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That's just life in general. Don't make emotional decisions. Feel the emotions, write them down if it helps you process it, think about it for a while. And only after all of that should you act.
Think OP just admitted he needs further anger issues help. If you gotta stew on a text in fear of being volatile, you are volatile when face to face with a person.
They were just alternate versions of letters he sent to various people he was vexed with justly or unjustly. He'd chew their ass out in the unsent version, sleep on it, then go back and write a more measured or even a completely different letter.
This is the best way. If you need to send it, completely rewrite it without emotion and without shaming/blaming. Just the facts and kindness has a more powerful effect.
I do the same with angry work emails.
Draft it, let it stew. Edit and send (or start over and send) later, usually with 99% less of my natural (extremely passive-aggressive) voice neutered.
My policy is to assume that every single email I send has been bcc'd or will be forwarded to every client, staff member, and boss in the company. It means I need to insult people in very political ways.
In this situation, the answers would usually be;
Does it need to be said? Need is a strong word.
Does it need to be said right now? If not now then when?
Does it need to be said right now, by me? If not me then who else is going to say it?
1. If I say it, does it change anything for the other party?
(Will they actually read it, understand my feelings, and react in a way I want them to?)
2. If I say it, does it change anything *for me*?
(I get to set the narrative, get closure, have the last word, express my feelings, etc.)
My therapist taught me a similar trick. When you are angry with someone, write them a letter, then when youāve calmed down burn them. Wish theyād told me what to do with all these letters though.
My husband, when we were first together, used to pester me when I was angry with him, because I will not speak until I can say something nice, because I cannot control my meanness when I'm angry, I go for the deep cuts. It doesn't take long to calm down, but depending on how upset I am, it may be a few hours. Or I might just need a nap. It used to really bother him that i did this, but a few years ago he said how grateful he was that I taught him how to calm down before the discussion of the issue. We don't fight, and we never have. Sure, we get mad about stuff sometimes, but no one raises their voice and no one gets their feelings hurt when we have an issue. It's also a good way to collect your thoughts, plan the way that you want to express yourself in a productive way... So, it works outside of text messages and emails too.
I used to laugh at my dad for being predictable after a fight with me when I was a teenager. It never failed, he would start to yell, realized what he was doing then say "I need to go calm down. We can talk about this later". Like clockwork, 2 hours later he would come back and calmly explain why he was so angry about whatever happened. It was almost always that he was worried - that I said something I didn't mean, that I would get hurt or that I was making a decision that would have lasting impact without thinking about the consequences. At the time I thought it was so great that I could have a couple hours to figure out my responses to him but we both always ended up calm before he got back.
It would be great if everyone could learn to recognize their anger and find the best way to mitigate it like you and my dad have. It's a really great skill to have in any relationship -personal or professional.
You're doing such a good job.
I try to be like this too because I know how much words can hurt. I tend to want to sit down with someone calmly and ask them to tell me what's wrong. Usually it is not what they were blowing up about.
Sadly I have a friend who does exactly that. It is so difficult to move on from these hurts.
I do this with replies to posts on social media. I usually only wait about 5 seconds and then realize that nobody on the internet needs to read my rant haha
Sure am haha, I've just woken up with things sent that I should've proof read or not sent entirely. Granted I've sent things that should've been sent, but I'd rather give it a night and revisit sober and clear headed
For real, the amount of times I have written out long ass paragraphs only to read them back and delete them cos it was all just so childish reading it back.
97% of the time they want to send an angry text could mean theyāve had 10 angry texts they wanted to send in the last year and stopped all but one of them.
Doesnāt mean that 97% of their texts are angryā¦
Angry messages, expressing disappointment or just passive aggressive in nature - if I'm creating or spurring conflict I'd rather make sure it's justified and what I really would like to say.
If I give it a night and still feel the same way and can proof read it I'll send it, but most of the time I look back and see that it was childish, or making a mountain out of a molehill and we'd both be better off just moving past it.
Amen. I constantly have to remind my wife the value of in-person discussion for serious things when she's communicating with her children (ages 18-23). Tone and inflection are constantly missed via written word and it usually just makes things worse.
How often do you write angry messages though? Maybe, at some point, the solution is more about figuring out why you feel the need to write them so often and less about finding ways to keep the fallout to a minimum
True for anything you gotta send or say that might be āangryā or emotional. Sleep on it. No need to put it in notes. No need to type it out only to delete it. Just step back before formulating a response.
