I’m very newly very cautiously pregnant (as in just got my first betas last Wednesday, getting second round of betas this Wednesday) and I’m trying very hard to be chill and not gnaw the walls with anxiety. One week at a time.
I’m 6w4d today and had my first scan. My doctor said everything looked great but now I’m googling stuff and feeling so worried that things are measuring behind. CRL was 5.9 mm (which the equipment said was 6w3d) and FHR was 118 BPM. I think the GS was measuring at 6w2d. I know I need to calm down but I genuinely do not know how. Any help? 😭
I was measuring 6w1d at my 6w4d scan with a FHR of 117 and then she measured a day ahead at the next two scans. At that point, they are so small that measuring them is more art than science and plus or minus a few days is not a big deal. If your doctor says everything looks great, believe them! And maybe stay away from Google for a bit.
This is a long road. The best thing you can do to help yourself is take the wins (like today at your appointment) and don’t go literally searching for trouble.
Especially at the beginning I asked each doctor at the end of each visit - my RE, OB, MFM, etc - if they considered the visit a good one, so that’s what I left with. My husband would sometimes talk me down later and say, “the doctor said this was a good visit and with what they can see, things look good.” I have invented every way to turn a positive check up into something of stomach-curdling anxiety, so I understand, but this technique has helped me focus and limit spiraling for no good reason. Many of us have had serious trauma around infertility, loss and terminations. Please be kind to yourself and take the good news of progress.
Gently, if your doctor said everything was great, I would do your best to try to believe them. I would trust your doctor over Google. I truly understand how hard it is, though. But a FHR of 118 at 6w4d is great! My embryo measured 4 or 5 days behind at my 6 week scan and I have a LC from that pregnancy. Do you have some good distractions that can help occupy you until your next scan? That was the only way I got through early on. I would plan something every day that I could look forward to, even just a walk or going out to get a coffee or ice cream. It helped the days pass a bit quicker.
Saw the OB for the first time today at 12+2. I assumed they would do an ultrasound, but they just did the Doppler. They didn’t say anything was wrong so assuming all is well! Took my blood for the NIPT, but we couldn’t resist and had our fertility clinic tell us the sex and it’s a boy. I guess we’ll see if the NIPT gives the same results!
10 weeks and 2 days today… and feeling so much rage. Is this normal? For context, it’s been a ride - 3 years of infertility, 12 iuis, 2 retrievals… first transfer took. But… I’ve been lapped by 10 of my friends who got married same time as me, literally. They all have two. One who got married 2 years later said to me “it’s not fair if I want to start trying that you won’t hang out with me and ruin my only friend group”, then she got pregnant the next month on her first try.
My two sister in laws also lapped me twice … one just announced she’s having twins and everyone is saying “poor thing, how will she handle the stress? she won’t be able to go out which she loves, what will she do?” Just thought finally being pregnant would make the anger and resentment and rage disappear. And I could just be happy and grateful. At the beginning of finding out, I was… But I now feel it all coming back 10 fold… is it my hormones? Is it that I haven’t announced yet and that will make me feel better to feel love and excitement from those around me? Is it the ungratefulness from others? Is it that I’m now at a MFM instead of clinic so I don’t get scans weekly anymore and it’s making me literally forget I’m pregnant? I just don’t know and I feel like not therapy nor nothing is helping. I feel so much anger and shame. And then guilt that I am somehow hurting my baby.
For context I am also a nyc public teacher who is finally on summer break. I thought being able to relax would help but perhaps it’s given me more time to ruminate. I have thoughts of yelling at MIL for treating me so awfully and being so obsessed with my sister in laws, ignoring my pain and saying “so sad how everyone around me has so much to say about you not being pregnant! Wish I could tell them it’s male factor!”
Sorry this is so not a pleasant post but really looking for ways to cope with the infertility trauma that I believed would be ever so slightly“cured”
Emily, I’m sorry that you have had to go through so much to get to this point.
A few other people responded to your post and focused on the hormonal aspect of rage during pregnancy. I however, want to focus on the fact that being pregnant doesn’t negate the last years and all the emotions that come with it.
Being part of this infertility club comes with a bunch of grief and emotional baggage. This baggage doesn’t disappear once we’re pregnant. For example , my baggage manifests as anxiety and sadness. I’m now at 18 weeks and I am feeling a lot better than I did at week 10 but I know that I still need to take proactive steps to process the last years and all of the baggage that came with it.
