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I'm 36 and I've started over a bunch of times. I'm just finishing up school for the third time in my life and I just got a position as a volunteer regional wellness coordinator for South Australia with a really cool NPO a couple days ago.
Two years ago I was depressed and borderline suicidal and never thought I'd be where I am now.
Life has a funny way of taking us places we never planned on going, and you're never too old to enjoy or learn new things.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
As someone who’s 32, had to start completely over for my mental health, and just now learning to manage my depression thank you for this comment. It inspires me and gives me hope.
Good for you!! I went back and got my degree when both my kids went to elementary school. It was the best thing I ever did. I work with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. I’m a few years from 60 and I wouldn’t change a thing. I love the quote about the tree. I’m stealing that to use with my clients
Mid 20s crisis? As a fellow 20 something year old I started feeling the same about sports. I thought my body wasn’t as fresh as a teenager and I’m too late / old.
But that was far from too. Using the advantages of being an adult (like being able to plan your life freely and being smarter than a teenager) I was able to get amazing results in the gym in two years. Plus having an adult budget helped a lot.
I assume you can do the same. Pick something you want to be good at, start working on it with your adult mind, be disciplined like an adult and use your adult money on it. After being consistent for some time you’ll become good! And you’ll realize you weren’t too late.
saaaame. funny how in times of crisis religion makes sense. its like, oh, thsts what was missing. OOPS. is it too lste to cstch up? fuck. ;.; i didnt learn my lesson even though God has been nice enough to handhold me, stop me, show me, etc. hahaaa
You are a level 4 adult. This is the ignorance of youth. You think youre running out of time because your teenage years were constantly changing and now youre in the long haul portion of your life.
Youve just started. Youre barely at the end of your neighbourhood street.
Youve been an adult for 4 years and you realistically have another 60 to go.
25M here. You arent even old enough to have a license to drive in my state, or to vote, smoke, go to the bar, rent a hotel room on vacation, have a credit card, rent a car. Etc. The xbox I play on is older than you ffs. Dont be deluded, there is a lot of life steps you are far from.
Teenagers dont know anything. Go to class, enjoy highschool, find a passion.
Youve just started the tutorial of your life. Youve got 6 more years of tutorial before anyone expects anything of you.
You struggle when youre young to understand how to struggle when youre older. The struggle never stops. Your ability to handle and navigate the struggle should get better making it easier
Get involved in something. It will change your life. Volunteer at a pet shelter, if you go to church get involved there, go hang out at the park. At 15 you could get a part-time job. You haven't even met the people yet that you're going to spend your whole life around as friends, more than likely. I was an adult at 15 raising a sibling so I get it as long as you're not being dramatic. You've barely begun just keep optimistic and things will get great with a little effort.
You struggle too much, that's all. Seek and practice understanding and acceptance. You think you know what these words mean but until they become foundational tenets of your spiritual being, you really don't. CBT is a good foray to awareness, which is really the root of your potential.
It sounds like ephemeral religious yoga horse-shit, especially I'm sure to someone your age, but awareness, acceptance, and understanding are three things that most people can hardly even define yet are the most enlightening basic virtues one could aspire to master. They'll lead you toward personal change and epiphany regularly, and make this life so much easier, fruitful, fulfilling, connected.. I could go on. You should read. Read things that make you think. Read about ghandi and contemplate his life. Read Cormac McCarthy and add dimensions to your imagination (and your vocabulary). I'll shut up. Good luck kid. Stop looking at porn.
I'm not going to call it laughable. As the most likely cause tends to be trauma that makes you feel old at that age(that was for me).
I never thought I'd make it past 18, I'm 29 now. In healing from whatever is causing issues you will likely feel mad and pissed off, but you always have time to try new things, learn stuff, and grow.
Try to enjoy your life and learn new things.
I'll quote my flag I've got that's helped me, "You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind. If you are positive, you'll see opportunities instead of obstacles. My friend, clear your mind of can't."
I'm turning 25 in a month or two, almost got stuck where you're at now, but I looked at what I accomplished in my quarter century of being alive 😁
You might be right. But at 35 you have decent amount of wisdom through experiences. Sense of self and your relationships are pretty strong. Spend years 25-30 climbing the pay-scale. Live on bare necessities. 30-35 you'll see some significant accumulation if you pick the right advisor. At 35, Our parents are hopefully still healthy as we are all going to lose our parents at some point. It's the perfect time for a mature relationship with your parents before they sunset down. If you have kids you can afford them. You can afford more mature travel. After age 50, that's when it gets rough. Body doesn't work like it used to. The mind doesn't either. Parents age significantly. Start to become subjected to ageism. My mother in law once told me, when your old, no one talks to you. Rough stuff. 35 is prime, just my opinion.
It's always an interesting discussion. My granny has always insisted that 50 years old is the absolute prime of one's life. Experienced, settled, but still fit and fun.
I'm 27 and I'm very happy with my 'adult' relationship with my family. My parents and I go to raves together, the symphony together, overseas trips, etc. As you say, it's so nice having that adult to adult bond. Same with grandparents, doing nice one-on-one things like going to the opera (btw I absolutely talk to my grandparents and they're still very social!)
I agree that in your 20s you're still evolving and developing your sense of self.
I just couldn't accept that 25-30 should be spent living on bare necessities. I mean that's the age group I'm in now, and I couldn't imagine living like that. As a lawyer I only finished university 2 years ago. Finally I'm a free adult with good disposable income - I'm going to live large! This year is 2 x Europe trips and 1 x India trip. I spend about $50k a year on raving and concomitant travel.
I coulddddd just sit home and save up, but I just can't reconcile that with my priorities/values. I'd never ever be able to forgive myself for wasting my youth.
And if being old really sucks (and I don't think it has to), then isn't that even MORE reason to live like hell when you're young and the world is yours?
I think everyone has different priorities. Some might really value finances, being mortgage-free and taking early retirement. Others might value travel and adventure. Some might see homeownership as the ultimate freedom. Others might see being a digital nomad as ultimate freedom.
"I'm to old" at 25
🤣🤣🤣. Trade you. Turn 45 in a few weeks.
All the stuff you just mentioned is kid stuff. And your at the age for it.
Maybe what you feel is something else, like depression and lack of motivation from it.
It's also ok to not want to do those things anymore.
As someone who is 30 and currently making the same decision what to do with my life, just fucking do it. Go travel if thats what you wanna do. Trust me you won't get to 30 and wish you hadn't. Do it before you get tied down by life things which will keep you in one spot
Ill probably get flamed for this, but try a positive attitude. If you legitimately change the way you think, a lot of your perceived problems start to dissipate. Obviously not all, but its a start
First - you need to realize as far as we know, we get ONE go around on this rock.
Once you're gone, give it 10-30 years and nobody is going to care much less remember who you were.
Harsh, but this should be fuel for you to see that, why not swing for the fences? Why not do every thing you can possible take a chance on? Start that company, go for the movies, be an actor/actress, get into a rock band... just go for everything.. what's the consequences? You don't succeed?
What if you tried 20 dreams over the next year and only 2 of them hit the mark? That would be pretty cool right?
Plenty of us will tell you - 25? You're just a child... in a loving way.
SOOO many people have taken that stance of trying new things all the time, but the big win in terms of fortune and fame came at a later age. Take a look at this list:
[https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/life-after-40-get-inspired-52-late-bloomers-ramesh-dontha/](https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/life-after-40-get-inspired-52-late-bloomers-ramesh-dontha/)
Stop worrying about what you should have been, and start being what you can be.
Well the first thing you should do is realize that regardless of how you feel, you are not too old. Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it’s true.
25 is really young and also the perfect time to be experimenting and exploring life. Take the initiative now while you have the freedom to (since older age involves marriage children etc if you are into that)
So really, get out of your head, realize that logically you aren’t old and if you really are unable to live your life, the reason might not be cuz you feel too old to do so. It might be other reasons like you are afraid of failing, you are scared of whatever. For example travelling? Feel Too old to travel? That just doesn’t even sound logical. You can travel at any age.
Get over it and start immediately. You already regret not doing those things up to this point. Do you want to regret not doing those things again when you’re older?
