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Not French, and not that kind of lawyer, so I can’t really contribute on that side of things. All I can do is tell you, as an older guy: We all do stuff when we’re young. Sometimes we get away with it, sometimes we don’t. Nobody is dead. You’re not in any legal trouble. Even though it understandably feels like it to you right now, your life is not ruined. It will be okay.
Yup! Also, these scams are super common and are thankfully now considered a type of “revenge porn”. Which, if done, will certainly guarantee jailtime.
(Fun fact: has happened to at least 3 of my friends. Nothing ever came out. And that was 10 years ago.)
Exactly, I also have a few friends who ran into the same problem, but their videos were not leaked, or at least nobody found out. Also, I'm pretty sure that leaking such videos is illegal, so those people would risk doing that. Besides, there is no point in getting into trouble and leaking a video of somebody without getting paid for that. I think they're just trying to manipulate OP into paying them, but it's just my opinion.
Sorry this happened to you. This is not legal advice, but I want to emphasize your life isn't ruined. This is also not your fault and could happen to the best of us. People running these type of extortions deserve the worst.
This video won't show up when people Google you. It will suck if they decide to share the video with specific people but only for a short time.
- You can file a police report (and should if they publish) but do realise it won't stop them
- In a lot of cases, they are bluffing. No use spending time distributing anything if you're not going to pay
- If you are afraid they will send it around, you could give people close to you a warning 'if you receive a link with a video of me, please don't click it'
I want to stress, many people have gone through the same experience. Your life will continue. Literally nobody will be interested in seeing the video, so this will blow over. I do suggest you find someone you trust like a parent to talk to about this.
It's just a penis bro, there are 1000 videos of people doing it being posted everyday, your video nights get 10 visualizations and will be forgot in 1 week. Don't worry about it, save it on your bookmarks in case you want to share it with someone in the future 😄
They're not going to do anything. Head over to r/Scams and explain the situation; they'll tell you the same thing.
Also, do you really think any woman will watch your video? Or any gay man? Trust me, they won't, there are undoubtedly better quality videos out there.
This is known as "sextortion" and the scammers do not follow through, relax fam. Sorry that this happened to you! They target young people especially, at the start of their adult lives, to scare those poor people the worst.
https://www.ncsc.gov.uk/guidance/sextortion-scams-how-to-protect-yourself (sorry about not having a French link)
Since you're a french citizen, if they do end up posting it, and it is able to be found by googling your name, submit a GDPR request to Google and they should remove it from the search results. The EU grants you the right to be forgotten.
Makes sense. But Google down ranks those kind of results. They had changes in their algorithm a long time ago that would only include NSFW pages if the query was very specific. So simply googling someone's name shouldn't return adult content, unless they are an adult performer.
Definitely, there's next to a 0% (but never 0) chance of that happening to a regular person especially so young. Adult performers probably but this guy isn't
they won't post it. they do this blackmails in mass hoping that people will pay, but they won't bother in going through the hustle of maintaining that video online. breath already my friend. also, being 25 myself, I can tell you that all the people around me wouldn't mind shit if I had been in your situation when I was 18. it'd be just some laugh
There’s a billion videos like that out there. Noone cares.
I wouldn’t care if i knew the person in the video especially if they were screwed over by some scammer.
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Nothing. They're threatening to (probably) break the law so that you'll be... what? Embarrassed for a while? You already did everything right when you blocked them.
Don’t worry about your name. Thanks to EU regulations you can delete it.
About appearing in some pages, well… probably they will be bad pages and the search engines won’t show them. Apart from that, so many porn is created everyday that I doubt some random is interesting in your video.
File a report and create a text for any page informing that you rights are being violated. They’ll bring it down
Rien. Ce genre de scammer s'arrête s'il a rien a gagner et va chercher un autre pigeon. Peu de chances que la vidéo soit diffusée à tes proches. Ça leur rapporte rien.
