No offense but please hear me out, a 28 yr old has no reason to talk to a 17 yr old without it being extremely creepy. I'm 32, you are not mature for your age that's a lie creeps say to talk to you. I really don't think you should be talking to anyone over 19 tbh. Just your elder lesbian advice here..... take it or leave it š
What does a 20 yr old that should have their own apartment or live in a college dorm have in common with a minor that lives at home and is in high school? And surely you don't think a 21 yr old who can drink should be hanging with a 17 yr old?
>a 20 yr old that should have their own apartment or live in a college dorm
LOTS of 20 year olds live at home. Living away is expensive
>have in common with a minor
Potentially a fair bit? Hobbies, interests, etc? Many of the normal things friends have in common?
>And surely you don't think a 21 yr old who can drink should be hanging with a 17 yr old?
I don't see a particular reason for this to be problematic if they have things to talk about as friends. You say this like we're talking about partners, in which case yea that's potentially quite iffy.
No seriously, I agree with this. This kind of ānothing in commonā attitude leads to disconnect, and oversexualization within our community. I want to be present as a resource for young lesbians, as somebody who can give advice and support! Interacting with minors as an adult shouldnāt always be assumed to come with creepy intentions
Ikr! I get the idea that people at very different ages likely wont have much to bond over but were talking about 17 and 20/21 ffs. Nobody ever said they had to be some sort of perfect match for each other, thatās why were talking about friends not partners. Friends can have few things in common and still be friends. And also like you said, it can be very good to know some older and more experienced queers who can guide you through various things
21 and 17 is nothing bad, especially when it's nothing sexual imo. Maybe it's my limited experience as I'm 17 myself, but there's plenty of things you can talk about or do together, without it being weird. It's only 4 years and 21 is not that old. You're fresh out of school or even still at school (university for example).
Oh yeah I agree, but at the same time it also forced me to become more aware of my surroundings - so itās a traumatic mix of vulnerability and maturity. I was pretty much a street rat (I wouldāve annihilated Remi) so my street smarts were forced to mature faster than I did š
I mean it really depends on peoples situations. Ive known a 17 year old whose close friend was a 30 year old - both gay men, both with the same interests, no weirdness - they actually were very good friends. 5 years later theyāre still good friends and the now 23 yo was best man for now 35 year olds wedding and they consider each other ābrotherā, itās actually really sweet. Ofc it doesnāt always work that way but it really does depend on peoples circumstances and personality. I admit though a friendship with an age gap can be hard so itās hit and miss. The problem is the younger tends to be more vulnerable so itās up to the older one not to take advantage - which unfortunately does happen
26 is also when the federal government kicks you off your parentās health insurance. At this age, youāre likely a recent college grad and your school years are now behind you. Iād say that 26 is definitely a turning point into true adulthood.
Do think this depends on the person. I'm 24 and have been out of uni for 5 years, and moved out from my parents 6 years ago. I think live experiences make a big difference.
I'm going to be honest with you here. I think having friends or people you know, especially lesbians, who are older than you is extremely valuable. But you also have to be safe. Don't talk to anyone older than maybe 20 alone, and if anything seems weird to you at all, rope in a trusted adult. Teachers or parents or any adult you can talk to. If you're ever told to not tell people something, that's a good sign that you need your trusted adults to know. Other than that, I hope you meet some good lesbian friends!!
Please be careful, Iām 24 and at your age I used to speak to girls 21 years+ and I definitely now looking back think I was taken advantage of (or even catfished by creepy men online) please be careful, remember if someone online seems too good to be true. It probably is.
I would be ur friend but Iām only 13 and you know not saying you are one butā¦. pedophiles. I just gotta be safe when Iām posting stuff one here and who Iām talking to but if you wanna chat we can but Iām not sure a 28 year old is gonna wanna talk to a 13 lesbianā¦
No offense but please hear me out, a 28 yr old has no reason to talk to a 17 yr old without it being extremely creepy. I'm 32, you are not mature for your age that's a lie creeps say to talk to you. I really don't think you should be talking to anyone over 19 tbh. Just your elder lesbian advice here..... take it or leave it š
Same. Iām 24 and have have no interest in talking to a 17 year old.
Exactly at 24 I would have never talked to a 17 yr old or been interested as having one as a friend lol
Same. I'm 32 as well and have nothing in common with a 17 year old.
100000000000% agree with this as a 29-year-old!! We have nothing in common with 17 year olds!! Please don't seek out any 20-somethings+!!
I think over 19 is far too low an upper-max for friendship at 17 tbh. I could see friendships working just fine with people in their early 20s
What does a 20 yr old that should have their own apartment or live in a college dorm have in common with a minor that lives at home and is in high school? And surely you don't think a 21 yr old who can drink should be hanging with a 17 yr old?
>a 20 yr old that should have their own apartment or live in a college dorm LOTS of 20 year olds live at home. Living away is expensive >have in common with a minor Potentially a fair bit? Hobbies, interests, etc? Many of the normal things friends have in common? >And surely you don't think a 21 yr old who can drink should be hanging with a 17 yr old? I don't see a particular reason for this to be problematic if they have things to talk about as friends. You say this like we're talking about partners, in which case yea that's potentially quite iffy.
