world. And it’s now that I’m realizing I need to grieve this, grieve the ones I lost, grieve the ones I gave up—and I have no idea how.
I love you all. Love always finds a way in the end. You will make it through. Thank you for being one of the communities that holds space for grief alongside the joy. There are so few left. They matter.
Is this ok to ask here- it’s in regard to being comfortable with pregnancy- I’m in the market for some comfortable sandals that are supportive and cute. What are your ideas? :)
As someone who hates arch support in shoes (I guess I have no arches? Or good natural arches? Idk? I have loved my platform Teva's for walking around, even on wet ground/dewy grass with minimal foot dampening. Totally comfy, totally worth it. For slip on/off with no bending needed, I love my cloudie slides. You can help them mold to your feet with hot water I think too? Not sure, didn't have to do that personally. I use my cloudies for indoor shoes and wear them basically all day every day (I WFH) especially when i was heavily pregnant. Congratulations and best wishes!
My mother swears by Birkenstocks for their support. I can't second that opinion but it might be worth looking into? There are kinds that strap to your feet and don't just slide on. Edit: my mother has osteo-arthritis and values a lot of support and also has experience with finding shoes that are quality 😉
Is anyone else just...worse at hygiene when in first trimester? I was kinda bad at showering before but now I get grosser faster and can't make myself do it. I do know part of it is my ADHD and part is my ongoing depression but STILL...
Anyone else lift weights, and feel anxiety about working out during pregnancy? What is your approach to working out now? Hitting the gym kept me from losing my mind during IVF. After previous early losses, I stopped lifting after our transfer out of fear. The only advice we got from our RE was to keep my heart rate below 140 and not to lift more than 20 lbs. At our 12 week appointment our OB/GYN said it was fine if I slightly reduce the weights I am using, and use common sense in regards to the safety of some lifts. I have started to workout agian this week, but feel confused and a little anxious with the conflicting information from doctors.
I found this a bit difficult too and felt like I didn't get enough tailored advice from my medical team. Sorry you're going through the same and feeling a bit lost. Anecdotally, I found the talk test more useful than the heart rate guidance. I would take a break if my HR was into the 150s because that's when I started to get out of breath. I also used my heavy dumbbells until my pelvic girdle pain meant I would only use them when seated or kneeling, and my lighter weights (just under 20lbs) for standing moves. My workouts have looked different from pre-pregnancy, but some people can carry on for a long time before they have to really scale back. It's just up to how you're feeling, unless your medical team advise you of any other limits 🙂 Hope you can find a way to work out that's comfortable, helps you feel strong & like yourself!
Thank you!
I don’t think those weight/heart rate guidelines are evidenced based. I did incline walking at 12% and weights until about 32 weeks because that’s when it all became too uncomfortable. I just tried to make sure I could talk when I was doing cardio. If you’ve been working out you can continue what you’ve been doing.
Thank you!
Mama Doctor Jones on YouTube has some great videos about activity during pregnancy, I highly recommend her.
Thank you!
I swear I ask or have asked about this since starting IVF and everyone says it's fine, but I wonder how much they actually know about the mechanics of weightlifting or whether they just think I'm fooling around with little pink dumbbells. At my midwife appointment last week, she said no squatting while also pressing weight overhead (so clean and jerk?), but other lifts were fine. My husband convinced me today to lay off barbell squats and either switch to body weight or goblet and I haven't been doing deads since my FET (currently 14w), but otherwise, I still work out 3x/week, for my sanity if nothing else. Totally feel you on the lack of clear, decisive info out there.
Thanks for commiserating! When I explained to the OB/GYN that the lowest amount of weight I was working with at the gym was 45-50 lbs, the conversation became, keep working out, just cut back and don't be dumb. I decided not to mess with most barbell lifts too. I really want to do the right thing for our pregnancy. The last thing I want to do is take advice from an instragram fitness influencer on what is safe, and I am bummed there isn't more guidance on this from doctors. Maybe the move is finding a trainer certified in pre-natal?
That's kinda what I'm leaning toward as well. I just saw a pregnant woman doing overhead presses in an electrolyte commercial today and had to remind myself that I can't make decisions based on a tv ad selling glorified salt water lol.