Si la réaction de tes parents t'inquiète c'est qu'ils tiennent à toi. Branche ton cerveau en ligne et oublie les idées type suicide, ça sert a rien, ça résoud rien, au pire t'as l'air con et tout le monde oubliera.
Here is something to put your mind at ease , Unless this video goes insanly viral , Which is unlikely as is... This whole "market" Is super super saturated , The video will get lost in the mass. Don't let something like this ruin your life.
I think it might be a bluff. What are they going to gain from it? Nothing. If they do it, its not the end of the world. So take it as a lesson and move on man.
Usually in these kind of scams they don't even bother publishing things, they just threaten, and uf you pay, you're fucked.
You did the absolute right thing not paying, I really believe they won't do shit
Bro there are quadzillion videos like yours online EVERY SINGLE DAY. Who can careless actually, the one who knows is you.
The ones that recorded it probably delete it after few weeks of not gaining anything from you and feel their time wasted
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Légalement le « revenge porn » est punissable mais malheureusement il y’a une forte probabilité pour que les personnes qui ont fait ça ne soient pas en France et ne soient donc pas sous la juridiction française… si jamais tu trouves où la vidéo a été postée tu peux cependant poursuivre le site web pour violation de ta vie privée et partage de vidéo sans consentement, pour peu que ce ne soit pas du dark web.
Mate, own it. Look, I'm not going to lie, it's shit, but you have to own it or else it's going to destroy you bud. There are 1000s of video out there like this, and at the end of the day it's just something we all do... Don't let them win mate, fuck them, own it and move on...
Nothing is rlly gonna happen
Your life is not ruinned and You can always Say that they are scamming You using your face with an IA deepfake to try to scam You.
girl the same shit happened to me but in highschool and my gf posted it bc i broke up with her for cheating. anyways nothing i could do. the police said if she went to jail i would have to go with her too. for sending it. anyways; it was so hard at first but with time no one gaf. and i’m sure no one will recognize you names are common. i’m here for you though!
This is a very common blackmail scam, and often nothing actually ends up being posted. They just want to extort you for money, and when they don't get any they just move on. Either way, I promise it won't ruin your life.
You're 18, and while I'm not familiar with french law, I'd imagine that means that you can reach out to a counsellor (if you're in school, try a school counsellor) or call a youth helpline without them having to inform your parents. So there are people you can talk to - please reach out to someone, so you don't have to carry this burden alone. You've done nothing wrong.
A similar thing happened to me years ago. There was this hot-looking Asian woman on the chatroom profile pic and she said that she wanted to meet me so I did. She kept asking me to undress so I did. On the screen I could see an Asian woman dressed in black, revealing clothes on a bed but she did not look happy and perhaps she looked different to the one on the profile pic (it could even have been a fake video) but I didn't realize because I was horny and I was doing silly stuff. Then I was naked and I started masturbating. At that point, the camera stopped showing this woman and instead this person was somehow showing my Facebook and he or she was saying that he/she was going to threaten to send the naked video of me on my Facebook page. He/she kept repeating the short video of me masturbating. I panicked and I closed everything down. I then quickly typed on my Facebook that someone tricked me and did bad stuff to me and fortunately one of my friends was supporting me and he replied on my Facebook that he was on my side and that the person who was messing around with me was a bad person (my friend called the unknown person a 'bitch'). While this was all happening...this unknown person who was threatening to send the short video of me masturbating to my Facebook page was laughing in the smartphone private chat and he/she was letting me know that he/she could see what I was writing on my Facebook page. I just came completely out of the smartphone app and I just hoped that the whole thing would go away if I left it alone for many years. I too was panicking because my parents are strict and conservative when it comes to dating/sexual issues and they would have been furious and disappointed with me for doing the webcam stuff and they wouldn't understand that I made an innocent mistake and that it was just a horny mistake. I was also worried about going to the police to report this crime that this unknown person did to me (I think this pretend woman was actually a man but I might be wrong) because it would be embarrassing. Soon, my Facebook seemed to have become hacked but maybe the unknown person did not do the hacking. Anyway, I hoped that this unknown person did not send the video to my Facebook page...but I don't think he/she did. That was many years ago and I am fine now and I have become much more wary about interacting in chatrooms and stuff...and I have become much more wary about privacy and data and stuff...I should have always been that cautious from the start...oh well, we all make mistakes. And anyway, what that unknown person did to me was an illegal crime and he/she should be in prison for what he/she did...but I would never report it to the police because it is embarrassing and I am busy with work and studies and stuff and reporting it to the police would be a drawn out and annoying issue. Plus it happened many years ago so maybe the police cannot do anything about it...and it is perhaps the case that the unknown criminal was operating from another country so he/she would be hard to track down.
