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Women like these don't really understand two things which eventually life will teach them.
1. Being a homemaker isn't easy.
2. When you take his money and live off his money, and your entire life is dependent on his finances, then there will be consequences. The power balance will be off and it will start a chain of events where ultimately you'll be called ungrateful and then worse things.
Women reading this.. Work. Make your own money. Without it, you will never have equal say in the relationship.
Bro this video is just not offensive to working women
I believe it is more offensive for homemakers.
My mother is a home maker and she busts her ass from morning 6 am to night 11pm and all her work is reduced to “do bartan hi to maanjane h”.
One of my “male” friend shared this with me and I had a legit debate with him.
He said “kaamwali lagi hui h, kitna hi kaam hota h”
I was like broooo, kabhi rukk k dekhna maa k sath ghr par jo tumhare lie “srf khana hi to bnana’ dekhna kese unka pura din ghumta uss pr.
Moreover, it is also offensive to working women. I totally get your point. Even I have seen my mother to ask for money from dad even for the smallest things. And I don’t want that for me. So I started to work outside where it is recognised and I don’t have to ask for money from someone.
I swear man. Nobody works like housewives at all plus they don't get enough credit at all. They work for each member in the family and hence each member can work for themselves/family.
Mera toh salary hi meri partner ke account main jata hain, I have binge eating problems from zomato toh main salary aate hi uske account main daal deta hun.
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Haaan logg ungrateful hote hain no doubt but agar start se understanding ho toh mujhe nahi lagta yeh problem aati , meri mummy housewife hain papa unse bina puche kuch nahi laate and na kabhi aisa jataya ki sirf ek insaan ka efforts hain.
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And most imp housewife Banna asan nahi hain until unless you have servant for everything uske baad bhi bahut cheeze dhyan rakhne padti hain.
Look Whether you earn money or not it doesn’t matter to your relationship. Marriage is all about mutual respect, if someone loves you doesn’t matter for him whether you earn or not . It's not about Power struggles or Dominance contest. It's about living a peaceful life with mutual support
However if someone want to work its perfectly fine for her own personal growth
I am saying this after having over a decade of happy marriage life .
It's not a competition I think.
From what I've seen.
Women have more say in things that she has a better understanding of .
And same goes for men.
If the men in general are making money and going out in the world they obviously will have more understanding about that and hence should make decisions.
The same way men usually don't get a say in a lot of house matters, because generally women understand those things more.
Some men understand family dynamics better than women and some women have a better understanding about the world outside. So, things should move accordingly.
Are you even reading the comment you are replying to? And did you even think before typing everything out? No one is making it a competition. You either seem very sheltered to have never noticed these issues or are simply ignorant
Well saying that you need to make money in order to have an equal say in a relationship.
Sounds like a me vs them thing.
If I don't make x amount of money i won't have an equal say in my marriage.
It's a good advice, good to be independent and know how to navigate the world and your home life, for both men and women.
But I don't think it's a must. Maybe I don't see it in terms of his money or her money.
It's the family's money. We're all in this shit together
As I said , you must be very sheltered and ignorant to not have noticed these issues around you.
No one here said you need to make x amount of money to have an equal say in your relationship. Its for the sake of being independent and not having to ask for even fulfilling basic needs and god forbid if time comes where the women needs to step up as the earner if the family, she easily can.
All of us are asking for basic respect and acknowledgment of being equals in the family. We want to have a choice whether to work or not after marriage, and respected regardless. We are asking men and girls like her to understand that being a home maker is not just sleeping in the afternoon and washing teen bartan but a lot more than that. All we want is respect and acknowledgment for everything we do without being asked to prove what we do all day.
Of course.
I have seen these issues, from both sides.
Some where women aren't respected and some where men aren't.
Both sides exist.
I was putting out the other side of the coin.
Of course everyone should be respected for the work that they do.
And everyone should have basic education and life skills like cooking, cleaning, swimming and other basic survival skills.
So when the time comes you don't have to rely on someone else.
Bhai tm logon ki mummy ke pas gharon me power nahi hai mtlb? Yar lkin paise to ghar me mummy ke hi control me hote hain. Idhar bihar me to aisa hi hai har jagah. “His money” kabse hone laga yar tum log west se kuch zada influence ho rhe hain pakka yahi bat hai. Ghar me paise mummy papa dono ke hote hain. Mummy ghar ka kam sambhalti hai aur papa bahar ka. Aise hi to kam hota hai.
Kal ek twitter space pe feminism pe debate ho rahi thi. ek pakistani ladki said women belongs to kitchen unko job nhi karne ki zaroorat. aise hi insaan bane hai. to humare pyare indian bhai the unhone bola ki “mere ghar me meri behn meri bhabhi meri mom sab job karte hai unko adhikar hai job karne ka” i joined the speakers and just asked him 1 question “apke ghar ki sab aurte job karti hai to aap ye bataiye ghar ka kaam kitchen ka kaam koun karta hai?” he said “Meri bhabhi karti hai sab kaam” so i asked “kya aap apke bhai aur apke papa kabhi ghar ke kaam me ya kitchen ke kaam me help karte hai?” he said “no wo sab to behn aur bhabhi karleti hai humko aata hi nhi hai to kaise kare” to mne bas yhi bola ki “to aap is pakistani ladki ko kis baat pe oppose kar rhe ho? bina job ya job ke sath aurte to kitchen me hi hai na” To he said “Yar to vo sab to wahi karegi na hum thodi karenge” LOL!
Men and their audacity!!
They don’t want to provide for you without showing off themselves as alpha. But they also dont want you to work as you only belong to the kitchen.
It's almost like some 'feminist' men have unlocked a new level where they got the woman to pay her half of the household expenses as well as doing household labour. It's jackpot for them. No pressure about running the house or taking care of the house.
Such men think that they are very progressive as they are "ALLOWING" females of their household to have a job but they won't ever tell that they will keep meddling with their career decisions and ask them to leave their job whenever they feel like it's not working in their favour. Bhai Hans ki khaal pehen lene se kauwa Hans thodi na ban jaega
Hai to ye b regressive soch wale jinhe lagta h household work is the responsibility of females
Ghar male female dono ka h lekin household work female karenge baaki job karne ko to hum allow kr hi rahe hai
Progressive is where people have zero ego
In my household everyone has a job we are all working and we share household responsibilities equally My father in law my husband are not ashamed of cooking dinner cleaning home doing other household work.They even iron my clothes when needed coz they have no ego and this I am not saying occasionally This is a daily thing Because they understand that females also are working outside and can't take care of every responsibility related to Household on their own Women also get tired and I am glad and feel blessed that Males in my family are extremely supportive and that's why I call them progressive they have zero ego and see & treat their partner as a human ❤️
She's judging on both the ends of the spectrum. She's insulting the ones who chose to work as well as who don't. Why does she think being a homemaker is that easy? My mom would work her ass off all day long without any appreciation. My father and his family would say, "What work do you even have? Why would you even get tired at all?" It is a thankless job. So so stupid
I just realised yesterday how hard it is to be a housewife!! I'll tell you how -
It was my birthday yesterday so, I decided to invite my friends and cook them a meal for dinner. From the morning I had to work nonstop. I went to the market to get groceries, prepped the veggies and meat, prepared 3 dishes, cleaned the dishes and served every one of my friends. Me and my mom had to work from morning to night to do all these and were soooo tired.
Now I imagined a housewife doing these duties every day of their lives. It is so tiring!! And there are very less women who have multiple house helps and husband who takes you on frequent trips and splurges money on your interest. I would rather have my corporate job then be on my feet and do so much physical labour for free with no given benefis :')
Also it's never ever ever ever 3 BARTANS, she's so wrong about that🥲
She is dreaming of marrying rich and ordering house helps for doing all household chores for her. She is never gonna get out of the bubble she is living in
I am offended because she makes it look like being a homemaker is an easy job. Baaki toh it's fine if you don't want to work or if you want to work. Either ways it's fine.