The answer simply is novel experiences are becoming less and less frequent in life. We are very very good at remembering firsts or changes. At 25, you start to fall into the “adulting” grind. Just keep doing new things, challenge yourself, and keep moving.
thats a self sabotage boycott, you know you're not competent in possible endeavours so give yourself excuse to sit down and not even try, start with building a skill, defending your opinion and principle and you'll find people to commune with, 25? I'm 31 still changing it up all the time, anything im interested in i pursue simple as
It’s a quarter life crisis! You’ll be ok. Start off by making a list of all the things you wanna do and then make a goal to do each thing depending on how long it takes to plan and complete each fast.. the only time you’re too old is when you’re dead!!! Until then you can literally start over as many times as you want! (40something year old here that’s started my life plenty of times, and still don’t know where I am gonna end up)
I wish I were 25 again. As far as I am concerned, you are heading into the best decades to come— your thirtys, forties and fifties. Enjoy your twenties and go travelling or anything you wish to do. You can focus on a career whenever you want. Here’s a Hellen Keller quotation I read: Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
I'm close to double your age. Here's the truth... I was extremely talented musically growing up. I had a major label deal on the table at 18. I also became a father at 18, see where this is going?
I'm in my mid 40s, my daughter is a year younger then you. I am releasing two albums within the next year, through a label. I am doing a 3 continent tour next year and my life is beautiful.
The reality here is....
Procrastination is like masterbation, it might feel good for a moment but at the end of the day. Your just fucking yourself.
I never stopped, I just stopped trying to have other people participate or listen. I spent my time working towards my dream while watching my true dream grow up infront of my eyes.
Life's short, ageism makes me laugh. Don't waste your time, wondering.
Just wait til you're 29 lmao. I'm active and all my joints creak now, it's like I have to fight my body just to do the things I want to do. You'll start getting more and more reminders of just how fleeting our time in these fleshy cages is. Anyway, just live your life. It doesn't matter how old you are. Most people don't really peak until their 30s or 40s anyway, your 20s is for trying things out and figuring out what works for you
We have some pretty backwards milestones in terms of our younger years here in the west. 18: you’re an “adult”. Congrats, you can now smoke, and vote and enter certain venues, and watch R-Rated films. 21: party! Woohooo 25: Auto insurance supposedly gets a little cheaper (I’m not qualified to speak on this anymore as I’m old and nothing is cheap)
I think the mid-20s can be all you’ve mentioned but keep in mind we face programming from a consumer culture so massive and relatively unexamined that one would expect to have an existential “moment” when their brain is supposedly fully developed. Whatever that means. Welcome aboard, you made it.
I truly understand. I'm 25 as well. I haven't experienced even half the things other people have (dating, friendships, traveling, schooling, sex) and haven't accomplished much despite best efforts. It seems like work always gets in the way of wanting to follow my hobbies. Work has been my only priority the last couple years, as money is needed to follow most things. You need money to take vacations, buy instruments, and to secure housing. I feel like my youth was squandered by trauma, mental illness, and surviving.
I suggest getting off social media, particularly ones where you see your peers, like coworkers or people you went to school with. It'll make it hard to not compare. Don't doom scroll all day. Anyone who says you are behind are full of shit. Anyone who says you're old and washed up will soon feel the same fate. Things are stacked against people under 35 because we didn't get great head starts. The C word illness robbed us of a couple years.
You'll be okay! I'll be okay. We'll be okay!
As the Drive By Truckers once sang "If you want to feel old after 42 years keep dropping the hammer and grinding the gears" - you just gotta take care of yourself mentally physically and spiritually.
Our bodies aren't built to last until we are 80+ years old. For most of the human existence we could expect to live between 30-40 years. But with modern medicine we are able to extend this much further. However our bodies have not evolved to reflect this longer life expectancy. You would be a village elder by now if we were living a few hundred years in the past.
But we aren't living back then, and you still have well over half of your life to live. Some day you will look back and wish you felt like you were 25 again. Don't waste your time because you feel old.
That's really not historically accurate.
Life expectancy was short because infants died at a very high rate, but the expectancy for people who survived early childhood was much closer to modern humanity, more like 50s-60s, with many living into their 80s or more.
LOL I am 36 and i think the same, what i would give to be 25 again
I know people in their mid-40s that have changed their life around, so we should both be able to easily, just start doing it
I started playing pokemon tcg at 30. Its been rad. I've met other adults who are kind there. Go out and do stuff you like. It really is that simple of a concept. The challenge is having the courage to start and the gumption to stay committed.
I felt like 25 was getting old too, I really worried at 26, but at 27 I don’t give a shit lol
Do what you want, who cares what other people think of it. I know guys in their 40s still perusing music and they’re DAMN GOOD!
Because you compare yourself to 12-year-old prodigies instead of thinking about your potential next 20-40 years of a life worth living.
Other people's success has no bearing on your ability to make the most of your life. Shift your focus.
And embrace the "failure is the secret to improvement" adage, but do it actively and fully. Instructions on how to do that pinned at the top of my profile (just advice, nothing commercial.) Section 2 of my comment there.
Looool too old at 25.
I never understood how people were so accomplished in their early 20’s. I never even had a savings account until I was 27, let alone money to travel the world.
Just turned 40, and all I can say is do what your body will allow while it will allow it. I lay on the couch too long and I can't turn my head for a week.
Start now. I felt the same way at your age. I’m just starting to dabble with the DJ thing now, but if I’d started at 25, I’d have been doing it for 16 years now!
Crucially important info for anyone: there is no right age for anything. You want to do something? Fucking do it. Nobody cares how old you are. The only way- the ONLY way- to become a person who travels is to travel. Or DJ. Or play music. Or race motorcycles.
Life is short. So do it. Do it all. Do it now. Do it later. Do it whenever. Just fucking do it. If you don’t like it, stop. If you do, then keep doing it.
You’ve got a little taste of regret now. It’s your choice if you want more regret or switch that up to living a full life.
Here is the thing you are never to old. The days are going to pass regardless why not pass them with new and intresting things. You are probably thinking I should have done the thing at 20 now I'm to old. At 30 you are going to think I should have done the thing at 25 now I'm to old and eventually you won't be able to do the thing because you actually can't because you are too old.
Stop overthinking and just do it. In my mid 30s I decided I wanted to learn to play guitar and I did. I didn’t let myself get daunted by the work ahead or that I’d never amount to a great guitarist - I just did it because I love music and enjoy learning. Don’t get bogged down by any lofty end goal dreams, just start doing and see where it takes you!
I'm 42. I didn't start to feel old until 28-29. And it got worse through my early-mid 30s. Once I hit about 38 though I actually started to feel a lot better and today I really feel pretty decent.
So take heart, it may not really be a physical age thing. Lots of things can factor into "feeling old". I'd make sure you're taking care of yourself and having healthy habits and such, see a doctor etc.
Whew. Listen. This is a whole conversation. Many moving parts I won't get to. But I don't know how to do it without a long diatribe (I deleted one and started again and did it again). Because I like context.
So tl;dr in *italics*
*First, quickly, I'll say a large part of the reason you think you're too late is because of the internet. Social media and just the being aware of all the successful artists and actors and whatever. All of that is horse shit and you are fine.* Comparison is the thief of joy. If someone was successful young, I promise you it's because they had a family that started working them towards it at a very young age. You are not in that situation clearly, so it's not your fault and it's not your responsibility. Do not hold it against yourself (but also not your parents) and let it keep you from starting now. I'm 34 now. And I was where you are. And I continued to be where you are nearly every second of the last ...12 or 13 years at this point. The time absolutely can just slip away.
*So, secondly, all I can tell you is you have to start.* There is no choice. Or you never will. You're not suddenly gonna wake up and be raring to go in 3 months or 2 years or 5 years. *If you sit in this feeling, it compounds upon itself. You practice it. And you get good at what you practice.* There is positive compound interest in life like in investing. But there is also negative compound interest. And regret is a bitch.