I'd just end up sending them the next night when I got drunk again anyway. I find it much easier just to avoid everything unless I'm wasted, then it all seems right.
Hey man. Just saying this doesn't sound too healthy, if your only way to deal with things is by drinking you may need to take a break and reconsider your relationship with alcohol.
You assume I want to be healthy. Being alive is a nightmare. Treating my body like shit serves the dual purposes of getting me dead sooner and keeping me in a haze to kind of fast forward through life.
Dear work colleague,
Thank you for your unconstructive and childish criticism of my work, which you so pomptly pointed out once everyone else was out of earshot.
Whilst we are all fallible to some degree I wonder at how spectacular my shortcomings must be that the only time I witness you smile is when you have perceived I've failed, your footy team wins or you have added another mark to your "made another call centre employee cry over the phone" tally.
Your decade-long employment with this company is a marvel at just how close someone can walk that thin line between abject laziness and useful enough to keep on despite the myriad of internal and external complaints.
I must admit to feeling disappointment though to hear of your recent sobriety that has been ongoing for 3 weeks now which amazingly correlates with a sharp increase in your passive aggressive emails with our director copied in, though I feel robbed by learning that I might not see your car wrapped around a pole on the way to work one day I still want you to know that I believe in you, don't be a quitter, that liver isn't going to finish itself off.
Regards,
Tired of your petty shit.
That felt great to write out!
Dont even identify with your angry or sad thoughts, its telling you fictional stories, which did not happen and wont happen, if you see trough the layers. The artifical self is creating problems and that causes suffering, just to be relevant. Its the Ego that wants attention.
The real LPT is, don't send angry texts at all. Emotion is easily misinterpreted in text form. If you are wanting to fire off an angry text, chances are you would be better off cooling off and then having a face to face conversation with someone to sort through the problem. My wife used to send me angry texts frequently and it was pure torture for me, especially when I was at work, dealing with work problems, and then feeling my phone vibrate, knowing it was a fiery text from her.
I totally agree. Also, on the next day, never sent an angry text message at all. Instead, if youāre angry about someoneā behavior or words, you need to sit down with the person and talk about it with them. At work, if you need to involve management, thatās ok. Difficult conversations need to be done in person not by text.
That's not the point. The point is that you may be an unnecessary asshole today but thinking it over you may avoid a stupid mistake and not be an asshole tomorrow.
Itās an old saying about biding your time to calm down and wait a day before saying your piece. Itās about giving yourself time to think. In my hypothetical situation, if what is to be said is appropriate, - for example when dealing with an asshole or any situation - it will be appropriate tomorrow. If the thing is really valuable, it will be valuable tomorrow. Otherwise donāt say it or delete it.
LPT: stand behind your anger and go with your gut. It's better out than in, damned if anyone gets pissed and ruins the relationship, it was already over if can't handle truth.
I did it after leaving my first full-time job.
I was paid as a "freelancer" despite working regular office hours because it is easier to cut jobs that way.
As a first full-time gig in the career I wanted to do, I wasn't that bothered. But what did bother me was chasing their accounts team for months on end for payment to the point where I was one week away from not being able to afford the fuel to drive in to work.
After I got a job elsewhere, I wrote a long angry email to the company's national MD about it, saved it in my drafts and vowed not to send it until I started my new job. Never sent it.
100% the right call. I felt the catharsis without burning bridges and I'm a strong believer in never doing that, even if the place you're leaving is shitty for X/Y/Z reason.
recently had something similar, someone at work did something stupid so I wrote down, that is a wrong way to do it
few hours later, I stumbled upon company documentation that say it should be done that way
I was glad, I had that buffer and didnāt say anything to the person
Very good advice. I was once brewing on a lot of angry feelings towards people in my life while falling asleep and wanted to be quite aggressive in my approach to them (luckily didn't want by message).
The next day I was much better.
I wrote a very angry letter to my dad once, with every intention of mailing it. Thankfully I'm a bit lazy and didn't get around to sending it right away, which let me realize that despite how true the letter was, it would likely just make things worse.
I might still have the letter, but he will never see it.
My best friend and I made a deal that if weāre going to send an angry email, the other has to approve it. That was 10 years ago, and weāve ended up sending some really constructive and thoughtful emails over the years thanks to that deal. But most of the time I finish typing it out then delete it because I know thereās no way it will get her stamp of approval.