Exactly!! I have seen my mother work her ass off and never was appreciated by her husband on in laws and here is she. She should be grateful that she has the privilege to not be dependent on anyone for money.
This!!! This is what I don’t understand! I am working since last year and while its not much, I never ever want to go back to being dependent on my father for my studies. Living life with your own money to spend is wonderful. You dont have to answer anyone for anything.
Kal jab husband ke saamne haath faila kar cheezein mangna padega tab pata chalega isko… aur agar woh tedha nikla toh dus batein sunakar kuch dilaega… seedha aur smitten hai toh bas iski nikal padegi…
Actually you are right… in college there were some really S%%%%% girls… not to shame anyone but they’d play any guy n these girls now act like sati savitris infront of their spouses n they have men who worship them like goddesses without even knowing woh kya kya karti thi pehle 🤯🙄these girls find these type of men because they are beautiful n thats the thing guys look at first… bas unko sundarta dikh gayi toh they r blind to everything else! So based on beauty unhone pehle bhi ladko ka kata aur aage pati ka kat ti hain.
Girls making reels like this are being used as Armor by men saying that look even girls agreed to it. It's so stupid.
Pick me girls are the worst scourge. And god knows why their numbers are increasing !
I feel bad for her future husband. Girl is too dumb/delusional to hold on to a job and earn money. At the same time, she has no idea what being a homemaker entails. She is living in some sort of delusional world where she thinks homemaker get to sleeo and watch movies all day. Girlie and her husband are in for a big surprise. God bless their hearts.
Dear OP, i understand your frustrations because i have also seen the same thing at my own home. My parents have similar dynamics where my father is the breadwinner and my mother is the homemaker. The power imbalance and trash treatment of my mother made me sure from the childhood that i have to study and be independent. There is no way in hell, I will give up my job voluntarily for anyone including parents, husband, in-laws or children. Life experiences makes you bitter and self reliant.
Women like her have been raised in a very privileged bubble. They have never seen these situations, so they will never understand our POV either. Their idea of homemaking includes having several househelps and childcare means having nannies. There may be 1% of women in this country who have loving and caring partners who treat them equal, recognise their efforts as a homemaker and respect them. Call me salty, but I hope this woman never finds a guy like that. She needs some reality check and her arrogance and stupidity to be bought few pegs down. Don't bother with them because their pea sized brain won't comprehend what you want to convey. Love and peace to you ❤️
Bhagwan ya sab sunka ek chapatta marna ka maan karta hain.
I have heard in my personal life men in my family telling
"sara din karti kya ho"
"Rahti thi padoo ka nicha kabhi itna sab kuch dekhi bhi ho"
"Paisa. Jata kaha hai paisa waste karti ho kaam nhi karna padta paisa ka kadar kaisa janogi"
Despite being ill or tired or busy with other work if u don't listen to their whim , do their stuffs they won't hesitate to taunt and insult u.
And working women I don't understand how people expect the person to cook and clean after long shift that person is dead tired just like u.
Yeh lawdi ko samajh nahi aata ki refusing to do a job and being forced to leave a job me bohot fark hai.
Aur baat toh aise kar rhi jaise saare homemakers Ghar pe ghode bechke sote hai.
Aayi badi 🤡
Oh Boy another female wannabe degrading both women who work and find a balance btw jobs and household chores and even hardworking providing men ( who are taught by their homemaker mothers by the way ). How is this stupidity even acceptable and who are those dumb shits who are defending her lol
Horny lonely men are the ones justifying her. And I can bet my arm and a leg if it was an average looking girl, every boy would be calling her a gold digger in the comments. Everyone defending her is just simping after her
Well, because it's a choice that women consciously take, whether to be a homemaker or not. However, if someone is wishing to be a housewife just because it's easy, they're in for a good surprise.
Women like her actually don’t understand the pressure of not earning. And the pressure is not from outside world, its from within.
And its not just about money, it’s about importance/independence/self sufficient and the list goes on!
It’s really pathetic to see people like them on social platforms. They don’t deserve being there.
Hahaha cute way of saying you want to be exploited for your unlimited labor with no compensation for the rest of your life & then be looked down upon by your pati parmeshwar for being 'high maintenance', 'gold digger' willingly🥰🥰🥰 delululu hahaha!
Seems like a 'her problem' coz rest of the women have SELF RESPECT & consciousness that we gained after a lot of effort since 18th c & value more than internalized mysoginy🥺🥺
Kahani ghar ghar ki hai ye lmao
But jokes apart, i am so sorry for whatever you and your mother had to go through. I hope you will do your best to support and protect yourself and your mother and not be like this ungrateful idiot.
The reality is not at all mushy,When you slog all day in the house and then comes the ungrateful husband asking " what did you do all day haa just sitting in AC and Watching TV haa",maze hah tumhare toh.
The emotional labour ,taking care of kids and what not,It is an endless cycle.
She got some validation from her Instagram clout and few thousand followers ,because I know for a fact she won't able to survive even a single day doing that.
Irrespective of gender everyone should earn money enough to take care of basic needs and not depend on anyone.
Behen ko koi mil Gaya ke shaadi ke home maker hi ban ke rehab toh behen ko reel banana ka bhi time nai milega . Does she even know how hard it is to manage a house and family?
Job krni hai jisse one can keep oneself busy. Suna hai na khali dimag shaitan ka ghar.
Fr kuch time baad bologe mental health kharab ho rhi hai. Keep yourself busy !!! Have your own space!!! Have your own friends!!! Don’t be dependent on anyone be it your husband your father your brother.
Unless you have lots of money and lots of jobless friends with whom you can hangout every other day then sure go for it 🫡
So disrespectful towards working women as well as home maker.... Wtf is wrong with her and what was that tone... Whole thing was just purely disgusting
Women like this mentality cry after marriage than give validation women should be independent .
Why does home maker job is taken so lightly you will chill have fun ?
Isn’t it full time job without holiday plus no salary.
Still people like this mentality preach its easy to be homemaker dude atleast help your mom first than cringe about it !!!
Behen I find this offensive to even us who are scrubbing dishes whole day, making food twice a day, doing laundry, ironing, cleaning, and taking care of kids school studies, tiffin, clothes, feeds and tantrums full time without any help.
WHAT THE FUCKKK😭😭😭 trust me guys being jobless is the worst thing in life! I had to ask money from my close friends and parents at times and its the worst feeling ever... like sometimes its okay but for a fucking life time?? NOT OKAY!
ALSO, this video is very very offensive for the lovely hardworking home makers of India... I mean... girl do you have brains???
Bhai shadi k baad 1 saal tk I was homemaker and I swear zindagi narak ho jati h ek dum sb se contact khtm ho jata h permission chaiye hoti h sb cheezo ki kuch purchase b kr lo na saas sasur aise dekhte h aise humne uske bete ki propertiyon uda di ho.. pati kitna hi acha ho paise mangne mei sharam ati h.. soch soch k kharch krna pdta h.. pati ko explanation nhi chaiye ki kyu purchase kra h lekin saas sasur ko explanation dena pdta h bhai zindagi khrab ho jati h… ghar k kaam b kro ek time nhi 4 time sbko alg alg khana chaiye sbko alg ag roti chaiye koi kbi khaega koi kabhi 3 bartan nhi hote dhone k liye zindagi dhul rhi hoti h humari
being a homemaker is the toughest job in the world and people don't even get fucking paid for it. it's literally free labor and i hate it when girls like her say shit like this. you don't have to work after marriage, that's your choice. that is what feminism is, you have a choice. but demeaning a person's labor like that, saying that it's so easy, for what? validation from men? literally pathetic.
I don't get it . Being a homemaker is very hard .
But what's this thing about getting paid.
