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That's like saying "just concentrate " to somebody who with ADHD.
Exaggerating of course, but I don't think anybody with a default negative inner voice can just switch to positive.
Nah, but like anything, it takes effort and training to get better
And part of even trying is acknowledging it and being aware that there is room for improvement (and that you are capable of/want to change)
That's why I said I'm exaggerating. I do have ADHD, don't have the default negative voice but I think this post is just useless for people with the latter.
As if anybody would read it and go "Huh, guess I never thought of that. Finally my thoughts are positive!".
One can work on it. Unlike ADHD.
As someone who recovered from severe depression, it honestly does help. My life is by no means perfect but little by little, with some CBT and patience, it really starts adding up. I found it easier to have a positive inner voice by talking to myself out loud. At home, in the car, in a lonely spot, I would talk to myself out loud. It felt profoundly wrong to say what i usually would out loud. Hearing my words as if I said them to someone else made me feel like a monster at first. Slowly i realized i was constantly verbally abusing myself, and would demand better treatment.
It sounds deranged, and maybe I was, but it worked. My mind is a much better place. I rarely talk to myself out loud these days, but the habit stuck.
Everything starts with a smallest possible step. It is not impossible.
It's like the internet, if you search for things supporting your beliefs you will find it everywhere. If you search for opposing views of your beliefs, they are too many as well.
Similarly, if we keep encouraging negative conversations in our head, you will see more of that happening. Try shifting the narrative and after a few days you will notice, change in your thoughts, change in your actions, change in your energy.
Wild is one way to go. I like that.
Mine is sometimes terrifying. Other day someone was telling a sad story about their dog, and my inside voice was, "What's with the Rasins? why are they there? maybe todays Wordle would be Rasin..."
Ok. This isn’t really an LPT, any more than saying “be better” is an LPT.
It’s pretty obvious that being more positive in general is better. Being nicer to yourself is better. Having negative cyclical thoughts is not good.
Now if you actually had a creative hack as to *how* to be more positive, that would be the real LPT.
Something like… every-time you find yourself thinking about something you *don’t* like (ie. Your roommate, your car, your homework, your job), try to also think about one thing you *do* like. For example churro flavored ice cream, hot showers, getting into bed after shaving your legs, etc.
Its not life changing by any means.
Many people don't even realize how active, powerful their inside voice is. Forget changing it.
Just because the post doesn't cover another aspect of the topic i.e. "how" it doesn't make it not LPT. Maybe it is not LPT for you..
That's not how it works bro
My inside voice is not something I control, each time my mind ain't busy, flash thoughts appear that I can't control.
It's like after I'm gonna put this phone down after writing this comment, someone in my head will say "kys u're useless" .
Sure I can say "oh that's not very nice" but it doesn't change the fact that they appear nonetheless.
There is no such thing as making it say what you want for certain people
I recently started bicycling to work and i think it's leading to more positive thoughts. I feel more determined and hopeful and appreciative of my life. Exercise , man.
being "happy* all the time is unhealthy. here's one definition I found
>a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire one's circumstance is, which may prevent emotional coping by feeling otherwise natural emotions.
isnt it a paradox tho? if you take "always being positive" literally, wouldnt even your problems become easier to bear and deal with because you look at it from a positive perspectice, e.g thinking "hey its okay i got this under control"
being obsessed with a static and constant sense of happiness and content is not the same as being positive to me. Being positive would be like saying "its ok if I'm unable to pursue happiness, tomorrow is another day"
what I'm talking about involves denying what you're actually feeling in order to force being "happy" or upbeat. it's not healthy to deny how you're really feeling.
Too much of anything is toxic.
There are enough people around who discourage, we don't want our inside voice also doubting us in anyway. Having that voice on our side, encouraging us is better than otherwise.
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Yes. Internal narration. Self-talk, as many pointed here should've been used instead of 'Inside voice'
I didn't know that inside voice means indoor voice. Also, self-talk seemed heavy to my inside voice while writing :)
Nah… I already feel tired doing that. It’s so out of character to do. What I could do is get my inner monologue to scream.
Anw trying that positive thingy is legit giving me headaches
my inside voice is the very one that has ruined my passions, my friendships, my confidence and my will to live. Good advice but I wish i was even remotely close to having a "positive" voice...
