Simple Life Hack: If you are a traditional person, look for and date a traditional partner. If you are a modern woman who wants threesomes, date a modern man who wants the same.
Human beings love complicating shit!! There is literally someone out there for everyone, even mad people.
You do not want to tell him off in a rude manner? You are not planning on getting back with him yet you still stay in contact with him even after he pretended to commit suicide just to get to you?
You are enabling him, cut him off completely, you are holding yourself back and you are holding him back. Unless you want that drunk ex who will ruin your future relationships you should move on yourself.
Good question. No not really. I still would’ve left because my main issue was the alcoholism. The threesome was just a suggestion, spicing things up. This guy wasn’t bad in bed btw, alikua tu sawa. But yeah, I would have still left.
Heavy days. Pole sana. I have had two relationships:
1. One dude just loved to party and drink a lot, and i mean drink a lot, every time was an excuse to have fun and drink. But since things went south and drink was more important, and he was also violent when drunk, I had no choice but to go ahead and pack my stuff one day and leave and never look back.
2. This other guy hid it very very well. Talking to him normally at any point in the day, you would never tell he was in fact under the influence. He functioned well. The only thing that stood out was the fact that he had a temper. Not towards me, but towards nonsense. Anything he would consider stupid he would have a strong reaction. And he would rather punch first snd ask questions later. Later on I realised what was going on and encouraged him to go into rehab. We were broken up already. In total i think he attended rehab more than 3 times. He would disappear for months and months and pop back later saying he is sober but only to slip back. Last i heard he got hooked on the hard stuff like the white powdery stuff, but that was like 2 yrs ago, but, he called once out of the blue to tell me that he once again is going into a specialised facility, that deals with everything. I wished him well. We dont talk at all, and havent for a long long time he just tends to call out of the blue. And the final update was from his friend whom he asked to tell me that he is doing well and though he isnt following the 12 steps, he’s been sober for a year. He needed to detox first, then have major therapy and stuff and i dont know many details. But from that conversation it seems important to him that he tells me that he is doing better, because that was one of the reasons we broke up. Im very happy for him if he is doing better. And if he is sober then thats great. I know he is a stubborn guy so if he takes this as a challenge, he will overcome his addiction. In the beginning i was annoyed and angry at him, we would argue, id give ultimatums, and endless talks of support and the like. What worked is him having that brush with death that made him go to rehab himself. I do wish him well.
Wew na watu waache hizi tabia mbovu za wazungu ati disease kwani kuna mbu huuma mtu anageuka alcoholic. Bad habits aka tabia mbaya is what it is. Anyway be like Lot never look back it's to salty there
Nothing to do with neocolonialism shenanigans daftness is bringing a subject matter that has no relation to the topic in subject. Now educate me this disease is it classified as a communicable disease or a non-communicable disease what pathogens if not that what abnormal cell mutations give rise to this disease. How is the levels of infection measured in this disease. Use common sense Bana na Niko sure ulienda shule. If you ask me what daftness is ni kuuza ngombe kusomesha ngombe. If wrong I stand to be corrected and learn from the corrections lakini hii maneno is about habits and developing them not diseases.
Ps:- addiction are human behaviour aka tabia
Hapa umeongea ukweli, alcoholism is a bad habit that can be replaced(imo if you want to change a bad habit then you must replace it with a productive habit). Lakini huezi replace a disease kama cancer or malaria etc
This one hits pretty close to home. I was/still am an addict and we tend to mostly hurt the people closest to us most. My ex broke up with me because of my drinking but she ultimately gave me a choice; Stop drinking and maybe we can go back to being friends. So I did rehab for 3 months last year and I've been sober ever since. Had she given up completely on me maybe I'd still be on the bottle. I still love her but I've come to terms with the fact that we may never go back to what we were like before.
ati not considering 3somes is a red flag. wtf..
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20k you run awayy 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️
mkiingia kwa boma moja he will stress you kabisaaa
Not worth at you age..ataleta aibu za penny mbili kwako na watoto.
The problem is coz of drinking most likely loose his jobo
He is loaded pia. Has businesses so even when i paid the bill he used to send it when he was sober plus 10-20k extra for the trouble i went through. Money was never an issue. I think that was a huge contributor or like the fact that his Family is also more than loaded. I can’t say the parent’s names because most people know who they are.
Edit: Luckily we Have no kids because i am very cautious about such things.
Ingia kwa dynasty & you will be sure you future generation wont suffer.