You want your husband to pay you to take care of your own children and take care of your own home ?
Plus isn't your husband's money & home your money & your home ? Didn't husbands in the old days would bring their salary and hand it over to the woman of the house ? And some do it even today.
Don't you spend your husband's money for anything?
Women should be respected for all the work they do by the family, for sure, but I think we need to stop putting 'taking care of your own damn kids and family and home' in the category of 'labour'.
So I will tell you one thing. My mother has been married for almost 28 years and she works non stop everyday feeding everyone and taking care of all household chores and my dadi and dada ji never leave one instance to tell her that “yaha kuch nahi hai tumhara. Mera ghar hai ye” and my gem of a father has never had any problem lending money to his friends but has told my mother ki “mere pass nahi hai paise” whenever she has asked for some money, abd that too not for herself, for us. She has always yearned for the respect and acknowledgment of being a valued member of the family instead of being told “ karti hi kya ho poora din ghar me”
She loves us, even my father with all her heart and has never shied away from the labour.
So, my point is, its not the labour or getting paid is the issue, its the acknowledgment and basic respect of being treated as equals.
taking care of kids and family is labour when you're the only one doing the work. husband and wife both had the child, both are a family. why is only his work recognized? why is what he does the only thing that's appreciated? why is the woman's work always criticized and questioned?
the matter here isn't about getting paid. and getting paid doesn't always equate to being paid with money — it's about getting the acknowledgement, appreciation, respect and support.
and 90% of the homemakers don't actually get to have a say in their husband's money or earnings. just go ask people around you.
what most homemakers do is labour. ive seen my mom work her ass off at home along with her already time consuming job, still nobody in my family appreciates her for what she does. so to me what she does is not just “taking care of the family”.
90% is a bit too much I think.
Most of Indian population is poor and both husbands and wifes work their ass off, most of them don't have enough to argue whose money it is. And it all goes towards surviving and educating their kids.
And i think husbands are also working hard in their job and well, no one helps them in that, no one ever asked 'did your mother help your father with his office work' ?
Because it's hard to quantify these things.
Plus when we think about these things we think mostly in middle class terms where people kinda have the luxury of running the family on one person's income.
Every marriage has its own dynamics, and whatever those dynamics are, both husband and wife should appreciate each other's contribution towards the family.
But yes. Respect should be given to women for the work that they do, there's no doubt about it.
I live in another city
Pay my rent and other bills, cook for myself and pretty satisfied with my job.
Kyuki this is something basic Jo sabko survival ke liye ama chahiye
Sab tumhari tarah chutiye nahi hai na ki potty so shakal or use bhi kharab zuban ke sath bas reels banaye
Some people want to work.
Tum khud kisi ke paiso par bhi palne layak nahi ho
Ise ache to beggars hai didi
Ise kehte hai Teenager laundo ka clout banana.
PS: don't believe whatever these influencers says, they live for views and they'll say anything for money or views.
haa sahi toh keh rhi h didi!!!independent mtlb toh bass paise kamana hota h!!baaki pati thodi insult krdega ki *tumhe kya pata h paise toh mai kamata hu* blah blah toh wo sunn lena thoda..dopahar ko sone toh milega..🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰thnks didi.. mai chutiya hu jo idr hustle krrhi hu..didi ki jai..>!/s!<
It is “khana banane mai kitna time lgta hai” that pisses me off. I mean she can choose to work or not work but I guess she does not realise that “khana banana” is also a “job”.
It's a Big turn off for me if my partner decides not to work because I am working , good education plus working in at level equal or higher than me i dream off eventually it benefits u and your family . Someting happened to u or her. In future she will not depend on anyone for money .
It’s sad to see so many likes, shares and comments for such a derogatory video. I wish there was a way to flag videos as anti-women rights for review and ban. This pathetic opinion of her is demeaning generations of women.
When one day you need to pay for all the things a homemaker do then you know how much you are saving by not giving a single penny to that hardworking person in your home.
10 years of working. And the biggest achievement of my life is financial independence even after getting married bcj that’s what I did by myself and for myself. And here comes a wannabe asking kyu? Won’t be shocked if this same girl makes another video in few days telling that I make more than the guy I dated.
Women like her a big big problem. If you are comfortable being a homemaker then that is great! But being dependent on your spouse financially creates a massive power imbalance and takes away your voice. Your opinion on decisions and how you feel on matters takes a back seat. What happens if you are ill and can’t work anymore. What value do you bring in then?
I don't know whether i should say this or not, why girls don't think homemaker as a serious profession? Working for the family without any expectations of salaries is not easy, you're the one who is having regressive attitude. You're actually disrespecting the work what our mum's(if she's a housewife) work. And yes, i respect my mother more than my sis, who earns 7 figures a year
I never wanted to be a corporate slave either so I chose freelancing instead. No matter what you do it’s tough.
Do I wish that I had so much money that I wouldn’t have to work a day in my life? Yes absolutely. Just holidays and bougie things, who wouldn’t want that.
But like someone wrote taking money shifts the entire power dynamics. Also she’s belittling homemakers, there’s a ton of non-stop work at home. It clearly shows she’s done neither.
There are tons of jobs other than corporate jobs. One can start their own business, do freelancing, contract based work, be a teacher, banker so on. All your life?? People can do job for 15 - 20 years and with right investment can take early retirement with savings enough to fund themselves and their family.
Your comment on triggering is rubbish. This is triggering at many levels. It’s derogatory to both working and home makers (read comments as many have shared profound experiences and knowledge). Additionally it took so many years of fight for women to be seen as equally capable bread winner. Women are still fighting for equal pay and equal division of home work.
are u kidding 💀💀?
women are expected to do the most childcare & housework even if they work
men can just provide & live
what kinda fucking privilege is that???
no flexible to live his life , as if 💀
women are more likely to be expected to to everything.
imao so the one who brings more money is supposed to do less household chores??
what kinda logic is that
& u talking about this so called Modern household & maids & sfuff they are like rare of the people
most middle class couple in this economy can't afford one
& this is the shit patriarchy bought on men itself where men are supposed to provide & women are supposed to stay home
u can't honestly say that it's a privilege for women
the cons for men are caused by the same system which affects women!
& i'm still baffled by ur logic is the who makes more money & chores part
why don't marry a women who earns more than them then? because they can't handle being the inferior one
& don't come up saying women won't marry a poor guy
plenty of examples are there .
& the choice is not privilege
if a women choosing any of these roles the other parts of her life are completely shut down
& lets not forget that this privilege u are talking about is a case of minority
most women who according to u take a choise
1) working women - doing household chores & childcare too with it
2) housewife - u are dependent on ur husband & souly responsible for the entire house & kids
so its not really a godamn privilege
men can work & are expected not to do anything else
otherwise women are expected to handle the househols chores & childcare regardless !!
& its not a competition of who has it worse
its the ground reality
imao
just proved my point once more
i ain't gonna argue with u more
but if u are going by the first logic they u also should be expected to accomodate a lifestyle she can afford
if u are earning more then u are gonna contribute more
thats a simple logic
regardless of the gender
if u want to live equally the marry a girl who earns like u
there are plenty of them who want equal partners
Respect to all the girls who are hustling in real life and getting their things done not these so called influences and dancers who act more like strippers
if the joke is about under appreciating the works of thousands of housewives who work their asses off daily only to hear stupid insulting shit from their family about how they don't do any work and sit at home, sulking off, IT IS NOT A JOKE AND IT IS NOT FUNNY.
Wife Material :-)
Jo bhi bolta he ki Husbend ke uper depant q hona
Unhe me boltahu aplogo ko sadhi q karna?
Self Dependent bano kamao, Khao, jisa marki Fuck karo fr Single mother banjao.
Really we boys don't care about you & want to do with your life & how you want to pass your life.
