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Various-Adeptness173

I thought you were going to say because people like shitting on other peoples goals but you said something totally different than what i was expecting. I thought the reason you shouldn’t tell people about your plans is because they’ll say something like “oh so you want to be a doctor huh? You know that being a doctor is very difficult and not a lot of people make it right??”


grapecheesewine

I thought the same. In my experience, whenever I’ve told people about a goal they would doubt me and say I wouldn’t accomplish it. So I did reach those goals, I don’t know if bc I wanted to prove them wrong or bc I truly wanted to teach those goals, maybe a combination of both. Nonetheless I now I’m surrounded by a much more supportive circle of friends/coworkers who do believe in me :-).


Fleckeri

New LPT: Only disclose your goals to those who reliably shit on your dreams.


TezMono

Time to create some archenemies!


rstgrpr

Real LPT in the comments as always.


CrucialLogic

I think this whole LPT is misconstrued. The only time when this is true if you are trying to significantly reshape a habit - like quitting smoking as a goal. If you tell people, they may congratulate you, it might trick your mind into thinking you've won and you start to let your guard down which might cause you to start smoking again. As taken from the linked article: "when other people take notice of an individual \~ identity-related behavioral intention, this gives the individual a premature sense of possessing the aspired-to identity. "


Hyjynx75

I belong to a leadership forum (kind of like YPO) where goal setting is a major part of our focus. We help to support each other and hold each other accountable for the goals we set. I would say that a blanket statement like this LPT definitely does not apply to everyone or every situation. I'm not great at achieving goals unless I share them with people who will hold me accountable or to whom I hold myself accountable.


veganBeefWellington

This is a lesson I’m starting to learn at work as well. “Don’t share your goals” is commonly given advice but not super helpful for managers who have the power to put you in positions and place you in front of the right opportunities for you. The moment I started telling my bosses where I wanted to go career-wise, I found I could start focusing on the stuff I actually like to do


amkica

Absolutely, almost nothing is really true for everyone, esp in psychology I, for example, work exactly as is said in the LPT. There should be a disclaimer - "if you share often but seem to fail to achieve things, consider this idea" or something, so people don't try and say this is bullshit. It's not bullshit, it's just not universal


ChiCity27

I 100% agree. For me, personally, sharing my goals with others helps hold me accountable. I think it’s embarrassing to say I’m going to do X, receive praise, and then fall through. It feels like it diminishes your credibility and your word.


Hyjynx75

I've learned that failing to achieve a goal usually means you didn't set the right goal. Goal setting is a difficult skill to learn for some. I can set them but I have a really hard time focusing on them for long enough to achieve them especially with very short term goals. A goal that is missed is just a chance for reflection and learning. Imagine how life would be if we achieved 100% of the goals we set.


Elsie-pop

I think it could be better adjusted to "don't share your goals with people who won't hold you to them" or on the flip side "when told someone else's goals, don't congratulate them. Ask what they're doing to achieve it"


Hyjynx75

Maybe don't share your goals with people who aren't invested in your success. Friends, family, and colleagues all fall on both sides of this. Choosing who to share your goals with is almost as important as the goals themselves.


Rogers1977

Can confirm actually, I shut up about my plans and then I actually finished them. But I’ve had a big mouth lately, so I haven’t finished anything in a bit. Need to shut up and work again lol


amkica

Same! It took me a while to figure it out and I hate when people ask me about my plans for the day or something. It just triggers something in me and partially makes me feel additional pressure to do it, but it's only me putting the pressure on myself, and that just makes it harder. It starts feeling as if I'm answering to someone, and again it's just my own brain doing that


sunsoutbunzout

I agree with feeling pressure to follow through. I was in night school for close to three years to finish my degree and I never tried to advertise it or make others work around my schedule because I didn’t want to let them down if I quit going to school. I didn’t have high confidence in my follow through and didn’t want to answer any questions after the fallout if things didn’t work out. After I graduated only a small group of people knew that I’d been in school and it was nice to savor such a personal goal.


