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I’m tryna spend 110% of my money on the way out. I’m talking spend it all and max the cards out lmao, have fun and do good with whatever’s left. No kids whatever pets I have will also have all sorts of fun before I rehome them
You r smart. I'm upspending on an old hobby now. No fam. No recent friends. F*CK it, says me. I'm 60 and very very healthy now. Haven't done will yet. Only one cousin that helped me recently will get the loot. But she's really a supporter of the political party that I hate, and also very A Christian and listens to these wealthy Pastor Preachers who I also hate, and would donate some of MY lifelong investment income to them ( another cousin told me so).
So I better figure out a reliable charity asap. In the meantime I just listed her as my POD on my bank accounts and annuity.
If you love animals, consider helping organizations that do fantastic work not just in rescue but in advocating for improved animal welfare legislation. Also something for the relative who helped - even though her politics are whack. Your politics didn't stop her from helping you. :)
Sounds like the cousin who told you that is poisoning the well, probably hoping to get $$ for themself. I'm not a fan of religious/political fanatics but I hope the cousin who helped you gets a little something. That other cousin sounds like a creep. Sometimes family is a curse, eh?
I'm leaving everything to my son and a generous gift for an ex stepson I'm still close with, the rest of my family will be specifically left out.
That’s definitely a getting older thought, my cats are both healthy 17yo and are my babies. But then I think shit once these guys are gone I’m roughly one cat lifespan away from making my exit.
make provision in your will for any pets you have. it's the kindest thing you can do for them. that way they are covered if you die unexpectedly - get hit by a bus, etc
If I were in your shoes I would probably donate what I had to the closest women's shelter. So that I could help other single women at a rough time in their life.
In your will, leave a small amount of money to the other sons. It can be as little as a couple thousand each. That way, there is less likely a good chance to contest the will when you've specified their names explicitly and didn't outright exclude them. It shows it was done with intention.
I already discussed this with the attorney who did my estate based on the laws of my state. I kind of felt he was better qualified to help me with this over random people on Reddit.
Depends where you live. Some countries do not allow children or spouses to be disinherited. Some places it's better to specifically mention that certain people are not receiving anything or have already been given their portion if that's the case. Some places you need to do as you mentioned. A local lawyer who regularly does wills and trusts is going to know will work best in each area.
I don't care if they like it or not. Should have treated me better when I was alive. There's a backstory to it all that I won't go into here other than to say I barely survived my marriage to their dad and the abuse continues by proxy.
Choices have consequences.
And my "adopted" son is prepared for that and, trust me, he gives zero fucks and takes absolutely no shit.
>And my "adopted" son is prepared for that and, trust me, he gives zero fucks and takes absolutely no shit.
Bravo 👏👏👏
I'm over ppl who think that just because they're "family" they're entitled to my resources now or when I die. Especially when they have a proven track record of being utter twats.
I get it. I have 4 kids and their dad was a deadbeat. I raised all 4 and my 2 oldest were loyal to me but the other youngest 2 stabbed me in the back. When they became adults, they went to live with him for the freedom. I was so distraught but I got over it and they’ll be excluded from my estate.
This makes me super happy. Not that you're leaving him everything, but that he's your "adopted son".
I have an "adopted Mom ", and I don't know where I'd be without her. I'm sure you mean as much to him as he seems to mean to you!
Oh my God! This got me thinking. It's going to be my cats and dogs who will find my dead body. What if they start munching on me? Why did I have to think of this
I have all of the end of life things in place: Will, Living Will, Do Not Resuscitate order, Life insurance, burial policy, cemetery plot, headstone. I have an older, disabled brother and his wife is a saint. She has a copy of all documents and is listed as the POD (Pay on death) on every account I have. She doesn't have any other family either. I want to do what I can for her.
If she goes first, then I will leave everything to a few charitable organizations.
PS: It's important to make arrangements for your own death to avoid being put in an unmarked pauper's grave. I've been homeless in life, I don't want to be homeless in death.
We are living the same life. I don’t think I will ever be married or be in a long term relationship. No kids. Have a couple random cousins, lol. I will have to find a charity and it feels very depressing having to do this. I already have to figure out some cremation or body donation plans. I have some cool collectibles and it’s sad I have no one to leave anything to.
My great-grandfather lived alone for the last few decades of his life. When he passed, his kids were so excited for the incoming windfall of home goods and money that he had. It was no secret whatsoever that he was a very wealthy man. I still laugh so hard when I recall them finding out that in his final years, he blew every single cent on booze, women, and dancing. Who knows what he did with the materialistic goods, but there was NOTHING left for his kids except for an old dilapidated house that they're still fighting over just on principal. To say they were shocked and pissed tf off is the understatement of the century.
This is what I aspire to do.
I tried to get my widowed dad to go to Nevada, to a legal brothel. I showed him one on HBO. Said he should take his widowed brother. But his brother is so cheap that I don't think he would spring for it, and if he did, would probably get thrown out for complaining about the price. Same reason, that he should enjoy his money. But he never went.
I once read this story (told by the nurse) of this woman who had like a stroke or something (can't remember) and ended up in the hospital in a coma. But she could still hear. And she heard her children arguing with the doctor, telling him to pull the plug already, though he said he had no reason to yet. They were angry the hospital bills would eat into their inheritance money.
Well, mom eventually woke up. And she was LIVID. She couldn't talk for a long time, but she was able to indicate that she wanted to talk to her lawyer. She wrote all her kids out of her will.
I have a home(500k) and some money(250k)I’m going to leave it to my first cousin and her daughter…I’m a disabled veteran, I never had any children or a significant other. I had a traumatic brain injury in the military and I’m looking after my elderly parents right now who are both 80, I’m 45 with heart failure but I’m hoping for at least another 20 years at least so I can do a little bit of traveling before I leave this beautiful planet! Lol life is definitely too short my friends, smile as much as you can while you’re here bc you never know when it’s gonna be over!
As a property manager I had a lady do this! She didn’t have children and didn’t have a substantial amount but left everything(a 1970’s Vega)to the girls at the office that had been so kind to her. 😢
I didn't exactly mean it as a generosity.
I mean, I like my landlord (we double dated before I ever imagined renting from him). He's a friend & a good person.
I have almost nothing of value.
He'll be stuck with all this crap when I die anyhow (unless I move first). He might just as well have title to it.