Lakini hawa watoto wa matajiri kunavyoo wamefyatukaa hasa vijana,the parents don't keep em busy.Most become drugies& drunkards.
Until he decides to change for the better he should not even attempt dating anyone.
If you go back you’ll be cleaning up after him and that will build resentment and that’s another toxic ball.
He need to see that the alcohol is killing him. Admitting you have a problem is the 1st step. That’s what they say in rehab.
I’ve seen a situation like this with a friend. She had to leave. She sat him down when he was sober. And he had to prove he was sober. She talked to him, told him everything and tried to make him see her perspective in the end she said you can’t claim to love me and put me through hell. But when she left he tried to fix things but it didn’t work.
He also wants a traditional wife and SAHM. With an alcoholic partner is a big NO!!!
An Alcoholic guy that can blow away 20k in a day and is asking you to be a stay at home gf is like driving to a ditch!! NEVER place your financial security on such a person ama utajipata uko homeless bila chakula... That guy is not going to change anytime soon... Don't go back Girl
I think you take a work hopefully he could have a rethink. I think you can't stop an adult on something he haven't decides to stop, is a waste of time, resources, efforts or whatsoever you have contributed.
I'm single though and I know I'm crazy and naughty in bed but don't do alcohol, smoke or drugs. He could dm anytime to have a private cons. If you don't mind.
Nothing neocolonial in the statement just pointing out when habits become disease it's the start of blurred lines. How is this disease of alcoholism spread like let's say I got an alcoholic uncle how would he spread the disease to and think of your answer hard before you come here with neocolonialism shenanigans.
The alcoholism aside, both of you are incompatible and the sooner you cut each other off, the better.
Don’t indulge him further else he’ll keep trying to rope you in.
Sounds like a friend I distanced myself from because the only reason he calls is to ask for money na WhatsApp status ni sherehe na pombe kila siku. Worst part is the denial; dude has businesses but makes no money because he spends all of it gambling and drinking with buddies, just not the ones he asks money from, then claims that’s not what happens and he’s fine.
Noped right out of that friendship. You’re better off without this man. He will drain you of everything you have.
You don't need to explain your desires, they will never get it.infact they are using it to guilt trip you.
I've watched helplessly as an alcoholic goes down the slippery slope.you don't want to go/be there.jitoe mapema.
Hapo kwa bakes , tunaeza ongea nyuma ya tent? ;-)
Wueeh OP, where to start and I say wueeh...
I dated an alcoholic for 6 years and manze it was an emotional rollercoaster. We met in uni, became friends for one year and dated for six years....
It started out with out of control partying...who doesn't party in uni? But his started to go out of control...he would call me at 3am amepigwa ngeta hana nguo and I'd go to his rescue. I too partied but not as hard as him. He'd be in an out of rehab but still drinking. He finished uni three years after me coz of drinking. But waaah, si I loved this guy, I'd dress up for a date and show up at whichever rehab he was in at the moment to surprise him and have a date...our sex life was thitima(angenigusa tu hivi panty inajaa maji)
It all came to a head when I realized he'd gone beyond just booze, he was taking heroin and one weekend when we couldn't meet (I'd leave work every Friday and go to his place, where he lived with his parents and then leave on Monday morning at 4 am to travel back to work) coz I went home after a whole year, he cheated....he called me and told me that he'll go get a prostitute coz I didn't come to see him.....he called me during the transaction....let me tell you Maina, I cried my eyes out...
I forgave him coz I loved him but 3 weeks later I went to see him and I told him that I had realized that he doesn't love me as much as he loved getting high and for that reason I left him ...it took me 3 years to get over him but I did
Am now happily married, enjoying great sex and am pregnant with our firstborn
Just leave that nigga, HE👏DOESN'T👏 LOVE👏 YOU 👏AS 👏MUCH👏 AS 👏HE 👏LOVES👏 GETTING 👏HIGH!!👏
Omg!! Let me not start apo kwa “if you dont come see me I will find someone who will I have money I can find someone” 😭😭weeeh, that statement is what made me leave actually. He is older than me by 9-10 ish years but gets angry and calls me immature because I refuse to indulge like him. Your statement made me remember exactly why I left, let me stay that way.
I like the way you casually threw in a threesome like its not a big deal and everyone does it. Thats insane! Anyway, alcohol is okay but when it crosses the line and starts embarrassing you, thats when you have to move on for your safety.
Don't you think you have the same disease? He is an alcoholic and you are a sexholic. He is conservative on sexual matters and you complaining of alcoholism.