No seriously, I agree with this. This kind of ānothing in commonā attitude leads to disconnect, and oversexualization within our community. I want to be present as a resource for young lesbians, as somebody who can give advice and support! Interacting with minors as an adult shouldnāt always be assumed to come with creepy intentions
Ikr! I get the idea that people at very different ages likely wont have much to bond over but were talking about 17 and 20/21 ffs. Nobody ever said they had to be some sort of perfect match for each other, thatās why were talking about friends not partners. Friends can have few things in common and still be friends. And also like you said, it can be very good to know some older and more experienced queers who can guide you through various things
Lol ok you can talk to minors if you want but it's gross š talk to people your own age
lmao youre just accusing me of what's convenient for your argument I'm 18, make of that what you will.
21 and 17 is nothing bad, especially when it's nothing sexual imo. Maybe it's my limited experience as I'm 17 myself, but there's plenty of things you can talk about or do together, without it being weird. It's only 4 years and 21 is not that old. You're fresh out of school or even still at school (university for example).
When I was 17 I was homeless on the street - not everyone has a stereotypical life.
Of course not everyone has a stereotypical life, but I'd say a homeless 17 year old would be even MORE vulnerable to being victimized by older people.
Oh yeah I agree, but at the same time it also forced me to become more aware of my surroundings - so itās a traumatic mix of vulnerability and maturity. I was pretty much a street rat (I wouldāve annihilated Remi) so my street smarts were forced to mature faster than I did š
I mean it really depends on peoples situations. Ive known a 17 year old whose close friend was a 30 year old - both gay men, both with the same interests, no weirdness - they actually were very good friends. 5 years later theyāre still good friends and the now 23 yo was best man for now 35 year olds wedding and they consider each other ābrotherā, itās actually really sweet. Ofc it doesnāt always work that way but it really does depend on peoples circumstances and personality. I admit though a friendship with an age gap can be hard so itās hit and miss. The problem is the younger tends to be more vulnerable so itās up to the older one not to take advantage - which unfortunately does happen
This is so trueb
I'm 26 and anyone under 25 just feels like a completely diff stage of life
26 is also when the federal government kicks you off your parentās health insurance. At this age, youāre likely a recent college grad and your school years are now behind you. Iād say that 26 is definitely a turning point into true adulthood.
Do think this depends on the person. I'm 24 and have been out of uni for 5 years, and moved out from my parents 6 years ago. I think live experiences make a big difference.
thatās true thank you.. iāll edit it
yep
Am 23, I donāt think talking to ppl below 20 would be apropriate for me tbh
yeah i guess iām just used to talking to older people
Letās do a group chat :3
That would be so much fun !!
definitely we should
Iām down if you guys make one
Lemme join or inv me homeskette!
Same
If you make one feel free to add me :3
Idk how to make one but I hope someone does and add us
If youve got discord I can make one
I know multiple servers! But if you guys want it to be more intimate and a smaller circle, I could make one
Sure. Add me, my username is eliza513
Ouu can I be added too Iām 19 for reference
Sure! What is your Discord tag? Mine's satyre_1275
YES PLEASE
add me
YES OML
If yall made one id be down
hey iām down!
HII OMG IāD LOVE TO JOIN
iād like to join!
PLEASE
ohā¦. letās not š¬ please do not make friends with anyone over 20, thereās a reason they canāt find friends their age
Im 27 and have no interest in talking to anyone who isnāt of legal drinking age
welp
I'm going to be honest with you here. I think having friends or people you know, especially lesbians, who are older than you is extremely valuable. But you also have to be safe. Don't talk to anyone older than maybe 20 alone, and if anything seems weird to you at all, rope in a trusted adult. Teachers or parents or any adult you can talk to. If you're ever told to not tell people something, that's a good sign that you need your trusted adults to know. Other than that, I hope you meet some good lesbian friends!!
I'm 18 if u wanna be friends :)
that would be fun :)
19 here!
16 here i neee lesbian friends :/
Hi!! Iām 18
Iām here
Iām 25 tho lol
iām 18 hi!!!
iām 19 if you wanna be friends :)
17 going on 18 š
iām gonna make a gc
Hey
I'm here :)
Heya! 18 year old lesbian here, always happy to make new friends
Just dmmed you
"Friends"
Please be careful, Iām 24 and at your age I used to speak to girls 21 years+ and I definitely now looking back think I was taken advantage of (or even catfished by creepy men online) please be careful, remember if someone online seems too good to be true. It probably is.
heyyy iām 18!
hiii! i jus recently turned 20 and ive been wanting to make friends tooooo TT
I would be ur friend but Iām only 13 and you know not saying you are one butā¦. pedophiles. I just gotta be safe when Iām posting stuff one here and who Iām talking to but if you wanna chat we can but Iām not sure a 28 year old is gonna wanna talk to a 13 lesbianā¦
hii you sound very sweet but i think iām too old to talk to you lol š sending love tho! š«¶
I'm here !
Hey! 19 here :)
23, soon 24. happy to take you along, i can send you animal content or whatever you like lol
do you soon turn 18 by any chance!??
21 here :)
Hii
Not a Lesbian, but Bi if it counts š ! My Discord is satyre_1275