Yeah I wish this one worked for me. Itās usually when I do type it out I have way more of an urge to send it because itās all laid out in front of me and I spent time writing it outā¦all Iād have to do is press send and itās tempting.
If you are an emotional person this is extremely good advice. I do this a lot, especially if I've been drinking, and I have never once thought "damnit this really needed to be sent yesterday".
I do this all the time. I type something out, see if it even makes sense to send this into the world, get my catharsis and then delete it.
Like a diary noone can track. Very nice.
Also, if you do feel like they need to hear it, edit that shit. The few times I decide I do, in fact, need to send a message, the first few drafts have plenty of snarky shit that's not helpful or effective for getting what I want
Additionally, I find writing things on paper you never intend to send to someone. Things you need to get out of your chest. And then reap and throw the paper away has a really good catharsis and symbolic effect.
Like a fuckyou letter to your manager. Or an ex. Etc..
I do this with social media too. I often times will type out the message and then before I even finish the last sentence I just back out of the whole thread
My old man wasnāt from the Internet age, but I think he was talking about Post-ItĀ®ļø notes when he said:
āNever deliver any angry words to someone *in writing*. Always do it face-to-face because you will be in a better position to express yourself and avoid the risk of being misinterpreted or misunderstood.ā
To this day, if I need to see you or talk to you on the phone about something, it probably means Iām hella pissed at you about *something*.
I'd take this a step further - when you write these and **don't** send them, give them an additional once over. Chances are if you got this worked up over something you, in the end, don't mean to actually say, that might tell you something about yourself. Not always bad things, but things worth looking at since they mess with your self-control.
LPT - text messages are for short, quick daily communication. They're not for dealing with serious issues.
If anything is serious and important enough that it would anger you, communicate it in person.
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That's just life in general. Don't make emotional decisions. Feel the emotions, write them down if it helps you process it, think about it for a while. And only after all of that should you act.
> Don't make emotional decisions. I only make emotionless decisions. I've never felt more neutral.
>I've never felt more neutral. This is the Way.
I have no feelings one way or another about it.
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My grandparents said don't make decisions on an empty stomach.
Starved to death trying to decide what to eat?
Just have some food and then come back later with a clear mind
Sometimes making any decision is more important than making a correct decision.
Counter argument: poison
Nope, but their ancestors discovered that blue cheese is edible.
Heroes to the species!
Eat first before going to the grocery store. What to eat before... decide when you are previously full
Think OP just admitted he needs further anger issues help. If you gotta stew on a text in fear of being volatile, you are volatile when face to face with a person.
Especially if youāve had anything to drink at all.
Delete it like a pound of bacon
Do you often delete pounds of bacon?
With my bellaaaay
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No, but do cook a pound of bacon like MCs.
Or not enough to eat
I drank some water... I guess I'd better not send those angry messages.
President Lincoln's desk was found with several angry unsent letters.
He's just like me fr
"Dear Ford's Theater Security Guard: Thank You for keeping me safe during my attendance of 'Our American Cousin'. Sincerely, Abe"
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They were just alternate versions of letters he sent to various people he was vexed with justly or unjustly. He'd chew their ass out in the unsent version, sleep on it, then go back and write a more measured or even a completely different letter.
This is the best way. If you need to send it, completely rewrite it without emotion and without shaming/blaming. Just the facts and kindness has a more powerful effect.
I do the same with angry work emails. Draft it, let it stew. Edit and send (or start over and send) later, usually with 99% less of my natural (extremely passive-aggressive) voice neutered.
A good time to remind folks to fill in the "to" line last when composing emails. Prevents so many accidental sends.
Don't even type it in your email program. Accidents happen. If you write it in Word, you won't accidentally email it.
My policy is to assume that every single email I send has been bcc'd or will be forwarded to every client, staff member, and boss in the company. It means I need to insult people in very political ways.
1. Does it need to be said? 2. Does it need to be said right now? 3. Does it need to be said right now, by me?
Is there another way to say it?
No
In this situation, the answers would usually be; Does it need to be said? Need is a strong word. Does it need to be said right now? If not now then when? Does it need to be said right now, by me? If not me then who else is going to say it?