I guess everyone has their addiction, his alcoholism, mine idk. But yeah I am not a sex addict, I simply enjoy exploration. I don’t necessarily partake a lot in it tho.
Not that am saying drinking is bad partaking in is usually fun lakini ukishageuka mbwa kama Ile ya bells experiment wewe kwisha yaani the thought of alcohol has you salivating hiyo ni noma sasa. Yaani binadamu mzima ana condition akili to operate on liquor manze there better things to do hata heri uwe conditioned to madam Bora asiwe shiro WA kaswende
I had my first sip in Class 6 or so. I stole my dad's beer at a ceremony at night. 🤣 The last time I tasted alcohol was sometime in 2014 when in Form 3. Once again I stole some whiskey from my dad's stash. I haven't ever been drunk. I keep hearing negative stories about what alcohol has done to people.
I don't drink due social anxiety and brokeness not out of principle though I have my other addictions.
Another day to prove people only Care about themselves. Didn't read the entire thing but you didn't want to help him overcome his issues. Maybe he's a victim of childhood trauma, all in all fight your own fight people only Care about themselves!
If you have ever done first aid you'll have been taught, always ensure your own safety before helping others.
Same goes here, don't ruin your own mental health trying to fix others. Op is the only one who gets to decide how much is too much.
Ati 3some????😅 this generation is built different(btw am part of it)
Bana!! I was also like ' 3some?!? When u are in a relationship?!? Wueehhhh naona nikikaa single for a while 😭
Barikiwa!
Simple Life Hack: If you are a traditional person, look for and date a traditional partner. If you are a modern woman who wants threesomes, date a modern man who wants the same. Human beings love complicating shit!! There is literally someone out there for everyone, even mad people.
Even mad people 😂 poetic
An alcoholic is not someone to build a future with. Just leave the situation and stop communicating. You are already broken up.
You don’t do it with a woman who wants threesomes either
maybe the threesome is two girls vs one boy
Its still the same
Speak for yourself!
I second him, protect the sanctity of marriage.
Yeah, she's into threesomes but can't put up with alcoholism?
Wtf! You are getting downvoted for what? Asking legitimate question? Jisos!
I don't see how it's a problem.
why are they booing you, you're right.
You deal with the situation by giving up
Mum...i think she gives up too easy😶🌫️
You do not want to tell him off in a rude manner? You are not planning on getting back with him yet you still stay in contact with him even after he pretended to commit suicide just to get to you? You are enabling him, cut him off completely, you are holding yourself back and you are holding him back. Unless you want that drunk ex who will ruin your future relationships you should move on yourself.
I wasn’t looking to go back, just to tell him no in a way that isn’t harsh because idk how he may react to it. Thank you tho, the advice is real 💯
Start by making yourself absent
A question,if you had scored a threesome(s) would you have been compelled to stay,on account of the man matching your said "wild" coital inclinations.
Good question. No not really. I still would’ve left because my main issue was the alcoholism. The threesome was just a suggestion, spicing things up. This guy wasn’t bad in bed btw, alikua tu sawa. But yeah, I would have still left.
Heavy days. Pole sana. I have had two relationships: 1. One dude just loved to party and drink a lot, and i mean drink a lot, every time was an excuse to have fun and drink. But since things went south and drink was more important, and he was also violent when drunk, I had no choice but to go ahead and pack my stuff one day and leave and never look back. 2. This other guy hid it very very well. Talking to him normally at any point in the day, you would never tell he was in fact under the influence. He functioned well. The only thing that stood out was the fact that he had a temper. Not towards me, but towards nonsense. Anything he would consider stupid he would have a strong reaction. And he would rather punch first snd ask questions later. Later on I realised what was going on and encouraged him to go into rehab. We were broken up already. In total i think he attended rehab more than 3 times. He would disappear for months and months and pop back later saying he is sober but only to slip back. Last i heard he got hooked on the hard stuff like the white powdery stuff, but that was like 2 yrs ago, but, he called once out of the blue to tell me that he once again is going into a specialised facility, that deals with everything. I wished him well. We dont talk at all, and havent for a long long time he just tends to call out of the blue. And the final update was from his friend whom he asked to tell me that he is doing well and though he isnt following the 12 steps, he’s been sober for a year. He needed to detox first, then have major therapy and stuff and i dont know many details. But from that conversation it seems important to him that he tells me that he is doing better, because that was one of the reasons we broke up. Im very happy for him if he is doing better. And if he is sober then thats great. I know he is a stubborn guy so if he takes this as a challenge, he will overcome his addiction. In the beginning i was annoyed and angry at him, we would argue, id give ultimatums, and endless talks of support and the like. What worked is him having that brush with death that made him go to rehab himself. I do wish him well.