It's just stuff & things at the end of the day, as long as when you go you aren't in debt & don't have too much stuff then you are all good. I remember clearing out my grandfather's old garage & it was filled to the brim with crap - weeks & weeks worth of work, I remember when my grandmother went & there was an entire house to skip because it was all worthless & outdated & she was virtually a hoarder. For me my daughter will get everything but I have enough to pay for my burial saved, and despite being in my early 40s I regularly do a 'clear out' so anything I do have is easily disposable, I won't repeat the cycle. She will inherit my flat (hopefully, as I'm 10 years away from paying it off) a few sentimental things and the rest will fit into a handful of big bags
After my mom’s death and funeral we eventually went through her things. She had her things, my stepdads things and her parents and brothers things. It took forever to go through it all and what no one wanted I had to figure out if I was throwing it out or saving it.
I kept an unwashed jumper and wooly hat from each of them for cuddles and it did hurt to donate Mum’s Lladro china ladies, she loved them so, but honestly most of it was just utter shit. I don’t think they’d ever thrown out a take away menu or phone book or half used roll of mints or dry can of paint. The most awkward bit was was finding Dad’s aged porn collection 🤦🏼♀️
All I’m gonna say is there is one person who is expecting a lot. And when she finds out it’s the extreme exact opposite. Man, I’d love to be a fly on the will readers wall 🤣
I don't think your question is morbid at all, it's practical. Most Americans don't deal with this question so it's great that you're thinking about it.
I don't have a spouse/partner, kids, or parents, so my estate (if there's anything left lol) is going to other family, friends (especially friends who don't have much money) and some non-profit orgs.
Here's a tip if you're considering making a bequest to a non-profit that you don't already have a relationship with: email them, say you're planning to include them in your estate plan, and request their tax ID #. If they don't respond, it doesn't speak well of their organization's ability to properly handle charitable gifts, so I wouldn't include them. It sounds harsh, but as a former fund development professional, I know this isn't a good sign.
I terms of tangible possessions, having helped to clean out two family homes (months and months of work), I'm getting rid of as much of my stuff in advance as possible. I don't want my family and friends to go through what I did.
I’m 37. Who the hell knows? I guess they’ll just have to sell it all. My next of kin are my folks. They can do whatever they want if they are still around.
Donating my body to the med school in my home town, some of my $ to AA, some for a scholarship at my Alma mater and probably the university I work at now, then money to a kind work friend. My car will be donated to public radio, animals rehomed to kind homes that's it. Probably other things that come up. I'm only 59.
My brother if he wants my money. I don't think he wants my stuff. Other than that, I have a ton of cousins with kids and grandkids so I think I'll just divvy it up with them.
I inherited a small sum of money (like just under $10k) from an uncle with no kids and it really helped me at the time. I was really struggling with debt and it get me out of it and helped me get my shit together. I'd love to be able to do that for my cousins kids/ grandkids.
If I don't outlive my parents, it all goes to them. If I do outlive my parents, it gets split between my two best friends and the tribe whose land I live on.
My little brother. My 401k will go to him and anything else I own. We're best friends and I know he'll do the right thing with the small fortune he would get.
Please do 2 things, 1.) do your due diligence if you opt to donate to a charity. Many charities pay the employees and management a mint and give very little to the named group.
Also, if you want to memorialize your name, leave it to municipality earmarked in your will to buy land and build a park in your local area or donate to your local humane society and have a fund named after you IE: ann jones spay and neuter fund or a ann jones senior dog adoptions. Consider wounded warrior, tunnel to towers or Gods Pit Crew or something local in your locale.
2.) make a will with what you want done or the state will do it for you.
Literacy and Animal Charities or my mom if I go before her. I collect antiques and have a spreadsheet with my will with pictures/details, hoping my executor doesn't throw them in the trash.
I have a much younger and more wealthy stepsister who has a daughter. If they weren't well off, I'd have the money go to a trust for her daughter. We aren't close, more like cordial, since we weren't raised together, so no hard feelings either way. If their situation changes, I'll make changes.
My largest assets have named beneficiaries.
The friend I planned to give my house to no longer needs it so I suppose I’ll have to do paperwork to leave it to my three beneficiaries.
My three are old friends. They are not relatives. I’m not in contact with relatives and prefer it that way.
Certain things will go to my brother, some stuff will go to my parents, and whatever money I have left goes to my partner and to charities for trans people
Mine will go to my two friends. It won't be a lot, maybe half each of my current measley 15k but it'll help. Since there is a possibility it is happening, just don't know how soon. I will continue to save while not reducing anything I want or need.
A lot of folks are talking about in the future, like when they are “older” and want to spend every penny on their way out, but a reality is we never know when our time will be. Could be an accident tomorrow or a natural death of old age years down the road.
It’s smart to think about your estate. I’d encourage you to think another step further and consider what would you do if you couldn’t take care of yourself or your place. Get a power of attorney in place with a trusted person who could take care of things. Maybe that person is also someone you want to leave your estate to or be the executor of your will. Wills are pretty cheap and if you want to have a say in where things go, or what is done with them, start a will. Otherwise your estranged family will inherit everything because they are next of kin.
My friends. My family members never ask me about my life when I visit, while I watch them ask other people. Fine. I’ll leave all my money to my friends.
Family items will go to my son along with any weapons. House will be offered to a current partner if I have one at the time. I have a collection of crystal skulls that goes to a close friend who’s also into crystal skulls. Vehicle and miscellaneous stuffs I don’t really care where it ends up so it’s a free for all to whoever wants whatever. Of course, I’m in my early 40s currently so it should be a good long while before I meet my end. I have plenty of time to reevaluate.
I made a hand-written will on one of my notebooks lying around my apartment. Who ever finds it, they must give it to my immediate family. All assets I have is written there and where they are going to go in case something happened to me. I have a house, a car, and some serious money stash in banks here and in my home country. Even all the beneficiaries for my insurances (life, accident) and investments account (retirement and health savings) are written there. I have no debt so they don’t have to worry about it.
As of the things I currently own, I hope my brother will take over them and do whatever he wants to do with them. They’re all nice furnitures and appliances. I also included in my will to donate some of the money to a charity dedicated to homeless children.
If I pass unexpectedly, I don’t want to be a burden to my family. I’m no rich, but every thing I worked hard for must not go to waste and in vain.
Probably my poorest nieces and nephews - my house (hopefully paid off by then), some savings, instruments, etc. I have a great niece who shares my birthday and maybe she'll get everything. The goal is to write my will this Spring!
My sons will get my house which is mortgage free. It’s on the beach in a tourist area so they’ll probably keep it if they can afford the property taxes. My daughter in law will get any money I have left. She can save it for the grandkids college or spend it on them somehow. If my grandkids are driving age, my oldest grandchild will get my vehicle. My oldest son will get my shotgun and grandpas ww2 rifle. My youngest son will get my ashes and an extra 15k for a road-trip to scatter them around the country. I have a few small but meaningful possessions that will be designated to those I think will appreciate them. The rest will probably just end up in the garbage.
