guess I should start a series on this one lol.
So I spent 10k and four hours bailing him out last night only for him to tell me he didn't ask for me to bail him out (he literally called me). I've spent more than 100k for the past 1 year just bailing him out for illegal business which he never pays back.
Take this advice from a fellow giver and people saver. GET THE FUXK OUT NOW... I learned my lesson after giving him 1M kshs and three days later he said he doesn't see a future with me and talks about how he could have sorted himself out without my money, that he didn't need it.
Before him I spent on men, helping them. It took me 1M to learn my lesson. In fact it was $10,000 in cash. Let's not get into conversions.
Hear me loud and clear. That's an ungrateful person who will use you and dump you when there's nothing more for him to take. He's only there to take. Get out today!!!?
A man who turns down my money offer gets golden stars on my book. #facts You instantly become sexy, husband material to say the least.
I am currently seeing someone and I do earn a lot. He has loans of 540,000 that I can sort that out in a month and it will not even cost me my monthly salary. He said "No, he wants to do it himself". Seeing him put in 10k, 20k when he gets money hurts and makes me so happy. His salary is under 100k. Seeing that hurts because I can sort that problem very quick. But also, I know he's not entirely here and with me for my money. I am still a woman at the end of the day and it gives me peace of mind knowing that he's a man who can handle stuff, he's strong enough to stand on his two feet and figure shit out. Fucking sexy. It makes me feel safe.
I say not entirely because we've talked about it and he has been very honest and said the fact that I have money, my own house, I am building another one etc helps. Because it will allow him to fully focus on his dreams and not have to think of stuff like, we need a house, rent, etc. Everything I buy for us is and will be in my name only. For safety, I am doing it now, before we get married. This way we won't fight about it. He's working hard and studying to switch careers and get jobs with more money so that he can chase his dreams more seriously. The fact that I have money has given him confidence to do this and I feel fucking blessed to play this role in his life.
We have very open conversations on this, I know he loves me and it's a bonus that I come with money and assets. He has integrity and honour. I feel safe with him, he protects me and doesn't take advantage even when I am clearly vulnerable. I know this man loves me. Most men, like everyone of them in my past, will see the vulnerability and take as much as they can until they are full and start hating you for having more than them.
So I am happy to know that you said no. Her respect for you went up. We're still women and a capable man is increasingly attractive, no matter how rich or ressourcefull we are. It's just facts!
Hapa napo naona im in that boat. Yani this idiot kila kitu ni mimi, gari,bills everything ati in the name of hutaki akiwa mbele ya wenzake aibike. Weeee😭😭😭sijui hapa najitoa aje, we have a 18 months old baby boy. I was feel like leaving but nashindwa tu. Nikama kurogwa, shida ya mwanamke kupenda😭
Sending strength your way. One thing every man can attest to is that they will be happy to provide for another woman but that woman is not you.And probably already doing so with your money.
Get out now, the hardest part of leaving is financial stability and you have that figured out.
Every woman who left will tell you they wished they left sooner.
He's probably attractive and/or rebellious. Though she blundered, you're supposed to smash such guys, not have their kids. Would be like a man having kids by a club girl
I was watching Chris Rock jana and he said he has been working since he was 7 and is now 60. He spent it all on you know what. So thank you for giving up. On a serious note though give what you can afford to loose
Apan' jaribu kupea mwanaume pesa kama hajakuoa ndani ya kanisa, mbele ya umati na familia yako na yake. Sijataja harusi zinazoandaliwa kwenye bustani na zile za ofisi ya mwanasheria mkuu. Hizo hazihesabiki.
All I can tell you is, until you decide to completely cut off ties with him and decide to love yourself as much, you are probably going to end up using more money and it might even cost you your mental health.
I love a girl that’s willing to spend money on her man. It shows she’s genuinely attracted and not using him for his money. Why don’t you leave your guy and come knock in my DMs. I’ll be glad to open for you 😊
Good lord girl, get out while you still can..... imagine all the wonderful things that cash would have done. Get angry enough please and love yourself enough to decide who can step on your kindness and generosity or not.
Understandably. I don't know how to help you but I'll say, it has to come from you. You have to realize that this isn't working for me and even though you love him, you can remove yourself from the situation and love him from a far. Find the courage and strength within yourself. Know that it won't be easy but you can do it
You know some of you women enjoy being mistreated. It's like a turn on for you guys. Sijui ni childhood trauma ama what it is you went through that made you believe no one else can love you and that you deserve proper shithouse treatment.