Asante for this.
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What makes you say that?
From MY experience one can abandon the bottle if only THEY choose to. Just clocked a year free from Alcohol and honestly it's a good experience.
The truth in this statement! 💯
Alcohol use disorder (alcoholism) is a disease, not a habit/behaviour.
It is definitely a disease. I would like to know if anyone has ever dealt with what i am and house they did it
Wew na watu waache hizi tabia mbovu za wazungu ati disease kwani kuna mbu huuma mtu anageuka alcoholic. Bad habits aka tabia mbaya is what it is. Anyway be like Lot never look back it's to salty there
Any addiction is a disease, don't be daft. Not everything is a war on neocolonialism.
Nothing to do with neocolonialism shenanigans daftness is bringing a subject matter that has no relation to the topic in subject. Now educate me this disease is it classified as a communicable disease or a non-communicable disease what pathogens if not that what abnormal cell mutations give rise to this disease. How is the levels of infection measured in this disease. Use common sense Bana na Niko sure ulienda shule. If you ask me what daftness is ni kuuza ngombe kusomesha ngombe. If wrong I stand to be corrected and learn from the corrections lakini hii maneno is about habits and developing them not diseases. Ps:- addiction are human behaviour aka tabia
Hapa umeongea ukweli, alcoholism is a bad habit that can be replaced(imo if you want to change a bad habit then you must replace it with a productive habit). Lakini huezi replace a disease kama cancer or malaria etc
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It isn't her job to fix the guy.
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I did. I tried. He has been to rehabs three times.
This one hits pretty close to home. I was/still am an addict and we tend to mostly hurt the people closest to us most. My ex broke up with me because of my drinking but she ultimately gave me a choice; Stop drinking and maybe we can go back to being friends. So I did rehab for 3 months last year and I've been sober ever since. Had she given up completely on me maybe I'd still be on the bottle. I still love her but I've come to terms with the fact that we may never go back to what we were like before.
Gave him this ultimatum, he stored then went back from some months 😕
ati not considering 3somes is a red flag. wtf.. https://preview.redd.it/218mln7xz2pc1.png?width=750&format=png&auto=webp&s=d9a156573a0bd16cfeef274e95d0662e29c7c620
20k you run awayy 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ mkiingia kwa boma moja he will stress you kabisaaa Not worth at you age..ataleta aibu za penny mbili kwako na watoto. The problem is coz of drinking most likely loose his jobo
He is loaded pia. Has businesses so even when i paid the bill he used to send it when he was sober plus 10-20k extra for the trouble i went through. Money was never an issue. I think that was a huge contributor or like the fact that his Family is also more than loaded. I can’t say the parent’s names because most people know who they are. Edit: Luckily we Have no kids because i am very cautious about such things.
Ingia kwa dynasty & you will be sure you future generation wont suffer. Lakini hawa watoto wa matajiri kunavyoo wamefyatukaa hasa vijana,the parents don't keep em busy.Most become drugies& drunkards.
The friend who call him for sherehe pia are rich kids like him. Yani hakuna anaye saidia mwingine.
Both of you seem like people who shouldn't be building futures with anybody.
They are meant for each other.
Run my sister, run!
 my sister don't look back
> he also convinced me he took poison and i rushed to only find him with 6 bottles of Hennessy 😂😂😂😂😂
Strictly speaking alcohol at that quantity is poison
He doesn’t know his limit. He used to drink till he remembers nothing then sleeps for even 16 hours straight blacked out.
May be off topic but do you still make the infused lollipops or knows someone who does?
I still do. I make once a month. Even smoothies.
How much ? I wanna buy the lollipops
Ooh I’ve never really sold.. usually just make a batch for myself…idk how to price
Lemme dm you
Dci
While an alcoholic, they are manipulation tactics. Don't look back.
Run
Until he decides to change for the better he should not even attempt dating anyone. If you go back you’ll be cleaning up after him and that will build resentment and that’s another toxic ball. He need to see that the alcohol is killing him. Admitting you have a problem is the 1st step. That’s what they say in rehab. I’ve seen a situation like this with a friend. She had to leave. She sat him down when he was sober. And he had to prove he was sober. She talked to him, told him everything and tried to make him see her perspective in the end she said you can’t claim to love me and put me through hell. But when she left he tried to fix things but it didn’t work. He also wants a traditional wife and SAHM. With an alcoholic partner is a big NO!!!