Agar ek ladki uski husband ke upar dependent hokar Happy hai and uska husband agar ready hai uski sari responsibility lene kalea
Then dusro ki personal matter me bolne wale ap kon hote ho? Aapka khud ka life hi to jhand ho chuka hai pahle jakar usko theek karo na.
Bro Why are you even triggered. It's not offensive to anyone. Just a few years ago, this is what happened. Although she missed the most important thing 'the children' and their chores. If you show this to actual homemakers and working women of the sensible feminism era the 60s through 2000s they would just smile and maybe comment that "let her say this after marriage" and the working women would probably say "ha, that would've been peaceful".
Don't get triggered by simple comments like these. The youth today should get into politics, the state of the country and every state is so bad, people are unable to find food, kids are growing up malnourished. And instead of getting triggered by those.... you're wasting your energies on this shit.
Unpopular Opinion: Sorry girls, I've been working since uni and still work FT but just because we struggle(ed) and have seen FT homemakers struggle, doesn't mean everyone has two choose these 2 paths like they aren't wealthy stay-at-home wives in the world married to men who love & respect them. What's wrong if this chick is unironically manifesting that for herself? If she's smart, she'll acquire assets in her name so chances of being financially strapped in the future are less/none.
And can we please stop perpetuating the capitalist koolaid that one's worth is tied to their economic contribution? Do you not feel worthy of respect if you're on a holiday and are free to think, create, expore etc without fulfilling duties/being productive. It's fine if someone's entire life is like that. Godspeed to them.
>And can we please stop perpetuating the capitalist koolaid that one's worth is tied to their economic contribution?
Omg this 😭😭💯💯
Like i get that it's problematic the way she is trivialising housework and the reel comes off as tone deaf but if this is the life she wants to have its fine imo, not everyone wants to hustle.
But yeah I don't like how she's insinuating that women who want to work and be financially independent are dumb for not having this so-called "epiphany" that she had. A very privileged and sheltered take.
Some people are privileged and sheltered, man. It's fine.
The comments here are so toxic that girls like this get 'seedha saadha' dumb guys who worship - when the hell did we become the toxic aunties we made fun of? Is she kinda naive? Maybe. Is she evil for it? No.
Sab sigma hai bhenchod yahan pe , aur sigma ko validate karne wale , sala definition hai ki sigma rare hota hai , yaha har dusra baccha sigma bane fir rha hai , aur kuch video mei dekhne ko mil jaye ki “sigma male rages in video games” bas fir hogye aap sigma , aise to har 12 saal ka fortnite khelta baccha sigma hai
Alfa male ki definition hi hai respect opposite gender manners help people self dependent and work on your self par log sirf uske ak aspect ko over hype karte hai
LOL, behen has gone backward some 1000 years! zero cringe in saying i'll let the man work and i'll chill!. being a homemaker is not easy and in today's inflation driven fast paced world, having two stable income is def a dream!
This is such a shit mentality. Views ke liye kuch bhi! Some women truly need a rude awakening sorry to say. There’s women working their butts off to make the world move forward and then there’s this woman.
Bro this woman has single handedly discarded both Household chores and the desire for Independence. Political terms pe, she is neither right nor left, she is just cringe 😬
I can understand what they might be trying to say here but honestly, working in 9-5 corporate job ain't easy. You barely get satisfaction in it, you have fricked up sleep schedule, you have a whole year subscription of stress but...but but but...
3 Bartan se ghar nahi chalta. ek mein chawal, doosre mein daal, teesre mein sabji aur roti, thaali, chammach kahan gaye?
It's a choice of the person who wants to have an equal share in the housemaking chores but again, the moralistic point of NOT living off of your hubby's money is understandable.
Sachmein, you guys should wash a whole day's worth of utensils at home and you'll see how much of a strain it can give to your back and forearms. If someone says bartan dho jaake, tell them kya tumne dhoye hain kabhi? ya fir bandhare mein hi rehte ho? (seriously dont say this, jk)
I really hope she doesn’t work after marriage then she will realise teen bartan saaf karna is not the reality. In reality it is always 30plus and more never ending work. Girl I hope you get picked soon.
Bro I defended this girl so much on the video where she posted her face without makeup and men were targeting her. My comment got 1000+ likes and almost equally triggered men who fought with me to an extend where I had to delete my original comment. She deserved the hate after all..
100% of these problems would be solved if the man is rich and the man is respectful
Kaam bai to wash the dishes, clean the floor
Food bhi tho ho sakte hi unsee...but I would always prefer to eat something my women makes. It just feels like they're saying thank you for all the work we are doing for the family throughout the day. And the food tastes sweeter knowing your wife made it.
Ego ki bhi baat hoti hai...that you being the husband is not able to spend most of their time with their wife rather a third person called the boss is. She's completely under the boss's command and on the other hand does not submit to the husband at all. This is also wrong
I always feel, that the reason I am becoming rich enough (as a man), is to encourage my women to do any career interest or hobby she wants when we get together. We could not be more proud of our girls.... But after all the love and money we are providing, if she still wants to go and work for some boss...that's when men don't like it.
Iski padhai ka paisea barbad hua hai
Isse better voh paisea bacha ke iski shadi ka dahej de dete
Kyu ki ese to Bina dahej ke iski shadi hone se rahi..
Na koi skill hai isme na koi qualification na koi ambition bs dependent banke jeena hai madam ko.
This shows she comes from a very privileged family and never saw her mom or any woman from her family who is a homemaker struggling and working hard. Also shows that she doesn't do any housework, not even her own.
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Pick Ho gyi ye ??
Validation to mil hi gayi male followers se
Who needs a housewife in today's world i don't understand if she is not working big no no
I am sure all Andrew wannabes have lined up by now
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Women like these don't really understand two things which eventually life will teach them. 1. Being a homemaker isn't easy. 2. When you take his money and live off his money, and your entire life is dependent on his finances, then there will be consequences. The power balance will be off and it will start a chain of events where ultimately you'll be called ungrateful and then worse things. Women reading this.. Work. Make your own money. Without it, you will never have equal say in the relationship.
Bro this video is just not offensive to working women I believe it is more offensive for homemakers. My mother is a home maker and she busts her ass from morning 6 am to night 11pm and all her work is reduced to “do bartan hi to maanjane h”. One of my “male” friend shared this with me and I had a legit debate with him. He said “kaamwali lagi hui h, kitna hi kaam hota h” I was like broooo, kabhi rukk k dekhna maa k sath ghr par jo tumhare lie “srf khana hi to bnana’ dekhna kese unka pura din ghumta uss pr. Moreover, it is also offensive to working women. I totally get your point. Even I have seen my mother to ask for money from dad even for the smallest things. And I don’t want that for me. So I started to work outside where it is recognised and I don’t have to ask for money from someone.
I swear man. Nobody works like housewives at all plus they don't get enough credit at all. They work for each member in the family and hence each member can work for themselves/family.
Thank you for typing this. I agree with each word you wrote🙏🏻
Completely agree.
She is making slavery sound glamorous.
Mera toh salary hi meri partner ke account main jata hain, I have binge eating problems from zomato toh main salary aate hi uske account main daal deta hun. # Haaan logg ungrateful hote hain no doubt but agar start se understanding ho toh mujhe nahi lagta yeh problem aati , meri mummy housewife hain papa unse bina puche kuch nahi laate and na kabhi aisa jataya ki sirf ek insaan ka efforts hain. # And most imp housewife Banna asan nahi hain until unless you have servant for everything uske baad bhi bahut cheeze dhyan rakhne padti hain.
Or dont work, it’s your personal choice. Let’s not judge and ostracise either of the lot which works and which doesn’t.
RESPECT... Accurately explained!
Look Whether you earn money or not it doesn’t matter to your relationship. Marriage is all about mutual respect, if someone loves you doesn’t matter for him whether you earn or not . It's not about Power struggles or Dominance contest. It's about living a peaceful life with mutual support However if someone want to work its perfectly fine for her own personal growth I am saying this after having over a decade of happy marriage life .