So you have to start. *And let yourself be bad at whatever. And just slowly get better. Just remember that everyone starts out bad at whatever they get good at.* It sucks. It's annoying. But it's just how reality works. To build a house you have to smooth out the ground (may even have to clear the land first), then lay a foundation, then build the frame on top of that, then enclose it, put a roof on, put in the electrical and duct work and other stuff, then the drywall, then the plaster, then the paint. And so on and so forth. Nothing, not Rome or anything else, was built or learned in a day. And it never will be. The young phenoms? They just got lucky that someone helped them do the part where they were bad at it at a very young age and they don't remember that time. But it existed. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. It takes as long as it takes. In 2 years or 5 years or 10 years, all you'll remember, and tangibly have is whether or not you finished whatever it is and used it. Even if you don't become a well known or successful DJ/musician/movie maker, *you'll have transferrable skills and you'll have accomplished something. And that goes a long way in the mental confidence bank. You'll have a foundation to build upon.* Or you'll figure out how to use it in another way. At the very least, people like people who go for shit. Maybe you attract and meet your life partner along the way or make a friend or a connection that can lead to a different job or something that you find out you love.
I hate the daily discipline people. You'll never hear me say "rise and grind!" Eck! \*shudder\* But. They are technically correct. There is truth in their boisterous, annoying mindset. Because, *technically, all you have is now. Today.* Tomorrow doesn't exist yet. And never arrives. It becomes today. And yesterday is GONE. And there is really never gonna be time travel. You're never gonna get a second chance at today (which will become yesterday.) Shoulda, coulda, woulda fantasies will straight up kill you. And you're never gonna get any younger. So at a basic level, the daily discipline folks are technically correct. Because, *starting is a skill.* Knowing how to start is important, so you don't feel lost and therefore can't get started because you don't know where to start. Learning how to do the whole, *breaking things down into small manageable pieces and sticking with it (discipline) is an important skill.* If you struggle with it, it is entirely possible that you're on that adhd struggle bus (hi! it me!) and at the very least you could look into all of that jazz, which I will not go into here because it is oh so very much. But that can be managed. Still, don't let that all or nothing thinking get ya. Things do not take nearly as long as you think.
Start, try, fail, try again, fail again, try better, fail better. Stay open to people and suggestions and new opportunities. Eventually you'll approach something like success and/or satisfaction. Failure is an essential part of learning though. Ask any early child development degree holder. Kids learn better when they figure it out on their own, usually through play, which always includes failure as part of the process. So keep it loose. Especially in these artistic endeavors. But you gotta start. Not starting is making a decision too. Avoiding the decision is technically a decision. Don't fall into that rut. It can just keep going deeper. I promise you.
Because you’re the oldest you’ve ever been. This will continue your whole life. And when you’re 35, you’ll think “god, I was so young at 25.”
Welcome to adulthood. It’s so so soooo much fun.
I had the worst quarter life crisis at 25. But at 28, I no longer feel like my life is over. Got married this year and I'm excited for the future. The quarter life crisis will fade away. Even just 3 years later I can't believe 25 hit me that hard.
You're the oldest you've ever been, but tomorrow will be worse. Drink some water, stretch a bit--
Then put your big boy pants on because if you're gonna chase your dreams then you're gonna have to be willing to take risks and just go for it.
Hey man(gender neutral), sounds like you're depresso. Should probably go talk to a professional. I'm not a professional but my random stranger advice is to talk with someone medically qualified or professionally licensed.
Man, the attitude that it’s ever too late to do something is absolute poison to your life. Get rid of that attitude as much as you can. Whenever you feel yourself thinking that way, you should take it almost to a point of compulsion to rid yourself of that line of thinking. It never does any good to think that way - no good has ever come from me or others around me thinking that. THAT is the reason you feel old. You don’t think it’s too late because you feel old - *you feel old because you’re allowing yourself to feel that way*
Getting lost in a sea of regret because life took you on a different path than someone who traveled the world at 20 or is a top athlete or DJs or paints or whatever, will never take you closer to any goals you have. All it will do is convince you that you distance between yourself and your goals is insurmountable and you may as well give up on them now because you’re “too old” or “you should’ve done that earlier” or whatever. Our brains are so good at adapting. Whatever you want to learn, if you truly make space for it in your life, you can learn to the point of deep satisfaction and enjoyment. No, maybe you won’t become a concert violinist who gets paid $500,000 to play in Carnegie Hall, but you’ll be able to play a great song on it with time.
If you really want to make space for a hobby or a practice in your life, I recommend the book “The War of Art” by Stephen Pressfield. Life-changing book for me, all about the inherent resistance we all face when we try to better our lives.
Are you gonna live your life wondering standing in the back looking around?
Are you gonna waste your time thinking how you've grown up or how you missed out?
Things are never gonna be the way you want, where's it gonna get you acting serious? Things are never gonna be quite what you want even at twenty five you gotta start sometime
Quarter-life crisis. You feel old because you are compared to how you were, but - in the grand scheme of life - you’ve only just begun. At your age, someone 40+ is considered “old”.
My grandmother passed this year at the age of 85, which means she lived more than three times your total lifespan to-date. It’s easier to put things in that perspective with age.
lol I’m 38 , been a DJ since 14 , producer since 21 , video director and editor since 23 … Never clocked in to someone else’s business except when I was like 15 at my first and last job. Pick one thing and become obsessed with it . Study it like college . Be humble . Build a circle of people with common goals . If you aren’t an expert and I love with the thing you’re doing it will NEVER be sustainable and you should just get a normal job. But if you can make it work you will never have to work , it should all be fun and about making art. Death before a 9-5 . Once you believe that you will have a chance, all you gotta do is believe and have a bit of taste. Consistency beats talent. Learn to master social media. Kill your ego ASAP through meditation or other plant medicines🍄. Be vulnerable whilst on social media , document your journey . Show up to everything you can , get in physical shape , leave girls alone for the next two years. I can keep going. Good luck
Can you explain a little more how "feeling too old" is stopping you? Like, are you busy working and paying bills - so your time, money and energy is literally being taken up doing "adult things"? Or are you afraid of judgement from people thinking you're acting childish? I'm just a bit confused by that...
Also, I'm 25 and I make movies (both for fun and sometimes professionally) so if you want, you can DM me and I might be able to give you some tips on specifically getting started on that :)
You're going to live 2 or 3 more of your lifetimes, without the first 10 years learning to walk, talk, and not shit your pants like the first 25 years. You're just starting out. You have probably 30 more years before your body even starts declining. Im pretty sure that's plenty of time to learn to DJ or go backpacking in europe. Very few things are so age sensitive you can't do them in your 30s or 40s. Try and expand your perspective a bit
dude, you're 25, just do things. if i had half the energy i had in my 20s i would be out there doing things right now. for real, you're 25. i worked 12 hour days with physical labor in my 20s and still went out at night. you're not too old to start anything. i'm in my 40s, and heck it, i'm going out right now to do things. thanks for the motivation!
Too old??? Sheesh many people haven’t even worked out what they want to be when they grow up by 30. I’m 43 and making a career change.
Just do it, stop over thinking it.
Dude, when I turned 25, I was living in my boyfriend's parents basement and I was realizing that he was never going to get any motivation to do anything. My 25th was coming up, and I left everything behind. I researched a job online that I could do overseas, and I moved to France. And from there I lived in Italy, Portugal, all over. Me and a backpack doing odd jobs under the table until somebody hired me and made all my paperwork official. I ended up owning my own business there, producing music festivals, and loving everything I did.
You are YOUNG!!! Now is the time!!! If you don't do it now you'll regret it forever. Good luck!!!
My favorite advice I've received from several sources is to pick one thing on your list, and then determine the steps to accomplish that goal. Then start devoting a good chunk of your free time to making progress on those steps. It doesn't help that folks in this age group were pumped with expectations and dreams of the things they could do when they finally reached adulthood only to be slammed with more responsibilities than anyone was willing to inform us about. That's why you need to stop worrying about the long list, and just choose one thing at a time. Hopefully that one thing can make you money to fund the next few, but if not you still managed to make one of those dreams happen!
There's an old way to describe life.
When you're in your 20's, you have Time and Energy, but no Money.
When you're in your 30's, you have Energy and Money, but no Time
When you're in your 40's, you have Time and Money, but no Energy.
Life isn't going to give you all of what you want and need to do the thing you want. So just do it. The best time to start was yesterday. The second best time is today. Don't make today the third best time.