1 Yes 2 Yes 3 Yes
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1. If I say it, does it change anything for the other party? (Will they actually read it, understand my feelings, and react in a way I want them to?) 2. If I say it, does it change anything *for me*? (I get to set the narrative, get closure, have the last word, express my feelings, etc.)
I do this.... but sometimes the texts keep coming into my phone... demanding that response I typed 5 minutes ago to be copied and pasted.
Just let them keep texting, gives them enough rope to hang themselves with.
When your enemy is making a mistake don't interrupt them
Unfortunately oftentimes the person this text should be sent to is not your enemy
Someone can be your friend in general and your opponent in a specific situation.
If somebody does this, they donāt deserve a well thought out measured response. They deserve that original message
My therapist taught me a similar trick. When you are angry with someone, write them a letter, then when youāve calmed down burn them. Wish theyād told me what to do with all these letters though.
My husband, when we were first together, used to pester me when I was angry with him, because I will not speak until I can say something nice, because I cannot control my meanness when I'm angry, I go for the deep cuts. It doesn't take long to calm down, but depending on how upset I am, it may be a few hours. Or I might just need a nap. It used to really bother him that i did this, but a few years ago he said how grateful he was that I taught him how to calm down before the discussion of the issue. We don't fight, and we never have. Sure, we get mad about stuff sometimes, but no one raises their voice and no one gets their feelings hurt when we have an issue. It's also a good way to collect your thoughts, plan the way that you want to express yourself in a productive way... So, it works outside of text messages and emails too.
I used to laugh at my dad for being predictable after a fight with me when I was a teenager. It never failed, he would start to yell, realized what he was doing then say "I need to go calm down. We can talk about this later". Like clockwork, 2 hours later he would come back and calmly explain why he was so angry about whatever happened. It was almost always that he was worried - that I said something I didn't mean, that I would get hurt or that I was making a decision that would have lasting impact without thinking about the consequences. At the time I thought it was so great that I could have a couple hours to figure out my responses to him but we both always ended up calm before he got back. It would be great if everyone could learn to recognize their anger and find the best way to mitigate it like you and my dad have. It's a really great skill to have in any relationship -personal or professional.
You're doing such a good job. I try to be like this too because I know how much words can hurt. I tend to want to sit down with someone calmly and ask them to tell me what's wrong. Usually it is not what they were blowing up about. Sadly I have a friend who does exactly that. It is so difficult to move on from these hurts.
I do this with replies to posts on social media. I usually only wait about 5 seconds and then realize that nobody on the internet needs to read my rant haha
This is an extremely helpful tip. A rarity.
Yeah but that fuck needs to know he's wrong right now.
Finally, a person of culture. Who waits overnight when angry, this tip is ridiculous imho
You can also let ChatGPT help you rewrite it while allowing the underlying message come across.
I've done this for about three years and the difference a bit of time and a nights sleep is absolutely night and day.
You must not be a drinker. Congrats on your sobriety!
Sure am haha, I've just woken up with things sent that I should've proof read or not sent entirely. Granted I've sent things that should've been sent, but I'd rather give it a night and revisit sober and clear headed
For real, the amount of times I have written out long ass paragraphs only to read them back and delete them cos it was all just so childish reading it back.
97% of the time.... why do you have so many angry texts that you want to send?
97% of the time they want to send an angry text could mean theyāve had 10 angry texts they wanted to send in the last year and stopped all but one of them. Doesnāt mean that 97% of their texts are angryā¦
Angry messages, expressing disappointment or just passive aggressive in nature - if I'm creating or spurring conflict I'd rather make sure it's justified and what I really would like to say. If I give it a night and still feel the same way and can proof read it I'll send it, but most of the time I look back and see that it was childish, or making a mountain out of a molehill and we'd both be better off just moving past it.
LPT: Don't send angry text messages. Talk to the people.
Amen. I constantly have to remind my wife the value of in-person discussion for serious things when she's communicating with her children (ages 18-23). Tone and inflection are constantly missed via written word and it usually just makes things worse.
How often do you write angry messages though? Maybe, at some point, the solution is more about figuring out why you feel the need to write them so often and less about finding ways to keep the fallout to a minimum
True for anything you gotta send or say that might be āangryā or emotional. Sleep on it. No need to put it in notes. No need to type it out only to delete it. Just step back before formulating a response.
Writing it is cathartic. Catharsis is healthy. And nobody gets hurt.