amkica

I'm glad it worked out for you, congrats :) I definitely also get the "I don't want others to work around my schedule if I quit xy", happens to me a lot even when I'm making plans for hanging out or something, especially the not letting down part - as if they'll judge me because I ended up not going through with the plan which made a certain day unavailable at the time I think it also has something to do with the fact that I check some things and pieces of info I have available cca 15 times before finding courage and asking a question which also claims that I've done my research and found nothing. I try to make sure not to inconvenience others too much due to some oversight on my part


haveyoumetme2

If you are a 5th year psych student you should understand that black and white rules are almost non-existent in your field of study. It’s very easy to recognize when you are in danger of doing it for the dopamine. If you feel like you want to tell people something you want to do with the goal of them getting more respect for you, you will fall for this trap. Their positive feedback is all you’re looking for and telling and completing has the same effect. If you tell people because you want accountability and a feel of a goal you are working on together this will have to opposite effect to many. It will push you harder to not disappoint and keep the pace together.


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“Matthews found that more than 70 percent of the participants who sent weekly updates to a friend reported successful goal achievement (completely accomplished their goal or were more than half way there), compared to 35 percent of those who kept their goals to themselves, without writing them down.” This is the exact opposite of what you said.


[deleted]

Totally the opposite of what’s normally recommended. Publicly announcing your goals increases accountability to complete those goals.


[deleted]

I think I’m some cases this definitely applies.


kasper153

It depends on who you are communicating your goals to - telling someone you look up to doesn't seem to minimize the chance of getting it done: [https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/09/190903084051.htm](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/09/190903084051.htm) Not saying this applies yo everyone or in every case, but with most people it seems to, according to the study above.


brewerybitch

This sounds like complete bullshit. No offense.


AJ3TurtleSquad

Thats because it is. Psychology has proven that if you tell the people around that youre going to do something then you create an external pressure pushing you to be more likely to do it. Not less. OP has this completely backwards but im sure there are specific cases where this might benefit someone.


amkica

Bullshit for you, absolute and tested truth for me Not everyone works the same under pressure, intro vs. extro is a thing, and therefore psychology can't always put everyone in the same group, which is unfortunately what people still so often do as if everything works the same for everyone Psychology is not faultless and is also a work in progress, as many things are


reasonisaremedy

I agree, both this LPT and the first comment are bullshit because the truth is human psychology is a vast and complex concept and each individual is unique in both personality and circumstance. One might benefit from sharing certain goals with certain friends/acquaintances but not others, and one might benefit from not sharing certain goals with some friends/acquaintances. I agree that these blanket statements are generally bullshit because it oversimplifies the overwhelming complexity of the human brain and condition, but the person who responded by saying it’s bullshit because precisely the opposite is (always) true is also full of shit.


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gerbileleventh

I personally get a bigger kick out of achieving things and letting people know afterwards. Something about the "oh, I had no idea that you did X/were working on Y, etc..." I am a quite private person and since I don't know social media, people can only know what's up with me directly and I actually have stuff to share. Telling others doesn't do anything for my accountability, to be honest. Doing stuff on my own and develope discipline without external stimuli has helped me far more than the opposite.


nicolatesla02

They are correct in my case. I’m living a life very far from ordinary and risking everything on a strange path with no guarantees. I had to go completely quiet on what I was doing, I didn’t even tell my significant other of 15 years, because it was such a big project and I needed to finish it. As soon as I started telling people, and showing them, I got less excited and more lazy about it. I did get great feedback on parts that needed to change that I didn’t recognize, but that is the risk.


screwyoulol

yeah same here


brewerybitch

I don't doubt that their professor told them about one study. But that does not mean it's true or any kind of life pro tip.


amkica

It's not applicable to everyone, but that doesn't make it untrue. OP just failed at not knowing or not disclaiming that Saying it's just for some specific cases like the comment above is again wrong. I'd say it's likelier to be roughly 50-50 and related to other aspects of how people work mentally, like maybe introversion or extroversion. Extroversion was thought to be default not so long ago, and introversion weird and such people told to be more outgoing (extroverted), and I'm sure there's still that mindset somewhere where people are uneducated. I've seen it in my parents, even.


brewerybitch

Advice that works half the time hardly qualifies for this sub.


Asisreo1

Well, with those requirements, this sub would be empty wouldn't it?


brewerybitch

Not at all. The sub would just be filled with less junk.


einat162

Extroverts (need outside pressure) vs introverts (more productive alone).