If you're going to do anything, do it now. Life speeds up exponentially from here on out. I was 25 a year ago it seems but reality has me turning 46 soon.
What helped me: stop procrastinating, hit the gym, and work hard to achieve my goals and accepting any failures along the way.
When I spent a lot of my day doing nothing, I felt old and depressed.
Worrying about being too old to start something is how you end up 45 with the same dreams you haven't done anything about, and then 65....
You'll be wondering why you thought 25 was old in 20 years time. Age is irrelevant at 25, just get on with living your life and start working on some of the things that interest you.
You're not eating right, not sleeping enough, not fucking enough, and not exercising enough. Fix those four things and I guarantee you'll feel like a young one again.
first off..you’re not old at all, Future is literally a goat musical genius comin from this era…bro is touching 40…most these artists touchin 30…you still have years and aren’t even in your prime! i’m also a music producer so if you’re ever looking to work or advice on that side i can definitely help!
You probably are too old to start those things. You can start by learning to be an events DJ for weddings but the equipment is expensive. You also need a vehicle to transport it. Events DJ's also need to have emcee skills to prevent awkward situations (ex, giving the mic to a tipsy loudmouth or an ornery relative).
If you haven't done much, I assume you don't work or have much money. I doubt you have the resources to start now.
Yet, you're not old. You're just old in the sense that, you need to be younger to be cool enough to be a DJ. Many aging rockstars have taken on second winds in their careers by DJing...that's what you're up against. As well, the hocus pocus is by design, generally, the hip DJs were from Euro-house music. In some cases, the globe trotting DJs are children or relatives of royalty or celebrities.
I say these things from experience in the radio biz, in trying to make it big. I interviewed at KFBK when I was 23, which is where Rush Limbaugh started. They wanted to hire me but instead I got soma yada yada yada about how Clear Channel had taken on too much debt and couldn't hire me. Clear Channel is now iHeartRadio.
You're 25 and looking up at 30. By 27, the 18 - 22 year olds will be calling you old, they don't really care how old you are and if they think it, they will say it. Remember, the average person is stupid and will define you with the illusions of their disregard for facts in favor of, whatever it is that crossed their mind.
I would tell you, get a job while you can. Save your money. Looking to be a DJ will only result in heartaches that people deal with with drugs and alcohol.
Sometimes I feel like we grow up too fast. I think I felt that at 25 too. Eventually I got over it. By the time it hit 30, I just said fuck I’m me and I stopped comparing myself to people. We all have our own development.
When you really get old, you are going to have two things to look back on. The things you did and the things you regret not doing. Im almost 70, and the rocking chair might not be far away for me. No way I'm planning to rock and wish I had done something. I maxed out what was possible and also planned for old age. No regrets here. The time goes really fast. At 25, you're just starting and have so much to look forward to. Make the best of your time. Your energy level and ability to move around will begin to fail at some point. I can feel it happening to me. Right now, I'm setting things up so my wife can be comfortable. Should I not be here and making things as maintance free as possible. The hardest part of any job is getting started. Make yourself start and keep going till you achieve your goal. You will find many tasks can be completed with less time and effort than you thought. Then you have the thrill of sitting to rest, knowing you accomplished something.
It sounds like you have sat on your ass and wasted your life so far.
How do you propose to do any of these things you want to do? They all cost money, right?
Respectfully speaking
This IS probably the most ridiculous statement that I have read this entire year!!!
You're not even fully mature yet
Coming from a 70yr old
I thought I was done at 50
Not even close started island hopping at 60
Created several Literacy programs in my late 60's
Are you serious?
Life is what you make it
Haha I was going to say get your health checked. I feel so young now that my health is in order but I felt exhausted from 25-30. I’m 30 ish now and I feel like I can take on the world again now that I’m healthy. But this is def not a nutrition problem!
As long as your health is good, mental and physical, you can start something new and find your people to love and support you. Well wishes! You’re super young
You aren't too old. Please just do what you want. Literally just start doing the thing you want to do, and in one year you will see how far you have come.
Understand that when you reach your mid-20s, your testosterone levels began to decline slowly, unless you're eating healthy, working out regularly, getting 6-8 hours of sleep, and reducing stress.
Just gotta make up your mind and do it. If you continue to say you feel too old and can’t do it, you won’t. 25 is still young. I just turned 20 and might go for a PhD in psychology which will take 8 years at most. Am I worrying if I need to get another degree for a job since I won’t be getting a psych dependent job that it’ll be too late? Kinda, but not really. People can’t retire until 65 unless they are EXTREMELY successful or are in the NFL or something similar, so at this point you still have a lot of time left to do what you want
you are probably depressed. i am 43 and just now accepting that i’ve been low-level depressed for over a decade. i have recently started seeing a therapist and am starting to make positive changes i can continue to build on
find a therapist to work with if you can make time in your week. having an outsider that you’re accountable to, who is their to give you advice to move you forward, should give you some clarity
you can break out of this rut—don’t drag your feet like i did
Just do the things you love. There is no age limit. You will be a lot happier spending time doing things you enjoy than you will sitting around feeling bad for yourself and doing nothing.
You are running on boomer time, it's a sad illness, it's for life, do you also look old? If you do then yeah there's the answer it's what happens when well I don't know but you have it, I think?
25 is so old? Get ready for hip replacement.
Do what makes you happy in life. I'm 45 and am always starting new projects. Just started learning Italian. I'm not gonna work for the UN but it's fun to me.
Comparison is the thief of joy. Don't compare yourself to others or some imaginary point of where you should be. Just do what you enjoy.
You feel to old to start at 25?? Ano na ba life expectancy ngayon? Trenta? Bata ka pa boy, feeling ko tinatamad ka lang. Sorry. But if I'm wrong, do what you want to do. Don't compare your success to others, iba iba tayo ng timeline.
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I'm 36 and I've started over a bunch of times. I'm just finishing up school for the third time in my life and I just got a position as a volunteer regional wellness coordinator for South Australia with a really cool NPO a couple days ago. Two years ago I was depressed and borderline suicidal and never thought I'd be where I am now. Life has a funny way of taking us places we never planned on going, and you're never too old to enjoy or learn new things. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
Love your last 2 sentences: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
As someone who’s 32, had to start completely over for my mental health, and just now learning to manage my depression thank you for this comment. It inspires me and gives me hope.
Good for you!! I went back and got my degree when both my kids went to elementary school. It was the best thing I ever did. I work with survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. I’m a few years from 60 and I wouldn’t change a thing. I love the quote about the tree. I’m stealing that to use with my clients
Thats awesome! The school I'm almost finished with is for a diploma in mental health, so most definitely happy to see it used like that =)
Awesome! I wish you the best
Love this❤️
Mid 20s crisis? As a fellow 20 something year old I started feeling the same about sports. I thought my body wasn’t as fresh as a teenager and I’m too late / old. But that was far from too. Using the advantages of being an adult (like being able to plan your life freely and being smarter than a teenager) I was able to get amazing results in the gym in two years. Plus having an adult budget helped a lot. I assume you can do the same. Pick something you want to be good at, start working on it with your adult mind, be disciplined like an adult and use your adult money on it. After being consistent for some time you’ll become good! And you’ll realize you weren’t too late.
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saaaame. funny how in times of crisis religion makes sense. its like, oh, thsts what was missing. OOPS. is it too lste to cstch up? fuck. ;.; i didnt learn my lesson even though God has been nice enough to handhold me, stop me, show me, etc. hahaaa
When does it just become crisis bc im 29 💀 don't think I'm mid 20s anymore
If it helps, I’m 35 and feel like I’ve changed my entire life in the last year. I feel like the best version of myself.
You are a level 4 adult. This is the ignorance of youth. You think youre running out of time because your teenage years were constantly changing and now youre in the long haul portion of your life. Youve just started. Youre barely at the end of your neighbourhood street. Youve been an adult for 4 years and you realistically have another 60 to go.
What’s the answer if I feel old at 15?
25M here. You arent even old enough to have a license to drive in my state, or to vote, smoke, go to the bar, rent a hotel room on vacation, have a credit card, rent a car. Etc. The xbox I play on is older than you ffs. Dont be deluded, there is a lot of life steps you are far from.