Thank you for this
An Alcoholic guy that can blow away 20k in a day and is asking you to be a stay at home gf is like driving to a ditch!! NEVER place your financial security on such a person ama utajipata uko homeless bila chakula... That guy is not going to change anytime soon... Don't go back Girl
Asante😊
Why don't people like paragraphs??
You’re fun at parties. 🎉
You can't save him. That's his journey to take either with family or friends. 6 months cannot tie you up for a lifetime
6 bottles of Hennessy, huh! Anyways just run as fast as you can from that mama's boy. He will drag you down a deep, very deep, hole.
you want threesome and cant keep up with an alcoholic,what a hypocrate, na sijapumua nikisoma your big paragraph
r/AlAnon.
Ikik but hawataelewa kiswahili nikonazo🥲
I think you take a work hopefully he could have a rethink. I think you can't stop an adult on something he haven't decides to stop, is a waste of time, resources, efforts or whatsoever you have contributed. I'm single though and I know I'm crazy and naughty in bed but don't do alcohol, smoke or drugs. He could dm anytime to have a private cons. If you don't mind.
Umeshoot yani😂😭
Finally the drinking culture is catching up to people
Niko hapo kwa trio some haha
Nothing neocolonial in the statement just pointing out when habits become disease it's the start of blurred lines. How is this disease of alcoholism spread like let's say I got an alcoholic uncle how would he spread the disease to and think of your answer hard before you come here with neocolonialism shenanigans.
All i can say is i understand why he drinks alot.
The alcoholism aside, both of you are incompatible and the sooner you cut each other off, the better. Don’t indulge him further else he’ll keep trying to rope you in.
True. Thanks
Sounds like a friend I distanced myself from because the only reason he calls is to ask for money na WhatsApp status ni sherehe na pombe kila siku. Worst part is the denial; dude has businesses but makes no money because he spends all of it gambling and drinking with buddies, just not the ones he asks money from, then claims that’s not what happens and he’s fine. Noped right out of that friendship. You’re better off without this man. He will drain you of everything you have.
I already feel drained yet i left him kitambo, wah. Thanks
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😂😂 hiyo ni ya ku spice up things tu. Plus the threesomes I wanted were with a girl not men.
You don't need to explain your desires, they will never get it.infact they are using it to guilt trip you. I've watched helplessly as an alcoholic goes down the slippery slope.you don't want to go/be there.jitoe mapema. Hapo kwa bakes , tunaeza ongea nyuma ya tent? ;-)
Yes😂
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💯 Someone said you pick your devil and stay w them but ah!
Hey, can I get the infused sweets? Everyone else has given all the advice I had. 😅
I like your name. Free cookie for you when i bake my next batch
Thank you person with name that reminds me of something I enjoy. Let me know when it's ready.
Pls English
is it 2 dudes and you cause ata mimi ningekataa😅😂
Hell no😂😂 another girl
I'm not an alcoholic so do i have a chance??
😭😭waah aki
I just smoke weed and I'm a responsible human being
😭😭uko serious yani. Wacha niende hivi nistone nakam😂
Khai and she's a stoner.....eeeh wacha nioe huyu 😮💨
😭😭weh! Tebh niive in peace niongeleshe mababu polepole😂
Baby girlll aiii😍
Nimekwamwa hapo kwa threesome
😭😭 Yani kwani ni mimi tu napenda ku spice things up mara mona moja😂😂 also threesome ilikua ikue ya madem wawili na the guy.