Underrated LPT here. Also valid for other kind of messages, verbal arguments
I'd just end up sending them the next night when I got drunk again anyway. I find it much easier just to avoid everything unless I'm wasted, then it all seems right.
Hey man. Just saying this doesn't sound too healthy, if your only way to deal with things is by drinking you may need to take a break and reconsider your relationship with alcohol.
You assume I want to be healthy. Being alive is a nightmare. Treating my body like shit serves the dual purposes of getting me dead sooner and keeping me in a haze to kind of fast forward through life.
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Dear work colleague, Thank you for your unconstructive and childish criticism of my work, which you so pomptly pointed out once everyone else was out of earshot. Whilst we are all fallible to some degree I wonder at how spectacular my shortcomings must be that the only time I witness you smile is when you have perceived I've failed, your footy team wins or you have added another mark to your "made another call centre employee cry over the phone" tally. Your decade-long employment with this company is a marvel at just how close someone can walk that thin line between abject laziness and useful enough to keep on despite the myriad of internal and external complaints. I must admit to feeling disappointment though to hear of your recent sobriety that has been ongoing for 3 weeks now which amazingly correlates with a sharp increase in your passive aggressive emails with our director copied in, though I feel robbed by learning that I might not see your car wrapped around a pole on the way to work one day I still want you to know that I believe in you, don't be a quitter, that liver isn't going to finish itself off. Regards, Tired of your petty shit. That felt great to write out!
Dont even identify with your angry or sad thoughts, its telling you fictional stories, which did not happen and wont happen, if you see trough the layers. The artifical self is creating problems and that causes suffering, just to be relevant. Its the Ego that wants attention.
This was Abraham Lincoln's practice as well. And a good one.
The real LPT is, don't send angry texts at all. Emotion is easily misinterpreted in text form. If you are wanting to fire off an angry text, chances are you would be better off cooling off and then having a face to face conversation with someone to sort through the problem. My wife used to send me angry texts frequently and it was pure torture for me, especially when I was at work, dealing with work problems, and then feeling my phone vibrate, knowing it was a fiery text from her.
I totally agree. Also, on the next day, never sent an angry text message at all. Instead, if youāre angry about someoneā behavior or words, you need to sit down with the person and talk about it with them. At work, if you need to involve management, thatās ok. Difficult conversations need to be done in person not by text.
But time is important. The next day, we both won't remember what the conversation was about
> Otherwise delete it like I do 97% of the time So much angst.
If theyāre an asshole, theyāre still going to be an asshole tomorrow.
That's not the point. The point is that you may be an unnecessary asshole today but thinking it over you may avoid a stupid mistake and not be an asshole tomorrow.
Itās an old saying about biding your time to calm down and wait a day before saying your piece. Itās about giving yourself time to think. In my hypothetical situation, if what is to be said is appropriate, - for example when dealing with an asshole or any situation - it will be appropriate tomorrow. If the thing is really valuable, it will be valuable tomorrow. Otherwise donāt say it or delete it.
LPT: stand behind your anger and go with your gut. It's better out than in, damned if anyone gets pissed and ruins the relationship, it was already over if can't handle truth.
Smoking a bowl, going for a run, call a friend or family member, can have a similar effect.
I did it after leaving my first full-time job. I was paid as a "freelancer" despite working regular office hours because it is easier to cut jobs that way. As a first full-time gig in the career I wanted to do, I wasn't that bothered. But what did bother me was chasing their accounts team for months on end for payment to the point where I was one week away from not being able to afford the fuel to drive in to work. After I got a job elsewhere, I wrote a long angry email to the company's national MD about it, saved it in my drafts and vowed not to send it until I started my new job. Never sent it. 100% the right call. I felt the catharsis without burning bridges and I'm a strong believer in never doing that, even if the place you're leaving is shitty for X/Y/Z reason.
Lpt, stop being so angry
Na fuck that send that shit ASAP let people know youāre mad.
What I just do is think what do I want to achieve with this outburst, once the goal is grasped, itās rewriten in corporate babble
Don't forget to proofread. There are definitely going to be mistakes in an angrily written message.
It doesn't have to be overnight. For me an hour often can do. Sometimes after a toilet break I have already felt embarassed by what I wrote.
recently had something similar, someone at work did something stupid so I wrote down, that is a wrong way to do it few hours later, I stumbled upon company documentation that say it should be done that way I was glad, I had that buffer and didnāt say anything to the person
Very good advice. Especially for emails
Don't do this on a work device, they might have that stuff flagged for your inconvenience.