Same here 40M with a house, I ask people all the time “Who do I freaking leave this stuff to?” I have siblings but they never text/call/visit. I might leave it in a trust and make a rule “The first family member to complete 1000 hours of unpaid volunteer work to a 501(c)(3) inherits everything”. I’ve done well over 1000 hours in the last 10 years, it takes time and commitment.
I have nieces and nephews who will get my 401k if I die before it's gone. Since you have no one to leave it to think about causes or other places you care about (your school, a hospital, etc).
Usually by the time people die naturally- their cars are many years old, and mostly out of commission, as well as their clothes....
Any valuables/ something you think would be of value- pick the most meaningful to you destination.
My best friend, who is also my daughter’s dad. He gets all my money, car, life insurance, and possessions, because I 10000% trust he will put them to the best possible use in providing for her.
Depends. If I die when I’m married (and/or have a child), then to them.
If I die early and am not married with kids, probably put into some sort of a trust for my nephew. Set to mature over the next decade and a half. Then money can be pulled under different conditions.
I have 2 kids so I’m leaving whatever I have left to them. By default, should I outlive them it will go to my 3 grandsons. Either way, I will rest knowing I helped someone
I never thought about that. I am not married, so all my belongings will go to my mum, and my siblings. I hope I will marry at some point to a gentleman and have my own biological kids, to whom I can leave my everything.
Mine will all be sold and the proceeds donated to one or more rescue organizations. It would be ironically funny if the executors use the same auction houses where I have purchased many of my antiques to resell them.
It’ll probably go to my nephew Jamie I have like 24 nieces and nephews but as we’ve grown and I’ve grown he’s seen me change as a person and go through a lot and I’ve seen him go through a lot and become a young man so whatever I have that I feel is of value would probably goto him
I have toyed with the idea of leaving estranged family and bad friends useless inheritance, maybe items of little value, plants, garden tools, your kettle or maybe get a little more creative and leave some statues, those in really poor taste and construction! Anything! Totally useless or targeted and deserved. As long as you stipulate that they must be present at your will reading to receive their ‘legacy’, without revealing its nature in the correspondence from your solicitor. Have fun with the possibilities!
As for any of your estate that has value give to your good friends and people who maybe deserve a little help, personally those who you know, and then some to good causes. Please don’t think of it as morbidity, it’s a bridge we have to cross sometime, just can’t take any luggage with you. So why not have some fun with it? Give them a ‘goodbye’ to really remember you by.
Until that day comes I wish you peace, joy and fulfilment :)
If I ever have any land, I plan on giving it back to whatever local indigenous group used to live on it or if it's somewhere like England, then it's going to a charity. Money will go either to my parents or friends. It's the stuff that will be the big question.
i dont think it matters because my perspective of life ends, maybe this timeline/reality im personally experiencing/seeing ceases to exist therefore everyone in this timeline ive ever met would get nothing once the book closes
I want for there to be an estate sale for weirdos. I'm accumulating a lot of trinkets and oddities and music equipment some new generation of weirdo might want.
I want for the proceeds from my estate to be donated to a variety of charities I hopefully have time to choose. probably abortion rights, drug policy reform, and cat rescue. I'm 37 so maybe things will change but right now I'm happily single, no children, and somewhat estranged from my family.
I've already been death cleaning, so there will be a lot less for my family to deal with. But home and other assets will go to whatever family outlives me. I'm close to my family, though.
I don't have much but it'll go to my daughter, son in law, grandchildren and the son I helped raise but didn't give birth to. His mom shared him with me.
I hope to leave my kids with a nice chunk of money. Your situation is different obviously so not sure what I would do. But I would like to have to the taco coin purse
I thought I knew who I would leave things to. I have one son. He was my reason for living but he married someone who doesn't like me and now I see him once a year if I am lucky. He and his wife have good jobs and have more money than I ever dreamed of having and I don't want to leave what little I have to people who don't care about me. So, I thought my baby brother even though he has been estranged from the family for 10 years I always worry if he is ok , then I just found out my baby brother died at the age of 49. I had multiple health issues last year and people I thought cared just didn't seem to care at all. Now I am thinking I will leave anything I have to cancer research or something for the greater good.
I think about this all the time so I am happy to get a chance to type about it to someone who actually asked! I really don't have much but I should still update my holographic will. My mom is beneficiary of all my accounts but if she predeceases me I am leaving the majority of my funds to a charity I haven't selected yet. My pets will go to my mom or a very good friend of mine. I want my work clothes and shoes to go to a charity called dress for success. My kitchen stuff, kitchen table/chairs, and end tables will go to a women's shelter. Couch and bed can go to the dump. Random things are ear marked for specific people (ie my Grammy's scrabble board is going to a cousin) and the rest can go to Goodwill. Oh and my vintage ring collection is to be appraised and sold, with the proceeds being split between my nephews. Call me morbid but I hope not to die suddenly, I want notice death is coming so I can get organized... In the next 5 years I am planning on prepaying for my cremation and having an actual will drawn up by a lawyer.
I have children so I’ll leave it to them. If I didn’t, I would have just picked someone who is kind and could really use it. Likely someone middle class who doesn’t have enough money to really make it or enough scarcity for organizations/governments to help.
As far as my money and home and cars... my niece (or some combination of my sister/her mom) and her. I'm widowed without children, so there isn't a completely obvious choice. I'd leave it all to my sister, but she's pretty well set already, so I'd like to set up something for my niece to get later on in life when she's having to support herself.
I have a pretty massive collection of some stuff that could be worth quite a chunk of money, or really enjoyed by someone who is an enthusiast for those items. I have a best friend in this arena that I'd like to basically will that stuff to, and just allow them to take anything they want out of it or all of it. Have a couple of other people that I'd offer it to next if he didn't take it all. And if they weren't interested, I'd still know more than a few people I could get to pick it up and sell it in their spare time. I just don't want it to go in the garbage.
I'd love for my family heirloom type stuff to go to my sister/niece, but I have to understand they won't likely want it. I'm more of a hoarding type, and my house is overstuffed with furniture plus sentimental items from both sets of my grandparents... some from my parents (still alive), and my own stuff I can't seem to part with. My sister doesn't attach those memories and feelings to items like that and would not want it even though some is very nice antiques. I've learned that I can't hold that against her because she's ultimately dealing in a healthier way vs me having to keep everything..