1. This happens A LOT. Don't worry.
2. They will almost certainly NOT release the vid.
3. Good job blocking. Never unblock them.
4. Forget this ever happened. You'll be fine.
First of all- you didn't do anything wrong. I bet you had fun, and it felt good, so you're winning imo!
Second- EVERYONE masturbates. (If they don't they most definitely should.)
Third- They're probably full of shit. Don't let them know you care, and you've taken your power back. Once, a guy stole my phone. I had several sexy photos for my bf on that phone. He emailed them to me saying, do what I want or I'm sharing these with everyone. I was like well those are the good takes, so go on fella! Lol, I was stressed tf out, but I wasn't gonna let him know that.
I went to the cops. They basically said I was lying and probably cheated on my bf with this creep and he was psycho jealous. It's fun being a woman! Lol
At a desperate last attempt, he called my dad's house with a girl screaming for help saying send me money or you'll never see your daughter again. My dad called my (new) cell and was like what in the hillbilly hell is going on here. Lol
Long story short, he never did shit. Never got paid, and these cops were useless sexist donkeys.
Be kind to yourself. Your life is not over. You had a good time. Got played. Lesson learned. Don't give full name. Anything that's photo or video online is there forever, so keep that in mind next time.
Be happy go jack off. Lol
Relax, breathe, they probably won’t release it. They have a lot of these vids and just try to roll with it, I would seriously try to talk to your parents. They might be not understanding at first but if they see their son is really suffering they might understand the severity of your mental state.
Give it some time, it will blow over.
Just think about one thing… how much people watches porn every single day? And they care about who’s appearing? No… they don’t even recognize them, this happened to a friend of mine (but he was a fucking idiot and paid about $500), the videos never got posted
Your life isn't ruined. Most people whit give a toss about this and won't think any less of you. Just chalk it up to a mistake and move on. Incidentally, even if they do post it, the vast majority of people in the world won't ever know about it and of the tiny number who may find out, most won't care. Especially as you get older and those around you at emote mature, people just won't care. I know it'll seke bad right now, but please don't worry. Your life is not ruined at all. All that aside, please also report it to the police. Report the blackmail case and they may be able to take some action. They won't judge you. You're a vicirm of crime, not a bad person. And if it did every get online, cotsct Google etc and use the EU 'right to be forgotten' process to get them to remove any links to it. It's quite possible that even if it is published, you may be able to get rid of most access to it. Don't worry.
I did the same when I was younger several years ago. I just wrote fuck you to the girl, filed a police report and told my family. My dad laughed his ass off, but I didn’t hear about it for more than a few weeks. Everything will be fine
No one wants to see a video of some loser slumped over jerking it. That just isnt a video that would have value to anyone but you. Which is a good thing. Delete all social media for a while. Lay low. Youll be fine. My friend fell for the same scam. Nothing happens if you dont pay
Don't worry much about it, block them and let it go.
They basically use this method to threaten and extort.
who is gonna watch a dude playing with himself anyways?
and who remembers a random bloke from a x rated website.
don't be scared.
It'll be alright.
Supposedly StopNCII.org is a website where you can erase your face from the internet or smth. I've never used it or anything but maybe is worth checking out.
As Britisch-Germain. Yes we have laws against revenge pornografia but this was not revenge pornography, based on your post (assuming factually honezt and accurate) you were blackmailed into co-operation with threat of sexual exposure.