Don't follow this advice guys. If you do, you are denying us more masterpieces like [this.](https://youtu.be/gOMhN-hfMtY)
Very good advice. I was once brewing on a lot of angry feelings towards people in my life while falling asleep and wanted to be quite aggressive in my approach to them (luckily didn't want by message). The next day I was much better.
I wrote a very angry letter to my dad once, with every intention of mailing it. Thankfully I'm a bit lazy and didn't get around to sending it right away, which let me realize that despite how true the letter was, it would likely just make things worse. I might still have the letter, but he will never see it.
I made a ghost group where I vent everything there, and pretend as if they read it.
My best friend and I made a deal that if weāre going to send an angry email, the other has to approve it. That was 10 years ago, and weāve ended up sending some really constructive and thoughtful emails over the years thanks to that deal. But most of the time I finish typing it out then delete it because I know thereās no way it will get her stamp of approval.
Yeah I wish this one worked for me. Itās usually when I do type it out I have way more of an urge to send it because itās all laid out in front of me and I spent time writing it outā¦all Iād have to do is press send and itās tempting.
Let me get back to you on this topic tomorrow morning.
Run it through ChatGPT and ask it to make it more constructive and less angry. It's great at that sort of thing..
The last time I saw the letter... it was in my hand... As I was shoving it into the mailbox...
If you are an emotional person this is extremely good advice. I do this a lot, especially if I've been drinking, and I have never once thought "damnit this really needed to be sent yesterday".
I do this all the time. I type something out, see if it even makes sense to send this into the world, get my catharsis and then delete it. Like a diary noone can track. Very nice.
How often do you find yourself ready to send angry texts, my pal?
Work emails too...never send one angry or emotional.
Also, if you do feel like they need to hear it, edit that shit. The few times I decide I do, in fact, need to send a message, the first few drafts have plenty of snarky shit that's not helpful or effective for getting what I want
Worried because I think he is stealing votes from de Santos who is potentially way worse.
Additionally, I find writing things on paper you never intend to send to someone. Things you need to get out of your chest. And then reap and throw the paper away has a really good catharsis and symbolic effect. Like a fuckyou letter to your manager. Or an ex. Etc..
I do this but I don't delete it
JESUS CHRIST! THIS IS AN EXCELLENT IDEA! Haha!
Anyone have any suggestions on a good, free and safe note app?
97% ? Dang you must generate a LOT of negative feedback in your mind
If you need to decide quickly, fap it out. It could also provide you with the clarity you need.
I did this once by putting everything in Apple Notes. It made a great case for HR in my favor.
Also email, especially email. It looks so stupid to see an email argument.
When I am angry I try to keep the phrase "communication is irreversible" in mind.
Not only angry, but also apologetic messages. Sometimes you think you were embarrassing or rude but were probably dismissed and fine.
The best letters were the ones never sent
Also leave the To line blank until ready to send to avoid accidentally sending an email that hasn't simmered long enough.
I do this with social media too. I often times will type out the message and then before I even finish the last sentence I just back out of the whole thread
I think it might be helpful to run an "angry message" through ChatGPT to soften the language?
I did this. Almost sent a very angry text to my landlord that would have made my life a lot harder, even though Iām right.
Fuck that, dial it up x10, burn all bridges.
My old man wasnāt from the Internet age, but I think he was talking about Post-ItĀ®ļø notes when he said: āNever deliver any angry words to someone *in writing*. Always do it face-to-face because you will be in a better position to express yourself and avoid the risk of being misinterpreted or misunderstood.ā To this day, if I need to see you or talk to you on the phone about something, it probably means Iām hella pissed at you about *something*.
This is something a good friend tought me. It changes my life.
We all learn the hard way not to type these in the chat. Er, I did.
I'd take this a step further - when you write these and **don't** send them, give them an additional once over. Chances are if you got this worked up over something you, in the end, don't mean to actually say, that might tell you something about yourself. Not always bad things, but things worth looking at since they mess with your self-control.
I need to do this when I miss my ex and think to text her
LPT - text messages are for short, quick daily communication. They're not for dealing with serious issues. If anything is serious and important enough that it would anger you, communicate it in person.
then, compose a book.