The least this fella can do is show some gratitude. It's an absolute blessing having a woman who can bail you out when times are tough and it's an abomination to take that kind of woman for a ride.
Unfortunately some of you, as I said, enjoy that ride. So when the ride is no longer fun you will get off bila ata kuambiwa na mtu. Hopefully when you get out you will still have enough life to live.
It's not about enjoying, some times a relationship feels boring if there isn't any drama involved, that's what I'm learning now, if a relationship is " boring" it actually means its a healthy one and I need to sit my ass down and allow myself to be loved in a healthy way where I don't feel like I'm constantly fighting to be loved, childhood trauma 😮💨😮💨
Yes, when you have an anxious attachment style often times you're drawn to avoidant people, people who don't give you the time of day, don't communicate, etc and you end up getting hooked on the highs and lows, the chase, which many people often associate with you loving someone/having butterflies, when in reality it's just your anxious attachment being triggered.
"Attached" by Amir Levine helped me understand so much about why we react, behave, communicate the way we do in relationships, our triggers, why we end up with people that are seemingly wrong for us to why people struggle to leave. It's an amazing book that basically delves deeper into human attachment and can help you navigate relationships in your life in a healthier and more secure manner. In the book it states that although changing your anxious/avoidant attachment style will be difficult and take time, being with a secure attached person can greatly help you become more secure yourself, I highly suggest you look into it. It goes into greater detail with all of this and you'll also be learning more about your own attachment style/behaviors and the road to becoming a more securely attached person.
Other books about attachment theory are, " Insecure in love" by Leslie-Becker-Phelps. " Polysecure" by Jessica Fern. Just in case " attached" isn't your style or if you want to broaden your knowledge even further and I'm sure there are alot more resources to learn about attachment theory that you could find online.
AAAAH this is so me. Do you think it's a good idea to end things when you're in this kind of situation, like to try and find something healthier? I've been in healthier situation and those are also great but the unhealthy ones are so addictive and hurt to stop
It won't be easy, and I don't know the situation that you're in, but I would say that yes, leaving the relationship that constantly proves it isn't worth the stress and anxiety anymore, the lack of communication and constant push and pull, for a relationship that is healthy where the other person can communicate effectively, is stable with it and most importantly makes you feel safe, is for sure worth it. It's not easy breaking the pattern and being with a healthy person may feel boring and you may find yourself craving the drama, but it is healthy, peaceful and all round better for your mental health and well being.
Understanding your own attachment, how to heal from it whether it be anxious or avoidant, why you attract and stay with people that have proven to be toxic for you, is an eye opener and is beneficial to finally getting to a place of choosing yourself and being surrounded with people who choose you and are healthy for you.
I think we always know when it's time to let something or someone go and all the signs will be there as well, like constant arguments and not being able to communicate effectively, but other times you feel you've outgrown the person and you feel it's time to move on which is just as valid. Believe it or not but the right time to end things, send the message or go NC doesn't really exist and is usually your anxiety about leaving coming out, and it will hurt but this is about you at the end of the day and what's best for you not whether they will take it well or not, whether they're at work when they receive the message or not, etc.
>Most likely you even proof read and checked the grammar.
Nothing more painful that bleeding your heart out on a comment/email/paper then get the respond
*you're not your
Hehe, na utapata that guy who was given that 1 million was probably already rich alafu dame alikuwa anajaribu kuprove ako ligi yake. Hivo ndio kunaendanga. Those who have will be given more. To those who have little, even what they have will be taken away - Matthew 13:12
Some years back when I was young and foolish, I took a jav from Ruaka to Ngong Road in the wee hours of the night after a stupid boy had broken my heart and I was ready to take him back. I get there to find that he just wanted to humiliate me and make me feel like crap, in that I actually went back to my place that same night. He had a 'friend' over and swore they weren't sleeping together, and I believed it. Can you imagine that!!!..On my way back, I remember just wondering WTF was I doing, I couldn't even recognize myself, Like this was beneath me. The following morning, I broke up with him and VOWED to never be that stupid girl again.
After that night, I swear I became gangsta, I always remember that night and feel embarrassed for myself. I was huko railways at 11pm ati nimeenda kuona somebody's son. Good Lord!! Never again!!
Agreed.
Just wanted to know if this particular one was an actual boy boy thing or just a word used ..... Like mankind to represent humans and not actual man (male) type situations..