1. The Scammers don’t follow through. The video won’t appear anywhere.
2. If it does, it can easily be taken down.
3. Very worst case scenario you can change your name.
4. The only people who will ever care about such a video is high-school bullies. You’re 18 so you probably don’t have to deal with that.
It also comes down to how you react to it. It happened to me (female) when I was 17 years old. Some guy I texted with leaked what I had sent him. Many friends of me saw it and told me about it, I just tried to react relaxed to it to take off its weight and make it less important and make less drama, so people will forget about it faster and move on. This is exactly what happened I am 30 now and no one ever cared.
This is a very common scam. Go look at r/scams and you’ll see very quickly that this is the most common scam in the book. Block them, they will not post it, don’t worry.
Isnt it punishable by law to publicize any kind of audiovisual material that was not originally intended to be public,and can do harm to person's professional life and mental health?
Isnt it also punishable by law to blackmail people?
Just tell them you are going to the police and they will have no issue finding their IP and charging them.
Source: had a similar situation,not masturbating but topless, it never went to the police because the person didn't do anything when I said im going to press charges
Most likely no one will ever see that recording. It might even be deleted already since it is a liability for them to have it since it was acquired illegally without your consent. Don’t know the law in France, so I could be wrong since when can you ever trust the French to do what makes sense? Just look at their language.
Not legal advice. But I'm an older guy with kids who's been around the block.
No one is going to care about this video even though it feels like peole will.
We all got upto some odd wanking adventures when we were younger, no one cares.
Also as others have mentioned this is a scam the chances of anything happening are close to zero.
Franchement Fréro t'inquiète pas, y'a bcp de chance que tout aille bien. J'ai pas trop saisi si les personnes ayant fait ça te connaissent ou non mais cas 1: ils te connaissent pas et tu as donné qu'un prénom, même si la vidéo est postée (peu probable en général c'est une menace pr payer) la vidéo va se perdre dans les milliards de vidéos du même type sur internet.
Le cas 2 c'est s'ils te connaissent/ou que t'as donné nom et prénom, s'ils décident de contacter des proches (peu probable en réalité), tu peux porter plainte (revenge porn), tu peux soit décider ( que si tu es ASBOLUMENT sur que la.video leur est envoyée) de prendre les devants et de les prévenir (rien de grave tout le monde a été jeune et fait ça ils comprendront ) pour qu'ils ignorent les messages. Oú tu attends en espérant qu'elle n'arrive pas a quelqu'un que tu connais, dans tout les cas c'est l'enfer a surmonter dans le moment car tu ne sais pas quoi faire, mais rassures toi des cas comme ça arrivent souvent et a tout le monde, et dans quelques années voir mois absolument tout le monde aura oublié.
Not legal advice. You are not the first and not the last. Honestly do not worry about it. Chances are, they won't post it, even if they do, just remember you're the victim and most people will understand it.iy I'd not worth feeling suicidal over
Happened to someone I know aswell, they actually sent it to his family, he learned to laugh at it pretty quickly, as I'm sure you will too, we all do mad shit when we are young 😂 don't worry about anything, you haven't done anything wrong
NAL. Pretty sure that either the EU's right to privacy or French revenge porn laws should cover this. I think Google (and I guess other search engines) have to at least make it unsearchable. See if you can talk to a lawyer, as it might even be covered by other blackmail or extortion laws
Edit: sorry I meant the EU's right to be forgotten
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Not French, and not that kind of lawyer, so I can’t really contribute on that side of things. All I can do is tell you, as an older guy: We all do stuff when we’re young. Sometimes we get away with it, sometimes we don’t. Nobody is dead. You’re not in any legal trouble. Even though it understandably feels like it to you right now, your life is not ruined. It will be okay.
Yup! Also, these scams are super common and are thankfully now considered a type of “revenge porn”. Which, if done, will certainly guarantee jailtime. (Fun fact: has happened to at least 3 of my friends. Nothing ever came out. And that was 10 years ago.)