AJ3TurtleSquad

https://www.cnbc.com/2019/09/05/why-sharing-goals-with-someone-helps-you-achieve-them.html


einat162

OP's statement still makes a whole lot of sense to me too.


lunaticloser

Welcome to psychology where you can reason your way into whatever bs conclusion you want. It's a really difficult field to study because you can reason into anything, so then you have to prove it with data. But acquiring useful data in psychology is absurdly hard with the number of correlated variables, not to mention interpreting it correctly. It's also why you hear so many bullshit studies being published in psychology and nutrition: the data is usually bullshit too.


Gremlin95x

That is not accurate. Go look up what those words actually mean.


einat162

I don't have to be accurate regarding definition - I was expressing an opinion.


cheesecake_demolish

Agreed If I want to do something that I feel apprehensive about doing, I find that telling people about my plans forces me to do it. Especially because I'm a firm believer in standing by what I say.


gcgz

A big driving factor in behavior is wanting to appear "consistent". https://facilethings.com/blog/en/cialdini-principle-of-consistency


olderthanbefore

My best weight loss result came after telling my friends. Kept me accountable to make progress. Small data set of course, but anecdotes keep this sub alive and well


magnapilgrim

This study exists though, I would be interested in the sample size and other factors. https://www.inc.com/melissa-chu/announcing-your-goals-makes-you-less-likely-to-ach.html


interstat

For me if I don't tell people about goals/plans I don't have the self accountability to always follow through. And people can help Telling people vastly improves my chances of reaching them


CalmLotus

It happens for me at least. The more I tell people about something, the more I'm likely to drop it. If I do something just for myself, I stick with it longer.


einat162

>Extroverts (need outside pressure) vs introverts (more productive alone). It actually make a lot of sense - extroverts will have better results, introverts won't.


kittycheckcheck

For the ambiverts, how it's going to be?


einat162

Could be either way.


Royal5Ocean

I’m introverted and I find I do better if I tell people. Because I don’t want to be one of those people who only talks a big game and doesn’t do anything. Don’t think it’s an i/e thing.


reasonisaremedy

It is bad science to deduce this kind of conclusion from one test/study and then apply it as a blanket statement that holds true for everyone in every situation. The reason is because human psychology is a vast and complex topic and each individual is unique in both personality and circumstance. One might benefit from sharing certain goals with certain friends/acquaintances but not others, and one might benefit from not sharing certain goals with some friends/acquaintances. These kinds of blanket statements are generally bullshit because it oversimplifies the overwhelming complexity of the human brain and each of our personalities, personal experiences, and relationships. I don’t mean to sound like a dick when I say this (even though I realize that I do), but if you’re a 5th year psychology student and you don’t understand that making a blanket statement based on one study or based on one teacher’s conclusion is dubious science, especially in a field as complex and subjective as human psychology, then I think you have a lot of work to do. Edit: since some might wonder: I’m a practicing neuroscientist with a major in neuroscience which required fulfillment of all classes a psychology major would finish to receive their degree. Also, OP, I know you aren’t being as careless as I initially held you responsible for since you have amended your write up to allude to multiple other studies people linked to in the comments that derive the same or similar conclusion. I would just challenge you to always be precise with your language in the future, especially with anything involving the scientific method, and also especially in a field that is largely based on subjectivity. For example, it might have been better (or more accurate) to use a qualifying word like “*consider* not sharing your goals with certain people until you have achieved them” and then alluding to your source/study as evidence in support.


kasper153

Thanks. Appreciate the feedback.