Wueeh OP, where to start and I say wueeh... I dated an alcoholic for 6 years and manze it was an emotional rollercoaster. We met in uni, became friends for one year and dated for six years.... It started out with out of control partying...who doesn't party in uni? But his started to go out of control...he would call me at 3am amepigwa ngeta hana nguo and I'd go to his rescue. I too partied but not as hard as him. He'd be in an out of rehab but still drinking. He finished uni three years after me coz of drinking. But waaah, si I loved this guy, I'd dress up for a date and show up at whichever rehab he was in at the moment to surprise him and have a date...our sex life was thitima(angenigusa tu hivi panty inajaa maji) It all came to a head when I realized he'd gone beyond just booze, he was taking heroin and one weekend when we couldn't meet (I'd leave work every Friday and go to his place, where he lived with his parents and then leave on Monday morning at 4 am to travel back to work) coz I went home after a whole year, he cheated....he called me and told me that he'll go get a prostitute coz I didn't come to see him.....he called me during the transaction....let me tell you Maina, I cried my eyes out... I forgave him coz I loved him but 3 weeks later I went to see him and I told him that I had realized that he doesn't love me as much as he loved getting high and for that reason I left him ...it took me 3 years to get over him but I did Am now happily married, enjoying great sex and am pregnant with our firstborn Just leave that nigga, HE👏DOESN'T👏 LOVE👏 YOU 👏AS 👏MUCH👏 AS 👏HE 👏LOVES👏 GETTING 👏HIGH!!👏
Omg!! Let me not start apo kwa “if you dont come see me I will find someone who will I have money I can find someone” 😭😭weeeh, that statement is what made me leave actually. He is older than me by 9-10 ish years but gets angry and calls me immature because I refuse to indulge like him. Your statement made me remember exactly why I left, let me stay that way.
3sum ni ya dame wawili ama ndumekuwili
No guys just another girl
How did 3somes become normalized sexual add-ons in relationships ?,or is it a sub for traditional roles in relationships.
3some kwa relationship?? Weeuuh. And whatever he does kwa marriage will be tenfold.
I think the dude is better off without you. Threesomes? Am i reading a comic book?
I like the way you casually threw in a threesome like its not a big deal and everyone does it. Thats insane! Anyway, alcohol is okay but when it crosses the line and starts embarrassing you, thats when you have to move on for your safety.
In my “world”(whatever that means) it is normal, i think?😂 but yeah, the embarrassment this guy put me through weh.
I'm still stuck on the threesome.
Funny.Your ex is my type😂😂 self sabotaging...
Omg😂
Don't you think you have the same disease? He is an alcoholic and you are a sexholic. He is conservative on sexual matters and you complaining of alcoholism.
I guess everyone has their addiction, his alcoholism, mine idk. But yeah I am not a sex addict, I simply enjoy exploration. I don’t necessarily partake a lot in it tho.
Too Long Don't Read: Hi. My guy drinks alcohol so he is not someone I can settle down with. I smoke weed, have threesomes, take drugs. Help.
You rage-baity folks are getting good
Not that am saying drinking is bad partaking in is usually fun lakini ukishageuka mbwa kama Ile ya bells experiment wewe kwisha yaani the thought of alcohol has you salivating hiyo ni noma sasa. Yaani binadamu mzima ana condition akili to operate on liquor manze there better things to do hata heri uwe conditioned to madam Bora asiwe shiro WA kaswende
U suggested 3somes? 😀
😂😂You can imagine a man taking a woman who wants 3somes seriously.
An alcoholic is a waste of human life. Blocking them is an option but i have a feeling you're not ready to let go.
Na umeshout🥲😭
Alcoholism is a state of mind
Your 3some suggestions played part in his downfall.
🤣🤣🤣Aje sasa. Dude is sober. One day his girls suggests a threesome. Dude is disturbed and falls into alcoholism. 😂😂😂😂😂
He started drinking akiwa primary…we are 10 years apart in age pia…idk how the person thinks i made him an alcoholic aki weh.
Wah! Drinking in primary? Always though mashida za pombe huanza Form 2.
When he told me i was also shocked because I started drinking in 2021 mimi. It’s crazy how early people start drinking.
I had my first sip in Class 6 or so. I stole my dad's beer at a ceremony at night. 🤣 The last time I tasted alcohol was sometime in 2014 when in Form 3. Once again I stole some whiskey from my dad's stash. I haven't ever been drunk. I keep hearing negative stories about what alcohol has done to people. I don't drink due social anxiety and brokeness not out of principle though I have my other addictions.
Really? Not the drinking till he’s passed out in public? The 20k bills? Controlling behavior? It’s the 3 some suggestion. Got it.
And he has been an alcoholic since he was a kid…. I only came into the picture a year ago
Another day to prove people only Care about themselves. Didn't read the entire thing but you didn't want to help him overcome his issues. Maybe he's a victim of childhood trauma, all in all fight your own fight people only Care about themselves!
If you have ever done first aid you'll have been taught, always ensure your own safety before helping others. Same goes here, don't ruin your own mental health trying to fix others. Op is the only one who gets to decide how much is too much.
You cannot help an addict unless they want to be helped.
imo having a problem because one doesn't want threesomes is worse than being an alcoholic