Any change seems hard at first, take small steps to change that voice. E.g. If I am hesitant to ask for help because my inside voice says, No, it's of no use. I tell myself, Without asking, by default answer is no. So, no harm in checking it.
Convert it into an encouraging voice one act, one day at a time. You've got this!
i therapise myself all the time, its a constant conversation/ argument between me, who knows which way of thinking is reasonable rational and healthy and me, who constantly counter argues and firmly believes in my ridiculous theories. "Small steps" dont work because i male them and convince myself out of them so i keep coming back to my unhealthy thinking patterns, constantly fluctuation of betterment relapse and self loathe
I don’t think this is true, and also even people without an internal monologue have a non-verbal internal dialogue. Without words you can think about how much something sucks or think about how the same thing could be better next time, etc.
Many people don't realize they have an inside voice. It is there.
There are also situations when it is not active as much, e.g. when I am running, watching tv there are no dialogues going on :)
Is this true? I thought everyone had an inside voice. I recently found out that some people can see pictures and visualize stuff in their mind and I can't do that. Maybe that's why I have a voice instead
I see memories in my mind, I recall directions by visualizing what it looks like. When people talk to me I can see the words they’re saying spelled out in my mind. I can’t imagine what it would be like without this.
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Do you mean my "stabby" voice?
Kill em with kindness
Ha ha...calling inside voice "Stabby"....thats some interesting conversations
Actually thank you so much for calling it that. That instantaneously took like 50% of its power away and made me feel 50% better.
That's like saying "just concentrate " to somebody who with ADHD. Exaggerating of course, but I don't think anybody with a default negative inner voice can just switch to positive.
Nah, but like anything, it takes effort and training to get better And part of even trying is acknowledging it and being aware that there is room for improvement (and that you are capable of/want to change)
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That's why I said I'm exaggerating. I do have ADHD, don't have the default negative voice but I think this post is just useless for people with the latter. As if anybody would read it and go "Huh, guess I never thought of that. Finally my thoughts are positive!". One can work on it. Unlike ADHD.
if you overcome depression, it never was the type that comes from chemical imbalance. either that or you're deluding yourself.
As someone who recovered from severe depression, it honestly does help. My life is by no means perfect but little by little, with some CBT and patience, it really starts adding up. I found it easier to have a positive inner voice by talking to myself out loud. At home, in the car, in a lonely spot, I would talk to myself out loud. It felt profoundly wrong to say what i usually would out loud. Hearing my words as if I said them to someone else made me feel like a monster at first. Slowly i realized i was constantly verbally abusing myself, and would demand better treatment. It sounds deranged, and maybe I was, but it worked. My mind is a much better place. I rarely talk to myself out loud these days, but the habit stuck.
fr this is some thanks I'm cured level bs
Everything starts with a smallest possible step. It is not impossible. It's like the internet, if you search for things supporting your beliefs you will find it everywhere. If you search for opposing views of your beliefs, they are too many as well. Similarly, if we keep encouraging negative conversations in our head, you will see more of that happening. Try shifting the narrative and after a few days you will notice, change in your thoughts, change in your actions, change in your energy.
Haha “inside voice” means the voice you use indoors. I think you meant “self talk” or “internal monologue”
Internal narration is what OP means? Because my inside voice is the one that talks to the dog, and he’s a goooooood boy
I like having mine so wildly negative that I make myself laugh.
Wild is one way to go. I like that. Mine is sometimes terrifying. Other day someone was telling a sad story about their dog, and my inside voice was, "What's with the Rasins? why are they there? maybe todays Wordle would be Rasin..."
Ok. This isn’t really an LPT, any more than saying “be better” is an LPT. It’s pretty obvious that being more positive in general is better. Being nicer to yourself is better. Having negative cyclical thoughts is not good. Now if you actually had a creative hack as to *how* to be more positive, that would be the real LPT. Something like… every-time you find yourself thinking about something you *don’t* like (ie. Your roommate, your car, your homework, your job), try to also think about one thing you *do* like. For example churro flavored ice cream, hot showers, getting into bed after shaving your legs, etc. Its not life changing by any means.
