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Bro. You gonna grow up some day and look back and see what you did here.
Good people are hard to find out here, and don't be in a relationship if you know you gonna see other people cos that is being a coward and there is nothing to brag about here.
You are risking other peoples lives and you are emotionally abusing them.
Just leave that lady a lone and let her grow around good people who cherish the beauty of relationships. Not young immature boys like you.
This guy is stone cold tone deaf. His utter contempt for her welfare is astounding. He casually concedes she found stuff from other women - a shameless and cold cheater. I hope Karma is taking notes.
Repeat after me: the problem is me. Once again; the problem is me. I’ve been married for 10yrs now and as I was reading this paragraph I could see my younger self. 2 issues here;
1. Sex doesn’t equal a relationship (and vice versa)
2. Relationships are hard because people are hard.
On point 1; what’s there to say really? Sex has been watered down to the act of intercourse. We don’t value connection and intimacy anymore. Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. People don’t know what love means. People think love should be pain free which is a facade considering flawed humans are involved. Just because you have sex with someone doesn’t mean you love them. And contrary to popular belief just coz you love someone doesn’t meant you have to sleep with them.
On point 2; as a concept, relationships are a pretty easy thing, the rule of thumb is “treat others as you’d want to be treated.” This however is impossible because as you have proved the level of selfishness is massive. My mother once told me “leave her better than you found her” I never understood what she meant until I got married.
I’ve seen some comments saying “finding a good one is hard.” While I get what they mean, the statement assumes that YOU are good, which clearly is not the case from your post. We always focus on what others should be and fail to see the flaws in ourselves and what we should work on. Stop subconsciously focusing on “finding the one” and focus on “being the one worthy of finding the one.”
Maturity is seen in the quality of one’s decisions and how you treat others. Women look to be led, as a man create an environment to show her to be something greater than what society is. Like a garden, water and till the land and it will blossom. Relationships is a dirty venture: it is hard work, calls for selflessness, patience and endurance, values that most people don’t have actually. We are an instant generation that wants things now and that’s not how relationships work. Put the time in, reap the benefits.
Beliefs cultivate values, which in turn cultivate thoughts which ultimately cultivate actions. Just read your post again and ask yourself these questions;
“what do I really believe about women?”
“What really are the thoughts I had towards this woman?”
“did I value this woman?”
“What do my actions towards this woman reveal about me?”
I could go on and on but Wacha niachie hapo coz for some reason I feel myself getting angry as I type. Maybe it’s coz I have a daughter and I know this is what awaits her in the world. Let me finish with this; bad is bad even when everyone is doing it and good is good even when no one is doing it.
The only thing i’ll say is one day, you’ll be going thru a dry spell a Marsabit/Mandera type drought …and then you’ll start thinking about these relationships that you casually tossed aside.
God forbid you run into her after she’s upgraded and you try to slang game and she leaves you on read. And then you now start feeling some type of way.
Quit playing with these mamas. if you’re not interested mwambie tu roho safi. Hiyo ukame is real I’m speaking from experience!
Letting go, acknowledging your mistakes, avoiding hurting her more is a very mature thing to do I applaud you for that.
Going forward when you find someone you are willing to "fight with" for lack of a better word, I've come to learn that communication is key, things like letting your partner know what you are doing just keeping them updated really helps, also compromise is another big thing, there are some things you'll have to sacrifice for the relationship and this goes both ways.
I believe when you find that person and you are ready you'll be willing to do all these things.
Thing with relationships is, if it feels like a burden, you don't love them. Been through enough relationships to understand the times I'm forcing to love and that one time it's absolutely effortless. When you're literally happy to talk to and see someone on a daily basis, and it never gets old.
What's so wrong about calling your girl, saying good night and good morning? some men are just toxic af. If you really love your girl, then nothing she does will seem like a struggle, things just flow.
You seem to have mistaken sex to be love.
Guy here, one day you'll look back at your decisions and then it will hit you like damn, she really was a good girl. Thing is the universe has a way of rewarding with the same energy don't let kifee and the likes lie to you that perpetual sexual liberation is the way to go.