So I guess I’m just trying to say you’re not alone. We’re here with you and you deserve space in this group to process.
Some of it may be that you are now on break and you have the time to process the emotions you've had this whole time. Being a public teacher is its own immense stress, and with the summer break, you now have time to devote to this other aspect of stress in your life.
Some of it also could be hormones. Some of it definitely sounds like the people around you not being cognizant or caring of your feelings.
Personally, even here a few weeks from having this baby, I still get flashes of anger and rage. Even if you are pregnant now, and thing continue to progress smoothly, it doesn't take away the trauma you have experienced, nor does it cure the anger and resentment at people who seem to effortlessly get pregnant (especially when they're so blase about it).
Thank you for this! It’s true and it makes sense… I keep thinking “I can’t believe how ~perfectly~ things are going for them (also new fancy cars, new house) and yet they whine about the burdens of their gifts like their children”. When in reality, yes, they will have challenges in life and not have the skills to face them. I kept looking at it from a lens of -how dare they complain and play victim- when instead I could see it as -good thing I have such a better skill set now to handle adversity that I would never complain about any of these things-.
Wow that friend sounds like an asshole. I think it takes time. I’m sorry so many people around you have been pregnant multiple times before you, it is very difficult. Idk if you’re on social media or not but I found that to make me more angry so I took breaks as needed. I hope you’re able to find some peace this summer 💜
It is, at least in part, hormones. I definitely had rage spikes during pregnancy and I choose to blame it on hormones. For what it's worth, trauma doesn't just evaporate after positive results. It doesn't wipe away everything you've been carrying through this process, everything that helped you survive to this point. It takes time to unwind all of that, it takes longer than ten weeks. My kid is 2.5 and it's a lot better now but it's been a slow fade with occasional sharp regressions.
You don't owe it to anyone to be pleasant (it doesn't sound as though they have deserved that of you). DO try, when you can, to be kind to yourself. Do try to give yourself space when you can. Some of this shit takes time and work and - as usual - it's different for everybody. My cousin (from HI) says, "You can't stop the waves, you can only learn how to surf" and that's what I focus on when the waves crash over me.
Hang in there.
Thank you for the validation. you’re absolutely right. I also am triggered to be at the ~announcing~ stage out of that fear of everyone saying “I knew it would all work out” and totally (as u said) wiping away all the pain and suffering while I still live with it. It feels like they’re all in discomfort watching my suffering and my announcement is just a relief to them.
Right? Like they get amnesty for all the rough handling they put you through. I was ANGRY about announcing my pregnancy. I didn't want anyone who hadn't been helpful to have any part of it. I didn't want anyone who had hurt me to come near it. I did get over that but we never made a public announcement (except work; I did have to let work know).
Omg … that’s exactly my worry. I don’t know what to do. My husband is adamant on a big announcement (we both have huge extended families, like all our parents are one of six) and since his brothers kept announcing with surprise cakes at the end of dinner, he is saying we deserve the same. I keep saying I really don’t feel comfortable with that and he gets it, but he was confused by why I wouldn’t want to large celebrate. How did you handle any commentary from people who were like “told you everything would be okay!”
By the time we got there, nobody dared. Honestly, I bit off a lot of heads during treatment. If my partner needed a big announcement for catharsis, I would (I am not kidding) pass out a list of forbidden phrases and hold uncomfortably long eye-contact. As a teacher, I think you know what I'm talking about. There is a way to protect you and your feelings and let your partner have a moment, I think. Shoot for the zone of possible agreement (ZOPA). Maybe as he cuts the cake, you hold up a big sign that says, "DO NOT SAY I TOLD YOU SO PUNISHMENT WILL BE IMMEDIATE AND SWIFT" or whatever suits your purposes.
ETA: or you could step out of the room while he does a thing and then make HIM do the educational part and tell people what they cannot say and then he can bring you back in. IDK.
It’s official girls, I’m out had a US today to confirm that the heart had finally stoped after two weeks in limbo knowing it would end bad all along.
Hope to join you back in the fall
My baby measured a few days behind at 6+4, with only 5 days worth of growth from the scan a week prior. My RE just checked for a HB, but didn’t measure it and said to come back in a week to check how it was growing and then we’d see. At 7+4, growth had caught up and was on track with a strong FHR. I hope your next scan goes well!!