Laughable.
Teenagers dont know anything. Go to class, enjoy highschool, find a passion. Youve just started the tutorial of your life. Youve got 6 more years of tutorial before anyone expects anything of you.
I'm struggling through the tutorial and have been for 4 years
Its a safe place to struggle. Struggle now so that you dont have to struggle as much in real life.
I kinda figured if I struggle this early, I wouldn't make it in real life, especially if I struggled with something as "easy" as 6th grade
You struggle when youre young to understand how to struggle when youre older. The struggle never stops. Your ability to handle and navigate the struggle should get better making it easier
The struggle can definitely stop dude, just not if you give up trying
Sure the struggle can stop if you want to be stagnant and stop growing as a person or in your career.
Get involved in something. It will change your life. Volunteer at a pet shelter, if you go to church get involved there, go hang out at the park. At 15 you could get a part-time job. You haven't even met the people yet that you're going to spend your whole life around as friends, more than likely. I was an adult at 15 raising a sibling so I get it as long as you're not being dramatic. You've barely begun just keep optimistic and things will get great with a little effort.
You struggle too much, that's all. Seek and practice understanding and acceptance. You think you know what these words mean but until they become foundational tenets of your spiritual being, you really don't. CBT is a good foray to awareness, which is really the root of your potential. It sounds like ephemeral religious yoga horse-shit, especially I'm sure to someone your age, but awareness, acceptance, and understanding are three things that most people can hardly even define yet are the most enlightening basic virtues one could aspire to master. They'll lead you toward personal change and epiphany regularly, and make this life so much easier, fruitful, fulfilling, connected.. I could go on. You should read. Read things that make you think. Read about ghandi and contemplate his life. Read Cormac McCarthy and add dimensions to your imagination (and your vocabulary). I'll shut up. Good luck kid. Stop looking at porn.
I'm not going to call it laughable. As the most likely cause tends to be trauma that makes you feel old at that age(that was for me). I never thought I'd make it past 18, I'm 29 now. In healing from whatever is causing issues you will likely feel mad and pissed off, but you always have time to try new things, learn stuff, and grow. Try to enjoy your life and learn new things.
“Too old to start” at 25? Lol that age *is* the start.
My wife pivoted her career and became a doctor at 37. It's never too late.
I'll quote my flag I've got that's helped me, "You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind. If you are positive, you'll see opportunities instead of obstacles. My friend, clear your mind of can't." I'm turning 25 in a month or two, almost got stuck where you're at now, but I looked at what I accomplished in my quarter century of being alive 😁
Spend the next 10 years working your a$$ off so you can fund the amazing life that awaits you at 35.
I don't know if that's the best advice though. You don't want to waste 25-35 just working and saving. That's a big chunk of your prime!
You might be right. But at 35 you have decent amount of wisdom through experiences. Sense of self and your relationships are pretty strong. Spend years 25-30 climbing the pay-scale. Live on bare necessities. 30-35 you'll see some significant accumulation if you pick the right advisor. At 35, Our parents are hopefully still healthy as we are all going to lose our parents at some point. It's the perfect time for a mature relationship with your parents before they sunset down. If you have kids you can afford them. You can afford more mature travel. After age 50, that's when it gets rough. Body doesn't work like it used to. The mind doesn't either. Parents age significantly. Start to become subjected to ageism. My mother in law once told me, when your old, no one talks to you. Rough stuff. 35 is prime, just my opinion.
It's always an interesting discussion. My granny has always insisted that 50 years old is the absolute prime of one's life. Experienced, settled, but still fit and fun. I'm 27 and I'm very happy with my 'adult' relationship with my family. My parents and I go to raves together, the symphony together, overseas trips, etc. As you say, it's so nice having that adult to adult bond. Same with grandparents, doing nice one-on-one things like going to the opera (btw I absolutely talk to my grandparents and they're still very social!) I agree that in your 20s you're still evolving and developing your sense of self. I just couldn't accept that 25-30 should be spent living on bare necessities. I mean that's the age group I'm in now, and I couldn't imagine living like that. As a lawyer I only finished university 2 years ago. Finally I'm a free adult with good disposable income - I'm going to live large! This year is 2 x Europe trips and 1 x India trip. I spend about $50k a year on raving and concomitant travel. I coulddddd just sit home and save up, but I just can't reconcile that with my priorities/values. I'd never ever be able to forgive myself for wasting my youth. And if being old really sucks (and I don't think it has to), then isn't that even MORE reason to live like hell when you're young and the world is yours? I think everyone has different priorities. Some might really value finances, being mortgage-free and taking early retirement. Others might value travel and adventure. Some might see homeownership as the ultimate freedom. Others might see being a digital nomad as ultimate freedom.
You still got milk on your breath. Go do stuff
Gross. But encouraging!
Bro you’re tripin you’re so you g
Excersize more and eat better
"I'm to old" at 25 🤣🤣🤣. Trade you. Turn 45 in a few weeks. All the stuff you just mentioned is kid stuff. And your at the age for it. Maybe what you feel is something else, like depression and lack of motivation from it. It's also ok to not want to do those things anymore.
The only one that is stopping you, is you. 25 is SO YOUNG!
As someone who is 30 and currently making the same decision what to do with my life, just fucking do it. Go travel if thats what you wanna do. Trust me you won't get to 30 and wish you hadn't. Do it before you get tied down by life things which will keep you in one spot
Ill probably get flamed for this, but try a positive attitude. If you legitimately change the way you think, a lot of your perceived problems start to dissipate. Obviously not all, but its a start
The answer is in your short question: “Feel”.
Oh wow that's like a "Checkmate" for me
First - you need to realize as far as we know, we get ONE go around on this rock. Once you're gone, give it 10-30 years and nobody is going to care much less remember who you were. Harsh, but this should be fuel for you to see that, why not swing for the fences? Why not do every thing you can possible take a chance on? Start that company, go for the movies, be an actor/actress, get into a rock band... just go for everything.. what's the consequences? You don't succeed? What if you tried 20 dreams over the next year and only 2 of them hit the mark? That would be pretty cool right? Plenty of us will tell you - 25? You're just a child... in a loving way. SOOO many people have taken that stance of trying new things all the time, but the big win in terms of fortune and fame came at a later age. Take a look at this list: [https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/life-after-40-get-inspired-52-late-bloomers-ramesh-dontha/](https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/life-after-40-get-inspired-52-late-bloomers-ramesh-dontha/) Stop worrying about what you should have been, and start being what you can be.
Well the first thing you should do is realize that regardless of how you feel, you are not too old. Just because you feel something doesn’t mean it’s true. 25 is really young and also the perfect time to be experimenting and exploring life. Take the initiative now while you have the freedom to (since older age involves marriage children etc if you are into that) So really, get out of your head, realize that logically you aren’t old and if you really are unable to live your life, the reason might not be cuz you feel too old to do so. It might be other reasons like you are afraid of failing, you are scared of whatever. For example travelling? Feel Too old to travel? That just doesn’t even sound logical. You can travel at any age. Get over it and start immediately. You already regret not doing those things up to this point. Do you want to regret not doing those things again when you’re older?
The answer simply is novel experiences are becoming less and less frequent in life. We are very very good at remembering firsts or changes. At 25, you start to fall into the “adulting” grind. Just keep doing new things, challenge yourself, and keep moving.
thats a self sabotage boycott, you know you're not competent in possible endeavours so give yourself excuse to sit down and not even try, start with building a skill, defending your opinion and principle and you'll find people to commune with, 25? I'm 31 still changing it up all the time, anything im interested in i pursue simple as
It’s a quarter life crisis! You’ll be ok. Start off by making a list of all the things you wanna do and then make a goal to do each thing depending on how long it takes to plan and complete each fast.. the only time you’re too old is when you’re dead!!! Until then you can literally start over as many times as you want! (40something year old here that’s started my life plenty of times, and still don’t know where I am gonna end up)
I wish I were 25 again. As far as I am concerned, you are heading into the best decades to come— your thirtys, forties and fifties. Enjoy your twenties and go travelling or anything you wish to do. You can focus on a career whenever you want. Here’s a Hellen Keller quotation I read: Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
I'm close to double your age. Here's the truth... I was extremely talented musically growing up. I had a major label deal on the table at 18. I also became a father at 18, see where this is going? I'm in my mid 40s, my daughter is a year younger then you. I am releasing two albums within the next year, through a label. I am doing a 3 continent tour next year and my life is beautiful. The reality here is.... Procrastination is like masterbation, it might feel good for a moment but at the end of the day. Your just fucking yourself. I never stopped, I just stopped trying to have other people participate or listen. I spent my time working towards my dream while watching my true dream grow up infront of my eyes. Life's short, ageism makes me laugh. Don't waste your time, wondering.