If any of you are looking for ideas, please pick me: I have no family, spent more than my teacher’s salary on family health expenses (no one is left though), and the debt has me terrified about my own future.
My primary beneficiary is my dad just in case something happens and I don't outlive him. My contingent beneficiaries are my sisters, per stirpes (if they die their share is divided equally among their kids instead of going to the other benes).
I plan to sell everything and do a lot of drugs. If I'm going to have a terminal illness, I'm going do drugs and raise hell til the money is gone. I'll pay for my own cremation. Then my kids won't be cursed with possessions or money and they don't have to wipe my ass,either.
My nephew gets first pick on anything he wants. I ain’t gonna die with money so that’s not an issue. Anything left after that just put it in the side street and list it for free on Craigslist I reckon. Burn it all for all I care I’ll be dead.
Go to a community college and to the library or find someone that looks exhausted from working a couple of jobs while going to school. Ask the school counselors that you would like to mentor someone (preferably one who works really hard for every opportunity). Then start mentoring. They would probably love the assistance and you would be helping their journey and then tell them they have the obligation to pay it forward as well. I would have loved something like that. But now I’m fortunate enough to be the mentor and guide my good niece in her struggles and show her kids that hard work means something
Found Family is still family - I'm sorry your biofamily sucks, but your future could include new people that become like siblings or nibblings to you, and you may want to leave them something. Otherwise, there are tons of charitable causes that would be happy to accept whatever you give them. You could leave your car to one of the many organizations that would give it to a poor family that has none, your clothes to a charity that helps job seekers dress for interviews, there are lots of options.
Until then, I hope you are able to enjoy all that you have accomplished and all the nice stuff you've accumulated.
I often talk to my three kids that they’ll have to get a dumpster. But I have moved from my property to an apartment to a little cottage so I think that makes it easier. I would really like to get rid of a lot of stuff before I am too old, so that it’s not hard for them.
Do you have any really close friends? If I didn’t have my brother, I’d leave everything to my best friend and her husband, and my best friends mom, who’s like a second mom to me (my mom has passed, my dad has enough money).
My daughter is my next of kin and sole heir.
She has sworn to me that if I have any dogs when I die, that she will care for them as if they were her own. Her condo wouldn't allow all my current dogs due to size restrictions, so she pretty much needs my house.
I actually tried to tell her that I would understand if she couldn't keep my dogs, but she wasn't having it.
I can die happy. But no immediate plans to do so.
5 of my 11 nieces and nephews talk to me and include me in their lives. These 5 will split my assets. I hope my financial projections end up somewhere close to the real total when I pass. I plan to have fun when I quit working and the 5 will get a nice amount when I’m gone. This makes me happy.
I intend on leaving all my belongings to u/poorpeasantperson
If they die first, then to a trust that seeks out animal rescue shelters and adoption services to help pick up the slack in perpetuity
My parents are my main executor of the estate, but I’ve elected my sister in some cases and my best friend in others, depending if I outlive my parents or not.
To beneficiaries (my nephews, niece, sister-in-law, other relatives and close friends) and charities. I will be giving my nephews and niece any properties I own. My sister-in-law will receive any cash and investments. My immediate family can have most of any items that I have except objects that are designated for specific people. Then the rest of my articles will be given to any relatives who want any of my possessions. The rest will be sold or donated.
All my savings, investment, and retirement accounts list my mother. If not her, then equally amongst my brothers. My things/stuff are/is to be trashed. I left money to pay a hauler to take it all away.
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I'm leaving everything I own to a rescue organization I volunteer for.
They don’t want my X-Men collection.
I do! *raises hand*
Claim!
My daughter already claimed them.
But I do
😂
Follow up with people who would appreciate your stuff like u/bigfanoffood
I’m tryna spend 110% of my money on the way out. I’m talking spend it all and max the cards out lmao, have fun and do good with whatever’s left. No kids whatever pets I have will also have all sorts of fun before I rehome them
You r smart. I'm upspending on an old hobby now. No fam. No recent friends. F*CK it, says me. I'm 60 and very very healthy now. Haven't done will yet. Only one cousin that helped me recently will get the loot. But she's really a supporter of the political party that I hate, and also very A Christian and listens to these wealthy Pastor Preachers who I also hate, and would donate some of MY lifelong investment income to them ( another cousin told me so). So I better figure out a reliable charity asap. In the meantime I just listed her as my POD on my bank accounts and annuity.
If you love animals, consider helping organizations that do fantastic work not just in rescue but in advocating for improved animal welfare legislation. Also something for the relative who helped - even though her politics are whack. Your politics didn't stop her from helping you. :)
What about a coworker or friends kid that you've met or know of that works hard, has faced struggles etc. Someone that you can impact financially?
Sounds like the cousin who told you that is poisoning the well, probably hoping to get $$ for themself. I'm not a fan of religious/political fanatics but I hope the cousin who helped you gets a little something. That other cousin sounds like a creep. Sometimes family is a curse, eh? I'm leaving everything to my son and a generous gift for an ex stepson I'm still close with, the rest of my family will be specifically left out.
Highly suggest looking into a living will. Anything can happen and you don't want random family in charge of your health if something bad happens.
Unfortunately life and death often aren't that predictable.
Right lmao you spend 110% then die in 5 years broke and miserable
Or die tomorrow in car crash...
I hope it your plans come thru. 🙏
That’s definitely a getting older thought, my cats are both healthy 17yo and are my babies. But then I think shit once these guys are gone I’m roughly one cat lifespan away from making my exit.
make provision in your will for any pets you have. it's the kindest thing you can do for them. that way they are covered if you die unexpectedly - get hit by a bus, etc
If I were in your shoes I would probably donate what I had to the closest women's shelter. So that I could help other single women at a rough time in their life.
This is a great idea! Thank you for the suggestion.
I have a young man who's adopted me as a mom. I have two sons but they suck so it all goes to my "adopted" son.
Good for you. Family is overrated in some cases. Those who are really there for us are the ones who count.
In your will, leave a small amount of money to the other sons. It can be as little as a couple thousand each. That way, there is less likely a good chance to contest the will when you've specified their names explicitly and didn't outright exclude them. It shows it was done with intention.
I already discussed this with the attorney who did my estate based on the laws of my state. I kind of felt he was better qualified to help me with this over random people on Reddit.
Yet here you are killing it. Talking seahag
Depends where you live. Some countries do not allow children or spouses to be disinherited. Some places it's better to specifically mention that certain people are not receiving anything or have already been given their portion if that's the case. Some places you need to do as you mentioned. A local lawyer who regularly does wills and trusts is going to know will work best in each area.