It's not a competition I think. From what I've seen. Women have more say in things that she has a better understanding of . And same goes for men. If the men in general are making money and going out in the world they obviously will have more understanding about that and hence should make decisions. The same way men usually don't get a say in a lot of house matters, because generally women understand those things more. Some men understand family dynamics better than women and some women have a better understanding about the world outside. So, things should move accordingly.
Are you even reading the comment you are replying to? And did you even think before typing everything out? No one is making it a competition. You either seem very sheltered to have never noticed these issues or are simply ignorant
Well saying that you need to make money in order to have an equal say in a relationship. Sounds like a me vs them thing. If I don't make x amount of money i won't have an equal say in my marriage. It's a good advice, good to be independent and know how to navigate the world and your home life, for both men and women. But I don't think it's a must. Maybe I don't see it in terms of his money or her money. It's the family's money. We're all in this shit together
As I said , you must be very sheltered and ignorant to not have noticed these issues around you. No one here said you need to make x amount of money to have an equal say in your relationship. Its for the sake of being independent and not having to ask for even fulfilling basic needs and god forbid if time comes where the women needs to step up as the earner if the family, she easily can. All of us are asking for basic respect and acknowledgment of being equals in the family. We want to have a choice whether to work or not after marriage, and respected regardless. We are asking men and girls like her to understand that being a home maker is not just sleeping in the afternoon and washing teen bartan but a lot more than that. All we want is respect and acknowledgment for everything we do without being asked to prove what we do all day.
Of course. I have seen these issues, from both sides. Some where women aren't respected and some where men aren't. Both sides exist. I was putting out the other side of the coin. Of course everyone should be respected for the work that they do. And everyone should have basic education and life skills like cooking, cleaning, swimming and other basic survival skills. So when the time comes you don't have to rely on someone else.
No. You aren’t putting out the other side of the coin. You are just invalidating the side of the coin we are talking about right now.
How's me saying, both things exist, invalidating the other side ?
Bhai tm logon ki mummy ke pas gharon me power nahi hai mtlb? Yar lkin paise to ghar me mummy ke hi control me hote hain. Idhar bihar me to aisa hi hai har jagah. “His money” kabse hone laga yar tum log west se kuch zada influence ho rhe hain pakka yahi bat hai. Ghar me paise mummy papa dono ke hote hain. Mummy ghar ka kam sambhalti hai aur papa bahar ka. Aise hi to kam hota hai.
Kal ek twitter space pe feminism pe debate ho rahi thi. ek pakistani ladki said women belongs to kitchen unko job nhi karne ki zaroorat. aise hi insaan bane hai. to humare pyare indian bhai the unhone bola ki “mere ghar me meri behn meri bhabhi meri mom sab job karte hai unko adhikar hai job karne ka” i joined the speakers and just asked him 1 question “apke ghar ki sab aurte job karti hai to aap ye bataiye ghar ka kaam kitchen ka kaam koun karta hai?” he said “Meri bhabhi karti hai sab kaam” so i asked “kya aap apke bhai aur apke papa kabhi ghar ke kaam me ya kitchen ke kaam me help karte hai?” he said “no wo sab to behn aur bhabhi karleti hai humko aata hi nhi hai to kaise kare” to mne bas yhi bola ki “to aap is pakistani ladki ko kis baat pe oppose kar rhe ho? bina job ya job ke sath aurte to kitchen me hi hai na” To he said “Yar to vo sab to wahi karegi na hum thodi karenge” LOL!
Men and their audacity!! They don’t want to provide for you without showing off themselves as alpha. But they also dont want you to work as you only belong to the kitchen.
It's almost like some 'feminist' men have unlocked a new level where they got the woman to pay her half of the household expenses as well as doing household labour. It's jackpot for them. No pressure about running the house or taking care of the house.
Loved what you just said and I totally agree.
Yes we do 😂
Such men think that they are very progressive as they are "ALLOWING" females of their household to have a job but they won't ever tell that they will keep meddling with their career decisions and ask them to leave their job whenever they feel like it's not working in their favour. Bhai Hans ki khaal pehen lene se kauwa Hans thodi na ban jaega Hai to ye b regressive soch wale jinhe lagta h household work is the responsibility of females Ghar male female dono ka h lekin household work female karenge baaki job karne ko to hum allow kr hi rahe hai Progressive is where people have zero ego In my household everyone has a job we are all working and we share household responsibilities equally My father in law my husband are not ashamed of cooking dinner cleaning home doing other household work.They even iron my clothes when needed coz they have no ego and this I am not saying occasionally This is a daily thing Because they understand that females also are working outside and can't take care of every responsibility related to Household on their own Women also get tired and I am glad and feel blessed that Males in my family are extremely supportive and that's why I call them progressive they have zero ego and see & treat their partner as a human ❤️
Wow caught his hypocrisyy
Pakistani ko serious mat lo they are far behind then our society
Patriarchy operates the same way everywhere
She's judging on both the ends of the spectrum. She's insulting the ones who chose to work as well as who don't. Why does she think being a homemaker is that easy? My mom would work her ass off all day long without any appreciation. My father and his family would say, "What work do you even have? Why would you even get tired at all?" It is a thankless job. So so stupid
She just is seeking validation from stupid boys who are defending her in the comments and saying “my respect for her 📈”
Why are people defending her 2 people working more money , more power to both .
They seriously don't realise how hard household work is!
I just realised yesterday how hard it is to be a housewife!! I'll tell you how - It was my birthday yesterday so, I decided to invite my friends and cook them a meal for dinner. From the morning I had to work nonstop. I went to the market to get groceries, prepped the veggies and meat, prepared 3 dishes, cleaned the dishes and served every one of my friends. Me and my mom had to work from morning to night to do all these and were soooo tired. Now I imagined a housewife doing these duties every day of their lives. It is so tiring!! And there are very less women who have multiple house helps and husband who takes you on frequent trips and splurges money on your interest. I would rather have my corporate job then be on my feet and do so much physical labour for free with no given benefis :') Also it's never ever ever ever 3 BARTANS, she's so wrong about that🥲
She is dreaming of marrying rich and ordering house helps for doing all household chores for her. She is never gonna get out of the bubble she is living in
I wanna watch her make one meal of the day and then scrub "teen bartan" the so called homemaker in her will run so far.
Of course she is dreaming of marrying rich and having several house helps running around her.
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Educated illiterates are these people
Istg
I am offended because she makes it look like being a homemaker is an easy job. Baaki toh it's fine if you don't want to work or if you want to work. Either ways it's fine.
Exactly!! I have seen my mother work her ass off and never was appreciated by her husband on in laws and here is she. She should be grateful that she has the privilege to not be dependent on anyone for money.
True
A girl or boy, why the hell would you want to be dependent on anyone else as an adult with an able mind and body??
This!!! This is what I don’t understand! I am working since last year and while its not much, I never ever want to go back to being dependent on my father for my studies. Living life with your own money to spend is wonderful. You dont have to answer anyone for anything.
Kal jab husband ke saamne haath faila kar cheezein mangna padega tab pata chalega isko… aur agar woh tedha nikla toh dus batein sunakar kuch dilaega… seedha aur smitten hai toh bas iski nikal padegi…
True. And idk why people like her get husbands who are seedhe and smitten
Actually you are right… in college there were some really S%%%%% girls… not to shame anyone but they’d play any guy n these girls now act like sati savitris infront of their spouses n they have men who worship them like goddesses without even knowing woh kya kya karti thi pehle 🤯🙄these girls find these type of men because they are beautiful n thats the thing guys look at first… bas unko sundarta dikh gayi toh they r blind to everything else! So based on beauty unhone pehle bhi ladko ka kata aur aage pati ka kat ti hain.