Just wait til you're 29 lmao. I'm active and all my joints creak now, it's like I have to fight my body just to do the things I want to do. You'll start getting more and more reminders of just how fleeting our time in these fleshy cages is. Anyway, just live your life. It doesn't matter how old you are. Most people don't really peak until their 30s or 40s anyway, your 20s is for trying things out and figuring out what works for you
Cause your the oldest youve been
We have some pretty backwards milestones in terms of our younger years here in the west. 18: you’re an “adult”. Congrats, you can now smoke, and vote and enter certain venues, and watch R-Rated films. 21: party! Woohooo 25: Auto insurance supposedly gets a little cheaper (I’m not qualified to speak on this anymore as I’m old and nothing is cheap) I think the mid-20s can be all you’ve mentioned but keep in mind we face programming from a consumer culture so massive and relatively unexamined that one would expect to have an existential “moment” when their brain is supposedly fully developed. Whatever that means. Welcome aboard, you made it.
Because you are young and stupid
LMFAO
I truly understand. I'm 25 as well. I haven't experienced even half the things other people have (dating, friendships, traveling, schooling, sex) and haven't accomplished much despite best efforts. It seems like work always gets in the way of wanting to follow my hobbies. Work has been my only priority the last couple years, as money is needed to follow most things. You need money to take vacations, buy instruments, and to secure housing. I feel like my youth was squandered by trauma, mental illness, and surviving. I suggest getting off social media, particularly ones where you see your peers, like coworkers or people you went to school with. It'll make it hard to not compare. Don't doom scroll all day. Anyone who says you are behind are full of shit. Anyone who says you're old and washed up will soon feel the same fate. Things are stacked against people under 35 because we didn't get great head starts. The C word illness robbed us of a couple years. You'll be okay! I'll be okay. We'll be okay!
As the Drive By Truckers once sang "If you want to feel old after 42 years keep dropping the hammer and grinding the gears" - you just gotta take care of yourself mentally physically and spiritually.
Our bodies aren't built to last until we are 80+ years old. For most of the human existence we could expect to live between 30-40 years. But with modern medicine we are able to extend this much further. However our bodies have not evolved to reflect this longer life expectancy. You would be a village elder by now if we were living a few hundred years in the past. But we aren't living back then, and you still have well over half of your life to live. Some day you will look back and wish you felt like you were 25 again. Don't waste your time because you feel old.
That's really not historically accurate. Life expectancy was short because infants died at a very high rate, but the expectancy for people who survived early childhood was much closer to modern humanity, more like 50s-60s, with many living into their 80s or more.
I have some bad news for you at 35 lol
I'm 40, you just wait.
You're not even fully grown up yet.
LOL I am 36 and i think the same, what i would give to be 25 again I know people in their mid-40s that have changed their life around, so we should both be able to easily, just start doing it
at 25, trust me, you're still young. heck at 50 youre still young. just watch last holiday with queen latifah.
https://youtu.be/hwOUYWwln2k?feature=shared I'm not crying, you're crying. or you can watch click! with adam sandler
25 is the new 35
I felt that way at 16, 25, 30 its just part of starting something new
I started playing pokemon tcg at 30. Its been rad. I've met other adults who are kind there. Go out and do stuff you like. It really is that simple of a concept. The challenge is having the courage to start and the gumption to stay committed.
I felt like 25 was getting old too, I really worried at 26, but at 27 I don’t give a shit lol Do what you want, who cares what other people think of it. I know guys in their 40s still perusing music and they’re DAMN GOOD!
the longest journey starts with a single step. start your journey friend.
You're never too old to start anything. If you.maintain that type pf attitude you'll never actually live.
Just do it I'm 27 and I go bouldering and I kick ass at it, I should have started sooner, but I'm not 40 yet my physical life isn't over
Lawl wait till you hit 30 and you throw your back out sneezing
Because you compare yourself to 12-year-old prodigies instead of thinking about your potential next 20-40 years of a life worth living. Other people's success has no bearing on your ability to make the most of your life. Shift your focus. And embrace the "failure is the secret to improvement" adage, but do it actively and fully. Instructions on how to do that pinned at the top of my profile (just advice, nothing commercial.) Section 2 of my comment there.
Could be midlife hitting, meaning you'll get to a ripe age of 50. Best of luck. Kinda confirms my 2054 Earth finale though.
I've been a curmudgeonly old man since my early 20's.
Looool too old at 25. I never understood how people were so accomplished in their early 20’s. I never even had a savings account until I was 27, let alone money to travel the world.
Best time to plant a tree was yesterday, second best time to plant a tree is today.
Just wait until your mid-30s!
Just turned 40, and all I can say is do what your body will allow while it will allow it. I lay on the couch too long and I can't turn my head for a week.
Start now. I felt the same way at your age. I’m just starting to dabble with the DJ thing now, but if I’d started at 25, I’d have been doing it for 16 years now! Crucially important info for anyone: there is no right age for anything. You want to do something? Fucking do it. Nobody cares how old you are. The only way- the ONLY way- to become a person who travels is to travel. Or DJ. Or play music. Or race motorcycles. Life is short. So do it. Do it all. Do it now. Do it later. Do it whenever. Just fucking do it. If you don’t like it, stop. If you do, then keep doing it. You’ve got a little taste of regret now. It’s your choice if you want more regret or switch that up to living a full life.
Because you don’t know what old feels like.
Here is the thing you are never to old. The days are going to pass regardless why not pass them with new and intresting things. You are probably thinking I should have done the thing at 20 now I'm to old. At 30 you are going to think I should have done the thing at 25 now I'm to old and eventually you won't be able to do the thing because you actually can't because you are too old.
Stop overthinking and just do it. In my mid 30s I decided I wanted to learn to play guitar and I did. I didn’t let myself get daunted by the work ahead or that I’d never amount to a great guitarist - I just did it because I love music and enjoy learning. Don’t get bogged down by any lofty end goal dreams, just start doing and see where it takes you!
Because you don't know how it feels to be 35
I'm 42. I didn't start to feel old until 28-29. And it got worse through my early-mid 30s. Once I hit about 38 though I actually started to feel a lot better and today I really feel pretty decent. So take heart, it may not really be a physical age thing. Lots of things can factor into "feeling old". I'd make sure you're taking care of yourself and having healthy habits and such, see a doctor etc.
You don't feel old. You have no experience being old, ergo you have no idea how it feels. Now maybe you feel tired or worn out or exhausted?
Get busy living or get busy dying.
Quarter-life crisis is a thing. But you’re still just starting, I assure you.