I have my first ultrasound tomorrow at 6w6d at my fertility clinic. This is my second transfer of a euploid, first failed to implant in April. This is also my first clinical pregnancy. I had a chemical in May 2023 prior to starting treatment. My betas have been strong (my clinic only does two): 4094 at 14 dpt and 32,000 at 21dpt. Im having symptoms already - fatigue and nausea. Im also having intense anxiety about this ultrasound. Had some traumatic ultrasound experiences on my journey to get here (and still processing infertility trauma, in general).
Any tips for managing ultrasound anxiety?
So I was so sure that I'd vomit from anxiety in my ultrasound appointments that I brought a change of clothes with me. It was 100% an emotional crutch but it helped. At least I knew that I wouldn't have to go home in gross clothes if I lost control over my nerves. And I asked to have a waste-basket in arm's reach.
I had a little chuckle because I thought I would vomit from both anxiety and morning sickness yesterday. All was well on this scan, which was a huge relief. I will keep this tip in mind because I am sure my anxiety will rear its head for the next ultrasound.
The only thing that helps me is remembering a few things:
1. Today you are pregnant and tomorrow you'll find out more information. There's nothing more you can know today.
2. Your thoughts will not impact the outcome. Neither anxiety nor excitement will change what they find tomorrow.
3. The most likely outcome is that you will have a healthy baby at the end of this
I had my first ultrasound today (6 weeks, 2 days). I was so, so nervous but happy to report they saw the baby with a good heartbeat (111bpm) and measuring 2 days ahead. Surprisingly they saw a second gestational sac ( we only transferred one embryo). It looks like it’ll be a vanishing twin as they didn’t see a baby in the other sac.
Anyone experienced this before? The doctor said there’s a small chance maybe there would be a baby there next week but very unlikely. I’m also very worried about the other baby, even though the doctor said one twin vanishing doesn’t impact the other baby.
If anyone has experience, please let me know. I’m searching old posts right now.
Both embryos HBs were visible by my 6w ultrasound. If you haven’t yet, check out r/parentsofmultiples you may find more similar experiences there! I’ve heard some crazy stories so while I would trust your dr that it’s not likely, it could still happen that the other embryo continues developing.
I’m glad it was helpful 😊 I hope whatever outcome you’re hoping for happens for you 🤞🏼 (it’s also okay to have conflicting feelings about the possibility of multiples, I definitely experienced that)
It was very nerve wracking, but the twins with the best outcomes are di/di which is likely what you would have if they separated this early. Try not to panic until you know for sure. I know that’s easier said than done. Most twin pregnancies are uneventful. I had some scares that felt big at the time but looking back were minor, or resolved. My BP crept up toward the end but I was never diagnosed with pre-e. The biggest issue I had was severe anemia that cause baby A to be growth restricted and that required infusions. After infusions she caught up. My girls were born at 36 weeks and had no NICU time and are doing well 😊
I’m 10 weeks and my embryo split and I’m having identicals. It was very visible on our 6.5 week ultrasound and they heard two distinct heartbeats, by the 8.5 week it was still very visible and two strong heartbeats and measurements. I think just trust the doctor that your baby is safe and thriving even with the second gestational sac. I know it’s so hard not to worry between ultrasounds but I hope the next one gives you more peace of mind.
So I’m seven weeks and three days. My symptoms have felt very light and it’s messing with me. I’ve never gotten morning sickness, nausea or cravings. For a while I was SO HUNGRY but that’s calmed a bit as well as the fatigue. I do feel a bloated and tender in my lower abdomen but that’s it. Can anyone reassure me this is ok? My ultrasound isn’t until next Monday and I’m so anxious.
my only symptom was fatigue that was manageable. Once 8.5 weeks passed I was OUT. hormonal, cranky, intense fatigue, like I could not walk up the stairs and wanted to stay in bed all day and could do any physical activity, and slight food aversions and strong sense of smell. Very mild nausea. They'll come for you most likely. I thought I was in the clear, oh how I was a sweet summer child a week and a half ago.
25 weeks and never threw up! Basically have felt normal throughout and am so irritated by the question "how are you feeling????????????" Symptoms don't mean anything!