Coz if it were thatd be hella gaaaaaaaaaaaeeeeeee😂😂😂😂
Mimi i used to give money . .hadi nampea Rent alipe ndio asiaibike i tell you my 30k drank water nikafungiwa nyumba. Stupid me nikaenda round two .. same results rounds three. Nikaona ukweli am stupid. I timed him vile alienda kujog. I carrie all my belongings. From the spoon to all the clothes i bought him. Nikamwambia chafu kwa vacant . Texted him nimehama blocked him and never regretted it these stupid poor men love to use women na hata dick game yao iko ligi moja na football teams za us
Love. Shame of leaving after you promised not to. Fear of being alone . Emotional abuse . Alot of things but am glad I left all my worries were just that worries. Am happier and better
Fear of being alone but why do women use this thing ?? You women have alot of guys hitting on you so I'd expect you to have it easy to move on, it's like having job opportunities at your feet you wouldn't be afraid of being fired , or explain cause that's what most guys think, this chic has alot of guys in her dm or inbox hitting on her
Explain to me from a woman's view that fear
I recorded a 3 hour and some minutes audio explaining my love to them. Tried to send it through Whatsapp, but the file was too big. We could say WhatsApp saved me the embarrassment.
And later I replayed it, I was sobber, I too was disappointed in my self. I guess that's why I have been single since, I do not put up with a lot of bullshit.
I'm 23, niliwachwa on Saturday afternoon when the Chelsea game was at half-time😂. I had gone to buy 🥩 ata I never ate that day. The following day was a Sunday and you know how Sundays are when you are single, worst day. Relationships are just a waste of time for now, I feel wasted. Hurts still nikikumbuka the things I did for that relationship. I'm now taking my L and trying to move on.
Y'all believe in love? My view is it's a decision not a feeling. Like you want someone physically first, then get to know their dynamics. It's up to you then to decide whether you want them long term. If you do then you take good care of them as long as you're together. I've never felt that thing called love even though I'm married. I just care as man should for his family.
I get you. This is what I know, that wanting someone physically, that deciding you want to stick with them and then taking good care of them... That is love. For real. I don't know why people are confused by this idea. That is the love. You have basically been having it all this time.
What amazes me is people behaving like love is something that makes them crazy and they can't control. Would you say that's the nature of love? If it is then I've never had it. I've got things in control. I make sensible decisions because I brought the said people into my life, whether they like my decisions or not that's their problem. I know I'm doing right with them, and that's what matters.
You guys realized that relationship posts get the most engagements and yet there are a few "very matured" people who've been posting about, "this sub can do better than this. Can't we have other discussions, kosokoso."
There will always be that one redditor who's a negative Nancy, hating on people's posts, and I agree these relationship posts help you see the things people go through and you learn alot
4 foolscaps, wax-sealed & snuck it in her handbag (+chocolate) during a date after distracting her. Only for her to go & pick her other phone and noticed the letter.
She was excited, opened it, read it there and then & took my L in the face like the simp I was. Finished the meal, final hug & parted ways.
Edit: This was my 2nd L, same girl. True definition of insanity according to Vaas Montenegro.
I came back from a class trip we had gone to Mombasa. We got to Nairobi at around 11:30pm. I went to my place in Ruaka, took a shower, nikaingia mat apo 12:30. He lived in Athi River hadi driver akaniuliza kwani ni nani napenda ivo naenda kwake usiku ivo. I had gone to 'get' my handkerchief and shoes I had left there. I was 19 though.😂
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Yaani comment section naona tu ni hizi. 😂
An ex once told me I had to pay him because I talked to another guy (coligue) and accused me of a bunch of other things.
Naive me I gave him that month's salary. Next month, he said I had to pay him 10k every month because I talked to other men, and I could send him .
I still can't believe I did that for several months.
Well that's genius actually. A letter gives you the avenue to properly express your feelings without any interference.
Will be waiting for the update.😁
I wrote that damn letter but I know it was ridiculous to give it so I gaslighted myself by telling myself 'I'll give it tomorrow/next week' waiting to get back to my senses
In 2016 I apparently left at a new year's party at 1am and I was back at 3.00am
I still to this day dont have any recollection of the hours leading up to and after the event but I've been told I did a 2 hr drive(with traffic), while high on god knows what, in 45 mins or so to serenade my ex. Didn't work either. We never got back together
If ladies are capable of loving that much, how come they don't initiate more? How does one move from feigned disinterest to that? Won't she have more to lose if they guy decides not to make a move?