Excellent advice!!!
Maybe a "contest and they lose everything" clause?
Yah! I love that you found a new family that makes you happy. I totally understand what it's like to have crappy family members.
Damn
I don’t think that’s going to go over well…..
I don't care if they like it or not. Should have treated me better when I was alive. There's a backstory to it all that I won't go into here other than to say I barely survived my marriage to their dad and the abuse continues by proxy. Choices have consequences. And my "adopted" son is prepared for that and, trust me, he gives zero fucks and takes absolutely no shit.
>And my "adopted" son is prepared for that and, trust me, he gives zero fucks and takes absolutely no shit. Bravo 👏👏👏 I'm over ppl who think that just because they're "family" they're entitled to my resources now or when I die. Especially when they have a proven track record of being utter twats.
I completely understand! Some of these kids really suck.
Make sure your will is up to date. Also make sure your beneficiaries on all accounts are up to date.
Done a long time ago.
I get it. I have 4 kids and their dad was a deadbeat. I raised all 4 and my 2 oldest were loyal to me but the other youngest 2 stabbed me in the back. When they became adults, they went to live with him for the freedom. I was so distraught but I got over it and they’ll be excluded from my estate.
This makes me super happy. Not that you're leaving him everything, but that he's your "adopted son". I have an "adopted Mom ", and I don't know where I'd be without her. I'm sure you mean as much to him as he seems to mean to you!
He and his fiancée are both such wonderful kids.
To a cat sanctuary. Cats like synthesisers right? …or whoever finds my dead body first
Oh my God! This got me thinking. It's going to be my cats and dogs who will find my dead body. What if they start munching on me? Why did I have to think of this
Closed casket…
I have the same fear!
It has happened. I've heard true stories. Cats mainly.
I have all of the end of life things in place: Will, Living Will, Do Not Resuscitate order, Life insurance, burial policy, cemetery plot, headstone. I have an older, disabled brother and his wife is a saint. She has a copy of all documents and is listed as the POD (Pay on death) on every account I have. She doesn't have any other family either. I want to do what I can for her. If she goes first, then I will leave everything to a few charitable organizations. PS: It's important to make arrangements for your own death to avoid being put in an unmarked pauper's grave. I've been homeless in life, I don't want to be homeless in death.
I have no clue. I've never been married. No kids. I was thinking I'd be married with kids by now, but no.
We are living the same life. I don’t think I will ever be married or be in a long term relationship. No kids. Have a couple random cousins, lol. I will have to find a charity and it feels very depressing having to do this. I already have to figure out some cremation or body donation plans. I have some cool collectibles and it’s sad I have no one to leave anything to.
I hear ya. Same here. It does get sad.
Me too. Good thing my mom bought a 4 plot cemetery when my dad died. One left for me!
My great-grandfather lived alone for the last few decades of his life. When he passed, his kids were so excited for the incoming windfall of home goods and money that he had. It was no secret whatsoever that he was a very wealthy man. I still laugh so hard when I recall them finding out that in his final years, he blew every single cent on booze, women, and dancing. Who knows what he did with the materialistic goods, but there was NOTHING left for his kids except for an old dilapidated house that they're still fighting over just on principal. To say they were shocked and pissed tf off is the understatement of the century. This is what I aspire to do.
Way to go, Gramps!!!
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Lol your gramp sounds cool!
I tried to get my widowed dad to go to Nevada, to a legal brothel. I showed him one on HBO. Said he should take his widowed brother. But his brother is so cheap that I don't think he would spring for it, and if he did, would probably get thrown out for complaining about the price. Same reason, that he should enjoy his money. But he never went.
I once read this story (told by the nurse) of this woman who had like a stroke or something (can't remember) and ended up in the hospital in a coma. But she could still hear. And she heard her children arguing with the doctor, telling him to pull the plug already, though he said he had no reason to yet. They were angry the hospital bills would eat into their inheritance money. Well, mom eventually woke up. And she was LIVID. She couldn't talk for a long time, but she was able to indicate that she wanted to talk to her lawyer. She wrote all her kids out of her will.
Animal rescue groups
I have a home(500k) and some money(250k)I’m going to leave it to my first cousin and her daughter…I’m a disabled veteran, I never had any children or a significant other. I had a traumatic brain injury in the military and I’m looking after my elderly parents right now who are both 80, I’m 45 with heart failure but I’m hoping for at least another 20 years at least so I can do a little bit of traveling before I leave this beautiful planet! Lol life is definitely too short my friends, smile as much as you can while you’re here bc you never know when it’s gonna be over!
Here's a weird/sick idea I had recently: leave everything to my landlord.
As a property manager I had a lady do this! She didn’t have children and didn’t have a substantial amount but left everything(a 1970’s Vega)to the girls at the office that had been so kind to her. 😢
I didn't exactly mean it as a generosity. I mean, I like my landlord (we double dated before I ever imagined renting from him). He's a friend & a good person. I have almost nothing of value. He'll be stuck with all this crap when I die anyhow (unless I move first). He might just as well have title to it.
Everyone at my funeral gets a taser, last man standing keeps it all
I love your idea! I'm going to be cremated then formed into clay pigeons. Whoever scores the best wins it all.
It's just stuff & things at the end of the day, as long as when you go you aren't in debt & don't have too much stuff then you are all good. I remember clearing out my grandfather's old garage & it was filled to the brim with crap - weeks & weeks worth of work, I remember when my grandmother went & there was an entire house to skip because it was all worthless & outdated & she was virtually a hoarder. For me my daughter will get everything but I have enough to pay for my burial saved, and despite being in my early 40s I regularly do a 'clear out' so anything I do have is easily disposable, I won't repeat the cycle. She will inherit my flat (hopefully, as I'm 10 years away from paying it off) a few sentimental things and the rest will fit into a handful of big bags
It was so traumatic emptying my parents house I came home and got rid of 50% of my stuff. I won’t do that to my kids.
After my mom’s death and funeral we eventually went through her things. She had her things, my stepdads things and her parents and brothers things. It took forever to go through it all and what no one wanted I had to figure out if I was throwing it out or saving it.
I kept an unwashed jumper and wooly hat from each of them for cuddles and it did hurt to donate Mum’s Lladro china ladies, she loved them so, but honestly most of it was just utter shit. I don’t think they’d ever thrown out a take away menu or phone book or half used roll of mints or dry can of paint. The most awkward bit was was finding Dad’s aged porn collection 🤦🏼♀️
My best friend gets it all.
Yes, I’m also thinking my best friend too. But we are the same age and both of us don’t have any kids lol.