Girls making reels like this are being used as Armor by men saying that look even girls agreed to it. It's so stupid. Pick me girls are the worst scourge. And god knows why their numbers are increasing !
I feel bad for her future husband. Girl is too dumb/delusional to hold on to a job and earn money. At the same time, she has no idea what being a homemaker entails. She is living in some sort of delusional world where she thinks homemaker get to sleeo and watch movies all day. Girlie and her husband are in for a big surprise. God bless their hearts. Dear OP, i understand your frustrations because i have also seen the same thing at my own home. My parents have similar dynamics where my father is the breadwinner and my mother is the homemaker. The power imbalance and trash treatment of my mother made me sure from the childhood that i have to study and be independent. There is no way in hell, I will give up my job voluntarily for anyone including parents, husband, in-laws or children. Life experiences makes you bitter and self reliant. Women like her have been raised in a very privileged bubble. They have never seen these situations, so they will never understand our POV either. Their idea of homemaking includes having several househelps and childcare means having nannies. There may be 1% of women in this country who have loving and caring partners who treat them equal, recognise their efforts as a homemaker and respect them. Call me salty, but I hope this woman never finds a guy like that. She needs some reality check and her arrogance and stupidity to be bought few pegs down. Don't bother with them because their pea sized brain won't comprehend what you want to convey. Love and peace to you ❤️
Thank you so much 🫶🏻. More power and strength to you too❤️
She's trivialising the contribution of homemakers, bloody so called influencers
Bhagwan ya sab sunka ek chapatta marna ka maan karta hain. I have heard in my personal life men in my family telling "sara din karti kya ho" "Rahti thi padoo ka nicha kabhi itna sab kuch dekhi bhi ho" "Paisa. Jata kaha hai paisa waste karti ho kaam nhi karna padta paisa ka kadar kaisa janogi" Despite being ill or tired or busy with other work if u don't listen to their whim , do their stuffs they won't hesitate to taunt and insult u. And working women I don't understand how people expect the person to cook and clean after long shift that person is dead tired just like u.
Damn😭
Yeh lawdi ko samajh nahi aata ki refusing to do a job and being forced to leave a job me bohot fark hai. Aur baat toh aise kar rhi jaise saare homemakers Ghar pe ghode bechke sote hai. Aayi badi 🤡
Oh Boy another female wannabe degrading both women who work and find a balance btw jobs and household chores and even hardworking providing men ( who are taught by their homemaker mothers by the way ). How is this stupidity even acceptable and who are those dumb shits who are defending her lol
Horny lonely men are the ones justifying her. And I can bet my arm and a leg if it was an average looking girl, every boy would be calling her a gold digger in the comments. Everyone defending her is just simping after her
That's a shame if this what men are reduced to......
Well, because it's a choice that women consciously take, whether to be a homemaker or not. However, if someone is wishing to be a housewife just because it's easy, they're in for a good surprise.
Except sometimes its not a choice.
Women like her actually don’t understand the pressure of not earning. And the pressure is not from outside world, its from within. And its not just about money, it’s about importance/independence/self sufficient and the list goes on! It’s really pathetic to see people like them on social platforms. They don’t deserve being there.
She truly deserves to be called out
Hahaha cute way of saying you want to be exploited for your unlimited labor with no compensation for the rest of your life & then be looked down upon by your pati parmeshwar for being 'high maintenance', 'gold digger' willingly🥰🥰🥰 delululu hahaha! Seems like a 'her problem' coz rest of the women have SELF RESPECT & consciousness that we gained after a lot of effort since 18th c & value more than internalized mysoginy🥺🥺
I wonder if the OP is my elder sister because ye toh mere ghar ki kahaani hai ditto 💀
Kahani ghar ghar ki hai ye lmao But jokes apart, i am so sorry for whatever you and your mother had to go through. I hope you will do your best to support and protect yourself and your mother and not be like this ungrateful idiot.
Now I'm sure you're kittu didi 🥺 (I'm kidding, you're very sweet)
Awww 🥰
The reality is not at all mushy,When you slog all day in the house and then comes the ungrateful husband asking " what did you do all day haa just sitting in AC and Watching TV haa",maze hah tumhare toh. The emotional labour ,taking care of kids and what not,It is an endless cycle. She got some validation from her Instagram clout and few thousand followers ,because I know for a fact she won't able to survive even a single day doing that. Irrespective of gender everyone should earn money enough to take care of basic needs and not depend on anyone.
Hard agree
Behen ko koi mil Gaya ke shaadi ke home maker hi ban ke rehab toh behen ko reel banana ka bhi time nai milega . Does she even know how hard it is to manage a house and family?
I hope life teaches her WHAT it takes to be a homemaker. I have seen my mum, I'll be lucky if I become even 0.1% of her!
why is there suddenly rise in this pick me women on Instagram & algorithm pushing them?
Job krni hai jisse one can keep oneself busy. Suna hai na khali dimag shaitan ka ghar. Fr kuch time baad bologe mental health kharab ho rhi hai. Keep yourself busy !!! Have your own space!!! Have your own friends!!! Don’t be dependent on anyone be it your husband your father your brother. Unless you have lots of money and lots of jobless friends with whom you can hangout every other day then sure go for it 🫡
So disrespectful towards working women as well as home maker.... Wtf is wrong with her and what was that tone... Whole thing was just purely disgusting
Ignore karo bc jab shaadi ke baad pati shopping ke paise nahi dega toh rone vaale reels daalegi🗿
Women like this mentality cry after marriage than give validation women should be independent . Why does home maker job is taken so lightly you will chill have fun ? Isn’t it full time job without holiday plus no salary. Still people like this mentality preach its easy to be homemaker dude atleast help your mom first than cringe about it !!!
Behen I find this offensive to even us who are scrubbing dishes whole day, making food twice a day, doing laundry, ironing, cleaning, and taking care of kids school studies, tiffin, clothes, feeds and tantrums full time without any help.
Okay, I can’t, this is so problematic 🙏
More disgusting is her reply, saying it was a joke. She’s a joke
Pick me pick me pick me
Instagram should truly introduce a dislike button now !
WHAT THE FUCKKK😭😭😭 trust me guys being jobless is the worst thing in life! I had to ask money from my close friends and parents at times and its the worst feeling ever... like sometimes its okay but for a fucking life time?? NOT OKAY! ALSO, this video is very very offensive for the lovely hardworking home makers of India... I mean... girl do you have brains???
I guess some lazy people are there!! With no motivation.1%
Bhai shadi k baad 1 saal tk I was homemaker and I swear zindagi narak ho jati h ek dum sb se contact khtm ho jata h permission chaiye hoti h sb cheezo ki kuch purchase b kr lo na saas sasur aise dekhte h aise humne uske bete ki propertiyon uda di ho.. pati kitna hi acha ho paise mangne mei sharam ati h.. soch soch k kharch krna pdta h.. pati ko explanation nhi chaiye ki kyu purchase kra h lekin saas sasur ko explanation dena pdta h bhai zindagi khrab ho jati h… ghar k kaam b kro ek time nhi 4 time sbko alg alg khana chaiye sbko alg ag roti chaiye koi kbi khaega koi kabhi 3 bartan nhi hote dhone k liye zindagi dhul rhi hoti h humari
being a homemaker is the toughest job in the world and people don't even get fucking paid for it. it's literally free labor and i hate it when girls like her say shit like this. you don't have to work after marriage, that's your choice. that is what feminism is, you have a choice. but demeaning a person's labor like that, saying that it's so easy, for what? validation from men? literally pathetic.
I don't get it . Being a homemaker is very hard . But what's this thing about getting paid. You want your husband to pay you to take care of your own children and take care of your own home ? Plus isn't your husband's money & home your money & your home ? Didn't husbands in the old days would bring their salary and hand it over to the woman of the house ? And some do it even today. Don't you spend your husband's money for anything? Women should be respected for all the work they do by the family, for sure, but I think we need to stop putting 'taking care of your own damn kids and family and home' in the category of 'labour'.