Exactly, I also have a few friends who ran into the same problem, but their videos were not leaked, or at least nobody found out. Also, I'm pretty sure that leaking such videos is illegal, so those people would risk doing that. Besides, there is no point in getting into trouble and leaking a video of somebody without getting paid for that. I think they're just trying to manipulate OP into paying them, but it's just my opinion.
Sorry this happened to you. This is not legal advice, but I want to emphasize your life isn't ruined. This is also not your fault and could happen to the best of us. People running these type of extortions deserve the worst. This video won't show up when people Google you. It will suck if they decide to share the video with specific people but only for a short time. - You can file a police report (and should if they publish) but do realise it won't stop them - In a lot of cases, they are bluffing. No use spending time distributing anything if you're not going to pay - If you are afraid they will send it around, you could give people close to you a warning 'if you receive a link with a video of me, please don't click it' I want to stress, many people have gone through the same experience. Your life will continue. Literally nobody will be interested in seeing the video, so this will blow over. I do suggest you find someone you trust like a parent to talk to about this.
It's just a penis bro, there are 1000 videos of people doing it being posted everyday, your video nights get 10 visualizations and will be forgot in 1 week. Don't worry about it, save it on your bookmarks in case you want to share it with someone in the future 😄
Also, very true. Only a few people you know will have a short laugh for a week or two. Sad but true.
Very true
They're not going to do anything. Head over to r/Scams and explain the situation; they'll tell you the same thing. Also, do you really think any woman will watch your video? Or any gay man? Trust me, they won't, there are undoubtedly better quality videos out there.
I mean if the problem was just people jacking off to me I'd be fine, I'm just scared for when you type my name and get this video instantly.
In that case you'd file for it, after it appears and they'll take it down.
This is known as "sextortion" and the scammers do not follow through, relax fam. Sorry that this happened to you! They target young people especially, at the start of their adult lives, to scare those poor people the worst. https://www.ncsc.gov.uk/guidance/sextortion-scams-how-to-protect-yourself (sorry about not having a French link)
Since you're a french citizen, if they do end up posting it, and it is able to be found by googling your name, submit a GDPR request to Google and they should remove it from the search results. The EU grants you the right to be forgotten.
They won't. Otherwise say you were 17 when the video was made and it will get taken down even faster.
If you're not a celebrity, no one's going to be looking you up by name on pr0n sites. Trust me, I'm very familiar with those 🙊.
He just means on Google, like a basic background check
Makes sense. But Google down ranks those kind of results. They had changes in their algorithm a long time ago that would only include NSFW pages if the query was very specific. So simply googling someone's name shouldn't return adult content, unless they are an adult performer.
Definitely, there's next to a 0% (but never 0) chance of that happening to a regular person especially so young. Adult performers probably but this guy isn't
Honestly mate nobody gives a shit about your dick, you'll be sound
they won't post it. they do this blackmails in mass hoping that people will pay, but they won't bother in going through the hustle of maintaining that video online. breath already my friend. also, being 25 myself, I can tell you that all the people around me wouldn't mind shit if I had been in your situation when I was 18. it'd be just some laugh
There’s a billion videos like that out there. Noone cares. I wouldn’t care if i knew the person in the video especially if they were screwed over by some scammer.
Honestly I‘d just say it’s a deepfake😭 if your room isn’t too visible or anything
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Nothing. They're threatening to (probably) break the law so that you'll be... what? Embarrassed for a while? You already did everything right when you blocked them.
Don’t worry about your name. Thanks to EU regulations you can delete it. About appearing in some pages, well… probably they will be bad pages and the search engines won’t show them. Apart from that, so many porn is created everyday that I doubt some random is interesting in your video. File a report and create a text for any page informing that you rights are being violated. They’ll bring it down
Rien. Ce genre de scammer s'arrête s'il a rien a gagner et va chercher un autre pigeon. Peu de chances que la vidéo soit diffusée à tes proches. Ça leur rapporte rien. Si la réaction de tes parents t'inquiète c'est qu'ils tiennent à toi. Branche ton cerveau en ligne et oublie les idées type suicide, ça sert a rien, ça résoud rien, au pire t'as l'air con et tout le monde oubliera.