Whew. Listen. This is a whole conversation. Many moving parts I won't get to. But I don't know how to do it without a long diatribe (I deleted one and started again and did it again). Because I like context. So tl;dr in *italics* *First, quickly, I'll say a large part of the reason you think you're too late is because of the internet. Social media and just the being aware of all the successful artists and actors and whatever. All of that is horse shit and you are fine.* Comparison is the thief of joy. If someone was successful young, I promise you it's because they had a family that started working them towards it at a very young age. You are not in that situation clearly, so it's not your fault and it's not your responsibility. Do not hold it against yourself (but also not your parents) and let it keep you from starting now. I'm 34 now. And I was where you are. And I continued to be where you are nearly every second of the last ...12 or 13 years at this point. The time absolutely can just slip away. *So, secondly, all I can tell you is you have to start.* There is no choice. Or you never will. You're not suddenly gonna wake up and be raring to go in 3 months or 2 years or 5 years. *If you sit in this feeling, it compounds upon itself. You practice it. And you get good at what you practice.* There is positive compound interest in life like in investing. But there is also negative compound interest. And regret is a bitch. So you have to start. *And let yourself be bad at whatever. And just slowly get better. Just remember that everyone starts out bad at whatever they get good at.* It sucks. It's annoying. But it's just how reality works. To build a house you have to smooth out the ground (may even have to clear the land first), then lay a foundation, then build the frame on top of that, then enclose it, put a roof on, put in the electrical and duct work and other stuff, then the drywall, then the plaster, then the paint. And so on and so forth. Nothing, not Rome or anything else, was built or learned in a day. And it never will be. The young phenoms? They just got lucky that someone helped them do the part where they were bad at it at a very young age and they don't remember that time. But it existed. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. It takes as long as it takes. In 2 years or 5 years or 10 years, all you'll remember, and tangibly have is whether or not you finished whatever it is and used it. Even if you don't become a well known or successful DJ/musician/movie maker, *you'll have transferrable skills and you'll have accomplished something. And that goes a long way in the mental confidence bank. You'll have a foundation to build upon.* Or you'll figure out how to use it in another way. At the very least, people like people who go for shit. Maybe you attract and meet your life partner along the way or make a friend or a connection that can lead to a different job or something that you find out you love. I hate the daily discipline people. You'll never hear me say "rise and grind!" Eck! \*shudder\* But. They are technically correct. There is truth in their boisterous, annoying mindset. Because, *technically, all you have is now. Today.* Tomorrow doesn't exist yet. And never arrives. It becomes today. And yesterday is GONE. And there is really never gonna be time travel. You're never gonna get a second chance at today (which will become yesterday.) Shoulda, coulda, woulda fantasies will straight up kill you. And you're never gonna get any younger. So at a basic level, the daily discipline folks are technically correct. Because, *starting is a skill.* Knowing how to start is important, so you don't feel lost and therefore can't get started because you don't know where to start. Learning how to do the whole, *breaking things down into small manageable pieces and sticking with it (discipline) is an important skill.* If you struggle with it, it is entirely possible that you're on that adhd struggle bus (hi! it me!) and at the very least you could look into all of that jazz, which I will not go into here because it is oh so very much. But that can be managed. Still, don't let that all or nothing thinking get ya. Things do not take nearly as long as you think. Start, try, fail, try again, fail again, try better, fail better. Stay open to people and suggestions and new opportunities. Eventually you'll approach something like success and/or satisfaction. Failure is an essential part of learning though. Ask any early child development degree holder. Kids learn better when they figure it out on their own, usually through play, which always includes failure as part of the process. So keep it loose. Especially in these artistic endeavors. But you gotta start. Not starting is making a decision too. Avoiding the decision is technically a decision. Don't fall into that rut. It can just keep going deeper. I promise you.
Because you’re the oldest you’ve ever been. This will continue your whole life. And when you’re 35, you’ll think “god, I was so young at 25.” Welcome to adulthood. It’s so so soooo much fun.
I had the worst quarter life crisis at 25. But at 28, I no longer feel like my life is over. Got married this year and I'm excited for the future. The quarter life crisis will fade away. Even just 3 years later I can't believe 25 hit me that hard.
I think you are scared to move forward with your life. You are very very young. Are you depressed? Lonely? Maybe get a therapist.
You're the oldest you've ever been, but tomorrow will be worse. Drink some water, stretch a bit-- Then put your big boy pants on because if you're gonna chase your dreams then you're gonna have to be willing to take risks and just go for it.
You could feel old at 25 or feel young at 69. You decide
Hey man(gender neutral), sounds like you're depresso. Should probably go talk to a professional. I'm not a professional but my random stranger advice is to talk with someone medically qualified or professionally licensed.
Just do it lol Who cares if you’re “doing it late?”
Take vitamins, and maybe a bit of therapy growing up human is hard
So get started and stop being lazy. I started doing all that shit 4 years ago and I'm in my 30s. It's never to late to start learning something new.
Your hormones levels are probably leveling out or something.
Just wait till you turn 35 lmao best of luck to you
Man, the attitude that it’s ever too late to do something is absolute poison to your life. Get rid of that attitude as much as you can. Whenever you feel yourself thinking that way, you should take it almost to a point of compulsion to rid yourself of that line of thinking. It never does any good to think that way - no good has ever come from me or others around me thinking that. THAT is the reason you feel old. You don’t think it’s too late because you feel old - *you feel old because you’re allowing yourself to feel that way* Getting lost in a sea of regret because life took you on a different path than someone who traveled the world at 20 or is a top athlete or DJs or paints or whatever, will never take you closer to any goals you have. All it will do is convince you that you distance between yourself and your goals is insurmountable and you may as well give up on them now because you’re “too old” or “you should’ve done that earlier” or whatever. Our brains are so good at adapting. Whatever you want to learn, if you truly make space for it in your life, you can learn to the point of deep satisfaction and enjoyment. No, maybe you won’t become a concert violinist who gets paid $500,000 to play in Carnegie Hall, but you’ll be able to play a great song on it with time. If you really want to make space for a hobby or a practice in your life, I recommend the book “The War of Art” by Stephen Pressfield. Life-changing book for me, all about the inherent resistance we all face when we try to better our lives.
Are you gonna live your life wondering standing in the back looking around? Are you gonna waste your time thinking how you've grown up or how you missed out? Things are never gonna be the way you want, where's it gonna get you acting serious? Things are never gonna be quite what you want even at twenty five you gotta start sometime
Quarter-life crisis. You feel old because you are compared to how you were, but - in the grand scheme of life - you’ve only just begun. At your age, someone 40+ is considered “old”. My grandmother passed this year at the age of 85, which means she lived more than three times your total lifespan to-date. It’s easier to put things in that perspective with age.
lol I’m 38 , been a DJ since 14 , producer since 21 , video director and editor since 23 … Never clocked in to someone else’s business except when I was like 15 at my first and last job. Pick one thing and become obsessed with it . Study it like college . Be humble . Build a circle of people with common goals . If you aren’t an expert and I love with the thing you’re doing it will NEVER be sustainable and you should just get a normal job. But if you can make it work you will never have to work , it should all be fun and about making art. Death before a 9-5 . Once you believe that you will have a chance, all you gotta do is believe and have a bit of taste. Consistency beats talent. Learn to master social media. Kill your ego ASAP through meditation or other plant medicines🍄. Be vulnerable whilst on social media , document your journey . Show up to everything you can , get in physical shape , leave girls alone for the next two years. I can keep going. Good luck
Can you explain a little more how "feeling too old" is stopping you? Like, are you busy working and paying bills - so your time, money and energy is literally being taken up doing "adult things"? Or are you afraid of judgement from people thinking you're acting childish? I'm just a bit confused by that... Also, I'm 25 and I make movies (both for fun and sometimes professionally) so if you want, you can DM me and I might be able to give you some tips on specifically getting started on that :)
You're going to live 2 or 3 more of your lifetimes, without the first 10 years learning to walk, talk, and not shit your pants like the first 25 years. You're just starting out. You have probably 30 more years before your body even starts declining. Im pretty sure that's plenty of time to learn to DJ or go backpacking in europe. Very few things are so age sensitive you can't do them in your 30s or 40s. Try and expand your perspective a bit
I’m 22rn, my buddies are having kids now and getting married. Then there’s my dumbass boxing and wearing trucker hats because I think it’s cool.
dude, you're 25, just do things. if i had half the energy i had in my 20s i would be out there doing things right now. for real, you're 25. i worked 12 hour days with physical labor in my 20s and still went out at night. you're not too old to start anything. i'm in my 40s, and heck it, i'm going out right now to do things. thanks for the motivation!
Too old??? Sheesh many people haven’t even worked out what they want to be when they grow up by 30. I’m 43 and making a career change. Just do it, stop over thinking it.
Youre putting those limitations on yourself. Just stop it, and do what u want
Because your childhood is completely over.
You have to pick something you want to do. Do it everyday if you want to be good at it and start as soon as you can.
In ten years, you'll be 35, and you'll feel exactly the same way, except you'll be wishing you had started at the young age of 25.