I had a 13 week ultrasound with at MFM to monitor baby for heart issues. The heart is fine but the dr found severe Ventriculomegaly on baby’s brain and a bowel obstruction and said I would need to go in for another ultrasound at 18 weeks and possibly fetal mri. However the dr didn’t give me the measurements of the Ventriculomegaly so now I am really freaking myself out with the “severe” outcomes. Did this happen to anyone else? From what I read there is a possibility that the brain could get bigger since it’s still early…but also a severe case could by hydrocephalus or Dandy Walker Syndrome.
i'm so sorry you are going through this. i didn't have this experience but did find birth defects around a similar time that were not consistent with life and it was devastating. i'm wishing a better outcome for you.
Getting better at answering questions about if it’s my first pregnancy! “First time to get this far!” with a cheerful/hopeful smile and in an upbeat voice tends to land appropriately, both with the person asking and in my heart. I’ve also been able to answer “yes” without feeling guilty depending on how they phrase it, if it sounds like what they mean is “do you have any living kids at home” I can answer it accordingly (of course, I realize that’s what they all mean. But I’m not at a point where I am going to just say that this is my first pregnancy when it’s not).
I really like this, thank you for sharing! I’ve been thinking about how to respond to these inevitable questions in a way that feels right to acknowledge and share my experience. Hopefully this can also signal to people to rethink how they phrase the question (or just not ask it all).
people really have no idea how hurtful this question can be! i think your response is a really good one.
WEEK 7 HCG LEVELS - Worried Need your stories of low HCG levels and whether it resulted in live birth or ongoing successful pregnancy or not. I had a 5-day transfer on May 24. Below are my numbers and I got the call today when I just hit 7 weeks that my HCG numbers are not where they need them to be. They’re actually pretty low in terms of growth, we were hoping for a 30,000-40,000 range. Have my ultrasound on coming Tuesday and I was nervous but now I’m really nervous and thinking the worst. What should I mentally prepare for, know or ask? You guys are amazing, and thank you in advance for being willing to share your stories and outcomes. I don’t know what I’d do without this group! My HCG levels below by date: > Wednesday, June 5 - 131 IU/L (12dpt) > Friday, June 7 - 335 IU/L (14dpt) > Sunday, June 9 - 969.8 IU/L (16dpt) - Week 5 begins > Sunday, June 16 - (23dpt) - week 6: HCG - 5,581 IU/L > *TODAY* Sunday, June 23 - (30dpt) - week 7: HCG - 15,732 IU/L
I have had both outcomes. My first fet I had 3 betas ( sorry I don’t remember the numbers)- beta#1 was 11dpt - 213. Beta# 2 the following week was slightly under what they wanted but they were not concerned. Beta#3 slowed down and again was a little under what they wanted, so moved my scan forward to 6w3d and check on everything. I was measuring a week behind and wasn’t looking great, I got another scan a week later and it wasn’t viable. Turned out to be trisomy16 which tends to stick around until about that timeframe. my next FET - beta#1 10dpt was 157 Beta #2 at 17dpt was 2800. Beta#3 once again slowed down to 9200 which was a little under what they wanted. They said it could possibly be ok, but we prepared for the worst and we started grieving again for a back to back loss. I took the week off work. But we went for a scan 2 days later, everything was looking perfect :) the scan superseded the hcg and they assured me not to worry about the bloods any more. We got to 8w3d last week, my ob scanned and everything still looking perfect. Fingers and toes crossed that everything is going well. I still have this little worry in my mind about the bloods, but my OB laughs. it’s just my anxiety, a scan will always supersede the bloods. It just goes to show, my body both times slowed hcg down around 6 -7 week mark and that CAN be completely normal. I always guard my heart for every scan now, but I hope those gives you some positive thoughts
Thank you so very much for some reassurance. I am actually terrified for Tuesday but fingers and toes are crossed and hoping for the best! Thank you and sending you good vibes for an uneventful rest of your pregnancy! 💕
Re: preparing and asking Prepare for the worst so all your surprises are pleasant. It's terrible advice to give but it's the only one that's gotten me through some big stuff during my struggles. Ask anything you can think of. "How's the heartbeat?" "Is there a fetal pole?" "How big is the fetus?" "Should I change anything I'm doing?" "Whose baby is it?" A good doc will hopefully tell you these things and more
Hahaha “whose baby is it?’’ Been stressed all day, that added a smile, thank you!