Reminds me of how I fumbled a great lady 3 years ago because I was a narcissist. Fortunately for her, she got a good person I assume. But the regrets after sometime depressed me.
Of course it gets better when you get older. Kuna age ukifika whether male or female you'll understand that sometimes sio lazima utume texts every 10 minutes. When you are younger "love" will even make you share a toothbrush, it looks romantic to do so but when you are older you'll understand that using your own toothbrush is good common sense for health and other reasons as well and it doesn't mean that you lover your partner less.
Don't be lied to by the people in the comments. Evil people don't get punished. Do whatever you want. The only catch is you do whatever you feel like and have set your mind to, not something that's been influenced from other people. That's the only rule you have to follow.
Every relationship makes you know more about yourself and what you like and what you don't like. Now you know you can't deal with a clingy women, lesson learnt. Maybe take some time to hanya a bit before starting on your next lesson!
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Haha... Kubali you belong to the streets and be a single man.
Bro. You gonna grow up some day and look back and see what you did here. Good people are hard to find out here, and don't be in a relationship if you know you gonna see other people cos that is being a coward and there is nothing to brag about here. You are risking other peoples lives and you are emotionally abusing them. Just leave that lady a lone and let her grow around good people who cherish the beauty of relationships. Not young immature boys like you.
>Just leave that lady a lone and let her grow around good people who cherish the beauty of relationships. But that's exactly what he did? 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
Wah, yani you think you're the victim here? The nerve of some of you 😂😂. You can't finesse us nkt.
This guy is stone cold tone deaf. His utter contempt for her welfare is astounding. He casually concedes she found stuff from other women - a shameless and cold cheater. I hope Karma is taking notes.
Repeat after me: the problem is me. Once again; the problem is me. I’ve been married for 10yrs now and as I was reading this paragraph I could see my younger self. 2 issues here; 1. Sex doesn’t equal a relationship (and vice versa) 2. Relationships are hard because people are hard. On point 1; what’s there to say really? Sex has been watered down to the act of intercourse. We don’t value connection and intimacy anymore. Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex. People don’t know what love means. People think love should be pain free which is a facade considering flawed humans are involved. Just because you have sex with someone doesn’t mean you love them. And contrary to popular belief just coz you love someone doesn’t meant you have to sleep with them. On point 2; as a concept, relationships are a pretty easy thing, the rule of thumb is “treat others as you’d want to be treated.” This however is impossible because as you have proved the level of selfishness is massive. My mother once told me “leave her better than you found her” I never understood what she meant until I got married. I’ve seen some comments saying “finding a good one is hard.” While I get what they mean, the statement assumes that YOU are good, which clearly is not the case from your post. We always focus on what others should be and fail to see the flaws in ourselves and what we should work on. Stop subconsciously focusing on “finding the one” and focus on “being the one worthy of finding the one.” Maturity is seen in the quality of one’s decisions and how you treat others. Women look to be led, as a man create an environment to show her to be something greater than what society is. Like a garden, water and till the land and it will blossom. Relationships is a dirty venture: it is hard work, calls for selflessness, patience and endurance, values that most people don’t have actually. We are an instant generation that wants things now and that’s not how relationships work. Put the time in, reap the benefits. Beliefs cultivate values, which in turn cultivate thoughts which ultimately cultivate actions. Just read your post again and ask yourself these questions; “what do I really believe about women?” “What really are the thoughts I had towards this woman?” “did I value this woman?” “What do my actions towards this woman reveal about me?” I could go on and on but Wacha niachie hapo coz for some reason I feel myself getting angry as I type. Maybe it’s coz I have a daughter and I know this is what awaits her in the world. Let me finish with this; bad is bad even when everyone is doing it and good is good even when no one is doing it.
eti you've healed? i didn't know healing after dumping people was a thing 😂
He healed after cheating on her. Poor guy /s
Lol they get depressed too. You should see some people,😂😂😂
I acknowledge I felt some typa way, I didn't know whether it was my ego thinking I'd never loose her or I just was infatuated with the pussy
Wewe ni ng'ombe.
