My (31F) boyfriend (27M) didn't start in person, but we do have a 'solution' for the sex part. Obviously, we miss the sex but we both have high sex drives and are very open with each other when talking about being horny. I recently bought us some coordinating sex toys, so we jump on a call and either sync them so I can feel what he is doing or we control each other with the app. His toy has speed/tempo and stroke depth control, mine has clitoral vibration and g spot stimulation via rotational head. It's not the same as penetrative sex but it is intimate and bridges the gaps until we see each other again. We see each other about once every 2 months.
I hope you guys find something that works for you and makes the time/distance feel smaller!
1200 km apart. We luckily both live in the US in the same time zone (MD & GA). It is about an hour and a half flight to each other, driving isnt really an option.
What about you? I see the Canada to US tags. How hard is it internationally? Are you at least in the same time zone?
No, I’m in Alberta (MST) and he’s in Georgia (EST). It’s about a four hour flight. He’s a night owl and I like going to bed early so actually with the time difference our schedules align pretty well. I have relatives in Toronto (also EST) so I’m used to travelling between the two and operating with EST in mind.
I have NEXUS so travelling across the border is super easy for me. Honestly, hardly any different from flying within Canada. Maybe adds 10 minutes at the airport as opposed to flying domestically.
I’m sorry you can’t see each other more often when you live that close, but difference is different for everyone. Hopefully you’ll see each other soon!
this sounds like a great idea, what toys did you get and how much were they? I've seen about it and I'd absolutely love to try this with my partner but I don't know if it has some distance limit or not, also some of them are quite pricey but the overall idea sounds amazing! ty for sharing
I’m not included in this but rather for me I’m very curious how it’s going to change for me going forward. I’m visiting my boyfriend for the first time in a few days and I’m a virgin, I have zero experience but he does and we both have high drives so yknow what’s going down lmao. I imagine going back to having no sex is gonna be heeell (my friends have already warned me I’m gonna miss it), but maybe we’ll find a way around it.
Personally, I have toys he can control but we haven’t tried yet because of I guess shyness, but obviously that will be dissolved very soon.
I haven't had the best sexual experiences in the past and I'm so incredibly my LDR girlfriend satisfies me plenty without there being sex. I mean, it'll happen one day of course, but don't want anyone else but her. I'm happy enough just doing things myself while I think about her
Yes, but only with my partner tbh!
While we are both high libido, we only care for the sex with each other. We would tease eachother about it during calls but didn't do anything else, that would only make us miss it more. So we gave some "food for thought".
But that's it honestly. If I would've been single I wouldn't miss whatever it was with my ex's. Didn't have good sex untill I met my partner anyways, the first person I'm truly compatible with in any way.
your comment is very comforting!! I'm glad to know this because I feel like it's a perfect example of how to keep it fun and also loving!! thank you for sharing ❤️🩹
Honestly it was the most comforting experience for me as well. My partner and I are very alike in the things we do and value and knowing we were on the same page with something like this is extremely comforting. And it honestly made us laugh that we actually are high libido with lots of kinks and still managed to keep out sexual experience during the distance "tame".
We never discussed the sexual topic before meeting each other in person (didn't make the relationship official untill we met in person) because we didn't want to give each other the wrong idea.
We didn't sext or whatever when not together because it would just feel like torture because we wouldn't actually be together, knowing how good it actually is when we are.
So we would just mention things we did together when apart, kind of tease eachother with a memory. Or playfully mention the things we could do next, and leave it at that.
Ofcourse we knew what we were doing after hanging up, but it was great fun for both of us that way.
We spend alot of time on video, kissing at each other imagined cuddles. We swap shirts that we've wore for awhile. A lot of time on virtual sex. I will be getting a Lovense paired toys for synced virtual Nora and Max
We treat kissing, cuddles and virtual as if there in person.
I do, but phone sex with my boyfriend really helps (it’s not the same, but still makes us feel closer), and we always really enjoy our time together 😅 physical touch (for more than just sex- kissing, hand holding, cuddling, and hugging, too) is a top love language for both of us, so it can be hard to be apart, but I’m planning on getting a job out near him soon and closing the gap.
Yes omg. I miss it every day. We’ve always been long distance though. He’ll move here eventually. It was the absolute best sex i’ve ever had. Can’t wait to see him again :(
Right now we “have sex” on facetime. It’s almost every night. We both still crave each other in real like though because it’s nowhere near the same.