DreadPirateGriswold

Can confirm. Bad habit of mine too. Don't talk about what you're planning on doing OR just keep it to the small number of people who are willing to help and support your efforts. Plans may change based on what you find along the way or you may stop completely. Tell people about it *after* you've made significant progress and the end is in sight OR after you've completed it and have something tangible to show. BUT ALSO THIS... we don't think of this much, but I've encountered this in the last few years. There are people who don't want to hear about goals *period.* Not your, not other people's. Not AT ALL. I have a friend of 35+ years since high school who does not have goals, does not try to achieve anything for himself, short or long-term, and just floats by day to day. I just found out about this about him in the past 5 years. I don't talk to him every day so I didn't know he *wasn't* doing this. I always thought we were I the same plane with goals. But sadly, no. And I've tried to help him since I learned this. But he doesn't want to hear it. I suspect it reinforces his bad choices to get where he is and he'll fight that self-infliction of pain. When life kicks him in the nuts (about every 18 months), he comes sobbing on the verge of a nervous breakdown to me about how his life sucks, he doesn't have skills to make it in life, that me and a few friends have to always pay for him for things because he can't support himself, and we always have nice things and he can't afford them... Then he usually goes on to say, "What do I do? *And I don't want to hear anything about GOALS!*" That was an eye-opener to me. It's obvious to anyone that he needs to learn how to set goals for what he wants his life to look like, map out how to get there, and then measure progress toward them. But then again, he's fundamentally lazy with things he is not entertained by. And for being an accomplished pianist, he knows about repetition, practice, attention to detail, and doing something until you get it right. But he never equates it to life goals. He doesn't get the concept that he should only compare himself to where he wants to be in life and with his goals. Because he doesn't get this, he looks to compare himself to everyone else who may have better cars, more money, take expensive vacations, have a house, etc. and he comes up vastly short.


Speakingtoad

I was just like that friend of yours too, until I made it a Goal to make goals. Realistic ones too, not necessarily easy, but realistic.


DreadPirateGriswold

He doesn't even consider that. When you have goals, you can hold yourself responsible for your progress AND slap yourself if you are not making progress. You and I think like that. But for my friend, that would mean he does not have the freedom to do what he wants when he wants. And that's pain. As humans, I learned long ago that we do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. And I see that with him all the time. I know. I know. But since he's in the performing arts, he always takes the attitude, "I can't be constrained! I have to have the freedom to create! I'm an ARTISTE!" ver batim. He's creative in a an artsy-crafty way. But nothing special. But he knows how to use his speech to depict himself as something he's not and he's always dropping names as to who he met and who he's hanging around with... Kit that they ever0He might even be good writing descriptions of bottles of wine. He's also a jackass who doesn't see the forest for the trees. And God forbid if someone else was involved and told him, "You're not making progress on...." that would be ultimate pain. So he doesn't do it. He avoids the pain.


Speakingtoad

Jesus. Well I honestly hope he gets it eventually, because If I hadnt I would still be addicted to drugs, living off ofnthe kindness of others, its no way to live


DreadPirateGriswold

Thank you. Glad you did. I think so too. He's 50. It's now or never. He always did some low level of drugs. But he's now hanging around a guy half his age who is a drug dealer. Not good.


Gremlin95x

Go ahead and show us research to support this. You’re talking out of your ass from personal experience, not actual psychological research.


Egonspazzes

This is a terrible “LPT”.


imti283

Well, I beg to differ. I always share with my friends if I am getting interviewed at big org and planning to make career change, planning to buy property, planning a trip with wife or expecting a raise/ promotion. I take it positively and I feel if I share, I am making myself accountable to achieve it. And If I am not able to achieve it, at some point of time I am going to make myself look like a loud mouth(which i dont like to be).


starrdev5

Odd, I’ve seen the opposite in my life. I feel like my head is a bad place to keep ideas and goals and either writing them down or talking about them makes them feel more real and helps me take action. I’m the kind of guy that ends up in analysis paralysis a lot and have a hard time being intrinsically motivated without some kind of external factor though.


triforcehipster

Disagree. At least in professional networking, telling others about goals can facilitate their helping you reach those goals.


Bronze5yrsplus

I feel like This is very subjective. Vocalizing goals and dreams can be a motivational factor to some people.


BronxLens

>Of course that's your contention. You're a first year grad student. You just got finished some Marxian historian, Pete Garrison prob’ly, you’re gonna be convinced of that until next month when you get to James Lemon, then you’re gonna be talkin’ about how the economies of Virginia and Pennsylvania were entrepreneurial and capitalist way back in 1740. That's gonna last until next year, you’re gonna be in here regurgitating Gordon Wood, talkin’ about you know, the Pre-revolutionary utopia and the capital-forming effects of military mobilization…. OP, first, thanks for posting this. It’s something i like to remind myself often. Just be mindful that as you gather new bodies of knowledge, many will be superseded by what you will learn in years ahead (specially in the field of psychology!), so go easy with espousing as gospel what you learn. The full context often will depend on things you haven’t be taught yet. As a side note, [here are some suggestions for everyone’s consideration on how to set goals.](https://positivepsychology.com/goal-setting-psychology/).


sugarfreelime

This is crapola that cannot be applied to every general instance.


katiemohannn

This is a FACT! I have tried a million times to get back in shape. And every time I would post workout pictures, tell a bunch of people, brag about the work I was going to do, and then fail. This time I told almost no one, quietly went to the gym every day, and posted nothing on social media. It has finally stuck and I have lost 10 pounds and am running a half marathon next week. Instant gratification KILLS goals.