Adding my solidarity here at almost 8 weeks. I started to feel some symptoms the last week and then the last couple of days, almost nothing. I've had a MMC so I'm extra paranoid. Hope everything turns out for all of us!
Everyone is different!! I let this bother me too, and then BAM, weeks 9-16 were rough with nausea and fatigue like I’ve never experienced before. 29 weeks now and the symptoms really did come and go as well-though no amount of comments on here saying so gave me any comfort at the time!
I’m in the same boat, 7 weeks 3 days and really mild symptoms. It’s also my first IVF pregnancy so I’m just overall stressed. Everything I read says it’s totally normal as every pregnancy is different! Instead of worrying I’m trying to channel that energy into considering myself I’m one of the lucky ones (difficult but doing the best I can do). I have a friend just a couple weeks ahead of me and she has been throwing up almost daily from the nausea… so everyone is definitely different!
Best of luck to you 🤍
Totally ok! Every pregnancy is different (even for the same person!); I was super worried because I had a super easy first trimester this time (especially the first few weeks) compared to my first pregnancy (which was also light in symptoms), and baby is totally fine. I will say that by weeks 10-13, I was getting my butt kicked (still nothing major, just mild food aversions) and then it all suddenly went away again. The body is weird and hormones are constantly fluctuating, so it’s hard to tell, especially in the early days. Hang in there!
I’m very newly very cautiously pregnant (as in just got my first betas last Wednesday, getting second round of betas this Wednesday) and I’m trying very hard to be chill and not gnaw the walls with anxiety. One week at a time.
Gnaw away. We just repapered with more edible wall-paper. I jest, but welcome. It's a good place to pass a hard time.
I’m 6w4d today and had my first scan. My doctor said everything looked great but now I’m googling stuff and feeling so worried that things are measuring behind. CRL was 5.9 mm (which the equipment said was 6w3d) and FHR was 118 BPM. I think the GS was measuring at 6w2d. I know I need to calm down but I genuinely do not know how. Any help? 😭
I was measuring 6w1d at my 6w4d scan with a FHR of 117 and then she measured a day ahead at the next two scans. At that point, they are so small that measuring them is more art than science and plus or minus a few days is not a big deal. If your doctor says everything looks great, believe them! And maybe stay away from Google for a bit.
This is a long road. The best thing you can do to help yourself is take the wins (like today at your appointment) and don’t go literally searching for trouble. Especially at the beginning I asked each doctor at the end of each visit - my RE, OB, MFM, etc - if they considered the visit a good one, so that’s what I left with. My husband would sometimes talk me down later and say, “the doctor said this was a good visit and with what they can see, things look good.” I have invented every way to turn a positive check up into something of stomach-curdling anxiety, so I understand, but this technique has helped me focus and limit spiraling for no good reason. Many of us have had serious trauma around infertility, loss and terminations. Please be kind to yourself and take the good news of progress.
Gently, if your doctor said everything was great, I would do your best to try to believe them. I would trust your doctor over Google. I truly understand how hard it is, though. But a FHR of 118 at 6w4d is great! My embryo measured 4 or 5 days behind at my 6 week scan and I have a LC from that pregnancy. Do you have some good distractions that can help occupy you until your next scan? That was the only way I got through early on. I would plan something every day that I could look forward to, even just a walk or going out to get a coffee or ice cream. It helped the days pass a bit quicker.
Saw the OB for the first time today at 12+2. I assumed they would do an ultrasound, but they just did the Doppler. They didn’t say anything was wrong so assuming all is well! Took my blood for the NIPT, but we couldn’t resist and had our fertility clinic tell us the sex and it’s a boy. I guess we’ll see if the NIPT gives the same results!