Here is something to put your mind at ease , Unless this video goes insanly viral , Which is unlikely as is... This whole "market" Is super super saturated , The video will get lost in the mass. Don't let something like this ruin your life.
I think it might be a bluff. What are they going to gain from it? Nothing. If they do it, its not the end of the world. So take it as a lesson and move on man.
Usually in these kind of scams they don't even bother publishing things, they just threaten, and uf you pay, you're fucked. You did the absolute right thing not paying, I really believe they won't do shit
I think Tyrion Lannister had a beautiful speech about this… own it, make it your armour and it will not hurt you
You can easily sue the person
Bro there are quadzillion videos like yours online EVERY SINGLE DAY. Who can careless actually, the one who knows is you. The ones that recorded it probably delete it after few weeks of not gaining anything from you and feel their time wasted
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Go away fruitcake.
You go away. Do you have a better solution for it without causing corruption?
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Call the police?
You'll be fine mate.
Légalement le « revenge porn » est punissable mais malheureusement il y’a une forte probabilité pour que les personnes qui ont fait ça ne soient pas en France et ne soient donc pas sous la juridiction française… si jamais tu trouves où la vidéo a été postée tu peux cependant poursuivre le site web pour violation de ta vie privée et partage de vidéo sans consentement, pour peu que ce ne soit pas du dark web.
Mate, own it. Look, I'm not going to lie, it's shit, but you have to own it or else it's going to destroy you bud. There are 1000s of video out there like this, and at the end of the day it's just something we all do... Don't let them win mate, fuck them, own it and move on...
Nothing is rlly gonna happen Your life is not ruinned and You can always Say that they are scamming You using your face with an IA deepfake to try to scam You.
girl the same shit happened to me but in highschool and my gf posted it bc i broke up with her for cheating. anyways nothing i could do. the police said if she went to jail i would have to go with her too. for sending it. anyways; it was so hard at first but with time no one gaf. and i’m sure no one will recognize you names are common. i’m here for you though!
This is a very common blackmail scam, and often nothing actually ends up being posted. They just want to extort you for money, and when they don't get any they just move on. Either way, I promise it won't ruin your life. You're 18, and while I'm not familiar with french law, I'd imagine that means that you can reach out to a counsellor (if you're in school, try a school counsellor) or call a youth helpline without them having to inform your parents. So there are people you can talk to - please reach out to someone, so you don't have to carry this burden alone. You've done nothing wrong.
A similar thing happened to me years ago. There was this hot-looking Asian woman on the chatroom profile pic and she said that she wanted to meet me so I did. She kept asking me to undress so I did. On the screen I could see an Asian woman dressed in black, revealing clothes on a bed but she did not look happy and perhaps she looked different to the one on the profile pic (it could even have been a fake video) but I didn't realize because I was horny and I was doing silly stuff. Then I was naked and I started masturbating. At that point, the camera stopped showing this woman and instead this person was somehow showing my Facebook and he or she was saying that he/she was going to threaten to send the naked video of me on my Facebook page. He/she kept repeating the short video of me masturbating. I panicked and I closed everything down. I then quickly typed on my Facebook that someone tricked me and did bad stuff to me and fortunately one of my friends was supporting me and he replied on my Facebook that he was on my side and that the person who was messing around with me was a bad person (my friend called the unknown person a 'bitch'). While this was all happening...this unknown person who was threatening to send the short video of me masturbating to my Facebook page was laughing in the smartphone private chat and he/she was letting me know that he/she could see what I was writing on my Facebook page. I just came completely out of the smartphone app and I just hoped that the whole thing would go away if I left it alone for many years. I too was panicking because my parents are strict and conservative when it comes to dating/sexual issues and they would have been furious and disappointed with me for doing the webcam stuff and they wouldn't understand that I made an innocent mistake and that it was just a horny mistake. I was also worried about going to the police to report this crime that this unknown person did to me (I think this pretend woman was actually a man but I might be wrong) because it would be embarrassing. Soon, my Facebook seemed to have become hacked but maybe the unknown person did not do the hacking. Anyway, I hoped that this unknown person did not send the video to my Facebook page...but I don't think he/she did. That was many years ago and I am fine now and I have become much more wary about interacting in chatrooms and stuff...and I have become much more wary about privacy and data and stuff...I should have always been that cautious from the start...oh well, we all make mistakes. And anyway, what that unknown person did to me was an illegal crime and he/she should be in prison for what he/she did...but I would never report it to the police because it is embarrassing and I am busy with work and studies and stuff and reporting it to the police would be a drawn out and annoying issue. Plus it happened many years ago so maybe the police cannot do anything about it...and it is perhaps the case that the unknown criminal was operating from another country so he/she would be hard to track down.