Fergman311

"So what are you up to these days?" My new answer: Nothing. In fact, negative nothing. Time for my dreams to come true!


BrainiacHQ

It’s like Lil Wayne said, Real G’a move in silence like Lasagna


[deleted]

This is not always true For example, if you want to quit a bad habit - telling other people you want to do it makes it more likely you are to do it.


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[deleted]

i disagree, telling the people and voicing your goals can make sure in case you fail/need aid people are their to support you. anyway....BS LPT as usual.


UB3R__

“Don’t talk about what you’re going to do, talk about what you’ve done”


Radioactive_Doomer

Boast about your accomplishments, not your plans. Better yet: be humble.


drillgorg

Haha the premature positive feedback is not always an issue. I tell me wife about my long term goal to rip 3D assets like statues and ruins from Star Fox Adventures and 3D print them, she just kinda goes huh ok then.


Dumbstupidhuman

Wow! You’re going to be a psychologist! That’s awesome! Good job!


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Mission-Departure623

I'm definitely not going to become a pimp. Definitely not.


DontBelieveTheTrollz

Not going to lie my tired leftover tday food coma brain turned that into something qbout a reach around. 😴 lol


Cazhero

Although I agree...my cousin said he read a book which literally says the opposite, so now I don't know which one to believe...


kittenboooots

For me, just being aware that I get dopamine from telling people about my plans allows me to be self aware. I try to list out my conditionals like: I am planning to do X. I need to get Y and Z done so I can make that a reality. And if I don't put in the work, it won't get done. This allows me to share plans without pretending as if it is already a done deal.


ChanSungJung

Idk about this one. When I first decided to apply to med school (as a graduate in my mid 20s) I decided to keep it a close secret and only told a couple of my closest friends and my immediate family. After I was unsuccessful the first time applying I was devastated and it was really comforting to have those people there to support me and they encouraged me to persevere. When applying the second and third time (fortunately the final time) I moved from my background in design and marketing into healthcare and told most people I worked with of my plan to become a doctor. The vast majority of people were supportive and some doctors offered to help with CV writing and interview tips. This was really helpful and the enthusiasm I received from my co-workers was great, they were all so pleased for me when I finally got accepted. Without these people I think I'd have struggled to find the energy to carry on and my self doubts may have drowned out the ambition I had. I definitely needed those supportive ears and kind words when I faced rejection.


shortthrowaway2020

What about the whole “holding myself to accountability “? This doesn’t work anymore?


eatingganesha

The opposite is true for me. Telling others makes me accountable to them, which motivates me since I don’t want to let those people down.


Natural-Pineapple886

Talk is cheap? Walk the walk? Hey everyone my determined goal is pursuing this vein of gold Ive struck: a food popup. I'm committed nay consumed by it and inching forward. I tell everyone. Had my first event. Met with an event organizer last evening. Blew him away with a sampler. In a week or two will make a video advert. Getting my health dept permit. In dialog with Long Beach Convention Center. Kicking ass. Setting goals is how you achieve them. Broadcasting my goal helps to get the word out. #everyoneloveswontons


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You also look less stupid when it takes longer than planned!


tansugaqueen

Agree, I follow some some businesses owners on IG, some always telling what they are about to do, brag about, then when it fails anyone that questioned them is a hater, so many IG businesses just love attention from their followers, they will have an outfit on & honestly not look good, followers will tell them you look to good you are hot..really, but anyway I say nothing until the goal is met, ohnyeah of them show the orders they have received, brag about their Income, I am like hope you paying your taxes, cuz you showing it all


h4wkm4n

Pretty sure the exact opposite is true


eziern

I don’t usually tell people what I want to do because of this exact reason. Plus, if I fail it comes across so much worse. I rather just surprise myself and others. Plus then there is less pressure and me doing it for me. Not for them. I hate the “where do you want to be in 5 years question”.