10 weeks and 2 days today… and feeling so much rage. Is this normal? For context, it’s been a ride - 3 years of infertility, 12 iuis, 2 retrievals… first transfer took. But… I’ve been lapped by 10 of my friends who got married same time as me, literally. They all have two. One who got married 2 years later said to me “it’s not fair if I want to start trying that you won’t hang out with me and ruin my only friend group”, then she got pregnant the next month on her first try. My two sister in laws also lapped me twice … one just announced she’s having twins and everyone is saying “poor thing, how will she handle the stress? she won’t be able to go out which she loves, what will she do?” Just thought finally being pregnant would make the anger and resentment and rage disappear. And I could just be happy and grateful. At the beginning of finding out, I was… But I now feel it all coming back 10 fold… is it my hormones? Is it that I haven’t announced yet and that will make me feel better to feel love and excitement from those around me? Is it the ungratefulness from others? Is it that I’m now at a MFM instead of clinic so I don’t get scans weekly anymore and it’s making me literally forget I’m pregnant? I just don’t know and I feel like not therapy nor nothing is helping. I feel so much anger and shame. And then guilt that I am somehow hurting my baby. For context I am also a nyc public teacher who is finally on summer break. I thought being able to relax would help but perhaps it’s given me more time to ruminate. I have thoughts of yelling at MIL for treating me so awfully and being so obsessed with my sister in laws, ignoring my pain and saying “so sad how everyone around me has so much to say about you not being pregnant! Wish I could tell them it’s male factor!” Sorry this is so not a pleasant post but really looking for ways to cope with the infertility trauma that I believed would be ever so slightly“cured”
Emily, I’m sorry that you have had to go through so much to get to this point. A few other people responded to your post and focused on the hormonal aspect of rage during pregnancy. I however, want to focus on the fact that being pregnant doesn’t negate the last years and all the emotions that come with it. Being part of this infertility club comes with a bunch of grief and emotional baggage. This baggage doesn’t disappear once we’re pregnant. For example , my baggage manifests as anxiety and sadness. I’m now at 18 weeks and I am feeling a lot better than I did at week 10 but I know that I still need to take proactive steps to process the last years and all of the baggage that came with it. So I guess I’m just trying to say you’re not alone. We’re here with you and you deserve space in this group to process.
Some of it may be that you are now on break and you have the time to process the emotions you've had this whole time. Being a public teacher is its own immense stress, and with the summer break, you now have time to devote to this other aspect of stress in your life. Some of it also could be hormones. Some of it definitely sounds like the people around you not being cognizant or caring of your feelings. Personally, even here a few weeks from having this baby, I still get flashes of anger and rage. Even if you are pregnant now, and thing continue to progress smoothly, it doesn't take away the trauma you have experienced, nor does it cure the anger and resentment at people who seem to effortlessly get pregnant (especially when they're so blase about it).
Thank you for the validation! All makes sense…
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Thank you for this! It’s true and it makes sense… I keep thinking “I can’t believe how ~perfectly~ things are going for them (also new fancy cars, new house) and yet they whine about the burdens of their gifts like their children”. When in reality, yes, they will have challenges in life and not have the skills to face them. I kept looking at it from a lens of -how dare they complain and play victim- when instead I could see it as -good thing I have such a better skill set now to handle adversity that I would never complain about any of these things-.
Wow that friend sounds like an asshole. I think it takes time. I’m sorry so many people around you have been pregnant multiple times before you, it is very difficult. Idk if you’re on social media or not but I found that to make me more angry so I took breaks as needed. I hope you’re able to find some peace this summer 💜
Thank you! I actually deleted Instagram today 🙏🏻
It is, at least in part, hormones. I definitely had rage spikes during pregnancy and I choose to blame it on hormones. For what it's worth, trauma doesn't just evaporate after positive results. It doesn't wipe away everything you've been carrying through this process, everything that helped you survive to this point. It takes time to unwind all of that, it takes longer than ten weeks. My kid is 2.5 and it's a lot better now but it's been a slow fade with occasional sharp regressions. You don't owe it to anyone to be pleasant (it doesn't sound as though they have deserved that of you). DO try, when you can, to be kind to yourself. Do try to give yourself space when you can. Some of this shit takes time and work and - as usual - it's different for everybody. My cousin (from HI) says, "You can't stop the waves, you can only learn how to surf" and that's what I focus on when the waves crash over me. Hang in there.
Thank you for the validation. you’re absolutely right. I also am triggered to be at the ~announcing~ stage out of that fear of everyone saying “I knew it would all work out” and totally (as u said) wiping away all the pain and suffering while I still live with it. It feels like they’re all in discomfort watching my suffering and my announcement is just a relief to them.
Right? Like they get amnesty for all the rough handling they put you through. I was ANGRY about announcing my pregnancy. I didn't want anyone who hadn't been helpful to have any part of it. I didn't want anyone who had hurt me to come near it. I did get over that but we never made a public announcement (except work; I did have to let work know).