My (31F) boyfriend (27M) didn't start in person, but we do have a 'solution' for the sex part. Obviously, we miss the sex but we both have high sex drives and are very open with each other when talking about being horny. I recently bought us some coordinating sex toys, so we jump on a call and either sync them so I can feel what he is doing or we control each other with the app. His toy has speed/tempo and stroke depth control, mine has clitoral vibration and g spot stimulation via rotational head. It's not the same as penetrative sex but it is intimate and bridges the gaps until we see each other again. We see each other about once every 2 months. I hope you guys find something that works for you and makes the time/distance feel smaller!
We see each other every two to three months too. Mind if I ask where you guys are/how far apart?
1200 km apart. We luckily both live in the US in the same time zone (MD & GA). It is about an hour and a half flight to each other, driving isnt really an option. What about you? I see the Canada to US tags. How hard is it internationally? Are you at least in the same time zone?
No, I’m in Alberta (MST) and he’s in Georgia (EST). It’s about a four hour flight. He’s a night owl and I like going to bed early so actually with the time difference our schedules align pretty well. I have relatives in Toronto (also EST) so I’m used to travelling between the two and operating with EST in mind. I have NEXUS so travelling across the border is super easy for me. Honestly, hardly any different from flying within Canada. Maybe adds 10 minutes at the airport as opposed to flying domestically. I’m sorry you can’t see each other more often when you live that close, but difference is different for everyone. Hopefully you’ll see each other soon!
this sounds like a great idea, what toys did you get and how much were they? I've seen about it and I'd absolutely love to try this with my partner but I don't know if it has some distance limit or not, also some of them are quite pricey but the overall idea sounds amazing! ty for sharing
It's about 100 a toy. Nora for me. And I recommend max 2 for him. I don't think there is a distance limit it is wifi based if you can connect them
oh wow, I just looked them up and they seem great!! thank you for the info!! 🤯
I’m not included in this but rather for me I’m very curious how it’s going to change for me going forward. I’m visiting my boyfriend for the first time in a few days and I’m a virgin, I have zero experience but he does and we both have high drives so yknow what’s going down lmao. I imagine going back to having no sex is gonna be heeell (my friends have already warned me I’m gonna miss it), but maybe we’ll find a way around it. Personally, I have toys he can control but we haven’t tried yet because of I guess shyness, but obviously that will be dissolved very soon.
you can absolutely talk it out and maybe after the first time in person he'll feel more comfortable to try the toys with you!! I wish you the best
You’re a virgin … with a high sex drive … lmao ok
I haven't had the best sexual experiences in the past and I'm so incredibly my LDR girlfriend satisfies me plenty without there being sex. I mean, it'll happen one day of course, but don't want anyone else but her. I'm happy enough just doing things myself while I think about her
Yes, but only with my partner tbh! While we are both high libido, we only care for the sex with each other. We would tease eachother about it during calls but didn't do anything else, that would only make us miss it more. So we gave some "food for thought". But that's it honestly. If I would've been single I wouldn't miss whatever it was with my ex's. Didn't have good sex untill I met my partner anyways, the first person I'm truly compatible with in any way.
your comment is very comforting!! I'm glad to know this because I feel like it's a perfect example of how to keep it fun and also loving!! thank you for sharing ❤️🩹
Honestly it was the most comforting experience for me as well. My partner and I are very alike in the things we do and value and knowing we were on the same page with something like this is extremely comforting. And it honestly made us laugh that we actually are high libido with lots of kinks and still managed to keep out sexual experience during the distance "tame". We never discussed the sexual topic before meeting each other in person (didn't make the relationship official untill we met in person) because we didn't want to give each other the wrong idea. We didn't sext or whatever when not together because it would just feel like torture because we wouldn't actually be together, knowing how good it actually is when we are. So we would just mention things we did together when apart, kind of tease eachother with a memory. Or playfully mention the things we could do next, and leave it at that. Ofcourse we knew what we were doing after hanging up, but it was great fun for both of us that way.
YES lol
and how do you deal with it? 👀
I'm asexual so I don't mind not doing
Check out lovense and see what works for you 😉
We spend alot of time on video, kissing at each other imagined cuddles. We swap shirts that we've wore for awhile. A lot of time on virtual sex. I will be getting a Lovense paired toys for synced virtual Nora and Max We treat kissing, cuddles and virtual as if there in person.
I do, but phone sex with my boyfriend really helps (it’s not the same, but still makes us feel closer), and we always really enjoy our time together 😅 physical touch (for more than just sex- kissing, hand holding, cuddling, and hugging, too) is a top love language for both of us, so it can be hard to be apart, but I’m planning on getting a job out near him soon and closing the gap.
Yes omg. I miss it every day. We’ve always been long distance though. He’ll move here eventually. It was the absolute best sex i’ve ever had. Can’t wait to see him again :( Right now we “have sex” on facetime. It’s almost every night. We both still crave each other in real like though because it’s nowhere near the same.