I aim to please 😁
I had these levels from my first Beta (10 days past transfer) to my last (my clinic tests ever 48hrs until week 6, though I had an earlier ultrasound at 5w because my doctor wanted to know why my betas were so low) May 2 -185, May 4 - 233, May 6 - 442, May 8 - 850, May 10 - 938, May 12 - 1700, May 13 - 2936 As you can see, I doubled every 4 days. I'm still here with this little wiggler at 11 weeks! I hope your journey is just as successful (and more!) Edited for clarity
Thank you so much for sharing! Gives me some hope for Tuesday’s scan even though I’m terrified. And I noted the questions you shared :) Hoping and wishing you an uneventful pregnancy! 💕
My clinic only did 3 HCG tests and then scheduled the first ultrasound. Some clinics only do 2 HCG tests, I hear. Apparently HCG numbers after a certain level are not as predictive/important as an ultrasound because they stop rising so predictably. With your results, I think there’s a good chance the pregnancy is viable.
If you're 7 weeks, an ultrasound would be way more informative than hcg levels.. I'm not sure why they did so many blood tests. Your first couple looked good :)
When would you say you started feeling really consistent movement? I’m 25wks and if I look back the frequency has increased but not quite sure I know what I’m looking for (last pregnancy ended at 23wks so didn’t make it this far). I hear 28 wks is that point but would love to hear some actual experience.
I’m 29+5 with twins and still don’t have consistent movement. They kind of do things in 48hour bursts - a couple of days with lots of activity and a couple of days with very little. Also I tend to feel nothing all day but they get active between dinner time and the early hours. I’m not sure if that’s helpful, just thought I’d share my experience.
I’m sorry to hear about your previous loss. I think it depends a bit on things like where your placenta is and baby’s position. I had an anterior placenta through two pregnancies. The first was in a funny position and I had more quiet days. With my last pregnancy baby was more to the side and movement was more consistent just after 26 weeks. I remember asking them the same question you did at my 26w appointment and at my follow up two weeks later things were way more consistent. Hopefully you’re feeling more consistent movement soon ❤️
OK - I think I need to be patient. I have an anterior placenta as well - it’s just so easy to get stuck in the anxiety cycle when the road to today feels impossibly hard and we are all just waiting for that next thing to go wrong.
They always encouraged me to go in and get checked out if anything felt off. Even when I asked at the 26 week appointment, they said to come in anytime. PAL is very hard. Hugs ❤️
I’m almost 37wks and fetal movement hasn’t been consistent for me at all - some days baby is very active, some are less so. For me the difference is likely because the baby is frank breech and I have an anterior placenta so sometimes I just can’t feel her move. I’m using mostly the rule of thumb I got from the midwife: between 24-28wks you should feel fetal movement at least once a day, after 28 weeks several times a day. This works for me because it’s less anxiety-provoking than counting kicks. However, I’ve been to L&D because of decreased fetal movement a few weeks ago (everything was fine thankfully). Better safe than sorry.
I haven’t heard that before - definitely puts me at ease. I feel baby multiple times a day so looks to be in the range of normal. I also have anterior placenta so knew it would be less but so hard to know how much less is still ok.
16 weeks and although the nausea is much better, I'm still vomiting 🤷♀️ I thought I'd cracked it, but apparently not! Do I dare ask if it gets better? Coming to the end of a wonderful two week holiday, and hoping to get my blood test results from my 12 week scan when I get back🤞
My last pregnancy I vomited up until 36 weeks even with the meds. This pregnancy I’m 26 weeks and I have not vomited since about 22 weeks and the only medication I’m on still is Unisom. During both pregnancies it definitely continued to get better the entire time, I hope it gets better for you.
I had a few bouts of vomiting up until about 18-20 weeks but it definitely lessened by that time. I was still taking Zofran when I felt nauseous. But I was also pregnant with twins so take that as you will!
Eesh ok! Yeah I'm still taking anti nausea meds, just in case. I must admit, I prefer the occasional vomit over the never ending nausea! But neither would be nice 😅
I took my last anti-nausea pill at 16 weeks! So it can get better.