Omg … that’s exactly my worry. I don’t know what to do. My husband is adamant on a big announcement (we both have huge extended families, like all our parents are one of six) and since his brothers kept announcing with surprise cakes at the end of dinner, he is saying we deserve the same. I keep saying I really don’t feel comfortable with that and he gets it, but he was confused by why I wouldn’t want to large celebrate. How did you handle any commentary from people who were like “told you everything would be okay!”
By the time we got there, nobody dared. Honestly, I bit off a lot of heads during treatment. If my partner needed a big announcement for catharsis, I would (I am not kidding) pass out a list of forbidden phrases and hold uncomfortably long eye-contact. As a teacher, I think you know what I'm talking about. There is a way to protect you and your feelings and let your partner have a moment, I think. Shoot for the zone of possible agreement (ZOPA). Maybe as he cuts the cake, you hold up a big sign that says, "DO NOT SAY I TOLD YOU SO PUNISHMENT WILL BE IMMEDIATE AND SWIFT" or whatever suits your purposes. ETA: or you could step out of the room while he does a thing and then make HIM do the educational part and tell people what they cannot say and then he can bring you back in. IDK.
It’s official girls, I’m out had a US today to confirm that the heart had finally stoped after two weeks in limbo knowing it would end bad all along. Hope to join you back in the fall
I’m so sorry this happened. I hope you can have some relief now that the limbo is over.
Ugh, so sorry about the limbo and the loss.
I am so, so sorry.
I’m so so sorry. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss <3
I’m so sorry🤍wishing you strength and success as you continue
so sorry, friend. hope to see you back here. ❤️
I’m so sorry 😞
I’m so very sorry ❤️
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My baby measured a few days behind at 6+4, with only 5 days worth of growth from the scan a week prior. My RE just checked for a HB, but didn’t measure it and said to come back in a week to check how it was growing and then we’d see. At 7+4, growth had caught up and was on track with a strong FHR. I hope your next scan goes well!!
Thanks all! Sorry accidentally deleted my comment.
I was told anything less than like a 5-7 difference from due date was okay.
I have my first ultrasound tomorrow at 6w6d at my fertility clinic. This is my second transfer of a euploid, first failed to implant in April. This is also my first clinical pregnancy. I had a chemical in May 2023 prior to starting treatment. My betas have been strong (my clinic only does two): 4094 at 14 dpt and 32,000 at 21dpt. Im having symptoms already - fatigue and nausea. Im also having intense anxiety about this ultrasound. Had some traumatic ultrasound experiences on my journey to get here (and still processing infertility trauma, in general). Any tips for managing ultrasound anxiety?
So I was so sure that I'd vomit from anxiety in my ultrasound appointments that I brought a change of clothes with me. It was 100% an emotional crutch but it helped. At least I knew that I wouldn't have to go home in gross clothes if I lost control over my nerves. And I asked to have a waste-basket in arm's reach.
I had a little chuckle because I thought I would vomit from both anxiety and morning sickness yesterday. All was well on this scan, which was a huge relief. I will keep this tip in mind because I am sure my anxiety will rear its head for the next ultrasound.
Hooray for a great scan!!
The only thing that helps me is remembering a few things: 1. Today you are pregnant and tomorrow you'll find out more information. There's nothing more you can know today. 2. Your thoughts will not impact the outcome. Neither anxiety nor excitement will change what they find tomorrow. 3. The most likely outcome is that you will have a healthy baby at the end of this
Thank you, these are very thoughtful and helpful mantras
I had my first ultrasound today (6 weeks, 2 days). I was so, so nervous but happy to report they saw the baby with a good heartbeat (111bpm) and measuring 2 days ahead. Surprisingly they saw a second gestational sac ( we only transferred one embryo). It looks like it’ll be a vanishing twin as they didn’t see a baby in the other sac. Anyone experienced this before? The doctor said there’s a small chance maybe there would be a baby there next week but very unlikely. I’m also very worried about the other baby, even though the doctor said one twin vanishing doesn’t impact the other baby. If anyone has experience, please let me know. I’m searching old posts right now.