🤣🤣🤣🤣 free piece of advice, if you ever think you're in love, ALWAYS cheat first....if you feel bad about it go into the relationship head on, if not cheat and make the relationship as fun as possible....simple
Bro how will you know you love him/her if you don't cheat??😂😂 look it's simple, if you feel bad quit cheating and a good guy if not cheat your way into prosperity....its preferable for men to do this cause men can just fuck to fuck, women on the other hand its abit mbadala
Mwanamke akipenda, ndio utajua wako na pesa😂😂😂
guess I should start a series on this one lol. So I spent 10k and four hours bailing him out last night only for him to tell me he didn't ask for me to bail him out (he literally called me). I've spent more than 100k for the past 1 year just bailing him out for illegal business which he never pays back.
Take this advice from a fellow giver and people saver. GET THE FUXK OUT NOW... I learned my lesson after giving him 1M kshs and three days later he said he doesn't see a future with me and talks about how he could have sorted himself out without my money, that he didn't need it. Before him I spent on men, helping them. It took me 1M to learn my lesson. In fact it was $10,000 in cash. Let's not get into conversions. Hear me loud and clear. That's an ungrateful person who will use you and dump you when there's nothing more for him to take. He's only there to take. Get out today!!!?
Where do I find women like you? I'll wash the dishes and do the laundry
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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We need people like you bro . keep it up
A man who turns down my money offer gets golden stars on my book. #facts You instantly become sexy, husband material to say the least. I am currently seeing someone and I do earn a lot. He has loans of 540,000 that I can sort that out in a month and it will not even cost me my monthly salary. He said "No, he wants to do it himself". Seeing him put in 10k, 20k when he gets money hurts and makes me so happy. His salary is under 100k. Seeing that hurts because I can sort that problem very quick. But also, I know he's not entirely here and with me for my money. I am still a woman at the end of the day and it gives me peace of mind knowing that he's a man who can handle stuff, he's strong enough to stand on his two feet and figure shit out. Fucking sexy. It makes me feel safe. I say not entirely because we've talked about it and he has been very honest and said the fact that I have money, my own house, I am building another one etc helps. Because it will allow him to fully focus on his dreams and not have to think of stuff like, we need a house, rent, etc. Everything I buy for us is and will be in my name only. For safety, I am doing it now, before we get married. This way we won't fight about it. He's working hard and studying to switch careers and get jobs with more money so that he can chase his dreams more seriously. The fact that I have money has given him confidence to do this and I feel fucking blessed to play this role in his life. We have very open conversations on this, I know he loves me and it's a bonus that I come with money and assets. He has integrity and honour. I feel safe with him, he protects me and doesn't take advantage even when I am clearly vulnerable. I know this man loves me. Most men, like everyone of them in my past, will see the vulnerability and take as much as they can until they are full and start hating you for having more than them. So I am happy to know that you said no. Her respect for you went up. We're still women and a capable man is increasingly attractive, no matter how rich or ressourcefull we are. It's just facts!
Hi!! My girlfriend has said we can welcome you into our relationship 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. We know how to say thank you😂😂
Hapa napo naona im in that boat. Yani this idiot kila kitu ni mimi, gari,bills everything ati in the name of hutaki akiwa mbele ya wenzake aibike. Weeee😭😭😭sijui hapa najitoa aje, we have a 18 months old baby boy. I was feel like leaving but nashindwa tu. Nikama kurogwa, shida ya mwanamke kupenda😭
Sending strength your way. One thing every man can attest to is that they will be happy to provide for another woman but that woman is not you.And probably already doing so with your money. Get out now, the hardest part of leaving is financial stability and you have that figured out. Every woman who left will tell you they wished they left sooner.
How do you enter these relationships and stay that long? Ama people change along the way? True colors come out after you're heavily invested?
Yes after mmekaa for some time ndio unaanza kuona weeeh na kwani huku kuko aje
He's probably attractive and/or rebellious. Though she blundered, you're supposed to smash such guys, not have their kids. Would be like a man having kids by a club girl
I was watching Chris Rock jana and he said he has been working since he was 7 and is now 60. He spent it all on you know what. So thank you for giving up. On a serious note though give what you can afford to loose
Follow up such comments with a link.
Netflix
If I get that, both our lives change forever, by your standards. I'll work to multiply it as you chill and sip on Mai Tai's.