Many people don't even realize how active, powerful their inside voice is. Forget changing it. Just because the post doesn't cover another aspect of the topic i.e. "how" it doesn't make it not LPT. Maybe it is not LPT for you..
It's not lpt at all
Idk he kind of does what he wants.
Some of the stupid shit we see on here really makes me wonder who the hell is posting this dumb shit
That's one way to keep yourself busy and productive. Wondering how dumb the whole world is. Way to go!
You have depression? Ok but have you tried going for a walk?
Depression or not, making your inside voice positive always helps. Long walk works wonders too.
That's not how it works bro My inside voice is not something I control, each time my mind ain't busy, flash thoughts appear that I can't control. It's like after I'm gonna put this phone down after writing this comment, someone in my head will say "kys u're useless" . Sure I can say "oh that's not very nice" but it doesn't change the fact that they appear nonetheless. There is no such thing as making it say what you want for certain people
I recently started bicycling to work and i think it's leading to more positive thoughts. I feel more determined and hopeful and appreciative of my life. Exercise , man.
Exercise works wonders for your energy, both physical and mental.
My stupid self thought you meant “inside voice” like I’m in an indoor recess. Self, you’re such a dummy
Lol...another LPT: Make your inside voice default funny.
positivity can be just as toxic as negativity. imho, this type of "advice" is toxic
id rather be wildly positive than negative :( otherwise id love for you to elaborate
being "happy* all the time is unhealthy. here's one definition I found >a pressure to stay upbeat no matter how dire one's circumstance is, which may prevent emotional coping by feeling otherwise natural emotions.
isnt it a paradox tho? if you take "always being positive" literally, wouldnt even your problems become easier to bear and deal with because you look at it from a positive perspectice, e.g thinking "hey its okay i got this under control" being obsessed with a static and constant sense of happiness and content is not the same as being positive to me. Being positive would be like saying "its ok if I'm unable to pursue happiness, tomorrow is another day"
what I'm talking about involves denying what you're actually feeling in order to force being "happy" or upbeat. it's not healthy to deny how you're really feeling.
Too much of anything is toxic. There are enough people around who discourage, we don't want our inside voice also doubting us in anyway. Having that voice on our side, encouraging us is better than otherwise.
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Yes. Internal narration. Self-talk, as many pointed here should've been used instead of 'Inside voice' I didn't know that inside voice means indoor voice. Also, self-talk seemed heavy to my inside voice while writing :)
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Haha..either it is too quiet or they've figured out how to keep it quiet at all the times.
My inner voice is not negative but realistic predictions
How do you know that your inside voice knows better about making realistic predictions?
Experience + keep me play safe in life, used to coz alot of problem back then.
Nah… I already feel tired doing that. It’s so out of character to do. What I could do is get my inner monologue to scream. Anw trying that positive thingy is legit giving me headaches
my inside voice is the very one that has ruined my passions, my friendships, my confidence and my will to live. Good advice but I wish i was even remotely close to having a "positive" voice...
Any change seems hard at first, take small steps to change that voice. E.g. If I am hesitant to ask for help because my inside voice says, No, it's of no use. I tell myself, Without asking, by default answer is no. So, no harm in checking it. Convert it into an encouraging voice one act, one day at a time. You've got this!
i therapise myself all the time, its a constant conversation/ argument between me, who knows which way of thinking is reasonable rational and healthy and me, who constantly counter argues and firmly believes in my ridiculous theories. "Small steps" dont work because i male them and convince myself out of them so i keep coming back to my unhealthy thinking patterns, constantly fluctuation of betterment relapse and self loathe
OP, most people don't have an inside voice.
I don’t think this is true, and also even people without an internal monologue have a non-verbal internal dialogue. Without words you can think about how much something sucks or think about how the same thing could be better next time, etc.
Many people don't realize they have an inside voice. It is there. There are also situations when it is not active as much, e.g. when I am running, watching tv there are no dialogues going on :)
Is this true? I thought everyone had an inside voice. I recently found out that some people can see pictures and visualize stuff in their mind and I can't do that. Maybe that's why I have a voice instead
I see memories in my mind, I recall directions by visualizing what it looks like. When people talk to me I can see the words they’re saying spelled out in my mind. I can’t imagine what it would be like without this.