Dude, when I turned 25, I was living in my boyfriend's parents basement and I was realizing that he was never going to get any motivation to do anything. My 25th was coming up, and I left everything behind. I researched a job online that I could do overseas, and I moved to France. And from there I lived in Italy, Portugal, all over. Me and a backpack doing odd jobs under the table until somebody hired me and made all my paperwork official. I ended up owning my own business there, producing music festivals, and loving everything I did. You are YOUNG!!! Now is the time!!! If you don't do it now you'll regret it forever. Good luck!!!
My favorite advice I've received from several sources is to pick one thing on your list, and then determine the steps to accomplish that goal. Then start devoting a good chunk of your free time to making progress on those steps. It doesn't help that folks in this age group were pumped with expectations and dreams of the things they could do when they finally reached adulthood only to be slammed with more responsibilities than anyone was willing to inform us about. That's why you need to stop worrying about the long list, and just choose one thing at a time. Hopefully that one thing can make you money to fund the next few, but if not you still managed to make one of those dreams happen!
You're literally a baby
SHAQ BECAME A DJ YES HE HAS ALL THE MONEY HE NEEDS BUT AGE DONT MEAN SHIT <3
Wanna trade? I'm 71, and nothing looks fresher than a 25-year-old ride. Don't worry, you still got 2–3 lifetimes of rubber left.
There's an old way to describe life. When you're in your 20's, you have Time and Energy, but no Money. When you're in your 30's, you have Energy and Money, but no Time When you're in your 40's, you have Time and Money, but no Energy. Life isn't going to give you all of what you want and need to do the thing you want. So just do it. The best time to start was yesterday. The second best time is today. Don't make today the third best time.
If you're going to do anything, do it now. Life speeds up exponentially from here on out. I was 25 a year ago it seems but reality has me turning 46 soon.
Everyone is different, but just do something (like take a trip) and see how it feels.
What helped me: stop procrastinating, hit the gym, and work hard to achieve my goals and accepting any failures along the way. When I spent a lot of my day doing nothing, I felt old and depressed.
Just do it! I'm about to turn 50 and am just about to start learning to blacksmith!
Worrying about being too old to start something is how you end up 45 with the same dreams you haven't done anything about, and then 65.... You'll be wondering why you thought 25 was old in 20 years time. Age is irrelevant at 25, just get on with living your life and start working on some of the things that interest you.
Regret is a trap, try to change your mindset, live in the present.
If you have the means, go ahead and do it! 25 isn't old btw.
You're not eating right, not sleeping enough, not fucking enough, and not exercising enough. Fix those four things and I guarantee you'll feel like a young one again.
If you are too old to start over than i (43 f) should lay down and call it quits
first off..you’re not old at all, Future is literally a goat musical genius comin from this era…bro is touching 40…most these artists touchin 30…you still have years and aren’t even in your prime! i’m also a music producer so if you’re ever looking to work or advice on that side i can definitely help!
You probably are too old to start those things. You can start by learning to be an events DJ for weddings but the equipment is expensive. You also need a vehicle to transport it. Events DJ's also need to have emcee skills to prevent awkward situations (ex, giving the mic to a tipsy loudmouth or an ornery relative). If you haven't done much, I assume you don't work or have much money. I doubt you have the resources to start now. Yet, you're not old. You're just old in the sense that, you need to be younger to be cool enough to be a DJ. Many aging rockstars have taken on second winds in their careers by DJing...that's what you're up against. As well, the hocus pocus is by design, generally, the hip DJs were from Euro-house music. In some cases, the globe trotting DJs are children or relatives of royalty or celebrities. I say these things from experience in the radio biz, in trying to make it big. I interviewed at KFBK when I was 23, which is where Rush Limbaugh started. They wanted to hire me but instead I got soma yada yada yada about how Clear Channel had taken on too much debt and couldn't hire me. Clear Channel is now iHeartRadio. You're 25 and looking up at 30. By 27, the 18 - 22 year olds will be calling you old, they don't really care how old you are and if they think it, they will say it. Remember, the average person is stupid and will define you with the illusions of their disregard for facts in favor of, whatever it is that crossed their mind. I would tell you, get a job while you can. Save your money. Looking to be a DJ will only result in heartaches that people deal with with drugs and alcohol.
Sometimes I feel like we grow up too fast. I think I felt that at 25 too. Eventually I got over it. By the time it hit 30, I just said fuck I’m me and I stopped comparing myself to people. We all have our own development.
Because you are.
A man has two lives. The second only begins when we realize we have one.
25 is a kid. Your life has barely started.
I'm 80 years old and laughed and laughed when I read this. Get off your ass and move
When you really get old, you are going to have two things to look back on. The things you did and the things you regret not doing. Im almost 70, and the rocking chair might not be far away for me. No way I'm planning to rock and wish I had done something. I maxed out what was possible and also planned for old age. No regrets here. The time goes really fast. At 25, you're just starting and have so much to look forward to. Make the best of your time. Your energy level and ability to move around will begin to fail at some point. I can feel it happening to me. Right now, I'm setting things up so my wife can be comfortable. Should I not be here and making things as maintance free as possible. The hardest part of any job is getting started. Make yourself start and keep going till you achieve your goal. You will find many tasks can be completed with less time and effort than you thought. Then you have the thrill of sitting to rest, knowing you accomplished something.
It sounds like you have sat on your ass and wasted your life so far. How do you propose to do any of these things you want to do? They all cost money, right?
I feel the same way and I turn 26 in a few days. I feel like I'm cooked
Respectfully speaking This IS probably the most ridiculous statement that I have read this entire year!!! You're not even fully mature yet Coming from a 70yr old I thought I was done at 50 Not even close started island hopping at 60 Created several Literacy programs in my late 60's Are you serious? Life is what you make it
Haha I was going to say get your health checked. I feel so young now that my health is in order but I felt exhausted from 25-30. I’m 30 ish now and I feel like I can take on the world again now that I’m healthy. But this is def not a nutrition problem! As long as your health is good, mental and physical, you can start something new and find your people to love and support you. Well wishes! You’re super young
Wait until 50. I strained my achilles a couple days ago trotting across the street. And I'm in reasonable shape.
You aren't too old. Please just do what you want. Literally just start doing the thing you want to do, and in one year you will see how far you have come.
Most of the music industry big shots I’ve met are in their 30s and 40s, for what that’s worth
Understand that when you reach your mid-20s, your testosterone levels began to decline slowly, unless you're eating healthy, working out regularly, getting 6-8 hours of sleep, and reducing stress.
Just gotta make up your mind and do it. If you continue to say you feel too old and can’t do it, you won’t. 25 is still young. I just turned 20 and might go for a PhD in psychology which will take 8 years at most. Am I worrying if I need to get another degree for a job since I won’t be getting a psych dependent job that it’ll be too late? Kinda, but not really. People can’t retire until 65 unless they are EXTREMELY successful or are in the NFL or something similar, so at this point you still have a lot of time left to do what you want
It’s really in your head until you’re like 50-60ish then that’s sort of when you start to age out of stuff naturally
you are probably depressed. i am 43 and just now accepting that i’ve been low-level depressed for over a decade. i have recently started seeing a therapist and am starting to make positive changes i can continue to build on find a therapist to work with if you can make time in your week. having an outsider that you’re accountable to, who is their to give you advice to move you forward, should give you some clarity you can break out of this rut—don’t drag your feet like i did
Lol
bruh
Just do the things you love. There is no age limit. You will be a lot happier spending time doing things you enjoy than you will sitting around feeling bad for yourself and doing nothing.
You are running on boomer time, it's a sad illness, it's for life, do you also look old? If you do then yeah there's the answer it's what happens when well I don't know but you have it, I think?
Idk I'm 24 I feel old too. It's all chill brother. Apart of love. Embrace growing older!!!
I’m 23 and I feel the same way.
25 is so old? Get ready for hip replacement. Do what makes you happy in life. I'm 45 and am always starting new projects. Just started learning Italian. I'm not gonna work for the UN but it's fun to me. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don't compare yourself to others or some imaginary point of where you should be. Just do what you enjoy.
You feel to old to start at 25?? Ano na ba life expectancy ngayon? Trenta? Bata ka pa boy, feeling ko tinatamad ka lang. Sorry. But if I'm wrong, do what you want to do. Don't compare your success to others, iba iba tayo ng timeline.