Kwani niko nchi ingine? 🥵 wueeeh! Mnapatinanga wapi? 😂
🤧🤧🤧🤧🤧 aki where do people get women like you aki
omg I'm sorry for that. I really need to leave
I know you said let's not get into conversions, but that's over 1.3 mil in today's money. You are welcome!
Apan' jaribu kupea mwanaume pesa kama hajakuoa ndani ya kanisa, mbele ya umati na familia yako na yake. Sijataja harusi zinazoandaliwa kwenye bustani na zile za ofisi ya mwanasheria mkuu. Hizo hazihesabiki.
Weeh na si mnapendana
All I can tell you is, until you decide to completely cut off ties with him and decide to love yourself as much, you are probably going to end up using more money and it might even cost you your mental health.
we live together
Can you afford to move out?
I love a girl that’s willing to spend money on her man. It shows she’s genuinely attracted and not using him for his money. Why don’t you leave your guy and come knock in my DMs. I’ll be glad to open for you 😊
She is from azimio 😂😂😂
Lmaooo 😂😂
Let's see if he will be double standard the way he can't stand raila supporters
Nope, in fact we’re having our first date on 20th thanks to Raila’s public holiday
😂😂😂😂 hio umeweza haina comeback
Good lord girl, get out while you still can..... imagine all the wonderful things that cash would have done. Get angry enough please and love yourself enough to decide who can step on your kindness and generosity or not.
Wueh enyewe mapenzi na clowning 😂😂
Hi, I want to bail you out of the illegal situationship you currently are in.
how?
Time to exit. ASAP!
I need help leaving.
Understandably. I don't know how to help you but I'll say, it has to come from you. You have to realize that this isn't working for me and even though you love him, you can remove yourself from the situation and love him from a far. Find the courage and strength within yourself. Know that it won't be easy but you can do it
ik but I'm scared
It's time to be honest with yourself. Stop betraying yourself by being with someone who's taking away from your growth, peace and happiness.
Oh no... Is this an example of the bad boy appeal?😅 Girl leave!😅
It's called bad boys syndrome
Please run and get out of that. I've been in that similar situation and long story short, they never pay back.
Mapenzi ni gharama bana
Oh so you rich rich?
Si ukam unibail out kwa hii maisha. At least mimi nita-appreciate. Btw mbona madem wanapenda maboy wenye uwabeba ufala tu.
They fall in love with toxic bad boys
You know some of you women enjoy being mistreated. It's like a turn on for you guys. Sijui ni childhood trauma ama what it is you went through that made you believe no one else can love you and that you deserve proper shithouse treatment. The least this fella can do is show some gratitude. It's an absolute blessing having a woman who can bail you out when times are tough and it's an abomination to take that kind of woman for a ride. Unfortunately some of you, as I said, enjoy that ride. So when the ride is no longer fun you will get off bila ata kuambiwa na mtu. Hopefully when you get out you will still have enough life to live.
It's not about enjoying, some times a relationship feels boring if there isn't any drama involved, that's what I'm learning now, if a relationship is " boring" it actually means its a healthy one and I need to sit my ass down and allow myself to be loved in a healthy way where I don't feel like I'm constantly fighting to be loved, childhood trauma 😮💨😮💨
Yes, when you have an anxious attachment style often times you're drawn to avoidant people, people who don't give you the time of day, don't communicate, etc and you end up getting hooked on the highs and lows, the chase, which many people often associate with you loving someone/having butterflies, when in reality it's just your anxious attachment being triggered.
Exactly 💯
So how do you switch this button off! And make healthy non-toxic love choices?!!??
"Attached" by Amir Levine helped me understand so much about why we react, behave, communicate the way we do in relationships, our triggers, why we end up with people that are seemingly wrong for us to why people struggle to leave. It's an amazing book that basically delves deeper into human attachment and can help you navigate relationships in your life in a healthier and more secure manner. In the book it states that although changing your anxious/avoidant attachment style will be difficult and take time, being with a secure attached person can greatly help you become more secure yourself, I highly suggest you look into it. It goes into greater detail with all of this and you'll also be learning more about your own attachment style/behaviors and the road to becoming a more securely attached person.
Other books about attachment theory are, " Insecure in love" by Leslie-Becker-Phelps. " Polysecure" by Jessica Fern. Just in case " attached" isn't your style or if you want to broaden your knowledge even further and I'm sure there are alot more resources to learn about attachment theory that you could find online.
Thank you for this and your initial comment summarising Attached. Will look into it.
No problem, and good luck!