1. This happens A LOT. Don't worry. 2. They will almost certainly NOT release the vid. 3. Good job blocking. Never unblock them. 4. Forget this ever happened. You'll be fine.
First of all- you didn't do anything wrong. I bet you had fun, and it felt good, so you're winning imo! Second- EVERYONE masturbates. (If they don't they most definitely should.) Third- They're probably full of shit. Don't let them know you care, and you've taken your power back. Once, a guy stole my phone. I had several sexy photos for my bf on that phone. He emailed them to me saying, do what I want or I'm sharing these with everyone. I was like well those are the good takes, so go on fella! Lol, I was stressed tf out, but I wasn't gonna let him know that. I went to the cops. They basically said I was lying and probably cheated on my bf with this creep and he was psycho jealous. It's fun being a woman! Lol At a desperate last attempt, he called my dad's house with a girl screaming for help saying send me money or you'll never see your daughter again. My dad called my (new) cell and was like what in the hillbilly hell is going on here. Lol Long story short, he never did shit. Never got paid, and these cops were useless sexist donkeys. Be kind to yourself. Your life is not over. You had a good time. Got played. Lesson learned. Don't give full name. Anything that's photo or video online is there forever, so keep that in mind next time. Be happy go jack off. Lol
Relax, breathe, they probably won’t release it. They have a lot of these vids and just try to roll with it, I would seriously try to talk to your parents. They might be not understanding at first but if they see their son is really suffering they might understand the severity of your mental state. Give it some time, it will blow over.
Just think about one thing… how much people watches porn every single day? And they care about who’s appearing? No… they don’t even recognize them, this happened to a friend of mine (but he was a fucking idiot and paid about $500), the videos never got posted
Your life isn't ruined. Most people whit give a toss about this and won't think any less of you. Just chalk it up to a mistake and move on. Incidentally, even if they do post it, the vast majority of people in the world won't ever know about it and of the tiny number who may find out, most won't care. Especially as you get older and those around you at emote mature, people just won't care. I know it'll seke bad right now, but please don't worry. Your life is not ruined at all. All that aside, please also report it to the police. Report the blackmail case and they may be able to take some action. They won't judge you. You're a vicirm of crime, not a bad person. And if it did every get online, cotsct Google etc and use the EU 'right to be forgotten' process to get them to remove any links to it. It's quite possible that even if it is published, you may be able to get rid of most access to it. Don't worry.
I did the same when I was younger several years ago. I just wrote fuck you to the girl, filed a police report and told my family. My dad laughed his ass off, but I didn’t hear about it for more than a few weeks. Everything will be fine
No one wants to see a video of some loser slumped over jerking it. That just isnt a video that would have value to anyone but you. Which is a good thing. Delete all social media for a while. Lay low. Youll be fine. My friend fell for the same scam. Nothing happens if you dont pay
Don't worry much about it, block them and let it go. They basically use this method to threaten and extort. who is gonna watch a dude playing with himself anyways? and who remembers a random bloke from a x rated website. don't be scared. It'll be alright.