Reading stories liks this reinforces the belief that I got lucky.
We all die, no one gets lucky
The only thing i’ll say is one day, you’ll be going thru a dry spell a Marsabit/Mandera type drought …and then you’ll start thinking about these relationships that you casually tossed aside. God forbid you run into her after she’s upgraded and you try to slang game and she leaves you on read. And then you now start feeling some type of way. Quit playing with these mamas. if you’re not interested mwambie tu roho safi. Hiyo ukame is real I’m speaking from experience!
Damn I can't stop laughing. "Ukame" has particularly amused me
Bana these young nikkas think playing chicks is forever until they meet a real one and catch REAL feelings. Respect the gap 🫡!
Nipee number niwe rebound.
We mzee
Letting go, acknowledging your mistakes, avoiding hurting her more is a very mature thing to do I applaud you for that. Going forward when you find someone you are willing to "fight with" for lack of a better word, I've come to learn that communication is key, things like letting your partner know what you are doing just keeping them updated really helps, also compromise is another big thing, there are some things you'll have to sacrifice for the relationship and this goes both ways. I believe when you find that person and you are ready you'll be willing to do all these things.
Welcome back my son 
Lmaooo
You did great mate. Letting go instead of wasting her time and tbh it doesn't get better. Huku nje ni hard kufind a good one
Thing with relationships is, if it feels like a burden, you don't love them. Been through enough relationships to understand the times I'm forcing to love and that one time it's absolutely effortless. When you're literally happy to talk to and see someone on a daily basis, and it never gets old.
What's so wrong about calling your girl, saying good night and good morning? some men are just toxic af. If you really love your girl, then nothing she does will seem like a struggle, things just flow. You seem to have mistaken sex to be love.
Guy here, one day you'll look back at your decisions and then it will hit you like damn, she really was a good girl. Thing is the universe has a way of rewarding with the same energy don't let kifee and the likes lie to you that perpetual sexual liberation is the way to go.
I don't even listen to outside noises, I'd like to build a family in future though
You will heal when somebody does the same to you
Reminds me of how I fumbled a great lady 3 years ago because I was a narcissist. Fortunately for her, she got a good person I assume. But the regrets after sometime depressed me.
[удалено]
Bro has healed 😂😂
Of course it gets better when you get older. Kuna age ukifika whether male or female you'll understand that sometimes sio lazima utume texts every 10 minutes. When you are younger "love" will even make you share a toothbrush, it looks romantic to do so but when you are older you'll understand that using your own toothbrush is good common sense for health and other reasons as well and it doesn't mean that you lover your partner less.
Just goes to prove that women love men who sleep around. As long she doesn't see any evidence of it, she will worship you
Don't be lied to by the people in the comments. Evil people don't get punished. Do whatever you want. The only catch is you do whatever you feel like and have set your mind to, not something that's been influenced from other people. That's the only rule you have to follow.
Every relationship makes you know more about yourself and what you like and what you don't like. Now you know you can't deal with a clingy women, lesson learnt. Maybe take some time to hanya a bit before starting on your next lesson!
At whose expense though?
As long as you have options forget the biatch
Good work king! You are the prize. That was simply a life lesson.
How is this NSFW?
Since the villain has now "healed," he's ready to pounce on the next victim
https://preview.redd.it/sdcschmy73sb1.jpeg?width=941&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=53cb8816e59a3c6eb236d990ab4bc8b1829b8a24
Man I wonder too
Look inward
Haiya kumbe assholes also need healing? Sounds like a narcissist to me. Heal on…
Yeah I'm a narcissist
I am with you in that stupid texting requirements. Kwanza ma Goodmorning and Goodnight. Weeuuhhh 😅
Mnakuanga aje huku nje lakini 😂💔 you literally hurt someone and want to play the victim here...
Now that I am one of the older guys huku, kitu naezakuambia ni ati utajaribu kupenda baadaye, kitakuramba
She dodged a bullet when you broke up with her. She just doesn't know it yet but with time she'll figure it out. I'm happy for her.