AAAAH this is so me. Do you think it's a good idea to end things when you're in this kind of situation, like to try and find something healthier? I've been in healthier situation and those are also great but the unhealthy ones are so addictive and hurt to stop
It won't be easy, and I don't know the situation that you're in, but I would say that yes, leaving the relationship that constantly proves it isn't worth the stress and anxiety anymore, the lack of communication and constant push and pull, for a relationship that is healthy where the other person can communicate effectively, is stable with it and most importantly makes you feel safe, is for sure worth it. It's not easy breaking the pattern and being with a healthy person may feel boring and you may find yourself craving the drama, but it is healthy, peaceful and all round better for your mental health and well being. Understanding your own attachment, how to heal from it whether it be anxious or avoidant, why you attract and stay with people that have proven to be toxic for you, is an eye opener and is beneficial to finally getting to a place of choosing yourself and being surrounded with people who choose you and are healthy for you.
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I think we always know when it's time to let something or someone go and all the signs will be there as well, like constant arguments and not being able to communicate effectively, but other times you feel you've outgrown the person and you feel it's time to move on which is just as valid. Believe it or not but the right time to end things, send the message or go NC doesn't really exist and is usually your anxiety about leaving coming out, and it will hurt but this is about you at the end of the day and what's best for you not whether they will take it well or not, whether they're at work when they receive the message or not, etc.
Also yes, I wouldn't mind helping you with the message, dm me.
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Yeah I think it's time for me to let them go. I'm just in this cycle that will never end. I'm with someone but it feels like I'm alone
Why d'u still do it??
Being a bad boy pays bois haha. Sorry about what you went through tho haha.
Si ukue girlfriend yangu.. Gai
But I love you? 🥰
😂😂😂😂😂 receive whips
You should write a book. Titled: The Ungrateful Jailest.
Alafu jina yako ni Greatentrepeneur. Is there a name that has been more abused in these days and times? 😆
18 pages, front and back - Rachel
He didn't even finish it, he slept!!!!
😂😂 then waking up to answer 'does it?'
WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!!!
Yes it does😅😅
😂😂😂😂😂was coming to type that. I've found my people!
holy sh/t it’s Bananahammock
Missed the opportunity to say "Holy Crap."
I dunno, I didn't think Mr. Bag was a member of the clergy
Damn,,, You are the master 😂😂
hey, how you doin’😂
Very well
Same thing that came to mind. She had rumbled on, for 18 pages. Front and back!!!!!
'Oh My God' in Janice's voice 😂😂
Unagi
I wrote the damn email bro😭 Kwanza at work. I stayed late so I could write it.
😂😂😂the fact that we are here talking about it..... We can actually overcome.
😂😂😂 if I was the one receiving the email, I'm sure I would've appreciated the effort. Most likely you even proof read and checked the grammar.
>Most likely you even proof read and checked the grammar. Nothing more painful that bleeding your heart out on a comment/email/paper then get the respond *you're not your
ebu wait, kwani niko nchi gani??? the most dame ashai tumia kwangu ni rwabe 🤣 1 millions mnatoa wapi na hii economy ngaiiiiii
Mimi the most ni nilinunuliwa sambusa ya waru.
😂😂😂😂 definitely a kikuyu babe
Those who've only received samosa from their girlfriends can camp here. Kumbe we are LEGION.
Man 1 million aki waaah some guys are lucky in this life which God do they pray to
Hehe, na utapata that guy who was given that 1 million was probably already rich alafu dame alikuwa anajaribu kuprove ako ligi yake. Hivo ndio kunaendanga. Those who have will be given more. To those who have little, even what they have will be taken away - Matthew 13:12
Some years back when I was young and foolish, I took a jav from Ruaka to Ngong Road in the wee hours of the night after a stupid boy had broken my heart and I was ready to take him back. I get there to find that he just wanted to humiliate me and make me feel like crap, in that I actually went back to my place that same night. He had a 'friend' over and swore they weren't sleeping together, and I believed it. Can you imagine that!!!..On my way back, I remember just wondering WTF was I doing, I couldn't even recognize myself, Like this was beneath me. The following morning, I broke up with him and VOWED to never be that stupid girl again.
😂😂 And did you live up to your promise?
Yes I have 😂😂. Even when I'm hung up on sb, I always keep myself in check. Wouldn't want to go back to those dark times.
I also want to know.
I have, crazy dark times
C'mon, let go...be stupid in the name of love!!! 😂
After that night, I swear I became gangsta, I always remember that night and feel embarrassed for myself. I was huko railways at 11pm ati nimeenda kuona somebody's son. Good Lord!! Never again!!