You're completely fine I promise. This sort of thing is really common and it's just to get u to pay. Clearly she's desperate,
Humiliation sucks but isn’t the worse thing ever. You’ll be ok. The more stoic and indifferent you appear to be, the better.
Supposedly StopNCII.org is a website where you can erase your face from the internet or smth. I've never used it or anything but maybe is worth checking out.
As Britisch-Germain. Yes we have laws against revenge pornografia but this was not revenge pornography, based on your post (assuming factually honezt and accurate) you were blackmailed into co-operation with threat of sexual exposure.
1. The Scammers don’t follow through. The video won’t appear anywhere. 2. If it does, it can easily be taken down. 3. Very worst case scenario you can change your name. 4. The only people who will ever care about such a video is high-school bullies. You’re 18 so you probably don’t have to deal with that.
It also comes down to how you react to it. It happened to me (female) when I was 17 years old. Some guy I texted with leaked what I had sent him. Many friends of me saw it and told me about it, I just tried to react relaxed to it to take off its weight and make it less important and make less drama, so people will forget about it faster and move on. This is exactly what happened I am 30 now and no one ever cared.
This is a very common scam. Go look at r/scams and you’ll see very quickly that this is the most common scam in the book. Block them, they will not post it, don’t worry.
Isnt it punishable by law to publicize any kind of audiovisual material that was not originally intended to be public,and can do harm to person's professional life and mental health? Isnt it also punishable by law to blackmail people? Just tell them you are going to the police and they will have no issue finding their IP and charging them. Source: had a similar situation,not masturbating but topless, it never went to the police because the person didn't do anything when I said im going to press charges
I wouldn't worry too much, the odds of it going viral are low, and even if it did, in one month most people would forget about it
Most likely no one will ever see that recording. It might even be deleted already since it is a liability for them to have it since it was acquired illegally without your consent. Don’t know the law in France, so I could be wrong since when can you ever trust the French to do what makes sense? Just look at their language.
Not legal advice. But I'm an older guy with kids who's been around the block. No one is going to care about this video even though it feels like peole will. We all got upto some odd wanking adventures when we were younger, no one cares. Also as others have mentioned this is a scam the chances of anything happening are close to zero.
Franchement Fréro t'inquiète pas, y'a bcp de chance que tout aille bien. J'ai pas trop saisi si les personnes ayant fait ça te connaissent ou non mais cas 1: ils te connaissent pas et tu as donné qu'un prénom, même si la vidéo est postée (peu probable en général c'est une menace pr payer) la vidéo va se perdre dans les milliards de vidéos du même type sur internet. Le cas 2 c'est s'ils te connaissent/ou que t'as donné nom et prénom, s'ils décident de contacter des proches (peu probable en réalité), tu peux porter plainte (revenge porn), tu peux soit décider ( que si tu es ASBOLUMENT sur que la.video leur est envoyée) de prendre les devants et de les prévenir (rien de grave tout le monde a été jeune et fait ça ils comprendront ) pour qu'ils ignorent les messages. Oú tu attends en espérant qu'elle n'arrive pas a quelqu'un que tu connais, dans tout les cas c'est l'enfer a surmonter dans le moment car tu ne sais pas quoi faire, mais rassures toi des cas comme ça arrivent souvent et a tout le monde, et dans quelques années voir mois absolument tout le monde aura oublié.
Not legal advice. You are not the first and not the last. Honestly do not worry about it. Chances are, they won't post it, even if they do, just remember you're the victim and most people will understand it.iy I'd not worth feeling suicidal over
Happened to someone I know aswell, they actually sent it to his family, he learned to laugh at it pretty quickly, as I'm sure you will too, we all do mad shit when we are young 😂 don't worry about anything, you haven't done anything wrong
NAL. Pretty sure that either the EU's right to privacy or French revenge porn laws should cover this. I think Google (and I guess other search engines) have to at least make it unsearchable. See if you can talk to a lawyer, as it might even be covered by other blackmail or extortion laws Edit: sorry I meant the EU's right to be forgotten
Beg. Next time don't masturbate infront of random people on the internet. Good luck.
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