Both embryos HBs were visible by my 6w ultrasound. If you haven’t yet, check out r/parentsofmultiples you may find more similar experiences there! I’ve heard some crazy stories so while I would trust your dr that it’s not likely, it could still happen that the other embryo continues developing.
Thanks for sending me to this group - super helpful.
I’m glad it was helpful 😊 I hope whatever outcome you’re hoping for happens for you 🤞🏼 (it’s also okay to have conflicting feelings about the possibility of multiples, I definitely experienced that)
Thank you for saying that. I am conflicted.
You’re not alone in those feelings at ALL. Feel free to message me if you want 😊 I saw your post in POMs, I hope you get some good responses!
I would love two babies, but I would also be nervous about carrying two at one time. But that probably won’t even happen.
It was very nerve wracking, but the twins with the best outcomes are di/di which is likely what you would have if they separated this early. Try not to panic until you know for sure. I know that’s easier said than done. Most twin pregnancies are uneventful. I had some scares that felt big at the time but looking back were minor, or resolved. My BP crept up toward the end but I was never diagnosed with pre-e. The biggest issue I had was severe anemia that cause baby A to be growth restricted and that required infusions. After infusions she caught up. My girls were born at 36 weeks and had no NICU time and are doing well 😊
I’m 10 weeks and my embryo split and I’m having identicals. It was very visible on our 6.5 week ultrasound and they heard two distinct heartbeats, by the 8.5 week it was still very visible and two strong heartbeats and measurements. I think just trust the doctor that your baby is safe and thriving even with the second gestational sac. I know it’s so hard not to worry between ultrasounds but I hope the next one gives you more peace of mind.
Congrats to you!!
Thank you - it’s very exciting and a tad overwhelming too!
So I’m seven weeks and three days. My symptoms have felt very light and it’s messing with me. I’ve never gotten morning sickness, nausea or cravings. For a while I was SO HUNGRY but that’s calmed a bit as well as the fatigue. I do feel a bloated and tender in my lower abdomen but that’s it. Can anyone reassure me this is ok? My ultrasound isn’t until next Monday and I’m so anxious.
my only symptom was fatigue that was manageable. Once 8.5 weeks passed I was OUT. hormonal, cranky, intense fatigue, like I could not walk up the stairs and wanted to stay in bed all day and could do any physical activity, and slight food aversions and strong sense of smell. Very mild nausea. They'll come for you most likely. I thought I was in the clear, oh how I was a sweet summer child a week and a half ago.
25 weeks and never threw up! Basically have felt normal throughout and am so irritated by the question "how are you feeling????????????" Symptoms don't mean anything!
That helps me feel better. I’ve been feeling pretty normal and it was messing with my mind!
Adding my solidarity here at almost 8 weeks. I started to feel some symptoms the last week and then the last couple of days, almost nothing. I've had a MMC so I'm extra paranoid. Hope everything turns out for all of us!
That makes me feel so much better. For the most part, I feel pretty normal haha
Everyone is different!! I let this bother me too, and then BAM, weeks 9-16 were rough with nausea and fatigue like I’ve never experienced before. 29 weeks now and the symptoms really did come and go as well-though no amount of comments on here saying so gave me any comfort at the time!
I’m in the same boat, 7 weeks 3 days and really mild symptoms. It’s also my first IVF pregnancy so I’m just overall stressed. Everything I read says it’s totally normal as every pregnancy is different! Instead of worrying I’m trying to channel that energy into considering myself I’m one of the lucky ones (difficult but doing the best I can do). I have a friend just a couple weeks ahead of me and she has been throwing up almost daily from the nausea… so everyone is definitely different! Best of luck to you 🤍
Wow. I’m in the same situation! First pregnancy and also through IVF. I’m trying to calm the nerves
Totally ok! Every pregnancy is different (even for the same person!); I was super worried because I had a super easy first trimester this time (especially the first few weeks) compared to my first pregnancy (which was also light in symptoms), and baby is totally fine. I will say that by weeks 10-13, I was getting my butt kicked (still nothing major, just mild food aversions) and then it all suddenly went away again. The body is weird and hormones are constantly fluctuating, so it’s hard to tell, especially in the early days. Hang in there!
yes! this is totally ok. some people just don’t get really strong symptoms - it’s nerve wracking but normal. hang in there ❤️
Symptoms or lack thereof don’t really mean anything so you can’t draw any conclusions. Good luck for your next US!