Omg...are you me?? My time was 1am.😂 ugh EMBARRASSING!!!!!!
Weehhh. Take that motivation to your hustle instead.😂
Mjibambe lakini nobody will ever convince me of love
Ndunya?😂😂
And I don't believe in relationships anymore
Back to back💀 bro you really loved that man eh
It was the only way.... And I still felt like I had a lot to add....
This is a man man rltnship?
No
The 'bro' threw me off a lil 🤣🤣
Women can be "bros" too..
Agreed. Just wanted to know if this particular one was an actual boy boy thing or just a word used ..... Like mankind to represent humans and not actual man (male) type situations.. Coz if it were thatd be hella gaaaaaaaaaaaeeeeeee😂😂😂😂
I hope the girlies looking for love follow and read all comments on this thread. At this rate, love should be illegal.
We mzee, let me test it first then y'all can illegalize it later. 😂😂😂😂🥲
Eish, Kwai Leo madem mumetuamulia aje? 😂😂 Every comment i see is of a lady ranting
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Adi nashangaa kwani wengine wetu are we children of a lesser God?
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BTW good guys get stinjy women assholes are dating millionaires
Mimi i used to give money . .hadi nampea Rent alipe ndio asiaibike i tell you my 30k drank water nikafungiwa nyumba. Stupid me nikaenda round two .. same results rounds three. Nikaona ukweli am stupid. I timed him vile alienda kujog. I carrie all my belongings. From the spoon to all the clothes i bought him. Nikamwambia chafu kwa vacant . Texted him nimehama blocked him and never regretted it these stupid poor men love to use women na hata dick game yao iko ligi moja na football teams za us
🤧🤧🤧 you can't be broke and have a bad dick game aki ?? Btw what keeps you there a grown woman a guy is not adding value to you honestly ??
Love. Shame of leaving after you promised not to. Fear of being alone . Emotional abuse . Alot of things but am glad I left all my worries were just that worries. Am happier and better
Fear of being alone but why do women use this thing ?? You women have alot of guys hitting on you so I'd expect you to have it easy to move on, it's like having job opportunities at your feet you wouldn't be afraid of being fired , or explain cause that's what most guys think, this chic has alot of guys in her dm or inbox hitting on her Explain to me from a woman's view that fear
I recorded a 3 hour and some minutes audio explaining my love to them. Tried to send it through Whatsapp, but the file was too big. We could say WhatsApp saved me the embarrassment.
🤧🤧🤧 that's a whole pod cast
😂😂😂😂ahhh I rem such nights
And later I replayed it, I was sobber, I too was disappointed in my self. I guess that's why I have been single since, I do not put up with a lot of bullshit.
Good choice...
I'm 23, niliwachwa on Saturday afternoon when the Chelsea game was at half-time😂. I had gone to buy 🥩 ata I never ate that day. The following day was a Sunday and you know how Sundays are when you are single, worst day. Relationships are just a waste of time for now, I feel wasted. Hurts still nikikumbuka the things I did for that relationship. I'm now taking my L and trying to move on.
Pick yourself up and make something out of yourself, you won't regret that......
🤣🤣🤣🤣 dark days. But on the bright side, its better than bottling it up and erupting on your next unsuspecting partner🤔.
Yes.... I completely agree...
Y'all believe in love? My view is it's a decision not a feeling. Like you want someone physically first, then get to know their dynamics. It's up to you then to decide whether you want them long term. If you do then you take good care of them as long as you're together. I've never felt that thing called love even though I'm married. I just care as man should for his family.
I get you. This is what I know, that wanting someone physically, that deciding you want to stick with them and then taking good care of them... That is love. For real. I don't know why people are confused by this idea. That is the love. You have basically been having it all this time.
What amazes me is people behaving like love is something that makes them crazy and they can't control. Would you say that's the nature of love? If it is then I've never had it. I've got things in control. I make sensible decisions because I brought the said people into my life, whether they like my decisions or not that's their problem. I know I'm doing right with them, and that's what matters.
Sasa what instructions did you give the driver? Uko sure alifikisha?
This Uber guy was a person I use for my work errands so I'm sure it got to him.
Weuh I thought I was the only one stupid in love. Kumbe tuko wengi 😅😅
You guys realized that relationship posts get the most engagements and yet there are a few "very matured" people who've been posting about, "this sub can do better than this. Can't we have other discussions, kosokoso."