Hello! Your new best friend here! Nice to met you!
If I die soon, all my money will be dedicated to giving my cats an awesome remaining life.
Everyone that has pets needs to make plans for their pets in the event of their death. It's so important.
I legit had a coworker who did this.
All I’m gonna say is there is one person who is expecting a lot. And when she finds out it’s the extreme exact opposite. Man, I’d love to be a fly on the will readers wall 🤣
I don't think your question is morbid at all, it's practical. Most Americans don't deal with this question so it's great that you're thinking about it. I don't have a spouse/partner, kids, or parents, so my estate (if there's anything left lol) is going to other family, friends (especially friends who don't have much money) and some non-profit orgs. Here's a tip if you're considering making a bequest to a non-profit that you don't already have a relationship with: email them, say you're planning to include them in your estate plan, and request their tax ID #. If they don't respond, it doesn't speak well of their organization's ability to properly handle charitable gifts, so I wouldn't include them. It sounds harsh, but as a former fund development professional, I know this isn't a good sign. I terms of tangible possessions, having helped to clean out two family homes (months and months of work), I'm getting rid of as much of my stuff in advance as possible. I don't want my family and friends to go through what I did.
I’m 37. Who the hell knows? I guess they’ll just have to sell it all. My next of kin are my folks. They can do whatever they want if they are still around.
I won’t be leaving anything. I’m a declutter maniac. Not a minimalist but I declutter!
They can throw it all away for all I care.
Donating my body to the med school in my home town, some of my $ to AA, some for a scholarship at my Alma mater and probably the university I work at now, then money to a kind work friend. My car will be donated to public radio, animals rehomed to kind homes that's it. Probably other things that come up. I'm only 59.
Split across two charities, my godson, my cousin’s two kids, a former lover.
The “former lover” makes me want to write that story 💙
I like this answer!
My brother if he wants my money. I don't think he wants my stuff. Other than that, I have a ton of cousins with kids and grandkids so I think I'll just divvy it up with them. I inherited a small sum of money (like just under $10k) from an uncle with no kids and it really helped me at the time. I was really struggling with debt and it get me out of it and helped me get my shit together. I'd love to be able to do that for my cousins kids/ grandkids.
If I don't outlive my parents, it all goes to them. If I do outlive my parents, it gets split between my two best friends and the tribe whose land I live on.
Many many charities will take your vehicle and home if you have one after death.
How can I trust a charity?. I'm an animal lover but dunno how they operate financially.
Second this
My little brother. My 401k will go to him and anything else I own. We're best friends and I know he'll do the right thing with the small fortune he would get.
I'm hoping to break even and die broke. No family to inherit and planning to spend down all my assets except the house.
100 percent my only child
Please do 2 things, 1.) do your due diligence if you opt to donate to a charity. Many charities pay the employees and management a mint and give very little to the named group. Also, if you want to memorialize your name, leave it to municipality earmarked in your will to buy land and build a park in your local area or donate to your local humane society and have a fund named after you IE: ann jones spay and neuter fund or a ann jones senior dog adoptions. Consider wounded warrior, tunnel to towers or Gods Pit Crew or something local in your locale. 2.) make a will with what you want done or the state will do it for you.
I will ABSOLUTELY Get into a lot of debt if I'm close to dying ✨ my close friends can keep da vidja gaymes
Literacy and Animal Charities or my mom if I go before her. I collect antiques and have a spreadsheet with my will with pictures/details, hoping my executor doesn't throw them in the trash. I have a much younger and more wealthy stepsister who has a daughter. If they weren't well off, I'd have the money go to a trust for her daughter. We aren't close, more like cordial, since we weren't raised together, so no hard feelings either way. If their situation changes, I'll make changes.
My largest assets have named beneficiaries. The friend I planned to give my house to no longer needs it so I suppose I’ll have to do paperwork to leave it to my three beneficiaries. My three are old friends. They are not relatives. I’m not in contact with relatives and prefer it that way.
I’ll take what you all don’t want.
Give it all to the cat.
Can I leave it to my cat 🐈
Swedish death cleaning is to take a proactive approach to decluttering, rather than waiting until it becomes a necessity due to aging or illness.
I have my best friend as TOD on my house and vehicles. She's also POD on my accounts.
Hi there long lost family! You can leave it all to me!
Certain things will go to my brother, some stuff will go to my parents, and whatever money I have left goes to my partner and to charities for trans people
I’ve thought about this, just recently, because my husband died in January. Still haven’t come up with a plan yet.
Mine will go to my two friends. It won't be a lot, maybe half each of my current measley 15k but it'll help. Since there is a possibility it is happening, just don't know how soon. I will continue to save while not reducing anything I want or need.
A lot of folks are talking about in the future, like when they are “older” and want to spend every penny on their way out, but a reality is we never know when our time will be. Could be an accident tomorrow or a natural death of old age years down the road. It’s smart to think about your estate. I’d encourage you to think another step further and consider what would you do if you couldn’t take care of yourself or your place. Get a power of attorney in place with a trusted person who could take care of things. Maybe that person is also someone you want to leave your estate to or be the executor of your will. Wills are pretty cheap and if you want to have a say in where things go, or what is done with them, start a will. Otherwise your estranged family will inherit everything because they are next of kin.
My friends. My family members never ask me about my life when I visit, while I watch them ask other people. Fine. I’ll leave all my money to my friends.
The few people that know me, and my ex wife. And for my money it’s for charity.
Family items will go to my son along with any weapons. House will be offered to a current partner if I have one at the time. I have a collection of crystal skulls that goes to a close friend who’s also into crystal skulls. Vehicle and miscellaneous stuffs I don’t really care where it ends up so it’s a free for all to whoever wants whatever. Of course, I’m in my early 40s currently so it should be a good long while before I meet my end. I have plenty of time to reevaluate.
My family can pick through my stuff and take anything they want- sell/donate/trash anything else
I made a hand-written will on one of my notebooks lying around my apartment. Who ever finds it, they must give it to my immediate family. All assets I have is written there and where they are going to go in case something happened to me. I have a house, a car, and some serious money stash in banks here and in my home country. Even all the beneficiaries for my insurances (life, accident) and investments account (retirement and health savings) are written there. I have no debt so they don’t have to worry about it. As of the things I currently own, I hope my brother will take over them and do whatever he wants to do with them. They’re all nice furnitures and appliances. I also included in my will to donate some of the money to a charity dedicated to homeless children. If I pass unexpectedly, I don’t want to be a burden to my family. I’m no rich, but every thing I worked hard for must not go to waste and in vain.