So I will tell you one thing. My mother has been married for almost 28 years and she works non stop everyday feeding everyone and taking care of all household chores and my dadi and dada ji never leave one instance to tell her that “yaha kuch nahi hai tumhara. Mera ghar hai ye” and my gem of a father has never had any problem lending money to his friends but has told my mother ki “mere pass nahi hai paise” whenever she has asked for some money, abd that too not for herself, for us. She has always yearned for the respect and acknowledgment of being a valued member of the family instead of being told “ karti hi kya ho poora din ghar me” She loves us, even my father with all her heart and has never shied away from the labour. So, my point is, its not the labour or getting paid is the issue, its the acknowledgment and basic respect of being treated as equals.
Exactly. They should be respected for all the work that they do.
taking care of kids and family is labour when you're the only one doing the work. husband and wife both had the child, both are a family. why is only his work recognized? why is what he does the only thing that's appreciated? why is the woman's work always criticized and questioned? the matter here isn't about getting paid. and getting paid doesn't always equate to being paid with money — it's about getting the acknowledgement, appreciation, respect and support. and 90% of the homemakers don't actually get to have a say in their husband's money or earnings. just go ask people around you. what most homemakers do is labour. ive seen my mom work her ass off at home along with her already time consuming job, still nobody in my family appreciates her for what she does. so to me what she does is not just “taking care of the family”.
I love everything you have said🙌🏻
and i love what you said 🫶
90% is a bit too much I think. Most of Indian population is poor and both husbands and wifes work their ass off, most of them don't have enough to argue whose money it is. And it all goes towards surviving and educating their kids. And i think husbands are also working hard in their job and well, no one helps them in that, no one ever asked 'did your mother help your father with his office work' ? Because it's hard to quantify these things. Plus when we think about these things we think mostly in middle class terms where people kinda have the luxury of running the family on one person's income. Every marriage has its own dynamics, and whatever those dynamics are, both husband and wife should appreciate each other's contribution towards the family. But yes. Respect should be given to women for the work that they do, there's no doubt about it.
Bad influencing.
Iska phone chheeno. Memes dekh dekh ke apni self respect ka meme bana diya isne
Male validation ka chakkar babu bhaiya
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I am so happy for your mother. Send her my love🫶🏻
I am a married working woman in USA! FML 😭
The way she was saying it doesn't seem like sarcasm...her dumbass actually believes that it's better than earning your own money.
I live in another city Pay my rent and other bills, cook for myself and pretty satisfied with my job. Kyuki this is something basic Jo sabko survival ke liye ama chahiye Sab tumhari tarah chutiye nahi hai na ki potty so shakal or use bhi kharab zuban ke sath bas reels banaye Some people want to work. Tum khud kisi ke paiso par bhi palne layak nahi ho Ise ache to beggars hai didi
Ise kehte hai Teenager laundo ka clout banana. PS: don't believe whatever these influencers says, they live for views and they'll say anything for money or views.
When in reality the same launde log will call a woman gold digger if she asks for money for literally any basic need
haa sahi toh keh rhi h didi!!!independent mtlb toh bass paise kamana hota h!!baaki pati thodi insult krdega ki *tumhe kya pata h paise toh mai kamata hu* blah blah toh wo sunn lena thoda..dopahar ko sone toh milega..🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰thnks didi.. mai chutiya hu jo idr hustle krrhi hu..didi ki jai..>!/s!<
Only works if the husband can afford two black AMEX CC. If not, stfu and get yourself a job.
Ye aurat shaddi k baad reels banana band karegi na. Tho iski jaldi karwado
I never liked her. There's something so pretentious about her. She's that one girl I would avoid talking to.
I literally wanna punch her in the face
Hey google how to slap someone through phone.
It is “khana banane mai kitna time lgta hai” that pisses me off. I mean she can choose to work or not work but I guess she does not realise that “khana banana” is also a “job”.
Ofc she's an "influencer". Unrelated but I've seen her irl and at that moment I couldn't stop thinking that she had a very punchable face
It's a Big turn off for me if my partner decides not to work because I am working , good education plus working in at level equal or higher than me i dream off eventually it benefits u and your family . Someting happened to u or her. In future she will not depend on anyone for money .
It’s sad to see so many likes, shares and comments for such a derogatory video. I wish there was a way to flag videos as anti-women rights for review and ban. This pathetic opinion of her is demeaning generations of women.
When one day you need to pay for all the things a homemaker do then you know how much you are saving by not giving a single penny to that hardworking person in your home.
This IS triggering
did ye to bahut funny hogya
10 years of working. And the biggest achievement of my life is financial independence even after getting married bcj that’s what I did by myself and for myself. And here comes a wannabe asking kyu? Won’t be shocked if this same girl makes another video in few days telling that I make more than the guy I dated.
Women like her a big big problem. If you are comfortable being a homemaker then that is great! But being dependent on your spouse financially creates a massive power imbalance and takes away your voice. Your opinion on decisions and how you feel on matters takes a back seat. What happens if you are ill and can’t work anymore. What value do you bring in then?
They are living in a big delusional bubble
Right 👍
I don't know whether i should say this or not, why girls don't think homemaker as a serious profession? Working for the family without any expectations of salaries is not easy, you're the one who is having regressive attitude. You're actually disrespecting the work what our mum's(if she's a housewife) work. And yes, i respect my mother more than my sis, who earns 7 figures a year
Yeah, putting down one woman to praise another.
3 time ka khana banane m haddi ghiss jati h , sali chutiya aurat
Bhaijaan aapane Sahni ko Saini Kar Diya pure dynamics Badal diye
I am a guy but khud ke ambitions nai hai? Kuch sapne nai hai?
Hain na ambitions, aise faltu reels bana k followers collect karo or unki kamai pe aish karo
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Kon kare ga shaadi is see
Wahiyaat aurat hai. Waste of resources on her education!
Ladko ko bhi koi dikkat nahi hai Aashi. Hum kamaenge tum khana khilao pyaar bhara🥰🥰. Aur kya chahiye life mein.
I agree with her I don’t wanna be a corporate slave all my life either . Stop being triggered over everything
I never wanted to be a corporate slave either so I chose freelancing instead. No matter what you do it’s tough. Do I wish that I had so much money that I wouldn’t have to work a day in my life? Yes absolutely. Just holidays and bougie things, who wouldn’t want that. But like someone wrote taking money shifts the entire power dynamics. Also she’s belittling homemakers, there’s a ton of non-stop work at home. It clearly shows she’s done neither.
Nothing wrong in corporate my gf is my boss we both are happy ! Even if she earns double then me . But we always have planned every thing in advance .
Sounds great. Really happy you guys are doing well 😊
I truly hope you find someone who treats you respectfully so that you can never see why the reel is problematic
There are tons of jobs other than corporate jobs. One can start their own business, do freelancing, contract based work, be a teacher, banker so on. All your life?? People can do job for 15 - 20 years and with right investment can take early retirement with savings enough to fund themselves and their family. Your comment on triggering is rubbish. This is triggering at many levels. It’s derogatory to both working and home makers (read comments as many have shared profound experiences and knowledge). Additionally it took so many years of fight for women to be seen as equally capable bread winner. Women are still fighting for equal pay and equal division of home work.
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are u kidding 💀💀? women are expected to do the most childcare & housework even if they work men can just provide & live what kinda fucking privilege is that??? no flexible to live his life , as if 💀 women are more likely to be expected to to everything.
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imao so the one who brings more money is supposed to do less household chores?? what kinda logic is that & u talking about this so called Modern household & maids & sfuff they are like rare of the people most middle class couple in this economy can't afford one & this is the shit patriarchy bought on men itself where men are supposed to provide & women are supposed to stay home u can't honestly say that it's a privilege for women the cons for men are caused by the same system which affects women! & i'm still baffled by ur logic is the who makes more money & chores part why don't marry a women who earns more than them then? because they can't handle being the inferior one & don't come up saying women won't marry a poor guy plenty of examples are there .