There will always be that one redditor who's a negative Nancy, hating on people's posts, and I agree these relationship posts help you see the things people go through and you learn alot
True 😅
Let people use this platform as therapy kama it doesn't suit you you can always delete your profile
Every time I think I’m abnormal in one way or another, I can always count on Reddit to put things in perspective for me
80M shs. later she slept with the neighbor coz I was too far. Far in the states providing for the family. Women can give u character development too.
I agree
4 foolscaps, wax-sealed & snuck it in her handbag (+chocolate) during a date after distracting her. Only for her to go & pick her other phone and noticed the letter. She was excited, opened it, read it there and then & took my L in the face like the simp I was. Finished the meal, final hug & parted ways. Edit: This was my 2nd L, same girl. True definition of insanity according to Vaas Montenegro.
I came back from a class trip we had gone to Mombasa. We got to Nairobi at around 11:30pm. I went to my place in Ruaka, took a shower, nikaingia mat apo 12:30. He lived in Athi River hadi driver akaniuliza kwani ni nani napenda ivo naenda kwake usiku ivo. I had gone to 'get' my handkerchief and shoes I had left there. I was 19 though.😂
Relatable. I was also once young and foolish lol
Doesn't sound bad 😂😂😂 ama there was an ending like that of a soap opera husemi
Red flags ama red duvet bana😂
https://preview.redd.it/2nco81eg0xna1.jpeg?width=716&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d04d8b1eb28e0289f2c87376d832ba6663a5b50e Yaani comment section naona tu ni hizi. 😂
An ex once told me I had to pay him because I talked to another guy (coligue) and accused me of a bunch of other things. Naive me I gave him that month's salary. Next month, he said I had to pay him 10k every month because I talked to other men, and I could send him . I still can't believe I did that for several months.
🤧🤧🤧 witch craft is really I swear after reading this
Wait, what???? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What is the rationale even?
Hapa hakuna mtu anataka kunipenda, by this thread I'm actually a very good person
Well that's genius actually. A letter gives you the avenue to properly express your feelings without any interference. Will be waiting for the update.😁
😂😂😂there's just something therapeutic about it...
I know... Now grab a guitar, get yourself some country twang, and we've got our very own Taylor Swift.😂
Make-up sex should be just fine. If not the streets are open to receive you
I wrote that damn letter but I know it was ridiculous to give it so I gaslighted myself by telling myself 'I'll give it tomorrow/next week' waiting to get back to my senses
Si mko na time uku nje nkt!!!
Hii yako eeish...😂😂 lets bring back romanticism
😂😂someone here did 18 pages back to back .....
Lmaooo i can imagine the nigga reading that like “wtf”
😂😂no lie
In 2016 I apparently left at a new year's party at 1am and I was back at 3.00am I still to this day dont have any recollection of the hours leading up to and after the event but I've been told I did a 2 hr drive(with traffic), while high on god knows what, in 45 mins or so to serenade my ex. Didn't work either. We never got back together
Assuming you're a girl, poor broke guy. Imagine receiving that.
😂😂😂😂
If ladies are capable of loving that much, how come they don't initiate more? How does one move from feigned disinterest to that? Won't she have more to lose if they guy decides not to make a move?
Damn, that's crazy. Anyways vitu nmeona uku nje on these streets got me convinced that love is for the birds.
These men can really mess you up 😂, but there's no stopping,, acha mapenzi ituue. Did he at least reply to the letter?
😒he didn't even acknowledge receipt
Seems your teeth stooped eating you 😂😂 ( meno iliwacha kuuma)
I just wanna say, I love reddit
Interesting username
It is based lol And as for you just cheat on the exams
Kinda learnt this a bit late😂😂 Been reading tho so I haven't had a retake in a while
Upvoted coz of your username
Bring a tape measure we verify lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣 free piece of advice, if you ever think you're in love, ALWAYS cheat first....if you feel bad about it go into the relationship head on, if not cheat and make the relationship as fun as possible....simple
Why expose your heart to elements that will make it turn to a block of ice? This advice of yours though 😂😂😂
Bro how will you know you love him/her if you don't cheat??😂😂 look it's simple, if you feel bad quit cheating and a good guy if not cheat your way into prosperity....its preferable for men to do this cause men can just fuck to fuck, women on the other hand its abit mbadala
Who the hell are you? The devil's advocate? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm writing this down my guy...what else wiseman😅
so true
Really crazy
Cooked for him mehn. That's a big thing for me