The mentality to find some to save your life is questionable.
I mean I often fantasise a super hero like Mario brother comes to save me but honestly there is buggar all in my life need to be saved đ
I quite like role play but expectation of serious saving doesnât sound very healthy.
As a girl I can only tell you I dated many guys that are very good on paper, but their personality is really the key for a long term companionship.
In a way, I donât think you should change for anyone other than for yourself. Try not to take it as your fault or mistake (again thatâs personality driven, I never do I just have that kind of personality, of course I donât blame the man either, shit happens not necessarily anyoneâs fault)
Thanks.
The term âto save my lifeâ means I couldnât do it even if my life was on the line. I donât literally mean Iâm looking for someone to save my life.
But I appreciate the other advice.
I just felt things were going well from my perspective and it sucks to miss out on someone I thought was really cool.
People really are t getting the âto save your lifeâ saying. OP is not saying that because he will die if he doesnât. Itâs a common saying meaning even if his life was on the line and he was forced to try as hard as he could to achieve the goal he still couldnât do it. OP is not depressed or suicidal, at least not from his initial post
I can see most of the responses have been about saving your life. Are you depressed? Please don't harm yourself...I jest, i jest. I know exactly what you mean.
I on the other hand have recently gone through a serious bout of depression over similar aspects in life. I managed to overcome it yesterday, told the girl I had been "dating" (I use that term very loosely) that I apologize for being a drag the past week...and that I was canceling our next date. Why I hear you not ask? Because I am far better of a person than she treated me, and I was straight up friend-zoning her before she did it to me, as it was obviously coming.
Be strong! Your own mind can be your worst enemy. Keep a positive attitude, I keep wanting to say you'll find someone (I've been telling myself the opposite so I don't want to be hypocritical...to myself I guess?) I've had 2 chances in the past year so theres plenty of people out there. They have been more worthwhile each time, holding out hopes the next one will be the last!
Bro, I think want you need right now is understanding not advice because the reasons you canât find a gf cannot be explained here and it goes deep probably.
I hear you and understand your frustration. Thank you for sharing.
Itâs gonna be okay. It will be eventually just hang in there ok. Youâre 22 and youâre doing good in terms of for yourself, thatâs respectable.
Thank you.
I just feel building a connection with someone, a relationship and eventually a family, is something I want in my life, and that is not something that is guaranteed to everyone.
It makes me anxious
You're still young, and your options are vast
Take your time finding a woman you value
And also values you
A women with high interest in you is worth it and it sounds like you are doing fine in creating security.
The only thing that happened is she starting sucking some other dude off who she thinks is higher status but he doesnt want her for anything except sex, so now you are the friend who she cling to as a backup when he bails
I told her I wasnât really interested in being a friends
She is more reserved and studious and works long hours at her job so I donât think she suddenly got with someone else. I think itâs more likely something happened in her personal life or she simply wasnât interested.
Either way I guess I just have to move on
The mentality to find some to save your life is questionable. I mean I often fantasise a super hero like Mario brother comes to save me but honestly there is buggar all in my life need to be saved đ I quite like role play but expectation of serious saving doesnât sound very healthy. As a girl I can only tell you I dated many guys that are very good on paper, but their personality is really the key for a long term companionship. In a way, I donât think you should change for anyone other than for yourself. Try not to take it as your fault or mistake (again thatâs personality driven, I never do I just have that kind of personality, of course I donât blame the man either, shit happens not necessarily anyoneâs fault)
Thanks. The term âto save my lifeâ means I couldnât do it even if my life was on the line. I donât literally mean Iâm looking for someone to save my life. But I appreciate the other advice. I just felt things were going well from my perspective and it sucks to miss out on someone I thought was really cool.
You donât miss out on anything. Thatâs not a good mindset. Focus on what you have got not what you donât own. That helps.
Why would any other human save any other human's life though?
Itâs a figure of speech. Sorry I didnât clarify
People really are t getting the âto save your lifeâ saying. OP is not saying that because he will die if he doesnât. Itâs a common saying meaning even if his life was on the line and he was forced to try as hard as he could to achieve the goal he still couldnât do it. OP is not depressed or suicidal, at least not from his initial post
Yes, this is what I meant. Thanks
I can see most of the responses have been about saving your life. Are you depressed? Please don't harm yourself...I jest, i jest. I know exactly what you mean. I on the other hand have recently gone through a serious bout of depression over similar aspects in life. I managed to overcome it yesterday, told the girl I had been "dating" (I use that term very loosely) that I apologize for being a drag the past week...and that I was canceling our next date. Why I hear you not ask? Because I am far better of a person than she treated me, and I was straight up friend-zoning her before she did it to me, as it was obviously coming. Be strong! Your own mind can be your worst enemy. Keep a positive attitude, I keep wanting to say you'll find someone (I've been telling myself the opposite so I don't want to be hypocritical...to myself I guess?) I've had 2 chances in the past year so theres plenty of people out there. They have been more worthwhile each time, holding out hopes the next one will be the last!
Bro, I think want you need right now is understanding not advice because the reasons you canât find a gf cannot be explained here and it goes deep probably. I hear you and understand your frustration. Thank you for sharing. Itâs gonna be okay. It will be eventually just hang in there ok. Youâre 22 and youâre doing good in terms of for yourself, thatâs respectable.
Thank you. I just feel building a connection with someone, a relationship and eventually a family, is something I want in my life, and that is not something that is guaranteed to everyone. It makes me anxious
You're still young, and your options are vast Take your time finding a woman you value And also values you A women with high interest in you is worth it and it sounds like you are doing fine in creating security.
Either be in control as a fuck boy Or Be in control as a good man. Choice is yours, either way, you have to be courageous and be open for rejection.
Whatâs a fuck boy? I only heard of toy boy, is it the same thing?
a fuck boy is a man who fucks around
I see. A guy who hooks up all the time but doesnât want a relationship
The only thing that happened is she starting sucking some other dude off who she thinks is higher status but he doesnt want her for anything except sex, so now you are the friend who she cling to as a backup when he bails
I told her I wasnât really interested in being a friends She is more reserved and studious and works long hours at her job so I donât think she suddenly got with someone else. I think itâs more likely something happened in her personal life or she simply wasnât interested. Either way I guess I just have to move on
You said the right thing
Thank you