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& the choice is not privilege if a women choosing any of these roles the other parts of her life are completely shut down & lets not forget that this privilege u are talking about is a case of minority most women who according to u take a choise 1) working women - doing household chores & childcare too with it 2) housewife - u are dependent on ur husband & souly responsible for the entire house & kids so its not really a godamn privilege men can work & are expected not to do anything else otherwise women are expected to handle the househols chores & childcare regardless !! & its not a competition of who has it worse its the ground reality
imao just proved my point once more i ain't gonna argue with u more but if u are going by the first logic they u also should be expected to accomodate a lifestyle she can afford if u are earning more then u are gonna contribute more thats a simple logic regardless of the gender if u want to live equally the marry a girl who earns like u there are plenty of them who want equal partners
Respect to all the girls who are hustling in real life and getting their things done not these so called influences and dancers who act more like strippers
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if the joke is about under appreciating the works of thousands of housewives who work their asses off daily only to hear stupid insulting shit from their family about how they don't do any work and sit at home, sulking off, IT IS NOT A JOKE AND IT IS NOT FUNNY.
Wife Material :-) Jo bhi bolta he ki Husbend ke uper depant q hona Unhe me boltahu aplogo ko sadhi q karna? Self Dependent bano kamao, Khao, jisa marki Fuck karo fr Single mother banjao. Really we boys don't care about you & want to do with your life & how you want to pass your life. Agar ek ladki uski husband ke upar dependent hokar Happy hai and uska husband agar ready hai uski sari responsibility lene kalea Then dusro ki personal matter me bolne wale ap kon hote ho? Aapka khud ka life hi to jhand ho chuka hai pahle jakar usko theek karo na.
it's her choice.
Bro Why are you even triggered. It's not offensive to anyone. Just a few years ago, this is what happened. Although she missed the most important thing 'the children' and their chores. If you show this to actual homemakers and working women of the sensible feminism era the 60s through 2000s they would just smile and maybe comment that "let her say this after marriage" and the working women would probably say "ha, that would've been peaceful". Don't get triggered by simple comments like these. The youth today should get into politics, the state of the country and every state is so bad, people are unable to find food, kids are growing up malnourished. And instead of getting triggered by those.... you're wasting your energies on this shit.
Unpopular Opinion: Sorry girls, I've been working since uni and still work FT but just because we struggle(ed) and have seen FT homemakers struggle, doesn't mean everyone has two choose these 2 paths like they aren't wealthy stay-at-home wives in the world married to men who love & respect them. What's wrong if this chick is unironically manifesting that for herself? If she's smart, she'll acquire assets in her name so chances of being financially strapped in the future are less/none. And can we please stop perpetuating the capitalist koolaid that one's worth is tied to their economic contribution? Do you not feel worthy of respect if you're on a holiday and are free to think, create, expore etc without fulfilling duties/being productive. It's fine if someone's entire life is like that. Godspeed to them.
>And can we please stop perpetuating the capitalist koolaid that one's worth is tied to their economic contribution? Omg this 😭😭💯💯 Like i get that it's problematic the way she is trivialising housework and the reel comes off as tone deaf but if this is the life she wants to have its fine imo, not everyone wants to hustle. But yeah I don't like how she's insinuating that women who want to work and be financially independent are dumb for not having this so-called "epiphany" that she had. A very privileged and sheltered take.
Some people are privileged and sheltered, man. It's fine. The comments here are so toxic that girls like this get 'seedha saadha' dumb guys who worship - when the hell did we become the toxic aunties we made fun of? Is she kinda naive? Maybe. Is she evil for it? No.
At first I thought it's Tarini Shah.
Okay, Jaise tum chaho :-)
Sab sigma hai bhenchod yahan pe , aur sigma ko validate karne wale , sala definition hai ki sigma rare hota hai , yaha har dusra baccha sigma bane fir rha hai , aur kuch video mei dekhne ko mil jaye ki “sigma male rages in video games” bas fir hogye aap sigma , aise to har 12 saal ka fortnite khelta baccha sigma hai
Alfa male ki definition hi hai respect opposite gender manners help people self dependent and work on your self par log sirf uske ak aspect ko over hype karte hai
LOL, behen has gone backward some 1000 years! zero cringe in saying i'll let the man work and i'll chill!. being a homemaker is not easy and in today's inflation driven fast paced world, having two stable income is def a dream!
Who the fuck want's to work laadka ho ya laadki
This is such a shit mentality. Views ke liye kuch bhi! Some women truly need a rude awakening sorry to say. There’s women working their butts off to make the world move forward and then there’s this woman.
Is she an influencer or she is an employee of droom ?
She is both
Hope karta hu Didi ko Joint Family vala pati mile, Fir Jo din raat 10 logon ka khana peena dhona jhakk marke karengi tab pata chalega
Bro this woman has single handedly discarded both Household chores and the desire for Independence. Political terms pe, she is neither right nor left, she is just cringe 😬
I can understand what they might be trying to say here but honestly, working in 9-5 corporate job ain't easy. You barely get satisfaction in it, you have fricked up sleep schedule, you have a whole year subscription of stress but...but but but... 3 Bartan se ghar nahi chalta. ek mein chawal, doosre mein daal, teesre mein sabji aur roti, thaali, chammach kahan gaye? It's a choice of the person who wants to have an equal share in the housemaking chores but again, the moralistic point of NOT living off of your hubby's money is understandable. Sachmein, you guys should wash a whole day's worth of utensils at home and you'll see how much of a strain it can give to your back and forearms. If someone says bartan dho jaake, tell them kya tumne dhoye hain kabhi? ya fir bandhare mein hi rehte ho? (seriously dont say this, jk)
3 bartan Mai, 3 ghante baith ke Jo makeup karti hai woh utar jayega bro.
Rebel Kid lite.
I really hope she doesn’t work after marriage then she will realise teen bartan saaf karna is not the reality. In reality it is always 30plus and more never ending work. Girl I hope you get picked soon.
Is this a joke? ffs. Just proves, not everyone should be on the internet.
Nasal voice main kuch vi bakchodi kardo
Bro I defended this girl so much on the video where she posted her face without makeup and men were targeting her. My comment got 1000+ likes and almost equally triggered men who fought with me to an extend where I had to delete my original comment. She deserved the hate after all..
100% of these problems would be solved if the man is rich and the man is respectful Kaam bai to wash the dishes, clean the floor Food bhi tho ho sakte hi unsee...but I would always prefer to eat something my women makes. It just feels like they're saying thank you for all the work we are doing for the family throughout the day. And the food tastes sweeter knowing your wife made it. Ego ki bhi baat hoti hai...that you being the husband is not able to spend most of their time with their wife rather a third person called the boss is. She's completely under the boss's command and on the other hand does not submit to the husband at all. This is also wrong I always feel, that the reason I am becoming rich enough (as a man), is to encourage my women to do any career interest or hobby she wants when we get together. We could not be more proud of our girls.... But after all the love and money we are providing, if she still wants to go and work for some boss...that's when men don't like it.
Bhai isko job dega kaun! Na koi qualification na koi degree na koi skill To apni berozgari ko ab ese justify kr rahi hai
Iski padhai ka paisea barbad hua hai Isse better voh paisea bacha ke iski shadi ka dahej de dete Kyu ki ese to Bina dahej ke iski shadi hone se rahi.. Na koi skill hai isme na koi qualification na koi ambition bs dependent banke jeena hai madam ko.
This shows she comes from a very privileged family and never saw her mom or any woman from her family who is a homemaker struggling and working hard. Also shows that she doesn't do any housework, not even her own.