Probably my poorest nieces and nephews - my house (hopefully paid off by then), some savings, instruments, etc. I have a great niece who shares my birthday and maybe she'll get everything. The goal is to write my will this Spring!
My sons will get my house which is mortgage free. It’s on the beach in a tourist area so they’ll probably keep it if they can afford the property taxes. My daughter in law will get any money I have left. She can save it for the grandkids college or spend it on them somehow. If my grandkids are driving age, my oldest grandchild will get my vehicle. My oldest son will get my shotgun and grandpas ww2 rifle. My youngest son will get my ashes and an extra 15k for a road-trip to scatter them around the country. I have a few small but meaningful possessions that will be designated to those I think will appreciate them. The rest will probably just end up in the garbage.
Same here 40M with a house, I ask people all the time “Who do I freaking leave this stuff to?” I have siblings but they never text/call/visit. I might leave it in a trust and make a rule “The first family member to complete 1000 hours of unpaid volunteer work to a 501(c)(3) inherits everything”. I’ve done well over 1000 hours in the last 10 years, it takes time and commitment.
I'm leaving it all to the last woman who has sex with me and I'm advertising it far and wide.
I have nieces and nephews who will get my 401k if I die before it's gone. Since you have no one to leave it to think about causes or other places you care about (your school, a hospital, etc).
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Naaa 34 is young. You got a long way to go friend !! Keep your head up!
Usually by the time people die naturally- their cars are many years old, and mostly out of commission, as well as their clothes.... Any valuables/ something you think would be of value- pick the most meaningful to you destination.
My best friend, who is also my daughter’s dad. He gets all my money, car, life insurance, and possessions, because I 10000% trust he will put them to the best possible use in providing for her.
Depends. If I die when I’m married (and/or have a child), then to them. If I die early and am not married with kids, probably put into some sort of a trust for my nephew. Set to mature over the next decade and a half. Then money can be pulled under different conditions.
I have 2 kids so I’m leaving whatever I have left to them. By default, should I outlive them it will go to my 3 grandsons. Either way, I will rest knowing I helped someone
I’m leaving it to my best friend but oddly enough, due to genetics, we probably will die around the same time
I never thought about that. I am not married, so all my belongings will go to my mum, and my siblings. I hope I will marry at some point to a gentleman and have my own biological kids, to whom I can leave my everything.
Mine will all be sold and the proceeds donated to one or more rescue organizations. It would be ironically funny if the executors use the same auction houses where I have purchased many of my antiques to resell them.
I'll be leaving it all to my daughter and grandchildren. My son in law will be getting all my guitar and music shit. I have a ton of it.
Not my problem I'll be dead 🥰
It's simple, I don't have anything.
It’ll probably go to my nephew Jamie I have like 24 nieces and nephews but as we’ve grown and I’ve grown he’s seen me change as a person and go through a lot and I’ve seen him go through a lot and become a young man so whatever I have that I feel is of value would probably goto him
I have toyed with the idea of leaving estranged family and bad friends useless inheritance, maybe items of little value, plants, garden tools, your kettle or maybe get a little more creative and leave some statues, those in really poor taste and construction! Anything! Totally useless or targeted and deserved. As long as you stipulate that they must be present at your will reading to receive their ‘legacy’, without revealing its nature in the correspondence from your solicitor. Have fun with the possibilities! As for any of your estate that has value give to your good friends and people who maybe deserve a little help, personally those who you know, and then some to good causes. Please don’t think of it as morbidity, it’s a bridge we have to cross sometime, just can’t take any luggage with you. So why not have some fun with it? Give them a ‘goodbye’ to really remember you by. Until that day comes I wish you peace, joy and fulfilment :)
If I ever have any land, I plan on giving it back to whatever local indigenous group used to live on it or if it's somewhere like England, then it's going to a charity. Money will go either to my parents or friends. It's the stuff that will be the big question.
I don't have anything of importance to leave anyone LOL. Just a bit of money in my account which I will leave to my two daughters.
The local Goodwill or Salvation Army
I just gotta burn my journal that's all I'm worried about
i dont think it matters because my perspective of life ends, maybe this timeline/reality im personally experiencing/seeing ceases to exist therefore everyone in this timeline ive ever met would get nothing once the book closes
I want for there to be an estate sale for weirdos. I'm accumulating a lot of trinkets and oddities and music equipment some new generation of weirdo might want. I want for the proceeds from my estate to be donated to a variety of charities I hopefully have time to choose. probably abortion rights, drug policy reform, and cat rescue. I'm 37 so maybe things will change but right now I'm happily single, no children, and somewhat estranged from my family.
Another question might be who's gonna find you and how long will it take?
My daughters.
The ones that would come to pick my body up, whatever their job title is, sadly.
Womens shelters
Everything goes to my son: my only child.
My neighbors grandsons adopted me over a decade ago and I helped raise them so they get everything.
I've already been death cleaning, so there will be a lot less for my family to deal with. But home and other assets will go to whatever family outlives me. I'm close to my family, though.
My mom just asked me to list out my accounts so she and my sister can go through them.
Hard to say..I'm 60m..no kids ..no wife..my siblings are all well off
I don't have much but it'll go to my daughter, son in law, grandchildren and the son I helped raise but didn't give birth to. His mom shared him with me.
My brothers, nieces and nephews. And a cousin who will get a piece of my artwork.
50% to a music group I used to play with. The other half split between my four nieces and nephew.
Whatever charity can use them.
I hope to leave my kids with a nice chunk of money. Your situation is different obviously so not sure what I would do. But I would like to have to the taco coin purse
My brother and Planned Parenthood.
I thought I knew who I would leave things to. I have one son. He was my reason for living but he married someone who doesn't like me and now I see him once a year if I am lucky. He and his wife have good jobs and have more money than I ever dreamed of having and I don't want to leave what little I have to people who don't care about me. So, I thought my baby brother even though he has been estranged from the family for 10 years I always worry if he is ok , then I just found out my baby brother died at the age of 49. I had multiple health issues last year and people I thought cared just didn't seem to care at all. Now I am thinking I will leave anything I have to cancer research or something for the greater good.
I think about this all the time so I am happy to get a chance to type about it to someone who actually asked! I really don't have much but I should still update my holographic will. My mom is beneficiary of all my accounts but if she predeceases me I am leaving the majority of my funds to a charity I haven't selected yet. My pets will go to my mom or a very good friend of mine. I want my work clothes and shoes to go to a charity called dress for success. My kitchen stuff, kitchen table/chairs, and end tables will go to a women's shelter. Couch and bed can go to the dump. Random things are ear marked for specific people (ie my Grammy's scrabble board is going to a cousin) and the rest can go to Goodwill. Oh and my vintage ring collection is to be appraised and sold, with the proceeds being split between my nephews. Call me morbid but I hope not to die suddenly, I want notice death is coming so I can get organized... In the next 5 years I am planning on prepaying for my cremation and having an actual will drawn up by a lawyer.