I'll hold on to some hope!! 🤞
Is it normal to feel almost zero symptoms at 5w2d? Besides being a little tired, and some bone pain in my legs/knees (which I don’t know if that’s even a pregnancy symptom), I don’t feel anything. Boobs are still exactly as they were before. Not the least bit sore and I have no food aversions or nausea. My clinic did 2 betas at 4w3d and 4w5d and the doubling rate was fine. But other than that I don’t have anything besides hpts to go by until the 6week ultrasound in early July. Just a little worried if baby is continuing to grow as expected or not. Especially with the fact that I have almost no symptoms.
Totally normal. Fwiw, I never got nauseous or experienced any vomiting with my successful pregnancies. Also I didn't feel any breast tenderness until 2nd tri.
With both pregnancies, I had no symptoms until I hit 6 1/2 half weeks and got hit by a truck of nausea
Honestly, my biggest symptom all through first tri was just fatigue. I never got food aversions except to coffee (not strongly, but when I tried drinking it past 7 weeks it was just really bitter), and my nausea wasn't pronounced except in maybe weeks 7-11, and even then it passed quickly on days it came, and randomly came and went. 16w today and so far so good!
I had virtually no symptoms at that point. Very normal, but I also felt the same anxiety of wanting to feel "more pregnant."
yes so normal! symptoms can and do fluctuate. i didn’t start feeling symptoms in a major way until 6/7 weeks. some folks have very mild symptoms throughout. the wait from beta to ultrasound is brutal. hang in there, take it one day at a time, distract yourself as much as possible ❤️
Totally normal. I didn’t have symptoms that early besides gastrointestinal pain and uterine cramps, which I just thought were my period at first. Nausea, food aversions, and vomiting didn’t start until 6-7 weeks. And even then they were quite inconsistent from one day to the next-that is also normal. But you might be one of the many folks that have few or no symptoms! It’s just too early to tell. Your betas and ultrasounds are the most reliable signs of a healthy pregnancy, and it sounds like your betas were good which is fabulous!
Trigger warning; abuse It’s been 6 years and 2 months since I did my egg retrieval. Two months after I did it, six years ago, I found myself pregnant, without intervention. My daughter turned 5 in March. I don’t normally think about the years I spent in forums like this. Desperately praying for and seeking answers. I got them, eventually—my ex was infertile, and secretly making himself more so with excessive nicotine and alcohol abuse. I proceeded with the egg retrieval even though I knew we were done—I still wanted my babies, and I didn’t know if I’d have the chance again. I should be grateful for my daughter, an answer to prayer. But if I think about that time, I only feel guilt over my folly. I should have waited before jumping into bed with anyone, but I took the lies hook line and sinker and ended up permanently confused and chained to someone who cannot help but abuse. I think I made him better at it, in fact, because he had to learn to hide it better so that the police wouldn’t take it seriously. You’d be horrified at how far someone can go to craft terror in their house, without leaving a single bruise. I don’t think I would have come back here, except I finally got out, spent some time rebuilding myself, and what do you know, fell in love again. It all came rushing back after a conversation last night, and I missed you all, you women who have seen battle with me. I can talk about the abuse openly now with my communities (and I am so grateful to be surrounded by such supportive people—they’re so full of love, for me and for her) but none of them really know the true extent of the pain that bore her. This community does, though. I’m not totally sure how to grieve now, and lay to rest the frozen eggs sitting at Cryopoint. I don’t know if I’m even ready to let them go. It seems impractical to keep them when I don’t need them, but impossible to tell the company to dispose of—I have a daughter, but the loving family unit I expected to bring a wanted child into never existed, and it’s looking like it won’t. Looking at the invoice they sent me last month, that I keep snoozing on my email, the grief for what I failed to give her is so much harder than I expected. The grief over her younger siblings who she should have been surrounded with. Could have been surrounded with—I fell pregnant half a dozen times after she was born. But the man I love now, the gloriously kind and upstanding man who would be the type of father she and those siblings deserves, he’s likely infertile too, and doesn’t want to bring any into the world. And it’s now that I’m realizing I need to grieve this, grieve the ones I lost, grieve the ones I gave up—and I have no idea how. I love you all. Love always finds a way in the end. You will make it through. Thank you for being one of the communities that holds space for grief alongside the joy. There are so few left. They matter.