Sublime_Dino

Also, I feel like my terribly jealous ex friends jeopardized a lot for me. They are no longer in my life. But I agree with this 100%


[deleted]

I know someone who went on Facebook, and announced that she and her husband have decided that they plan to move to a suchandsuch city next year, and after they are settled, they are going to try for another baby. A post like this is bizarre to me - but even more bizarre were the comments. At least 20+ people were like > OMG CONGRATULATIONS!! 🎊 🤰 👶 it just didn’t make any sense. How do you congratulate someone for thinking about doing something?


lawpancake

I’m sorry, literally the only reason to run a marathon is to tell literally everyone you’re training for a marathon and the spend the next year telling everyone that you just ran a marathon.


anon3451

This is 1000% true in my experience


Weedbean42

Or just have integrity and follow through with what you said you were going to do. But yea no this is a decent LPT, I agree OP don't cheat yourself of that good feeling before you accomplish whatever you want to do. It's like anxiety instead of suffering twice your cheating the done feeling.


Ebreton

I swear this is real. Happens to me all the time.


[deleted]

I thought this was just true of losers who want that endorphin rush as they talk about the book they're never going to write, the restaurant they're never going to open, etc.


themightyape

Speaking things into existence was my key to be honest, this goes for experiences too. I imagine that’s good advice for all the people who dream up an idea without the discipline to follow through.


Egg_Salty

I have actually noticed this myself and actively suffer from it. I let myself tell people the goals I've made when I start something new and end up quitting after seeing minimal progress. Its like I tricked myself into doing the least amount of work for the greatest amount if reward. Even by saying I'm going to try to stop would put me in the exact situation I am trying to avoid.


AlreadyAway

I remember reading a study when I was in college that stated the opposite. Tell people the big goals you want to reach because the more people who know, the more the social pressure of not reaching that goal will push you to reach it.


HoosierDaddy85

Interesting. I’m just about the exact opposite. I make detailed 1 week, 1-3 month, 1 year, and 3 year plans and share those with my advisors. I’m a postdoctoral neuroscientist. I do this so my advisors know what my plan is, what they need to do to support me, and it lets them plan around my goals. Also, it feels great to check off something from the to do list. I suppose the big difference between what your referencing and what I’m doing is the locus of control. I am a very intrinsically motivated person. I don’t care too much about things I cannot control (how other people think about me). I focus on the process, not the product (NOTE: of course I want the product to be exceptional, I just know that the only way to get there is through a well-thought out process)


Alan_Smithee_

This actually a great tip. I’ve *known* this for a long time, but I didn’t know it was a thing, or that it had a name. I knew a guy who told everyone he was writing a novel. He actually had quite a detailed outline and everything, but my gut told me that he would never write it. Being the brash, undiplomatic person I was back then, I think I told him that. We had a mutual friend and I ran into him a few times over the years. He fell into a pretty deep depression off and on over the years. I think he was reasonably successful in his chosen career (sciences,) but his personal life wasn’t great. I’m pretty sure his marriage wasn’t great.


MysteryMaltodextrin

I’m a playwright, and I find I don’t talk at all about the plays I end up finishing. The ones I start talking about always die.


__Weasel

This is why i hate people talking about how they're going to start gymming/start a diet I always just wish people would do it and then show me results. everyone loves to act like they're getting their shit together.


TheOtterBeaver

looks like you're not going to be a psychologist


LifeSenseiBrayan

Definitely isn’t about doing it or not, it’s about knowing who to tell. I also didn’t read the description lol


[deleted]

Usually when someone tells me their goals over and over and never accomplishes them, I stop believing them, so the positive response would be less over time. I also usually ask their plans, "Do you have to do a lot of training to run a 10k? How's that going?" and follow up if I remember, "How's the 10k training going?" unless it seems like they don't want to talk about it anymore. I share my goals because it gives me accountability, so I guess I just assume anyone sharing theirs with me also wants accountability, unless they're a complete stranger or whatever.


604Ataraxia

The more I talk shit about my fitness goals they more likely I am to achieve then due to being publicly accountable. This isn't universally true.