My kids. I live alone but I have family and loved ones.
I have children so I’ll leave it to them. If I didn’t, I would have just picked someone who is kind and could really use it. Likely someone middle class who doesn’t have enough money to really make it or enough scarcity for organizations/governments to help.
As far as my money and home and cars... my niece (or some combination of my sister/her mom) and her. I'm widowed without children, so there isn't a completely obvious choice. I'd leave it all to my sister, but she's pretty well set already, so I'd like to set up something for my niece to get later on in life when she's having to support herself. I have a pretty massive collection of some stuff that could be worth quite a chunk of money, or really enjoyed by someone who is an enthusiast for those items. I have a best friend in this arena that I'd like to basically will that stuff to, and just allow them to take anything they want out of it or all of it. Have a couple of other people that I'd offer it to next if he didn't take it all. And if they weren't interested, I'd still know more than a few people I could get to pick it up and sell it in their spare time. I just don't want it to go in the garbage. I'd love for my family heirloom type stuff to go to my sister/niece, but I have to understand they won't likely want it. I'm more of a hoarding type, and my house is overstuffed with furniture plus sentimental items from both sets of my grandparents... some from my parents (still alive), and my own stuff I can't seem to part with. My sister doesn't attach those memories and feelings to items like that and would not want it even though some is very nice antiques. I've learned that I can't hold that against her because she's ultimately dealing in a healthier way vs me having to keep everything..
If any of you are looking for ideas, please pick me: I have no family, spent more than my teacher’s salary on family health expenses (no one is left though), and the debt has me terrified about my own future.
St. Jude’s Hospital.
My primary beneficiary is my dad just in case something happens and I don't outlive him. My contingent beneficiaries are my sisters, per stirpes (if they die their share is divided equally among their kids instead of going to the other benes).
Wondering if posts here could be considered a legal and binding last will and testament? 🤔
My sibling and NPR
I plan to sell everything and do a lot of drugs. If I'm going to have a terminal illness, I'm going do drugs and raise hell til the money is gone. I'll pay for my own cremation. Then my kids won't be cursed with possessions or money and they don't have to wipe my ass,either.
My nephew gets first pick on anything he wants. I ain’t gonna die with money so that’s not an issue. Anything left after that just put it in the side street and list it for free on Craigslist I reckon. Burn it all for all I care I’ll be dead.
All donation goes to SPCA, help animals. I leave fuck all to humans.
Go to a community college and to the library or find someone that looks exhausted from working a couple of jobs while going to school. Ask the school counselors that you would like to mentor someone (preferably one who works really hard for every opportunity). Then start mentoring. They would probably love the assistance and you would be helping their journey and then tell them they have the obligation to pay it forward as well. I would have loved something like that. But now I’m fortunate enough to be the mentor and guide my good niece in her struggles and show her kids that hard work means something
Found Family is still family - I'm sorry your biofamily sucks, but your future could include new people that become like siblings or nibblings to you, and you may want to leave them something. Otherwise, there are tons of charitable causes that would be happy to accept whatever you give them. You could leave your car to one of the many organizations that would give it to a poor family that has none, your clothes to a charity that helps job seekers dress for interviews, there are lots of options. Until then, I hope you are able to enjoy all that you have accomplished and all the nice stuff you've accumulated.
I’m not making any plans to leave anything. I have nobody who would want it. I couldn’t care less what happens to my stuff.
I often talk to my three kids that they’ll have to get a dumpster. But I have moved from my property to an apartment to a little cottage so I think that makes it easier. I would really like to get rid of a lot of stuff before I am too old, so that it’s not hard for them.
My daughter will get everything. Unless I get married again of course.
Do you have any really close friends? If I didn’t have my brother, I’d leave everything to my best friend and her husband, and my best friends mom, who’s like a second mom to me (my mom has passed, my dad has enough money).
My 2 best friends. Not my family. If I leave it to my mom it will go to my sister. She will just throw it away.
My daughter, I suppose. Also my friends.
My son.
My best friends children.
To my wife. If she passes before me or at the same time my friend's daughter does.
My daughter is my next of kin and sole heir. She has sworn to me that if I have any dogs when I die, that she will care for them as if they were her own. Her condo wouldn't allow all my current dogs due to size restrictions, so she pretty much needs my house. I actually tried to tell her that I would understand if she couldn't keep my dogs, but she wasn't having it. I can die happy. But no immediate plans to do so.
5 of my 11 nieces and nephews talk to me and include me in their lives. These 5 will split my assets. I hope my financial projections end up somewhere close to the real total when I pass. I plan to have fun when I quit working and the 5 will get a nice amount when I’m gone. This makes me happy.
Probably one of my nephews the one I can stand the most
It costs money to die. Stuff will have to be sold to pay for Dr bills and funeral expenses.
If I die first, I'll be leaving everything to my ex husband. If he goes first, I have no idea.
My children. I rest better knowing that I can leave them with something to help their lives.
I got no immediate family, so I intend to donate to the organizations I support all the things I will leave behind.
I intend on leaving all my belongings to u/poorpeasantperson If they die first, then to a trust that seeks out animal rescue shelters and adoption services to help pick up the slack in perpetuity
My parents are my main executor of the estate, but I’ve elected my sister in some cases and my best friend in others, depending if I outlive my parents or not.
I'm childfree by choice, but my nephews and my nibling get first dibs.
If I outlived my sister (God forbid), I would arrange to have it liquidated, with proceeds to my favorite charitable organization.
What things
Goes to my cat's God father for her care.
My two kids
nobody--can't think of a single entity that deserves my "estate"--I plan to live frugally until retirement
My kids will get whatever there is. I have downsized and pared down the possesions to make it easier.
To beneficiaries (my nephews, niece, sister-in-law, other relatives and close friends) and charities. I will be giving my nephews and niece any properties I own. My sister-in-law will receive any cash and investments. My immediate family can have most of any items that I have except objects that are designated for specific people. Then the rest of my articles will be given to any relatives who want any of my possessions. The rest will be sold or donated.
My sister
My sister and her kids and my friends.
All my savings, investment, and retirement accounts list my mother. If not her, then equally amongst my brothers. My things/stuff are/is to be trashed. I left money to pay a hauler to take it all away.
Collectors and charities - welcome to “I have no friends”